My obsession about someone began after i found their profile on fb, after their spouse passed away a year ago, and this has been going on since then. I was not crazy about this person until after I've seen pictures of her. I have met her in person before and she is a nice woman,in her late 70s,and i think she looks very attractive. We don't each other that well personally but i have sent her a card telling her that i was thinking of her at the difficult time of her husbands loss. A month later she sent back a thank you card,which was very nice of her to respond back.I knew she would respond back because i don't she was trying to shut me out during the loss of her husband.I know she might be still grieving and she knows that I'm thinking of her at this time. i would like to see her again and see how she's holding up with her husband that passed away. @Shawny-i am in my early 20s,but yes i need give her time to grieve,she was married for a long time.

My husband and I were online doing a neighborhood sex offender search in the neighborhood where our babysitter's daughter lives. She just had a baby a few months ago and our children spend a lot of time at her house. We're also considering purchasing a home in the area, as well. I'm starting to have some doubts whether that will be an area we should make a home in, especially since we stumbled onto the registration info for the man who had assaulted me a few years ago. While it was before my husband and I even met, I wondered if I should tell him. I found out just after we were married that they know each other, and my husband was very surprised to learn that he's on the registry and lives near our babysitter's daughter. My question isn't about whether we should reconsider the neighborhood. That's a given! I don't know whether I should tell my husband now about what happened with his acquaintance. It's not like they're friends or anything, nor do they even really speak to each other. Only formalities if they run into one another at Home Depot, and even that is a VERY rare occurrence. In the 3 years we've been married, I think it's only maybe twice, if that. Anyway, it was a year before we even met, and I had no idea they knew each other. The last thing I would want is to bring a rain cloud over our family by saying anything. I don't know how he would react. A friend of mine at work was shocked and in disbelief that I didn't report it. I've kept to myself all these years.

My boyfriend an I have been together for 4 years. We met when I was a freshman and he was a sophomore. We've been together since with the exception of a small break up. People always tell me that you shouldn't marry your first love and that high school sweet hearts don't work out bc guys will cheat once they get tired of you. I'm just scared. I love him so much and he has sacrificed so much to be with me. Everytine I bring up what people say he gets so mad and says for me not to compare him to others that he loves me and knows he wants me for the rest of his life. I just can't help but be afraid because of everything I get told and I come from a broken home too so it's all I've ever known.

been married for 7 years and have one child. Wen I came home from work he was in a nasty mood. He used to complain that I don't work and now that I have a job he complains and tells our child that I don't love him and only care about my job. When I was a stay at home mom he complained that I was lazy. My 5 year old is now turning against me and saying things like, mommy you don't love me. I do everything for my child. He's my life. My husband has only just started giving him showers etc and now says I don't do anything for my child. I was on the phone and he hit my hand. He told me I have to leave my job to take care of our child. I have no family or friends close by. I'm torn on what to do. He refuses to move out. What should I do?

I feel like I can barely say anything without him taking it the wrong way & him blowing up at me. For instance, his 9 yr old son has said nothing about being hungry after dinner tonight except that he d like some popcorn, which we re out of at the moment. Hubby has offered him things a few times and he s said no or not right now. If the child was hungry, he d eat or ask for something. So when Hubby came in the den after asking him this last time, he said " Awwww, poor buddy is hungry and we don t have anything." We do have plenty of things, just not popcorn. So I said "He s fine, if he s hungry, he ll eat a snack." All of a sudden, I m accused of being sarcastic, within earshot of my stepson. He does this often. Any advice is welcome! Thanks!

I have this app on my iPhone & it's like a 2nd "contact book" & I like to keep contacts of people I rarely speak to & various phone numbers from old doctors dentists etc from my previous town just in case I ever had to get a hold of them or needed someone's number. Is this strange?? My husband seems to think it's very odd.

Of course many will say, anyone couple who love each other can be married, men or women or mind your own business and many worthless words...I myself, i'm against same sex marriage because marriage is a union between a man and a woman, we are different, we search for someone who fills our gaps, i can't find real love, emotions, REAL SEX...etc with other men, same to women who lesbians...I accept them but no marriage, can never live like a normal family!

The ex-wife was named Jennifer and the new wife is named Joanne and so it is easy to get mixed up but my brother gets offended when people do it. How do I avoid this?

My grandparents were married 51 years and perfect together, but idk I don't think I'll ever find someone who wants to love me forever. I am high strung, a little vain, and not as smart as others. I have a good heart but that's it. :/ I feel like its so hard to "fit" with someone. People have so many different opinions and views and interests, and even if you have something in common, theres probably 100 things you don't. I don't get how two people can be compatible enough to be together forever, Which things are deal breakers and which aren't? Its a beautiful thought, but it seems like a fantasy for me.

I ve been with my husband for 24 years. There s a 7year gap between us. He s 44 & I m 38. We have 5 kids together.. we ve bin through lots of stuff together... he has got nobody apart from me and kids.. he works full time.. I ve lost a lot of weight in. 3 years.. so wrinkles saggy skin as accured I m not as confident in myself like i use to be.... things have changed between us. He used to have a very high sex drive now. Its 1nce twice aweek. He seems really distant , gone off &cold, twards me...he use to be loving,caring,nicer towards me...years ago. I really love him and don t want to loose him.. please help... is he cheating on me or has he fell out of love with me 😔😔😔

Been married 29 years. I have an insasable urge to havemy wife have sex with aanother man. She could even go on a date and come home and tell me details if she is not comfortable letting me watch. She says she is not interested. But from her answers I sort of think its more she thinks I would not be able to handle it rather than she would not enjoy it. Do these things always end in disaster if followed through with? Or could it be an exciting addition to our sex life?

So my husband and I have been married over a year. I have a higher sex drive than him, id prefer it about 3-4 times a week and he would like it about 2. The problem is that I always end up initiating it because I'm always ready to go before he is, so he barely gets to initiate it. But I also don't want to wait around forever for him to initiate it because it could be a while before he does and then I get really antsy. I want us both to be able to initiate sex but it usually doesn't happen since I want it more. Any advice how to go about this? Serious answers only please.

My husband and I are going through a divorce after 4 years of marriage. He was abusive to me. This was all a game to him. I was thinking about posting a nasty note on his car or apartment.

I work daily 24/7. I talk and see to my fiance everyday. But every since she told me she thought about having sex with my friends but couldn't do it. I've been feeling terrible. I want to trust her but then I don't know what she's doing when she is off or before she goes to work. Someone help me out.

My husband is kinky and I'm a prude. I tell him I'll do certain things but then back out at the last minute. He even tried to have a romantic night with wine but I was uncomfortable performing with wine in my system and he told me it was to relax me and be more free to express my sexual side, but backed out at the last minute. He is disappointed every time. Sometimes I tell him I'm going to rock his world that night, but then wait till he starts the sex. I know he wants me 2 but I don't know why I do this. Last night it was the same but this time he didn't start, he was waiting for me to go through on what I told him. It was like 30 mins before he got out of bed and walked out the room with his laptop. I asked where is he going and said to the bathroom. I got up and listened and he was watching porn. When he got back to bed I asked what he was doing. He said reliving some tension. I told him that's y I am here for then he said well start acting like it then before he went to sleep. How can I fix this?

And I've been so horny. I just want one night with him but he hates my extra weight. I've been battling kids, work and injury that resulted in surgery that left me unable to exercise so yah, I've gained a lot of weight. It's not like I can lose weight overnight but I'm dying to have sex. What can I do? And to the *** (or asses) that keep putting this into different categories you can stop now because I WILL continue to put it back into marriage & divorce. Time to act like adults now

I take the train everyday to work in NYC and I'm 20 years old and an asian-american. Not to brag, but people tell me i'm pretty and dress very preppy and casual and whenever I'm on the train there's always rich businessman who most likely work at wall street or some big company and I see them staring at me couple of times. When I sit down, I can see them looking up and down and just checking me out and I see that they have a ring on their left ring finger... Why are married men such pigs? Some who check me out are actually quite attractive but it's weird because they're at least 10-20 years older than me and married...

I've asked this before but got some incredibly ridculous answers, and nothing that addressed the question. I am going for my PhD at either NYU or the London Scholl of Economics. My wofe is very attached to her family, and I am having trouble convincing her to move from our small town in the midwest. Please note: My wife was aware of my ambitions long before we were married. PhD programs in finance are crazy tough to get into, so I really don't have the option of getting a high ranked PhD closer to home; rank is a must for tenure track professorships at elite schools. We dont have kids, nor does my wife even have a job in this town. Please keep alp this in mind before you divulge in a long lecture about my selfishness or compromise. I am just looking for ways to convince my wife.

My husband constantly interrupts me when im trying to speak. He feels like im saying something incorrect that needs to be correct. I constantly sit quiet and listen. I demand the same respect that I give. I cannot give a conversation with him with him interrupting me . I tell him that he needs to just listen and speak afterwards. He tells me that I am acting like a child and that I need to get over it because he will interrupt me . Its very frustrating to get him to understand that i need him to listen and not talk. I feel like its impossible to have a voice or a different opinion with him When I am talking, he has to finish his thought before I can finish mine... How do I deal with this ? Or get him to understand. He told me he's going to interrupt me every time i say something wrong I cant ever finish a statement.

Last year I moved in with my fiance who I knew came with baggage and decided to help him slowly overcome his problems. Months later things seemed to get stable and we got married on April 29, 2015. When we moved in together I had no debt and my credit score was 744. He had a lot of debt and financial struggles that I helped him get out of. I even gave him $5,000 over time from my savings account to help him. He has always worked but it is never enough to cover things. In the beginning of the relationship I was working two jobs to make ends meet. He has a better, high paying job now and I am waiting for training of a new job to start. He can not cover my expenses. Therefore, I have a lot of overdue things. Since he had no real credit history everything for the house went on my credit. My credit score is 562 now, my credit cards are maxed, and I have no money in the bank. I have been scraping by doing random jobs I find on Craigslist in the mean time. I am trying to be patient because he is working hard but I am really questioning if this is all worth it.

If you get to know that she is infertile and no amount of treatment can make her a mother. Is this valid grounds for divorce?

I'm in my early 20s and basically this old guy in his late 40s has been flirting with me cuz he thinks I'm really pretty. I didn't like him but appreciated his compliments until I discovered from someone else that hes married with children. Ever since I found out, I started ignoring him when he tried to talk to me. But even when i ignore him, I just found it very annoying because he just has this really intense gaze whenever he looks at me. I've been ignoring him for about a week and he still thinks I'm somehow still interested. I think hes just an old pervert. I can't understand why some men flirt so confidently even if they have kids. Meanwhile single, attractive, young dudes rarely ever hit on me.

Last night I did a very big mistake of my life.I married Pakistan man he is good and belong to good rich family in Pakistan he attend the church when ever he get time.A very last night we got into an arguement,I use bad words for him and says that his country is the son of a ***** and you are one of them on this he yell at me and I slap him very hard that his eye sight spectaculars were broken.i feel so much shame that that what I had done.then he went up to room and take out uk passport and burn it and throw it at my feet.he take out his Pakistani passport ,pack up his bag and went off.i call him and text him but his cell was Off. All the night I cry because I know he is very good and nice guy and a good husband his cheeks are so soft. Well in morning I receive a text from him in which he mentioned that he is going back to his country and he will never forgive me and he also said that he will never give me divorce because before marriage he promised that he fellow the bible so much and he cannot committe sin,he also block me and unfriend me from Facebook.what should I do now his debt is on my head.he is the good man and a gift of God that I have in my life help me guys help me

My husband and I seperated for a while. He cheated and I left. During this time I did not speak to him. Now, he says he really wants to put effort into making things work. That being with other people has shown him how mean he was. He also tells me he has a girlfriend and has been seeing her for a while but that he cant stop thinking of me and our kids. I don t feel comfortable knowing he has a girlfriend and wanting to see me. I feel like a side piece.

My wife is very attached to her family and does not want to move far away from the small modwest town we currently live. Thing is, I'm pursuing my PhD either at NYU or the London School of Economics, and if all goes well, I'd like to get a professorship at one of those, although thats a much harder obstacle. Anyway, what are some creative ways to convince her? Is there some allergy i can "have" that would go away if we left the midwest? Haha, just kidding, maybe. How can I convince her where shed be willing to go, and wouldnt resent me for it? In case anyone esle answers: Grad school in some capacity was discussed before getting married, as was moving to a bigger city. Please answer the question, the question being "how do I convince my wife," not how can i go back in a time machine and change our discussions; thats not helpful. I also am very aware that a professorship at the school you got your PhD at is next to impossible, so is getting into a finance PhD, so I'll just keep my ambtions level.

I dress this on my nephew's BD party, and my husband being angry he told me they might think that you try to seduce the young men by this dress!! Really? Men do you think like this way? Do you agree with him? Anyway is this not suitable dress for BD parties? please help me see the pic on below link https://s.yimg.com/hd/answers/i/0a312c95345b489585a037ccdb3014b1_A.jpeg?a=answers&mr=0&x=1459528307&s=3b10ca0b15875b7e47abecf64cefe6b1

Email says nothing.

We have had some really bad financial problems for like almost a year...I'm not going to lie. BUT, he had access to money from my step daughter's birthday which is 1-31 to 2-14 and did'nt even buy me a card!! He managed to give his daughter $100 for her birthday and his nephew money from CHRISTMAS that he just gave him last week, but he couldn't get his wife anything. Should I be upset and look for another? LOL! I just don't get it. I told him that his daughter would understand that we are in a financial bind right now and if you just gave her maybe $50 or just a card, she would understand. We had an argument about it, and he said it was his money and he can do what he likes with it. This morning he told me that he didn't have money for Valentine's and that he would have to owe me because he has to pay our cell phones and our DTE bill this weekend. I was so hurt; especially since he knows for a fact, that most of my childhood I didn't get to celebrate birthdays or Christmas's because WE JUST DIDN'T HAVE THE $!!

I'm a male in the 30s. Employed. Engineer. Currently looking for a serious relationship. My turn on: - kind to old people - nice - support his husband no matter what - Can cook (because I love to eat her cooking) My turn off: - smoker - clubbers - sluts (who change new BF every month) Am I too picky? too be honest, personality is the most important thing rather than looks and body shape.... @elizabeth: I had two previous relationships and it went nowhere (I dedicated my time and money for both GFs).... That's why I'm picky now.... SUPPORT: giving moral support and not money.... for you people who do not understand the meaning. @pamela: u r pissed because you feel I'm talking about you? sexist? nope... I respect women. But I do not respect women who keep changing partners. No sense of love and loyalty.

Seems like everyone I know has gotten divorced..What ever happened to fifty year anniversary plates?

Question says it all. Is it a good idea to live together before marriage? Even though the couple spend every day together, it is like living together but everyone has their own place..until marriage. What is everyones views...is it old fashioned to wait for marriage? Deep down I think it is the right thing to do to wait.

After dating off and on for eleven years, I married my wife in 2010. In June of 2011, while she was away for the weekend, I drank a little too much with some friends and ended up kissing one of the ladies. Things did not escalate and I instantly felt horrible. I first thought that since it was only a kiss that there is nothing to worry about and brushed it off. I even though that it was nothing because my wife had done the same back in high school. Since then, in the two years following, my marriage has blossomed into a very loving and awesome relationship and we are stronger as a couple more than we have ever been. I can honestly say I love my wife more and more each day. I have not thought about kissing anyone else but her. Also within these two years my wife and I have seen the woman at bars and even my ten-year high school reunion. She has not made any indication that the event in 2011 is anything other than water under the bridge now. Still I can't help but worry sometimes that she will tell one of her friends, who may find a way to tell my wife and after two years I have missed my chance to give my wife the proper apology and express the sincere remorse that I felt that night and still feel today. I love my wife and am struggling with what to do. My question is, should I bring it up to her now, after two years, or should I continue as is and consider it a past mistake and move on? A follow up question for any woman reader, what would you do? Rightfully so you'll be mad but would you leave me or would you forgive me?

My husband cheated once ( that I know of) 2 years ago. I still feel lost. I find myself constantly over achieving in order to impress him and make myself look better than the average girl and I don't understand why. Even though I know I'm far from ugly and im young, smart and dont owe him ****, he owes me, I cant help how I feel or what I'm doing because im terrified he'll do it again and I really love him. Im constantly trying to fix whatever faults I had so he'll be happy and feel lucky to be with me. I hate that what he did changed me. Its so unfair since I didnt do anything he did, but its me whos paying the damn price. I'm wondering is this a normal process and will I eventually get back to my old self or are these changes permanent? Am I never gonna be at ease with myself again, is this struggle with insecurity and anxiousness how its gonna be for the rest of my life.....Any real advice is greatly appreciated....thx for listening.

Everyone I know is pressuring me to get separated or divorced because they fear she is trying to manipulate, or take advantage of me. I can't talk to her family with the exception of her dad, who told me to leave her alone. She hasn't filed for divorce yet which makes me hopeful but I am not sure if this is me holding out hope or just her lining her ducks in a row before she files. I love this woman, but she has always assumed I would cheat on her. I am not saying I am perfect in anyway, but I have never cheated on her. Since she has left I have not been paying for her school, or apartment, or bills (except her SUV which is in both our names and she left here with me). I suspect she sees this as me being mean, but I tried working to fix things and she refused so i feel forced to separate these things like our phone contract, and bank accounts. She sees no problem cutting me out of her life except when she needs money, but her family is now helping her with money so I don't feel as bad. Honestly, this mess started when I told her we couldn't afford for her to have an apartment while going to school 1 hour away. She now tells me I need to pay her for the SUV, which I can't do because she won't take her name off the title for me to refinance so I can afford to pay her. I intend to pay her the money she put as a down payment which I think is fair, but I am strained financially now and this makes it difficult. I still wear my ring and haven't strayed (not during my entire marriage). She says she considers me a cheater and that this situation is all my fault (she wanted to get me a threesome for my birthday because she thought that was what I wanted). I believe she is insecure and projects her fears onto me, but have no way to know until I hear it from her. I feel I should try everything to save my marriage and that I shouldn't give up on her and the vows I made. This is confusing because I feel I need to take precautions to protect myself and my son as well. I am told no contact is a way of ending a relationship not fixing it. I can forgive her for anything she could do, and I am just wondering why she has trouble forgiving me for something I never did. They say nothing worthwhile is ever easy, but am I crazy to want to salvage our relationship and continue to honor my wife?

Or would you stay single for lyfe and wait until jannah so u can b reunited with you spouse? There's a story about a man in his 20s who swore that he would never marry again after his wife death. Thats a true love 😢😍

I've been married for 3 years now... I'm 25 and she's 24... we're extremely happy, and have next to no problems with our relationship... but she brought up kids today. She says she wants to have them as soon as possible, but understands if I want to wait "a year or two". I really, really don't like kids, and I feel like having one would ruin our relationship and ruin my life... taking away all my freedom... my wife understands that I sometimes need space, alone time to my self, and I feel like if I have a kid I'll lose that. I know it sounds petty and selfish, but it really means a lot to me... I feel like if I have a kid I won't love it, since kids annoy me beyond belief... and I feel like my life would be ruined... we're still young, there's so much I want to do with my life. A kid would ruin that What should I do? My wife is convinced that I'll come around, but I will certainly not... I'm generally very easy, I very rarely oppose her on anything... why can't she understand this is the ONE thing I don't want to go along with her on... I'll do anything else for her, or with her, just not this. Why can't she understand?

I am 27 divorced mother of 3 y/o twins, after my seperation/ divorce from my emotionally abusive husband, I reconnected with an acquaintance I had known years before. He is a 39 y/o divorced father of a teen daughter. We just clicked, he absolutely adores me (he is kind, respectful, and supportive) and treats my daughters well and his daughter likes us. About several months in to dating he made a off comment that, led to a conversation about him having had a vasectomy, my daughters were 1, so expanding my family was the last thing on my mind... But as time progresses I fear I am making a sacrifice I will regret, normal milestones my twins reach have gone from happy occurrences to so bittersweet. We have talked about it and although he appreciates the opportunity to play a role with my 3 yr olds, he isn't interested in having more children, period. I cannot even talk about it without crying. I am otherwise stable, we both make descent money. He feels he is too old and of course does not want a reversal of his vasectomy. It feels so selfish to even consider hurting everyone I love the most n my daughters, him (we have been dating 2 years and live together), his daughter all so I can simply have the chance to fill some selfish desire, but on the other hand I fear I won't truly be happy continuing on the current trajectory of my life.

Basically my period started less than 2 days later than usual so it wasn't super out of the ordinary. But normally I feel cramping several days before I'm supposed to start and I didn't have that. I'm on birth control so I knew I was being paranoid but to give myself some peace of mind, I bought a test. It was negative, I threw it out. I didn't say anything to him about it because I didn't want him to panic if there wasn't a need to. So he's taking out the trash and finds it. He's like what is this, are you pregnant? I said no and explained the situation. He starts saying why wouldn't I tell him how about this? I said I didn't think it was his business which made him more mad but I meant that I was pretty sure it was nothing so he didn't need to know but he interpreted it like whether or not I'm pregnant is none of his business. He goes is there anything else that you're not telling me about? I said no and he was pissed off for awhile. I think this was a huge overreaction. I explained this to my friend who's a mom and she says the only thing her husband ever asks her about is their kids. He doesn't care about anything else she has to say, like never asks her opinion on anything or about her day, her friends, etc. But mine always wants to know everything. If I say I went out to lunch, he'll go, Where did you go? What did you eat? Who did you go with? He's not controlling, he just likes to know. So maybe in his mind that's why this was important. Should I have told him though? Of course it's my husband's business if I am certain that I'm pregnant. What I meant was that my suspicion or hunch about it wasn't really his business, especially because it turned out to be nothing. Why get your partner worked up about a baby if you're not sure if you're having one?

We chat about work and life. He never mentions his wife or asks about my husband. Never talks about my kids. Doesn't outwardly flirt, but there's frequent conversations. Is he maybe attracted to me?

Ladies, there is a bisexuaI man who married a straight lady. They both love each other very much. However... He has told her that he will always be attracted to men too. So she made a deal saying it's fine for him to have seeex with ONLY one man. Would you do this if you were in her place?

1. He double parks 2. He's a divorce lawyer and irony is really sexy to you 3. He's Donald Trump 4. He doesn't recycle 5. He wears skinny jeans

My husbands butt hole smells. What should I tell him?

Should all people have equal marriage rights or do you think same sex marriage is against God?

I lost my wife to breast cancer two years ago and since have found someone that I would like to spend my life with. I have two kids from my wife who passed away. My girlfriend said she will marry me but only if she's able to legally adopt my two kids. She said that if she takes on the mother role of my children than she wants some reassurance that if anything were to happen and we were to divorce that she would have custody/visitation rights to the children as they would legally be hers. She said if she becomes their new mother that it will be a lifetime commitment and she will not chance that someday they could be taken away from her. Sounds like she's already expecting us to divorce someday. I don't know what to think about this. Any advice or perspective to offer me? My kids are young 3 and 5

I happened to come across a recent facebook conversation with my husband and a woman. I asked about her and he said he they dated over 5 years ago but never slept together or anything like that...just casual dating. On facebook all their old conversations were there from over 5 years ago, their break up talks, etc. I do believe him about not sleeping with her as their past facebook messages from years ago confirmed that. It seems he contacted her though to ask how she's doing. He didn't say anything directly inappropriate but he asked her if she was married or not. She replied that she had never married and he said something along the lines of "wow, I would've thought for sure that you'd be married by now. You seemed so ready and I figured it wouldn't take long for you to get married." He went on to say he was so glad she's was doing well and being overly nice. Do I have any reason to be concerned about my husband's behavior? Or is this no big deal at all?

My wife and I got married last weekend. She had her bachelorette party. I had my bachelor party. My party was completely tame. No strippers. Nothing sexual whatsoever. Yesterday, a female friend of mine (who I met my wife through) told me that my wife blew the stripper at her bachelorette party. She showed me footage of it on her cellphone, that one of the women from the party sent to all the attendees, so I know it happened. I feel betrayed, and already regret marrying her. How should I go about handling this?

My wife and i have 5 kids. It putting a real strain on our sex life because she doesnt like to have sex with them in the house. Our kids have walkin on us several times and i guesses it traumatized her. So now when i want to have sex or a ******* or just want to please her i have to wait until the weekend whne the kids are at their grandparents house. The problem isnt getting her to have sex when the kids are away we have a great time its justbwhen they come back she doesn't want to engage in any sexual activity at all. Two times a week for me isnt really enough Does anyother man struggle with this issue? Any tips to get my wife to loosen up with the kids in the house. FYI we have 2 twin boys, another boy, and 2 little girls Im 38 My wife is 27