In my case, I would stay up on the phone half the night on the phone when she was having a hard time with her parent's divorce. But when I would need someone to talk to about my anxiety and just feeling down she wouldn't have time to talk in the same way with me.

My soon to be ex husband and I are separated since I found out I was pregnant. He was cheating on me for months and then I found text messages and pictures from his ex gf who is also married. Anyways I moved out and file for a divorce. We are still legally married. He has not been involve at all. I'm having my baby in 10 weeks and i plan of putting him on the birth certificate because he is obviously the father. Does he have to be there? We don't have any contact and he will not be there when my baby is born. What do they ask? just his name? Birthday? Can I put him on the birth certificate? I'm not planning of using his last name. My son will have my last name, but I plan of putting him as the father.

My wife always starts arguments with me she just picks and picks and picks, like 5 minutes after I get home from work we start chatting and then she goes into a outburst saying you always rebudle against me why! You never listen! When as a matter of fact I do listen and "obey" and really haven t had a chance to get situated at home yeti free a long day. I make everything about her I ask her how her day was, how she s doing tell her I love her, surprise her with flowers send special gifts in the mail I center my world around her and all she does is get mad at me and scream and say I never listen when In fact I m all ears I m here to listen but no she never has anything to say when I says then fine lets talk , she always says no I don t wanna talk and then blows up at me later

The other day it was cool in the morning but warmed up during the day. I put a jacket on my son before we left the house. As we were leaving I told my wife "don t forget to get her jacket wen you pick her up from day care." All of a sudden she got an attitude and said i treat her like a child. Can someone please let me know what did that was so wrong?

I have been with my significant other for almost 3 years now. we have a place together.... in my name, a wonderful dog and two cats. things were going ok untll I started feeling extremely stressed and began to think I was being a really terrible significant other back in october, she was always mad at me for something, I was always doing something wrong, always screwing up. one day, having a beer with my best friend, i was told by him ," (name) , you go to school and school related items almost a solid 36 hours a week, study for 10-15 a week, work 24/wk, clean the house, do dishes, laundry, and car repairs, pay all of rent, half of groceries, and still try to find time for you. what doe she do?" the answer is : 24-36 hours of work/wk and then she plops down on the couch and watches.... pokemon or something... and sleeps 12-14 hours. I have been in the ER 2 times in under a year for stress related illness, gone 36 hours at a time without rest or relaxation ( medical field student) and still manage to try and be a good BF to her. my best friend and his GF have literally said to me, and I quote," the way she talks to you and treats you, is abusive" she does nothing for herself. I do EVERYTHING. she wont even pick up laundry if I drop it off and pay for it. I really just want to jump ship and ditch this relationship because I am tired of being her mother, I cant do everything for her. I just kind of want to hear some feeback on this.

My father was talking to me last weekend (we were traveling) and asked what my mother was up to (they are divorced). I mentioned how she was not doing well (she is an alcoholic) and I noted I think she regrets her divorce from him. He noted many people do after the fact. We both agree divorce should be harder to get but allowed for some circumstances (my uncle married too young and it was a miserable marriage (lasted 6 years) where both are happier post divorce). So my question is if people often regret divorce (like at least half the time) In my mother's case her alcoholism formed after the divorce and her life has been miserable ever since even though she remarried for a time (that husband died).

ok Im waiting for my work permit to come in (EAC card) and i need it to renew my Id card which I need valid to get the license I was suppose to have it already but it is taking longer then expected thats why i was wondering if it doesnt come on time is it possible to have the ceremony and do the paperwork after?

i told her she can keep em but she still tryin make me pay anyway. what i do?

My wife is a complete slob....she leaves the laundry for me to do for over a week before realizing I'm not going to do it, so finally, she does and gets all mad about me never doing it when I work full time and she's a stay at home Mom with our four week old son....she leaves the dishes for me to do and after she does laundry, she just folds it and leaves it for me to put away....when food goes bad in our fridge, she'll just leave it for me to clean out....there was once a four month old muffin in there!! She will wash his bottles, but won't wash our dishes....I do leave stuff laying around, but I think with me financially supporting her and our son she could pick it up but she tells me, "You're a grown boy you can pick up your own mess I'm not doing that anymore" she doesn't cook supper, she waits for me to get home then says she'll cook with me or I can cook it should be prepared and ready when I get home!

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I've given my husband chances in the past...I met him when I was 20 and he was 27. He's a very sexual person as I can be sometimes..but not up to his standards. 11 years forward we have a mutual friend that came around through one of his friends..I really liked her, she was cool and she thought very highly of the both of us. Long story short, I found out they were chit-chatting a lot, he sent inappropriate photos..I forgave as he said that they didn't sleep together. I spoke with her and she denied anything happening. Fast forward something did happen between them on several occasions. What's so bad, she was dating one of his friends ands she also smashed my older brother/friend. All his friends knew what happened between them two. I felt like an absolute fool. Meanwhile....I found out a co-worker really like me and we got close. Now I'm torn between trying to figure out if I should move on with my life and get the things I want, like children and to buy a house...I know I can get those things from my friend from work. He knows my situation and what I've been through. He's very respectable towards me an over all wants me to be happy in whatever decision I make. I've never cheated on my husband until this happened. After this situation has happened, I have changed..my trust towards people have dropped...

My boyfriend and I have broken up and gotten back together 3 times, and I ****** it up once, he did twice. We are so in love and he really seems like he has changed and I have too. Do you think we even have a chance of being happily married one day?

What are your thoughts (or) experiences?

my husband has been very insistent on anal recently, and we ve had plenty of anal before, but it was a lot of work and it s been a while so now it s back ton the drawing board, and honestly I m not up for it lately. I keep telling him I m not the one with the prostate so there s nothing in it for me, and he refuses to acknowledge that a man s prostate is basically his g-spot. I m really just trying to prove a point to him. so, what the purpose of the prostate if not for butt stuff? why would stimulating it make you blam so good if that s not what it was intended for?

I caught my wife kissing another woman. we already have 2 twin girls together who are 5 years old. we also have another baby on the way and she is 4 months pregnant. Should I divorce her for cheating on me? I mean if we do get a divorce I will probably end up with custody of the kids and she will end up being homeless since she doesn't have a job or educational skills or family to go to, also we got a pre-nup before we got married. also how much can I get the court to pay me child support considering the fact she will end up working in a minimum wage job and be living in subsidized housing? mackenzie-are you jewish?

Why do older men always go towards the beautiful thin snide women? To each their own. But I've always wondered why older men chase after the same looking beautiful woman. Even successful men go after the beautiful fit women. It's as if they're reliving their HS/college years where they couldn't touch that gorgeous girl with a ten foot pole, but now all the sudden with their 300k+ salary they're marrying these women?

He don't understand that I don't want to do favors for no one in jail. He gets mad when I don't want to do stuff that I don't feel comfortable doing, he don't ask me stuff and will have me in stuff I don't know about. What to do?

Basically, my kids are selfish rude brats. My son , 16 ruined my marriage. It lasted less than 2 years. He constantly tried to fist fight my husband. I told my husbsnd to move out. And every time my son would try to fight my husband I'd tell my husband to leave because I was scared my din would get hurt. I just couldn't watch my son get hit or hurt. I just couldn't. I can't deal with it anymore. I'm applying for a divorce. I know if I stay married something will happen. And if I'm not there to stop my son he could end up hurt. People have said I should let my husband hit my son if my fin tries to fight but I just can't allow it. It could end up dangerous. Everyone in my life is violent. I just want peace. Normality. But it's never going to happen.

Hi, first of all please dont give me abuse because i am in a difficult situation. yesterday was Mothers day i have two children and got a lovely present from my two year old son courtesy of my husband. However my eldest from a previous relationship did not get me a card first time ever! anyway he text me as he was sleeping out at his friends and when he came home give me a hug told me he loved me and happy mothers day. we had a lovely dinner to celebrate mothers day and I said to my eldest lad you should do the washing up as sreen as it is mothers day. However he said no when previously earlier on in the day he had promised to do so. I then said well I will do it a little bit annoyed so I asked for his laptop to conviscate for two days clevering, answering back. My husband went to get the laptop and my son apparantely said to him your not having the laptop and called him a f******* Pr****!! my husband said to him you will get a slap if you carry on calling me names so my son said come on then and put his head down and started flailing his arms around and punched my husband. My husband lost his temper and punched him in the eye. This morning I saw his eye a mess and did not send him to school fearful that they may report and I lose both kids my baby is two and my whole world revolves around him. it as upset me so much he has two daughters and I love them with all my heart would never raise my hand to them. I have told him to look for somewhere else to live! I cant handle why he constantly nitpicks over stupid stuff that my son does. I hated not sending him to school ! I work in education and know the procedures. I was so scared but angry for my husband putting me in this position. So just to clarify he was wrong to punch my son and he should have restrained him in another way right???

My son is 14 years old and in 8th grade. He isn't a "bad kid" but is definitely a bit too mischievous and really likes to test the limits, which his older sisters never did. But we know that he isn't a juvenile delinquent and would never seriously hurt anyone or anything. We are also conscious that most middle schoolers go through a natural phase of bravado and rebellion. So his father and I would just give him a lecture and ground him for a few days whenever he misbehaved at school, and waited for him to outgrow the phase. But earlier this month, we woke up in the middle of the night to discover that he wasn't in bed. It was terrifying, and made no sense. Turns out he had taken our brand new Cadillac Escalade out for a joyride in the middle of the night! He wasn't driving very fast and didn't go very far, but the car was very banged up (though still working) and the tail lights were broken. By the grace of God, he didn't injure himself or anyone else. That is when we decided that he had crossed the line between quintessential Teen Rebellion and downright unacceptable behavior. My husband was enraged and launched into a loud, profane tirade about "How you could have killed yourself with your utter idiocy and lack of consideration for those around you." My son still wasn't showing any remorse or contrition at this point. So my husband threw him facedown on the bed, tore off his pants and boxers and whipped him on the bare buttocks possibly a hundred times with a heavy leather belt. To add insult to injury, he had our daughters (aged 18 and 20) watch the whole thing. My son was still trying to maintain a tough, recalcitrant smirk on his face, but he started tearing up at 5 strokes, and was bawling his eyes out at 10. My husband roared that he has "No right to cry when you deserve this" and started swinging even harder. Through the strokes he kept yelling things such as, "You think you're so tough and cool because you treat everyone around you with zero respect. How tough are you now? Unless you can come up with 70k for my car, I'm gonna keep slicing up your impudent little @ss." He finally stopped when the belt broke in half. As a mother, this sequence of events tore my heart out. We have always been strict but fair with our children. We have firm guidelines, but if they can make a good case for doing things their way, we would always be fair and listen. It is so difficult to hear your child screaming in agony for hours on end, even when you know his punishment is just. My husband is a very large and muscular man. He weighs twice as much as my son and is a full head taller. I felt so sorry for the poor child, even though the punishment did fit the crime. But I can't begin to imagine how painful it was. Both butt cheeks were covered with red and purple welts, and there was blood all over the bedsheets. It must have been so demeaning to have his sisters watch the punishment. This entire sequence of events has made the atmosphere in our home very tense and agitated. My husband is still steaming with anger. My son locked himself in the bathroom and cried for an entire day. Both of my daughters were very uncomfortable witnessing the punishment. The car is still wrecked. My mind is exploding with questions and uncertainties. Could something have been done to prevent this nasty blow-up? Did my son deserve to be hit like that? Could my husband could have responded differently? Should I have been more wary of my son's petty misbehaviors earlier on, so that things wouldn't have escalated to this point? Perhaps most importantly, what can we do at this point to mend the broken relationships and restore the loving, respectful home we once had?

My husband is doing some selfish things at the moment he's betraying me, he's lying to me a lot and in general he hurting me :( if he KNEW the extent of how badly he is hurting me he would stop it! I'm fed up with sorrys and I love yous and I'll stop! Blah blah! I'm sick of it now I have had enough! He needs to feel bad about what he's doing? What can I write down in words about how MUCH he is hurting me! I love him so much all I want Is to be happy with him, maybe it won't last but I want to try, I want to give him something in writing that tells him that will really hit him and make him think! He doesn't want to lose me, he is being selfish and taking advantage of my good nature, something? anything? a poem? Thanks

This Saturday is our 5th anniversary. We talked about why we were going to do since it's the same day as my sister in law's baby's birthday. How that happened? She did it on purpose but hat is NOT the point. Lol.. Well we want to go to the bday party but my husband wants to go to six flags for a change because it's been about 4 years since we haven't been. I really love roller coasters and he does too.. He is more of a scaredy cat lol if that's how it's called, he still like to ride. The problem.. It's not a problem but I just want to spend time alone with him. He wants to take our kids who are 3 and 1.. They don't bother me at all but my point is, seeing how they get so frustrated the first 15 minutes at a mall, what is the point of taking them? It's not an all day thing. We're just going for a few hours. But if we do take them, they hate rides and my husband will be the only one having fun. I don't know if I should just stay home and let him go with his brothers. Any advice would be fine. Thank you. Thanks Dan** actually, he only has brothers.. But the party thing could've been done another day she just didn't feel like it. No I understand family time is important to him but I just want to spend time alone with him for a while.. I'll talk to him.. Thanks again..

My children are out of the house. My wife & I live 12 hours from where my 2 kids & granddaughter live. We are still both working full time. We are not ready/able to retire as of yet. We had been planning to relocate closer to our family in late 2017. However, my wife's company has now offered her a pretty large raise & a new position in another state. This would take us about even further away then we already are from any of our family. If we do choose to move closer to our children we would need to find new jobs & we are both in our mid 50's so I'm a bit concerned about that. What would you at yahoo answers suggest? We are both so confused

My hasband and I have been married for almost 6 years. We have 2 young children together. I am an open book with everything with him. I ALWAYS initiate sex, and I am ALWAYS in control and on top when we have sex. Whenever he does get on top, he s exhausted and completely drenched in sweat in less than 2 min. I have expressed my desire to spice things up, have brought in toys, lingerie, suggested another woman, another man, role playing, I talk dirty to him, porn, compliment his effort when he makes any. Anything and everything I think I wouldn t mind trying, Ive discussed with him. Ive told him SO MANY times what I want him to do to me for foreplay, I even drew him a picture and labeled it, and wrote down a list of instructions. NOTHING is working, he will not listen to me. I have to prompt him to initiate sex, wich defeats the purpose. He acts like its a huge chore to give me pleasure with foreplay. I am attractive, 30 years old, and work out often to keep in tip top shape. His lack of effort in our sexlife makes me crave an affair, Ive told him this more than once. I dont want to have to resort to cheating on him just to feel desired - have a more fullfilling sexlife. I would feel awful about myself if I went through with it, but I feel awful now and til death do us part sounds like a really long road of sexual starvation. He jerks off to porn everyday too, which I wouldnt mind if hed show me more affection

I know that I should but I don't have anyone else and the world seems scary without him. I really don't know what to do. Please help.

We married in 2009, we had a decent marriage. Then my wife decided to move to Louisiana in 2010 for a fulltime DHS position. I was going into the Navy at the time. While waiting to go to basic I found a job doing security. A man tried to run me down with me over with his car. I shot and killed him I was then charged with 1st degree murder. I bonded out and I've the next 3 years we had 2 kids. After 3 years the charges were dismissed an it was found justified use of force. Soon after my wife was hired by the FBI. I got a job driving trucks in town to raise our kids. While she was gone for training she cut off all communication with me and refused to talk to me. She claimed I was too depressed over my charges. We've been separated almost 2 years now, with very little If any communication. Now she's saying she doesn't know if she wants to work on us but if she does it will be on her toluene frame an I just have to wait. I haven't been intimate in almost 3 years now and women are interested in me, but I say no because I'm still technically married. What should I do wait or move on and dive and get on with my life? Also our kids live with me fulltime.

I lived in Charleston SC my entire life. I moved to NJ for his job 2 years ago. Since moving to NJ I have been quite miserable & unhappy! I haven't been back to Charleston since August 2014 when we moved. Thankfully, my husband just got offered a job transfer but it's to Missouri. We have no family, no friends, & know very little about the area. His company has flown him out here 3 times for interviews. We've looked at houses etc. For some reason everytime I'm here I get VERY depressed. I get this really strange urge to just "move back to SC." & thoughts like maybe we should just move back there instead. My husband said that we both don't have jobs in SC & it'd be a very difficult move for us. Why do I feel so depressed here in Missouri everytime we visit?!?! I should be happy considering how miserable I've been the past 2 years in NJ! Thoughts!? I honestly can't figure out what's wrong

For the past 2-3 days he's been having sex dreams and I'm getting tired of it I'm 3 months pregnant by him and plus he's bisexual and I feel I can't satisfy him in bed I think only a man can satisfy him.I think he needs a boyfriend because I think he'll be much more happier with him. I don't think my husband is really happy with being with me he's just tolerating it and suppressing it to make feel better and I don't want that. I want him to be honest with himself and with me as well because I don't wanna live like this anymore I will not keep the child from my husband it isn't right nor fair. But if he I more satisfied with a man than I will separate from him so he can be happy. What should I do??

It's really discouraging to me how high the divorce rates are for military marriages. I hear about it all the time and people are constantly saying things like "you'll have to work extra hard to keep your marriage together since your husband is military." my husband and I were married before he made the decision to go into the army. We have a 2 year old son together, and while we do have more struggles to overcome now, it's only making us stronger as a couple, not weaker. I don't understand why it is so much more difficult for military relationships to stay healthy and strong. What am I supposed to work harder at? I don't get it.

My husband is wanting for us to joint a swingers group. We have a strong marriage and love sex and being together and meeting new people. Should I worry? Sounds pretty good to me.

Here it goes. My husband had this ''friend'' a woman that he worked with. I didn't have any problem with the relationship when I first learned about it and she made it a point to befriend me too. We got tight, me and the woman all to learn that my husband has been having an affair with her for a whole year. He told me this 5days ago and I'm still in shock. What I don't understand is: why did my husband push me so hard that I come work for the same company coz all 3 of us work together now. This means I have to see this woman. Why did he want me to come work there knowing his having an affair and obviously I will find out about it. Anyway, I started suspecting that something was up. I confronted him about this 3 times before he actually confessed. 3 times he lied to me telling me it was nothing, it was over when it wasn't. Fast forward today, he comes to our flat all sobby and teary (I cased him out of the flat, needed space) gave me a sob story and like a fool I fell for it. We ended up having sex and then he passed out next to me. I went through his phone and there it was a message, sent today 10min after we had just finished sex, sent to the woman saying ''gudnyt babe ****(her name) I will always love you. And I just died, again. I'm such a fool!! He says he didn't send that message. Its confusinf coz the recepients numeber is only 4 numbers 7621 that's not a proper cell number. But if he didn't send it then who. I think he is still seeing this woman and its him sending her this sms just using their special code. I'm so hurt coz I love him so much and I don't wanna face the reality of devorce. What you think about this?

I'm 32 year old and my wife is 31. We've been together for 9 years and married for 6, we have a set of twins (2 boys) and they are 3 year old. The first 7 years of our relationship everything was amazing, we had so much fun together, we traveled the world, we went to so many adventures, we'd go out dancing, hiking, camping, to random road trips, we'd cook together, do chores together and our sex life was amazing. We'd have sex almost every day, any time and any where. We were crazy, we were in love, we were happy. We spent our honey moon in Punta Cana and it was incredible, we had an amazing time there. During her pregnancy things were still great between us, even for the first year of our kids things were great. But 2 years ago, for some reason she changed. Now she's cranky, she nags me over anything. We haven't had sex for way over a year, she's never in the mood, I'm a fit guy, I work out, I know I look good and can get any woman I want. But I don't want any other woman, I want the woman I fell in love with back. She was always a very happy, outgoing person, with a big smile in her face, now she's a different person. I've tried to talk to her but she won't say much and most times we ended up arguing. We were never like this, it sucks really bad. She's ASHM by choice, she's a RN and she decided to quit her job cause she wanted to raise our kids herself (it was her choice)

I asked a similar question a few months ago. The collective wisdom advised me to ignore it, and I did. But now, the fact that she is missing calls is creating stress for her and me. My wife never answers her phone. The reasons she has given are no pockets, or she doesn't hear it(she keeps it on vibrate). I told her to turn the ringer on, but she's afraid it will wake up our kids. I leave my ringer on, and use my alarm every morning and it's never woken up the kids. If she kept it on her, she would probably feel it vibrate, but she doesn't. OK. So the problems it's causing. We'll have plans with friends, she'll miss the call. Most of our friends know to call me, but not all. Twice in two weeks, a missed call resulted in friends being upset with us. Also, she's been seeing a Dr. Because they cannot get a hold of her, they call me. I cannot answer any of their questions, but I also cannot reach her nor can they. A couple of weeks ago, she missed a call from a Dr. The call was regarding test results that she was anxious to get. She missed the call and had to wait until the next week. Needless to say, she was extremely stressed out that weekend and deserved every second of it. But she didn't learn from that. We have kids, and I frequently need to communicate things to her, but cannot. Also, her family now calls me knowing she won't answer her phone. She always says that if the kids are with her, it cannot be that important. But, she also doesn't answer her phone when I'm watching the kids. She says it's never an emergency, but any call could be an emergency. So obviously, whenever I bring it up, she gets defensive. I don't quite understand it because it's just answering a phone. I'm on call 24/7. How do I convince her that it's important.

We were married 15 years. She reentered the work force and fell in love with a married co-worker. I found out the hard way, his wife showed me a b-day card my then wife gave to her husband. We have been divorced a year and a half. She has yet to let it go. I met her at the grocery store a few days ago. She was walking out as I was walking in. I said something to her cute and clever, as I always do and we continued walking our separate ways. No big deal. So I am in the corner of the store digging in the frozen fish cooler, turn to put my stuff in the cart and there she stands. She has this blank look on her face. I said whats up? She doesn't say a word, just stares. Again I say whats up? Sh says " I hate you ". I said you mean to tell me you walked all the back in here to tell me that?? Again she says nothing. I lean over my cart and kind of sort of yell " Godd@mn it ( fill in name ), what do you want from me?? Most women would love to have an ex husband like me. I am a good, involved father, I do not screw you out of any money! I am giving you exactly what you wanted, you wanted the divorce, you wanted me out of your life. I am giving that to you. I don't call you, I don't txt you, I don't do drive by's, I don't stalk you, let you live your life while trying to live mine!! What the f@ck do you want from me?" She starts crying and says " that's the problem ". Turns around and walks out. We have two awesome kids. We had great little middle class family. I was not the perfect husband I know, but I was/am a hard worker, provided well. I never cheated on her, never abused or drank too much. I did get a little too comfortable and maybe took alot of things for granted on some levels. But she is the one that found her married soul mate, had the affair, wanted the divorce. I have gracefully stepped aside and let her go. Here are just a few things I have endured from her over the past 1.5 years: Found the key to my house and "broke" in at midnight and crawled in bed with me Her married lover sent porn to my work after me and his wife met to discuss the affair Punched me in the mouth on Christmas morning a few days before divorce was final Cries when we meet and tells me how much she misses me and that she is not doing so well "Broke" into my house again a few weeks ago, got me out of bed to talk on my back deck until 4 in the morning Showed up uninvited on a camping trip I was on with the kids. Too much more to list If this is what she wanted, and per the b-day card she gave to this dude, she is madly in love with him, why is she pulling all this crap when all I am doing is just trying to pick up the pieces and move on?

I'm just curious to get others' opinions here. I am a stay at home wife; my husband and I have no children. He is in the military and makes ample money to take care of both of us. Our agreement is that I stay home and take care of the home, finances, pets, cooking, cleaning etc...and all of that. He works and brings home the paycheck. This is what we both agreed to when we got married and we are both happy with it. I have been getting quite a bit of flack lately for being a stay at home wife. A lot of my girlfriends think it's shameful that I don't work and that I'm, in their words, "Chained to my home." They tell me to wake up because this isn't the 60's anymore and get a job of my own so I earn my own share (in their words). I don't feel this way at all; in fact, I enjoy staying home. I love what I do and I'm not one of those lazy wives who sits around and watches television all day Lol...not my style. My husband comes home to a spotless home and a hot meal on the table every single night. The finances are taken care of and everything runs smoothly. What are your thoughts on stay at home wives?

Yesterday afternoon I decided to ask my wife if she was raped.She admitted and said yes, after that ya'll can imagine what happ and how she reacted so my friend sister is a therapist i called her over and we got my wife to calm down and talk. My wife didn't want me to hear a thing she was going to say. So after that long talk they had and my wife felt asleep the therapist told me not to question her and act normal be supportive.So I am. But my question is why doesn't my wife want me to hear what she said? why can't i be there? why can't she let me love her and protect her im her husband?!?! So my wife decided that she wants to meet w/her 2 times day. but she doesn't want me to listen to what she will say. why? its so frustrating. I did talk to the therapist on how i feel and what had been going on etc. she gave me some papers and website on how to help my wife. the therapist also told me that i need to be understanding and when times come i will know everything. Every thing is moving so fast from one day to another. My wife doesn't want me to sleep with her right now she wants to sleep in a diff room. But how can i leave her alone? i know she needs me? i want to comfort her. Right now she is talking to the therapist. i know its going to be hard and a long way! But does some one have an idea of exactly how long? The therapist said it can take long sometimes week,months or even years. it looks like i have hurt my wife by me calling the therapist. All i know is that the person who hurt her was one her family members and was 7 years ago. Why did she keep a secret for so long? I mean its been years and its just happ now? im confused I don't really know how to react. My wife wont trust me she doesn't want me to be with her in this hard times. Is it better if i give her time and let her move out with her mom? Would that change our relationship? i can't wait till its all over and make love for the first time ever.and have a relationship like every married couple. (we got married :) 3month ago) please no rude comments! can anyone relate or what can I do? I WANT TO HELP HER!! what about my feelings are they not important?

I want to know what you people think?

I have been together with my wife for 16 years, and happily married for 13. I would describe the marriage as top notch without any issues whatsoever. Small disagreements do occur occasionally but nothing that is anywhere close to serious. She works in an open office environment, but holds a senior position and gets well on with her staff. Getting to the point, I have noticed something really strange last week. We commute together as we work relatively close, but I normally take the car as I have free parking provided for me by the company. The other day, unusually, I have asked her to drop me off at clients offices as I was running a bit late for the meeting due to traffic. Later on in the day, after the meeting I went over to her workplace to pick up the car as I needed to be somewhere during the day. I walked in and asked the receptionist if I could see her (this is the second time I came to her workplace in 2 years so staff do not know me personally). As I came around, there was a "good looking" male co-worker nearby and as I approached her I greeted her and gave her a soft kiss on the lips. As I kissed her, I have noticed that she quickly glanced in co-workers direction (towards him) then quickly turned and looked at me in the eyes, as if she felt uneasy and nervous. It felt awkward, and this is the first time something like this happened. In the time we have been together, we usually kiss when we greet and this is a daily routine for us. I know that kiss itself is not a problem, as there are several couples working in there and it is a common thing among them as well. Call it relaxed working environment, and by the way she is the most senior person in the company. Clearly the presence of her cute co-worker has made her nervous for some reason, and I just can't understand why. I did not want to draw wrong conclusions, but it bothered me for several days. So I have decided to pick her up from work, texted her 20 minutes and came around ten minutes before she has finished with the day. I walked in, and the only two people there were her and the co-worker. She was still wrapping up with some paperwork, as I entered. I greeted them both, but she acted somewhat nervous again. I acted normally, and didn't want to signal that I have noticed it.Now, she has an assistant manager and another one in training as the current one is likely to get replaced due to incompetence and when I have asked her how is that going, she said that she is going to make the male co-worker as her second in charge and will begin training him from next week. When I have asked her about the other person in training, she said that this guy is more capable. I do not consider her to be lying, as he may be more qualified for the job. However, she went for work dinner with one of the company directors and another division manger couple of nights ago, where I had to pick her up as she doesn't like to drive if she has alcohol which was a plan (she is a wine connoisseur). Which was fine. I get the text if I can come and pick her up, which I did, and as we were heading home I heard she has received a text message but did not check it. This is unusual, as she normally has no issues replying in front of me. To cut the story short, I have decided to check her mobile after she felt a sleep. I know this sounds wrong, I have never did it, but just had to know if something is going on. It appears, that she has texted him just a minute before she did me to come and pick her up, with a picture of some girl that she took in the restaurant with the following words "I think this one is right for you hahaha" . It appears that he did not see a message for some time and has replied later, the text she did not want to check in front of me. When I scrolled back through her message history with him, there is no indication that anything is going on, however, I have noticed that on one occasion he has sent her a picture of a bottle of wine that he was having at the time and she has replied back with another picture of a bottle we still have at home with words "very nice, I am currently drinking this..". She does not normally say something if it is not true, and it appears to me she is trying to impress him. Another thing, that is strange is that within last couple of months we did not have sex, but we normally do it at least once in couple of weeks. I tried as per normal, giving her hugs and kisses and trying to initiate it but, I had responses that she is tired. Which I must say I believe. Overall, I do not believe that she is having an affair, however, I am suspecting that she may be having a crush on her co-worker. I also do not want to make a big deal out of it and ruin a our relationship, but wondering if anyone can suggest whether my gut feeling may be right, or am I being paranoid? Should I do anything about it? P.S. I am not a jealous type, and I think attraction is normal. We are all human.

To tell you about the situation, my wife and I have been together for 11 years and we have three kids. She is a nurse who works during the day sometimes and overnight sometimes. I own my own business so I work during the day about 45-50 hours per week. Between our jobs and the kids, we do not get to spend the same amount of time with each other and we have kind of gone from spouses to roommates to roommates who fight. Anyway, my wife confessed to me that she had a one night stand with another man. I was completely devastated when she told me. I knew things were getting bad in our marriage but I did not know it had gotten to this point. She was obviously extremely remorseful about what happened and wants us to do everything we can to make things work. I know that this was not one sided and we both let things get to this point. Although I did not send her to bed with another guy, I can own my part in all of this Although I am more hurt than I have ever been in my life, I want to be able to move past this. With her. Obviously changes need to be made and this is what I have in mind: - I hire a couple of supervisors to take over some of my responsibilities at work - She informs her work that she is now unavailable to work overnight (given that she is able to) - We hire a babysitter and start going on dates and spending time together again like we did when we were dating - We go to marriage counselling to work through some of our issues My question is am I doing the right thing by giving her another chance or am I just an idiot who is prolonging the painandsuffering and should just give up?

I'm a 30 year old fit guy, I workout almost religiously (lift weight andamp; cardio) and I also play soccer, I eat clean and try to live a healthy life. I'm really attracted to fit women. She's 31 and she's not fat, I'd like her to get fit but she's lazy and doesn't like to workout, she doesn't eat as clean as me. I've tried hard to get her to go to the gym or workout with me at home or go out for a long walk, run or other outdoor activities and I had success once but it didn't last long, she just lost interest. I even bought her some expensive nice gym clothes and shoes. We both work full time and are very busy people with a 2 year old son to look after but we also have the support of my family, so it's not impossible for her to take 2 hours 3 times a week to workout but she keeps giving herself excuses. I've tried suggesting in a nice way without hurting her feelings or making her feel stressed and I've tried talking openly too. HELP!!.

We have been together for 11 years, and I have 3 children from a previous marriage. Today she got home from work and started by insulting my daughter's marching band. She didn't say flagrant insults, but implied ones. When my daughter took exception to her words and was backed up by her sister, my wife had a fit. She blamed me and them and claims that we are all against her! I haven't been able to get along with her yet today and it's been about 6 hours since she got home. Recently she came downstairs and yelled at my older daughter again for coming into the kitchen. Then she yelled at her and my son and myself when I was trying to just get her to calm down. This is exemplary of our daily life with her. She is damaged, seemingly beyond repair and we need help for her. We don't have insurance and can't get therapy. She has big problems. Where can I get help? Who can determine what her problem is and how to fix it? Some of her problems go back to her mother and her son(who is now grown). please help!

I've been married to a beautiful woman for 10 years now. For the past few years she has seemed distant and just not into our marriage. As she became more and more distant, texting and "shopping" a lot without bringing anything home, I started thinking she may be seeing someone. This past summer I even told her that I thought she was having an affair but to please stop before I find out. She didn't. I couldn't take anymore and got cell phone records and saw she was texting her best friend's husband hundreds of times a month. The I called HIM and he admitted to everything. Then I called HIS wife and mine. At first she denied everything until I told her I had already spoken to him. She cam clean (kind of) admitting to the affair. She said it was only a few times over a few months. Then I met with him and found out otherwise...it had gone on for almost 2 years. In hotels, in her car and even at her work place after hours. When I came home she know she was busted and said she left everything out so she wouldn't "hurt" me more. She is in counseling as am I. She seems remorseful, although at times tends to just want me to get over it. I can't, it's haunting me and tearing me up. She has given me complete access of everything. Her phone, computer, etc and "says" she will never do it again and that she's so sorry. I know this is long winded but want the story told... I later found out that every relationship she has been in, they ended with her cheating. Her ex husband, boyfriends, etc. If I had known this I never would have gone on a first date. Now I feel trapped. I do love her, I think but just don't know if I'm being stupid for even considering giving her a chance to change. She says she did it for the attention yet I gave her Everything. We travelled, I gave her anything she wanted and our sex was amazing up until a few years ago. Now she wants sex all of the time with me again, but I wonder if it's just to make me stay with her. She is the most beautiful, sexiest woman I have ever met and she's in her 50's now. BUT, she lied for almost 2 years making me feel like I was crazy for thinking such thoughts, even though they were true. I'm afraid I will lose at least half of everything I own if I leave her, even though she never contributed one cent for anything. I have accumulated many nice things over the years adding up to at least 1 million in assets. I am considering having a post-nup drawn up and having her sign it as a condition of me staying with her. I think she'd sign it, I don't even know if it's legal to do so but I want to take the fear of losing "things" off the table to see if we can really get through this. Okay, I have gone on long enough and I'd appreciate any input. PLEASE, don't call me names or accuse me of being a wimp. For some reason, I do still love her but just don't know if the pain will ever decrease enough that I can "feel" comfortable and married again. And, will she do it again?

I mean I cheated on my wife and she found out. She asked me why? I mean is she for real? She ignores me, I tried to be intimate and she always had a lame excuse, I talked to her about it and always the same nonsense. Then she acts all heart-broken, hurt etc. Well she like most women should have known that if your husband doesn't get it at home he will for sure get it somewhere else. So why act surprised? It's your own fault for neglecting. I think that when a wife fails to meet her husband's physical needs she is violenting her marriage vows as well. If a man is told before getting married that he will go months without sex I'm sure he would have never said yes I do. So why many women won't have sex with their husband but they have the nerve to think that their husband have to be faithful?

My wife gets mad at me for every little thing. I never ever get mad at her. I love her so much, but I don't want her to be like this. It is making me push her away. I've talked to her a thousand times about this also. Is it my fault? I feel I am a very good husband to her because I do what she wants even though I want to do other things. I just want to make her happy and she just gets mad at me for screwing up. I never get her intentionally mad. What do I do?

First things first. I love my wife and she loves me. We've been together for over 3 years and to be honest with you things have never been better. Our relationship was very rocky in the beginning but since then we've both changed a lot...my wife changed the most doing a complete 180 since our difficult times. But one thing hasn't changed about her and it's her rudeness towards me. She can be very rude, very disrespectful, and outright ugly to me at times. It seems that she completely disregards my feelings when she talks to me. I always make it a point to show my wife the utmost respect and dignity she deserves. But she's NOT reciprocating that to me and to be honest with you I am sick of it. I love my wife, but this WILL end up driving a rift between us very soon. I've let her know of my discontent time and again but nothing seems to change. How do I get this to stop...now?? Whoever can give me the best answer I'll email you and give you the rest of the details.