I have a friend who's 16 and she's about to give birth. She has a very controlling family system. Her mom and dad don't ever let her go out and she doesn't have a phone, and now in quarantine, they've cut off all contact with the outside world for her. She told me a while ago she wants to leave the home, but she's trying to stay at my house when she turns 18, and I'm going to be 20 in a college 2,000 miles away. Where can she go? She's not being physically or sexually abused so I'm afraid women and children's shelters won't take her. She can't get a job because her parents won't let her. What can she do? 

I have no sibling or any other family who i can trust and my father has left me years ago i have no experience in working i have no money i suffer from really bad social anxiety but im tierd and fed up of my toxic mother how do i start ?

When I lived in an apartment, I became friends with a neighbor next door. Since then we moved to a house that's about 10 miles away. One day, I went outside to the backyard and I saw her watching me from behind the fence. Since then I've seen her a few times more. So should I be worried??

Why would my mother or any mother for that matter not protect me or their child? My mother wasn't even mad at her brother for it whereas when my Dad's brother said something sarcastic and my mother was livid.

Im 16 years old, live with 3 brothers and my mom is abuse us multiple times. Know my mom wants us to come back but if we dont she going to call the police on my older brother so we dont know what to do?

I know this question is phrased horribly, but I don't know what to do. I'm 23, and my twin brother and I live with my mother. I got super depressed years ago and never finished college, and he didn't either for other reasons. But I've been working toward being able to move out and provide for myself. We have 2 cats and 2 dogs. Now, 2 years ago my mom got diagnosed with cancer. About a year ago we thought she was getting better and I applied and received an offer for an internship with public allies. I had to turn it down because my mom relapsed, and I needed to stay and take care of her. Because my brother doesn't do anything to help take care of her at all. Fast forward to last month, my mom was doing okay. Not great, but not awful. She took a turn for the worst, and now she has been in the hospital for a week. She can't eat anything and is on a nutrient drip because her intestines are full of scarring. She was supposed to get an intestinal blockage and 2 hernias fixed through surgery today, but they found that her intestines are covered in scarring so they didn't get to fix anything and now she will be on a nutrient drip long term.  The rest will be added below. And I have no clue what to do. Ignoring the fact that I'm losing my mom, I'm terrified of giving up my pets and even more afraid of moving in with my father. I know he wouldn't allow my pets, especially because one of the dogs has behavioral issues and he has a cat of his own. I have no clue what to do because I need a job to support myself and possibly my pets but no degree, no time to get one, and since I'm the main carer for my mom I can't work a regular job. Anyone have any suggestions?  I do currently have a job but it doesn't pay enough to support myself in the town where I currently live let alone myself and 4 pets. I know I will probably have to rehome them but I've had issues in the past with availability and I know at least one of my dogs would end up being put down bc they can be a handful and I'd rather die myself than let that happen. 

so basically I was at my house and my crush came over and he's 19 almost 20 in a few days and im 17 and we were hanging out and then he went home at night and I was in my room and I noticed my iMac 2008 20 inch computer missing off my desk and I looked everywhere and couldn't find it and I texted him and asked and he said he didn't have to and fast forward to today I went to his house and I saw my computer in his closet and I pointed it out and he said he doesn't know how it got there and im so confused on what to do and I went home and told him I have to think about what to do his name is holden though

I'm moving on Sunday to the capital of NY for an essential summer internship in a manufacturing facility. I'm pretty excited to finally leave my parent's house. I got kicked out of my dorm bc of the pandemic earlier this year and have been stuck with them since. I have very authoritarian Muslim parents that won't even give me an ounce of privacy in my room to the point where it is not even healthy as a 20 year old adult. I can't even masturbate or do things like talk to my boyfriend. I don't even have the room to myself bc my 9 year old keeps her toys everywhere. They keep telling me to pray even though im not religious and don't care much for my religion. And they play loud music and yell and fight physically and argue a lot to the point where I struggled with getting through online classes. I don't think a lot of people understand how this feels for kids who looked at being in college as a way to leave a toxic home environment. At the same time I do love my parents and my little sister, but these three months, I have had enough and I'm tired. Since classes are most probably gonna be online for fall 2020 in New York, my parents want me to move back after my internship ends and are probably going to force me to live with them to do online classes. But I don't want to move back. What can I do? Another issue is, I signed a one year lease from June 2020-June 2021, so unless I can find someone to replace me, there's no way I can move out after my summer internship ends.  I'm sure I can afford my own rent. I'm only financially dependent on them on my FAFSA and taxes since anyone under 24 that's a full time student technically is. But I paid for my own food all semester long and my dorm all semester long until the pandemic. This internship will also be paying me well enough to support myself better than before than when I was working at a grocery store. 

so school has been out for several months and I'm 17 and he's a big man in his 30s with glasses and short brown hair and the other day he randomly sent me an email to my school email asking how I've been and stuff so I replied and we chit chatted a while and then randomly he asked if I wanted to come over to his house and hang out and play video games and play basketball outside and stuff. I said yes and im going tomorrow but I just want to make sure its appropriate

So me and my husband holden have jobs and work each day and we dropped our daughter off at our usual daycare while we go to work and when I went to pick up my daughter I walked past a room with a woman beating a 3 year old hard across the face while she screamed and cried and apparently it was because she dropped a tissue and I went into my daughters classroom and she was alone on the floor with a big bruise saying a woman hit her. I took her home and I filled a police report but is there anything else I should do

So I bought an old iMac Late 2006 20 inch on amazon and I tried to turn it on and it wont turn on even though I just bought it. what do I do?

I have a 3 year old niece and 1 year old nephew from my brother. I go to my brother's house every now and then but not too often. I like seeing the kids but I'm not all crazy for them. Maybe I'm not a big fan of kids. My mom is always talking about her grandkids and wants me to be crazy about them like she is. She's the typical grandma that is obsessed with the grandkids. I don't mind seeing my niece and nephew but sometimes I'm not in the mood to be putting a smiling face and pretend to be a happy person when I'm going through personal problems. I got divorced 2 years ago and I'm trying to figure out what to do with my life. I'm not even sure if I want kids since I need a stable man. The thing is that my mom is so pushy and wants me to see the kids often and be overly excited about them. She even told my niece: "your auntie is coming to see you next week" and I hadn't opened my mouth!!! Can I decide on my own when to visit the kids? Or do I have the same obligations as parents and grandparents? Also, my brother and sister in law never come to my house. I'm the one that goes there for the kids. But still it's not enough and I feel pressured to go visit them all the time.

What is your opinion about kids going mudding? Riding in trucks, that go play in the mud? The child is a small 7 year old who will be 8 this summer.. Mom thinks it's fine, and I don't. I feel its unsafe. She said it's good for them to play in the mudd, and its better than sitting inside playing on a tablet, and its better than growing up in the city. Worst thing is you get stuck in the mudd, and someone pulls you out, or you break your truck 

My older cousin and I have always been close. I looked at her like my second older sister aside from my biological older sister. I always bragged about how cool she was when we were younger, and she's now living successfully in the suburbs of NJ. Unfortunately my cousin grew up in a single parent household where she was raised by her mother, and her father was barely around. Her mother is a retired attorney, but was barely around either. Even when she was around she wasn't always the most loving affectionate person. They lived out in the middle of nowhere, and my cousin always wanted to interact with others. She didn't have that many friends due to her always getting into fights, and doing hurtful things to others. She used to be really disrespectful to my mother as well. Recently she got mad at me and called me 'slow' because she wasn't the first number one person to know that I was moving. It was something that I wanted to keep private for a bit. But she's always been the type to invade my space and we haven't spoken since. Mainly I love her, but I want to set boundaries with her. It's hard because I do care about her.

I'm 17, turning 18 this weekend, and my dad is emotionally and on rare occasions physically abusive. I've decided that the best thing for me, no matter how hard it is, is for me to move out as soon as possible. I have a place lined up with my boyfriend and I'll be safe. It's not going to be physically uncomfortable, but I'm regularly second guessing everything and having panic attacks over leaving. I love the rest of my family, but they are all enablers whether they mean to be or not. I'm just terrified of losing them all, especially when my my sister is going to have a baby this year. It feels like I'm abandoning them, and they'll hate me for it and think I'm selfish and immature. Is there any way I should explain to them, and if not, how can I cope with that guilt myself? It's really weighing me down every day. 

Hey ladies! I'm back with another question I hope this doesn't sound petty but I've been going stir crazy about a situation. So my sons father is with this girl. (Bipolar) like she beats him up lol and they have a little girl together. She posts in Facebook about him being there spending time with the baby and doing everything for her baby.. but I try to get him to call my son and even flew him up there to see his dad but he didn't come to see him. This really hurts me to the point of depression. I'm not trying to sound jealous but idk what to do at this point. I feel like he just hates my son. I hate that he treats him like this. But why is he willing to be a father to his daughter. (BTW he needs to be im not mad about that) its just I hate my son is left out.  He has 3 girls by 3 other women. And this is his only son

Okay so I just got my first car, Im a new driver and it still learning. I was really excited and my mom constantly keeps asking for my keys to drive around in my car, she has a new Kia in the driveway she hasn't even touched because she keeps using mine. I don't like being used and that's what I feel like she's doing. She put my car in child lock because now she has my little brother riding with her in it with the car seat and a bunch of bull **** cups and trash in MY car! She takes the car to go get gas and oil changes but instead of teaching me when I ask she takes over and says "we will do it together next time". I don't know what to do, and I don't have a better way of telling her to leave my car alone without cursing!!  thats why I said "MY" it's my car I paid to get the car off the lot it's in "MY" name I pay the notes and the insurance. I'm 19 I work two jobs to take care of mine, I told my mother I'm moving out in one month and I believe that's why she keeps using my stuff 

Besides her being  high strung, obese, and having depression with adhd, I now like to hangout by myself, but miss our fun times. Shes out of my league I guess. It's hard to explain.  In the morning she wakes up cussing, talking to herself, and wont exercise like I suggested.  She cant sit still and watch tv with me or chill, yet will not be productive enough.  I feel crazy hearing a person talk to themself and talks so negatively. If I try to say anything she gets all angry. Updated 9 secs ago: Yesterday she accused me of eating all the spaghetti jars, which is not true, I cook for both of us, yet she will eat all the party sized chips I got to last.  What confuses me is then suddenly she worships me like I'm a god or something, but then will pick at me like a science project or act like I'm her enemy, but then will smother me. Shes honestly a stranger to me sometimes.

I had a boyfriend that I broke up with about 3 months ago because I thought he partied and drank too much and I felt like I needed space. When we were going out we used to communicate through phone calls and primarily text through WhatsApp. He only downloaded WhatsApp to communicate with me because It's the app I prefer to use and told me I was the only contact on there he had which I know is true because I used WhatsApp on his phone to send stuff to myself. I still use WhatsApp everyday because I talk in group chats everyday and I talk to my other contacts that also have the app. For the past 2 months we haven't seen or talked to each other. Though ever since we have broken up I have seen him on WhatsApp at least once a week, I'm pretty sure he's checking up on me. I would possibly consider getting back together with him if I was sure he had changed but I know that will never happen. This morning he texted me for the first time in months saying he found my umbrella at his house and would leave it at my workplace. I told him he could throw it away since it was kind of broken anyway. I don't get why he felt the need to return an umbrella when it's been months and I had most likely forgotten about it. He also said he hoped I was well. Why did he contact me after 2 months?

I fear criticism from parents like a little kid and feel I should only do what they approve of.

All my life Iv had self esteem issues, Iv never known/met my dad and am an only child. My mum has had depression pretty much most of my life and was verbally abusive towards me growing up. When I was a teenager I had an eating disorder and was very shy. I'm 27 now and I'm still struggling with assertiveness and confidence. I have 3 jobs and work hard. All the guys Iv dated have been massive losers that treated me pretty badly. The last guy I dated was no exception and even though I broke up with him it has still affected me months later and my self esteem has dropped even more and Iv having panic attacks and anxiety over it. I need to stop attracting theses types of people into my life. Iv never been suicidal, I just thought that my self esteem would get better with age when it hasn't. Iv been thinking for a while now of seeing a therapist for help but I feel too embarrassed to ask for it and don't know how. I feel like there is something wrong with me and that I would be judged for it. Should I see a therapist and how do I not feel embarrassed about it?

All my siblings are pretty decent they all have jobs and marriages. Except one. The one a little bit older than me. She hates everyone. She hates her boyfriends mom so never wants to invite her to some tacos. She hates family members like our cousins etc. She tells us to not invite them. She hits her boyfriend which I find extremely evil. She tortures her children and makes them cook and clean and they are 7. How can we help her be happier and less stressed out? First of all why are people even this mean?

my father never raped me but I want to know if i was taken advantage or not and if i should speak up or not . now that i'm a teen i realize i may have been taken advantage of growing up. Some examples i could give was one time he walked in when i was taking a bath in 3rd or 4th grade and said it was normal and okay and one time in 6th or 7th grade he had me lay down on the coffee table and gave me a massage with no shirt and no bra on but had a pair of shorts on and he used oil and was quiet the whole time and massaged by back and legs and like weirdly wanted to give me the massage. and also my whole life he has cuddled or tried to cuddle with me but i mean even until age 14 (he unrelatedly moved states then). and he also over the phone since he left has told me how much i've gotten a womenly figure and that i have huge boobs. I just realized this and i probably will think of more times things happened because i just had this realization.   he left me when i was 14 is what i mean but still tries to talk to me sometimes also i'm so sorry for the bad grammar bare with me.

He is abusive through neglect to his elders and wants me to carry his legacy. I cannot see myself doing this. How do I get him to let me not be neglectful of my grandparents and other elders.

My sister whos 3 yrs younger than I,  13 year olds,  made fun of a kid with down syndrome that I have babysitted for the past  year and a half now. I admit, I acted wrongfully and I feel excruciatingly bad for what I did. My response was to slap her, and I know violence solves nothing. It just angered me so much because he can't help that he has down syndrome, and my sister has no idea of the struggles he has to go through every single day. And when I told her about it, she laughed. I have since apologized. Am I an abuser? 😢😞

Where they all bully me and I'm not allowed to say anything or I get in trouble or worse.

I need to learn how to be more assertive. I m a push over and do let me people take advantage over me. For example: When I was going to college and working as a student worker my aunt would come to my work and ask for help. I helped her enroll in college, pushed her to do her FAFSA ( she didn t want to because it was a "long" process) and even helped get a student worker job and get into programs where she can get her school books paid for. Yet! she still try s to compete with me. We both graduated Friday. We couldn t graduate on stage due to the COVID 19 . My aunt had a BBQ at her house and invited the family. She didn t invite me. All the family told her congratulations but never told me anything. My aunt talks badly about me sometimes to her other niece. My aunt would always try to compete with me even when I was younger. She s 42 years old and I m 27. I need to learn how to put my foot down and tell my family how I feel unappreciated at times but, I m sacred that it will make them feel bad. That is my weakness. I let people walk all over me and I need to stop because it s affect me. How can I do this?

im 16 he takes my phone at 7:30 or earlier every night. He yells at me constantly and blames me for everything even if it was something that he did. He yells at me often for eating food or drinking water at certain times. He always is calling my mom fat and telling her to lose weight, he also tells her to "suck in her gut" when hes taking a picture of her. By the way my mom is very skinny and extremely fit she works out almost everyday. He sometimes calls me things like a worthless whore with no purpose and hes told me i should die a few times. hes taken my makeup, lotion and skincare products I've bought with my own money and threw them away because "he doesn't like the smell of them" i don't know if this is normal or not but i really don't like it. is there any way to get him out of my life because i hate to say this but i genuinely hate him and i don't love him at all.

I have expressed to her many times that she can go over his house sometimes to give me and her mother space.  Apparently it's easier for him to come over here since she does not drive.  He comes over here on the weekends when they both are off work. He comes over on Saturday and Sunday. Saturday he was over for about 6 hours in the living room. He came over and they were watching movies on her phone in our living room. I decided to stay in my bedroom while they were in the living room because it's a bit awkward being in there while they are watching movies sitting next to each other. I was surprised that it took him so long to leave I kind of wanted the relax in the living room on my couch. But I wanted to give them space and it also I felt uncomfortable being in there while they were cuddling. She knows that I will not allow him to be in her bedroom even thought they are in their 20'z and adults in college there are still rules and I don't want them having sex in my home. After he left I told my daughter " y'all were in the living room watching movies a long time weren't you"... and I was like " yes because I haven't seen him all week and Wanted to spend time with him. With everything closed what is there to do anyways."  I wasn't hiding. It's just weird and awkward to be in the room with her and her boyfriend while they are watching a movie which is an intimate activity 

My son and I live with my sister and her daughter.  We three pay rent the daughter is only two yo.  My son and I are on social security disability and my sister works.  My sister is not my son's representative payee but she takes his check and gives him a little money every Friday.  She also won't give him his social security card and he wants to get a job.  He could have gone online to get a replacement but she set up the user ID and password but he doesn't know it.  I had been homeless for 3 years and just moved in my son says she just started giving him money when I showed up.  I am 55 and mentally ill my son is 29 and intellectually disabled.  She is too controlling in my opinion.  He should have his check and information about social security.  Lately he has been getting angry breaking things drinking beer and crying.  I know it is stress from being controlled the drinking doesn't help.  He says he wants a family meeting tonight, memorial day 2020.  She asked me what he wants to talk about and I told her these same issues he has been bringing up all year.  She said he needs to be on medication.  I think she should let up.  Plus it is against the law for her to do that. This is my own place to live.  I pay rent and have a lease like all the other adults here.

My brother lives with my parents and does the bare minimum to raise his child, living completely off my parents. This leaves a lot of stress on my parents whose relationship is already strained. My nephew does have behavior issues and my parents and brother don't respond very well. He is not in danger but I don't think it's a healthy environment for him. I won't be in a position to help for another 3-4 years. Can anyone recommend options? DSS has offered very little help and any medication my nephew has been prescribed has not improved the behavior problems.

My husband's son Joe wants to join the Boy Scouts like most of his friends. My husband will not let him join because the scout master is my ex husband. I am on friendly terms with my ex husband but I rarely see him or communicate with him. This does not seem fair to me. Joe ask me to talk to his dad and explain that there is not a problem with him joining the Boy Scouts. Do you think I should get involved in this or since Joe is my husband's son, he gets to make the decision without any input from me?