I come from a family of 8 siblings and they want to hang out 3-5 times a week. Which is fun sometimes but other times I feel like I want to scream. As much as I like them all very much, I crave going to the beach alone at times or maybe going hiking alone. It's just I feel so forced to tag them along with me without any judgements. It's incredibly overwhelming. What can I do about this?

Growing up my dad was a heavy drinker with a bad temper and a foul mouth. He was a terrible dad. He always cursed and yelled at me for literally no reason and would always degrade and talk down on me. Not to mention he was a dead beat dad who couldn't help my mom to raise/support me. I'm an adult now and he has laid off the drinking and his temper is a lot better. He works at a minimum wage job, but always sends me money when he can. He's a much better father now, but I still can't stand being around him. He speaks like an uneducated kid. He makes weird faces and noises all the time and is embarrassing to be with in public. Idk why but I get an immense feeling of annoyance around him and don't know how to handle these feelings. He's getting older and I know I need to spend more time with him, but within 2 minutes of being around him I am extremely annoyed and in a bad mood. How do I solve this and why do you think I feel this way?

I m 17 and it started when my mom and I had an argument about my charger. My parents have 4 kids but have never been together, so I called my Dad and explained everything to him and he talked to my mom. But she hates my Dad and now she believes that I and my Dad are the same and she has refused to let me eat. I m afraid it will go on for more days.

My mum is very strict and tells me when I can eat and what I can eat, so she tells me like i can't eat after 8 and if i want to eat something she will say no and get mad if i do. it's the same with wanting to go out and do certain things. my dad on the other hand basically let's me make my own decisions as he believes I'm mature enough

As an only child, my Mother has always been clingy and overprotective. However, those traits are exponentially worse since I have had a stroke and am in recovery. Early on, yes I was likely incapable of holding a job or living alone. -BUT- it has been 7(nearly eight) years since I had the stroke and I don't want to live with my Parents forever! Doing so, will(and is) essentially ruining my life. Even so, my Mom remains steadfast in the belief that I shouldn't live alone, can't take public transportation, etcetera. Basically She can't bear to let me go a second time after I moved to NYC to begin with, and "She'd be more worried now." Her fear is squelching my life or any opportunities to be independent.

She cut off the internet that I pay $50 a month for and she replaced it with a cheaper, crappier internet.  I told her she can have her internet but let me pay for mine but she claims that she "doesn't want two different internets running in the house" she's literally just being a control freak.

 I started school at age 7 and my mom was 28 back then. Now she is 37. Just thought of this and it felt a bit embarrassing.

I got a note from the school that my 16 year old daughter Nancy was failing math and they recommended a tutor to help her. They sent a list of tutors home with Nancy and I started calling them. All of the tutors were very expensive. Being a single mom, I just could not afford them. I knew a family friend that I thought knew enough math to tutor her and I hoped he would be a lot cheaper. His name was Bill and he was a college senior. I called Bill and asked him if he would tutor Nancy and he agreed to do if for free. He was a great guy for doing this for her. He did tutor Nancy for 3 months. When Nancy got her grade card, she got an A in math. We were both VERY HAPPY and asked Bill go come over so we could tell him the GREAT NEWS. When we told him Nancy's math grade he said that is wonderful news. Nancy told Bill she had to thank him for his help so she kissed him. After she was through kissing him Bill turned to me and said "your turn". I was so excited I kissed him also. We all had a good laugh and a group hug. Bill said "if you need any more help with school subjects, just call me". Some of my friends that I told about this told me what we did was not appropriate and that Bill would get the wrong idea. My take on this is that if Bill was happy and my daughter and I were happy, there is no problem. We were just having fun. What do you think? Did we do something wrong?

if you talk or say bad things about your birth name do you find that to be disrespecting your mother or not ? 

He will not go because he runs a company and my mother is a paralyzed hypochondriac right now. However, I still can as long as I wear a mask and gloves the whole time and don't eat food there. My Dad loves holding me back from family time cause it triggers the pain of my childhood rejection when our branch of the extended family is 2nd rate and does not participate when everyone else gathers. It is all VERY PAINFUL for me. How do I get him to let me know so I can join when I know he will disadvantage me cause of his company and my mother's hypochondriac status. I am living on my own now. I cannot inquire to the extended family or I will seem intrusive.

Normally my step kids do loads of activities and seem pretty social at school. After however many weeks of lockdown they actively don't want to go back to school though - not even for the friends and activities. They are 11 and 12, both girls.  I'm interested to hear how other kids are handling this. Our next door neighbours kids are 8 and 10 (boy girl) and desperate to go back to school. Its such a marked difference between my step kids' attitude I'm interested to know why. Could be that they're both girls so get along better, could be the difference between primary and secondary school (although step kids seem to prefer secondary to primary). How are your kids (or you if you're a teen) handling this? Do they want to go back? And how old are they? 

I'm 5'4 , 110lbs and my older sister is 250lbs and 5'3. If I talk to a guy on the phone I'm seen as boy crazy , they've called me nasty for no reason, when I wear shorts they look at me funny up and down . When a guy calls to say hello, they tell me I'm chasing after men. However , my sister had a man at the apartment sleeping with her in the bed and he's still here . This is a man who has called her fat many years ago , has been to prison for hitting on women and has threatened to hit my sister in her face years ago. Hmm so why is it terrible for me to talk on the phone to guys ?  But it's not terrible for my sister to be in the bed with a guy ? Also when he's around I can't wear anything except pants or I have to run in the room if I'm wearing shorts and didn't know he was randomly popping up . Also my mom said we are supposed to be practicing social distancing so I'm not allowed to go anywhere only stay in the apartment.  But my sister is allowed to go places and invite a man in her bed .  Yes we are over 18, we are not teenagers. I'm only living here temporarily.

hi my brother is going is going crazy of playing roblox when hes supposed to be doing his homework he goes on there 24/7 and he always gets mad whenever we change the password. he just slammed his computer and is always threatning me. last night he came to my room with a knife what do i do my mom is sick and tired of it.

They get really upset if I don't eat dinner with the family, but dinner is usually served closer to midnight.  Everyone in my house goes to bed around 2-3am, but I go to bed around 10 and get up at 6.  Whenever I go to bed my parents get offended that I did not stay up for dinner and mock me for going to bed early. They don't see any issue with serving family dinner at midnight 

She's a single mother, went through so much to raise me and my sister. I appreciate her and love her but sometimes, she's too controlling or too stubborn and I can't have a rational conversation because whenever there is an argument, she has to be always right. When I want to do something and when she thinks I should do something else, instead of trying to convince me and being open minded about options, she just doesn't listen. I tell her and try to convince her my choice, it's one ear in one ear out and she'll pretend to be convinced, then comes back later to tell me that I should do what she wants. Whenever she loses an argument, she'll just make up a non-existent scenario to make the argument go around in circle or bring up something that has no relations whatsoever to the current conversation because she has to be always right. I love her but I hate her characteristics. She's also extremely closed minded and it's very difficult to convince her to see it in another perspective. I am not a screw up, I worked when I was younger to help my family, I went back to school several years later and got in to a university that is considered a public ivy. I studied hard and worked hard to where I want to be and I am in a difficult major so my job prospect is very good compared to other people because I'm an engineering major. I love her and I agree with a lot of her perspective and her characteristics but she also has attributes that is very difficult to deal with. We're from an immigrant family but I mostly grew up here, so I understand both cultures. I'm not some spoiled brat that is ungrateful for their parents and family. I feel that sometimes, the way she acts and thinks makes it much more difficult on herself and even if I get a six figure job, she won't be happy about certain things and she'll just cling on to that without realizing she has other things she can enjoy.

I am 24 and live on my own in a small apartment.  My parents have kept just about every toy I have ever owned, even the broken ones.  It completely fills Half their basement. They act annoyed that they still have the old toys and want me to take them and keep them at my apartment.  However I am happy to just give them away! But every time I try to give something away, my parents get offended and insist I should at least be selling items for nearly their original price. So they insist on keeping the toys, then a few months later it all starts again.  I literally can't get rid of anything without them getting angry at me, and these are items such as stuffed animals covered in mouse poop and broken doll houses.   

I'm 20 years old, my father and I aren't in a parent-daughter relationship just incase that's relevant. Recently my father has come into my life due to health reasons, he's unable to work and needed to live with me, he asked to borrow some money for a price of equipment and promised that he would pay it back because he had a deal to use it to help someone and would be paid for it. I ended up buying it for him with the promise of having the money returned, but since his deal didn't go through he doesn't have the income to pay me back and I was saving that money for my education. He wants me to just let it go, he keeps getting aggressive when I ask, becomes very angry because his mother died recently and he wants me to "give him a break". We fight all the time, and he's generally not safe to be around but I'm afraid to get him out of here, advice? 

My parents force my to do things I don't like and have unrealistic expectations. I used to like track but my parents gave me so much pressure it made me hate the sport and now I don't wanna do it anymore. They also force me into AP classes even though I can't handle them properly. I continue to perform poorly which makes my parents even more irritated. Even when I try to talk to them about it they call me lazy, selfish and that I'm not trying hard enough. I just want to tell them no and that I don't wanna do it anymore.

My cousin who i no longer talk to, last time saw me whilst i was with a guy outside and started embarrassing me and laughing at me infront of him and then she ended up taking photos. I got sooo embarrassed infront of him and she was saying rude comments. It was a daye and she ruined it what do i do?Im so embarrassed right now

Mines completely ****** 1. Male cousin (12) and his friends threw boiling water and hot pasta on his infant sister in crib. He posts disturbing videos to youtube like 3D video game porn and a "minecraft school shooting roleplay" 2. 15 year old autistic sister who only ate goldfish for two months, obsessed with toy story and ***** two woodys in her room, saw toy story 4 6 times w my mom, stole a lot of toys from fleamarket when we wouldnt buy them, feeds pets **** that can kill them, broke two PCs, always screams and cries makes everyones lives hell 3. My stepdad which is human garbage. Treats me like **** for my beliefs (i believe in demons and slenderman as well as god) while i never said anything to him about being a stupid ******* jew. He treats us and our animals like ****. He brought too many kids from 2 different women into our house and family and my mom has to take care of all of them. Always drinking and doing drugs. Severe anger issues and lets my 13 year old sister drink if she does housework 4. My 7, 9 and 4 year old cousins that are all mute and ******* weird. Bully eachother and other little kids. Think every animal can kill them. 5. The aunt who had too many kids, always drinking. Stole thousands worth from my grandparents. 6. My chainsmoking grandma who hoards cats (17!!!) Pigs (12) dogs (6) horses (5) goats (9)both grandparents have severe anger issues and racist but my whole family is except for one sister who acts like shes so deprived of black boys

Growing up and even now as a college student about to graduate i always get this. When getting my license my mom told me "oh I didn't think you'd get it" - or ''you got it by luck because the instructor likes you". My sister and mom wouldn't help me pack on my trip to europe-this past january- promised to help me pack-didn't show up and didn't message or call me the day i was leaving. told me they Didn't think i could do it. I'm almost 23- graduating and going to get my masters why do they undermine me with everything? And they have the nerve to expect me to be there for them 24/7. Sorry for vocab mistakes I typed it really fast XD.

I just had my baby today and my baby dad ex keeps on texting his phone cussing him out for stealing her phones and card. She's been annoying my whole pregnancy. Which I told her after I deliver our baby, we're fighting because she was wishing death on my innocent baby plus she slept with my baby dad. all we really want her to do is to go away. What is her problem?

So my parents have really been pushing me to do sports that I absolutely hate. I appreciate them caring about my physical health but I am in no way obese or have any health threats. Im a big nerd who cares about my studies and loves to do science and engineering but my parents keep pushing the annoying American tradition of sports. I've never really been entertained or found any interest in sports, so I try to skip out on them, but my parents sign me up to sports I  A.) Dislike and have no knowledge about             B.) Cannot physically perform Is there any way possible I can convince my parents to stop making me do sports and let me focus on doing school and educational things?

I'm in my 20's and live at home for now, I'm planning to go back to school though. The reason I am asking this question is because my dad is super nosy with what I do with my money. For instance, he asks my mom what I am doing with my money. Then he asks how much I am getting per week. I said I dont know (I do know) by why should I divulge that?? He then asked again! I again shut down his question. No one should be asking me about my finances, that's my business. What should I do about this?

My younger brother triumphs over me in almost anything and it really hurts. He's funnier, good at sports, he can do things with his hands, predicts things quickly, understands intricate lore, among other things. He always manages to "save the day" and gets the love of other people, while I'm just pushed to the side. Even my parents have been ignoring me and my interests. I'm the oldest and this bothers me, I feel like I'm supposed to be the better one, but while he has all this talent he's not very intelligent. He can't spell words like off or rock and isn't good at basic math. What does this all mean and how am I supposed to feel? In my family, humor is a big thing, and it just kills me inside whenever he makes the funnier remark or joke, because that's what I wanted but I don't have it in me. I can't help hating him. I'm disabled, so it feels like I'm pushed to the side when it comes to everything. I want to succeed, especially in an area like comedy or physical activity, but he always trumps me. What am I even supposed to do? 

My older sibling is 9 years older than me. I started going to them gym and she wanted to come with me which was fine until sometimes I would go alone and when I would go alone she would talk smack about me. I also signed up for a local college to take some classes. She judged me harshly for not inviting her. She wants me to stay at her house while she works and tells me to take care of her kids. I said no. I have every right to live my life. I put a foot on it and started doing my own thing. Now she resents me and tells me she never got ahead be I didn't make her a resume. Is this normal?

So my mum is on her phone ALL the time. She's always on Instagram or Facebook. Whenever I ask her to do something like play a game, watch a movie, go for a walk, etc, she says no. My 15 yr old brother is the same but with youtube and his computer. My older brother, who's 21 and more similar to me, is away at University so I can't go to him like I normally would. I'm not really into social media or youtube/netflix (even though I'm 17), I prefer to play board games/cards/go for walks/etc. But my family NEVER wants to do any of these things. They're always holed up in their rooms and whenever I invite them to do something they just yell and tell me I'm being annoying. What can I do?? Please help. I've read 2 books today and now I'm just sitting on the floor bored af thinking of what to do, I just want to play scrabble or sm