We have been together for a couple of years but during our time together we've broken up a couple of times. our most recent breakup was two months ago, we got back together he called my phone 12 times saying how he couldn't live without me and how he believes we are soulmates. he said we are meant to be and he doesn't want to lose me. he seemed sincere and he promised he would work on his anger issues. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt because i love him and i believe people can change for the better This is the first LONG TERM relationship i've been in meaning i've been with other men but i've only been with them for 3-6 months. I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 35. he has two kids by two other women that he was with before he met me. I've been cheated on in every relationship except this one. he's been fiercely loyal which is one thing i admire about him. our relationship issues stem from us having polar opposite opinions about things and his control/anger issues. The first year we were together we didn't have problems. the second year things got shaky and then the third year was when things started spiraling out of control with his massive control issues. although he was never physically abusive and i know without a doubt he wouldn't lay a hand on me, I found myself crying myself to sleep a lot because of the way he would try to control me. he got mad at me because i didn't rush into the house fast enough time and he didn't want his 18 yr old nieghbor looking at me We argue almost everyday and I'm not exaggerating. and it be about the most ridiculous things. We were two minutes later for the movie because i had to pee and i said we can still enjoy the movie and he was like " i would've enjoyed it more if we could've watched the beginning." I was like " I'm sorry.." We were having a discussion about actresses and actors and have they go from either making thousands of dollars to millions.and I was like " My goal is to eventually be a millionaire. I know its a stretch but anything is possible, you never know. rich for the stars right." and he was like " I just don't want you to be disapointed cause the chances of that happening are slim to none. just be happy if you get thousands." and i was like " yeah that'll be alright." and he was like " NO THAT'LL BE GREAT. ITLL BE MORE THAN ALRIGHT. STOP UNDERMINING MONEY LIKE A THOUSAND DOLLARS IS LITTLE MONEY. YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR MAKING THOUSANDS. YOUR MINDSET IS STUPID AND IT P*** ME OFF." I was like " what is wrong with you. why are you being so aggressive with me." I was like " I never said it was little money and of course i would be grateful. I was just speaking hypthertically." He just completely blew up at me.. it's a crazy a couple of hours later he was like a completely different person and trying to kiss on me, feel me up and down, and cuddle me. this is why this black and white behavior is so confusing.. He says he wants to marry me this year and he wants to propose and get married all in the same day. he doesn't want to go through an engagement process. he wants to get married in a court house and then we have a big ceremony later on when we can afford it.. he said that he wants to get married ASAP because we haven't been having sex for a couple of months and he is sexually frustrated but doesn't want to have sex while unmarried and live in sin anymore. He didn't seem to care about being romantic about any of this and said he will just propose in a normal way that he feels is best. I'm not really excited about any of this for some reason.. its supposed to be the happiest day of my life.. last year he had a problem with the way i pronounced my words. he was like can you please not put an emphasis on that letter and can you please open your mouth. I'm not sure if it's an OCD or anger issues. I've been trying to work with him and I suggested we go to therapy before any kind of marriage occurs. I just don't believe in divorce.. and i want to make sure we have a stable marriage..

1) In your opinion, what odds/chance would you place on your spouse being able to be lured away from you by someone else; 2) If that process began happening, what would your response or reaction be, of the following two all-encompassing reactions: A) You realize it is your fault, and begin to figure out what you are doing wrong/not doing and change that, doubling-down on making your spouse aware that you are crazy about them; OR B) You tell them to "go then, if that's what you want. I'm getting half of your lifetime earnings"

I've always been somewhat of a passive, quiet wife and mother. We're going on six years of marriage, and within this past year, I've come to realize I've been in an emotionally abusive marriage. I've been seeing my therapist for depression and anxiety for the past couple of weeks, and she agrees that my husband sounds like a narcissist. This realization has made me realize that he's never authentically loved me and that it wasn't just "in my head." Something never felt right. The last time he hurt me was a few weeks ago. He abandoned me at the house and took off to an event at our daughters' school. When I walked outside I was only a minute late and he was gone. That was it for me. It had happened one too many times. He said he was going to keep on doing it and I told him that was the last time. These past few weeks have been filled with uncontrollable anger. I feel like I'm losing it at times. Today he said I was acting evil and I laughed in his face and told him to look in the mirror. I'm not a doormat anymore. How can I end things peacefully? I'm allowing him to drive me nuts.

How is the difference in the relationship before and after marriage?

i know life is a hard thing love to know about your personnel experience please be polite with your answers please dont talk about unwanted things

what are the challenges? how to face it? please be polite with your answers please dont talk about unwanted things

My husband have this female friend that he cares deeply for and it makes me feel depress and unloved. It use to hurt and I use to cry but now I'm just angry at him. I want a divorce..it hurts. Every time I try to talk to him, he push me away. He doesn't care for me and never want to do anything with me or be with me but when he get a text from that girl, he go straight to her. It's been going on like this for months. He said she's a good person and he feels bad for her..she recently went through a divorce and seemed very down so he wants to be there for her as much as possible. Sounds to me like he want a piece of her. I asked him if he is having an affair but he said no. He rushes to get to her and he doesn't even care for me. Ok let's get to it..so, last night she texted him at 11ish at night, we were about to go to bed and after they were done texting, all of the sudden he had to go. I tried to stop him and begged him to not go but he said he have to go no matter what. I told him that if he leave me then it's over. He pushed me off of him, shut his car door and left..didn't say anything. I went back inside the house and balled my eyes out. When he left, It's when I realize it's really over. He didn't come home until 4 this morning. I stayed up and thought long and hard about everything. I can't do this anymore. It hurts so much. What do I do? What would you do?

I have asked him over and over where he would like to go...he never answers, where ever you want to go is fine..meaning, when we get there IF we did get there, he would ruin it for me....he has NO interest in doing anything, some men claim marriage is a trap....try being me for a day...he does NOTHING. Just got a new puppy, I take this dog to the park...hmmm some men there...oh well, what ever happens, happens...he will not go to a marriage counselor he does not believe in them....odd though, when his kids asks him to fly out of state to see them, he went...I talked him into going to the ocean 3 years ago, he stayed in the room...so, I am looking!!!! What would YOU do?

I ve been with him since we were 16 and now we re 24 and want to get married. We ve been through everything together from college and first jobs to when I had cancer. I can t imagine my life without him and I love him so much. I would love to marry him, but his parents and our friends seem less than happy with the decision. They think we re too young and by getting married we would be missing out on our youth. My girlfriend said that I should even consider leaving him to experience the single adult life. Is it ok to marry your first love? What should I say to convince weary friends and family?

Why doesn't the wife have all her stuff limited to one room called the 'Lady Parlor' or something?

My wife threatens to leave me if I don't stop smoking. I was smoking since I was 14. God knows she knew i was smoking when we met and when we married. It's not like I started smoking yesterday.

For example, you are eating lunch with a woman you are attracted to and like, she likes you back.... would you talk about how big some other woman's breasts are at your job ? Or would you talk about your neighbors hotass ? Or is that something you'd only talk about to guys or female friends ?

Without divorcing my wife or cheating on her. None of this is her fault. I know better than anybody how much she wanted to be a mother.

I am a 40 years old Indian man and I never got any marriage proposal in my lifetime. Looks like Indian girls parents don't want to give their daughter to me for marriage. Does Indian society ignore some men like this ? I prefer answers from Indian women. Maybe society has made me an outcast and does not want me.

Assuming the sister is willing.

Than one who has a different culture, religion .....etc

My wife and I moved back to a town that didn't work out the first time.i love it here and want to stay but Everyone warned us not to go back but we did in 2017. 2017 My wife's job ended due to bankruptcy, she got a temp job till December. In October 2017 we lost our house to a fire. By November we were homeless. December 2017 her parents purchased us a home till insurance could come through. Also, brand new car was involved in a hit and run. 2018 Wife was in a bad accident at work coworker was driving. Ended up in hospital. Left job. Wife took summer job. Nov 2018 her mom died. Our House was robbed too around November 2018. Her grandmother also died in November the same month. 2019 -my wife struggled with depression and wanting work. She FINALLY found a good job here but her boss was asking her to do very illegal things. For the fear of not having any income, she did it and ended up getting in trouble with the police. The company got in trouble she obviously quit. We've been having major troubles in our marriage since moving here. We've talked divorce numerous times from stress Yesterday, my wife just broke down and said she had enough. She left. She's driving 20 hours out to Texas where she's always wanted to live. She has no job, our joint bank account. I'm very concerned. She's usually the rational one. What do I do? I'm devastated. I'm really concerned about her.