My family wants me to get married, but even the thought of dating someone is honestly revolting. I'm torn between choosing my family or me. I would also feel bad for the person I'm marrying since I don't truly love them in a romantic sense. Should I choose my families' happiness over my own?

My husband and I have been married for five years now and have three kids. We've had a roller coaster ride of a marriage. That mostly has to do with my husband being a narcissist. He was diagnosed by my therapist, although I had suspected it for some time. He is cold and only affectionate when he wants sex. He hasn't been that shoulder to lean on and every time I try, he always uses my vulnerability as ammunition. I've learned not to trust him and have slowly built a wall. Over the past few months, I've noticed my libido skyrocketing and I've noticed a few men, but would never pursue anything. I can understand why not having a supportive spouse can cause these feelings, but why now after five years? Nothing significant happened to warrant this, just the same old routine. I feel guilty, yet at the same time enjoy feeling alive again. How can I keep these feelings in check? Has anyone else experienced this and does it generally pass?

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My wife is 5 months pregnant with our first baby she was watching a documentary on 9/11 she was only 8 when it happened she doesn't remember much she's 26 now looking back she wishes she remembered it like almost everyone else does I was only 2 at the time I don't remember it well either shes not the only one. She said even 18 years later she still has nightmares about it. She had a dream last night that I was in the towers as they were falling. She said once when she was a teenager she had a bad dream about her being a little kid being lost in the World Trade Center as it was falling. She didn't loose anyone that she knows of anyway. How can I help her feel better ?

I'll go straight to the point. We've been together for 9 months and we're expecting a baby girl (she wasn't planned , I was on birth control that clearly failed, whom I love very very much) and I feel like we're still stuck on the relationship because of his divorce . The only reason why I agreed to start dating was because he made it clear that they both mutually agreed to the divorce but she's a pain in the *** and is making the process a lot more complicated. He is getting his legal status processed through their marriage which is why I've been understanding on his patience but I'm getting to a point where I'm running out of patience, he can't help around the house financially as I'd like him to because of his lawyer bills and I had to get our house by myself for our baby without his name in it. I'm not sure if I should tell him to maybe us take a break until this all clears or if I should stick around and be patient, he says he loves me and he wants us to be a family which is what I want too but I'm just confused right now

Hello, I would like to share a brief summary of my current life situation to seek some answers if any one has been in a similar situation. It's been a month that I choosed to separate myself from a extremely toxic relationship. We have been together for 3 years 2 of those years were amazing but this past year has been hell all stemming from a traumatic life and career changing event the unfolded in my fiancé life which almost ended in termination. Due to that my fiancé fell into a really serious deep depression that created the toxic environment and turned him to a person that wasnt him.Not going into details, we would literally fight ever other day for an entire year. These fights started off as normal couple fights but escalated to what was an extremely emotional,mental, and physical abuse. I took his crap for an entire year, in hopes that he will change and it will get better in time, sadly it didn't as to why I'm here today. This last fight was very very bad, the three elements of abuse was performed where I feared for my life. I left him the next day, I actually felt like I was escaping. It's been a month of me being gone, as much pain and hurt he gave me i still have love for him and feel like this person wasn't him. He has gone to therapy and found some peace on that. He has reached out to me in trying to get me to come back home. I have a son who is 7 yrs old whom my fiancé has been raising since he was 2 and misses his home and step dad. I'm very torn and need help

Wife has no money. Should she fight for alimony? Could she lose custody if they file divorce separately? Right now they are joint divorce same atty. But she wants alimony and her kids. can custody be granted to the husband and girlfriend if they marry? They are both in the military. Wife is civilian.

Incident 1 I was 10. I had a cousin who was 12. They slept with me and started showing me porn and encouraging me to do things with them. one time they started fingering me when I didn't want them to and kept saying stop. It was really confusing. I guess it felt good but I hated it. Incident 2 I went on a date with a guy when I was 15. It was my first date ever. I gave him a bj then said I had to leave. He held me down and kept grabbing my arms. I kept saying I had to go and that I wanted to leave and trying to physically leave the car but he kept pushing my head down and making me blow him. He then got on top of me and kept fondling me and moaning and it was just really disgusting Incident 3 I had just had sex with this guy. I told him to stop because it was bad. Then he kept trying to push his dick back in. he kept saying, "please, just hold still" and kept trying to put it in as I was moving away. I eventually just made him leave. Incident 4 I was pretty high. I was having sex with this guy with a condom on. He then took off the condom. I kept saying no but he held me down and put it in anyway. I enjoyed kinky sex and he knew that but I didn't want that. Idk. It felt good at least Incident 5 I met up with a guy. He was much uglier in person. I was just horrified honestly. He guided me over to his bed and kept being really pushy and I was very obviously not into it. I ended up blowing him but I was too afraid to tell him I didn't want to do it because I didnt want him to hurt me Incident 6 This was with my ex boyfriend who was really awful to me. He called me worthless, said I didn't deserve love, and threatened to beat me up. The first time we had sex I was extremely high, he gave me a ton of different drugs. I got really horny, so we went upstairs. I was so high I could barely speak but he was extremely aggressive. I didn't remember my own name or who he was at the time. He had sex with me without a condom and came in me. I wouldn't have had sex with him sober to be honest. Once I let him put it in my butt and he shoved it in as hard as he possibly could because he was mad at me. Incident 7 A dude just put it in without the condom many times when I didn't know Incident 8 Same thing Incident 9 I was really drunk and tired. This guy asked me 15 times for sex. I was in a ton of pain and didn't want to do it but he wouldn't stop asking and pressuring me to touch him for pretty much hours. Also I'm currently 20 years old

My parents are getting older and approaching retirement age. So, my parents are become more dependent on me financially. They don't have much money saved up so it's going to be hard for them for awhile. I'm 32 years old and I never moved out due to fact that my parents are somewhat dependent financially on me. I started to think about my future. I want to get married one day and even have kids while I still can. I talked to my dad about me getting married or moving out one day but he told me that if I do that, I will be abandoning them and I will be a bad daughter if I do that. I trying to figure out if I can do both. Live my dream and help my parents....

I was seeing this guy for a while. We will call him Jeff. The sex was really good and we always wore a condom. When I was young I was sexually abused and when I was 14 I was raped. That was the first time I have had sex. Because of this my sexual tastes are pretty unusual. I'm into large power dynamics where I'm completely helpless. My perception of sex and what it should be is warped. My current boyfriend (not Jeff) and I have really rough sex and I didn't want to suck his dick because it already went inside me, but if he had forced me I would've been turned on anyway. That's what I mean. Jeff knew about my kinks, not about my past or anything like that. We were having sex with a condom. Then, basically he took it off and said he was going in without it. I initially freaked out. I kept saying no and put my hands over it. I was pretty high on coke and weed. He was sober. He basically pushed my arms down and put it in. I couldn't fight back because he was literally 7 feet tall. I eventually got aroused and really enjoyed it. Then after he pulled out and came he gave me a weird smile and said, "I just raped you." Later he told me the condom broke apart and that's why he went in raw but he also knew I wasn't on birth control so idek

lately I feel like my husband has been pressuring me to have sex with him.I come home from work and try to clean and cook and what not bc he comes home about 3 hours later than me, and after I have everything done and just sit on the couch he would come and playfully and be all flirty dragging me down the couch and asking me for sex. I explain to him that I myself came from work not too long ago and I need some rest and I am tired, but he always finds something cute or flirty to say so I wouldn't deny him and I noticed he keeps doing that constantly. I feel like he needs sex every day or some days even more than once a day, I believe he should be respectful to me correct?

My sister in law doesn't like me, and Ive known that for a while. I know she's jealous, but the drama is so exhausting. My husband and his sister are 5yrs apart, with my sil being the oldest. But my husband and I were the first to get married, produce the first grandchild... And we've tried talking to her. However, all she does is ignore us, my husband and I. I know my fil and mil went through a messy divorce, and I feel this has something to do with it. But I need your guys' advice.

Been together for 2 years going on three, he said he's not trying to wife me but he wants something for us to stay connected.. we live together and he would rather me have his child than me be married with me. I feel kinda weird it's not like I want to get married but him saying that doesn't sound good to me. I wanted a future

We had sex 3 times and I got a bj twice and I fingered her once. It was a very fun/sexy trip; only at the same time it wasn't. Something was missing. When I tried to bring up some of the problems in the household she was silent as always. I don't think it's because she was trying to avoid an argument, I think it was because she had no answers and she didn't want to admit of her ignorance on how to fix it. She had too much pride to say "I don't know how to fix it but I don't want you to fix it either without me". So even though we were properly rested and could have easily tackled the issue if we both brainstormed, she was refusing to be my equal/partner (again). The sex was good even though we both are overweight and the fingering went okay even though she was silent the whole time, but the bjs were very underwhelming. After making me shave "down there" she didn't make the work/effort on my part rewarding. The first time she did it I "helped" and I was able to finish, but the 2nd time I just couldn't finish because it was so bad. She just isn't good at doing that (even though it's my favorite thing). She just couldn't sell the idea that she was into it/me, and she's a spitter which is the absolute worse... At the end of the hotel stay I felt relaxed but not connected to her. I felt like she was distant the whole time and like she was just trying to "getaway" and not rekindle the spark in our marriage; there was NO passion, it was just her doing what she was taught to do.

I don't want to feel this way and it is not logical and yet I still do feel it even 8 years after I started having a close relationship with him again. My mother would tell me that he left "us" and so I felt rejected and was bitter towards him as a kid and avoided him. Starting in high school I resumed a relationship with him again. Now I am 24 and still have an anxiety that he will dislike me if I make any mistake and thus I must be perfect. My mother I am relaxed around. None of this is my Dad's fault as it is from the brainwashing my mother did to me to get him back for their marriage ending.

My husband and I got into a heavy conversation this weekend and I wanted to see what others think. We've been together som 16 years, married 10. He's 50, I'm 48. He is of the mindset that after couples have been together a certain number of years then they stop making love and just have sex. He says that making love is okay in the beginning of a relationship because you are putting your best foot forward to impress the person. But after a while it just turns to sex. I'm of the mindset that couples should make an effort to make love. That's a connection. He doesn't so the soft music anymore nor does he do anything romantic. I usually know he wants to fool around if after we turn off the lights he'll snuggle up to me and grab my breasts. Should couples still make an effort to make love or does it just turn to sex after a certain point?

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I know this sounds bad... A long time ago I lived a pretty different life than I do now, I never considered myself an addict but I have taken several different prescription medications for a while. I've been "clean" for over 3 years now with an occasional xanax & oxazepam. In the mean time I got married and live a stable, healthy life, i'm very happy but sometimes it bores me. My husband and I are soon going to start trying for a baby which i'm really excited about! But the thought of one last "bender" I just can't get out of my mind. Obviously my husband wouldn't let me, mainly because he is an ex addict (cocaine, heroin, acid etc) So my question is, would it be bad to have one more weekend of fun? I know I can't and won't use anything again after i'm pregnant/ have a kid. I'm a very responsible person but I just feel like I need one more weekend of "fun" before I can fully devote my life to a child. I don't want to end up regretting not doing it. Obviously I'll make sure it won't harm my baby in any way, we're not actively trying for at least another month. So what's one weekend? (Please don't start with things like "you'll fall back in your old habits" because I know I won't we have a **** ton of prescription drugs in the house and I have no problem with it at all.)

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My boyfriend moved overseas to be with family and I keep asking him to come back; he s been gone for several months and he will only move back under certain conditions. His friend texted me the previous day that he had a job for him. My boyfriend called me later yesterday asking me to work on his resume with him because he had to send it ASAP. I had just finished my job and I finally had a minute to myself. I worked on his resume for 35 minutes and I was annoyed because I think this is something he should be able to do. He claimed he didn t have access to a computer and I asked him about his sister s computer and he said she was out and he didn t have her password. Friends wanted to go to a happy hour and I kept pushing back my departure time because I was helping him with this. I told him I could only spend 10 more minutes on this. It turns out now he wants nothing to do with me. That I rushed the resume and it shows where my loyalty lies and I deliberately didn t care. If it s his resume and opportunity why should I responsible for this? Now he won t speak to me and says he s not relying on me anymore. He s much older than me and doesn t even have a full-time job. All he s been doing is sitting at home and playing poker. I love him but I don t understand why I let him down so much. We wrote the resume and I sent it out in time. He wasn t happy I guess that I told him I wasn t spending anymore time of it. Am I being ridiculous?