I'm not the jealous type, but is it understandable that it doesn't feel right for my husband to spend time with his female best friend alone now that we' married? I don't mean grabbing a bite to eat or something, but even movie nights at her house or going on long walks. He knew his friend Kara before we met, and they did things like that for years. Now my husband Joe and his friend Kata still want to maintain these things they've done since forever. He thinks I'm being insecure about not feeling right about it. I get that she's his best friend, but it doesn't feel right

This is NOT a situation where I am wanting what I can't have. I just got out of a toxic and draining relationship of 5 years. Even though I just now physically broke up with him mentally I've been checked out for years. We exhausted everything inside of us to make it work but it just wasn't happening. I was at the point where I just started to feel numb and today I made the decision that this just can't go on any longer. Rewind to a couple of weeks ago- I message my guy friend that I've been friends with 10 years and reconnect with him. It's been years since I had talked with him. It was partially my fault because I was too wrapped up in a toxic relationship to keep in touch with him. I was also going through a lot of other stuff during that time period so I sort of drifted away from him and a lot of my other friends. ANYWAYS, He replies to my message and we start talking from night until the sun comes up and then this leads to us talking for weeks on end. When I messaged him he literally had just got dumped by his girlfriend who he said was extremely selfish/inconsiderate/lacked compassion. We spent the majority of our time talking about his toxic ex and my toxic boyfriend. We also talked about a lot of other things and I got to know more about his childhood. We realized that we had a LOT more in common than we thought. We had a crazy connection that led me to thinking I had been with the wrong person the past 5 years. He has an amazing job, he's kind, he's pure-hearted, he is also extremely attractive. he has multiple degrees, owns his own buisness, he's smart, funny, laid back, and listens wel now someone is going to ask me why I didn't ask him out sooner. It's because 1. I was stupidly trying to chase bad guys. I was young and stupid and couldn't see what was right in front of me. I literally was hopping from one toxic relationship to the next. and 2.. I only really saw him as a friend back then. I mean we were like 17 when we first met, we were babies and he was slightly immatu heard his voice and the way he talked for the first time in years and I was just mesmerized by his mind, he has grown to be extremely articulate and well spoken. Also, I am physically attracted to him now. I sent him a message about a recent picture he put and was like " wow you really became something over the years dangggggg i guess being a gym rat paid off. you look muscle-y as hell. keep doing what youre doing because is the best you ever looked. and, that voice of yours makes me wanna faint. now wheres my compliment, gas me up." he was like ": you are very attractive extremely beautiful inside and out, captivating eyes, oh so sexy lips, beautiful smile. you're electric so i know you don't need to be gassed up. " I was like " aw thanks friend. you're the sweetest person ever. love you friend." and he was like "it really is all true though. I love you too."

I'm 20 & my mom is literally my only friend. I want to get married. Like she doesn't even know that I'm engaged. I just don't know how to tell her. I know I should have a conversation with her but how would I start it off

We met on facebook 9 years ago and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don't live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 5 hours away from each other of driving distance. We still kept seeing each other because we couldn't let go. Then he ended it again citing the distance. We ceased contact only for him to reappear stating he misses me then we started seeing each gain. He went cold again and ended it again for the same reason, the distance. We would reconnect and hangout over a period of 3 years until things started going downhill. He started bailing out in the last minutes arrangement to meet up and he became distance. Then he met someone closer.I decided to move.Then he reached out again and we reconnected. It became a wash and rinse repeat cycle. He would reach out stating he misses me. Once the excitement wears off goes cold, bail on our plans to meet in person. Rinse and repeat. I finally had enough last time when he dropped me because of the same reason, distance and ignored my attempts to contact him. We didn't talk for 5 years because I deactivated my face book profile and changed my number. He had no way to contact me.I reactivated it this year and within a month he opened a new face book account and messaged me claiming he has been looking for me all these years and he feels like he is dreaming.

I get that men pride their masculinity but it is getting ridiculous of how much this is affecting his mood. He always seemed to be insecure about how much he makes compared to me but I didn't realized how much. When I bring up bills in the conversation he gets really tense of going over the finances. I don't understand he makes a decent amount of money (he is a actuary) and I worked hard to get my job position of a Financial advisor and he is making me feel guilty that I earn more than him. I confronted him about his behavior and his response was followed by annoyance he said "I should be making more money and it is a mans job for the household" then we had a major argument. I don't get why he thinks I see him as less of a man if he earns a bit less than I do. It is discouraging to my work and interfering with my performance in my job. We always understand each other and we are each others bestfriends I don't get why he is acting so distant lately. Could someone explain to me why he feels this way and if I can help him with his insecurities with money?

Newly-weds, returning from our honeymoon, my wife regularly complains that when I converse with someone else I marginalize and render her non-existant. She even went to the extent of saying that I do this to impress girls, which she conceded otherwise later on. Today the complaint resurfaced again during the airport passport control when she says she asked me something and I replied in a care-less way. However later I replied to her fully. I said that I was with the passport control. She unearthed the past and said I always marginalize her in conversations and prioritize the other person over her. Once before I apologized for this (for my uninviting attitude, which I don't believe, towards her entering the conversation between me and my friend) and told her I'll amend the behavior and unmarginalize you from my conversations, whatever that means.) I love my wife much and I don't try to harm her in any possible way. Now, in the passport control, when I told her that I try my best, and I really do, to add her to my conversations, she complains it's just patchwork. It's really getting on my nerves. What are your thoughts on this? Help pls.

My "son" Anthony and Emily have been together for 10 years in a traditional male-female relationship. They are getting married in two weeks and Anthony recently came out to the family as pansexual and requesting non-binary pronouns. At a family dinner, a specific member of the family made some very ugly comments about the LGBTQ community. That was very hurtful to Anthony and once we got home alone, he revealed his pansexuality to me and later to the rest of the family. Apparently, Emily has known for years and she is totally fine with it. So here s the issue, I m totally clueless when it comes to politically correct terminology. I am performing the wedding and want it to be the most amazing day of their lives. I have asked Anthony what term he would prefer instead of husband and he s not quite sure, so we are looking for suggestions. I want the ceremony to be as special as possible and to honor his gender identity. Creative suggestions would be greatly appreciated. If you can t be helpful, just keep scrolling. Their special day will not be ruined by trolls!

ever see him pick a married lady up ? did you know her or her hubby ?

And is it incredibly rare to divorce after a marriage this long as they even have two grandsons. They live in Ohio.

I am going to talk to husband later today and he says if I continue to be so sensitive he will end it. However, past experiences with him have made me this way. I was never like this before. I also feel I cannot trust him and I dont know how i will heal, i love him and want a life with him. but he has also hurt me so much.

I have been running all week and last night I ran two miles. My husband picked me up and asked how many i ran, I said two and he said are you even going to be ready for the 5k this weekend, if you havent been consistent. for some reason this really upset me and I got angry, I got angry because I had cleaned the house and fed the dogs and only had time to run two miles. He then flipped out on me saying I get angry for the dumbest reasons and he cant even communicate correctly because he is afraid he will say something wrong and I will feel bad. He said I am the worst and I am so sensitive. I am a little more sensitive than normal because on Monday he chocked me and he apologized and we forgot. Three months ago I threw a sandal at him, so I guess it was equal. Then last night he tried to leave and I begged him to stay. I dont have a car and I begged him not to leave. After so much begging he told me if I didnt let this go then we would be over because he cant live with such an unconfident and insecure woman who sees the worst in him. Honestly, I am told by so many people I am so kind and so nice. I told him i would change. And I am biting my tongue but I am so hurt rn. Please give me any guidance. I feel so lost and scared.

My cousin and her hubby host the family BBQ every year. They usually supply the meat for grilling and the rest of us bring the sides. Last year I decided to make fried chicken and told her about it. Big mistake cause that made them have less of the other meats. The thing that really bothers me is her hubby asked "who wants a burger"? Then we have to raise our hands and he counts and puts on that many. Same thing with hot dogs, etc. Sometimes people do not get what they wanted, like my daughter in law last year and didn't want to keep asking for it. So now she will not go anymore. I want to tell them nicely not to make people raise their hands and just put out a batch of everything. How can I do that without being too forward?

My husband constantly ask for sex and I turn him down due to being tired or stressed from work or being with our kids. He works from home and I work at a bank. He's with the kids a little more than me but we have an infant I'm the primary caretaker of as she's breast fed. Due to not wanting to get aroused to only being pushed away he now sleeps on the couch by himself and doesn't really look at me. The last time this happened he said he only viewed me as an attractive roommate but not even that anymore. He said when he tries to touch me when I'm asleep I push him away or tel him leave me alone or get off of me, which I believe I do. Or if I tell him we can have sex later and when later comes I'm too tired and I tell him no. I know sex is important and needed for me but I'm too tired what do I tell him to do? How do I proceed ? He also feels he's unappreciated by mostly me and our kids since all we do is ask mainly me for stuff and not say thank you and always expect things. He sleeps on the couch and my friends and co workers say he does too much as man and father husband to feel the way he does and I should Do more and be more appreciative but I'm tired. Why do men need so much sex ? I get it he pays all our bills . I pay for my car and due to some recent events I don't pay for daycare so just my car and he pays his car and all our bills. But being the main provider doesn't mean I'm supposed to be your sex slave

They had split once in the past and later got back together 3 months later. That was 5 years ago.

He doesn't really give me gifts or take me out either.

I cheated on my girlfriend in 2017 and have had numerous arguments about it since then. She literally has accused me of something 6-10x a day for the past year. I can't shower, shave, brush my teeth, go to work, or really even use my phone period without her thinking that I'm cheating. She literally monitors my phone bill, my messages, emails etc. and has a gps app installed on my phone. With all this she still doesn't trust me and it has gotten to a point where I blow up when I feel she is accusing me. With that she insists that l'm definitely lying and cheating because I get angry and "defensive". When I try to talk to her calmly and address her issues she blatantly ignores what I say, makes her own assumptions, tell me I'm lying and won't listen to reason. After answering the question same question 5 times I get upset at which point she tells me I'm being abusive and not addressing her feelings. Literally every time we leave the house she insists that I am staring at another woman, even when I am looking in the complete opposite direction. I try to explain to her that she may be wrong and another fight ensues because she feels like I'm lying and trying to make it seem like she is the problem. She claims I just need to love her and be nice, but when I ask her to just tone down the accusations she tells me no and that it's my fault and problem to fix. I want to take responsibility for my actions but I can never do so because she constantly believes I'm cheating.