I am 18 years old and technically I still live at home. I work about 35 hours a week, and when I'm not at work I'm usually at my boyfriends house. When I am home, it's to either clean or sleep so I can go back to work the next morning. I do take showers there, but I don't eat any food or even use the TV. My mom thinks $150 a month is a good price to charge me for rent. I am not complaining, just wondering if others think this is fair :) and what would you charge your son/daughter?

So I have an older sister who's pregnant and another older sister who has come in from out of town and she wants to see everyone including my preggo sis, but my preggo sis doesn't really want to see my out of town sis due to beef, ANYWAYS my out of town sis calls my mom and asks her what my preggo sis's problem is, might I add since this is essential to the story my out of town sis has lost a bunch of weight and is down 50 or so pounds, while my mom is on the phone with my out of town sis she has the audacity to say "is she so pregnant that she doesn't want to see me because I'm so skinny now??" And that legit has NOTHING to do with the beef that they have, my out of town sis is a total *** and no one likes her so her saying that really showed her narcissistic asshole side and I just wanna know everyone's thoughts because my *** was on the floor rolling when she said that **** because it was just so idiotic

My family is not supportive. If you have a problem, it's your problem. They don't care. They won't even talk to you or visit unless you reach out. They treat certain members of the family special. They hate me. They act like I'm not even related to them. I hate being related to these people anyway. They are the worse. I wish I had a supportive loving family.

Someone was getting harassed in 8th grade and I sadly once joined in the laughing crowd, each of us shoving the classmate back and forth. Nothing was missing in the house. My parents did everything to guide me in the right direction. Needless to say, my father found out about it and really thought that he failed. It hurt me to see him with the most disappointing expression ever. It tried explaining it wasn't his fault but he thought it was. It hurt me to see him sad that day. That was enough for him, having to deal with making the one person that had a better expectation of me, who trusted me to do the right thing (that already assumed I was raised good) sad. I meant ''that was enough for me''...that look on his face haunted me that day. Never did it again ever since. Seeing I've hurt the person that trusted me the most was enough for me.

So the house where I use to live with my "family" looks like they're doing some type of black magic on ME! The backyard looks scary, everything in the house looks out of place! I try not to go there but I cant help to think that this is what's being done to me! What do I do????!

Long long story short, my parents divorced when I was 2. Do to my fathers drug problem I stopped seeing him from the age of 9-19. Last year, he served my mother for "back dated child support" which is a lie. Since we live in a screwed up town where everyone knows everyone, these court hearing have dragged on for over a year now. Nothings happening. I am starting college and my mother is asking for my father to step in and help pay a portion as he ceased all child support a few years back (as he thinks because I never did see him, he should not pay). So now he contacted me for the first time in 10 years (never sent birthday cards or even let me know my grandfather died) and him and his girlfriend invited me over for dinner. I went and had an ok time, they both seem to care for me. He gave me a bunch of old toys back. But we have not addressed the elephant in the room, his hatred of my mother and the emotional and mental strain these court hearing have caused me...not to mention the financial stress he has put on me thru the years when it came to his child support and now college. How do I go on pretending nothings wrong? Do I stop seeing him? It's just such a bizarre situation. Sorry if this makes no sense

My mom favors my nephews and makes it really obvious, but for my kid she only pretends to care in front of other relatives, otherwise she will never visit him or ask about him and we live less than 10miles away while my nephews are 35+miles away. My mom randomly asks me all the time if we're going to have another child then tells me "don't have another one, its too hard", she doesn't watch our kid at all so there's nothing for her that is "hard" and we're very capable of having another child. This isn't her choice but for my husband and I to decide, it hurts hearing it all the time. The last time she said it, she said that my sis in law was trying for the 3rd but had a miscarriage and my mom was sad about it that they can't have another child anymore, that makes me so angry, i'm not sure what to do about it when she asks me again. She isn't the type of mom who will listen.

Let's say the following two incidences occurred with the 8-year-old: 1. He falls on sidewalk and scrapes his knee, to which the tears start flowing. His father aggressively says, "Don't cry!!" 2. While he's sitting on his front porch during a water fight with the neighborhood kids, someone accidentally sprays him in the face with a hose. Since the hose was on "full blast" mode, the water stung when it hit his face. So he starts crying, to which his father smacks him hard in the face and tells him to stop making all that noise disturbing the peace. Was the father out of line for that?

My boyfriends parents and I decided to throw him a surprise party for his birthday. Before organising we agreed that they would cover renting the hall and food, then I would cover the DJ, sweets and decorations. All in all I spent just over £300 on this party (which is fine as a budgeted). However his mum over spent on her part and is now asking for half the money that she spent back from me (this will be around £210). I can't afford that, I am a student who works part time along with attending uni and it would really set me back on my rent. Not only this I'm a little annoyed that she's asking for all this money despite us agreeing on what we were covering before the party. I also think it's unfair that I'm being expected to pay the same amount as them when I work part time and they have two full time salaries between them. Am I being too dramatic by being upset and annoyed? If not how to I approach the situation? I don't want any hard feelings or awkwardness and do not want to involve my boyfriend. :)

I have a son in his late teens who graduated high school last year, and he didn't want to get a job or continue his education (he is extremely lazy and a little immature for his age). I told him last week that he needed to (at least try to) get a job by September 1st or I'm going to throw him out and let him be homeless. I'm being extremely tough on him and I don't care how he feels about it. If he's miserable, so be it. I'm not going to treat him like a kid anymore and I won't be patting his back unless he repents of this sluggishness and childlike behavior. He has been screaming and cursing at me a lot lately (saying he hates me). Ever since I told him I was going to kick him out, he has done nothing but lie in bed crying and being angry at me (telling me he can't do it and that this is too hard on him). I spoke with my neighbor and she said giving all this tough love is the correct thing to do, and that she would do the same. Now, just today, I saw him writing a letter. I asked what he was doing and he told me he planned to end his life at the end of the month. I read what he wrote and it was very concerning. I'm going to do whatever I can to prevent him from taking his life, but this doesn't mean he is exempt from getting a job. He needs to suck it up, I will not be around forever to support him. He often complains of back pain, fatigue, and that I'm making him miserable. I'm only being tough because I'm trying to make him want to get a job. What would you do? To everyone saying I parented him wrong during his childhood, I warned him about all this back when he started high school. He struggled a lot in school and he won't repent of his sluggishness no matter what happens. I am fed up with it and now that he's an adult, I can throw him out of my house unless he changes. He tells me he cannot get a job due to pain/health problems but I'm not taking that. Adulthood is not full of rainbows and flowers and he needs to learn that.

i feel that same way right now both my parents are always yelling, arguing and fighting with one another and i read the title of a newspaper article that said the kind of environment that parents create for their children by yelling and arguing with each other but i never got to actually read the full article to find out what kind of environment parents create for their kids or children

I am in a LDR with my bf of 6 months (NY/VA). My mom was fine at first but me possibly moving to be with him is causing a rift. She is not happy about it and we had a few arguments about it even though I made it clear is still too early to make a decision. My bf comes back to visit me whenever he can, and me just spending couple days with him away from my mom, she has a problem with (I am 30 years old). Saying I am too busy with him, forgetting about her, etc. She said I've changed since being with my bf. I don't see how, but any change, I feel like it has been for the better. I don't know how much longer I can keep arguing with my mom. We are talking and stuff, but I know in the back of her mind, she is still thinking about it, like I am. She has nothing against my bf. I think is more like the distance thing and me being with him, she feels like he is stealing me away from her. I have reassured my mom I would not stop caring for her even though I am in a relationship, but she still acts like this. I don't have doubts about being with him. We are very serious and love each other very much. He wants me to move in with him before getting married to know each other more. I told him I need at least a year before I decide, which he respects. He told me that eventually he would come back to NY since his parents are also here and they are getting old. But for now, he will stay in VA for his job, to build a stable ground for his future family. I don't see anything wrong with that.

She was always a little spoiled but not narcissistic until the past 15 years or so. War broke out in the last seven or eight years with her for reasons I won't post on here. One of the other aunts is consumed with bitterness over at my mother is obsessed with fixing it and my uncle will not speak to the narcissistic aunt. My grandmother who is still living tries to keep the narcissistic daughter calm. It is so similar to an alcoholic family I know. In that case one daughter split and cost her children to miss out and another daughter tried to fix the alcoholic father with the brother being in the middle and having a healthy balance. My other aunt who used to be really close to and used to be a lot of fun is now consumed with bitterness towards the narcissistic sister and feeling with their feared that the mother is on the narcissist side not hers. This all started with the conflict the two aunts had when their father was dying eight years ago. Lastly my father who is an in law does not want me speaking to the narcissist aunt and yet I'm 32 and should be able to do whatever I want. So my question is how do I stay calm when around the family with all this? It makes me very anxious. My mother's family used to be one of those families people were jealous their families were not more like. Now cause of this one aunt the whole family is a sick family like the term "Family Disease".

My mother was divorced and he is her brother. He would hold me under the water at his pool when I was being annoying as a kid. I now know I was ADHD and that was why I had so much energy. At the time I was convinced I was dying. I have avoided him now whenever I can. He was terrifying. He would name call his own children as did his wife. My mother never protected me from him, it was like waterboarding. I doubt I was under the water that long, I just remember the terror of knowing I would die and never see anyone again. I didn't know what would happen when I died or if I would hurt. It could have been 5 seconds under the water or 5 years for all I knew. I cannot get over this terror. Last night was another night terror with this Uncle Don in it. I saw him last in 2016 at a funeral for his brother, another uncle. Why do I still have these dreams of being drowned by this uncle? I am 52 now.

My Parents make me watch my sisters every single day without pay. I clean the house every day without pay. I make 3 meals for everyone every day, without pay. My sisters are old enough to take care of themselves now, but they still force me to watch them. My parents won't let me get a real job even though I'm 18. It feels like I OWN THE HOUSE. I do all the cleaning and I've been taking care of my sisters for so long (6 years to be exact) that they accidentally call me "MOM" sometimes..... What do I do lol? Any suggestions?

Hello, So I am a 24 yo college student, I have younger brother he's 22 he also in college he's in 4 semester (2 semester junior to me). We are home for summer. He was fine in college and suddenly when we are home (My parents are not home, they are out of country for a few weeks, My elder bother and my elder sister are home though) he is all angry and depressed walking around the house and playing games on my PC when my sister and I try to talk to him about whats wrong he doesn't say much but things like "Everyone of us must fight their own battles" kinda stuff. I have checked his phone and there seems to be nothing wrong there and his relations with his friends seem Ok. He is into this girl in college and their relation also seems Ok as well. There are are minor troubles (almost negligible) in the house and none of them should effect him. I think there are two possibilities in this scenario : - Either he enjoying the attention he is getting from me and my elder sister and he is try to get more attention by keeping up the same behavior but I'm just speculating. - There is actually something bugging him and he is not comfortable discussing it with me. What should I do? How can I help him?

So my gfs 30 year old brother stole my gfs debit card 4 or 5 times and spent $40 each time and took off with it to see some girl across state. My gf goes to school and works full time I cought him stealing money out of his moms purse 2 times. Im sure he comes tonthe house when everyone is at work too that im sure. i took his axe spray to show him how it feels when someone steals. Now im paranoid when anything comes up missing. Im getting cameras too for our room. Now my GF is looking at me like i am bad and mean for being paranoid.

I'm going through hard times right now I need time to get things in order I'm a really good mother but having hard times... my 2 year old daughter. Her dad is hard to co- parent with. He's on child support but he doesn't pay it. He always talking about his rights as her father etc. he feel that since he's on child support he's not responsible for everything else outside of child support but he's not pay it. I sent my daughter over for the weekend and asked him if she could stay for a few months he said no he had no one to watch her. I always have to find someone to watch her while I worked and he never helped with it. I told him I would help him find her a daycare, I will pay the daycare every week, I will give food and clothing whatever my daughter will need I will do it. He's basically saying I'm complaining about my responsibilities etc but I wouldn't be complaining if he would help with daycare arrangements and appointments he always say he doesn't have a way or money always what he doesn't have or can't do..I told him I will be back in a couple to contact me if anything my daughter needs money anything I'll go get it and that I will hit him up to check on our daughter he replied and told me don't hit him up at all.. I blocked him in return. What should I do? Go get my daughter and figure it out on my own? Let her stay? What should I do?

For example two upcoming weddings where I likely won't be asked cause of the families exclusion of my mother. While it is not personal against me, I miss out on being a part of the family and I cannot begin to describe how much that hurts. NOTE----I am not trolling, it is an ongoing problem which is why I continue to ask about it.

I'm a gay women; my parents found out about 2 years ago, 1 month into my current gf and I dating. My brother who was 14 at the time outed me. I told him and my sister cause I was trying to build the confidence to tell my parents and him being a stupid child told them when he got pissed off at me. My dad especially threw a huge fit and treated me like **** when they found out cause he wasn't told first. He had confronted me about a year or so before then, but I didn't feel comfortable telling him then because I was still unsure and he was being incredibly ignorant. I wanted to tell him first when I figured it out cause he asked me first, but I felt more comfortable telling my siblings cause I knew they wouldn't care. My dad accused me of putting a burden on my siblings then got mad cause he felt like he was being understanding and should have been told first. I told him that I appreciated that he talked to me, but that I was still scared to tell him. He didn't understand my perspective at all. It's been better since then, but he still is very ignorant and clearly treats me different than my straight siblings. My sister and her bf are given more support despite the fact that they're 20 and still barely adults. My parents were cool with them living together, but said it was a bad idea for my gf and I. My gf and I are 23, have been together the same amount of time as my sister and her bf, but are treated like the children. I don't know how to handle the obvious discrimination.

I was out late with the boys watching avengers endgame this is when the movie just dropped So we needed to go the latest time to get some good seats. I told my mom that I would be out late and that I might just stay the night at one of my friend's house but I said that I would text her if I was coming home and told that I would probably stay there I ended going home and I had forgotten to text my mom when I get home and I hear noises that concern me because they were that of groaning coming from my mothers room as a concerned son I check on my mother to find that my mother and my brother who was away for school having sex. As of right now my mother and my brother have no idea of what I saw and I have been contemplating what I should do for the past few months. this is a serious topic and it took me a long time to open up about but I think it is time I finally get some help with this problem I have been facing please take seriously as this took a lot of confidence to write

When I complain that they never clean, they say, "you don't see what I do." Uh...that's my point.

Mothers claim that the baby is theirs because they carry it for 9 months and then it comes out from them but in fact the father carries the baby before the mother and it comes out from him at first.

I keep hearing women complain men are selfish but then most women marry the men for money.

I have made years of effort with my father and step mother, always the one suggesting things to do, being in their company, etc. The only affection i have received is in the form of money, which feels more of a bribe of guilt to keep me happy. or mere attempts of affection, and promises of making more of an effort, I bring up what has been promised, or suggested only to be told "of course, we will soon" and then nothing, I'm 34 so i think personally i have let it slide for far too long, and just wanted clarity on what i already believe.

So I ve been thinking about moving out for awhile. I make 500-600 a week. I found an apartment where all the utilities are included and i can split the rent with my bf. My parents are totally against it but I m about to be 20. I still go to school and they pay for my car insurance and phone bill. If i move out, they warn me that they will cut me off of their plan for both insurance and phone bill. I also have two precious dogs with me. I know moving out with 2 dogs is a big responsibility but i feel like i was born ready. I did all my research and asked all the questions i needed to ask during the apartment tour so then there is no surprise fees. I am big family person so it hurts knowing that they will cut ties with me. Even though it s sad, it s something i know i must do because it s hard to live in this household anyways. It s hard just to breathe in this family without being judge. I just don t want to live in agony anymore but i hate the idea of cutting ties with my parents.

Had a little mini reunion with just the three of us. It has been many years since school. One of the lady's husbands passed away tragically a few years ago. She is also very needy. We invited her out but she did not show up nor let us know she was not coming. She then said something about having to take her daughters out shopping...but this is after we contacted her first. What do you make of her and this situation?

long story short my mom is going to put my dad on child support and I don t think there is a reason to at all to be honest and I don t think he should be put on it. I m 18 and going off to college and my sister is 16 and once again I think he s helping us and all that just fine. Is there a way, supposing my mother puts him on child support, for me to stop it. I just wanna help him out because he really does all he can for us.

I'm a 14 year old girl with a big family. The problem is my autistic cousin, who doesnt get why you're not supposed to ask personal questions. He keeps pestering our 23 year old family friend about when she's gonna have a baby. She doesn't seem to be planning it anytime soon. Besides she already told him that she's a college student living with mom so its not gonna happen now.He proceeds to talk about how this kid at school told him that most grown ups have sex. In a family get-together!!! We're not allowed to be loud because he throws tantrums whenever its loud. Theres tons of other things like, being really overfriendly to strangers (its creepy), mumbling , and if something bothers him he'll have a HUGE meltdown. Once I ran into a group of people from school and they asked "oh that's your cousin?" While he was doing something really strange. Sometimes he moves in a way that makes people stare. Its just that there's so many things that make people feel uncomfortable and i wish he wouldn't do these things

He is 20 and currently living in my house. He just got off work earlier today and I started off by asking him how his day went. I asked him if he got a break to which he said yes and I proceeded to ask him what he ate/drank for that whole day and he said he didn't remember, so I questioned why he went the whole day without water or food and he told me he did think he had water. So I asked how many breaks he got and he told me he didn't really feel like answering more questions about what happened at work. This made me upset because it felt like he was just dismissing me and he tried to tell me that he just didn't feel comfortable, discussing it with me. But I'm his grandmother, I have a right to know this and not be disrespected.

I had just got done with volunteering for something and my parents picked me up. They asked me what I wanted to eat or if I'd rather eat at home Etc. I said sure, that I'd eat out and asked what was near by. We were already driving and my dad got mad and practically started yelling asking what I want. So finally, I said Burger King. And he got all pissy saying he had just pasted a turn to go to Burger King and that's why I should've said something earlier (When I clearly stated I was asking what's close by so we didn't have to go out of our way). So then I said it's fine and that I'd pick something else then. And he snapped for no reason saying, "YOURE GONNA EAT BURGER KING." Etc etc. Keep in mind, when I got in the car I wasn't being rude or anything. He just randomly snapped and I was just trying to be considerate. Why do people get so angry over little stupid things like this? I want to understand it.

I let the girls hang out over the summer. What I'm noticing is that my daughter is losing interest in her own peer group. She's still friends with them but they're less close now. Senior year hasn't even started yet - school doesn't start until Sept 3rd for kids in our city. I don't want her to miss out on her final year of high school. The woman seemingly discourages high school-like behaviours and interests. My daughter feels the pressure to be mature in order to maintain the friendship. Some of that pressure is good, however (such as letting go of teenage girl drama, for example). But others, not so much because they're making her miss out.

Everything in my life right now is so wrong.

My Mom's long term on and off again boyfriend. I've known him since my teens I'm 38. I always treat him kinda like a step dad. He's always helped us out with little things. He's a very nice goofy person, likes to talk and laugh. He would always call from time to time, and leave funny messages, like girl answer that phone! Or you better leave that sorry man I'm on my way to beat him up (my terrible ex) But lately like the last month he's been calling like at least twice a day, sometimes more! About a month again I returned his call, just normal chit chat. A couple days later I returned another call, he said can you keep a secret, I said yes, thinking he was about to confess about drug use, bc it's suspected, he tells me he's addicted to oral sex.. I was soo weirded out 🤢!! It's like when you realize the friendly OLD man you speak to everyday and look at like a grand dad actually wants to date you, very awkward! I blocked his number and its still blocked but he still leaves dozens of messages! My mom only calls once a day! She sees him everyday. I dont know if he even calls his daughter that much! And actually I really would rather not even talk to him now. But he's on my weird list now. What do you make of this? And should I mention it to my mom?

I have a 30 yr old daughter who is on and off. For the past 5 years she has decided she doesn't like something or other that I say or do. It is very hurtful. The first time it was a year before she came around. It seems like this is something she does to me quite often now. Recently she gave birth to a beautiful little girl. She called, texted and came over quite often. All of the sudden she dropped off the face of the earth AGAIN!!!! No phone calls or texts! Dead silence. My husband and I are extremely hurt now she is keeping the baby from us. Wondering how do I deal with this? I now don't trust her as far as I can throw her! When will she pull this again? Please help! Soooo sad

So my parents divorced when I was 10..it was hard for me because whereas I saw my friends parents being all lovey dovey to each other, call each other "honey" and stuff my parents never did that. Sometimes I would spend a beautiful sunday with a friend of mine and his parents who would walk holding hands only to come back at home to see my mom and dad yelling at each other..growing up I never went to a real date,never had a gf..I noticed that many times the friends I had who had happily married parents were successful with girls whereas the ones who had broken families were more like me with girls..Now I'm 24. I don't have a gf,I can't talk to girl. Not that I'm super shy or something,it's more like they're never interested in me. Do you think what happened in my family may have something to do with my situation?