I was sexually abused by my father as a little girl. It came out what he was doing but my mother didn't leave him. Now years later I still have triggers and things I deal with because of it. I was feeling bad and recently wanted to talk about it with my mother on the phone. BIG argument ensued. Now not speaking. She said I cannot ever bring it up to her again and that it's in the past. It's bad enough she didn't leave him then, but now she won't talk to me again if I bring it up. She still is married to him. My abuse happened in New York state and now the law is that you can hold your predator accountable no matter how long ago it happened. I was so happy to hear that but know I could never do that to my parents. I'm not asking to do something like that. All I'm asking is for her to be a mother to me.

I'm an adult living on my own but obviously if it's my mother I'm going to bump into her sometimes if I want to relationship for the rest of my family.

I am 20/male. 3 years ago, my mom met some guy online who turned out to be a con artist, but she just couldn't see the red flags: He's a widower (2 daughters), but my mom & I never met them or any of his family, nor spoke to them on the phone. He's a lawyer & college professor, but was home everyday when I came from school, and would drive my mom's car to the bus stop every evening to pick her up from work. He moved in w/us less than a month after I met him, & proposed to her I don't know how long she knew him before he first brought her home to meet me. He belittled me as soon as I told him I don't have a job. My mom allowed him to accompany her to my therapy session I was attending for my depression. He told the therapist in belittling manner that I never had a job. The therapist nicely disagreed, since I'm only 17 (common age to never have worked). My mom just sat there while he talked about me like I'm scum. 5. Even though I was almost 18 & graduating, not only did he talk to me like he controls my life and will spank me if I get out of line, but said he's adopting me and that my last name will be changed to his, as well as on my diploma. My mom eventually hired a private investigator to follow him around, as she became suspicious. Now, he's out of our lives. But I still get flashbacks of how he brainwashed my mom to the point of his opinion meaning more than mine, as well as violating family confidentiality by letting a stranger attend my session.

Let's say the 17-year-old is depressed and has been seeing a therapist. His mother allows her fiancé to accompany she and her son to his session. During the psycho analysis, her fiancé belittles him to the shrink, saying things like "This man has never had a job in his life," even though her son is in school and graduation is nearing. So he's not sitting around doing nothing. But all of a sudden, now that this man has entered his mom's life, the son is suddenly a terrible person who her fiancé feels the need to belittle to a shrink, when he shouldn't have been there in the first place. Of course, the mom is oblivious to all this and lets her fiancé make the rules. Obviously, he's a con artist who's brainwashing her. Did he have no right to be with his fiancé and her son at the son's therapy session? That is a "family only" thing, and apparently now that his mom's engaged, she thinks of that man as family even though she and her son have only known him for a month.

Hello, my husband s older sister is pregnant with her first child and I know she is very happy because she has had 2 miscarriage already, but I m worried this will cause a lot of drama too. Her boyfriend is not a very good guy and her parents don t really like him and even though he is not abusive or anything he still isn t a "great" guy. Not just because they are not married they also have NO money for anything. They live in a trailer with NO running water or electricity. I truly am concerned for this new child because I know my In-laws won t want their grandchild living in that type of environment. This woman is always broke and asking my husband s family for money and now with a new baby I m sure she will be even more broke. I just don t know what to do i don t want to be around any of this drama. Does anyone have any advice or gone through something similar? One of my other sister n laws already has 4 kids an she is always asking for money too because she is always broke too and i hate that the same thing could happen with this situation. Thanks and God Bless.

Basically my family lives in a cramped 2 bedroom condo. I have to share a room with my 12 year old brother. We are roommates. Last night, he was doing it in his bed when he thought I was asleep even though i wasn't. I pretend not to notice but it was super awkward.

At home my mom would leave me be giving me my space and privacy. However, she would still talk to me too she never ignored me Now that i live on my own my mom texts me daily sends me video chats and stuff. Never had i had a free day without her texting me 24/7. She knew when my work breaks are so my phone would blow up for the whole 30 minutes every day with messages from her. Im not mad but is this normal? My fiancés mom doesnt text him or call him daily. By the way my phone was blowing up with messages from her whike typing this post...

I was born and raised in an all white community. Unfortunately, many of the people who live here are racist to some degree. A new family just moved into town, and they are not white. The family has been subjected to some pretty nasty remarks and behavior from the locals. I told my mother that I was outraged and ashamed of the community. My mother said, "I agree that people shouldn't bother them, but they knew when they moved here that this was an all white community, and that it was probably inevitable that this would happen, so it's hard for me to feel sorry for them. They knew it would cause trouble if they moved here." I told my mother that her ridiculous mentality was exactly the same as the other people who had been harassing the new family, and that it was the attitudes of people like her that perpetuate the endless cycle of hatred and racism. Mom got pretty upset and denied being a racist. I told her that what she was doing was worse, because she was sympathetic and tolerant to the deplorable, racist behavior in the community. She is my mom, and I love her, so I hate having such heated disagreements with her. I usually just apologize, and move past it, but I just don't think I can apologize or take the blame for this one, because everything she said goes against my conscience and morals, and I also feel I have to set an example for my children. Any advice on how to make peace with my mother without compromising my morals?

It this abnormal? Last week I saw his privates because he accidentally forgot to close the door when using the bathroom. I keep on trying to act like it was nothing but I still can't get the image out of my head especially when I see him. It's really annoying :[ I'm 15 and he's 17.

Almost everyone I know complains constantly I know it may sound like I am now but I'm asking for help because I am ready to snap at all of them and one of them is my mom. They will complain about the smallest things I spent less time with my mom but it doesn't help because we take the dog for a walk she complains I go out to the kitchen to get food she complains it's always about something. When I spend less time with her I noticed that she will use one of the neighbors her friend to vent to yet I caught my mom complaining about them. I ignore most of it but it doesn't make her reduce the complaining I also have a friend I talk to time to time they are the same way. I will be honest I used to complain with my mom sometimes but I noticed how draining it was so I stopped so maybe that's why it's making me wanting to snap so badly and maybe it's driving her a bit crazy I don't really anymore.

my sister gets her free munny from da gubbamint but i dont get none. she even gets her free aparment to live an her bills payed

I'm 27 years old and I only usually stay at jobs for a few days. One job I stayed at for a month. I was abused as a child and at 18 I left with a 46 year old to have some kind of freedom who didn't let me work but I did work as a teen a little. I ended up getting on ssi for severe depression. I've been on ssi for 8 years. I am well enough to work and the depression was due to him. I'm having a problem staying at jobs. I go and then quit after a few days. I've just started working as of last year and I've worked too many places to count. Not sure what to do. My parents never put a work ethic into me, I was extremely held back. My mom encourages me not to go to jobs, she claims she's worried something will happen to me. I really want to work, I don't know what to do or what's wrong with me. Advice anyone? I feel like such a failure.

My dad, but he just ignores her. At this point I feel really bad for my mom and i want to tell her to just move on at this point but i know thats bad cause hes my dad and her husband. What can or what should i do as a son? Some may say not to get involved because its not my buisness.

Hey guys, I'm 16, a month ago came in US. Never dreamt about US, just had to try. I started dating a gf 9 month ago, we really do well, and i see her purely loving me. Just after i found out I won, i began really hating it. I had probably one the biggest depression I've ever had. I didn't want to go here At all. My parent literally made me go there, to try at least. Right now my girlfriend is crying every night, hiding it not to make me really upset. She wants me to come but never asked me, and doesn't want me to come only coz of her. I know, that sounds bad, like a typical teenager, can't deny that. Right now i think about going home actually every day. I promised myself to go here, to try to adapt, learn about culture and school and i did it. I have lots of friends here, i always hang out and I go really well with my host parents. Although everything should be fine, i really feel like my heart is back home. I won't say that i feel too homesickness, i can deal with it, i just feel miserable and believe that i have to do what really makes me happy and what I really want. Moreover, i have to work and practice in my future job(IoT), prepare to my exams with my tutors to enter an university(btw, I'll live with my gf there), and here I won't do that coz the level is too low and really don't have time for that. I've talked a lot with my parents, friends. My parents will support my every decision, but I'm kinda dependent on others' opinion, so it's really important to hear that

My dad was visiting for a few days and I walked into the bathroom where he was snorting a line of white powder on sink. So I confronted him and he reveled that it was meth and he has been doing it daily since he was 20. I am dumbfounded, he is retired now but was a very successful business owner and electronic engineer who built elaborate equipment for NASA and numerous other Government aerospace company's. Is this possible? Can someone do meth for 50 years and be successful? Why did'nt he have symptoms that I would recognize a problem. Is he lying?

My brother is 21 years old, I am 18. I live with my mom, dad and two sisters and my brother. My brother has autism. Growing up, he was always kind. When he got an Xbox for Christmas he became obsessed with video games and that is all he does now, we only ever see him when he gets food. He is into violent video games, and he loses his temper all the time. He is not nice to anybody unless he wants something. The last few years, I haven't felt safe in my home with him and I can't afford to move away. He is very spoiled and if he doesn't get his way, he will resort to violence until he gets what he wants. My mom tried to fix this a while ago by taking away his Xbox. I remember hearing her scream for help in our basement at night so I ran downstairs and he was choking her and hitting her until she let go of the xbox device. She wouldn't let go, and he wouldn't stop choking her. I tried to help her by hitting him and yelling at him but he is fairly bigger than me and would not let go of her all while screaming vulgar things at me. My mother has scars from him digging his nails into her skin in attempt to make her let go. My brother is 6'4 and he is overweight, so he is fairly big. My dad came downstairs and threw him off of her. My brother screams at me and my sisters daily, and every time we try to go to our parents about it, they defend him saying it is his disorder. He has threatened to kill me 3 times now, he even held a knife up to my face threatening to stab me.

I try to avoid going as much as humanly possible but I am sure at some time I will have to go. My parents pick on me for having the village of friends and family I do and so I have no respect for their friends as a result except the ones I know well. At the beach I do not know their friends very well other then two who I am not fond of. One is a political nut who worked hard to get my Mom and her brother's wife into a fight and the other one slept with my Mom's sister's (my aunt)'s ex-husband while he and my aunt were still married (though separated) back in 2003. The other friends they have down there I do not know or have only met in passing. My parents don't like my village of friends cause they have had feuds with a few of them's families and use me and my life to get people back. This all hurts me and it is why I dislike anyone affiliated with my parents who is not a friend or family of mine. My two siblings friends' I don't mind though my sister herself I avoid when I can. My brother I like.

Honestly, I predicted that she'd get over the drama once she finished her tween/early teenage years. My daughter did mature and become more focused on academics, but teenage drama still plays a big role in her life. She's a junior who will become a senior in 2 weeks. I don't know how the final year will go but I want her to enjoy school while it lasts. She and her friends are a little too old to still be in that developmental stage where young girls pick fights all the time.

and She would say you have no one but her to talk to and these people out don't give a dame!!! Rather you live or die! And my brother has been around nothing but men and boys and goes out with them and they pick him up to hang out and he has never in my life had a girlfriend! And a girl that did like him once he said she was nothing but when it comes to men they are everything!!!! And he would talk down to me and my sister to our faces and be hide our backs saying we aren't **** and more and sometime fright in front of our mother face as well and talk back to her to and talks very!!!!Badly!!!!!! About women in general!!! Saying how a women is **** and nasty and how they have nothing going for them self's and so on. And my other brother just comes by by the house and sometimes and leave right away because he knows our brother is a manipulative person and I feel like my mother likes that in some way?

There has been a lack of Communication for years in my household growing up! My mom doesn't listen to whatever I or my sister has to say my older sister now "Deceased" would have to come to me! just to have someone to talk to because our mother didn't what to listen to her and she would smile at her while she was trying to talk to our mother she would even try and speed talk over her at the same time while she was talking and basically at the same with me and also, When it comes to our older brothers she listen to them and she's just normal with them. She doesn't talk over them while they are talking with her at all and she lets them talk every time but like I was saying!! to me it's been disrespectful and bias and my mom has told me not to get Married and to not have a career growing up because she said I would mess the whole household up and as a kid growing up it can stick with you a little if you don't talk to someone about it and my mom would brag about my brothers over me and my sister and talk about how other peoples kids are good in whatever they do but not too much about my sister or me.

me with a kitchen knife.He made me eat to make me fat.

Is Kind of weird but I'm 25 and 5'9"and usually hang around some younger guys around 18 year olders from my neighborhood, Since some weeks one of them started bringing this 6'5",15 year old kid who is absolutely crazy, he started the physical treaths since day one lying and saying I was going around saying that I protected him, when I never met him just to instigate some sort of confrontation, We have this place when we hang out which is just some fire exit with some chairs, He came close to me to see what I would do and started grabbing me I hold him back and when he saw that I reacted the next day I was reading my phone and he came didn't look at him, next I know I have a butterfly knife an inch or so away from my face, he also spat on my arm once, stole my cigarettes and forced me to drink from a beer can with cigarette butts on it otherwise he would stab me, so I had to run away, I'm really angry but powerless because he is a minor but I ain't willing to take the disrecpt and abuse forever, how do I end this quickly? Thanks.

I currently care for a family of two children at the moment. I've been with them since the beginning of the year and I recently got offered this great opportunity to travel with a family of 3 out of the country for a week. This would be a one time thing it would not replace the family I care for now. However I feel guilty about it, I don't know if it's wrong for me to take it? My question is if I should take the job? Also if I should how do I tell the family that I'm with now? I don't want them to get angry with me or annoyed with me (they're very awesome and understanding.) but still I feel bad. Please share your opinion on what you think I should do!

Here is some background information: my mom just recently passed away about a month ago from cancer, my dad was very distraught during the last few months of my mom s (his wife) life. He drank so much that he went to the hospital for low hemoglobin because he wasn t consuming anything except for liquor. My dad has always been a heavy drinker but never have i had to actually deal with his drinking; my mom always has. Since my mom has passed, my sister and i first took his car keys away to prevent him from buying booze. Most recently we ve had to suspend his phone because he was constantly pestering our friends and neighbors to drive him to the store to buy booze. Now he just seems depressed, he complains that he is a prisoner in his own house. Should my sister and i allow him to endanger himself by drinking his life away or should we continue to hide his keys and keep his phone suspended to keep him from drinking? Is life even worth living if youre just basically on house arrest? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

My mother was a passive aggressive narcissist.

My mother went over to have my nieces and nephew do their knock - knock jokes while my Mom;s friends were with her. My sister-in-law got mad cause she had been trying to get the kids in bed and my mother went by totally unannounced (like usual). My brother and Dad were out of town as was I on the same trip. So that was in June on Father's Day Weekend and my Mom and sister-in-law have not spoken since. Here we are in the last few weeks of summer and it is still going on. My Dad and brother are trying to get favors out of it playing one wife against the other but I refuse to participate. The tension is terrible the two times Mom and brother's wife have been in the same room. I dread the holidays this year already. In my sister-in-laws defense my mother is ALWAYS criticizing her cleaning and cooking in a passive aggressive way. Meanwhile my sister in law humiliated my Mom I hear in front of her friends instead of waiting to talk about it later. My brother says she was on her period but he blames that on everything (as does she). So I am single, I don't like the tension and live with Mom and Dad. What do I do to heal this family?

I have heard of bad kids becoming good people but my sister is a bad adult.

I am a 25 y/o man who was raised by my mom alone, so I think she lowered her standards regarding men, which is probably why she's nonchalant about her boyfriend's disgusting behavior: 1. While the 3 of us had dinner at her mom's house, he expressed how much he hates when he and my mom are cuddling in bed & she has to get up for work. He said, in front of my grandma and I, that he says to my mom in the morning, "Nooo, stay with Daddy." 2. In front of my mom, he did a stroking (masturbation) gesture while saying "You need to get a girlfriend. You can't just be doing THIS all the time" after he asked me if I have a girlfriend & I told him I don't. 3. He recklessly mentioned my mom's anatomy ("I would kill any man that touched your mother's titty") after hearing on the news about a neighborhood groper. 4. While the 3 of us watched a movie, he took off my mom's sock & started kissing it, until my mom saw my disgusted look. She didn't even sound mad at him, but instead calmly said to stop. 5. He watched a porn movie in the living room while my mom and I were in the house, like it's a family film. 6. She typed up his résumé & sent him on interviews, but he got fired from every job, or quit. So she lets him stay home. My grandma doesn't like him either. My extended family loves him, and looks at me as a spoiled brat who only cares about himself, since my mom told them how mean I am to him WITHOUT admitting his behavior & that he lives off her, since she's probably ashamed.

Ok so in track I ve been running the 800m bit my parents want me to try the 1500m. Is it okay to not want to do other races?