I'm 30, been together for 4.5 years and live together. Told him at the beginning of the year I want to get engaged by the end of the year (don't think he took me seriously) We are planning a trip to Japan in September where I hinted would be a good time To do it and he hasn't even suggested trying on rings (he knows I want to choose the right style ect.) The other day we were in the city and was looking in the window of a ring shop and i suggested we go inside to look and he was very reluctant for me to try them on. We ended up going in because he could see I was upset. The one I tried on was $11k and he said it was too expensive, I did agree because that is a lot of money but he doesn't say anything about looking at a cheaper one. Just seemed very close minded about it. For me it's not about the fancy ring or wedding it's about committing to each other and starting a family In the future. And I don't know how the future is looking ? He has never said to me 'he can't wait to have kids' or seems excited about that What should I do??

My husband and I recently got married and my husband has always been one to ejaculate quickly the first round, but we used to get back into it after with a bit of foreplay and such. But lately he has been very selfish. He wants sex when he wants it and finds ways around it when I want it. And when we both want it, we have sex for maybe 2 minutes and he ejaculates and then cleans up and puts his clothes back on and I am left dissatisfied. I spoke to him about this so now after he ejaculates, he cleans up, puts his clothes on and passes me my vibrator or uses it on me until I orgasm, and then that s it. There is no heat anymore. I even tried dressing up in sexy lingerie and he still didn t want to have more sex. I know I sound selfish, but am I the only one who sees this as a problem. Also, he jerks off at work very frequently, so when he is home, he doesn t want to do anything. I just dont know what to do. I ve spoken to him about this and all he does and says a half *** sorry and then goes on to say I am being dramatic. I need help with this. Someone please.

This is NOT a situation where I am wanting what I can't have. I just got out of a toxic and draining relationship of 5 years. Even though I just now physically broke up with him mentally I've been checked out for years. We exhausted everything inside of us to make it work but it just wasn't happening. I was at the point where I just started to feel numb and today I made the decision that this just can't go on any longer. Rewind to a couple of weeks ago- I message my guy friend that I've been friends with 10 years and reconnect with him. It's been years since I had talked with him. It was partially my fault because I was too wrapped up in a toxic relationship to keep in touch with him. I was also going through a lot of other stuff during that time period so I sort of drifted away from him and a lot of my other friends. ANYWAYS, He replies to my message and we start talking from night until the sun comes up and then this leads to us talking for weeks on end. When I messaged him he literally had just got dumped by his girlfriend who he said was extremely selfish/inconsiderate/lacked compassion. We spent the majority of our time talking about his toxic ex and my toxic boyfriend. We also talked about a lot of other things and I got to know more about his childhood. We realized that we had a LOT more in common than we thought. We had a crazy connection that led me to thinking I had been with the wrong person the past 5 years. He has an amazing job, he's kind, he's pure-hearted, he is also extremely attractive. he has multiple degrees, owns his own buisness, he's smart, funny, laid back, and listens. now someone is going to ask me why I didn't ask him out sooner. It's because 1. I was stupidly trying to chase bad guys. I was young and stupid and couldn't see what was right in front of me. I literally was hopping from one toxic relationship to the next. and 2.. I only really saw him as a friend back then. I mean we were like 17 when we first met, we were babies. heard his voice and the way he talked for the first time in years and I was just mesmerized by his mind, he has grown to be extremely articulate and well spoken. Also, I am physically attracted to him now I sent him a message about a recent picture he put and was like " wow you really became something over the years dangggggg i guess being a gym rat paid off. you look muscle-y as hell. keep doing what youre doing because is the best you ever looked. and, that voice of yours makes me wanna faint. now wheres my compliment, gas me up. he was like ": you are very attractive extremely beautiful inside and out, captivating eyes, oh so sexy lips, beautiful smile. you're electric so i know you don't need to be gassed up. " I was like " aw thanks friend. you're the sweetest person ever. love you friend." and he was like "it really is all true though. I love you too. He IS a good guy, he was even hesistant to say I love you back because he wanted to make sure he was being a good guy, He was like " you know how girls are about the L word. I have to make sure i'm being a good guy."

lets say for example the husband is 21 but the wife is 19. is it illegal for the husband to provide alcohol to his 19 year old wife?

When I met my wife, we seemed to share many of the same goals and dreams as each other. But after we got married she completely changed. I realized she was only telling me things I wanted to hear so that I would put a ring on her finger. I am not the type of husband who expects my wife to cook and clean, stay home all day, and cater to my every need. I have tried so hard to be a good husband. I pay all the bills, i got her a brand new $20,000 car in 2017, yet I drive a used car that is over 10 years old. I work every single day including the weekends. I havent had a day off in as long as I can remember. I put in 8-12 hours days. When I come home each day my wife has a sink fool of dishes waiting for me. If I do not cook for her and my daughter, she feeds my daughter canned processed foods that are very unhealthy. Her version of cooking involves opening a can and heating food in a microwave, she doesnt even heat stuff up on the stove. After I have finished cooking, I have to clear the table and do all the dishes while my wife sits on Whats App talking to her friends and cousins. My wife frequently goes out of town to visit her parents because they are old and dying. When she is gone, she doesnt respond to my text messages for 12 hours or more. Sometimes she goes a full 48 hours before she even responds to my messages. She takes my daughter with her and I miss my daugher and would like at least to video with them to say good night every day.

So my husband and I have been married 2.5 years. Since then, hes held about 6 different jobs. We bought a house in his name a year ago, as he was the one bringing in the income while I'm a full time art student. He was a custodian for a year after having about 4 other jobs within the span of a year that he quit for various excuses. He loved the job, but started complaining about stupid co-workers, and got a job at a YMCA kids camp instead, as of less than a month ago. He LOVES his co-workers, employers, and working with kids is great. He even has been telling me he's thinking he'd like to make a lifelong career of the job. Yet, here he is less than a month in and he's saying he wants to move on to something that requires an education to make more money. He's used this line many times when job switching and has even tried doing school 2 of those times, but quit school, as he claims he hates taking classes. Well now today he's called at work saying his job is making his back hurt so he should start looking for a new job. This worries me, as it's the same type of line he's pulled everytime he quits his jobs. We are in the process of becoming foster parents, and I've been so excited about this new chapter, feeling his new job is going to be for long term, but now it seems fostering won't even work out with his inconsistent work habits.. WHAT DO I DO??

I'm in a long-term, serious & committed relationship with a man that I want to marry. Our relationship is overall great; we get along really well and respect each other. We laugh together all the time but know when to be serious too! Thankfully we do not fight or disagree often because we get along really well but when it comes to communication, I think we can both improve. For me personally, I struggle with speaking up when something bothers me because I'm afraid to come off as needy or upset my partner, so I deal with it on my own. For him, he struggles to communicate his feelings. I want our communication to be as healthy, open, and honest as possible so I came here for your advice and tips! Thanks in advance!

I'm wondering if my wife values our sex life as much as I do? We are a young couple both 26yrs old and parents to two babies under two. We've only been married for 3 yrs. when we first got married of course we had sex pretty often, i'd say abt 4times a week. We got pregnant 2 months later lol and our second came 22months after our first. Our world has changed haha. But I always do my best to contribute at the home. I come home and essentially take over after getting in from work so she can rest, shower, and have a break. She is an excellent mother and wife, I love her with everything in me! But lately I feel that we are going thru the motions and that desire is not there for her. I know she has a lot on her mind and being a stay at home mom is the hardest job on the planet. But am I not doing enough to relieve her? Does she not desire me anymore? The only time we have sex is if I bring this topic up and express our disconnect. It's not uncommon for us to have sex once a month these days. This past weekend I really wanted to be intimate and surprised her with food, did extra chores, and tried to initiate it. She said she was tired, but each night she was up til 3am on her phone. I don't wanna feel like I'm earning sex, I want us to have a sexual bond and relationship. Help?

My daughter is 26 and just recently moved back in (temporarily,) because she has been going through a dark depression episode and attempted to end her own life back in June 2019. She quit her job as an ICU nurse, she has had this job since she was 22. Anyway my husband is her stepfather, and is really mad at me for letting her move back into the house. He is saying that she needs to grow up and that we will not always be around for her to fall back on. His stance is making ME upset because I would rather my daughter come home for a little while until she can find some clarity instead of ending up dead. It's not like she is some lazy entitled adult child that refuses to grow up and is always mooching off of us... so I do not know why he is making her out to be so. What should I do?

She's also leaving the house in cute tops and is often braless. She never needed to look so sexy before. I have asked her about it. She says she's going out with girlfriends, and that I should be happy that her pubic hair is gone, because it looks better. I can't argue with her on that.

She is like Borderline Personality where she is on again and off again with people. A good person with a hard childhood. She's not the most forgiving person though at all. We knew her family also and I suspect will not anymore.

I'm not perfect but my wife expects me to be. Whenever I make a mistake she uses this mistake as leverage to get her what she wants. She'll remember multiple mistakes and pile them up until finally I feel like I "owe" this to her and it forces me to do something against my will. She's not the only one who does this, my oldest daughter does this too. Both of them experienced traumatic things in their life when they were a gradeschooler (my oldest daughter is adopted so the trauma had nothing to do with me) so they both know that manipulating a person with a big heart is a way to get your needs met. Sadly, my heart is too damn big so they get me all the time. How do I teach myself to not be so caring and easily manipulated by these two women?

I saw someone here saying so.

Up to 90 percent of husbands never find out that their wife is having sex with other guys. Guys aren't as good about being sneaky, so a good percentage of wives will find out. There are quite a few articles online giving large percentages. I found this on with a quick search. https://www.marieclaire.com.au/cheating-reasons-why-laura-mucha

When I was a kid my parents got divorced. I felt envious of other kids that had their parents together. I felt very frustated. So I promised to myself that when I grew up if I ever got married I would never let my marriage fall apart. I felt divorce like dying. I'm going to get married but I feel very anxious... What if I get married and have children and then there comes a divorce? I feel I would prefer to die rather than getting a divorce. What can I do to overcome these feelings?

Shave her pubic hair off, she will say that is disgusting. Given that keeping the hair is more comfortable and you don't have to deal with ingrown hairs, I have a hard time believing that this has anything to do with comfort. Has porn culture influenced women so much that it dictates that they remove all their pubic hair? And if everyone is doing the same thing, why do so many women chalk it up to personal choice?

I'm 29, been together for 4.5 years and live together. Told him at the beginning of the year I want to get engaged by the end of the year(don't think he took me seriously) We are planning a trip to Japan in September where I hinted would be a good time To do it and he hasn't even suggested trying on rings (he knows I want to choose the right style ect.) The other day we were in the city and was looking in the window of a ring shop and i suggested we go inside to look and he was very reluctant for me to try them on. We ended up going in because he could see I was upset. The one I tried on was $11k and he said it was too expensive, I did agree because that is a lot of money but he doesn't say anything about looking at a cheaper one. Just seemed very close minded about it. He sent a photo of the ring to his family and all his mum said was hmmmmm. They weren't excited for us yet they keep asking when we will have kids. It scares me that this may be a dealbreaker ?? What should I do??

I have been with my partner/boyfriend for 12 years. We're not married, mostly because we're just so different. For the past 6 years, we live like roommates. Sex is completely dead. We continue to live in the same house peacefully because we don't want change, I guess. We're used to hanging out, taking care of house chores, or dining out a couple of times a week, oh with his sister and her daughter. We talk food, movie, and joke about big things like politics and anything superficial. Sometimes though, I mean every single time, when I'm sad, surprised or bothered by certain event, he would be annoyed and brush me off like I talk non sense. For example, a news about a teenage boy got accidentally trapped in his own mini van and died. Since I have a teenage son, the feeling was so close to home. I went to his room (yah, we live in different rooms for all the past 6 years) to try to talk about the news. Before I was done talking, he interrupted me saying that's someone else and it's none of our business. Things like that happens every other day. Lately I noticed I'm really not sure about myself. I doubt all things I wanted to say so I ended up not say much. My personality is changing.... Feels so lost and lonely.

So, my boyfriend and I bought a house together a couple months back and have blended our families. Since that point everything has kind of changed. I guess because I stay at home with the children and work from home and he works out in the world and we both have our own set of issues and stresses. But everything I say, or every suggestion I make towards something like the way to do something he immediately shuts it down and will not even take into consideration that I could be right. And just today, he finally fessed up about giving the mother of his children (druggie, homeless, and living with his mom) the custodianship of the children. Without even talking to me about it as well as lying every time we've talked about it in the past. He was custodial parent per court orders and I have been taking care of them for a long time. Anyway, when I was outwardly upset and distraught with my facial expression and my voice as well as tears honestly. He became angry at me for being upset. To make matters worse he proposed last night. What do I do? How do I speak to him on a level that he would understand that I don't appreciate him getting angry at me every time I am sad or upset.