I've been told for a long time--"marry your best friend". In my mind, I was thinking whoever my best guy friends were at the time, but none of them appealed to me like that (except one, but the timing was never right and then he passed away). It took a while for me to realize it means your significant other should be your best friend, as well as your life mate. I have this friend and I always found it weird that after almost 2 decades, him and his wife don't seem very IN love anymore, but they are best friends and make a great team when it comes to many things, especially raising their 3 kids. I think that's what matters. My boyfriend is my best friend and I look forward to one day marrying my best friend. Is the person you married, your best friend? Have you ever married your best friend and then the relationship didn't work out?

I'm 32 yrs old and never thought I'd experience abuse in a relationship I was in and never saw it in my home growing up. Like my parents I thought I'd still be married 42 years to the same person. I got married in '14, we had our son in '16 and I noticed that's when he would turn into dr. Jekyl Mr.Hyde and tried to throw a barstool at when I was 8 mnths pregnant, he ran me out of our then apt at 2:45 am and I luckily had my phone in my pajama bottoms pocket and had time to sweep up my keys and run out barefoot waddling down 3 flights of stairs and went to my parent's. He then began verbal, mental, emotional, and financially abusing me and threatening to kill my parents and setting rules for me to follow around our new house and would tell me our baby likes him better. He's not close to his own family so he said he didn't like the closeness of my family and our family gatherings and his only aunt that does live here in our city will have gatherings and would tell him I wasn't invited and he'd go anyway. I'm not sad that I'm no longer w/ him, I'm sad that I failed in my marriage and couldn't stay married like I always dreamed I'd be and have more than one child although he scared me from having anymore children b/c he triggered my severe postpartum anxiety. I have met a few guys, but not able to date until July when my divorce is finalized. I at times late at night find myself crying and from the hurt he put me through.

I was trying to get along with his parents and relatives but he calls me fake *** ***** whenever I try to say hi to his mom. He always calls me fake. I'm sick and tired of it. He calls me that because before me and his family didn't really get along due to them didn't really like me for their son, but now that we're married, they are trying to get along with me but my husband calls me fake *** *****.

I want my parents to movein with us here in USA and my inlaws to live with their daughter in india whose inlaws dont live with her. My inlaws are orthodox and want to live with their son ( my husband) only even though they have 2 daughters in india because in india living with daughters is frawned upon but living with son is completely normal. on other hand my parents don't have son and my elder sister have her inlaws living with her. my parents are older , having more heath issues and not having option to go anywhere else like his parents. My husband says both sets of parents can come and live with us or close to us which is unrealistic to me because my inlaws always taunted, insulted me when they visited us and i kept crying and my husband defended me only few times. In past too they have not been nice to my parents on multiple occasions. They will make my parents feel bad about living at their daughters house. in indian culture generally kids dont leave parents to live alone by themselves in old age. Also since our parents lived whole life in india they wont be able to and like to live here by themselves. I wont be able to care for my parents if they are not living with us as well.i cannot ask my parents to change their country and still not welcome them to live with us. I don't want to leave my husband as I truly love him and don't want to spoil my kids life but i cannot abondon my parents when they need me. Please help.

My late husband died over 35 years ago and I had him on a pedestal for many, many years for my children's sake..in the past couple of years I have been remembering very unhappy, very abusive things about him and realize how unhappy I was and how cruel he could be...how could I block that for so long? He died when we were both young, in our thirties

My husband doesn't buy gifts for me on special occasions like my birthday, our Anniversary, and Christmas. Last year was the first year he bought me a birthday gift bc I had to bring it up to him to buy me one since our daughter always asks why we always buy daddy gives but daddy never buys me any. Christmas this year he said he would buy me a rocking chair, I'm pregnant. He never picked it up and I never got it for Christmas. He kept saying he would get it, but never did. For his birthday, our Anniversary, etc I always buy or plan nice things for us or him. I always feel so awkward when my siblings always discuss what they get for special occasions and I always have to stretch the truth to say I got something when I didn't or my husband gets upset. Anyone else have a partner like this?

not easy to just leave. i have a narc mother who raised me and i care about who lives with me. An emotionally abusive spouse who i care for. and our girlfreind who i also carefor who is now having a lot of mental issues due to the abuse .. if it were not for her i woudln't of ever seen the abuse. i'm bi i guess never really been with a female solo in 3 somes yeah whatever. i'm a people pleaser and don't rank myself very high. even tho i know i can be at least average. if not more. how do i kick them all out of the house my spouse pays for? feel free to ask questions i'll respond in details for the next 10 minutes then tomorrow.

Should she contact her and warn her?

My wife has very severe OCD. I knew she had it when we got together but over the past year it has gotten unbearable. She is no longer able to function normally and she doesn't cook or clean anymore because she is terrified of germs. We both work full time jobs but mine is more physically demanding and I'm having to take on all the chores and cooking now. She tries to help but usually becomes mentally and physically exhausted in the middle. She says she will do certain things for me and then she will tell me she's sorry she can't do it because she's afraid. Sometimes she breaks down because she is scared to touch many things and she can't live like a normal person. She has to flip light switches several times before she can leave a room and the same thing goes for door locks. I was understanding and compassionate at first but now she is just getting on my nerves. She makes me wash my hands way too many times and gets mad if I dont wash them or do something how she thinks it should be done. Her doctor has prescribed her medicine but she's really bad about taking it every day so she will never get better if she keeps it up. I think I want a divorce now because I canr take it anymore. Does that make me a prick or is it understandable? She has almost committed suicide because of this disorder but I can't help her if she doesn't want to help herself

I'm currently unemployed since I had my baby and got to do child support. We're on Medicaid. Do I get all back or only a small portion?

How do you handle sexual frustration in marriage in a healthy way? Tired having an open communication with husband but doesn't help. I like him a lot but some recent problems have created a gap between us. Also I have put on weight. He is still very caring.. just that part frustrates me.

My husband and I have been married for 14 years and together for 18. We were both really young when we got together. I truly love him and he's my best friend. And I know he feels the same. We are both good people but, we are really different. He's a very passionate and sexual person and i'm totally not. I know I'm abnormal in that way, But it's how I've always been. I show him affection, but its never enough to meet his needs. He's unfulfilled sexually and I'm unfulfilled in almost every other capacity. He's admittantly lazy and non motivated. Everything falls on me. I'm exhausted from working a job, going to school, raising two kids, laundry, bills, cleaning, details, etc. Carrying the weight for 14 years has drained me and stripped any pleasure or joy in my life. I think that a separation would be the best thing for us. I want him to be happy and if being happy means not being with me, I'm willing to make that sacrifice. I want him to get out there in the world and see if another woman can make him happy, cause he deserves to be loved the way he wants to. While I'm not interested in seeking out another partner, I may end up happier myself. I don't think he'll ever make the step to separate so I feel like I should do it for us.

Ok, so my in-laws have been pretty nasty to me over the years. I won't go into too much detail here, but I've been told what to do way too many times, yelled at for no reason, made fun of, etc.. They have shown virtually zero support since my kids were born. Now though they demand to see the kids because they are entitled, but the relationship is beyond fixing. We were invited to 3-4 Christmas events and declined all of them but one. My husband asked if I want to go. I would hate to go. Should I do it for him? I know that I will be made fun of, ridiculed, told that I don't know nothing, etc. I feel like snapping and telling them what I really think, but I am way too polite and above that level. They just want to see me lose it. They have not achieved squat. One of them just sits at home and has mental problems now. The others work some low income jobs and hate the world. Any ideas on how to interact with such lovely bunch? Ignoring doesn't work - they keep following you and repeating the same thing. We have pretty much isolated ourselves from them over the past 6 years. Should I go or just ignore them again?

Hi everyone, Lately I've been feeling low about my life. I am 31 year old female. I want to get a career not just have a job. Then it hit me that everyone i know are married and is dating someone else. I feel like I should marry and date someone who is serious. My question is how can I ignore this feeling as if I have to get married. I know I want to get married and I will keep looking. My question is how to i get rid of this feeling of wanting to get marry

My best friend divorced in July after being with her husband for 16 years. She has a 6 month old infant with him. She met a man 12 years older than her who divorced in August. He was married for 18 years and has two teenage children. They were both the ones who were dumped in their relationships. They've been together since September, with not much time to process being dumped and their marriages ending. They are now engaged after 3 months. I'm worried about my friend's erratic behavior and jumping into another marriage. Is there anything I can say or do without hurting our friendship?

What is it called when two ladies who are sisters marry two men who are brothers? Meaning the sister of a woman would marry the person who happens to be the woman's husband's brother.

The guy did not rape her so it was both of them that made the mistake. They still are a couple 15 years later. I know someone else who did this and I forgive the husband, but the mistress I will forever think trash of. That one I do not know for sure happened. However, my Mom's cousin we know had one. So is it fair to forgive the family member but not the person they cheated with when both did the same thing? The man was thought to have taken advantage of a vulnerable woman feeling alone in her marriage but I do not know for sure what went on in the guys head.

I've seen married people with marriage rings on their fingers that are very small around their finger like they are about to lose their finger. I mean they must have gotten married at a very young age. If you plan to get married at a young age, would it be a good idea to get an oversize ring if you anticipate gaining weight when you get older so you don't lose your finger?

It used to be they wanted to grow up and get married and have a family now they have other ideas, is this crazy or what?