I'm 26 and he's 25. I'm done with my college education including grad school. He's just starting on his degree. I really want to get married and start a family. I want to have kids. I really do. We have a good relationship and he's very sweet and caring, but I fear that he's not wanting that since he's not financially stable. It will be years until he's financially able to get married. I really wanted to have kids in my 20s but I'm afraid it's not going to happen. He wants to get married, but it's not strictly due to my reasons. He wants me to help him with a green card. I understand he needs that to afford tuition at university and to legally work. He knows my family and they know him. We've been together for over a year now. I know his friends and they know me but I don't know his family at all. I just want to get married and settle down. I'm at that point and I feel it. What to do in this circumstance?

Don't want to get engaged anymore ? We have been dating for 5 months and he said he's fine to get engaged in may which makes our relationship 10 months. He now said he doesn't t feel comfortable. He's told me he'd be ok with getting engaged before moving out together but now wants to live together before getting engaged. What do you think about him?

My ex my baby moma filed with the county child support. They asked for my last 2 years of income and asked if I was currently employed which im not employed right now. Asked for my rent and if I currently pay child support from my other child which I do. The monthy total came back pretty low which I kinda figured. My ex was furious and denied the low monthly amount so she told them to have a judge decide. Well my question is will the judge make any changes to this? Im still unemployed. I was however giving her voluntary money to help with daycare about every month the best I could. What will the judge decide in your opinion? We were never married

I feel a little guilty. On some level, however, I feel like I should be able to have sex with other women, in some way, either open marriage or agreement or some other way, and not hurt my wife's feelings. It doesn't seem normal to me to have sex with one person for the rest of your life when you have this interest. And yet, I absolutely love and respect my wife. I find my wife attractive, but I find other women attractive too. I do NOT want to have an affair. I'm also concerned that people will think less of me or less of us as a couple if we did have an open marriage or an agreement or something. Thoughts?

Me and my wife have been together for 2 years. When we first started dating we were very loving and had sex often, if not every day, every other day. She always did little things to make me happy (like leave me notes, buy me gifts, and bring me lunch to work), as I did the same for her. Now, we've been together 2 years, and have a 7 month old daughter. Now, she never shows me any type of affection, she doesn't even tell me she loves me and acts like it's a chore to kiss me. We only have sex once or twice a month and it's really starting to get to me. I keep telling her I need more affection and more sex but she says she doesn't want to hear it. Now I'm left unhappy and I dot know if she isn't attracted to me anymore, doesn't love me, or if this is just normal after having kids. I'm lost.

If your husband (or wife) did these things to a much younger coworker, would you consider it cheating? - Repeatedly and conspicuously touches the younger coworker's bum, puts his hands on her leg; and touches/rubs her *lady part* over or under her pants - Grabs his own *man part* to show the younger coworker how hard he is - Told her she looked hot today; has nice eyes; and describes in detail how he would pleasure her (but hasn't actually done anything sexual with her except for grabbing her bum, etc) Is this cheating, or is it not considered cheating until he actually sleeps with her? I'm asking for your opinion because I'm sure the answers will vary! Curious to see what the majority of people say!

Keep in mind that mommy was engaging in foreplay leading to real sex with a man she had never seen before while her husband was not with her!!!

Hey everyone let me start by saying I am a 40 year old Mom with a 15 year old Son, me and my ex Husband got divorce years ago but now after my second boyfriend dumped me I been feel very depressed and bitter about my boyfriend dumping me, the divorce and I feel a little jealous of my ex husbands girlfriend I've been emotionally eating just to feel better. But since then I been addicted to my comfort eating that I been gaining weight to I'm now 225 pounds because of my stress and addiction. I want to stop eating and make my son proud of me again but I find it hard for me to stop eating when I'm stress, how can I stop in a more property matter.

I met this man last year and we became very close friends. I am 35 and he is 47, both married. At first he used to express that he likes the way I look and dress, then we discovered we had a lot in common and became really good friends (only!!). We meet often and discuss and enjoy each other's company, we text back and forth most of the time. Soon after we became friends, he told me he regretted marrying the wrong person but that divorce wasn't an option for him because there's too much at stake. I didn't think much of it back then and considered this as the kind of confession you make to a close friend. Last month, I told him I was divorcing. I needed some good advice and someone to listen, and being the good friend that he is, he did just that. But something has been bothering me and I need your input; shortly after I told him about my divorce, he said that he has always had a double life, always having an affair on the side, and just last week, told me the name of his actual girlfriend, who happens to be a divorced woman. I was shocked he made this confession without any sort of shame or guilt, I mean this is not sth to be proud of, and the very least is to keep it to yourself. I can't help but think this is an "indirect message" to me? An indecent invitation to have some fun on the side? Am I being paranoid or am I reading correctly between the lines?? Knowing that he never misses an opportunity to say how great I look or how smart I am. Any thoughts?? Thank u!

Otherwise he cant afford a woman and children? I dont want to work outside the home. I want to be a home cook and mother If a man doesnt see how invaluable and rare it is for a woman to want to stay home and be a mother and wife full time, do i really want to marry that kind of man anyway? I'm not looking to risk a lifetime of spending my love and energy on a man who doesn't appreciate me or what i can bring. A woman's role is not to bring home money-its HIS role. I dont respect any man who tries in any way to say a woman should have her own job if she's married... It shows me he is a little boy. Sorry!

and these wives think their husbands love them? How naïve are women?

Every time me and her argues she breaks stuff and blames me for her anger. It's usually over things that I don't consider a big deal. Majority of the time it's because I tell her about her self or if I don't give her money for alcohol or cigarettes. We don't have any kids. I love her to death but I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice?

Ever since my husband and I started having sex (which started when we were dating) there has been a lot of problems surrounding our intimate relationship. He has said and done a lot of hurtful things, like pushing me off during sex and leaving... rarely initiating (for the entire 6 years we've been having sex, he probably initiated 10 times), then saying he would have waited until marriage to have sex, because of his religious beliefs.. Well turns out, he lied to me about his sexual history, and then said how he respected me more when he found out I was a Virgin when we met... so now I see him as a lying, promiscuous, double-standard hypocrite. And in the past year since I found out, he has said things like I don't have his preferred body type, he "forgot" about all the things he did before me, he's sorry.. so now I don't believe he's actually attracted to me, and we still only have sex when I initiate... The thing is, I still want sex all the time. I love sex... but not with him anymore. I get absolutely no enjoyment from having sex with him. I am so mentally checked out during sex with this man. The only way I can stand to have sex with him anymore is by just going through the motions. I can't even enjoy it a little bit unless I pretend he's someone else... Can this ever be changed? I've been in therapy for a year and I don't feel any differently about him... I love sex, but being stuck with him as a partner has killed my enjoyment of it. Can this ever be changed?

My relationship is toxic, and extremely abusive. Im physically abused multiple times a week. They hit me, and slam me against walls. The worst ive gotten is only bruises and bloody noses though. Im emotionally abused, and taken advantage of in every way. I do everything i can, i do laundry, i cook, i clean, i work, i pay most of the bills, i lend them money, And it doesnt seem to make things better, And i dont feel appreciated for any of it. They have cheated on me in the past, and i forgave them. They have asked me more than once if i would consider an open relationship, and i have refused. They are now cheating on me again. Theyve been ******* someone else for at least a month, and it makes me sick. I have a good sense about these things, and i have found clues that suggest it, but nothing irrefutable, so i havent confronted them. If i did, they would twist my evidence into something innocent, and convince me that im paranoid. I feel like i have no sense of reality, and have no way to argue with what im told. I can only think straight by myself, and even when i construct plans and arguments to confront them, it all falls apart in the moment. The stress of my relationship is affecting my job, and iv made a mistake that could have costed hundreds of lives. The obvious answer is, end it. I dont wish to. Next, Couples counseling. I may consider it. Next, Can i please get any other sort of advice? Something i can do myself to make things better?

My husbands friend recently passed away and he has a funeral on Friday. I've never met his friend and I do work on Friday but I was thinking about leaving work to company my husband for the funeral and then returning to work after. I asked my husband- "would you like me to go with you?". He said "it doesn't matter". He also said he didn't NEED me to go. What am I supposed to do. Does he want me to go or not?