My friends mom always said affairs were normal, healthy part of life. Just because you have sex with someone else, doesn't mean you don't love your partner. She was married for 25 years. Are the words of wisdom? It's my friends mom. She was a stay at home mom. She use to give the neighbor blow jobs when her husband was at work for extra bingo money.

I was dating a lady for about 3 months. I had absolutely no idea she was married until just recently. Today, her husband contacted me saying he wanted answers about our relationship. I don't feel like I owe him anything. I imagine I've been going though the same feelings of betrayal and humiliation, and wondering how I could have been so blind to the lies and deception. Right now, I'm thinking of telling him to **** off, and leave me alone. I have no interest in what will undoubtably be a confrontational exchange. If anyone owes him an answer, it's his wife. I also feel this is something of an emotional response ... like maybe I'm not helping a guy who needs it just because I can't get it either. Anyone have a better take? All trolls and sarcasm welcome. I could use a good laugh too... thanks ...

And only a deserving woman can appreciate taking and taking from a man in luv

My husband treats my kid from my first marriage like trash. He and his younger brother were arguing and all the sudden my husband began cursing my son out and screaming like a banshee (my son is 10). When I stepped in and told him that he isn't to use that filthy language around the kids he began cursing at me and screaming at me to shut up and that I won't get between him correcting the kids and to butt out and learn my role. Is this normal? What can I do?

I am a home body, 2 friends, husband..when my 2 friends asks me if I would like to go somewhere with THEM, I usually go...I have even helped one of these friends to move her mother to another home...helped her pack, used my vehicle. When I ask either of these 2 friends or my husband if they would like to do something I am interested in...they will not go...I like to visit nurseries, wanted to go to San Fransisco one time, haven't been to Hawaii in 20 years....short trips, long trips, I usually end up paying for the gas, I drive, I take baths, I do brush my teeth, I dress casually, my hair is not colored some weird color, a little lipstick...don't smoke, not a drinker, don't drive like an idiot, don't get pushy or controlling, if they wanted to stop anywhere, I am fine with it, I ask maybe 2 or 3 times a year, its always local, I will even offer to buy lunch...they won't go anywhere with me....again, if they ask me....I go with THEM...but I ask...no, I don't want to or I can't or...its always something...my b/d is next week, husband always mentions "We will do something this year for your B/D"...never happens, we both do not work...what the hell would you do, its kind of boring to go by myself...why is it they won't do anything with me, but when asked, I will go with them....are they that selfish? When they have asked me lately, I am now saying No thanks...what is this???

Those who would oppress women are not usually content to stop there; given the chance, they would oppress men too. If you support women against this type of men, you will also be helping men. Why aren't more men supporting initiatives that will help women, if by doing so they will also be helping men?

My husband's brother is confusing the **** out of me and is making me feel a bit uncomfortable. I try not to look at him because it seems as though every time I do he's already looking at me and god it's just so awkward when that happens. Anyway I've noticed a couple of times this week that after he's kissed his wife he looks at me or if he's cuddling up to her there he is again with his eyes on me! I don't know if he wants a reaction or what but I'm trying my best not to give him one even though it's winding me up. Yesterday I noticed when I gave my husband a kiss and he put his hand on my thigh, his brother immediately put his hand on his wife's leg and I mean literally straight away. I noticed that from the corner of my eye so I didn't see his face but I know he must have been watching. My question is why though? I'm not naive enough to think he's in love or whatever but seriously he's 10 years older than me so I think surely he must have grown out of childish games and stuff. I don't think he's trying to be mean either because he's always really nice and helpful too. Id ask my husband but hes very insecure as it is so it wouldnt be a good idea.

I feel like he's started to take me for granted. He used to gush over me all the time. I look exactly the same as when we met, as in, haven't gained weight haven't done any negative change. I just really miss when he noticed me. I can walk by him naked and even alert him that I'm naked and he ignores me. We barely got into an argument tonight and he just left. It was such a nothing argument. I was so surprised. The argument was just built up tension from the day. I feel like I do all the talking and he doesn't have a chance to come to me. I'm always there. We are both home bodies so no I don't want to be leaving my house and do all that. We also both work from home. I do have my own things I do. He's not going to miss me unless I'm not home for most of the time he's home anyway. I just want him to make me feel the way he used to, that I was so special to him.

Please don't answer my question with anything negative. So I got married a few months ago overseas and I lived there with my husband for 5 months and recently I came back to the US to go back to school. I usually apply for financial aid but this time I couldn't so I will have to pay out of pocket for my classes. So it's been about a month since I came back and school semester doesn't start in a week and my husband has been asking me to go back and stay with him for a few more months that way I can start school from fall instead of the winter and i will have financial aid to pay for my classes if I wait for fall semester. The classes I'm taking aren't part of the program I'm going into but they're still classes I need in general. He tells me he hasn't had enough of me and that he wants to spend more time with me, but he doesn't really talk to me much and when I text him or anything he'll take forever to reply back, and when I don't jump to text him first he'll get mad at me. Now I did live with him for a while and I know his schedule and I also know the time there when I talk with him. I do love him and at first I was ready to do what he said, but I don't think it's the right choice. But I've been thinking of going back in the summer since I won't have anything, but I don't know how to tell him because he is too into me going back in January. P.S we did live with his family when I was there and it wasn't the best, but it helped financially and because I wasn't able to get ajob

Lately, I have been feeling really depressed. I see all my friends travelling, going to college, finding a really good career, and most of all, getting married. At first, it didn't bother me because a few friends of mine here and there were getting married. Now, a LOT of my friends are married. I feel weird because I don't even have a serious boyfriend like pretty much all of my friends have. I feel like I will never get to do half the things they are doing. Nothing feels weirder. I don't think anything is wrong with me but I feel like if my friends don't have all the accomplishments, they have at least one thing to look forward to. Some of my friends are single but there are not many. I look around at these girls that have engagement rings and they are so lucky - some are pretty, standard looking, short, tall, big, thin, you name it, everyone seems to be getting engaged. I feel like I am going through a small crisis because I am a single 25-year-old female. I also feel like I have nothing going for me; I don't have a career or great travel plans either to top it off. All the guys I have dated have become jerks towards me as well so that doesn't help things either. I meet really weird guys, cheap ones, some have left me, or their mysterious. I have never felt more depressed, how can I cope with this?

My mother keeps telling me (lacking subtlety) that she thinks I am too young to be married. I'm currently twenty-two, but I will have my twenty-third birthday before my wedding. I think she's really having a hard time of it, because my fiance lives in London, and I'll be half a world away from her in Chicago. I love my mother, and I don't want to displease her, but I love my fiance, and want to marry him. She tells me that I am too immature and young to get married, and I am having trouble deciding whether she's saying it out of desperation, and trying to get me to change my mind, or if she really thinks that I'm too immature... I think, in the humblest way possible, that I have always been mature for my age, and to be fair, I have known my fiance longer than she knew my father, and they've had a long and happy marriage. I don't want to have to choose between my mother and my fiance, and the last thing I want to do is upset her, but if I had to choose between my mother and fiance then I think I would choose my fiance... Does that make me a bad person? And what should I do with my mother? Is she right, am I too young?

I went on liberty in one port near the end of deployment and I got blackout drunk. I was on liberty with 3 guys. The ship had a ratio of 700 males to 80 females. Most of the females we friends with my husbands then new girlfriend(my ex best friend), ao I had limited options. Got kicked out of a hotel pool for being so drunk. Over seas being drunk in public is a crime. I was 19 then so I got sent back to the ship and got in trouble for underage drinking. Rumors started poping up left and right saying that I ****** all these guys in the pool and was dancing topless and getting fingered, etc. I know I didn't have sex with anyone that night. I would have known that I had sex for the first time in a year. I was still wearing my clothes from the night before when I woke up. Either way that was almost 2 years ago and my husband and I got back together and undes up getting married. I love him so much ut hurt. Yet, twice, he randomly brought up these rumors and he doesn't believe me that it didn't happen. I feel like he doesn't trust me. Why does he bring this up? Why does it matter when it happened so long ago? And why doesn't my husband trust me? His ex cheated on him a lot, so I think this might have something to do with it. But I'm not her, and I've never once cheated on him or done anything that he doesn't know about! I keep no secrets. I feel like he doesn't believe that I love him. What do I do? Please help me. I feel like I'm suffocating.

What am I doing wrong here? Today for example I got upset that while I was making baby food, feeding the baby, changing baby's poopy diaper, taking him potty, making his bottle, and putting him down for a nap, which took over an hour, my husband decided it was a good time to disappear again, this time to play video games. So I told him I'm tired, I don't think it's fair, I don't appreciate it, and that when he takes relaxing time while I'm doing the work then it's at my expense- I don't get the same luxury to disappear like that, and if I did then the baby wouldn't be taken care of, I'd come back an hour later to an unfed unchanged baby who's now late for his nap. His reaction is to defend himself instead of apologize, says he helps enough, so I keep trying to get through to him. I didn't curse, or yell, or attack his character. I stuck to the facts of his actions and said it's upsetting. Then he says he feels attacked and walks away. This is a recurring problem. Also note, he's not lacking sexual attention from me.

it's one of those things that happen but are rather hard to explain in us white guys mainly go for white girls but white girls on the other hand tend to go for other races and less often for white guys why? why is this preference thing one sided sorta? why white guys prefer white girls in general but white girls prefer other races in general? n like i said i talk generally here not for every single one i know we are different from one another but generally this is what it is also i only talk about usa never been to other countries so I don't know how things go there

I m 31 and married with no kids. My wife is a register3d nurse and I work in a warehouse. We have a house worth 250k here in a suburb of Cleveland ohio.i don t have a degree. I guess I m doing ok but u don t understand why I still think I m a failure

So my sister and her husband are home for the holidays and we all spent Christmas time together. They live out of state and my sister wants me to spend New Years with her and her husband at a Pitbull concert. However, my fiancé is unable go out for New Years because he is taking care of his grandma. Should I spend New Years with my sister or my fiancé? I told my sister that I wanted to be with my fiancé and now she is mad at me. Am I wrong?

it's about a girl from my country that I saw on facebook and got attracted to her. I never loved in my life like that time (I didn't even care about girls). I was madly in love with her. when I go to school I think if there is a way that I could win her heart and it's everyday like that... Until a day when I got back from the medina (at night) I decided that it was the right moment, so I wrote to her a poetry (from a french song I love so much) and she told me ''without all this, just tell me you love me and I will be your gf''.. so I was the happiest guy in the world, I never felt that happiness before, like It was a feeling of perfection.. we talked in msn and the third day I promised to visit her. I hadn't my driving license so I told my dad to drive me to her.. he refused.. I tried everything possible to reach her, I asked him for money to take a taxi but he refused. (I was 18 back then) I called one my friends to take me to her (but he made empty promises) so I slept desperate. I woke up so sick (because I wasn't able to visit her) I hated life. So when she connected I told her I won't ever forgive myself for what happened, she told me it's okay there are a lot of other days. but I told her I will just leave and will never forgive myself. since then I didn't talk to her and since then I sunk in sadness... since then until now I feel horribly sad because she was my life. she is my life. so my life is meaningless without her. now I am thinking of euthanasia..should I do it

Why is there still forced marriage in the U.S?

She finds excuses to talk and text him after work, like yesterday, she called and text him a total of 6 times. The last text from her was at Pm, he gets off work at 2pm. The calls started at 1:59. This has happened several times, she keeps going. These are not important issues that she needs to talk to him, these are things she can talk about at work. Her texts aremfull of overly exaggerated smiley faces, and immature remarks. Even our son read them and said she's being weird. She is married with a ton of kids. She's our age, too, but she's been married multiple times. My husband said if he does not respond,Moshe goes to the main boss and complains on him. He said she throws fits mad questions him if he does not respond on off work hours. He's had to drive her around the work grounds, because she fights with other coworkers and she acts like its his job to make her feel better. I do not feel comfortable with how she is acting towards my husband, and she seems weird, to me, my husband and son. My husband is a manager at his job so he has to talk to her, but she is HR amdmI find her behavior unprofessional, and her reliance on my husband after hours, off work, obsessive at times. I did a little fb search to see who she is, after all this, and I think she has a crush on my husband. Her husband and mine, are both redheads and look very similar. It also makes me uncomfortable when she texts and asks personal information about me...and she will say it's work related. I think what else bothers me, is that she is controlling and demanding of my husbands attention, at work and at home,money he's with us. She has her own family, and the things she is getting ahold of him for are not important, they are things that are minor and can be handled at work. His is starting to upset me, her behavior...and my husband feels like he has to talk to her because he is one of the mangers there.

I've been married for almost 3 years. Last year in marriage I found my husband being secretive and a bit unfaithful due to an account in his phone I had no idea about. I confronted him and he got violent and ended up in jail for domestic violence. I bailed him out the next day and went through counseling and accepted him bck into home he next day. It wasn't easy. During the time I was devastated and lost so I ended up having an affair through conversation which now about over a year and a half later has come out the closet. We've been doing perfect until now. He won't forgive me. How is it fair

I would like to stay to support my wife and child during their time at the hospital. But it would be nice to get an excuse so it wouldn't effect my employment. It's wrong if a father can't get an excuse for supporting his family. are we able to get excuses?

My husband lives in Dubai and I'm here in the US and I came back in December so I can prepare myself for the new year and for the classes I'm taking this winter semester, but ever since I left, my husband wants me to go back and stay with him until the new school year. Because I do get financial aid to help pay for my classes, but because I didn't apply for it I won't be getting it this winter semester. The classes I'm taking aren't part of the program I'm going into but they're still classes I need in general. He tells me he hasn't had enough of me and that he wants to spend more time with me, but he doesn't really talk to me much and when I text him or anything he'll take forever to reply back, and when I don't jump to text him first he'll text me and he'll get mad at me. Now I did live with him for a while and I know his schedule and I also know the time there when I talk with him. I do love him and at first I was ready to do what he said, but I don't think it's the right choice. But I've been thinking of going back in the summer since I won't have anything, but I don't know how to tell him because he is too into me going back in January. P.S we did live with his family when I was there and it wasn't the best, but it helped financially and because I wasn't able to get a job there.

So ive been married for my wife for a few years and everything was going well until around 2 months ago. She started staying late from work and I caught her in the car with another guy so we broke up . We tried to work it out this whole month and all but she told me shed rather walk her life path alone. Turns out shes moving in with the guy i caught her with on New Years!! Idk what to do . Im so angry and feel so betrayed!!! I treated this woman like a queen!!! I still love her and idk what to do anymore. This is beyond ****** up

I talked to him of course and he just says it's not a problem. And I say but it is to me! I rarely post on social media or anything like that. I just want them for us. He used to seem proud to take pictures with me and for us to have things together for our memories but now he avoids it or worse, RUINS it by looking miserable in the photo. I'm so annoyed. We're just getting older and older and I don't have pictures of us. Also, it is ONLY during special occasions like holidays or outings, but we don't normally go on any outings. So, its very uncommon that we're taking pictures to begin with.

Just so I don't have yet another ugly visual to remember.

expected to do silly things like this and can they count on their wives to keep it a secret

I share children with my ex husband. We coparent together and are friendly. My husband is fine with this and understands because of the kids. He has met my ex husband and been around him several times and had been nice to him. However my husband avoids being around my ex husband if he can, especially if I am there. He finds other things to do that come up do avoid being around the two of us together if he can. Why is this and is it normal and what should I do about it? I would like them to be friends if possible.

My husband is crazy so this month i gave a share of my work money to pay for the mortgage and he gave that money to his friend as a loan i am furious about why he done that he is really irresponsible and he has done that in the past

is she making your lives a living hell?

I'm not ok with it I think it's disrespectful to your wife. If your married delete all your profiles to show respect. I'm terrified why my husband still has it. There's so many easy girls in it.

Been married for slightly more than two years . This is the first time she is travelling without me . She is with her parents since a week and it will be a week more , before she'd be finally back with me . I had thought that it would be fun for me , doing all the bachelor stuff with my friends but I got bored of that on day 3 or 4 itself and now I want to be with her and no one else . Also since we had had a little tiff before she left and we couldn't make up properly , it makes me want to be with her even more . And she seems to be having a really good time at her parents pal e since she doesn't call me that much . Does my case sound abnormal to you

It took him 3 years to propose to me. About 3 years after he called it off last second, he is to ne married again. Broke up a little over 2 years ago after he called it off. Why is he being married in the same amount of time it took him to propose to me

But they still fit you