Family: Question: How can i help my mom? please help?

Question: How can i help my mom? please help?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 02:00 PM PST

Hey guys, im a 17 years old guy and my eldest brother is 32, hes an alcoholic assh*le and has been for about a DECADE. He never moved out of the house because he spends all his money on drinks, cigs and food. My parents don't force him to go out of the house because he's their son and they love him no matter what and they don't want him to be homeless. The thing is he treats EVERYBODY like trash, he makes my mom cry EVERY WEEK, spends all HER money and doesn't even talk to me. He's a literal douc'he. If I ever stand up for my mom he'll probably beat me up cause he's very violent so I just stay out of his way. But my mom is getting old and weak and now that I'm 17 I'm starting to understand everything and I'm getting really tired of seeing my mom cry every week. He doesn't care about us but my mom still chooses to suffer and tolerate all his bullsh*t. What can I do for my mom? I talk to her every day and make sure I make her smile but I feel like that's not enough. My brother will never change, and soon I will move out and go to a university abroad, so what is the solution to this? Will I just leave my mom alone to suffer? oh and I don't have any other siblings. My dad is always at work and he takes really good care of my mom, me and my assh*le brother. My mom doesn't tell my dad anything cause he's already diabetic and she doesn't want him to be stressed out although I'm pretty sure he already is but he doesn't show it.

Question: Sisters: are you protective of your little brothers?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 01:54 PM PST

Let's say he was being picked on by three boys his age and you were there. What would you do?

Question: Do you hate hearing arguing?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 01:37 PM PST

It scares me,makes me mad, cry at the most sometimes . My family arguing and I don't know what to do. Stuff like this makes me wanna join boot camp but that really shouldn't be a reason to join. I even feel alone when this is going on. I just wanna leave everyone alone sometimes.

Question: My sister is really abusive verbally to the family especially her parents. How do I deal with us at Christmas this weekend?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 12:45 PM PST

Question: Should I move out after high school?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 12:20 PM PST

I'm about to finish high school and need to figure out I want to do. #1. The option I want to do the most is move to texas with my boyfriend. We've worked out the math for bills and it seems to be affordable, especially since we'd be able to live with his mom. I'd be taking online college for graphic design, which would give me a bachelors degree in 2 years. After that we would move somewhere where I can get a job with my degree. #2. This is a compromise plan that me and my boyfriend came up with since my parents wanted me to live near relatives. I'd be staying at my grandparents house in florida for 6 months, working, and paying small bills such as car insurance, phone bills, and food. I'd have occasional visits to texas during that time and after 6 months I'd move to texas and start online college. #3. This is the option my parents want me to do. I'd move in with my grandparents, working, and doing school on-campus. My parents believe that my boyfriend can move to florida too, but I've talked to him about it and found that he can't move to florida. I'm not sure if i'd be able to visit my boyfriend as often or at all, since I would need time for both work AND school, but after 2 years I'd have my bachelors degree and move to texas then. I'd love to hear what everyone thinks. Thanks!

Question: Should a 12 year old girl and a 15 year old boy still be sharing a bedroom?!?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 12:14 PM PST

I'm 12 and my brother is 15 and we still share a bunk bed! ( I'm not that young on here a lot of 12 year olds have emails ). But seriously this is not a troll. My dad and my mom keep having fights about it. My says it's fine but my dad says they're way to old to share a room let alone a bunk bed! I mean it's not like there's anything sexual going on. My dad set up a room for my brother in the attic but my insists he stays! I should mention my mom has very bad anxiety and I guess is frightened of my brother not being downstairs with us. Do you agree with my mother or my father?? I mean I have my period now and I'm pretty sure my brother is starting to shave!

Question: Girls mature question?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 12:12 PM PST

I recently re-connected with my high school sweetheart online. We are now 24. We flirted and talked about us getting back but that was it. I invited her multiple times to dates and she said she has been busy this was our chance to get back). So no dates. I continued with my life. I then began to flirt/like other girls pics online. These girls some i know and some i don't. The pics i liked would be of them being half naked/in bikini pics. My ex gf mad af confronted me about it and i thought it was a joke. I continued to like pics and now she blocked me. I keep sending her txts and she's not responding. I'm sure it's over social media again except she had enough. My question is do you think she's in the right? also do you think she still liked me because who would delete someone online they like? also should i chase her? or let it be?

Question: What’s wrong with my phone?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 11:32 AM PST

So basically I was using it and texting my friends and then it just went back to the home screen randomely So I went back to messages and it did it again and then I got a test from a random number saying I can see you and a picture of me from my phone camera so I screamed and turned it off and today I went on it again and all my apps were deleted and the background picture was a baby with no eyes

Question: Is it wrong for a mother to beat her son for telling his little sister that there’s no Santa Claus?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 11:04 AM PST

If the brother told his sister there is no Santa Claus and then showed her the room where their mother hid the gifts, should their mother break out the belt on her son after her daughter told her that she knows the truth about Santa and that she found the gifts?

Question: Does my mom seem right about my dad?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 11:00 AM PST

My dad has worked hard to provide us with a nice home and he pays all the bills while my mom pays the light bill and I am currently physically ill at the moment and do not work and he worked hard to help me with any financial bills. His only problem is that he squanders his money fast. My mother says he has a major illness. I think he just needs to manage his money better. My mother does not trust my dad and she puts money in my account and tells me don't tell my dad because I won't have a cent to my name. Today my dad asked if I have money to pay for my doctors exam I said yes because mom put some money in. She was fuming. She called me silly and said why did I say that because he never pays for anything. I broke down crying then she told me okay do what you want.

Question: What were can i gat a peepa pig for dauguhter fiveteenth birthdai parti?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 10:36 AM PST

mi dauguhter lik the pig peepa and want to sirprise her wit pig. need help plese thanlks?

Question: How could I be more stronger to tell her that I go and that she can not stop me?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 09:44 AM PST

How could I be more stronger to tell her that I go and that she can not stop me? How to be strong with decisions? I made my decision to change job I work on this job 2 days but I am content with salary and food and working conditions I have fund another job with higher salary better food and I don't know how the working conditions are I sad to my boss today that I am leaving because I have founded another job She got angry on me and start yelling and she didn't wanted let me go and she told me that I should decide even I already have, that is why I came to her to tell her that I want to go She was talking with me all working hours threatening that if I leave other workers would had to work much more without a day off and my sister is working there too I decided to stay because she didn't let me go and I do not want to stay How could I be more stronger to tell her that I go and that she can not stop me?

Question: Why do pregnant women cry so much ?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 08:45 AM PST

My sister is having her first baby next summer she's excited but she's also been depressed and having really bad anxiety. She gets upset at everything she cries at her favorite band she cries when her fiancé goes to work she cries all day because she misses him she cries when she's scared like of a thunderstorm or when she's in the car. She cries at the news which is already normal for her. She's cried at that since she was little. She cries at a sad song or when one of her favorite celebrities dies. She even cried when Charles Manson died. She said if they're having a boy she's naming him Charles after him. She said she even cries after her and her fiancé make love. She usually doesn't do that. She also tends to cry for no reason. Why does she cry so much ? How can I help her feel better ?

Question: Is my dad playing around, or something worse?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 08:42 AM PST

About a year ago my sister turned 18 and since then my dad has constantly pantsed her. He started by sneaking up and yanking her pants down, but now he just does it at random. He'll pants when relatives visit for a party over, friends, even outside when neighbors are around. It started out jokingly, then got annoying, but has since gotten worse. My sister hates it and tries getting our dad to stop, but he won't listen. I notice now that every time my dad does it he gets a huge grin on his face seeing my sister's legs and panties. It's just nasty seeing my dad act this way. Is this normal at all? What's wrong with him

Question: How do I handle being alone and rejected on Christmas? How do I find joy when the family has rejected me?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 08:34 AM PST

My Dad and step-mother are travelling and my Dad said my step-mother would rather just go with their kids but he'd have me by on New Years when they get back. My Mom died and her family is all in an estate fight and not doing anything or travelling. The one in town does not welcome visitors cause her husband suffers from alcoholism. I don't have any friends I can call on. I will be alone. I was alone on Thanksgiving and was SO depressed. Worst part is my Dad said he and his wife just wanted to go with their kids but my step-Mom's daughter is coming who is from a previous marriage and not my Dad's kid. Plus her sister and her sister's son are going. My Dad just makes vague excuses so I didn't want to push it and be going unwanted. So how do I handle the pain of being alone for Christmas all weekend when everyone else it seems is with family and having joy while I am depressed? Watching TV doesn't help cause TV is all about the joy of the holidays. I also miss my grandparents who have all died. All four were very good to me. My Mom was always much better to me then my father who has been remarried and more distant. The step-mother is never mean to me but always excludes me unless it is a wedding or funeral type event. She is polite but just sees me as some distant relative to be cordial to.

Question: My grandparents have died. The joy of Christmas is not here anymore. How do I find joy instead of trying and failing to recreate joy?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 08:13 AM PST

At Christmas I always want to recreate the joy of ages 15 to 30. I am 41 and my grandparents have died. As a little kid my family lived in Seattle and overseas so we did not get to do Christmas with the extended family. Come age 15 we moved back to where we had lived when I was real little (Virginia) and have lived here ever since. The joy of having four grandparents at Christmas was wonderful. Even when I was in my 20's. I had that child-like Christmas joy. Now I am 41. The last grandparent died 10 years ago and the first 13 years ago so it all happened in 3 years. The extended family has naturally spread out so one aunt is all we see at Christmas and even two of my three siblings don't come. I never married so have no kids. So the last 5 Christmas' or so I have been let down and in the dumps cause I don't have the joy I had when I had grandparents. Seeing grandparents made Christmas since it was a void when I was ages 7 to 15 and we lived in London and Seattle Metro area. How do I fill this void come this Christmas?

Question: Xmas alone...?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 07:42 AM PST

This year is the first holiday season with our baby. My husband's family is who we spend the most time with since my family lives quite a but away. He has 2 older sisters one we get along with and the other we don't (she ignores us it's not really that we got into a fight or anything). For Halloween the sister we don't get along with threw a party that we weren't invited to, we stayed and handed out candy to the neighborhood kids. For Thanksgiving everyone was out of town except the sister we don't get along with and again no invite. Now Christmas is around the corner and everyone is going to the sister's (we don't get along with) house. We get along with everyone else so it sucks we won't hangout with them but my husband doesn't want to go since we were snubbed for everything else. I really don't want to start any problems between everyone else I already know they're going to be bummed out to not see the baby but I do know if we go spend Christmas with them it won't be fun. Should I try to keep the peace we have left or start our new traditions?

Question: In my family we always have someone who we are regularly criticizing and especially at the holidays. How do I find someone this year?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 07:41 AM PST

No one in the family (usually it is in the extended family we pick on someone) is being bad right now. Last few years it was my uncle who was having an affair but his marriage is over and he has expressed regret. My Mom's father drank too much (was an alcoholic) so when I was a kid the holidays were devoted to gossiping about him. My Mom is too bitter sometimes as she created this tradition and so many years I have personal bitterness towards her but she has softened her attitude in recent years so I feel bad being bitter at her for something she no longer does (though I do still have resentment). So my question is how do I fill this void this Christmas? Also if I can't find any family would I have just as much enjoyment in finding someone outside of family to have the grudge towards? My Mom's accountant lied about a family member of ours so though he died last year he never fixed it so I have permanent resentment of that accountant. I know this might sound weird but this has been a family tradition though never formally started, it just happened as the result originally of my Mom's father drinking too much and my mother being bitter at people because of it. So I just feel it wouldn't be Christmas without someone being the outcast.

Question: When are girls too old to see mommy naked?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 07:15 AM PST

My daughter is 7 and sees me nude sometimes. I was wondering if she might be getting too old. I would have stopped already is she were a boy.

Question: Who is in the wrong?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 07:04 AM PST

I ignore one of my younger cousins he is 19. My other cousins are 18, 20, 21 and 30. I am 26, I just don't have the same interests as him and ever since we were all really young like 12 and under I would always ignore him. Is this ok? At get togethers all he does is text on his phone and sit in a corner because me and my other cousins tell him to just wait for us and not to sit by us.

Question: I can’t and the light on in the morning and can’t eat either,what should I do.?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 06:55 AM PST

I help pay all the bills. My dad won't let me have the light on when it is really dark in the morning so I can't eat breakfast. I also am only allowed to eat in the kitchen same with my mom but my dad doesn't have to. I feel like crap right now because i am hungry and i am not gonna eat in the dark. He says he doesn't like the light on in the morning because he likes the peace and quiet. I also can't have the tv on in the mornings same with my mom even though it is her tv. But he will turn on the tv in the morning himself though. He is such a jerk and acts like a kid. I have a headache and starving. I swear i am not trolling either! So serious answers please. Also if i try to eat in my bedroom he will get mad at me and yell and wake up my mom and he doesn't stay out of my room even when i am a female. It says on my room door for him to stay outbut he doesn't listen and it makes him upset because I don't want him in my room anymore.

Question: My mom wants half of the amount for my SS checks?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 05:54 AM PST

I'm 18 and when I was little my dad died. Up until I turned 18, my mom was getting SS checks every month for $1,000. When I turned 18, I started getting them and will until I graduate high school. When I first found out I'd be getting the SS checks, I was just planning on putting it into savings, but my mom has it set in her head that she gets half of it. I know I'm probably sounding bratty, but my mom has been married to my stepdad for years so there's two incomes and she gets child support from my sisters dad. There's no reason why she would even need thay money, she's just bad with money in the first place. When I get my check this month, I wan to put it in a savings account at a bank where she won't know, but I know I'll just get yelled at, but I'm 18 and it's my money. I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

Question: My aunt and another aunt don't speak to each other. The one aunt cut the other out. Does this hurt a lot of innocent parties in the family?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 05:50 AM PST

Like the children of the aunt that is the trouble maker and cut the other one out are now not allowed to come to Christmas since their mother won't go and they are just kids. They also were not allowed to come to a wedding for an older cousin in September cause this aunt was going to be there. Aunt 1 cut aunt 2 out and Aunt 1 is the one with kids (aunt 2 has no kids). Also since Aunt 2 is a perfectly nice person it makes Aunt 1 look bad. Lastly our grandmother now has to have separate visits with the trouble maker aunt since she won't come to family celebrations. So my question is when family members end relationships with each other or suspend relationship then does it often hurt a lot of innocent parties that are not involved in the fight?

Question: None of these answers work how do you get a annoying sister away from you?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 05:13 AM PST

Question: Scared to give my mom Christmas presents. What should I do? Serious advice only please.?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 04:07 AM PST

For Christmas this year, I bought my mom two ceramic coffee mugs that are heat sensitive. I think they are cool because they are solid black, but after you pour hot liquid into it, the picture is revealed. The picture of one mug is a tiger and the other mug is a very pretty blue bird. I bought two mugs because I wanted to get her more than just one little gift. I already wrapped the mugs and am actually having second thoughts about them because I fear my mom will insult me about how ugly and stupid they are, and how she would prefer mugs with the picture already revealed, etc. (I can go on). I know it probably doesn't sound like a big deal, but it is to my feelings. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Serious answers only please.

Question: What can I️ do about my downstairs neighbor verbally abusing me?

Posted: 19 Dec 2017 12:49 AM PST

My neighbor downstairs has had issues and tried to commit suicide. 8 cops showed up at his door about a month ago. Well he also has a dog that constantly barks non stop which nobody says anything about. I️ have a sick baby and he just got surgery yesterday. My baby wakes up at hours of the night crying because he's in pain, has separation anxiety or simply can not fall back asleep. I️ stay up for hours as a single hard working mother who is also seven months pregnant you would think some people would have compassion for others! Not this guy. He screams "Get your F-ing baby" at me and throws things downstairs. He hasn't only done this once but three times. The first time I️ ignored it but now it's really adding extra stress on me. Obviously he has no kids. And I️ also hear him yelling at his father. He is a middle aged man. It's really stressing me out and he gets more crazy and rude each time. I️ do not want my child and my unborn child to be affected by his aweful actions. Slamming and throwing things and screaming at me are not respectable. If he can't sleep why doesn't he just buy earplugs? What can I️ do to resolve this situation?

Question: Can the father of my child take my baby away from because he has other children with another woman?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 11:11 PM PST

Question: Accidentally found my Christmas present?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 11:05 PM PST

I was getting Advil from my moms purse and I accidentally found an iPhone that she's getting me. I had no idea and I was really surprised. I was about to quickly zip it up. I didn't look at it. The next thing I know she walks out and gasps, I turn around and she has a really upset look on her face. She really wanted it to be a surprise and I feel so bad. Is there even anything I can do. She seems so upset :/

Question: How do i talk to my parent abut failing a college class and getting a D in another?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 10:59 PM PST

My mom can be reasonable sometimes but she sometimes loses it and makes me feel like crap which doesn t help. I just want to be able to talk to her and tell her how im sorry and i know it my fault and i ll pay her back every cent but i dont want her to be like she always does throwing how she "gives me such a great life and i cant do my one job and pass my classes with an A" or "How im not good enough and need to pay more attention" but the truth is i just dont have a will to do anything. literally nothing at all.

Question: How to move on from a horrible disappointment?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 10:12 PM PST

I just found out that I can't be CIT this summer because of scheduling issues. This is a huge dissapointment to me as it meant a great deal to be able to go back to my camp and see my friends who live far away from me. I usually use camp to get me through my year, to have something to look forward to. I don't know how to move on now, and stop thinking about it. What do I do?

Question: My mom and dad are always so disappointed in me they both put me down and tell me I'm a failure even though I try so hard to please them?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 09:58 PM PST

Question: Do I have to visit my Dad?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 09:48 PM PST

I have not seen my Dad in the past 3 years. Mostly because I threatened to tell a lawyer everything I know about him if he made me see him. My reasoning for not continuing to visit him is that he would scream at my sister and I for every little thing we did that wasn't up to his standards. It's because of him that my sister had to go to therapy for several years and I suffer from extreme social anxiety, which roots from him only ever telling me what I did wrong. I also have a fear of being yelled at because of him. Anytime someone does, I clam up and can never bring myself to speak or defend myself. I even begin to get anxious when other people are being yelled at. I have journal entries from when I was as young as seven explaining every little thing he made me cry for. Before I continue, let me clarify, I am not trying to make anyone feel bad for me. I don't want to come across as trying to. I just want to add as much information as I can and make clear the negative affect he has on me, so I can get the best responses possible. Anyway, I am almost 16 and was 12 the last time I saw him. We recently moved to a different state and did not inform him. Today however, I found out he tried to send me a card which was returned by the post office. He now knows we moved. I don't know if he will try anything, but he is easily set off. My question is, if he tries to take this to court, what are the chances I will have to start visiting him again?

Question: Dad's threatening to kick me out need some help advice?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 09:17 PM PST

So I'm 16 and I'm an only child and live with my father my mom died when I was like 2 or 3. So ive always been kind of frustrated but I hold it in. Public of curse but my father and I argue a lot more. These past 4 years have been rough. I've just been dealing with a lot of stuff and my father is barely here for me. I don't have that many friends and I rarely go hang out with but I went to this guy house today and when I came back home my father kept asking where I've been. So I ignored him. Then he kept yelling at me so I yelled at him to shut up and I slammed my door. He ran into my room and showed me to the wall and threaten to beat my ***. So I punched him in the face and we fought for like 30 mintues until I walked out. I came back home like an hour later and said I have to get out of his by new year's and that I'm not his son anymore and he doesn't care what happens to me. I told him that I would leave now if I could and that I hate him. He asked me where I would go without his money . I told him IDK but anywhere and he just laughed and said that if I don't leave by new years then he will leave and he will laugh if I go to homeless shelter because they won't take care of me. So I just got angry and went outside again and cam back at like j10pm and now he's sleep. But I'm just wondering what I should because I honestly have nowhere to go by new years and I'd have to drop out of my junior year for a full! Time job? I just want to be tough but feel like crying.

Question: Why my parents get mad at me when I tell them something and I know it’s true?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 08:51 PM PST

Like right now about a movie I looked it up to watch but all I found was you had to pay for. The other one went was not it was also in Spanish. When Daniel kept saying go on HBO on demand. I was on it but he didn't think I was. All he said was I want 14 mins of it that cause he watched the trailer. My dad and Mom must have old timers. My mom kept saying that it was a bad environment to be around with me arguing.

Question: Is it okay for parents to let a grown child live with them if they have a low-paying job?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 08:51 PM PST

My supervisor holds down a stressful, full-time job to pay the bills (which I give her credit for.) She has a daughter who's in her mid-thirties who's never been to college, moved out, or had a driver's license. She only works about three hours a day at a daycare job, so she doesn't get benefits or have much money to put towards household needs. Also, when her hours are reduced she doesn't want to say anything to her boss. My supervisor gets very frustrated when the daughter keeps calling her at work and doesn't do much around the house. I think the whole situation is very strange...

Question: My dad always verbally attacks me, shuts me up when I talk, and calls me retarded in front of my fam,how do I react to this in a mature way?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 08:26 PM PST

Question: My mom bought me the wrong color hat and gloves?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 08:17 PM PST

So for Christmas I said I wanted a grey north face hat and gloves. I ended up seeing the hat and it was black and not the correct color I wanted bought her jewelry that she wanted so I'm not some whiny teen . I'm 21 year old guy so I might seem immature but I'm kinda upset but I don't know what to do. I don't want to see! Rude and complain about the co!or but it's not what I wanted :(

Question: 22 years old and depressed any advice?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:47 PM PST

I'm 22 years old, my wife left me about a year ago and been really depressed since then we stay separated about 6 months but got back together and now expecting a child. We moved a few hours away from where we're originally from and I got a decent job and so does she, we're both wanting to go back "home" but can't just yet. I was so used to my lifestyle at home that I just seem even more depressed here. I got a hobby but it's kind of expensive and she enjoys and supports me in it. But in order to move back home we would have to live with my parents due to money but that's okay because we both lived with them before. I feel like I'm not enjoying my life because I'm scared to take risk. The things I want I always second guess myself and back out because I'm always scared I'm going to be broke and not provide for her and my child. My father is a great guy but sometimes we don't agree on some things he wants me to be happy but sometimes I feel like he keeps me from being happy. He would never do anything to hurt me so I know he's not meaning it. Seems like I still want my fathers approval of everything when most of the time he doesn't approve.

Question: Does social services take children away if they don't have bedrooms?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:47 PM PST

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:43 PM PST

I know my mom loves me but she puts me down a lot. She embarrasses me in front of family and calls me fat and tells me I need to drop a few pounds. She even went as far as to give me less food than the rest of the house because she said I couldn't afford the extra pounds and then laughed. She also calls me names like stupid because I don't make grades as good as my sister. The worst part is when family comes over she hoagie to them about my features and tells them she wish I were "mixed" so I would've been prettier and more boys would like me. Then she goes on to tell me that she wish my hair were straighter, and wish I didn't have bad teeth or a big nose. I've thought about moving out but she snaps at me and calls me ungrateful so I don't know what else to do. What should I do about this?

Question: I'm a 16 y/o girl and my 38 y/o bro is staying with me for 2 weeks. He took my phone away. Is this abuse? What if I'm in an emergency???

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:42 PM PST

My mom is on vacation with her boyfriend and he said I shoudnt have a Facebook. I told him everyone has one and it's not a big deal. Then he went off on how I'm undermining his authority. And I told him to stay out of my fu*king business and he lost it and took my phone away. And he was like go to your room. Like literally everyone has a Facebook account. I hate him. I called my mom on the house phone and literally all she said was you need to respect your elders???? Like I HATE my family. What should I do?? Is this abuse well my mom pays for my phone but it's still MY PHONE.

Question: Fear of growing up?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:16 PM PST

i'm 14 years old and i'm a female in the 8th grade. my birthday is may 12 & i'm gonna be 15. i hate the fact that after 15 is 16 then 17 then 18. it seems to go by to fast. when i think of growing up and turning 15 i think of all the memories i've had in the summer with my nana (grandma) and my mom and sisters. for the most part they are good memories, happy ones. but i always cry thinking about it. i also think abou when i'm growing older, how my family will also grow older. my nana is like my mom i basically live at her house. she is 60 and i always think of her getting older when i think of me growing up and it makes me cry bc i don't want to lose her. i also think of the house im in (nanas house) and how it won't b here when i'm older (older older) and it all jus makes me cry and i jus want to stay a kid forever. what the hell is wrong w me most ppl want to grow up

Question: Family rejects me sometimes?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:10 PM PST

My sibling are much older they are both out of college and I am still in 8th grade. I love to spend time with them and play board games. Today a series of unfortunate events happened in my attempt to play family board games. First I got everyone to play board games. Except my parents bc they had something todo and so they eventsstart with me finding out my mom threw away all the board games and then my sister dissapeard and couldn't play the games and then when I find a deck of cards and my brother his friend his girlfriend (who is like family) and I sit down to play. when my brother and his friend are playing they put on tv to watch at the same time they decide to watch tv instead and I am left alonel. This kind of stuff happens all the time and I am fed up. Not just this if I try and be funny they find away to make fun of me I start to cry.Another time I had a cold and I wanted to take drowsy cold medicine to get a good sleep and get better. And so I said "are we gonna do something together if not I wanna take the drowsy medicine" and they all said I sounded like a drug addict and started laughing my dad said that can take it bc I'm sick. Now I would snap back and they say why so sassy and said you make fun of me so I finally toughed up and then they said maybe to much and just start laughing it's like my dad is the only one who cares and understand that they hurt my feelings. I know they love me more than anything but all of this is just not ok. any advice?

Question: Help! Me and my stepdad are arguing.. arguing advice?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 07:00 PM PST

two days ago I asked my stepdad to please clean the airfyer after he was done using it because he cooked cheese pizza in it and I'm vegan(don't eat meat or dairy) so I obviously don't want the cross contamination and I also wanted to cook something later on that day in the air fryer. He got super annoyed and basically said that I need to learn my place and not tell him to do stuff when he's trying to relax. He also told me to clean it but I haven't because I feel like he should do it. I hate confrontation and the air fryer has just been sitting in the sink for the last two days because both of us refuse to clean it. How do I tell him how I feel without coming off as disrespectful?

Question: Help! Me and my stepdad are arguing Over something that is really important to me. We are both stubborn. How do I win this argument?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 06:55 PM PST

Question: My girlfriend's parents want to take our kids away?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 06:54 PM PST

Her parents arnt supportive of our relationship since we're both girls. We have 2 boys and a little girl on the way. My friend is sorta like their father figure, he babysits sometimes. Her parents think we shouldn't be taking care of our kids because she thinks we'll ' make them gay'. And are trying to get the police involved so they can adopt them.. what should we do?

Question: I don’t like being touched unless I initiate it, even by family.How do I get them to understand?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 06:48 PM PST

I usually try to suck it up but end up cringing or trying to move away. Many people usually understand this however my family doesn't seem to. They get highly offended and say things like " I'm family don't you dare flinch away". I'm not trying to be rude, I just don't like it and it makes me uncomfortable.

Question: Should I do this in the future to teach my parents a lesson about respect?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 06:43 PM PST

I live in a house where my parents have this idea where their opinion has to be my opinion, which is completely unreasonable. They believe I don't have freedom of expression or any other right. No, I'm not some rebellious kid causing trouble on a day to day basis. I do well in school, get good grades, and try to be nice to others. What I'm thinking is maybe when I'm older and have my own house, I'll make these outrageous rules specifically for my parents. When they ask why, I'll say "Because it's MY house MY rules." The very thing they told me. Karma is going to bite them hard.

Question: Why Does my Mom Lie About Little Things?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 05:40 PM PST

This is just one example but earlier I pulled out my laptop and started typing up a story and my mom goes "Why are you typing so frantically?" So I responded with "Why do you ask that question every time I write my story?" I wasn't being rude or anything, I said it in a nice and playful tone and then she got all defensive and responded with "I have never said that before." So I proceeded to give her a few examples of when she had said it and she began yelling at me asking if I was calling her a liar. I said yeah, because I mean she technically was lying but I really didn't see why she was getting so upset over something small like that? So she sent me to my room and here I am now. This isn't the first occasion where she's lied about something small either. Like to me and my brothers she said "When Finn (our youngest brother) turns two, we'll consider getting a dog." Recently, one of my other brothers brought that up and rather than saying "No we aren't getting s dog" or "I don't remember saying that" she starting yelling at him for lying about it, when both of my siblings as well as myself remember her saying it. It's getting frustrating and I want to know why she does it?

Question: Why does my dad say things like this to me?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 05:10 PM PST

I'm an 18 year old guy. My dad bought me a car when I was 16. He has been nagging about me getting a job since I was 16. I finally got a job at Lowe's. I only work part time and he will often say things like "BS, you're not working. You don't even have a job" He will also say things like "why aren't you working instead of home"? I told him I only work part time and he will say things like "BS, one of these days I'm going to go over to Lowe's and ask them if you really work there and when I find out you don't, I'm going to kick you out of the house"! It really hurts. He went around the other day talking to the neighbors while shoveling snow saying "my lazy son is out messing with girls instead of here shoveling snow" then he told them "he claims he's working at Lowe's but I don't believe it" What should I do? Just tell him come over to Lowe's and see for yourself? I doubt that would matter he would probably say something like "you're the worst performer there, I bet"

Question: In a stressful environment while pregnant. How do I get help?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 04:54 PM PST

I live in a maternity home and the house parent is a bit crazy. I do chores around the house and cook as I'm supposed to but it's still not enough for her because I get the blame for everything. I'm not the only girl in the home another girl lives there with her toddler and I have nothing against her but when she makes a mistake I'm the blame for it. It's a Christian facility and she expects me to be a constant church going bible thumper but the thing is that I don't have time for that! I have classes that last all day and I work weekends and I do it all to support my baby who's due in 3 months from now. I keep my mouth shut because I don't want to get kicked out or I'll he homeless, I can't live with the baby's father right now and my family lives 40 minutes away and they're not that supportive. I don't know what to do!

Question: My mom has gone a trip over the break and i was supposed to go with her but our plans changed.?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 04:22 PM PST

Shell be back in 3 weeks but I think thats its too long and i miss her alot. I was supposed to hang out with my friends but we got into a fight and they are no longer talking to me.

Question: My sister thinks you need to insult someone to stand up for yourself, how can I explain to her that being reasonable is better.?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 03:49 PM PST

Question: My mom told me she thinks I dont love her And thinks I m disgusted with her?

Posted: 18 Dec 2017 03:44 PM PST

When I was younger my mom s bf was always by her and I hated him and he hated me so we eventually our relationship started deteriorating. And recently I ve been having personal issues in my head and with myself and I don t really open up to anyone. So I basically treat everyone the same. It s just been bothering me all day and I don t know what to do because I don t want her thinking that