Family: Question: Help me with my Christmas issue?

Question: Help me with my Christmas issue?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 01:45 PM PST

I begin to find myself isolating myself because my family members tend to scold me for no logical reason. For example, I'm well into my teen years and my 30 year old cousin began to yell at me because I picked up and began talking to a baby, who was walking in the general direction of my family members. He took the baby out of my hand and said "Can't you see the baby was going to visit so and so". He began to yell at me, so I left the room and went to the basement. I don't want to seem mean or hateful, help!

Question: Horrible Christmas?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 01:04 PM PST

I am positive that this Christmas is only going to get worse. I started off today, Christmas Eve, by heading to soccer practice at 8 am. All good, in my element. I come home, shower, and while I'm showering my mom makes the cookies all by herself. Normally, we make them together, so I'm not sure why she decided to make them by herself. After that, I ask her why she didn't just wait for me and all of a sudden, she starts going off on me, "I made the damn cookies by myself this year! I'm a maid in this effing household!" and BS like that. Okay, cool, whatever, she tends to get stressed out during holidays anyways. We always go to my cousins' house on Christmas Eve, and have a huge party with food, desserts, games, and all that jazz. It's awesome. BUT, today, it started snowing. I'm talking 2-3 FEET of snow by midnight. So, my dad made the executive decision that we're not going. Okay, cool, disappointing yes, but the snow IS insane and we wouldn't want to get stuck at their house all night. My mom has been bitching at me ALL DAY. She's yelling at me to clean my room now (which is very much clean, least I checked...), do my laundry (which is currently in the dryer as we speak...) and to "fix my effing attitude." I'm sitting in my room crying because this is not at all how I expected Christmas this year. I'm wearing sweatpants and a sweatshirt. I don't get to see my extended family, joke around with my cousins, wear the pretty dress bought myself for tonight. I am crushed.

Question: My Dad is drunk and it is ruining Christmas for all of us. I just want to go away. What do I do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 01:00 PM PST

He's an alcoholic and Mom doesn't want me to tell anyone.

Question: How do I make my aunt feel bad that she is missing Christmas due to a feud with my mother (her sister)?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 12:58 PM PST

Should I rub it in to my cousins (her two kids) also?

Question: How to get a vape from my friend if my parents won’t let me drive?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 12:37 PM PST

So I'm paying my friend 80$ for a good quality vape and 20$ for juice. This is coming out of my 500$ that I'm getting for Christmas. He wants me to come to his house for the exchange on the 26th. It's snowing out and my parents don't like me driving in the winter. I'm 16 and when I had my permit last year they didn't really want me to either. They're going to have to let me eventually and my dad always gives me these good pointers about driving in the snow/rain but what's the point if he won't even let me drive then? What can i do to convince them to let me drive?

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 12:06 PM PST

During holidays I ignore my 19 year old cousin I have been doing this since I was 11. I am 26, I hang out with my other cousins though, on holidays. They are 17, 25, 26 and 30. Do you think this is ok? I pretend to like the 19 year old, I call them over and I'm like yo come hang with all of us. But I ignore and just talk to my other cousins.

Question: What are ways to deal with family stresses during the holidays?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 12:04 PM PST

I get picked on...and it's because I can handle it. I get it. It's been that way in my family for a long time. I have a great deal of life experience and I get bullied for it because I think my family just wants to be right. I place all of these situations in context and I'm grown up enough to see it for how it actually is. Is this normal? Am I seeing it correctly? What are ways to deal with this stress?

Question: Teenage girls who can drive would you do this?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:45 AM PST

I have to leave in a few minutes to go pick up my sister at her friends house. I am in my bedroom now barefoot and since I am not getting out of my car and we are coming right back home to eat dinner I am just going to drive barefoot and not bring my shoes. I have been barefoot all day and I don't like to wear shoes if I don't have too and I don't need shoes to drive my car since I am not going in anyplace and only going to be gone for about 20 minutes.

Question: Hi guys. I need some advice.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:37 AM PST

Today I fought with mom and I said some pretty harsh things. I really want to apologize and make things right. Should I write a letter? I am really nervous to confront her. She can t read and someone might read to her. I really don t know what to do. Please help.

Question: How to get out of a bad family situation?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:37 AM PST

My dad threatens to hit me and sometimes he'll pin my arms behind my back until I say sorry. My mom doesn't say anything except listen to your dad. I have an older sister (the favorite) and nothing like this ever happens to her. My dad says "I'll hit you and I'll love every second of it", my mom says "one daughter does everything right the other can't seem to do anything right" and my sister will screech at me how much she hates me. It's not like I do anything to deserve this just will say shut up or cuss or yell. For instance I got mad that I was buying my own Christmas presents instead of it being a surprise and I said it was a stupid idea and my dad told me he'd hit me if I didn't go to my room. I stopped talking to him for about an hour after this because I forgives no matter what I say he'll just end up angry and that just makes him angrier and he started to take the locks off of my door. No matter what I do it just makes everything worse. He's never actually hit me before but all of this has taken a toll on my emotions. I keep thinking only 4 more years till college and I'm out of here but I don't know how much more of this I can take. I need help I just don't know if there's anything there is I can do to help the situation. Any ideas?

Question: How do you make your holiday(s) better when you are at odds with your entire family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:19 AM PST

It feels quite lonely!

Question: If my uncle get drunk on Christmas why does our Mom make us leave early?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:06 AM PST

Uncle is what they call an alcoholic.

Question: My girlfriend’s dad doesn’t want her to live with him and his family. Is there any way I can convince my parents to let her stay the summer?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:06 AM PST

Her dad neglects her and ignores her every say. He basically has let her know that he doesn't want her around. She doesn't have anywhere else to go, and I don't want her to spend an entire summer in those conditions. Over Christmas break, she has started to become depressed, crying almost every night. It hurts to see her like that for two-three weeks. I can't imagine letting her go through that for an entire summer. I want her to stay with my parents and I, but we need to convince them. I know they would be worried about us in the same house, and things could happen. But my girlfriend are waiting for sex until we are ready, long after I am out of my parents house. And my girlfriend doesn't want to feel like a burden to them so she's willing to help around the house, take any sleeping arrangement, etc. My parents are financially stable so money won't be a burden, and she can find a job in the summer also if need be. How is the best way we should handle this?

Question: Is it greedy to insist on getting owed money?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:05 AM PST

My sister borrowed money and calls me greedy when I want it back. She hasn't paid me back in a while...

Question: I’m Not close to my uncle?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 11:01 AM PST

Hi ok so my mom has 2 brothers and one of them my mom started to talk to because 6 years ago he left us and made mean comments about us and now he wants to be back in our life and my mom is allowing it but I don't want him to be Can someone help me

Question: I need SERIOUS help my mom has ran away from home?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 10:53 AM PST

I am 20 and live with my mom and grandma while I'm going to college. My mom had a seriously bad agrument with my grandmother and almost got physical. She just grabbed a bunch of her things and just left. It's has been 24 hours grandma has called our cousin who is a cop and I have search at all near by hotels and motels with no luck. I have called her and left text messages but I believe she has turned off her phone. If any of you have experience in a situation like this please tell me if there is anything I can do just know if she's safe. She is my best friend I don' know what more I can do.

Question: Why is my dead grandma talking to me?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 10:48 AM PST

I was at my grandma's funeral and she Rosen our of her casket and started to talk to me. She told me she faked her death

Question: Am I wrong for disliking my family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 10:33 AM PST

I have anger issues so I can escalate things and blow things out of proportion but I've noticed I only blow up extremely when it comes to my family. Something about them makes my blood boil. I live with my mom and two older sisters and I'm 16. Both of my sisters have yet to make any accomplishments. Neither pay rent, have graduated school, ask my mother for money constantly and can't even do her a favor when ask for they throw a fit. The oldest (29) refuses to clean, can't cook, makes messes, takes everything to personally and is schizophrenic . The second, she's obsessed with me. Everything I do and say, she's always listening in and putting in her two cents. I can't stanf her the most and I think I hate her. She's condescending and puts others down. She's inconsiderate and will inconvenience others to benefit herself . She's rude and doesn't acknowledg her wrongs. In her head, she is never wrong. She's disrespectful and is always threatening me but my mom enables her. In their perspectives, I'm not an adult so my feelings don't matter. I've been told this several times. My feelings are often disregarded and it makes me hate them . They always try to guilt me into feeling wrong for feeling the way I do because we're a "family" and that bullshit but I don't want to hear it. My plan is to graduate next year and move away for college. I want to cut off all contact with them except occasionally my mom. Am I wrong for feeling this way

Question: I spend way too much time chilling?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 10:22 AM PST

I feel so bad because i spend way too much time chilling at my job. I like everyone that works there so i get along well with them. When my shift ends, i usually chill with people that are still working for like 3/4 hours. I usually dont notice how fast the time goes. When i come home late, my parents get angry, they tell me its stupid i spend so much time chilling at my job with people who are working 'they get paid for it while i should go home'. I used to find it stupid what they are saying, but now i get a lot of comments from people like 'damn youre still here?' Or 'damn you really dont have a life do you'? I wanted to go home early today, but than i got caught up in a conversation and before i noticed i was hanging out again for 3,5 hours. When i went home i lied to my mom that i was out eating somewhere. I feel so bad now.. i enjoy staying there, but none of them would stay for me while im working. I have nothing to do at home so what should i do?

Question: My grandma was over 20 years younger than my grandpa but she did not live much longer than him?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 09:37 AM PST

I'm just wondering why that is.. she had a lot of kids and a slow thyroid I never asked my dad

Question: Why can't i stop eating?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 09:03 AM PST

i haven't stopped eating today and i have no idea why, like for breakfast i had yogurt with nuts as per usual but then i ate like 4 cookies, 2 pieces of cake, tons of chocolate and half of the gingerbread house i made with my little sister like what on earth? and i'm STILL hungry! not to mention we have a Christmas Eve dinner tonight and I'm probably gonna eat a lot there too. I'm usually not the kind of person who eats a lot and i'm not overweight or anything like that so like what??

Question: Is this weird?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:52 AM PST

When I was around 12 my dad said that I shirt I got from my mom was "sexy" I didn't think nothing of it back then but now I'm feeling uncomfortable thinking about it, was that weird?

Question: We soon will be greeting 2018, but i wonder why my favorite times are 90's of XX Centry :-) ?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:13 AM PST

I'm from Poland i was born in 1986 i have Asperger Syndrome and had Epilepsy as kid (due accident) that i had at 5, but was totally cured when i was 15, but most epileptic fits stopped when i was about 10 years old. I comefrom a rather poor though normal Polish family, probably according to American standards we have qualified for a lower middle class, I remember how today,when I was 11 years old, my father poured me some champagne for New Year's Eve 1998 my mom dismayed this due me mild Asperger but accept this And this repeated year later, I also remember when my dad poured me a whole glass of champagne on New Year's Eve 2000, I was 14 at the time, my mom objected a bit that it might be too much, but my father said that 21st century is only coming once, and my mom joked that technically speaking 21 century would be in 2001 xD But despite all my health problems i had as kid the 90's are my favorites, but my older brother thinks and some of my cousins thinks the 80's was the best, but i think not cause it was deep communism in Poland, 90's was first time our country Poland was actually free country :-)

Question: I'm so angry!!?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 08:02 AM PST

tomorrow we are going to disney but tis gonna be soo so lame im going with my lame *** dumbo 9 year old bro and hes so dumb he akways makes spelling mistakes and cant right proper grammar bcos he is dyslexic but i hate him basiclly. and my parents didn't book fast pass which is so dumb *** lamo. i mean like yh rite disney is for babies and stupid lame geekss like my brother. how do i get out of it. arghhh Mark, i am a girl... oh and im not lesbian either

Question: I don't know how to deal with my brother's death?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 07:39 AM PST

He passed away last night and it just hit me that he's really gone. He's always been there and has always watched out for me. Im only 15 and still have so much more to go through, I don't know how I'm going to survive without him there to protect me. I was there when he left and can't get the image of how he looked out of my head. I need him here and I feel like none of this is ever going to get better. What do I do?

Question: My friend's parents called me and want to ruin my life what do I do?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:25 AM PST

So today on December 24, 2017 around 1:00pm I get a call from my really close friend and she was crying and she said "You ruined my family's christmas" and I asked how then she said "They read our chats the know about the weed thing" and then she ended the call so I started freaking out and then I got a call back from her and when I answered it was her mom and she asked me "Why do you have to bring my child into this is being her friend not enough? I'm a nurse and i understand psychological things and I know what your intentions are" then the dad comes in and starts shouting at me saying "you're a slut a ************ you teach my daughter these drug and sex things I will kill your father and put you in prison, you will see you made us miserable so we will make your life miserable" they both said more other things and worse things but when school starts theyre gonna be taking immediate action. My friend already knew stuff about sex and shes done so much things already except sex and she was always curious about weed cause her parents are strict asf and I never forced her to smoke weed i just gave her the option to and she had the freedom to decline.

Question: Is it because of my dad?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 06:21 AM PST

My dad was an alcoholic and still is, but my mom divorced him when I was younger. I used to have visitations often but now that I'm older I don't want to see him anymore because he makes me extremely uncomfortable. My mom's friend had one too many last night and when we were in the car to go drop her off at her house, I felt this mix of anger and anxiety and sadness and just wanted to wind up my fist and punch her. Is this even normal? I hate it when any adult is drunk and I can't deal with it. Is it because of my dad?

Question: Bad gift ideas for my father?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 05:05 AM PST

My father says I'm a selfish person because I didn't like a book that someone gave me last year. He says that it's completely okay to give someone gifts you know they won't like, as long as you think they should have it. Also my father has been rude and awful to me my whole life and tonight we all have to pretend like we're a functioning family. I don't think my dad deserves the gift that I've bought for him and my mom, so I want to give it to my mom only and then give him a gift that he won't like. Any ideas?

Question: I'm having nightmares about my gf crying because what I did to her, how can I overcome this?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 04:36 AM PST

I took off my gf clothes when she was asleep, sick with high temperature and sweating. I started looking for other dry clothes in her room when she woke up and she realized she was naked she started crying asking me: why did you take off my clothes? I told her because she was wet and sweaty and she told me: why did you do this to me? There was no need to take off my clothes, I hate you... i feel so ashamed

Question: I can't process the fact that my brothers gone?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 02:31 AM PST

I watched him pass away last night, but I just still don't understand that he's gone. I still see him in my mind and I just don't realize that he's not coming back. Sometimes I have moments where I do, and I just break down, but afterwards I feel numb because I just don't understand. How do I realize and accept that he's gone?

Question: My 17 yr old daughter s boyfriend wants to pop the question and I m against it.?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 02:23 AM PST

I m not wanting this to happen, but I know they will do it if I m for it or no, I don t know what to do! My mom passed away February of 2016 so I don t have anyone else to get advice from what should I do to make sure this won t happen. . My daughter s dad left us when she was 3 days old, so I really need some advice on what to do. Please help..

Question: My dad is an abusive loser what do I do? He's destroying the family?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 01:40 AM PST

My dad is a GOLD DIGGER and a deadbeat loser, he's living off of my mom's money. He does not respect any of us at home. He has gotten violent towards me and everyone at home.He makes nasty jokes and comments about everyone at home and insults us all the time. My dad threw a trash can at my mom across the kitchen. My dad assaulted me twice this year. It was reported to the police but because he's the DAD, they listened to him more even though he BEAT ME. He refused to help me and was endangering my life during a medical emergency. He breaks things and would throw things away and misplace them, even though we had just bought them, he will toss it out or damage them. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. He doesn't love my mom and is only living with us because he wants half of the assets. He admits he does not care about me, my mom or my sister. When my mom needed to go to the hospital, he would get angry and very hostile and postpone taking her there. Me and my sister are young adults, is there a way for us to evict him ? Because he's married to my mom, he has partial ownership of the house. He has gotten very abusive and its getting worse. He's causing problems at home and my sister attempted suicide twice because of him. So how can I evict him? He has been unemployed literally for SEVERAL years and he even tries to get violent about taking my mom's money. He's SELFISH and he's stressing me out. I want to report this to the police that he got violent.

Question: Sister is getting an abortion?

Posted: 24 Dec 2017 12:58 AM PST

She's 20 and I'm 15. Honestly, I adore little kids and I really want to work them some day! Her and her boyfriend are here for Christmas and I overheard them talking about it with my mom. They're getting it done after Christmas and it's breaking my heart! I confronted my mom about it and all she said was that it was her choice and she wasn't financially stable enough to care for a child yet! My mom could totally help her with it despite all the difficulties. What should I do :(( She can't do this :(((

Question: Is it weird that I poke my stomach out when I hug my aunt?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 11:54 PM PST

So, have been hugging my aunt good bye after family meetings, like I would all my family memebers, and for about a year now I have been pushing my stomach out at hers while me hug. It's more of a joke, to me at least. But a while back after one of the family meetings I did this and then my mom said it was weird. I'm still confused about this and as to why it's bad. If anyone can tell me that'd be great cause I can't get any sleep while thinking that my family thinks I'm violating a memeber or something.

Question: Should I stay with my girlfriend if her family is really bad?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 11:43 PM PST

She said that her mother essentially bullies her. There was a period where I wasn't sure if I liked this girl in a romantic manner, and apparently her mother told her that I would like her more if she were skinnier. And her father used to laugh at her whenever she told him she loved him, claiming that she was lying. And he would essentially expect her to watch her sisters and physically harm her if she didn't do an adequate job. Her grandmother is messed up on meth, and her aunt stole valuables from her mother while she was going through chemo. Her mother and father have both had cancer multiple times, and her mother still has lymphatic cancer and cannot work. Her father is developing dementia and is currently providing for her family with a job at a factory. This is not providing enough money for them to even keep the lights on all the time, and she told me that they almost lost their home a few months ago because they couldn't pay for chemotherapy on time. She is talking about dropping out of school to take on many jobs to provide for her family. I keep insisting that she shouldn't because she is a senior with 1 semester left. She could make tons more with a high school diploma. 1. If I stick around and marry this girl, I can't picture ever letting my children around people like that. Can I marry someone if I can't accept her family? 2. What charities and government programs would help her family out? Surely, our advanced society wouldn't let her starve.

Question: Is it a sign of sexual exploitation if a young child wears revealing clothes?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 10:29 PM PST

Plenty of pre-teens and teens try to look like adults. Unfortunately, the media encourages them to do so. It could be that the parent doesn't approve but are picking their battles, but is it also a sign that they may be abused? There are signs of sexual exploitation, and I've read that one of them might be dressing age-inappropriately (or like an adult when they're still a child).

Question: To Parents, What is the funniest thing any of your children ever did?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 10:20 PM PST

Question: What if I just want absolutely nothing to do with my parents?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 10:18 PM PST

I am one of 4 sons born to a couple in Los Angeles, California. My parents love me no matter what. They show unconditional love to me. They had kids because they wanted children. But I don't want parents at all. I just want to fit them out of my life for good. I can't stand living in a single-gender home. There's no variety. There's nothing. I don't want anything to do with my parents and I don't want anything to do with my older brothers neither. I just want them to disappear from my life for good. I don't ever want to see them again. I tell them this, yet they keep calling me and sending me gifts and cards begging me to come back and I don't want them. I don't want them. I don't want them in my life. Just stop contacting me. And they won't! What do I have to do to cut them off forever?

Question: Why does my older sister want a relationship with me? Why?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 09:33 PM PST

She has twin baby sons to take care of. She doesn't need me. She has her own life.

Question: Why do I think my sister stinks?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 08:56 PM PST

My sister has bad oral hygiene. My mom says that when my sis speaks she stinks but otherwise there's no odor. Whenever she's near me I smell a foul scent. Her room stinks and when we're in the car together it stinks. I hate being around her because of it. She's always going out with friends and has a boyfriend. I'd guess she wouldn't hang out with them if she smelled bad.

Question: What should I do about this feeling?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 08:41 PM PST

It's Christmas time, and im very depressed because something happened between me and my mom that made her so angry I can't call her mom anymore. (I'm adopted by the way) and the rest of my siblings and me gathered at my sister's house for Christmas. (2 are my biological siblings, and the other two are my foster mom's children but she took care of all 4 so basically they're her children) I feel uncomfortable because they all know what happened and I still feel out of place. (So on thanksgiving I visited LA and I wanted to go to a movie with some of my childhood friends but she said no. SO I blew up on text messages with my friends saying all types of mean things about her which I didn't mean. I was just so angry. And what was crazy was that she read my messages when I didn't know and she found out what I said about her.) Im 16 by the way She was angry, and now its about to be Christmas and I feel so depressed and out of place because everyone is enjoying themselves when I, have to deal with this sadness and can't enjoy being reunited with my siblings for Christmas. ( PS: They are all older than me so I barely see them except the one I live with). What should I do? This whole time I just stay in the room by myself because I just can't bear to face her, or the rest. They seem to have let it pass since it's in the past but my mom is still angry and these uncomfortable vibes just encompass the whole house for me, while they enjoy themselves :(. Please, I need some advice :( Please answer soon someone because I really need advice and emotional support...

Question: My dad wanted a boy and I am a girl. What can I do?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 08:20 PM PST

Question: Should I move away to get away from my toxic Mother?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 08:20 PM PST

My Mom has done alot to m that she doesn't acknowledge. She lives off attention on herself. She always wants things her way. I'm constantly giving her money when she's only in her 40s she can work. But she wants all my money and don't care about what I have going on. She will like, steal to get what she wants. She don't want to see me happy. I want so bad to cut her off and heal because inside I'm broken and alot of it comes from her. I wanted to buy a home but know she'll try to stay with me. She's unstable living in hotels, she's not on drugs, just doesn't want to work and her husband can barely afford her. All in all I feel guilty because she's my mom. I hate the way I feel but I feel better when she's not around me. I've built my life on her happiness that I have none. She only wants me for gain and money and I'm tired of it. She only calls me when she needs something she never ask how I'm doing. She hates to see me succeed and be happy. Any advice?

Question: Can a person bury their family members on their private land?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 07:01 PM PST

Question: My friend from another state is getting abused and neglected. How can I help?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 06:48 PM PST

I'm in a chatroom with friends over Discord and one of my friends is constantly getting abused and neglected by his family. The other chatroom members and I have been begging (yes begging) for him to call the police or someone, but he's refusing because he basically lives off of his parents at 19 years old. I really want to help him, but he lives in a different state than me. Is there anyway I can help him?

Question: Where to move and best route to accomplish?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 06:43 PM PST

25 year old male and single father of one boy 17 months old. Within the next year i would like to move out of state. Have remodeling framing and landscape experience and enjoy the country and outdoors. Trying to find the right place to go. Currently live in ohio.

Question: My life is completely falling apart and I don't know what to do, please help?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 06:28 PM PST

I'm 19, a freshman in college, and probably feeling the same way many people my age feel, but that doesn't make it any easier. All of my life issues are hitting me at once and I've never felt so alone and depressed. Every day I contemplate suicide or just running away. Basically, I've suffered from depression for as long as I can remember. As a child I had anger issues, and whenever I spoke too much or gave my opinion, my entire family would yell at me and tease me. I was the black sheep in the family from birth. Now as a young adult, my family still ignores me and treats me like a useless child. My mother doesn't listen to me when I tell her about my depression; my siblings and her just gang up on me and tell me to get over it, as if that's possible. Since graduating high school, I've made no real friends at college, all my good friends from high school have forgotten about me. To be honest, though, I've never had a friend that needed/liked me as much as I needed/liked them. So both my friends and family push me away in the end. I've also never dated before as no guy has ever taken interest in me. I should say that though my mom is supportive of me and my goals; it's just that she only likes dealing with me when I'm happy. If I'm depressed, I'm a burden to her and the family's wellbeing. I'm so lost. I can't afford therapy and because I'm on my mom's insurance, it'd be up to her to get me it and that's not happening soon. I just don't know how to get through this.

Question: Abusive mother and grandmother make me suicidal :(?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 05:49 PM PST

I hate my mother and grandmother so much! My mother is an abusive narcissist. She treats me like Im roadkill. I get suicidal all the time because of how she treats me. I get bullied in college and I got bullied in high school, and it makes matters worse when I have to face my own mother's abuse. Im treated like Im nothing by her. She treats my siblings, especially my brother, like jewels. The other day when my older sister came home from work, who has been much nicer to me than anyone else in my family, started joking with me and I started smiling. Prior to this the whole day my mom was taking me for granted, commanding me to do this and that for her, as if I am her slave. And I was depressed because of it. Then when my sister makes me happy when she gets home from work, she comments about it. Later she goes behind my back and tells my brother how I make her feel like a bad parent because I only smile when my sister is around. She manipulates reality to make it seem like I am the wrong one for making her look like a bad parent! . But later, she is screaming at me, finding ways to intentionally hurt my feelings because she gets a joy from it. And NOBODY in my household even objects to it. They side with her. I really want to kill myself. Over the summer I was so happy to go to college to get away from this home, and I forgot all about it. Now that Im on winter break I remember why I so badly wanted to get away from here.

Question: Sister is getting more money for sweet sixteen.?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 05:38 PM PST

My dad is giving me sister 800 dollars more then me for her sweet sixteen. He's taking her and her friends to flordia for the week. My dad didn't take me anywhere for my sweet sixteen. My sister thinks I'm crazy for being upset about this. Every time I talk to him about this he just ignores me. Should I be upset or just let it go?

Question: I think my brother may smoke?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 05:12 PM PST

We aren't on the best relatiosn, but I'm still worried about him. He's only 15, and I don't want anything bad happening to him. I already know he hangs out with bad people, and if I tell my parents, they wouldn't react calmly and would definitely start yelling or maybe even hitting him. Please give me some advice.

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Posted: 23 Dec 2017 04:55 PM PST

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Posted: 23 Dec 2017 03:31 PM PST

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Posted: 23 Dec 2017 03:30 PM PST

A relative of mine has died and I helped her all my life and she always promised me that she would reward me for helping her but it turns out she was just using me this whole time and she left all of her stuff to her people who are closer related to her but never helped her. In her last couple of years she was living at my house and I was taking care of her. The only thing she left me was a funeral bill and now I feel like saying something awful about her tomorrow. Should I just not go instead? I feel like I need to say what I need to say about her.

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Posted: 23 Dec 2017 03:14 PM PST

Question: Why does my mom get mad over little things?

Posted: 23 Dec 2017 02:27 PM PST

I was in the living room on my laptop and my older brother was in the kitchen cooking fries (she was planning on cooking them with dinner tonight). I had NO idea he was doing this when it was happening but I smelled something, went into the kitchen and told him mom was planning on making those. Mind you, we had other fries (different kind). The fries my mom was planning on cooking were the ones my brother had cooked (the last bit of them). When I told her what happened, just to spare her the heart attack she'd have finding them herself, she got so angry. I told her I didn't know what he was doing until after the fact as I wasn't facing the kitchen. I told her that it really wasn't that bad considering there were other fries (I said it as nice as possible) and she said "yes it is". She then went on to have a pity party yelling at me telling me it was "my fault" (my brother also kept saying it was my fault even though HE DID IT) that he did this. I literally had no idea. HE'S the one who cooked them!! I know it's best to just let this go but this type of stuff happens too much and I always take the blame for stuff and I'm sick of it. So I explained my situation and she was being close-minded (as always) and just shut me off and told me to get out of her room. I tried to be open-minded and maybe see it from her point of view but, if I'm gonna be honest, they're just french fries and we had another bag of them and it's a really childish thing to be mad about. Am I wrong??