Family: Question: How do I move on from this?

Question: How do I move on from this?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:57 PM PDT

im 14 years old and I just found out that my dad shot his girlfriend and is in jail, i cant stop crying and idk how im gonna get past this. Im changing my name too. how am I supposed to focus on school and not flunk someone help me

Question: I'm 17 How do I file child support?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:55 PM PDT

My babys father won't do anything for her and is acting like she doesnt exist. So I have no choice but to file child support on him. He's an adult btw

Question: Outlet for aggression ?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:37 PM PDT

I think I've had this problem since childhood. I grew up and hung around the mean kids in school. I was bullied a good bit but I always fought back most of the time anyways. I was in a few fights I was always the outcast the one who stood up for his friends and I even got into fights for my friends. At the age of 13 I moved to a completely different area(I grew up in East LA then moved to southern Pennsylvania). As you can imagine this was a huge change for me and I could never fully adapt even to this day. I moved here and I could not stand the amount of racism I was facing. All through out middle and High School I was the outcast I slept through all my classes and through out all that time i payed no mind to anything. I barely graduated with a 1.3gpa. I have always felt like I could just set off at any given moment. For a while I would beat up my little brother who is a year and 3 months younger than me. I hate myself for this but i haven't layed a finger on him in more than 4 years now and our relationship is not very good we talk but very little. I have lived with him sharing a room my entire life with him. I haven't went off in a long time (about 6 years) But I feel like I could because I feel like it's still inside of me it's a weird feeling. I started meditating about a month ago but haven't meditated in about a week. It helps but I would like to hear opinions of other people who deal with aggression please help me.

Question: I paid for a ladies groceries and my parents grounded me for it?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:36 PM PDT

Hi. Let me cut right to the chase. So I'm a 16 year old guy going on 17 and I was shopping with my girlfriend and we were in the checkout lane and there was a lady in front of me and her credit card got rejected. She didn't have enough cash so I gave her my card to use. It seemed as if she needed it a lot more than I did. I got home and my parents asked me how it went and I told them what happened at the store. They immediately started yelling at me saying that I shouldn't be throwing around money like this and it is wrong that I did that. They went on to grounding Mr for a while. Personally, I think it is very rude and inconsiderate that they did this. Any opinions?

Question: I have two cousins I seldom see as their mother is mad at my mother, aunt, and uncles. So are these two cousins less significant?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:28 PM PDT

The other aunt and the two uncles have kids I see fairly often (5 or 6 times a year). Every Christmas we do with the other families and it is only this one aunt that we don't see the two kids of. We see her via our grandmother once a year but her husband and two kids haven't seen in three years. So does this make them less important of cousins or 2nd rate? Like should I feel less obligated to them? If I am ever in an outsider group like they are then am I less significant?

Question: How do I get my mother to let me see my grandfather? He is an alcoholic so she won't let me see him but I want to and its unfair I can't?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:28 PM PDT

How do I get her to stop punishing me because she is mad at her Dad. I want to see him and come to know him. I am 14 and she won't let me see him. She talks negative about him all the time (like daily) but expects us to respect her and our Dad. She makes a bad example. My two cousins get to see him and they say he is fine except he gets grouchy when he drinks and falls asleep. So how can I get my mother to stop punishing me because she is mad at him and let me see him? I am 14 and a boy. I am afraid he will die before I am old enough to see him without telling my mother as he lives an hour and a half away. I also feel guilty because my two cousins see him and my sister and I don't so I feel like I am unfaithful.

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:15 PM PDT

Okay. I'm a 13 year-old female. I watch: 1. Adina Rivers - My Tiny Secrets 2. Carlin Ross 3. lacigreen 4. mtvbraless 5. anakednotion 6. sexplanations Listen, I have been researching about my pain down there and I did try to go to dodson and ross (Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross's website) The parental locks stopped me. I'm fine with having parental locks on my phone and my parents going through my phone. But out of curiosity, will it still show up on the list of websites I've been to (in my phone)? If my parents see, I don't know if they'll be mad or not or take my phone away or not. But I'm really curious about things. Should I feel guilty? Should they take my phone away? What should I do?

Question: Just had the worst day of my life?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:12 PM PDT

It started last night, when I was supposed to stay with my dad, who I barely get to see anymore, but he told me I couldn't because he said he was going to get back from his friend's late, and I'd stay there tonight instead, so I stayed and got told off every time I use my phone. Today, I hadn't got to eat, and my dad had no actual cereal, so he said he'd get me something, but never did, and we ended up going to my other nans house to sort out their back room because my grandad is so ill he has to sleep there now, and there was no food there, either, then I was stuck there, bored, because he decided to start fixing lights and then we went to see my grandad, who's gone into respite at the moment, and he was throwing up, then we ended up going to a sh*tty pub because my dad decided to be cheap, and finally ate cake that tasted old, and then we got back to my dad's, where I was going to watch a TV show I'd been dying to watch all week, but he hadn't sorted the TV box out, even though he said I would, and to top it off I had to go back home because my grandad had to go into hospital and he didn't want to drag me round, but I didn't even get a choice. I've spent the last half hour crying out of anger and disappointment. What made it worse, was that he said we could do whatever I wanted today, so I wanted to just go into the city, have lunch, buy socks I desperately need and a birthday present for my best friend. I just don't know what to do, because I feel like sh*t so please help.

Question: I found 500$ in my moms room should I take a bill?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:11 PM PDT

My moms friend sent her 500$ but my mom said she is gonna return it but it s been hidden in my moms room for a week and I m thinking of taking a 100$. My mom never gives me money and school just started. Do u think Ima get caught ?

Question: My parents just got their home study done by cps. How long after cps does home study will they place my baby there?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:03 PM PDT

They told my parents that they need to speak with me and my hubby to make sure we want my parentd to keep him til we get our stuff done. We filled out the placement form and we're the ones who put their name on list.

Question: Should I Care About Making my Dad Proud?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:00 PM PDT

I know this might sound a little cheesy, but I honestly do care what my dad thinks of me, and whether he's proud of me or not. It just seems that anything I do is NEVER enough for him. I'm 13. I speak 4 languages: Arabic English Spanish (can communicate, read, write, and watch some telenovelas ;) French (can communicate, read, and write although a little crappy-ishly) Yet, it feels like that's not enough for my dad. He keeps telling me that I should become fluent in French, and make it more of a priority than Spanish. He knows I care more about Spanish, I tell him all the time, yet he keeps pushing me. Some kids my age can only speak one language . . . I get high grades, but even that's not enough There was even this ranking thing going around at my school according to students' grades and I got ranked 5th. When I told my dad, he was like: "Good, but why not 1st?". I get why he wants me to be first, but it my first year and term at that school . He should be happy I even got past the top 10. He's always pushing me and nothing I ever do is enough for him. He wants me to play sports, but I'm not interested in them. He doesn't get that. And it's not like I need to play, I'm really skinny. But even that's not good enough for him, he keeps pushing me to gain weight (and I'm positive that if I do that, he's going to tell me to lose some). The question is: I'm pretty proud of myself, and it seems like my dad never will be. So should I care? Thanks =)

Question: Is my mom abusing me? What should I do? sorry if it's long ( No negative comments)?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:00 PM PDT

I'm 16 years old. I lost my dad when I was 2 im depressed, I use to be so happy and everything has changed. I binge eat, I sleep all day I'm always tired and laying down. I always find myself crying looking at myself in the mirror. Okay so I won't say my momma is just horrible she feeds me takes care of me and my siblings my mom she buys us clothes takes us to school, do our hair buy us things she can be nice but when she is mad she is pure evil. She gets mad at me over the smallest things if I leave a paper laying around it's like she always come for me. I am so depressed and she makes it worst and doesn't even realize I'm depressed. She calls me lazy she calls me a slob(not true), a braud even sometimes she's close to call me a b word. Yesterday I asked her to use her Samsung tablet to fill out job apps. And she had left so I couldn't put it back in her room cause she locks her door but my little sister started using it I told no one to use it. The holder where u can hold it ,it cracked (not the screen) and my little sister did it. I told my mama she started yelling at me telling me she's tired of me, I'm lazy, irresponsible she kept saying with your stank a** (I dont stank ) she says I'm a irresponsible 16 year old then she slapped me pulled me by my hair on the floor and even punch me sometimes all i could do was cry and she kept yelling at me more saying some things that hurted my feelings and kept slapping me now i have 4 cuts behind my neck it hurt so bad.

Question: I don't know what to do?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:40 PM PDT

My dad is an alcoholic (my mom and dad are divorced) and I went to visit him last night to talk to him and my mom freaked out and called me a "liar" and that she was "disappointed in me". Now today they are getting in fights and the police have been called twice.. i said I don't wan't to be apart of this and she said "why don't you support this family for once." she started blaming me for this all because i went over last night.... now shes ignoring me and won't acknowledge me.... shes making me feel horrible... i know im an idiot but.... this has been going on for 5 years... I'm 14 and....

Question: How can I break it to my parents that I'm adopted.?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:39 PM PDT

I'm like the odd man out in my family. I am the only redhead in the family. Everyone else has a special talent, but my talent seems to be making my dad shake his head in disgust at me. So how do I break it to my parents that I'm not their biological son?

Question: I need help with my home situation?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:33 PM PDT

Basically, I very much dislike my mom and her boyfriend because they treat me like crap and I want to find a way to live with my grandmother. The only way that I can think of is adoption and I doubt my mom will give me up, so I need to figure out another way. Any suggestions?

Question: Please help me?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:30 PM PDT

So I ve been with my mom all my life. Only child, I spend a lot of time with my mom. I ve never spent the night away. I m going to college next year but I m starting to get scared because college is 4 hours away and I ve never been away from home. I m scared I ll have an anxiety attack but I want to move away and be on my own. I want to grow up and start living life. But since I ve never been on my own I don t know what to do. I don t know if anyone out here can relate to me but if you can please give me some advice in what to do. I m scared to be away from my mom and family because we re all so close but I want to go to college, travel, live alone but I don t know how I ll do it. I am so scared. Ugh. Please please help me someone

Question: My Mom gets mad when I see family she is mad at but I feel anxious when she does this. How do I get her to stop if she finds out who I see?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:26 PM PDT

I try to do it in secret but sometimes she finds out. How do I get her not to get mad, I get anxious when she does. I want to see aunts-uncles and cousins but my mother has grudges on her side of the family and held me back as a kid and as an adult gives me grief. Her family is fine and it is normal conflicts my mother keeps going. I think sometimes she may feel like an outsider. However, she causes me pain by forcing me as a kid to miss stuff.

Question: How do I get my sister to stop bossing me around. I am 31 and she is 18. She does it when we vacation?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:24 PM PDT

I dont live with her but when the family is vacationing in the summer she does it.

Question: I can't take it anymore?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:18 PM PDT

I just can't take it anymore. I'm usually a straight A student but lately I've been getting Cs and even an F on a math quiz. I don't have time to study anymore because my mom works all the time and I have to watch my brother as well as take care of the household chores. All my classes are honors or AP so that doesn't help the situation either. Im a junior right now and I know that grades from this year along with next year are tremendously important when it comes to college admissions. I want to become a doctor but I feel like such a failure. I'm also a new student at my school so I don't have any friends or a support system. I feel so depressed and unmotivated. My parents are also divorced so I don't see my dad often (usually once a year for 2 weeks but he visits when I have school. I basically see him for a total of 5 days if you add up all the hours I'm with him out of the two weeks) He's also in the military, so he's constantly on the move and in different plac

Question: My parents are getting a divorce. Advice PLEASE?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:10 PM PDT

My dad cheated on my mom, she said she didn't care about him, and found out that he's married to another woman. He hurt her physically and mentally. I am afraid to be with my dad and I have no option. My mother treats me better, I'm only 16 I feel like I should have never been born. I still have to know that everything happens for a reason. It's really hard for me, I don't know what to do, I feel a lump in my throat once I think about it.Please don't tell me divorces are common, implying they're not that big of a deal. I heard my dad saying to the other woman " We will have better children. ". That really hurt me like hell, he did it in the room. I heard it but pretended like I didn't my dad thoguht I did not hear anyhting I am really in a rare situation that most don't experinece I can't tell any friends or relatives about this, because my friends don't care and I am too shy to tell my relatives, I am a very quiet person, hence why I came here in the first place to ask for your advice. I don't think I can study anymore, I feel like my future would go disarrayed. They almost never talk to each other, if they ever do it's quarreling. They don't do what couples do, kissing/hugging. That affects my life, I feel kissing/hugging is weird, but infact I AM the obvious odd one here. I can't talk to them about this, because I am too shy and awfully quiet, I just can't. I know it's not my fault at all, because of what my dad did.

Question: If you were an deadbeat dad?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 11:20 AM PDT

I know this is random 😂😂, but if you were an deadbeat dad what would make you feeo bad for not being in your childs life?

Question: Bad relationship with my dad makes other relationships hard?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 11:17 AM PDT

I have never ever been close to my dad and my two brothers & mom know this. My older brother is like my protector and if anything, he is my father figure & the one I look up to. It's just whenever I try to sort of have a relationship with a boy, I end up pushing them away and getting scared because I haven't been taught anything from my dad. I hate it because I could be going out with this great guy but I don't want to be affectionate or anything romantic like. My dad has never been affectionate (He's never told me "I love you", hasn't given me a hug in the past year and the closest we get to talking is saying "hey, how was your day?")so whenever a boy gives me attention, I don't react the same, it's almost seems cheesy to me but I want to be affectionate and show someone that I care romantically about them. I just enjoy being by myself,I'm extremely independent and easy-going, so whenever I boy shows massive attention I freak, what do I do? Please help

Question: How should I ask my boyfriends mum if I can move in?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 11:02 AM PDT

So my boyfriend lives in a different country than me and I ve just gotten back from visiting him and his family. But it s made me realise that I don t really have any goals or anything where I live. I want to go back and work over there, it s not really the job I want to move for but rather the chance of lifestyle. His family and I get along really well and his mother even offered whilst I was over there that I should stay and get a job there. I would only be staying until Decemeber and I would of course pay bored and what not. But I just want some advice on how I should bring it up to her and how to ask, such as what to say etc...?

Question: My parents won't let me get a job?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 11:00 AM PDT

In four months, I will be 18. I am almost an adult, and it is time I start making adult decisions. But how can I do that if my parents won't even let me start by getting a job? Are my parents in the wrong here?

Question: MY PARENTS WANT ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA PASSWORDS AND PASSWORD TO MY PHONE AND WANT TO INSTALL PARENTAL CONTROLS?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:56 AM PDT

Help, my parents want access to all of my private stuff. I'm 13, and being so they don't believe in children's privacy. I kind of have a bad rep with them. I lie, a lot about this stuff. Ex: "Son do u have any social media? Me: No I deleted it" When I really didn't. I think they are trying to uncover my secrets. They also read my texts or try to. I also have a snapchat that I don't need them seeing despite the fact all snaps get deleted. And I have a secondary insta acc where I just talk trash about being grounded and stuff and how strict my parents are. Sounds a lot like invasion of privacy, heres the thing. They don't believe in invasion of privacy for children.

Question: I don't know what to do... please help!?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:55 AM PDT

Okay so first I will tell you the situation, In the house we have 4 people living here ( my mom, my brother, my step dad, and me) my mom has worked hard her whole life for me and my brother. My step dad was a good "dad" for being my non biological dad but the last 6 ish years he has not worked.. he has got jobs but then he gets his feelings hurt then quits... he has been living off my mom for years and that in turn puts a lot of stress on my mom and it got so stressful that she became sick and depressed. My step dad would encourage her to stay home pretty much eveyday and she did... she has now lost her job but in still supporting everyone. She says she feels like the stress is going to kill her eventually... and no one wants to her their mom say that (Tbh: if my mom didn't love him so much for some reason I would have beat the **** out of him and made my mom chose between me and him.. but she loves him so I don't want to put that pressure of that decision)

Question: How can I calm my sister down ?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:37 AM PDT

Me and my sister were watching the movie Flight 93. She said it's really scary. I didn't know it was gonna be scary for her I never seen it. She hasn't either. It showed the hijackers on the plane having knives and stabbing people. She likes scary movies but she doesn't like them actually showing killing people. She said she never wants to go on an air plane again. She was on one when she was 3 and hasn't been on one since. She said that on cartoons they don't show planes crashing or being hijacked they make the flight it look so easy. She said she's gonna have nightmares tonight. I didn't mean to scare her I didn't know it would have this stuff in it. I'd thought it be like the World Trade Center she loves that movie. I asked her if she wants to watch that or a different movie she said she's watched all her movies a thousand times they're all boring now. She said she's really mad at me. She said next time we watch a scary movie to make sure it doesn't actually show killing in it first. She's not sure if she wants to watch another movie with me or not. She's really freaked out. How can I calm her down ? Would it be ok to sleep with her tonight ?

Question: My Sister has a taser and I'm worried?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:34 AM PDT

My sister is going to the army soon, so she's coming back to live with us until her ship date to leave to the army comes, but she's so reckless and she gets things she absolutely doesn't need. Like pepper spray. That's fine. Don't mind it. But yesterday she showed me and my mom that she purchased a TASER. Electric shocking device and everything. I'm worried about her, and myself now. It bothers me since she just got one to just boast about having one. I'm scared that one day I'll end up being tased or that she might accidentally tase herself when playing with it. I just literally do not see the point of her having one when she's going to the army soon. My plan is, to avoid her at all cost when we're alone in the house. And another thing, my sister doesn't take "No" easily. If she wants to show you something "cool" and you decline, she'll keep begging and bickering and whining until you cave in. I don't want her to show me that thing and I end up being taxed! What can I do?

Question: I live in a small house with 5 other people. I need to go somewhere without someone. My room is out because I share one. Where do I go?!?!?!?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:31 AM PDT

Question: Should I ask her for a date?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:28 AM PDT

I am the president of a compute club. One of our members is a 15 year old girl Amanda. She is smart, pretty (think a young Christie Brinkley). She is the nicest person you will ever meet and wants to learn everything there is about computers. She is the kind of a person every parent wants as a child. At out meetings usually her mother brings her to the meetings and since she lives on my way home I take her home. On our way to her house she keeps asking me to date her mother. She has told me many times that she would be the happiest girl in the world if she could call me dad. I am not sure I want to do this. Her mother at age 35 is 10 years older than I am. However her not married mother is beautiful. I guess it runs in the family. Do you think it is even possible a 35 year old woman would want to date a 25 year old man? My impression of her mother the few times I have talked to her is she also a very nice person. I don't want to embarrass either Amanda or her mother by asking her mother for a date and causing a problem. Advice please. Especially if you are a 35 (or close) year old woman. I would be happy to have Amanda as a daughter if things worked out. Her mother would really be a trophy wife.

Question: My dad said he hated me...?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:17 AM PDT

My dad and I got in an argument over the fact 5th place was good in my swim meet. He said it was bad, but I said it was good considering we beat 3 other teams, and I've only been swimming 3 weeks. Eventually I just gave up with the argument, and sat in my room watching some tv, when he came in and threw my medals to the ground and said he hated me and I was a disappointment, and my brother always gets first, so I should be like him. It hurts... Bad? Am I in the wrong? He left an hour or so ago and hasn't been back.

Question: Can my sister get in trouble for scamming in-game pixels?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 10:08 AM PDT

My 14 year old sister scams online pixels in a kids game. She knows that scamming money is illegal so she doesn't do that but can she or my parents get in trouble for scamming pixels in the game as well? She offers pixels for pixels and makes the person give their pixels to her first then she just logs off without giving the pixels she promised.

Question: My mother is mentally ill and doesn t accept or want medical help. What to do?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 09:56 AM PDT

I have a brother who is at university studying. We live together with my mother. I have a very stressful job with long hours. My father "left " my mother and this is what triggered her illness. She thinks my brother and myself support my father in his decision. She thinks people are spying on her and want to kill her. She constantly make noise(torture us mentally),swears and today both my brother and myself lost our calm and patience. It is very hard and challenging and I am afraid my brother or myself can do something irreparable. Commit suicide or hurt her. Please advise. Thanks

Question: 19M and I'm unhappy with where I am in life but I don't want to hurt my relationship with my parents.?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 09:48 AM PDT

I'm 19 now and growing up I started playing basketball and I got quite serious about it. This literally consumed much of my life and the majority of my parents lives. They spent thousands and thousands of dollars on me so that I could play and I spent countless hours in the gym. My dad called tons of coaches trying to get me recruited and spent an arm and a leg so that I could get into a special school for sports. When I was at the school I had character issues and acted like a brat a few times but the coaches said "hey we can give you the benefit of the doubt because we understand why you acted like that the few times you did." I end up getting recruited and now I'm at a high level school but I'm starting to see that I'm not happy. I feel as if I should just keep my mouth closed because of everything that people have done for me and it's only a few years. But I look and say it's my life and I'm just unhappy where I'm at. I feel like if I said that I was unhappy everyone around me would be like "really dude you're blah blah blah." What should I do?

Question: My parents planned my birthday around my twin and not me?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 09:45 AM PDT

Alright, I don't want to sound bratty here, but my parents are taking my sister and I up to new york (about an hours drive) to see a musical for our 16th birthday. I like the occasional musical here and there but it really isn't my thing. It's not typically what I'd enjoy doing, especially on my 16th birthday. We just moved so we don't really have friends and can't really have a party so we're going out. Yes I know it's a broadway musical and that's really cool and I feel really bad because it's expensive but I just don't care about musicals. My twin, on the other hand, lives for them, she really likes them and knows all the words to every single one you could think of, so she's really excited, I'm just not. I can't help but feel that my parents planned our birthday around her and not me since we're not doing anything that I like?? We were going to a really nice place for dinner that I was excited about, but since my twin has homework that she hasn't been doing, we're skipping that to come home and let her finish. I don't want to sound spoilt, but I just feel kinda bummed about my 16th birthday, because those are a big deal but it's not going to be exciting or fun for me. Thoughts?

Question: How to deal with family that are haters?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 09:25 AM PDT

Whether it be your mother, your aunts, cousins. I have a very negative family and i want to be happy and live a good life so im working on that. Alot of my family members are bullies, all they do is put people down, gossip etc I dont bother with most of them

Question: Called DFYS on neice and nothing has happen. After three different calls?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 09:12 AM PDT

My relatives and I have been calling on my neice about the care and concern of my great neice. Her mother is neglecting this child. She looks flithy, she leaves her with anybody. The other day there was a picture of the child a 1 year old on the air mattress in the corner, with a open electrical socket, no cover. Her feet were black and the mom smokes weed around the baby. They move around so much, we can never keep track of her where abouts and to make matters worst, the baby doesn't have a pediatrician and no immunization other than the first ones she had when she was born. Can someone please tell me how long it takes for them to go out. I've given them a list of addresses and they've said, they couldn't find her but now we have a exact location and they won't go out!!! I'm so sad and frustrated. She's neglecting this child

Question: How do I convince my parents to get me netflix and how much does it cost a month?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 08:47 AM PDT

Question: How to move out with no car, no money, no job?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 08:44 AM PDT

I'm at a breaking point with my mother at this point. She's over-controlling, overbearing, overprotective, verbally abusive. I'm done living with her completely, but I'm 17, turning 18 in about 2 wks. I'm looking to apply for jobs once I turn 18, but I also live in ny where a studio apt goes for a minimum of 1k. In addition to that, I'm a full-time student at my community college and go 4 days a week, 3 classes a day. Any time I've brought up moving out into a friend's house, my mother's threatened to call both my friend and their parents, which I want to avoid. The worst thing is that she's getting remarried at the beginning of next month, I'm the maid of honor, and expected to move into my step-dad's house. What should I do??? I have enough money saved up to where I could buy a car in the near future, especially with a new job. But first I need to wait for my mother to pay me back, as she needed to borrow money to fund her wedding. Also, my brother lives in San Diego, but he lives in his car. Once he gets his living situation figured out, I don't know if maybe moving with him might be a good idea, assuming I could switch my college classes to be online.

Question: How do I get my mother not to be mad that I am friends with my Dad who she doesn't like (her ex-husband)?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 07:56 AM PDT

She is always mad about this I can tell. She insults him all the time and gets mad at me if I can't make it to something she wants me to go to because I am doing something with my Dad. I do a lot more with my mother so it is not like I am with him more. I am 16 and live with my mother, I see my Dad about once a month. I am a boy. I was 8 when my parents divorced

Question: Was my dad right?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 07:46 AM PDT

I know he means well... But I just really don't like him! I told him he was nosy about getting into my life, and he said that's what good parents do. I can agree upon that, but he pushed the limit of being nosy. He wanted to know what happen with my relationship with my bf and I told him I didn't want to talk about it, then he just keeps asking(can he not take a hint?). Then we just get into the subject of school, etc. But mostly how I don't try new things, and stay inside most of the time on my electronics. Yes I get the fact that it's unhealthy and I know I mostly only do things that I want! I get that I'm selfish sometimes. I get that I don't live up to your(his)expectations. And I get that I'm not like "normal" people in this world. But that's me! I live and control my own life. You're just here to try and point me in the right direction, but I just don't agree with your(his)views.

Question: How to get custody of my nephewin Pennsylvania?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 07:41 AM PDT

How can I get my nephew back? Ok so my nephew is 7 years old and ive raised him from when he was an infant ive even had to give up my job to take care of him his mom was 14 and my bro was 16 when she got pregnant and pretty much both just wanted to be young and i ended up with the baby all the time his mom even called me when i was working 9 times one day cause she wanted me to take the baby so she could go party that weekend anyway fast forward my bro ended up with full legal custody over my nephew but i was raising him and we have a mother child bond that my nephews mom has always been jealous of anyway my mom played a huge part financially helping me with my nephew we lived with her recently my mom developed an alcohol problem and basically abandoned me and my nephew we lost our home because she stopped paying rent and basically cys got involved and took my nephew from my mom and placed him with his bio mom and she won t let me see or talk to my nephew i live in pennsylvania i need advice on how to get my nephew back yes i have somewhere im living now any advice is appreciated his mom is very unfit she beats him and when he was about 3 months old she dropped a ps2 on his head and didnt tell anyone until hours later and i could go on, my nephew hates his bio mom and when i did see him it was once since this happened he begged me to bring him with me and told me he hates it there and cant take it anymore it broke my heart

Question: My mom NEVER lets me go out my by myself?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 07:37 AM PDT

She never lets me leave the house by myself ever since we moved from the great City Of Toronto to the shitty town of Saint Albans. I'm mostly allowed out with my brother, who I despise. She complains about me being overweight and he calls me a pig, but then I'm stuck in the house after school and I can't do anything about it. I'm extremely introverted and don't have many friends to go out with either, and my friends don't even live near me so I can't ever go out with them. Right now I'm on my period so lounging around is the last thing I want to do. I have $33 and I want to go spend it but I can't because I'm stuck indoors. What can I do to convince her to let me go out and have a life?

Question: How would you describe your mother's personality?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 07:10 AM PDT

Question: My gf wants to give money everymonth to her parents in the future.?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 06:59 AM PDT

Me and my gf is dating for about 4years now...We have happy relationship we talked about getting married,go to different places,having two kids and buy a big house with swimming pool...But when we talked about what we re going to do with the money,she said that she wants to support her parents with money everymonth...Even if they still can work and healthy...I think they dont need the everymonth support because they can still work and not that old...My plans is to use our money to full support our future kids and to save money so money won t be a problem in the future...I also told her that my parents agreed with my future plans because I need to support my own family first...I also have plans to give support to my parents but not monthly and take them to a trip around the world sometimes...I told her we re not going to let anything happen to them...She told me they are her family and I don t understand her feelings...But my mother and her mother have the same experienced about supporting their family and end up having problems with money...Now her family are angry with my future plans...She still dont understand that we need to change how to use money...What do you guys think?Am I wrong? Sorry if I have wrong in grammar...

Question: Why do I feel uncomfortable hugging my dad?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 06:47 AM PDT

It just feels weird to me. It's always forced on my end. I never really want to hug him. And I do love him of course but whenever I hear those words from him I don't like it? It just makes me uncomfortable. I'm 20 and the majority of my life my dad was physically present but never there for me because he was in and out of mental hospitals and just didn't know how to be a parent. Could that be why or am I just weird? I have no problem with affection towards other people.

Question: Am I wrong for being mad?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 06:15 AM PDT

I broke the top part of my phone screen a while back then my cousin broke the whole screen he knows where to get replacements for free so I asked him for one then he said to get it myself and I told him he broke most of it then he said it was already broken he doesn't even need to go anywhere to get it he can get it delivered to my front door and it will take him like 5 minutes to do I already don't really like him anymore or talk to him I only really talked to him to ask for the screen am I wrong for being mad that he won't get me the screen or am I just being petty thanks for reading

Question: My father is an alcoholic and I am sad by it. Al-Anon says I can't change him but does that mean I should give up all hope?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 06:14 AM PDT

He has been this way over 20 years

Question: What do you do with a terrible mother in law?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 05:57 AM PDT

God...I can't even. I never even met her personally, but she says really mean things about my family...constantly through email and fb. I told her it's hurting me and she should apologize but then she doesn't write back. It's so bad its ruining the relationship with my husband. I don't know her personally...but she seems to hate my family just because we are kind of poor and her family isn't. .....I can't ignore her, because my husband takes our son over there to visit so I'm stuck talking to her. She won't give me updates...about my son...always goes through trouble just to make my life stressful. .......... I would just completely not bother talking to her and block her off everything, (she sends my mom nasty emails and now my aunt too...and she doesn't even know them!). Also, my husband loves his mom (...so) yeah, I am kind of stuck because he likes to take our son there for visits. It's like she wants me and my family out of the picture because my mom and family are kind of poor. :( They have a mansion. I wish she'd just leave my family alone or at least be kind. I tried talking to her, she..honestly is cruel. She literally treats me like a piece of dog crap on someone's shoe.

Question: Was my mum being mean or I just misunderstood her?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 05:08 AM PDT

Once me and my sister were arguing. I called her "fat". Now my sister certainly isn't fat and was never fat - she is tall and slender. The thing is, I had struggled with my weight all my life and it's actually my sister who calls me "fat" on a daily basis. I called my slender sister "fat" as a defence mechanism and also so my sister understands my hurt feelings. My mum overheard and said to me: "the only person who needs to watch their weight is YOU" Shocked and hurt, I said: "Oh, thanks" and tried to laugh, like, you know, "ehh heh heh". Like I said, I struggle with my weight, and had to endure bullying from school kids and my sister, throughout my teens - and you know teens can be hypersensitive about their appearance.

Question: My daughter is changing my sons dipear should she be able to touch and fix his penis or should she leave it as is?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 03:56 AM PDT

Question: How Do I confront this situation and my wicked Relatives and Kin?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 03:54 AM PDT

Hi, My male cousin is 3 years older than me, some years back when he was in class 11th and i was in class 8th he used to live with us as he was studying in the same city, when i was around 15 years one day when he and me was alone, he asked me to suck his dick and tried to forced me into sex but when i refused and protest he got violent, he over powered me and butt ****** me and threatened me not to tell any one other wise he would reveal this video to everyone, at first i could not dare to tell about this anyone in my home, but after some day i told this all to my family, but since my cousin's father has much influenced over my family so nothing more happened, they just scolded my cousin and he left my home, thought i didn't want still this incident got spread over my entire family and this got me lots of trouble and embarrassment, now 4-5 years has been passed and now again he has started in coming to my other uncle's home again, since my other male and female cousin also know all this so sometimes the annoy and tease me when he comes to their home and some weeks ago one of my other cousin showed me that the same video clips in which he was raping me and i got nervous and i tried to forget again about this but some days before i was just checking my sister's mobile for songs and i found same video in my sister's mobile !!! WHICH MADE ME SO SHOCKED AND PERPLEXED AND SPEECHLESS. what i do now ?

Question: I had an uncle that bullied me as a kid. Is it normal I am still scared of him years later (he is 88 now)?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 03:48 AM PDT

He would do things like he had me spit on my hand and touch an electric fence. Another time he held me under the water in a pool only for about 10 seconds but still to a 8 year old this is dying. He had 3 kids of his own and he didn't do it to them but he screamed at them all the time (two of them turned out messed up). This was the days before you could call CPS or anything. The uncle stopped when I was about 10 and moved on to another nephew on his wife's side (the one who is a psychologist now). So is it normal? Will it pass when he dies? He is frail now and has Alzheimers.

Question: My 1 month year old son needs to be changed and my wife is working and I am very busy should my 14 year old daughter do it?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 03:42 AM PDT

Question: My dad is abusive?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 02:54 AM PDT

my dad is always mean to my mom and always raises his hand ike he is gonna hit her, he had hit her in the past... everytime they nfight I have to yell at him to stop. I get nervous and scared and I dnt want my little bro seeing tht. and lately he been doing same thing to me. when my father get drunk he would start yelling at me and raising his hand like he gonna hit me. he have never hit me before he don t believe in it but he fights me like I m my mother. idk what to do I m scared he will hit me one day..my mom had to pull him back before he walked up to me like he was gonna hit me. idk what to do..

Question: My parents are always teasing me it's hurting my emotions. I don't like them i want to walk away from everyone?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 02:49 AM PDT

Question: My mom wants me to find a good husband, but where?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 02:01 AM PDT

Tonight, my mom and I were talking about guys. She told me to find someone reputable and who has a good job. I told her recently that I liked a guy that works at this store and at first she said maybe I should go for him. Tonight though, she told me to not go for him and to keep looking because he is not going to have enough money for the future. I work in retail. I am a 24-year-old female and my mom thinks it's time I start thinking about the future and finding a man who has money so that we can have a house and kids. I still don't understand why she cares about this so much but she claims it's important to have a good foundation. She says I set my standards way too low, I practically go for anyone, and that I am thinking a lot younger than I really am. She says I'm smart, etc. and that I should be with a guy who is also smart, etc. but I would have no idea where to find men like that. All the men I know don't work or work at low-income jobs. I told her it is impossible to meet someone that has a good profession unless I work in the same field too. She keeps telling me it's not but I think it is impossible unless you're maybe introduced by a friend to someone. She told me that she had a friend who had a family that only introduced her to eligible bachelors because her family never let her go with just any guy. My friends and family though don't know ANYONE that could be good for me. Why does my mom care about this?? and how can I find men like this?

Question: I'm 19 and my sister(guardian) is being overprotective I don't know how to tell her I don't like it.?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:29 AM PDT

So I'm 19 years old I crashed my car in April of this year and my sister who was my guardian and (who I live with now) paid to semi-fix my car now she doesn't let me take my car out only to do things for her and for me to go to work I've recently started to pay her back since I lost my job before I crashed and now she holds it over me she said she doesn't care about the money but then why is she acting like I need to pay her back before I can get my freedom. Before I crashed I didn't have a curfew I was able to go out I was able to go to friends houses and hang out now I can't even drive to the store around the corner. Can someone please explain why you think she does this.

Question: My husband let his cousin (only met once) sleep over without my knowledge. Did I overreact?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 01:26 AM PDT

My husband's cousin "Jon" (age 22) came into two from another state for the week, staying at their grandma's house spare bedroom. He never even knew this cousin existed until this week. We met him for less then 15 minutes. Jon was really rude and disrespectful towards me when we met. He criticized me for my 7-year-old son's clothes being mismatched (saying "don't you know how to dress your kid right?") and then told me that I was a "lazy mom" because I was letting my son watch a video on my phone to keep him occupied. I asked Jon if he had any kids and he told me "no, I never want kids. They are annoying as hell." He didn't say this in a joking or sarcastic tone. I work graveyard hours while my husband stays home with my son (my son is from a previous relationship). When I came home Saturday morning from work, Jon was crashed out on my couch and the living room stank of his BO. You could tell he hasn't showered in a long time. My husband never asked me or told me if Jon could stay over. I got mad at my husband and said I didn't feel comfortable with random people we hardly knew staying the night, especially with my son in the house and especially without me knowing about it. I explained how Jon was rude and disrespectful when we first met him. My husband said I was overreacting about Jon since he is his cousin. Jon didn't even have a reason for staying over, it was "just because he wanted too". He might be his cousin, but we still don't know him. Am I overreacting? Came into town** for the week, not came into two.

Question: My bf doesn't like my dad because he told him to step up an be a man an get a real job but his mother talk **** about me all the time?

Posted: 11 Sep 2016 12:36 AM PDT

Its to the point neither of our parents aren't allowed at our house. I respect his mother she's just not allowed over because he won't let my dad cone over how should I handle this? IDC about his mom, my bf works part time at Wendy's making 600$ a month and our rent us 800 not including expenses for our kids an we always borrow money from my dad. And my dad don't mind he just wants my bf to step up. What should I do? How to I fix/handle this?