I also have children so I'm okay with him having kids. I've known him for a year and we were very well acquainted and we just get along. Six months ago, my divorce finalized so we started going out as friends. I knew he has a rocky relationship and I was there for emotional support. Unfortunately, he just disclosed that his ex is pregnant with his kids (twins). He may have cheated on his ex with me and I'm not sure if I'll be okay with it. The thing is I'm so inlove with him that I want to turn a blind eye. But it's obvious he still spends time with her and she'll need him for his kids. They're not married... but still.

I know it's very shallow to break up with someone over a child. However, when we were dating, I specifically told him I'm not sure if I'm willing to date someone with a child because it makes matters complicated over financial and personal issues and he didn't say a thing. I found out over his "other" facebook account. His ex tagged his pictures with their child on it bearing the same last name. I am so angry that he lied and it took me a year to find out. He often makes excuses for not seeing me over some weekends. I realize now that he spends them with his son.How to cope and how to confront. He foesn't know that I'm aware.

We were acquainted and we used to talk. We even talked about doing things together. Several months ago, I was coming in and he was leaving. I tried to make eye contact to say Hi nut he kept walking like I didn't exist. I never spoke him after that. I would sometimes wave at him but that's about it. I know that he's not interested in me and I accept that. But I hate him. I still get to see him and it makes it harder to move on. I have a boyfriend now. My crush came around one time to say Hi but I think he's only doing so to serve his ego.... knowing that I'm now dating someone else. How do I deal with unrequited love?

I started talking to this guy I went to culinary school with some years ago. We've live in the same state, but like two hours apart. We have been making plans to see each other and maybe things will progress and we'll start dating. Anyway, this guy knows my ex and he was too much of a gentleman to hit on me while I was with him, even though he liked me. And I like how he didn't try to make me his second choice after he met his child's mother and things didn't work out and he didn't try to get with me right after I broke up with my ex. He's been patient and got that I needed time. The thing is I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and I implied that I haven't had sex or dated in soooooo long, but I've dated and had sex with a few guys and girls since my ex. I said that because I wanted him to know that he could be my soulmate and in a guy's eyes, he'll think "hey, she has not been with anyone in so long, so I know if she dates and sleeps with me, she's pretty selective and does not just give her time and love to just anyone." As opposed to "of course she'll date me and have sex with me. It's an everyday thing for her, nothing big." To be honest, I do not date or sleep with just anyone, but I overexaggerated how long it's been to make this work with this new guy. Was this wrong or does the end justify the means?

Like as a minor of divorced parents with split custody could I go to court and divorce a parent so the other has full custody?

I can't find a husband for the life of me, and I feel like giving up hope sometimes. I'm a college graduate, and I've had a career as a professional guitarist, an English teacher, and a medical interpreter but I look at that empty ring finger on my hand and then see myself as a four year old tot. Most of my friends have husbands and wives, and I feel like a little girl and not a woman. My mother treats me like a child, and I feel like my I.Q. is 70 points lower than it would be if I had a wedding ring. I have tried and tried to find a husband but I fail so much that I feel like a serious loser. I got rejected from eHarmony because I'm apparently not relationship material. So, I don't have any chance of finding love because I'm not good enough. My cousin's ex wife who was a slut and cheated on him with every guy in the state of Texas got accepted on eHarmony and I didn't. I'm a nice girl, and my friends say I'm attractive, witty and smart, and I have dreams in life of making everyone proud and being the best daughter ever. I worked my way through college and feel like I deserve good things and I'm so frustrated because I know so many women who are bitches who have husbands and I'm a nice girl but I don't. What hurts is the way that people treat me like a child. My mom says that she sees me as a baby because I'm not married and it hurts so bad I would rather be physically tortured.

How is it to be separate from your husband and handle everything on your own. Do you work? How do you balance it? Do you regret separating?

Married 6 years so eight years ago she was my fiancé. She kissed one of her best friends ( male ) when I was out of the country. She has apologized numerous times and we've not comeaccross the man again. However, I am still insanely angry and cant seem to trust her. We had been together for 5 years it just makes me feel sick when I think of it and now every time she goes out,in the evening with friends its difficult for me. im also very keen on meeting this man again in order to put things straight, im sure after a fight I would feel somewhat cleansed. am I wrong to still harbour such hatred and mistrust?

I have been with my current partner for 10 years. He was married and widowed young leaving him with then 4 and 7 years old children to bring up by himself. He had a difficult time due largely to the fact his wife was a black and american.The only real interests they had in their father was when he did stuff for him, so he spoiled them rotten.When I met them they were 15 and 12 years old, a surly boy and moody girl. They took an instant dislike to me&read the situation racially. When our first child was born soon after, they refused to come home from boarding school to see her.This hurt me very much&my partner promised to have a talk with them, but the talk was unproductive. They said in no uncertain terms in my presence they would NEVER have a white kid as their brother or sister. Rather they were only interested in the half-siblings they had from their mum's previous relationship who are several years older than them&they had little contact with. To my horror my partner said he understood their feelings&APOLOGIZED for fathering our daughter without consulting them first! It has been hell since. He gives those entitled spoiled brats everything they want, though they deserved nothing by their behavior, and they still are not satisfied. He is not their father. He is their walking wallet and whipping boy!I'm seriously considering taking our 3 young kids&leaving Belgium for good to go back to go back to Latvia or elsewhere in the EU because of his spoiled overindulged brats! You can imagine how annoying it gets to continously here "If Mammie(what his son calls his mother) was really the love of your life, why are you trying to forget her? Are you ashamed of her? Ashamed of us?" and here my partner beg forgiveness saying how wonderful his dead wife is and how he never wants another woman like he wanted her! I understand perfectly how he loved this woman but when is he going to love&cherish our children and I as he does that black woman&her mulattos?! It's intolerable And our relationship is longer than his marriage to his dead wife, because they were only married for almost 8 years whereas our relationship is now 10 years long. I feel I deserve his committment by now and he should tell his adult brats that their mother is dead and will never come back, so perhaps if don't like the life he gives in Europe in Belgium they should move to her homeland, United States and leave us alone to happiness! They are 22 and 25 years old and should grow up already! I should add that our children are 9 years old girl, 6 years old girl, and 5 years old boy. My partner and I are not married, because he is too afraid that his brats will hate him. How dare he be happy with a European White woman when he chose to marry their negress mother they think!

You get married,give birth to few kids, work hard to rise them.finally they threw you in a nursing home when you need them

My cousin in AZ was married but separated from his wife for over 5 years. He lived with his mother. He died last week. His wife wants to come into my aunts home and take his clothes and belongings. Can she do that? My Nina doesn't want her inside her home.

I texted a guy and asked how he was doing. We're not friends, only acquaintances. He replied within the hr, and said my name with an exclamation point, and told me about his summer. He seemed happy to talk to me. We small talked and he asked me ques. Then he said 'I'm going out of town this weekend but maybe we can hang out afterwards?' I said great, text/call when you're back. He said, I will. Would he bring up meeting if he wasn't interested?

I've always thought my parents have had a good marriage. They love each other, never fight, and rarely ever argue. My parents kind of do their own thing, though, they don't spend much time together. My dad watches tv all day, and my mom sits on the computer. They act more like roommates than a married couple. I mean they say "I love you" and kiss when my dad comes home from work; but I never see them holding hands, cuddling, or going on dates like couples normally do. The last time they went on a date was when I was around 7 years old. I'm 20 now. Yes, I still live at home. I'm getting to that stage of life when I'm trying to decide if marriage is something I really want. Honestly, I don't know. If marriage means you don't do the same things you do when you are in a realtionship, I don't think I really want it. Marriage seems to make the passion behind the love dwindle. Are all marriages like this? Juanald: I'm not a loser, I'm getting an education. I will be moving out when I'm done with my degree. You're the loser for judging others. No, the passion should always stay. Marriage is the same thing as dating, just more legal stuff.

Assuming he is financially fine.

I am 22 and I just feel like I should have done met the woman I'm gonna marry and I'm not even close, What age did you find your one?

the video that im looking for is mostly subtitles explaining wats happening, pictures and music the video is about a guy that wants a divorce with his wife because hes been cheating on her with a girl from his company wen they had the divorce the wife wanted a request where he has to carry her from the bedroom to the front door everyday for the next month in the end he didnt wanted the divorce and he bought her flowers wen he got home he found his wife dead on floor and found out that she had cancer

First I need to exsplain that their is a BUNCH of men in love with me on the internet from all ovar the world, there bankers an male super models an buyers an dignataries. Last night I met a man on Yahoo Messenger from Nigeria, his name is Dr. Waheed Mohammed Alhaji an he is docter of medicine at Odichukwuma hospital an he is SO hot, blonde hair an blue eyes, six pack an a 11 inch cock! Waheed an I had a really intents conversation last night an he sent me a nude pic (he is bashful so he whited out the face hehehe) an I showed him my breasts an vag. He was gone a couple of minutes (I think he was jacking off) an he said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me! This smorning he sent me a picture of a beautiful engagement ring he is going to get me. I am so excited an my ex-husbend is going to be so jealous when he sees Waheed! The prollem is that their is a BUNCH of men in love with me on the internet an what if I am making a mistake? I know I am going to brake there hearts when they find out Waheed an I is engaged. I'm just not sure what to do. Should I go a head an let these men know or should I hold off an see if every thing works out with Waheed? An still keep playing the field until some thing happens? HELP!

My wife hasn't been feeling so well this week. She's been coughing a lot she had a sore throats the last few days. I've been giving her medicine she's been resting a lot. She's upset because she went into the other room she turned around and bumped into the doorknob and hurt her back a little. I listened to her chest and her back she doesn't sound good. She said she feels horrible. She said her back hurts just a little. How can I help her feel better ?

My parents are forcing me to marry this guy of there choice. I'm not attracted to him at all. They said if I refuse I'm a betrayer/horrible daugther/and will bring shame to family honor. They said that since they gave birth me, feed me, and raise me to a young women I HAVE to listen to who they want me to me marry. They said that I must please them and make them happy just because there my parents. And that I have to listen to everything they say. They said life is about pleasing parents to keep them happy ONLY and I should do everything to fulfill it. They said my happiness DONT MATTER and they could control my life since there my parents. PLEASE HELP! :( I'm over 18 in NY a US citizen. What could I say to both my parents before I leave them and marry who I want my boyfriend.

The married lady next door husband has just left for work and she might be lonely and need company.

Hello everyone i am ali. I am posting this at 3am because i am done thinking what to do. I am married from last 5 years and i have a son of 2 years old. My wife left me 2 months ago and took my son along. Her behavior before going was very rude to me. She had some mental issues like she was jealoused of me and my sons love. Whenevrr my son gave priority to me over her she would start beating him and curse me. Whenever she sat with any of my family member she would say my husband is impotent he doesnt fulfills me. He doesnt respects me And that is not true. And finally when my son got so much close to me and he even wanted to she msleep with me rather then his mom. She got insecure and went away. After that i met a girl who was very generous and kind hearted we became friends and then had a very good chemistry that we wanted to marry and start a new life as she was a divorcee and faced bitter reality of life too.. now i am at this stage that i promised her to marry her and my wife behaviour all of a sudden changed and she told me that she can come back in some terms and conditions. And now my parents and my friends are suggesting me differently. My parents wants that let my wife come back and you focus on your child my friends says focus on your life and if she comes back you will never be happy with her. And the girl i was about to marry is waiting for me to decide and let her know if i am going in relationship with her or not. Any experienced person please advise me what t

My wife said she's ready to have a baby. We've only been married for almost 2 months. Weve been talking about having kids but I don't know if I'm ready yet. We haven't even been on our honeymoon yet. We're gonna wait and go next month. Should me and her have a baby ?

Mouthing has changed about my wife. It all seems to be me. Somehow nothing about her turns me on. I don't know why. I have begun to suffer from Low Libido and Erectile Dysfunction. What should I do. I know sex in marriage is a not a sin, and is in fact encouraged. So will God help me understand why I have this and then in tI me heal me from this. I'm only 23 by the way so age is not a big issue.

When my sister in law moved in back in 2013-2014ish, problems arises between them and my family. I was going to talk to my family, but my wife escalated the whole situation. In one conversation they both side my man may be a jerk, but at least he stands up for me. I tried to tell them that it makes it difficult when they are escalating the situation. Her man was emotionally abusive at the time which basically means I'm lower that an emotionally abusive partner.

My wife is Black and she catches alot of **** from Black men. They are verbally abusive toward us and always have some ignorant comment to make about our relationship. I was almost jumped this weekend. I see them talk down on Black women and praise White women for doing mediocre ****. I hear stories about them hating Black women, so I don't understand why it's a problem for them. I've been nice long enough. I will protect my woman

What will make her not compare her exes with him? If a promiscous girl who had no control over her sexual desires and had casual sex with multiple partners around the town (without the concern of her parents) and then later gets into an arranged marraige with a virgin boy, how and what will make her change her past habits after marraige. Will she keep on comparing, will she give the same experience that she gave to her exes or she will hold it back? And for the husband, how should he deal with her after knowing her past after marraige? Will he have some doubts over her as she was that sort of a person and did'nt reveal her past to him before marraige and got married to him anyway? Last but not the least what if he met some of her exes in near future and had to face them? "Feeling like they know everything about his wife but he knows nothing about theirs. Curious question not reality. Sorry for the length.

Three Black men married 3 White women. All 3 couples had 3 children. A pair of twin boys and a girl for each of the couples. The children of the three couples went away on a long journey. All of the children were killed along the way. So the 3 Black men and 3 White women went searching for their children after some time had gone by without them returning. All 6 of the people died. Think about it.

30 year old woman. Single. Am I old? Is just me for the rest of my life? Will I never have babies ? Is my biological clock deteriorating m? I wanted to have met and fallen in love with the man of my dreams by now... But it hasn't happened. By the time I catch up to my friends and colleagues and feel secure and happy jn a long term relationship, it may be too late biologically... Is aiming to be a single mum my best option?

My parents divorced about 4 years ago. But he didn't move out of the house until like 6 months ago. Because he was really controlling and threatening not to pay child support and my mother is a pushover. About a year ago he got caught drunk drinking and his driving was restricted. It made driving complicated for him. His job is 1 hour and a half away. He was fortunate to even get this job because of his record. And yes, he was so stubborn that he'd commute that far just so he'd still occupy the room in our house But he finally moved to an apartment close to his job so that he could take the metro due to his driving restriction. He lives like an hour and a half away. But he left a bunch of his stuff in boxes in that room as well as left his posters still hanging. He says that he must be allowed to move back into that room if he wants to or he won't give us child support. We need the child support over wise we go into foreclosure and lose the house. I would have fought with him, but my mother deals with that sort of thing with him. Being a complete pushover, she agreed so that he'd just finally get out of the house. Any way, thank you if you read all that. So, currently the largest room is our house the master bedroom with the walk in closet and personal bathroom is left vacant with some of his stuff. I think its so stupid that nobody is using that room and its going to waste. ( running out of writing room) lemme continue in the question update. Don't answer yet. I think that room should go to my mother. It would make her happy to have all that privacy and room. I want to fix up that room and furnish as a surprise for her. And tell her that its her room. But I know that if I did that she would be paranoid that he'd come back out of the blue and get mad that she occupied the room and used it. I think that the whole situation is ridiculous. She pays the mortgage on that house not him. But he's bipolar and so intimidating that he twists her mind. I either need to convince her to take the room and not care about what bullshit he does. Or I need to reason with him and make him realize just how ridiculous this is. We are a large family and we need room. Reasoning a bipolar stubborn person is a difficult task. I know that his thinking is very money and business based. He may be a little weakened to flattery, but not much. How can I convince him to agree that the room should be used? Or convince my mother that he's not gonna want to take that commute again and he's probably not coming back. Its too inconvenient for him to do that. Being bipolar, he reacts to situations in a bizzare way. He also tends to feel insecure if he's not in control. I used to be afraid of him when I was growing up. But now he doesn't intimidate me. I find that the trick to winning an argument with him is no matter how much he screams don't react, stand your ground, and keep looking him in the eye. But I just don't wanna cause him to move back on account of my confrontment. I'm 18. My siblings are 19, 15, 21. But we still need the child support for my youngest sibling. She takes what I say seriously and doesn't address me as a child. But it can be hard to convince her that she's a complete pushover and she should take that room. I'd take that room, but I think she needs it more. She's a little autistic and gets stressed easily by clutter. She'd be better off with a big nice room instead of her small badly furnished one.

If you got married for life and could only either have sex with your spouse or talk to them but not both, what would you choose? And want is your gender?

I moved to another state for my now wife and lived there for 6 years. Then we moved to the state I was born to start a new life. We have been here for a year and she hates it. She is trying to leave me and the only reason is she doesn t like this place. I hated where she lived lives and suffered for 6 years. We have been trying for a baby for 7 years, or doctor gave her endometriosis shots so that she could get pregnant. We didn t know that before the first shot she was pregnant. And found out almost 3 months later. Now my wife is ready to leave me behind here and I won t get to see my baby girl when she is born or anything after that. She will be 1200 miles away. Is there anything I can do?

My boyfriend used to express jealousy when I would tell him how men flirt with me or when I was friendly with men in front of him. We have been together for a year and lately when I try to make him jealous he does not react. Does he not love me anymore or has he lost interest?

I am 26 years old. since past 3 years, I have very strong feeling about marital relation that include strong sexual desire, romantic relation and marital relation. due to some domestic and financial problems, I cannot get married right now, I just have to wait, I don't have any other option except to wait for the right time to get married. but I am unable to release my tension, I feel extremely uneasiness, I don't know at all how to deal with it. even sometimes I feel extremely dangerous feeling that I am getting older and older that I would not be able to do sex and would lose all my feelings as I am getting older. what to do know?? plzz help me.......plzz

I don't mean living together before marriage, I personally believe that is wrong. I mean is there a way to decide if you want marriage or not, before you even date around? A way to look inward at yourself and truly see if marriage is something you really want in life?

About 4 years ago, I told my best friend that I am in love with him and he is ran away away from me. At the time, I gave him a few days to cool off and I came to terms that he didn't feel the same way as me but our friendship was much more precious than anything and we've been friends for too long (15 years) to stop our friendship. I remember I went to his house a few days later and he just left for university when there was a good month before it started. I tried to contact him through social media and called him everyday, I assumed I was blocked and I was heartbroken. Last week,he came to my apartment (my mom told him my address) and proposed to to me.I declined it because it didn't seem right. After 4 years of not seeing him he asks me to marry him. He is not the same guy I fell in love with because this guy gets jealous and anger easily.I really don't know what to do with him,a part of me will always love him but there is something off about him. Any advice When I ask him why he left or why he didn't contact me for the past four years, he avoids the question or would change the topic.

I'm suffering from depression and i even lost my job and home over this. I no longer want the child because I know I wont be a good mom and ruin things . Im not the same person I was. Ive thought about giving it to the fire dept, his family, or abortion. I cant talk to my ex anymore (or third party) but i still wanted to give him options. Should i tell his lawyer or just do make the choice without him. everything is ruined and I do blame myself but i just need help going forward. I just cant with the child to be honest. Please dont judge, I just know I will hate the child and not give it the love it deserve....just being honest so what is the right thing to do I dont get why people say im crazy. i know im hormonal but i didnt hurt anyone.

My husband of 11 years had a rare day off yesterday so he spent most of the day getting on my nerves because he was bored. Anyway, we went to lunch and I drove, in my vehicle. Apparently my choice of music baffled, startled or amused him (maybe all 3). I was listening to Eminem and Jay-Z (like I do everyday) and he asked me this.. Him - Do you jam to this with the kids in the car? Me - Just the baby because she can't talk, the other kids no because I'm afraid the foster kids will tell their case worker and they'll think we're shady. Me - But, but I do listen to it in the parking lot when I'm waiting to pick the kids up from school, just enough here and there where others might hear it. The other mom's often give me dirty looks but it's a strategic plan so they don't talk to me or want me to be part of their super mom pta clique. Him - that's funny and .. smart. I never knew you listen to gangster rap music, that's hot. We're not joined at the hip 24/7, neither of us has the time or desire to be. Not noticing something small isn't the same "showing no interest". He doesn't go through my playlist (he doesn't have time to be that bored) so it's likely he never noticed. I'm sure there's small things about interests he has I don't notice because they never really come up.

My wife hasn't been feeling well the last few days. She has a sore throats and has been coughing and sneezing a lot. She's still in bed she wants me to lay down in bed and hold her the rest of the day. Why does she want this ?

My theory is that a man would love it if a girlfriend or wife let him cheat on her. If the wife or girlfriend actively searched for other women for the man to cheat on, that would be the perfect wife or girlfriend. I would stay actively married to the wife but let her cheat on me and actually encourage it. Like I search for other men that she is interested in and can watch or participate. I never cheat on her. Ladies, would this be the perfect relationship for you? Ok, i understand it is not cheating. But would you be open to it? I am taking a survey. She has sex with other men, but I dont do it with other people besides her and she just has sex with them, no emotional attachment to them.

ok so my husband said he wanted a divorce the first week of august. then on august 6th we had a huge fight which led to the kids and i going to stay at my parents. 3 days later he filed for divorce. we were in the process of moving so the kids couldn't quite stay the night with him. at first i wasn't ok with the divorce and was trying to fix things but then once i heard he had actually done drugs while we were together and lied about a lot of things, i was ok with it. but now, since he has been getting clean and becoming a better person for himself and the kids, he said he wants to get back together. i can see the change in him and know hes getting better. the only problem is, my parents and sister despise him. and my parents, who do help a lot with the kids since i work nights, will practically disown me if we get back together. they want me to get the divorce because they have seen in the past how he has treated me. my question is, what should i do? im desperate for am unbiased opinion since im asking this online but i have no one else to ask that doesn't know the both of us. and let me add that the papers have yet to be turned in because he wanted to get back together and didn't want to turn them in. its been over a month now and the only time we would see each other is when i would bring the kids over to see him during the day. we have been together almost 8 years, 6 years of them married. (today is actually our 6th anniversary) so please help with some good advice.

Moms BF is arrogant waste of space. For starters they already fight she's kicked him out for the day multiple times. He acts like nothing's his responsibility. If me or my sister make any tiny mess and don't clean up the second it's made he doesn't yell at us or tell us anything no he calls her and tell her so even though I clean it up long before I still get yelled at by my idiot mom. I know that doesn't make total sense but the other day I was making a cake and baking is messy and I was still in the process of literally stirring the batter but for some reason he called her to tell her I was making a mess. Even though after I was finished baking I cleaned up. He also has some type of ODC he goes into everyone's room no matter what's happening even if we're not leaving the house to make sure all the windows are locked. He's stood outside my door waiting for me to come out so he could make sure my windows were locked. He complains about absolutely everything me and my sister do and we normally do nothing just sit in our room. One day they found out our house has mold in the basement. I told them they needed to remove everything from the basement in order to get ride of the humidity. He insisted I was wrong he simply put everything in the middle of the room which made a massive fire hazard. On top of that he told me how to clean and put stuff in basement away but he himself just went upstairs and played phone games. I think he's an idiot. He's a big mistake right? When I say BF I mean soon to be husband. Who pays rent but acts like he's simply a roommate not a soon to be famliy member. Also when I talked about the basement and how he wouldn't help let me add a good 80% of the stuff we had to move was his.