I know just get over it. Most days we're fine. But some days i want to run away. It still hurts me and he's obviously fed up of me bringing it up every other arguement...what do I do to push forward?

A guy I knew broke my heart in more ways than one. He was verbally, physically and emotionally abusive. Sad to say I didn't see it coming since we have known each other for a very long time or so I thought. In a matter of a year, he popped in to my life while he was going though a divorce, wound up proposing to someone else before his divorce was final and lives his life as if I never existed. Told countless lies and was so deceptive. The day I found out about everything he mocked me and laughed. So my question is how do you learn to trust again?

The guy I once knew constantly told me how he was a piece of ****, a taker, and had no real emotions. At the end of the day, he recently got engaged to someone else. Now I'm wondering was this who he really was or was just telling me that.

I need you all opinion on my mindset. I been feeling like My Husband don't do anything for me. I'm a homemaker, working from home and I feel like he don't do anything extra that he wouldn't have to do if I leave. It sounds so bad but I'm really trying to get to the bottom of this. I cook, clean, take care of kids, and him. He lay around and get up to hang with friends all day. Then want me to warm up food for him because he's on his way. I'm just at the point were I feel I do and do but no one does for me but twice a year, barrely. What are your suggestions and opinions?? Thanks

I found out my husband was talking to a stripper at first they started as friends but she knew he was married. him and I we decided to take a break but we we're not broken up Yet, and we we're trying to fix things. But I told him he needed to stop calling her and texting her. Well I found out he had another secret phone. And he was talking to her there. The night I found out about the phone I seen her number and called her and said"Wtf Whore I told you not to be calling my Man," she hung up and sent a message saying. "You lied to me" to his secret phone. I called her from my home number and she picked up and said that he said he was in Washington D.C and he would be back on Monday. And he told her, he broke up with me and if she wanted to be his girlfriend. And they only dated 3 days. I told her he is with me he ain't in Washington D.C. so after that we got an argument and he left, come to find out he left to pick her up and take her to a porn store to buy her a stripper outfit and some shoes. And when I called her that night she, denied him going over there, which the ***** lied, but most likely to found out through bank statements. He did not tell me this that he took her there i found out on my own. I found out alot of **** on my own. He came back the next morning sober stating he was sorry. He will never talk to her again, which he hasn't. She admitted to French kissing Only.No sex was involve. I don't know what to believe now. The kissing part angers me also.

Me and my girl been together for 5 yrs now. I had some mistake in those yes and I told her I'm not ready to marry because I'm not ready financial so I ask her give me sometime to work for the wedding. Now she don't wane be with me she wane go back with her ex ( he live outside of the country she live in USA and he lives in Africa) She told me she don't wane me I beg, cry even try to kill my self. I beg to much I cry to much and call her every min. I wane some way to get her back unless I can't live I'm ready to kill my self. Am alive just to try I feel so bad inside...men what should I do to get her back pls help me before I kill myself

I don't even know where to start. I just feel so worthless. I'm the most award person in the world l, except wheN it comes to my fiance. Well now I don't even turn him on anymore. I have to practically beg him to have sex with me. It hurts. Damn even when he has an erection, he'd rather go to sleep. I've said something about it to him and he didn't give me an answer. Everything else in my life is falling apart. I know there are millions, perhaps billions of people that have it worse off than me, and just a coward. I want to end it all, all the rejection has taken its toll. It hurts so much, I just want to hide my own existence. I want to die. Im worthless. Please help me.?

When my daughter was 7 her mother and I separated (we were never married). They moved 5 states away. 2 years later I married "Ann". We had 3 more children. Now my daughter is 13 and wants to move back into my home. She usually stays for the summer but she now she wants to stay and go to school here. I am ok with it but my wife is not. She and my daughter do not get along. My wife said if she moves here she will leave me and take my 3 other kids. I am torn. What should I do?

I am married. I am attracted to other men all the time. I don't act on it but I am curious. I was thinking if I should bring this up in front of a therapist to see if there are deeper rooted issues.

I am 20 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating over a year and so far everyone asks when we'll get married and that we should get married and start having children within the next 5 years I don't want that I want to travel and live on my own and do my own thing and discover myself. When the topic of marriage comes up It literally its a nerve. How do I politely tell them that I don't want that yet?

Nowadays many women are choosing to remain single and not have children. Sometimes they have a job that fulfills them, sometimes they would have liked children but never met a man they thought would be suitable to have them with. Other times, they make a responsible decision for economic reasons or they consider they may lack what it takes to be a good parent. Regardless of the motives, why is it that I still hear comments about single non-mothers over 40 such as 'What's her problem? How come she never married?' 'I feel sorry for her. She looks good and she's nice. Must have had bad luck!' 'She must be selfish if she doesn't want children'. Why can't these people just feel sorry for those who married, had children and now regret it? Let's face it, with the divorce rates the way they are, there are lots of them around.

My husband left me with no money, play mind games with me (even though he doesn't mean it), hurt me deeply. We had a huge fought last year in October. He kicked me out, left me penniless, and I moved back to my parent's house. There's no cheating, lies, etc. I lost everything, and till this day the pains that he put me through hurt so much. It's been 7 months since we separated. He said he wanted a divorce and it completely broke me down, especially after we lost our baby. Took us 7 years to conceive...I wasn't a good wife either. I nagged, a b**tch at him. Last week I demand him to give me his answer, he said he want to fix our relationship and start all over as boyfriend and girlfriend. When we are still legally married. Our 8 years of marriage wasn't great at all. So I said yes, but then he said: I don't want you to move in...we lived 2,000 miles apart so how is this relationship going to work when he doesn't introduce me to his friends? He didn't tell his family that we're back trying to fix the relationship. He doesn't think or care about our marriage and he doesn't want to be identify as married couple. It hurt so much inside. I don't want a boyfriend I just want my husband. Please help

It s been about a week and we were a very close family I m the youngest of the 4 he is the 2nd oldest. My mom is very lost and hurt. As am I but with being 35 weeks pregnant I m trying to be strong but I can t get answers to my questions. 1 is I feel like it is his wife s fault he is only 22 and she left him 6 months ago after only being married to him for like 3 months because she wanted to sleep with another man. at that time he decided to stay with me and my mon and she kept on sleeping with another man and we saw how much it hurt him and he talked to his pastor about it and his pastor said if she is cheating on you its your fault you are not being the husband she needs not loving enough and such. And the thing about that is my brother did everything for her paid for their house utilities their cars her new 2015 jeep her gas and she was in collage. He never spent a moment not trying to please her and show her love. so this went on for weeks she would not take him back and wanted to sleep with another man. so my brother finally put his foot down and told her what her biils are the next day she got back tougher with him. mind you she is still in collage so she needed him to pay for everything. she would do things like they would go bowling with my brother and she would say she was going to the bathroom and go make out with her other boyfriend and he would find out the next day through her texts. she would continue to tell him that he was not good enough. the thing is its not like he is a bad guy he is loving and kind and would tell her every day how beautiful she was he put his phone onto a mode where every day after 6 no one could contact him so that time would be for just her. he cleaned cooked dinner I mean what I consider to be the perfect man. He wanted a family and for his wife to always be able to stay at home so she got back with him and did this stuff behind his back. on Saturday she got her degree in sycology and her internship at the jail became paid because she got her degree a week and 1 day ago that's when he killed himself. she left him the week before for her boyfriend again this time for real because she does not need his money anymore. so at 5 on Saturday her brother picked up her stuff. oh and Friday my brother filed for divorce. and my brother was texting her and was like I have exciting news please talk to me over and over.and at 515 he texted her saying I saw your brother get your stuff I see you have no intention of working this out and he called her 60 times from 515 till 6 and she never answered. and in his texts he said if you don't text me back bye 6 I know what I will have to do and at 558 he texted her saying what god has joined do not let man separate I have no right to divorce you and you have no right to divorce me but I will free you of me bye the time you get this text ill be dead. she never responded she did not call me or my mom or anyone we lived 5 minutes away from him and she did nothing. I blame her but should I should I place blame on her if she would have just talked to him or called us we would have been their right away but she did not. and now she says he was manic and bipolar and if she really believed that wouldn't she have taken him seriously and called us. I blame her but is that my right. and I question if such a great man would really do something like that to himself I can only maybe only maybe because his pastor told him it was his fault she was cheating and if she ever cheats it is and always will be his fault so if he felt like his best was not good enough for her how could he be good enough for anyone else if it was his fault. I am so confused and he was not found till the next day. and does it seem fishy at all to anyone or just me? and btw my brother was incredibly handsome and fit I mean just everything about him was amaizing

Ex husband and I have been in a continual battle over how "involved" he should be in our child's life. I understand I cant make him be physically involved, but we are having a dispute over finances. He is only paying $200 a month in child support, and provides her health insurance which is $6 a week. He is also required to pay half of any medical expenses not covered by the insurance, which he currently refuses to do. He is not hurting for money, as he makes $40,000 a year and still lives with his parents. Problem is, expenses for our child are adding up higher than what I can afford, and his response is that I need to land myself a rich husband who could pay for her. So finally, I decided to file for a modification to raise support a little, and I would also like a "school" fund set up of sorts because I really need his help with school supplies and such because last year I paid over $250 for everything and that was for Kindergarten. I cant imagine what things will cost when she gets older. I dont feel that Im being unreasonable, considering the money he makes, and this is his only child. I dont expect him to just hand over cash, as I have offered to prove the costs involved, such as receipts for expenses, and I have suggested that he himself can come shopping with us each year. I also told him that I will provide documentation for everything, but he will have none of it. Is this really such an unusual request to make? I guess I should specify, Im not looking specifically for a "special" school fund, just help in some way for expenses. So would the best thing to do be to just file for more child support and bring all my documentation to court? I certainly dont expect the judge to just take my word for it, I do have proof, including his texts about how "I am the one that wanted a child, so I should have to pay the most" kind of comments.

What are you thoughts about getting married the same day as one of the partner's birthday?

Why do men continue to chase,beg, compete and pay for women? I find this degrading and refuse to do it and have therefore never married.Also,never had a woman divorce me and take me to the cleaners either like many men I know have.Any opinions on this?

My friend & I decided to go to dinner. We both had a mutual friend "Sandy" at one time who I chose to no longer associate with. She was too much drama for someone 30 years old. Anyway, my friend told me about "Sandy" & how she had now lost her 9th job in the past 3 years. I felt bad for her. My friend was texting "Sandy" throughout dinner. I asked that she please not tell "Sandy" her & I were hanging out etc. because I'd rather not associate & deal with drama. My friend said she refused to lie to "Sandy" and I guess told "Sandy" she had spoken to & seen me recently. She kept laughing at her phone while texting. I'm not sure what's going on but I'm now questioning my friends behaviors as well. I could not see the texts but I get a feeling I was being discussed between her & "Sandy" is it bad I asked my friend to lie!? Or not say anything at all? To me this is childish behavior for someone 30 years old.

My wife and I have come to the point in our marriage where we are probably going to separate. I caught her chatting about being a co-workers girlfriend and we had a fight. We are still together at the moment but we are not sexually active and really haven't been for several months. The problem is, she goes in the bedroom several times throughout the day and masterbates. The last time she did this, she came back into the living room with an attitude like, why did you not come back and play with me, So it old her she needs to give me permission before a touch her cuz She may not want me too. What did I do wrong, or what should I do?

I recently made a comment to my wife that "We" are spoiling our youngest daughter at night by going into her bedroom every time she cries. We go into our youngest daughters room whenever she cries and have been doing so for the past year (she cries a lot a night). We don't want her to wake up our oldest daughter hence the reason why we go into her room. My wife jumped all over my comment and said it was a hurtful for me to say that. She said because I was gone for the past 3 weeks (on business) she has had to deal with our kids and somehow I am implying that "she" is responsible for our youngest crying at night. I to have gone into my youngest daughter room to try and calm her and get her to go to sleep. Even when I was NOT away on business I made this comment and she gets angry at me. What gives...if I am away I can't make that comment and if I am at home I can't make that comment. So is my wife overreacting here? Or is there something else that I am not seeing?

When I began dating my child s father, he lied to me and told me he was single when he was in fact married with two children. Shortly after we began dating, I got pregnant. When I told him I was pregnant he admitted to being married. He did not help me financially throughout my entire pregnancy. My child is now 3 months old and he pays me $50 a week. He makes over 100,000 a year. He has never had the baby overnight and rarely sees her because he now lives an hour and a half away. I feel like he should be helping more financially but when I bring up child support he threatens to file for joint custody. He works long hours and wouldn t see our child very much if he did have her. She would basically be home with his wife all day whom I feel holds at least some animosity towards my child due to her being the product of an affair. I don t feel that he honestly wants joint custody but he would file for it to be spiteful and in hopes of paying less child support. What are the chances of him obtaining joint custody? I want her to know her father but I feel that she would be best primarily with me.

We are in Ohio. Thank You.

I feel as though society today treats marriage as a joke or as a way to have sex without guilt. That doesn't feel right. When I was a kid, I was told that Marriage is forever and that it should never be taken for granted, and here I see people marrying and divorcing three, four, five times without so much as a backwards glance. I personally want a traditional marriage to a man I feel can love me no matter what and who will be the best father of my children I can provide them. Is that really too much to ask in 21st century America? Does anyone value marriage anymore?

im just realizing that I can no longer be married to my husband because he constantly lies to me. He mainly lies to me about masturbating because he has to do it multiple times a day at work when he gets to upset. That's what he tells me. I've talked with my guy friends & girlfriends, cousins, etc. They all say that that is definitely not normal. I also know it's not normal especially since he is a head chef at a nice Restaurant. So picture this guy is cooking PEOPLES FOOD then gets frustrated with work and has to go hide somewhere where he can get on his phone and find some sexual bullshit(which he tries to lie to me about ALL THE TIME, DAILY!) so he came comb and feel better, just to have to do it again when he gets frustrated. He says it's the only thing that can calm him down. He doesn't want to look at pics or videos of me while he masterbates for some reason. I'm not sure if he's bored with what I got or he needs more?!? At the same time my husband secretly talks to young women at work but he says its just for the drugs they give him?!? Also he gets on apps on his phone where he can have secret conversations with whoever and there untraceable, but of course like everything else I have to snoop through his phone, etc to see what he is really doing. He in 6 years has never admitted on his own accord that he is an angry chronic masterbator. I don't know anything about what this masterbating problem is or what it means or why he does it. Can someone please help me!

They have been married for 5 years and together for 4 years. She got in a car accident that put her in a wheel chair, she cant speak and she has gained weight. anyway, I invited my guyfriend and his wife over to my house for dinner and he said that she was at her mothers and wasnt able to join. He came buy himself and was texting all night and seemed distracted. The night went on and some girl showed up. I eventually caught them kissing in my garage and was so shocked by this I walked out and didnt say anything. I was upset because I knew his wife before the accident, she and still is a nice person. But the accident has rendered her from being able to speak and so forth what should I do? I am so upset

I am 36 and married with 2 kids (6 and 3). I work full time, and my wife works 20 hrs/week. The kids are in school/day care from 8:30-5:30. My wife works 9-2 M-Th. I work 8:30-6:30 M-Th, and 8:30-12:30 on Fridays. I travel one week a month for work, but I am usually back Thursday night, and have Fridays off if that is the case. I usually wake up at 6:30 and go to the gym before work. On M-Th, I am usually back home around 7, and by 1 PM on Fridays. My wife goes to the gym after work. My wife complains that she is overworked, and that I am not around enough to help. She only works 20 hrs/week so that she has more time to take care of the kids, run errands, do housework, etc. It isn't meant to be a vacation. I fully support her going to the gym daily, but she often spends her spare time visiting friends, going for spa treatments, etc. If she was so overworked, she wouldn't have time for that. If anything, I am the one who is overworked esp during M-Th. I spend time with family and friends on the weekends. In spring and summer, I take my older one to his soccer games, and in the fall, I take him to college football games 2 hrs away, with my brother and his kids. On Fridays, I spend the afternoon with my wife and only my wife. How can I get her off my back?

on his tax return?

Can somebody explain this to me? My sister and I were both wondering. Avg Black IQ is 86... Avg White IQ is 103. White Europeans are 5'11 on average. Black Africans are 5'7. Even in America whites are an inch taller than blacks. Whites make way more money, commt less crimes, are better husbands and just a better catch in general. Even have more attractive faces. Why would women wanna sleep with black men who are dumber, shorter, more broke, and more idiotic and cave man ish? Do some women just have low IQ's and get wet for caveman traits?

I am good friends with a married woman. We text each other all day, we see each other several times a week for lunch or Dinner and after work drinks even though we don't work in the same office. I think my wife is worried we are too close. Does she have a point is this too much contact with one other person?

Hello I need to get married within the next day. Today is Sunday and tomorrow is Memorial Day so the San Diego county clerk seems to be closed. I'm willing to drive to Las Vegas, Mexico or other places. Is there a way to get married within the next two days and how? Thanks!

Very nice social friend of my wife's acts strangely towards me. When I first see her at social gatherings at my house or hers she won't say honor awknowledge me. She will my wife but pretend not to see me. She will talk to me later on during the event but ignore me at first. Then when I say goodbye it's much of the same. What's up with this? I don't get it. Last time we were at her house she did this. I left beer in their fridge and she texts my wife a picture of her and her husband partying drinking the beer with a caption to me that says "thanks David for the beer we love it!"

I am going to a divorce with my husband and I am worried for my child welfare. What is the usual case where me as the mother is not financially suited to take care of my child but is willing to take responsibility provided I will be given time to look for job. Is this possible? I have search some cases on the net and found some medias http://www.alluc.com/stream/child+custody and I like to know more from other peoples experience.

so I just wondered if this is normal? I organized a mother's day luncheon today and we gave her a nice gift and she gave me nothing. I mean zilch...right now my husband and son are over there helping them with patio bricks and they will get cash for their efforts. and she offered to pay for my daughter to have voice lessons. but, she never acknowledges me at all. And I dogsit for them(last time was for 3 weeks) and always give them nice gifts (my husband wouldn't even remember their special days. but, I do) yet, nothing..and she always makes a clear point of saying "this is for you, make sure you spend it on you" if they give my hubby any money. (for birthday or fther's day or for helping with something or anything).....so I guess I'm just whining. but is this normal? for inlaws to be nice ot everyone except the daughter in law??

For a free look up on Marriage and Divorce.. my best friend tells me that she's married now. and I want to be able to look it up for free online.

For example they hand you the divorce papers and rather than sign them i simply just tear them up and bin them is that illegal ???

I was out at dinner with my husband at a new restaurant we had never been to before far away from our home for a little get away and I saw my friends husband at dinner eating with a woman I did not recognize. I thought they were just friends but I saw them kissing and he got up and sat on her side to eat dessert with her. They were very intimate. When I was leaving with my husband my friends husband and the lady he was with saw me and he looked shocked, they both got into his car and left very quickly. I know I should tell my friend but I need advice. Is this my place to tell? They are newlyweds and just had a baby together. It would break her heart but shouldn't I tell her the truth?

Husband says I emasculate him. I find it unfair to come from a 9 hour shift to cook and clean for a family of four. Sometimes i don't complete sentences or conversations so that i don't sound like a whiner but he still complains that i don't treat him like a man. I love my husband. Thats the last thing i want. But sometimes i feel used...advice?

So he has a night job & he sleeps during the day & i totally understand but there are times when he wakes up to go to a "friends" house & he doesnt even wake up to give me alittle attention when i ask for it unless he wants me to cook for him or wash his cloth. Its been several times where he has days off & he doesnt spend them with me to go to his "moms house" his mom always ends up calling me asking if i know where hes at. I dont want to believe hes cheating, im pregnant at the moment. In the beggining of our relationship before marriage i caught him texting other woman.. He just doesnt seem very intrested in me at all anymore

My neighbors next door for the past four years argue continuously...and what is even more astounding is that we often see them out around town--still either arguing about something or generally appearing very angry with each other. I've recently started working at a restaurant, and every Sunday morning they come in for our breakfast special--and spend the entire time arguing (albeit quietly) with each other at their table. It would seem to me that if you can't stand each other, you would just split and find someone you get along with--I know I would if it were me! I've this before, with married couples that hate each other, but stay together! Why do they stay together if all they do is fight and argue?

I've been married 1yr & have my 12 yr old and 8 yr old that live with me and my husband full time. He has a 12 yr old & 11 yr old who come visit every other weekend & spend the summer. I came into the marriage with the intention to love his kids as my own & treat them as my own.But he treats his kids different than mine. He also doesn't want his kids to do any chores while here or have a bedtime, even though my kids have chores and a bedtime. In his words, those are my rules & his kids should not be subject to them. He also told me that his kids have been through the trauma of divorce & this is very stressful for them. I told him my kids went through divorce too & worse yet they don't even see their dad coz he lives overseas & does not call/support them. But I choose not to dwell on that or make my kids think they're victims. Basically he has a victim mentality towards his kids. Well the last straw was this weekend. My 8 yr old daughter said something unkind to his daughter while they were in the room they share. I corrected her &punished her. Hubby doesn't want the girls to share a room any more. He suggested that my daughter or his daughters sleep in the living room, or my daughter start sleeping in her brothers room. I volunteered my 8 yr old daughter to sleep in the living room, but I would need to sleep there with her. And that's what I did. There's so much tension in the house between hubby and me. I'm really upset. Any tips or advise from others with blended families?

men seem to always want to have an affair with me. why do I attract married men?

My step-father recently had an affair. My mother checked the phone records, no texts/phone numbers showed up, I'm assuming he used an email through Imessage or something, he was very sneaky. BUT there are receipts of dinners that he spent with her, any way of getting this womans information. A name at least?

I'm ok if they get married, but.. I don't agree if they adopt children. Kids need to grow up according to nature plan, then when they reach a reasoning age they can choose what they wanna be.

why do they fall attracted to other women?

Now we are pregnant and will it be a good idea to have it? even though we have children already

I am from India and currently work as an IT analyst. I travel, eat at star hotels, dance in pubs and enjoy life to the peak. I'm only 25 but have met the most beautiful woman in my life. She is stunning and loves me a lot. Initially, I asked her out and we've dated for an year. Her parents are ok with me but they want their daughter to be married as soon as possible since she is 25 and getting older. They are ok if I marry her though. My girlfriend asks me to marry her and she fears if her parents might get her married to someone else if I delay. The thing is that I wanna do my MBA and told her that I love her enormously but not ready to get married due to financial issues which may come up. She tells me that we love each other and can work it out somehow. Both of us have rich parents who are willing to support us though . What do I do?

Im the type to keep it real, I'm not gonna play games. This girl I was dating thinks I was using her for sex and I wasn't. I am ok being friends with her but yes I want sex too. She said she didn't wanna be in a relationship with me, only friends and I said ok that's a good idea but I still want to have sex when we see each other. I don't care if she dates other guys or not as long as she is coming to me for sex. She said I don't touch her enough or call her enough and I don't need to see someone every single day, that **** gets old fast. I come around when I want to, I don't need sex everyday. I wasn't using this girl at all, I liked her and wanted to be with her but obviously I'm not what she wants because she complains I'm not this or that. I have too much stress right now to worry about it. I took her out and paid for stuff she has to know I wasn't using her! She just asks me too many questions and complains that things aren't right or this and that, like I'm neglecting her and stuff. Yeah I should call her and let her know when I'm running late and can't hang out but I forget. Now she's ignoring me and I wanted to see her. She says she wants nothing to do with me but why, I'm lost. No I told her I didn't want just sex I wanted a relationship too thats why I was in a relationship with her, shes the one who broke up with me and just wanted friendship.

Okay so I've had a tough month full of relationship stress and conflict. My guy who can definitely be the most awesome man I know changed really over night. We finally talked about it and its NOT us. Phew!! Lol no really its his personal issues that are seriously attacking his self-esteem. He pushed away from me but is now seeking my understanding.I know he needs space because I can't do anything to change what he's going through. (BTW he gets this way a least once a year right around his birthday.) Honestly I don't even enjoy our time together with him this way its not fun to be around. So anyone who can relate, how can I ride this hard part of our relationship out without making it worse for him or getting myself upset about it and giving up on him. Im here for him but I will not be that punching bag and sometimes I become one. Not physically but emotionally and I don't want that. Anyone ever been through this in there relationship

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if a good friend of yours had a daughter whose husband in a drug dealer, you become good friends with the daughter before you know he is a druggie, so are very close to both of the ladies. One day her husband comes into the house with weed wrapped up in newspaper. I was shocked but didn't say anything. He tried to feed my dog a stalk, but I told him firmly to f off. He has children with this woman, which is another thing stopping me from calling the police?

We've got two kids together he had been on and off for 10 years as of September 2014. He has since then knocked up a new woman and left her and currently is with a woman he does not have kids with. He has two other kids from a relationship prior to me, but he helps with them. How can he pick and choose which kids he wants to care for. We have DNA for both our kids. He is on child support but is just now working but he has to be reserved because of a modification order. I work full-time and go to school. And I haven't heard from him in almost a year. He doesn't check on them see if I need anything or nothing . I pay for so much it's overwhelming, but I'm sure he's helping the current woman he stays with and his first bm. Why doesn't he offer to help and care about the kids we share together? P.s. he is on child support like I said just waiting to be served I also pay childcare out of pocket.