Family: Question: How do I know what I want to do in life?

Question: How do I know what I want to do in life?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:53 PM PDT

I know I'm not comfortable being just an employee. I know I want to open my own business. Problem is I don't know what I'm good at. How do I find out? Do I have to go in the desert and starve to get a epiphany?

Question: Can I get my sister evicted from my parents house (our parents) for her being demanding and taking from them?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:50 PM PDT

She's a classic narcissist who is spoiled by our parents at age 24.

Question: My brother committed suicide in April at age 22. Why do I feel the shame for it and anxiety?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:49 PM PDT

I feel shame. I feel like I caused it cause I didn't obsess about going home to check on him (he had anxiety, OCD, and some Bipolar). I feel shame cause I didn't sense something was wrong and tell my parents (he still lived at home). I feel shame cause I just figured he had a spell that would pass like other times in his life (he attempted suicide at age 12 ten years earlier). My sister does not have these feelings (he was the middle of three) but I do. I am 25 and not living at home but had gone by for my mother to check on him at times when he seems suicidal. He'd left college in January with a breakdown and had severe OCD about things not a big deal to others like Christmas or family relationships or school stuff when younger. He had no friends but family meant a lot to him. So why do I feel the shame and anxiety? When will all this pass or is it permanent? My mother is now suicidal herself and currently in a psychiatric hospital.

Question: If my brother goes back to jail should I keep it a secret?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:42 PM PDT

Question: My Dad has a friend that died and I am missing the funeral due to school. My brother and cousins get to go. How do I get over jealousy?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:36 PM PDT

I am so jealous they get to go as it has turned into an all day family event since all my Dad's family is going. The funeral is Tuesday the 9th but I have school, my brother is 23 so out of school. I am jealous. It's not the funeral I care about but missing out on the family time. Fellow who died I only knew a little so I don't mind missing that and would be fine with it, even glad, if it were just my parents and aunt going. How do I get over my jealousy? I am 15 and female.

Question: So both of my parents are divorced. So my dad holds me back from going to my moms house.?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:32 PM PDT

So both of my parents are divorced. So my dad holds me back from going to my moms house. I get to visit my mom every 2 weeks and by law i m able to go to my moms house by my own choice. And i want to go to my moms but my dad wouldn t let me because he said not to answer my moms text messages and not go or he ll smash my phone. What do i do?

Question: Should I cut her off completely?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 12:43 PM PDT

So I'm finally getting my own apartment and is very excited about it. However, my mom will make comments to make me feel discouraged, has an attitude when I receive new items in the mail, and overall treats me more funny ever since I told her about my plan to move. When my 25 yr old sister and her daughter moved out, she was happy for her and didn't treat her the same. I contributed in the household when my sister never did this and disrespected my mother. In the household always been considered responsible and independent. I also help her with my mentally disabled uncle that lives with us while she works her graveyard shifts, despite me working 2 jobs. She treated my sister as if she was the golden child and I'm the scapegoat. She allows my cousin to come over and mooch off of her, even though she complains about it from time to time. She plays a role in my self esteem by making me feel like I'm never good enough for anything. I also feel like she's never happy for me no matter what I try to do in order to better myself. Parents should be happy and supportive for their adult children in whatever decision they make, but not her. I'm trying to understand why she would act like that? She denies anything when I bring it up to her, so she's considered stubborn and argumentative. I appreciate your opinions.

Question: My 34 year old brother works full time but my parents keep giving him $$ and place toi stay how can I get rid of him?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 12:34 PM PDT

Question: A problem with a creepy father?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 12:00 PM PDT

My father wiped himself with my towel for a week (I didn t know about this) and just now I realized. I m a girl. Am I gonna get pregnant? And should I be suspicious of my father s behaviour? He has been creepy in the past. What should I do?

Question: Is it fine to help my brother masturbate?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 11:58 AM PDT

Im his older brother. He's 14 and i'm 16. He broke both of his arms and wrists so I will occasionally have to help him go to the bathroom and stuff. We are already really close and have masturbated together a couple times so it wouldn't be extremely weird if I helped. He asked me since he hasn't been able to for a few days and trusts me. Is it okay if I do this?

Question: NEED ANYONE AND EVERYONES INPUT ON MY SITUATION PLEASE. My mom hates me over $20 will not talk 2 me?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 10:31 AM PDT

I have what I think is totally dumb problem so I am trying to get as many people to answer this. Ok here is what happened a few weeks ago i put the mcdonalds app on my phone to order food for everyone and my mom paied for it with her credit card. Now fast fwd to two weeks ago. I used the mcdonalds app again but this time i had put my card in and i tried it 4 times and each time said their was an error now i thought my card went thru finally because the order submitted. When i go home and check bank money is there and i was charged $19 bucks 4x for each error. Well 2 days later my mom comes over really mad apparently the 5th time they just used the card on file.well because of all this my mom yelled and screamed at me called me a theif and a lier and she wants nothing more to do with me (and she hasent either) she will not belive me when i tell her apps and websites save cc info and she uses my google account on her computer and phone. She sayes she dont belive me cuz i lied when i was 14 mind you i am now 35 have 3 kids and on 2nd marriage. So I would appreciate it if anyone who reads this could give your input on all this and answer me this... DO SOME WEBSITES AND APPS SAVE CC INFO and normally if something is purchased off the site they charge last card used on file untill you change it. Need those 2 questions im pretty sure i am right but it never hurts to get others

Question: Why is she hot and cold with me?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 10:02 AM PDT

We are both 21 and we have been talking and going on dates for 2 months. The way she makes me think she has commitment issues. When we first started talking she would text me so much. We have been on dates and she was also really friendly and nice. Then she'll stop texting me or text me a few words, shell ask for space. And when we go on dates she looks bored. I noticed before this happened we were talking about sex and she told me she won't have sex with me until she knows I am a good guy. I told her that sex isn't that important to me and we don't need to have sex if she isn't comfortable. I was basically putting the ball in her court and it looked like she lost interest after that. I remember we talked about drinking. She told me she doesn't like drinking because her brother is an alcoholic and I told her I'll socially drinking just to be with her. It's like even though i am willing to change and do really nice things to be with her she loses interest more and more. I don't understand why. Doesn't she see I am a really nice and good guy? Occasionally she'll have her moments where she'll text me a lot and she is really friendly. Then she'll draw back in disappointed when I say something to please her and she'll act distant and disinterested. Is she just a weirdo? Is she playing games?

Question: Is my cousins drug addiction my fault/responsibility?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 10:01 AM PDT

so me and my cousin grew up together, and there has always been a rivalry between us. He always had to have more money, better clothes, a better car, better grades, etc. I didnt care about our rivalry. he did...He always tried to out do me. constantly. we haven't gotten along since we were 16. I haven't talked to him much. Recently my aunt found out he was taking steroids to increase body mass. he wanted to have a "beach body" to make me feel bad about my body, and it spiraled out of control. We think that the steroid use led to heroin use. Which we sadly all guessed would happen. My aunt (his mom) recently texted me saying..... "He always wanted to be better than you. The rivalry between you two is ridiculous! If he overdoses, IT'S ON YOU!!. Your responsibility!! Your problem!!! Fix it!!!"....... How is it my problem??? He always wanted to out do me?? I couldn't care less what he does?? He grew up incredibly wealthy... I grew up the son of a janitor? Why did he want to out do me constantly? Did he want me to feel terrible about myself? I haven't talked to him in 8 months. I'm a grown adult in school, and working full time. so is he... how is his drug addiction my fault?? any advice??

Question: Dad grudges?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 09:43 AM PDT

I'm an adult guy 31, not perfect. Have faults and flaws, have criminal background. But i try and be helpful, i am generally nice.I try and be happy, he act as he doesn't want me happy. If i talk to my mom and not him, he sometimes act as if it's an issue. But if i talk to him, he isn't concern about what has to do with me. Sometimes he randomly talk to me. If i disagree with him and defend myself he yells. He try and control my emotions. I could apologize even if i shouldn't, and he hold grudge, and isn't apologetic. If he ask me to do something, i don't say i can't. He ignore my calls, and i rarely call him as i live with parents.

Question: Why does my mom defend dad on everything?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 08:51 AM PDT

I'm an adult guy, and if i defend myself mom hold grudges on me. I am not perfect, have faults and flaws. Have a criminal background. I deal with anxiety and depression. If i don't agree with dad, he yells and if i defend myself he yells. He try to control my emotions. Mom hold grudges, and i am blamed for everything. If i defend myself i'm the bad person. Dad left family at a point, but he act as if he is perfect. I generally keep to myself, dad sometimes randomly talk to me. If he need me to do something, i don't say i can't. I said i know you don't want to, but asked if he could cut my hair. I said that, because i hate to ask, and he act as if he don't want to. He said don't say that, and i said you trying to control how i talk? he yelled and said who the hell you talking to? and he doesn't curse. I am generally nice when talking to him, but if i defend myself i'm the bad person.

Question: So recently i moved in with my dad from previously living with my mom.?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 08:12 AM PDT

my dad wasnt around much and when he was he wasnt the best to be around. but now im living with him and i hate it. but he sent papers to court saying that im in his full custody now so that he wont have to pay child support. but i just want to be back home with my mom, what should i do? what can i do?

Question: I hear from my Mom and her family how awful my Mom's one sister is. However, I have no bad experiences with her. So should I hate her?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 07:56 AM PDT

My parents get mad when I am nice to her like a month ago when they learned I had texted her some old photos I had found. My parents were pissed as they want me to hate her with them though they claim they don't hate her but just want her to change. The aunt, my Mom's sister, is one to sometimes say things without consideration for how it makes others feel. She is too honest. Otherwise I find her fine. I'm nice to the other side of the battle also. So should I hate this aunt since everyone else does or am I okay to base my feelings on her by the experience I have?

Question: Engaged and feel so lonely?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 07:03 AM PDT

Been together for three years we are engaged, I just had a baby 3 weeks ago.. while pregnant he barely touched me and we can't have intercourse for two months after giving birth and he doesn't touch me at all barely kiss me I cry all the time I miss being touched he doesn't cuddle me anymore I miss him pulling me close and loving on me , at night when we sleep he faces the other way now far away from me on the bed and times I tried to make him hold me he makes up excuses he needs to face the other way etc .. idk what to do

Question: What should you say if your teenage daughter said in public, "Mom, Dad is staring at that girl" and calmly points her finger straight at him?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 06:36 AM PDT

Question: Have you ever experienced this kind of a situation?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 06:26 AM PDT

That a person whom you considered to be a good friend of yours.... Turned out to be a fake person/as$hole in the end? If yes, how did you deal with it? Did you forgive him/her?

Question: What baby name? Asaf, Alfonzo or Cashmere?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 05:53 AM PDT

Question: How is my situation im 20 have a job new car and live with parents ?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 03:33 AM PDT

They dont ask me for money yet and live free off course i pay my car and clothing also personal needs what should i do is this ok ?

Question: My mother-in-law wants to communicate with us after a 20 years of not being in our lives. Would you welcome her in?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 03:16 AM PDT

My hubby and I have the best family - we are happy and have 2 beautiful children. I came from a different country with no money to my name at all. I started working straight away to help my fiancé to support our relationship. His family welcomed me and accepted quite well. My in-laws lived on a big mango farm back then in a huge 7 bedroom house. Mum never worked and dad was hiring people to run the farm for them. We moved from one rental house to another until we saved up for a deposit to build our own house. We had 2 babies. In-laws lived 1hr drive away from us. Never ever came to visit! Never checked if we had money to buy food! Never called to ask how things go! Never saw their grandkids! We took it very hard at first... Very short on money... Very tough... We never asked for help, as we saw no interest from them. We did it all on our own. 20 years later my mother-in-law suddenly passes the message to us that she'd like to know how we are doing. My husband is furious and doesn't want to hear a thing! He invited them numerous times and offered he'd give them a lift to our place to see the kids. They never wanred to. All of a sudden now - is the time that suits them???? I'm very hurt, but I understand it's my husband' family. I'd get over it if he wanted to let them back in. But he seems to be hurt even more than I am. What would you do?

Question: How come family judge you more than a typical person in town that is not related?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 02:01 AM PDT

Question: How do I heal a relationship with a mom who's emotionally abusive and irrational?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:48 AM PDT

Sorry to say. She's extremely manipulative and vindictive and she criticized me for everything I do. She tries to make me feel bad everyday. She provokes fights all day. I have a older sister who does not respect her and she constantly attacks She treats me way worse than my sister. It just seems odd that she bullies me and treats my sister better. My sister also got violent towards my mom and she curses and swears at her all the time and my mom treats my sister better than me? My sister has been violent towards my parents, beat them, insults them, and is abusive towards them. So it makes NO SENSE WHY, my mom is attacking ME, when I've done nothing to her. She insults me for everything. She'll say stuff like how she'll 'kick me out whenever she feels like it. says 'i hope you get hit by a car, i shouldn't have married your dad, you and your sister should never have been born. Whenever she gets mad at my sister, she YELLS AT ME. I had a really stressful day, and do not know how do I repair the relationship with my mom? She was telling me 'I hate you, i don't want anything to do with you' and was threatening to kick me out for NO REASON even though she literally started a argument with me, deliberately. My mom has threatened to call the cops on me even when I didn't do anything wrong, only when I tried to express how I feel. There were several incidents when she has threatened everyone, made death threats, she threatened my dad with a knife and hit everyone at home before. What do I do. My family is dysfunctional...and my mom is perpetuating everything. She was harassing me, all day today.

Question: My mother blames me for my step father raping me. Can I rebuild the relationship?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 01:21 AM PDT

From the ages of 11-13 my step father used to molest and rape me. It went to the courts and he was prosecuted and I was put into the care of my grandparents. I had little contact with my mother but I am trying to build the bridge to have a relationship with her now that I am 22. I recently asked her why she has been reluctant at my attempts at contact and she told me that she has always blamed me for what happened. I asked her if she understands that it was not my fault and I never instigated anything and said she thought at the time that I must have seduced him and while she probably knows that is not true now she said she has never forgiven me for reporting it and sending him to jail. I was really upset at this and the conversation ended with her saying that i will never know the pain I put her through. I tried to say that it was HE who put us both through pain and she said I should have just told her and they could have sorted it but instead I ruined her life and she doesn't know if she can forgive me. My father died when I was a baby and now my grandparents have died so she is my only family. I don't know what to do. I feel so wronged that she blames me but I still want a relationship with her but I don't know if that is possible.

Question: Are parents that didn't coddle And bug the living daylights out of their children really stupid?

Posted: 05 Oct 2018 12:55 AM PDT

Question: Is it possible for a mom to be jealous of their own daughter?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 09:37 PM PDT

I think my mom is jealous. Sorry to say. She's extremely manipulative and vindictive and she criticized me for everything I do. She tries to make me feel bad everyday. She provokes fights all day. I have a older sister who does not respect her and she constantly attacks She seems jealous that I look more attractive than my sister and I'm more attractive Jan my mom was when she was young. She treats me way worse Jan my sister. It just seems odd that she bullies me and treats my sister better. My sister also got violent towards my mom and she curses and swears at her all the time. *than My mom treats my sister better than me, and my sister has was violent towards my parents, beat them, insults them, and is abusive towards them. So it makes NO SENSE WHY, my mom is attacking ME, when I've done nothing to her. She insults me for everything. She'll say stuff like how she'll 'kick me out whenever she feels like it. says 'i hope you get hit by a car, i shouldn't have married your dad, you and your sister should never have been born. Whenever she gets mad at my sister, she YELLS AT ME Based off the treatment I'm getting, I do feel like she's jealous. Because of the type of stuff she does and says

Question: Who was in the wrong here?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 09:06 PM PDT

So I was working on my costume in the family room on the floor because that was the only place that had enough space. It's a very complicated costume and I doubt I can finish it on time, but I really want it anyway. So I'm sitting on the floor with yarn and scissors and other grafting stuff. My niece (8 months) crawls over and starts grabbing at the materials. I was completely focused on what I was doing until my sister told me to go work somewhere else or stop because her baby was trying to grab my crafting supplies. I told her that I had no where else to work and that she should just watch her baby instead of staring at her phone. She got upset and accused me of tormenting her baby because she really wanted to play with my stuff. I love my niece to itty-bitty pieces and sacrifice so much of myself for her and I think I deserve some respect for that. I've babysitted for HOURS on end while she goes out with her husband. We both live at our parents' house. She works for my dad and her husband lives with us. He has a job and they are saving up to get their own place. They're really good people, but sometimes they expect too much of me. I also work for my dad, but what I do is a lot more dangerous than what she does. She doesn't expect me to babysit then. I love my sister and her husband so very much but sometimes I feel under-appreciated.

Question: Was my mom or aunt right in this situation?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 08:02 PM PDT

My mom and dad are separated, but they were never married. My dad now has a girlfriend and has a daughter with her. I haven't seen him for years. My aunt visited me and it landed on my birthday the time that she visited and she wanted me to see my dad for my birthday so we can celebrate it. She knows that my dad is a surgeon. I think she may have possibly been a gold digger, because her husband is a womanizer and alcoholic, and was still married to him because he has money. There was even one time when she told my mom, "Please, please, please, introduce me to her dad." I think my aunt wanted my dad to take me out on my birthday so that she can go with us so she can meet him. My aunt was screaming at my mom,."You are depriving your daughter of the happiness that she deserves!!! Why don't you let her have any kind of connection with her dad?" My mom said, "I am shielding her from harm!" This is the same aunt who I hooked up with her husband later on. I think my mom did the right thing and made good decisions. My aunt is no longer with her husband and her kids were traumatized after what happened, and at least I was spared that.

Question: How can I tell my sister in law to stop posting my daughters pictures on FB?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 07:12 PM PDT

My daughter just turned 1 month and i took two fferent milestone pictures which i send to all my family including my sister in law. I posted one of them on facebook and my sister in law posted the other without my permisson. It is annoying! Even when i had my daughter she would be the first one to post my baby girl picture on social media. Help!

Question: How do I tell my children I'm leaving. I need to go now before my mum dies. There's not a lot of time left ��. My litlle girl ��?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:51 PM PDT

Question: 35 years ago I said " I wish I never had children" in front of my then 8 year old daughter.?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:51 PM PDT

She never has forgotten and holds it against me to this day. Why?

Question: What does it mean when a girl tell you about her past experience? And she wants to take thing slow?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:41 PM PDT

Hey guys. So i really like this girl and I have been talking to her for awhile. She's moving an hour away from me cause of college but we still texting. At the beginning of our relationship, we were like sexting. She always send me nudes but we never had sex. She told me that she wants to go on a official first date with me and see how it goes. She wants to get to know me instead of just hooking up. She told me that she had sex with 3 guys but they treated her badly. And she told me that im a nice guy. What should I do?

Question: Who is Earl Lederman?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:37 PM PDT

do you happen to know him/her?

Question: Why can't I be a selfish t wat like everyone else?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 06:34 PM PDT

Question: I think my mum is dying. Should I leave my own children to go and be with her?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:52 PM PDT

Question: When I get mad at my husband I call him a bad dad say he doesn’t help around the house and all he does is provide..?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:43 PM PDT

I do this because it pisses him off and it hurts him especially about being a bad father. Well I think he's snapped and said we're now getting separate bank accounts since I just spend his money and that if that's all he does then I should leave him alone and go be with someone else. I think he really means it so what do I do? I'm pregnant and I'm moving a room around myself he's mad but tried to do it but I'm showing him I can since he's worthless

Question: My mum is unwell. She must be because she is making trust fund provisions for her grandchildren. I'm scared. I'm not ready ������?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:33 PM PDT

Question: My parents doesn't seem to want to let me go and give me independence, what can I do about it?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 05:17 PM PDT

Like I'm at college now and I have to go home whenever they tell me to and I have no choice but to go home. I tell them why I want to stay at school but they just don't seem to care about it. They want me to go home whenever they feel like it while I don't even want to go home. They don't give me much independence as other students my age. They reach out to me while I'm at college every day. They control to see what I purchase on my debit card and get mad when I buy something they don't like. They want me to do certain things in life. They are trying to control over my life. And after this year, I may have to go live back at home for college which then I don't have more independence than what I have now. They control what I do and where I go for college. I mean, they're not giving me any chances to let me make my own decisions! They make me go to events that I don't want to go to! They only let me drive to certain places. Like everything goes their way! What can I do about this? I tell them I want my independence as an adult but still I am living with them so I won't have much I can do about it rather than obey them. Anyone else have this experience with very controlling parents? I'm just not supersatisfied with living in a life where my parents make all my decisions and give me very less freedom and independence. I see it is very unacceptable. I know they do care about me very much but this is too much in my opinion.

Question: What's the best way to get relatives to care about you if you're not their kid?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:45 PM PDT

Question: Why do most women treat me badly even though I'm a nice guy?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:35 PM PDT

I feel like they either try to use me or don't let me have any decisions.

Question: Why do some young adults have babies if they are poor?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:27 PM PDT

I understand that having a baby in your 20s is normal but some of the friends that I have are poor. They have no car, no job they boyfriends don't even work and gotta sleep on someone else couch. I'm 25 and I would never have someone's baby if they don't work.. because idc how old you are that's the life of a 15 year old you could be 25 but if you don't got money a car no house you still a kid to me..that situation will never get better.. babies are cute everybody wants to be grown but if you don't got ya own car or a house a baby don't make you grown.. I'm just so confused as of how could some grown woman could not go to her female doctor and get pills but lay up with some guy and think that a baby will bring happiness.. over how? And I mean the young adults who plan it? Not the ones where accidents happen

Question: How do I cope with the pending dysfunction in the family when my grandfather dies?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:17 PM PDT

My Mom will be inconsolable for years like when her mother died. Her brother will return to drinking and be nasty to everyone. His kids will pull away and we won't see them anymore. The aunt of the family will get angry and nasty and make my Mom and uncle blow up at her. The other uncle and his son will just stay away from everyone for a time. It will be total dysfunction. My mother will expect me to be her care giver 24/7 as I am the only child. She will take her anger at her father's loss out on me and be furious whenever I see my father. her despised ex. This anger gets SO MUCH WORSE when she is emotionally sick like when her mother died 3 years ago. Her father is 88 and could live five years or could die tomorrow. Her family has both extremes, intense love and intense hate. At holidays everyone either hugs and laughs and says I love you or scolds each other and storms out early. It is never in the middle. Death brings the worst out.

Question: My cousin wants money. What do I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:07 PM PDT

Her mother degrades her 24/7 and her father has not the balls to stick up for her cause he is a coward. Her sister and brother won't talk to her at their mother's leading. She lost her job. Has no food for 3 days and no electricity and also her phone is turned off. She is 24. She is not perfect and she will start taking advantage of me when I give money and I am 28 and single and not rich myself but I live nearby where she lives. If her mother finds out she was fired for bad habits then she will lay into her like a bully on the playground as her mother is nothing but a bully and an evil person. Her father, my Mom's brother, has no balls to stand up for his daughter. She is alone. What do I do? She does take advantage of people which is part of why her mother has a burning hatred of her that eats her alive. However, she is not a bad person. She was adopted at age 3 from China and so has attachment issues. She also is learning disabled (not severe).

Question: Help, my sister is being cruel and now we never see her which is good. How do I keep it so we never have to see her?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:02 PM PDT

Question: I have a father who chronically lies. How do I know when he is being his arrogant self and when his lies are simply a change of plans?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 04:00 PM PDT

Like if he says I will do that and doesn't when is it something innocently came up and when is it his chronic lying out of arrogance? He wrecked his marriage with this among other stuff.

Question: Why is my stepdad obsessed with me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 03:24 PM PDT

He constantly brings my name up in every argument or conversation, even if it has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with me he finds a way to drag me into it. He constantly texts my mom about what I'm doing when she's not home, when she never asked him to. I've caught him looking at me in inappropriate areas so now whenever he's near I try to wear baggy clothes. He goes out of his way to tell me my real dad doesn't love me. He's pushed me and physically assaulted me in the past but never left bruises. Even my mom agrees that his behavior is really strange and that he acts like he's obsessed with me. He also has this weird thing about stealing my mom from me and says she loves him more than me, which is obviously completely false because i'm her firstborn child. I'm getting a little freaked out because I'm a teenage girl who's gonna move out soon and I don't want him to find me and hurt me.

Question: Is there a way where the state can pay me for my mother living with me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2018 02:50 PM PDT

I can't take care of my mother with my income and 3 kids - I'm a Medical Assistant and scheduled to go back to work next year when my youngest is school ready - she is disabled- my income won't allow it. My mother has state case workers , but not sure if they can pay me for her. My schedule won't allow me to take care of my mother and my career. Grandmother can't take care of her she is a heart patient who had heart surgery and my sisters won't do it as they are not responsible for this task. My mother has back surgery soon.