Family: Question: My grandpa passed away after 96 remarkable years. He was a Guadalcanal vet. In this situation could he be buried with full honors?

Question: My grandpa passed away after 96 remarkable years. He was a Guadalcanal vet. In this situation could he be buried with full honors?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 03:57 PM PDT

After 96 remarkable years my grandpa passed away last night. He had hyperthension and PD. He died at his home as he wished. We helped him in his fnial months. He was preceded in death by grandma,who died in 2000,whom he loved dearly. Grandpa achieved so many things in his long life.He served for 45 years the local community as a general practitioner,was a member of Marine Corps league. He was a simple man,after high school he enlisted in the military and was sent to the pacific. He taught us all what it means to be a wonderful husband,father and grandfather.He was always friendly,even with strangers. Still can't believe he's really gone. Anyway,since we're in this covid situation,can he still be buried with full military honors? He didn't have covid as I've been told. Can we have a proper way to say goodbye to a man who earned nothing but respect?

Question: Who is my half 2nd great uncle? ?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 03:32 PM PDT

If I was adopted and found my half 2nd great uncle but not my birth father.  How would I be in relation with this person? Who would my father be to this person? 

Question: How do I break the 10 year old self in me that says I am the reason my Mom divorced my Dad as she claims it was to protect me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 03:10 PM PDT

My Dad was an alcoholic and my mother divorced him and was VERY bitter towards him when I was growing up. She barred me from seeing him and most the time his family as well. Now she is older and the shoe is on the other foot and she is an enabler for her alcoholic brother. She does not see the hypocrisy. I blame myself for their divorce as I am the one my mother felt she needed to protect. I blame myself for not seeing my Dad again as I am the one who believed my Mom's bitter rants about him. I blame myself for not being close to his family until I was 18 and he died because I did not fight to see them. I am at fault. Does this have any logic to it? Am I at fault? How do I break this thought if I am not and how do I do away with life if I am at fault?

Question: I seem to have everything except friends and family PART 2 (please help me)?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 03:09 PM PDT

Now you see, my mom and I weren't rich. You can consider us a lower middle income family. We didn't have savings as we were living paycheck to paycheck. When she died, I thought I had nothing except the things she left behind. Luckily, I'm blessed with the family from my mom's side. They shouldered the expenses of the funeral to the burial.  Suddenly I get a call informing me that aside from the death benefit I will receive from the government, I'll also be receving money from the insurance company (my mom's workplace have their employees insured). I didn't know that she was insured by the company. A year later, I'm surrounded with plenty of money but I just invested it wisely and saved some for emergency purposes. Coming from a background of technically nothing, money doesn't really blind me. I lived with her sibling after her death. Which I was grateful for but I couldn't move in the house because everything he sees are negatives. He always sees my faults in the house which made me even sadder as I was already dealing with the grief of my mom dying. I wanted to move out but my family said that I might hurt his feelings as he sees me as his child. I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings so I decided to stay until I marry I guess. After my bereavement leave, I returned to the office and everything seems to be falling apart. What pissed me off was when I tried to take my break, my manager didn't allow me as nobody will cover for me. *charcter limit reachd please see part 3

Question: If my sister gets COVID-19 will she die as she has Crohn's Disease and thus a weak immune system?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:58 PM PDT

Should we be planning the inevitable? I write often about her and her abuse. She and I are estranged. However, I obviously don't want her to die or anything and the more I hear about Coronavirus deaths the more I worry she could be a victim. It is not so much losing her I would grieve as what it will do to my parents to lose a child, even a difficult one, my Mom especially would struggle. So should I prepare and will she likely die if she gets Coronavirus? I did an outreach to her as well as one back at Christmas but she did not respond. A 3rd one she acted friendly cause she was in a party atmosphere. Only time I have seen her she was absolutely foul.

Question: I seem to have everything except friends and family PART 1 (please help me)?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:58 PM PDT

I didn't get along much with anyone during college because I have a strong personality. Ironically, college is also where I met my now boyfriend for 3 years. My block was super competitve during college and thrived on gossips most of the time maybe because girls dominated the boys.  When we graduated, I made it a point to just focus on my future and not mind what we went through in college (unless they contact me of course  then I'd be there).  Got a job after I graduated and everything seemed great. Until a few months later, I found out my mom had terminal cancer. It broke me to pieces. You see my dad had another family and we only see each other once or twice a year and only met him when i was already 16 years old so it's safe to say we aren't close and we don't know each other well (I'm fairly certain his family doesn't like me as well because I didn't graduate from a prestigious school and my grandmother from my father's side callled me a bastard). My mom never married anyone and I was only child to my mom. So growing up, it was literally just the two of us. Between a job and taking care of my sick mom, I was exhausted because I barely slept for a month but kept on pushing because I love her and I want her to be in my life as long as possible. However, just a month after her diagnosis, she passed away. I was fortunate enough as we were able to say our last words; I love you, before she passed away in front of me. *character limit reached. Please check part 2.

Question: My great-aunt (grandmother's cousin actually) died of COVID-19. Does this mean I am more vulnerable if I get it? Is it genetic in any way?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:46 PM PDT

Question: Since my Dad emotionally abuses me with his arrogance can I consider myself an adult survivor of child abuse?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:45 PM PDT

The abuse started when I was a teenager. My pre-teen years my father was very good. 

Question: How can I get my parents not to enable my sister's verbal abuse of them?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:35 PM PDT

My sister brutally abuses our parents and my folks enable it by still spoiling her. She is a 26 year old and behaves like she is only six. She says things that would be totally unacceptable if I had said them when mad as a child, in fact they were.

Question: How do I get my mother not to make me tell lies for her alcoholic brother?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:34 PM PDT

Question: My mom traveled for a few weeks and now my dad beats me every day, what i do?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 02:25 PM PDT

Question: Why do most 17 year old girls act like children?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 01:50 PM PDT

Question: Why doesn’t my dad love me anymore?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 12:27 PM PDT

When I was little, my dad loved me. I had this stupid movie I'd watch three or four times a day and every time I'd ask him to watch it with me and he would. I'm sure he got sick of it but he never made me feel like I was taking his time. He still seemed content. He had always been like this, patient and kind. 2015 was the worst year of my life. We dealt with multiple family deaths and moved several times. My dad was wrongly fired from his job and we struggled with debt. Many of those family deaths were on his side, including his fathers. I think he blamed himself for putting our family through that. Ever since then, he has not been the same. I'm always a nuisance. He's always in a bad mood and if he's not he certainly isn't happy either. If I just exist in my room without saying a word he doesn't complain. But if I laugh or cry or speak he suddenly gets frustrated with me. We argue a lot because it seems like he's angry for no reason. He never cares to listen to me like he used to. I got accepted into the honors program at the college I dreamed of going to and he didn't react at all. I was excited because I was going to my favorite band's concert but all he cared about was when I'd finish buying them online so that I would leave and he could get back to what he'd been doing. He used to care about even the most trivial things. Now he doesn't even care I exist, and if I try to be present he gets annoyed. Why doesn't my dad love me anymore? What happened wasn't my fault.

Question: Why is my dad’s side of the family so diverse looking? ?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 12:23 PM PDT

I know many black people that come in different shades and all that. But in his family, they come in literally all shades. Some of them are almost a tan white. Some have reddish/blondish hair, loose curls. My great grandfather even had blue eyes! I'm half white and some of them look more white than I do. My dad is from New Orleans if that helps. 

Question: Is my Mom over protective or right? ?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 11:11 AM PDT

I want to visit a college about 4 hours away from my house. It'll be unofficial, the pre-med advisor said he would open the science building for me and talk to me about the program since he knows it's important to see where you'll be learning the next four years. My mom agrees but she wants me to take someone with me. I understand her concern with such a long haul. But, if done similar drives before with friends or my family. I've been driving for two years with no issues or accidents. I'm going to be 18 in July. I'd be back the same day. I just wanted a bit of independence. Am I wrong?

Question: What do I do, please help?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 10:59 AM PDT

I'm 17 and I think someone is cheating on me. I'm really stressed because I think someone is cheat on me but I'm not sure

Question: Why was my brother so mean to me when we were teenagers?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 10:22 AM PDT

He used to bully me. He made fun of me constantly and even pushed me to the ground once when I didnt give him money. I'm a girl btw.

Question: Can a girl be traumatized seeing the guy she loves being hit by his dad and not reacting?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 09:46 AM PDT

So the two are teenagers, he's 17 and she's 14. They grew up together as they are childhood friends due to their families who are also friends. One day after school she comes home and she finds no one, he sees her outside, she's hungry and he takes her to his home. They eat and while playing the guy ends up on top of her, it's extremely nervous, she looks at him nervously but she loves him, they kiss, in that exact moment his father comes homes after work, tired and angry, sees his son on top of her, sees red and says you b****** who raised to thid way! And starts taking his son from the clothes and guys him in the strongest way he can. His son doesn't react, he just cries saying he didn't do nothing, he swears to god, the girl gets in but the father tells her to go away, she begs him not to beat him but he pushes her and tells her to go home, that the b****** has to be punished. She cries seeing him crying and feels sorry. After the beating he is sad and scared to see her. She sees the marks on his face and apologizes and cries, while he says 'I deserved it. You're a little kid. I shouldn't have done it.' 

Question: Should I be able to come and go as I please after moving back in with parents?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 09:12 AM PDT

I am 24 years old and recently moved back in with my parents to save up and get back on my feet. They take issue with me coming and going and require that I check in. I work a lot and try to have a social life but it upsets them that I don't spend more time at home. I want to respect them and I appreciate that they let me move in for a while but I feel like I should be able to come and go without permission or backlash.

Question: Why does my friend always use "lol"?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 09:09 AM PDT

Like when we text he always say lol even if theirs nothing funny like..me:"Hi! How r U?" Him:"lol" Me:"so.... how was your day?" Him:" lol" I mean... I think that he doesn't even read my messages..he just put"lol"

Question: Why is this teacher so mean to me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 08:48 AM PDT

Today we were doing online classes,he asked me a question and I didn't know the answer,he then talked to me in a really humiliating way...i'm a really good student...i like this teacher (a lot)but I feel that he hate me....he is meaner to me than with my friends....:(

Question: Why do my grandparents say they had it worse than me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 08:23 AM PDT

My parents were abusive {Step dad and mom}, while my biological father was in jail. i now live with my grandparents and they yell at me telling me they had a worse childhood since they were abused by their biological parents. So who has it worse? My stepdad got in bed with me once, and i still have some trauma- i don't know if it qualifies as trauma though..

Question: Is it bad if I don't lovr my grandma?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 08:01 AM PDT

I had a pretty hard childhood, with war, migrations and many house changes, everything was difficult. My grandma was never there. She stayed at my uncle's place, raised his children and never considered me like the kids of my uncle. Now she's sick and alone, but I don't care. When I was sick, when everything was against me, no one gave a damn. She had some money but she never helped us. She gave all her money to my rich cousins. I dont care about her and I don't feel guilty. Once I had those guilty feelings, now I just couldn't care less. When I was in her situation no one cared, so why? Mom says have a heart and call her. I think maybe it should be better if her adored nephews would call her. I just don't want to deal with it. My cousons had parents. My grandma decided to prefer them to me. She always treated me like I was not from the family like I was illegitimate 

Question: How can I answer my friends when they ask about my brother?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 07:39 AM PDT

I am a 16 year old girl with a 18 year old brother whose name is Richard. Richard is 6 feet 3 inches tall. All his guy buddies who hang out at our house call him Big Dick. When my girl friends are here they think it is funny to ask me "About your bother Big Dick, is it true". I need a good comeback so they will not ask me that silly question again. Can anyone suggest a good answer I can give these girls.

Question: How do I get my parents to miss me and love me?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 06:57 AM PDT

My older brother moved to California and my parents saw him last in September of last year so they're always talking about how much they miss him. My life is such that I can't move far away but I want them to love me. They love my brother more because they miss him.

Question: Stimulus Check advice?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 06:37 AM PDT

Recently I found out that my parent was still claiming my sister (20 y/o) as a dependant. They basically duped her out of her $1200 Stimulus check because of it and now both parties are upset as neither of them could have predicted this. I don't want to give up my check but I still want to help out to make sure both parties are happy and no one has any bad blood about it. I was thinking of all us pooling our checks and spliting it even but I dont think my parent would agree. Any advice?

Question: Why do people decide to have kids when they can't afford to give them luxuries?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 06:20 AM PDT

luxuries make life more fun. Life with just essentials suck

Question: This weekend I am quarantined with my mother and her brother. Her brother is an alcoholic and Mom gives him alcohol, should I say something?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 04:57 AM PDT

My mother barred me growing up from any association with my father cause he had alcoholism. Yet, she is fine with her brother since he is nice to her. She enables him and covers up for him. I could care less except the hypocrisy and hurt of what she did to me with my father and now she does just the opposite with her brother. She protested my Dad's family being good to him and yet she is doing just what she protested with her brother. Plus she is mad at her brother's now ex-wife for divorcing him and yet she divorced my Dad for the same reasons. Her brother did try to get help but he has relapsed and has a drink in his hands every time I see him.

Question: My Dad lies persistently. He is also very arrogant. Is this common in an individual with great arrogance?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 04:37 AM PDT

Question: I have a personal problem i have been struggling with for years now.?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 03:42 AM PDT

I was born in 2000, and since i got older i have keept missing and thinking about the 2000s. for me personally, these times were better for me, i remember the the songs i heard my sisters playing on the radio in their room, one of them was shekira hips dont lie, and i heard rihanna umbrella on the tv, the days where me and my older sister used to play on the ps2 alot, the long days outside in the summer playing, playing with snow outside with the family. back then me and my family were closer together, even tho we are home together alot, or relationship is not like it was before. Im stuck in the past, just when i think about those times, i get this feeling that that time was so different from today, back then there wasnt so many people on the phone, even tho i myself like to use it, but cause i miss those times i never use my phone in public.i still play the games i played as a kid because i like the mand because they are from that time. around 2010 things began to become worse, we got a new family member that caused alot of conflicts in the house and still does, and that is also one of the things that makes me miss the past.i try to better my life everyday, but peoplevare hard to get into, people seems like they dont want to talk to new people, and my family dosnt show alot of interest to me. what to do?

Question: How can I find the time to masturbate during quarantine?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 01:36 AM PDT

I hate this whole situation and now I can even **** on weekdays. My mom or dad is always home and it's so annoying. Should I just straight up ask my mom if she would be fine with and not mind me. It's not like I'm gonna be loud anyway.

Question: Hard choice when pooping?

Posted: 17 Apr 2020 12:05 AM PDT

since everyone runs into the toilet paper shortage crisis, what will you do if you only have one sheet of paper tissue left when pooping? 1. swipe 2. place it on top of the water to prevent splash from happening (poop hits paper instead of water directly)?

Question: If I offered my mother the chance to punch me in the face, do you think she'd get all the anger out of her system?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 11:23 PM PDT

I'm so very tired of her picking arguments with me (especially when it's about something that happened twelve years ago), getting pissed when I emotionally shut down to avoid making matters worse, punching walls/furniture/herself in anger, and then crying to me that her hand hurts. I know she just wants to hit me like she did when I was a child; in fact, I'm fairly sure the only reason she hasn't yet done so is that I'm anemic now (I have an autoimmune disorder) and will therefore bruise both strongly and quickly. That said, do you think that, if I let her punch me in the face just once, just as a freebie, she'd at least leave me alone for a little bit afterwards?

Question: I need help. Should I give up custody? ?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 09:47 PM PDT

My nonverbal autistic child who I've had full custody of and financially responsible since conception is killing me. I'm on a ton of medication for back pain from carrying him during meltdowns and I've even had to take physical therapy/chiropractic services/tissue massages and my pain won't go away. I've sacrificed everything thinking I was doing the right thing by not aborting a healthy baby. The dad is in the military with a kid and another on the way. He wants nothing to do with me because he says he can't coparent with me because he doesn't want to acknowledge our son's extensive needs. Our son needs help with all daily functions. I wanted to give his dad full custody but he doesn't want to deal with special needs. Should I do it knowing my son's quality of life will suffer. I just can't be a fing martyr forever as a single parent. I've had it...the dad lies about income, belittles me, and has never helped me emotionally/financially in any way. I messed up our lives. Sometimes I just wish I could run away and never look back. Just leave the country...I'm a slave. No one in my large family has autism...I never thought this would happen. What would you do? I don't have anyone I can talk to who can relate to my situation. I'm really down and upset with my life decisions and inability to fix them. My son requires 24/7 care and he is violent and destructive and I rent so all repairs I have to pay for. I can't even have a normal job...only part time. I've done this for 6 years.

Question: Should I be concerned about my mom?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 09:32 PM PDT

She works at a pretty small office with 5 guys. They are all around 50 and she is 36. Should I be concerned about them behaving disrespectfully or even worse?

Question: My parents won’t let me listen to heavy metal. What should I do?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 08:58 PM PDT

Question: Is it wrong to kick my sister out of apartment?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 08:20 PM PDT

My 22 year old sister moved in with me and my boyfriend almost 2 months now. We have a 1 bedroom apartment so she's in the living room. We also have a new puppy. She has the worst attitude, doesn't help to pay for anything. Mind you she was only suppose to stay for a week but the quarantine stopped her. She was living at my mothers before but she got in a fight with my brother, so she needed a place to get away. When she does contribute to groceries, she buys what she would cook and literally take up a space and store her food she bought seperate from mines. I've cleaned up after her multiple times as well and shes getting in the way of my training with my new puppy. Tonight I asked her can I borrow make up wipes and out of her whole pack she tells me I could only get 1 or 2. Then literally questions whether my hands were clean or not although she's living n MY apartment. I'm really trying not to blow up but I feel so disrespected. Is it wrong to tell her she has to go live with my mom? My boyfriend has had it as well! He's being a champ and respectful but after he saw her private pads open in the garbage in OUR KITCHEN he's had it. I'm also trying to stop smoking and she smokes soo thats not helping.

Question: When is laura ingrham going to Lose her job.  She butts in and talks over her guests ?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 08:04 PM PDT

Question: Is it weird for an older brother to cuddle with his sister?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 07:00 PM PDT

The brother is 29 and the sister is 22, they're super close and the sister told me that they sometimes spoon in a platonic way (no groping or anything like that). They've both had pretty hard lives and they've been through a lot together. I haven't noticed anything odd besides that. I'm an only child so I can't really judge whether that's weird or not.

Question: Why do some adults listen to there parents and do what they say even when they dont want to?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 06:46 PM PDT

I cant wait till im 18 so when my parents tell me to do some thing I can tell them no without fear of any consequences as long as im out of their house if you are out of your parents house they can not do anything. they only have power if you live with them

Question: 8 years of continuous in closed torture?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 05:25 PM PDT

I'm a 13 year old boy that grew up with 2 parents and one, different, sister. I have been living with my family for the past 13 years of my life and have been suffering the trauma my sister has put my parents and I. For the past 8 years my 16-17 year old sister has been assaulting and tormenting my parents and I. This includes kicking my mother, kicking me (multiple occasions) in the car, strangling my mother in the car while on acceleration. She also does not respond to social situations publicly(with classmates, or strangers) or with her family. She claims to have depression, and shows high signs of anxiety around other people. She will normally let people push her around, say things to her, etc. This all comes around her and she takes it out on mostly my parents when she gets home. She is very anxious when she comes home, as she says everything that happened to her school, and can rant on it for hours. It is normal for people to rant, bit she takes it to the next level. When I say she takes it out on my parents, this includes just moaning and groaning for 2 hours and just plain out screaming like a crazy person (at the end of the argument, when she just stops saying words). I have tried contacting the police in the past when  I was about 7-8 while my mom was taking hard kicks to the torso, the operator line said "This number is in use". If it wasn't, she would've been held down and sent somewhere, and it would've ended from there. What do I do? Today, she has forced my parents to make coffee for her treating them like slaves.

Question: I have an alcoholic uncle my mother covers up for and gets me to lie to my grandmother for. Is this normal in an alcoholic family?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 04:27 PM PDT

She covers for him cause his mother gets after him if he is drunk. It is one of the things that cost him his marriage though his ex was no saint.

Question: What do I do if my mother forces me to go to the beach with her and see her toxic friends instead of being with family this summer or Xmas?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 04:25 PM PDT

She keeps telling me to stay away from others due to COVID-19 and yet every other weekend she is at her beach house with her two toxic friends. One is someone who tries to get my Mom in a feud with her sister who is an ex-friend of my Mom's friend. The other friend sleeps with married men and so is a bad person. A 3rd friend is fine.

Question: Why do kids love their parents until they become teenagers?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 04:13 PM PDT

Question: I just want to get away from my dad?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 03:52 PM PDT

he's not abusive but he's always yelling and screaming at my mom, my brothers in college, he's really unpredictable and will be nice one minute and then start screaming, he admitted to having mental issues but doesn't want help because he doesn't believe in medicine or therapy, he's also cruel he wants to kick my brother out of his townhouse and into the street so he learns a lesson. i'm constantly anxious and hate it knowing he could suddenly turn on me or my mom and i just want to get away but i can't because he is the one who works in my family and controls my future like college and stuff but i really just can't take him as a person anymore, he'll constantly insult my mom to the point she cries for no reason and it hurts me to see my mom so hurt but she says she loves my dad and couldn't live without him emotionally, what do i do i'm 17

Question: Was I in the wrong?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 03:41 PM PDT

It was dinner time. My grandma asked if I wanted to eat, even though I clearly didn't. I said no, in a calm voice. She asked me again the next second. I raised my voice and said no again. My mom said alright, you don't need to say it like that. I said no because she always asks me twice over and over. I then go in my room. Mom and grandma talk about me saying he can just microwave his food. I said stop talking about me. She said you don't control what comes out of my lips. I said if you're going to talk about me, say it to my face. She comes in and takes my phone. I try to physically take it back, but she got to the basement with it. She said she is going to take away my laptop and replace it with a school laptop (I think shes full of it)

Question: How would you handle being quarantined with someone you hate?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 03:23 PM PDT

Question: Should I go somewhere?

Posted: 16 Apr 2020 03:07 PM PDT

I haven't been anywhere since February 28th 2020 except the front porch and inside the home.  I feel blessed to have a place to live and income also I live with my sister and she does all the shopping.  I really wish I could go somewhere though.