How do i cope with my mom trash talking my dad with her family members all day long? Im at the point where even her voice is annoying me and want to move out. She's constantly gossiping, being judgemental and making up things as well to trash talk my dad. The house just seems too negative to be around anymore. Sadly im underage and can't move out. I don't about their problems between them, i just hate people who gossip non stop!!! Its so annoying!!!

Back in 2014, someone asked if my ten year old brother could be a pallbearer for his great grandmother. What a difficult and emotional question to ask of such a young boy. That's his GG he had known his whole life. She held him in his arms as an infant, took photos with him, spent holidays with him, and made memories with him. Then my rosy cheeked, dimpled, not even five feet tall brother is asked to deal with her lifelessness. What a horrid and pressuring task to ask of him. Maybe it would be honorable and we would proud of him, but it's still difficult and emotional.

I have been feeling overwhelmed in the morning so I decided to play some roblox to feel better. My mom, however found out and got mad - I told her I was feeling a bit tired she didn't believe me. I was swearing to god repeatedly but no, she didn't trust me. Tried to sit down and talk calmly? No, nothing. Now what the hell do I have to do to tell her she blamed me when I didn't deserve it, and get her back? 

What do you think of the "How did you know?" Phrase?What s the most likely scenario when someone says this? I asked my mother, "Is it true that the mental health clinic gave me a birth date in September 1995?" And she instantly replied "It was a mistake by the mental health clinic" "Why do you feel?" "How did you know? "and I replied" You told me 2 years ago ". Is it common for clinics to assign the wrong birthdate?Anyways, i checked my photos when i was 1 or 2 and they match with my actual birthdate( 1999 ).

I applied for a job in another state that has a better pay than my current job, and received update that I am among one of the best candidates and has been referred for consideration. If hired, that means I would be relocating to that state. My mom has been against the idea of me moving far away from her (5 hours drive). My bf lives in that state, and previously, when I brought up the idea of me potentially moving to live with him, my mom got really upset and angry. She thinks I'm only thinking of my bf and abandoning her, even though I assured her that's not the case. She even said I'm selfish for thinking of moving away. I told her I'm old enough and just want to venture out and experience new things, which also includes living with my bf. My bf and I are serious about this relationship and have talked about eventually getting married. And I have always told my mom that I want to be able to make enough money to give her and my dad a better lifestyle. She has always been so used to me and my siblings being close to her so I understand it is hard for her. But from my standpoint, I have my own life to live. I don't want to live with regrets and miss out on opportunities. If I am really hired for this job and my mom is still against me moving and living with my bf, would that be selfish of her? I feel like she would still just say that all I want is to be with my bf more than with her. She would not see the importance of this job.

When she talks about kids with her friends she openly says that I was an accidental child. It's kinda offensive. She was 20 when she gave burth to me and in college but she doesn't even hold back. My dad told me that I was one too and that his condom somehow broke while he was nutting.

My mom (60s) regularly steals donations from a non-profit that she volunteers at as a board member. She then passes off the stolen items as gifts, claiming she has purchased the items. I pleaded her to stop multiple times to no avail. What to do? I have also told her husband. He continues to unknowingly receive the stolen property. To give you an idea of the scope of the problem, she takes the equivalent of a large trash bag at least weekly…Amounting to TRUCKLOADS of stolen merchandise (many with price tags)! About half of the items in her home including her wardrobe are stolen from this establishment. The problem is so vast that she will redonate the unwanted stolen items to the store as if they were hers. My main ethical dilemma is that she's abusing a position of power for personal gain.  What do I do please? 

I grew up in rural upstate NY and always dreamed of moving for as long as I can remember. I went to college out of state, then I finally made the move south 10 years ago in grad school.  I have never been happier anywhere, than where I live now. The warmer climate, the people, the recreational opportunities from being close to the ocean, along job opportunities have me living a much higher quality of life than I feel I'd ever have where I grew up. I'm the oldest of 4 and was always the self-sufficient loner in the family who was constantly told to think about your siblings first, and yourself 2nd. Something my parents never emphasized on my siblings. My Mom has lived in the same town all of her life, and all of my siblings still live with them, and need to travel 60+ miles one-way to work. At any event I've been to within the past few years I cannot say anything around my Mom, about where I live now, and why I choose to move (usually warmer whether is the biggest thing, along with better job opportunities) without her getting hypersensitive and saying that I'm very hurtful to people who live where I grew up. If I ever post anything on FB about it being a beautiful day outside, my family bombards me with texts saying that I a real sh..-hole to people in my hometown, or mocking me saying that no place can be as perfect as where I live. I never said anything to deliberately be negative about my hometown. I am happier where I live now. Why can't my family just be happy for me? I should probably add that both of my parents are consistently complaining about where they live and often post complaints about their government, or how bad their weather is on social media. Which has made me even more confused about why they just can't seem to be proud of me? 

I'm 26, and can't kinda control this anger, even my heart beats faster believe it or not. Mum blocked my extra credit card that was to her name. 

According to him he is stranded in a foreign country working a dead end job and barely able to pay his bills. He wants to leave but cannot afford to buy the plane ticket. My friend is a widow and she has 4 kids. She doesn't have much money to spare and barely makes ends meet. But he always comes to her for help financially. When she asked him why he couldn't ask his family for help he just outright dismissed the idea and said they don't have it to give to him. But she did a little digging and found out that his oldest sister owns a successful business and has done well for herself. She is not married and doesn't have any kids either. His older brother married into a wealthy family and his younger sister also married into a wealthy family. It seems to me that if he needed help that badly he could ask his own siblings. She broke down last month and gave him her rent money. When she told him she would not be able to pay rent he just said "sorry about that". I don't think he cares about her at all. But she feels sorry for him and is thinking of getting a loan in order to rent him a flat of his own because when he comes back he doesn't want to move in with his mother. 

I m 17 and I was working part time while going to school, up until about a month ago. My parents made me quit my job because my grandma lives with us and they were afraid I would bring coronavirus home to her (even though both my parents are still working). I have to pay my own car insurance and cell phone which are almost $400 a month. I just bought my first car in February for $2000 (I had $3000 saved up) but after DMV and registration and stuff it was closer to $2,500, leaving me with about $1,500 in my account. I'm down to about $600 now. My parents won't let me cancel my cell phone or car insurance. I don't know what to do. I need advice. Someone please help!!

So I live with my family, pretty ordinary to say the least, and I have 3 other siblings, me being the oldest, and throughout my childhood I'd been called "stupid", "useless" and "good for nothing" numerous times by my father. It's gotten to the point where I basically refer to myself as that now, I can't see myself in any other way aside from in a negative light and it's really impacting my mental health. Of course, he says he treats us this way to make us "think more" and "not be so careless", basically saying that the more he belittles us, the more we'll be able to think and do things faster and more efficiently. He treats my mom this way too, and with every little "mistake" I make, or if I'm not quick enough to do a task, he always says "Is this how you're going to act around your future husband? You'll never find a partner if you continue to be this way." I'm starting to think that this is going pretty far from 'discipline', and I really don't want my younger siblings to grow up in an environment such as things, especially since they're so young at the moment. I myself can't get out either, since I'm underaged.

My father asked me to carry mine in her check on bag and she went ballistic in the hotel room like a toddler. She is twenty five. No one likes her, I don't think even my parents, but was she justified here to go ballistic

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years.  His mom is nice to me, but she doesn't show any interest in me being apart of the family. She never asks me questions, wants to get to know me. If I ask her how she's doing she simply answers and doesn't ask me back. If I ever want to take her out she says "I'm fine." My fiancé says she likes me, but I know what I'm feeling. The youngest child, and only daughter treats me terribly. She's been mean and cruel to me since the jump where I've had to block her off all social media/numbers. I just feel so excluded and like I don't belong. I'm a very social, loving, family oriented person that's why my fiancé wants to marry me! But seeing the family he grew up with they were nothing like this.  My family on the other hand is so open and loving to my fiancé. To a point he already calls my  grandparents his grandparents and he's closer to my siblings than his own. It's just brighter and more comfortable with my family.  It's the opposite feeling for me with his family, and it's to a point I rather stay away for my own sake. I don't want to put my fiancé in the middle and "choose" I just won't simply go. Will this make me be the monster if at least I don't show up to his moms anymore and he only does? Or go 50/50 with our family gatherings and stick it out? My families never treated my fiancé poorly for him to understand this feeling. 

My niece and her husband have been married for 9 or 10 years they have a 5 year old son last year she started dating another guy so they're gonna be getting a divorce. She's now mad because he's been thinking about seeing someone else too she went online started getting mad and bitching about it I told her that she was the one who started this yet they're trying to stay together for their son they tried to tell him but he doesn't understand he thinks they're still together. She said that she and him are trying to have another baby because she feels bad for her kid. Does that sound messed up ?

Whenever I use my phone in my fiancé parents' place, my wife to be will get an earful from her mother about how rude I am for using my phone. I don't use it when they're around or we're having a conversation. That would be rude. I only pull out my phone to browse the internet when I am sitting in their living room alone; something I seem to do a lot of being that my fiancé and I never get alone time when I'm over there. She lives with her parents, by the way. I am aware my future mother-in-law hates phones and doesn't allow her adult children to use them in her vicinity. But, I am not her child and as long as I am not on it while we're in the middle of a conversation, I don't see a problem with it. Am I being rude? Or is my future mother-in-law is being unreasonable?

Hello, I recently moved in with my nan aswell as my mum. It was just me & my mum before. We've always clashed and I always felt as if I never did  anything right. When they are together, they are horrible. They call me all sorts of names, make comments and "jokes" about my appearance. I've non stopped cried in my room today. Because of the virus I can't leave the house and it's breaking my heart more than anything. I'm broken in every way, my mental health has always been bad, I lost my grandad 5 months ago he was a dad to me. I'm 18 in 3 weeks, I need and want to move out, I'm looking for work at the moment..once I'm 18 no where will help me with housing. I don't know how much longer I can cope in general let alone now with this on top of me. I'm still grieving, I'm just fed up. Of everything. Please any advice on how to afford to move out will help.  Also.. my grandad saved back 3 grand for when I'm 18. Because he isn't here anymore my nans in charge of it. He always said to do whatever I want with it ect move out. My Nan and mum are controlling it. I would of originally used it to move out.  Thank you..

As a child I would get along just great with my parents but when I moved to university they started to change how they were with me.  They want me to come home and babysit all the time and visit every weekend. I come home as much as I can but I have my own life so it's not always possible.  The thing is they're not like that with my brother they treat him so much different. They're so kind and loving to him and never ask him for anything, but when I'm home they constantly shout at me and kick off and when I try and talk to them about how they act they don't listen and they just get angrier and blame me.  I lend them money, babysit and do anything I can to help them but they still don't really like me. Are they toxic even though my brother disagrees, or am I the problem? 

I never want to have to see him again. My parents blame me and say that's ridiculous. I looked up OCD and choking women is not one of the symptoms.  

So my girlfriend (non parent) and I (parent) are both [30] been together for almost 5 yrs. I love her to death, and we have a good relationship. When we first started dating (honeymoon phase) we had a lot of irresponsible sex. (Unprotected) in which she got pregnant twice. She chose to get abortions both times which I did not have a problem with bc it is her right, her body. I get it. And I'm also not in any rush to have more children. I'm also on the other am not anti against it bc I do have 2 other children and I love my kids. I told her to stay on birth control but she insisted that she doesn't want to inject her body with bad stuff, so she went and tried the Daisey I think it's called which was working for us for sometimes actually yrs. until recently she got pregnant again. She's getting another abort which again I don't have a problem with it. Bc it's her choice. But it's weird to me that she's like anti children. I mean I get it if we're not in the greatest place or time to have a kid, but it just rubs me the wrong way sometimes. She told me she refers to her dog, which we both own as her "daughter", and it's like as a Father a actual father. I feel idk weirded out about it. Ik like tradition isn't really a thing anymore. Ppl care more about status and their living their best lives than having traditional families. Which I get kids are costly. But as a father not the richest dad but good dad. **** just makes me feel weird and I look at her differently for some reason  I'm just not sure am I wrong for like being weirded out about it. Times are different now, I'm sure their a lot of ppl like anti children and **** in the world which alone is weird to me. ONLY bc I'm a parent. But I just really think it's weird, that a person can care more for like an animal than their own child. Idk. 

Is this a common thing or is it ******* weird? My dad told me that he used to eat ice cream on my mom's belly a year before I was born as well as when she was prego.  They were like 18 and 23 or somethibg at the time. I don't even know why my dad shared this information with me.

Because everybody needs to stay home during the virus outbreak, the school incorporated video lessons and gave us a ton of homework - much more than usual. I would stay up until 12 just to finish the work for each day, and then go to sleep at 1. I also suffer from insomnia, so I fall asleep extremely slowly. My parents are waking me up 6 every day. I feel tired and have a really bad headache all the time. I tried to reason, but they told me to f** of and said that I'm a lier. How to get them to stop?

Hello, I was hospitalized for 3 days and neither my siblings came to see me. Only my mom came by to check on me. It hurt that my siblings didn't see me, but only one of them called days later. Also forgot to mention this happened a couple of months back before covid-19.

I just find it so gross that he went at it while I was in there. Like no respect for me at all.

 I'm in my 20's still living with my parents. About 3 year ago, my dad took all my childhood stuff that were stored in the basement, and donated them to the thrift store without asking or telling me about it. I had some old toys, lego sets, stuffed animals and childhood keepsakes that were stored in the basement. One day, I went downstairs to search for my stuff and found out that all the stuff from my childhood are all gone! My dad is a short tempered man, I was afraid to ask him for an explanation.I remember crying for a week before I finally got the courage to ask him why he donated my stuff without asking me? He simply said, 'welll I thought you don't wan't it anymore, so I donated it. He just assume that I didn't want the stuff anymore without even asking me. He said he didn't do it on purpose and promised that next time he will ask before getting rid of my things. This it's just a one-off incident. I decide to let it go and move on. I thought after discussing this issue with him he won't do the same thing again but that's the that case! Beside from my childood keepstake and there were also some boxes of items filled with my mom's personal belongings stacked in the basement. Not long afterwards, when he decided to clear out the entire basement he gotten rid of my mother's belongings too. He donated and gave away all her clothes, shoes household items, mugs without her consent or knowledge. When she confronted him about it, he became defensive and lashed out. Me and my mom have talked about this issuee with him years ago when he got rid of our stuff from the basement, plead him not to throw our things away again without any consent or knowledge on our part. But it happened again recently. My dad continue to randomly throw things away, without any disregards to what it is and who it belongs to? It seems like he doesn't care or respect your possessions, he doesn't see a problem with that, and it isn't going to change.

Ok, so recently we found out we've had bed bugs so we've basically stripped our entire house to clean it. My mother, my sister, and i. All sleep in the living room. My grandparents sleep in the back bedroom. Everyone is aware that I smoke. But they don't allow me to. Anything will help. Please and thank you! (And yes. I'm underage, so it's kinda hard for me)

By curfew, I don't mean staying out. I can't leave alone or hang out with my friends at all. It would be fun but I understand that it isn't really safe out so I don't really mind staying home all the time. At least I can see my friends at school. So instead of going out with my friends or anything I just talk to them online and play roblox. With the whole coronavirus thing going on I can't even see my friends at school, so my time spent talking with them online increased a lot. This meant staying up all night playing games with them. My parents caught me doing a video chat on instagram and playing roblox with them at 2am and they got really mad at me and took my phone permanently and I only get my laptop to do homework. They even wanted to supervise me doing my homework to make sure I wasn't doing anything else, but I talked them out of it. They always take my laptop away at 8pm and I get really bored because my sleep schedule is 11-7. I started arguing with my parents about how early/ridiculous an 8pm curfew was and that I can't even do anything else since I was never allowed to leave and they said that I broke their trust by playing games at night when they thought I was sleeping. I said that I never lied to them because I never told them I was going to sleep in the first place and that they just assumed I would be sleeping so they said either way I am a minor ;-; Do I just have to deal with it until I'm 18 or move out? Am I in the wrong or are my parents being too strict?

I'm writing a book and the main character (19) is going to attempt to get custody of her younger brother (15)  For context, their parents are emotionally and verbally abusive. They haven't physically abused their children, but have broken their belongings in a fit of rage (Ex: Punched the son's computer monitor because he was failing a class)  Both parents have unchecked mental issues that could in theory be fixed with medical attention and possibly end the abuse. Would this potential sway the courts ruling? Has anyone who's gone through the process give me a detailed summary? Or anyone with knowledge give me a few examples of what they look for and what questions the older sibling will be asked? How soon will the parents be informed if she petitions for custody? Thanks so much!!

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We are adults living on our own. 

I'm an 18 year old female, and I know for sure I'm not getting married and having kids. It's kind of hard to do that when men don't even glance in my direction. In all this time I have never had a guy express interest in me. Not even a little. Nonetheless, she won't stop bringing up kids and marriage to me. I really wish she would stop. I've always know that getting married isn't an option for me, and I don't even like kids. But again, she keeps bringing up marriage and it's starting to bring me down, because I know no one will ever be attracted to me. Even I find myself repulsive. I've tried talking to her but she's so delusional she just won't listen. She has convinced herself that I'm drop dead gorgeous, and that men admire me in public. This couldn't be farther from the truth. Everytime she shares her delusions with me, it depresses me, because it reminds me of everything I am not and could never be. Should I just cut her off?

Everything my grandmother had been telling me for years came true. Unfortunately my grandmother passed away years ago. But for years she tried explaining to me that my mother did not love my brother or me, her favorite was always my older sister. Now 27 years later I finally discover the truth. Feel hurt, feel stupid. And Really wished I would have listened sooner because now I need my grandma now more than ever. But I will forgive my mom. It will take time for my emotions to heal but I will forgive her. Im hurt and don't know how to process this

So, I'm a junior in college and I recently said I was going to transfer to a college back home since they are raising tuition at my college. My mom took out a 14k loan for me but it's going to be forgiven since she works for the police department. Now, my school is giving me over 2k in refunds for room and board along with meal plans and my mom feels as though she is entitled to my refund. Even when I was at school and got refunds for the fall and spring semester, she took it and spent it for herself. I had no books and no money to pay for my books at all! And I told her that I needed it but she didn't care because she claims she had bills to pay off. I don't understand why her financial problems are becoming mine. We just got into an argument today because she knows my refund is coming soon and she scheduled a payment to my account without my acknowledgment. I have money coming in for my taxes Wednesday and money from work-study on Thursday and I was going to use that money to pay off my credit card. My mom thinks she's entitled to it since she taught me how to do my taxes and since I "owe her" since she took care of me. Then she goes on to insult me and yell at her because of that, why? Because I'm not about to sit and let my mom bad mouth me by calling me a "punk ***" or "stupid ***" since you're not getting your way. I need some advice. She had our bank accounts joint since I was little but I called and unjointed my account from hers today. I was going to use the money I'm getting from my college to buy me a car so I can get me a job, is that a good idea?

My husband's family had a mini family reunion a few months ago. At that time, some of us stayed at grandma's and the who more distantly related stayed at a hotel near by. We spent our time doing all day family outings multiple days in a row and having dinner usually at grandmas. Needless to say, after hanging out with so many people for so many days in a row, we could tell that grandma was starting to feel tired and overloaded by the number of people around. Me included. Things started to calm down after the more distant relatives went back home and we finally had a minute to relax and have some peace and quiet at grandma's house. At this time, my sister in law who came from out of state expressed she was making plans for the next day with a friend in town. Knowing that grandma, my husband, and I were overloaded by the past few days. My significant other asked his sister to not bring friends to grandma's house as we are just exhausted with the interactions as is grandma. He had this chat with her the night before she planned to see her friend (a few hours after we heard about her seeing the friend) giving them plenty of time to change the meeting place if she was planning to bring the friend over. The next morning came, the two of us went out for breakfast. Others went to run some errands, etc. Grandma finally got to have some time to relax in peace to recharge. or so we thought. We came back to grandma's only to find sister in law and her friend at the house.. I just don't understand how someone could be so oblivious to their surroundings. 

I broke an important relic/sculpture of my mom's. I told her I broke it. But the reason for that is because I tossed my shoe up in the air, it shook the screw and the relic came falling DOWN. I haven't told her that yet because I was scared she would never forgive me. She said it couldn't have fallen on it's own. Any other good reasons?

I'm 24 and I gave my mom a pretty bad silent treatment cause I was really mad at her. She was being very rude to me yesterday and I was angry, so that's how I responded. I feel pretty guilty and I'm a little embarrassed so I'm not sure how to apologize. If you're going to be rude just don't answer please. I've never had to apologize for something like this and I'm not sure how to go about it.

And american parents don't care if they haven't a job or any other ways to live by their own. It's so sick their culture that children think that is normal, and it's not, around the world most of the sons and daughters live with their parents until they got married, and it's not frowned upon for example UK where almost 50% of young adults still live with their family, and what about other cultures like China, India, muslims or latinos where it's a normal thing.Why do americans feel ashamed to share time with their parents? It's very irritating how in their TV shows and movies, they show adults who live with their family as losers. WTH!

My mom keeps calling me as if she were in some concentration camp. She acts like such a martyr. I like in a different state, but she acts as if we will never see each other again. -My mom is retired, so money is not an issue. -She has a big house, with huge yard, and a pool. It's not like she doesn't have space to stretch her legs. I keep telling my mom to be grateful because other people don't have money. I tell her other people are stuck in a tiny one-room apartment. But she acts as if she's going through this huge tragedy. Why can't my mom quit being so dramatic?

I asked my mother, "Is it true that the mental health clinic gave me a birth date in September 1995?" And she instantly replied "It was a mistake by the mental health clinic" "Why do you feel?" "How did you know? "and I replied" You told me 2 years ago ". Is it common for clinics to assign the wrong birthdate?Anyways, i checked my photos when i was 1 or 2 and they match with my actual birthdate( 1999 ).

I am a selfish asshole, pervert, and an all around piece of ****. Help I can't walk away and I am too retarded to get a job