Family: Question: How do I stop thinking like a teenager?

Question: How do I stop thinking like a teenager?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 12:44 PM PDT

I'm 20 years old and whenever my parents say something to me I end up getting very defensive. I feel like everyone's out to get me. For instance, my parents reminded me to take out the trash and I got really mad I felt like they were treating me as if I couldn't do things by myself. I lashed out to them but then I felt bad and apologized because I was wrong.

Question: My crush didn't add me back on snapchat, what do I do now?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 11:13 AM PDT

Question: Why doesn't my brother curse on XBOX Live?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 11:08 AM PDT

He's 8 years old btw.. I don't know why he wouldn't cuss toward his friends on XBOX Live if his parents cuss at him. I'm not even just talking about strong cuss words, but like he wouldn't even say damn, hell or crap. The worst two I've heard from him were butt and sucks, and sometimes he says oh my god but his parents allow it.

Question: Why do moms favor and only seem to like their son and disregard their daughters ?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 10:55 AM PDT

I am wondering why they tend to be much nicer to their sons than their daughters. They play favoritism and some go as far to abuse their daughter.

Question: What would happen if I did the following truck to get my two aunts to get over their conflict?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 10:06 AM PDT

I'll spare all the details of the story but they have not been on good terms for about six years. So this is what I'm wondering. This week if I called Aunt 1 and told her that aunt 2 had been in a terrible car crash and was being medevac to the hospital. And then I called aunt 2 and told her that aunt 1 had been in a horrible car crash and was being medevac to the hospital. Then as a result both run to the hospital thinking their sister is dying and they might not get to see them again. As they get to the hospital they run into each other in the hallway and they're so grateful that the other is alive and that it was a hoax that they forget about their argument and become friends again. They may hate me for a short time but over time they're so grateful that I got them back together that they love me again and I become the favorite niece. Is this a good idea? I sought on the TV show Yes Dear and it worked so I'm wondering if this would work in real life.

Question: How can I get my mom to get over my sister’s death as it has been two years?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:58 AM PDT

My sister died in a car crash two years ago in July and my mom is still all depressed and we can't do things now because of my mom's problems. How do I get her to get over it. She has three other kids so it's not like my sister was her only child plus she has my stepfather.

Question: My parents are hypocrites. How do I get them to see them better than them?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:57 AM PDT

they use me as a pawn when they get in these fights with family on my mom side. They wouldn't let me see my grandfather supposedly because he was an alcoholic and yet they were perfectly fine with me seeing my dad's step-brother who is an alcoholic because it was my dad side and they get along with my dad's side not my mom's. They even allowed me around a known sex offender who went to prison for trying to rape a woman and yet they won't let me see good people that simply have spats with my parents or one who suffered from the illness of alcoholism. The sex offender we've learned now did a lot more also. That is one of many examples of them being hypocrites in my 17 years of life.

Question: My father is very arrogant and he lies frequently, should I disown him as my father?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:50 AM PDT

Question: My brother died last night, what do we do about the funeral when obviously we can’t have one right now?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:42 AM PDT

I'm still in shock so that's why am asking this. He struggled with addiction and he was found dead around 10 o'clock by my my mother called me at midnight. He overdosed on heroin and ecstasy. Also what do I tell people? Do we come out and say he overdosed or is my mom right that we need to just say he had a heart attack? he was an addict and I think my mom covered up too much for him but she did stage an intervention and she did make him move out. No one had heard from him all week so that's why she went into his apartment where she found him. My dad died of alcoholism when I was 12 and I knew him very little and now my brother. My mom was very bitter towards my dad but my brother she was good to.

Question: I come from a narcissistic family because my sister is a narcissist as is my mom sister, how do I break the cycle?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:39 AM PDT

What if I have a child one day and that child gets the gene? Is narcissism genetic?

Question: How to ask relative if I could move in?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:19 AM PDT

How should I ask my half-brother if I could move in with him temporarily until I get a job & save to move out? I'm 18 years old & in college as well.  This is a bit awkward and uncomfortable for me because he is older than me by 20 years and we did not grow up together(different mothers) and rarely ever spoke while I was growing up. However, 2 years ago, my dad let him move in with us (where I currently live) for almost 10 months. My half brother and I got along really well & established a nice bond but we never spoke to each other again since he moved out & got back on his feet. I'm literally just asking for advice of how to word it without scaring him off or feel like I'm using him. I just want to be in a safe environment, that's all. Currently, staying with my parents is bad for mental health because they are abusive. My half-brother is aware of that as well, from the time he spent living with us.

Question: Annoyed with foster sister but don't want to be rude?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:18 AM PDT

she is constantly following me around and asking me to come everywhere with her. she gets offended when i say i need alone time. we are both black. she has light skin and mine is dark. she has made colorist comments in front of me and always gets mad when i confront her about it. she is very rude and always making negative comments about literally EVERYONE. even strangers from tv. she has tried getting me in trouble and made things up about me to do so. she comes to my room everyday just to sit and do nothing. i like being by myself so sometimes this is irritating. she also gets an attitude with me a lot and i try to be nice regardless of these things but sometimes i cant. i dont know what to do.

Question: Who was wrong here?!?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 09:11 AM PDT

So I feel like my family constantly leaves me o it of stuff. I'm in college so that already automatically leaves me out of stuff which I understand but even when I'm home it still happens. I'm home for the summer and I was downstairs eating and it was my cousins birthday tomorrow who's turning 13 and I'm really close with her. While o was eating my dad pulled up a video on his phone that my aunt had organized for everyone to say happy birthday to her and I saw a video of my family saying happy birthday and I wasn't in it!  Of course I started questioning my parents and stuff and they said sometime last week they made the video and called me down. I knew it was a lie because I would've heard them ( I always hear when they call my name ) and I figured maybe I was in the shower or something But I'm pissed off because I didn't know they were doing that and I still feel like someone could have told me.  I have a sister a year younger and they never would've done that to her and if she's not answering, they would've gone up to her room because they've done it before  I'm just constantly disrespected by my own family and I don't feel like I'm overreacting this time. Who was wrong here?

Question: Where would I make a personalized mask for like $5 a piece like the one below? I would be writing “Sisson Family Reunion 2020” on them?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 07:46 AM PDT

Where would I make a personalized mask for like $5 a piece like the one below? I would be writing "Sisson Family Reunion 2020" on them. Sisson is my family name on my mom's side. This is for the family reunion in July if we have it.

Question: What should I do? What is your opinion?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 07:35 AM PDT

Hi, I'm a Dominican girl, I grew up my whole life in Italy and raised by my grandma and her husband (I call them mum and dad), my family I would say it's pretty toxic, no one's happy etc. My biological dad that lives in the United States applied for a green card  for me when I was 17, after I got my Visa  my grandma thought it was best for me to move to the US, so I did and I finished high school there last year, I was going to apply for college but my grandma insisted to me to come back cause they needed me etc etc so at the end I said yes. In the US I was almost independent I was working, going to school, I felt free, something that in my whole life I never felt with my family in IT, my grandma she's pretty toxic and likes to control others even tho she doesn't like to admit it. My grandma in the US  is sad cause she would like to have me there, and all my aunt say I should study there instead, but I always refused because I don't want my family to feel like I'm abandoning them or that I don't care, but I do care and love them, but I feel that if I choose to stay in Europe then is gonna be the opposite with my family in the US, cause I don't want to make feel bad anyone, but if I choose myself then I am the bad one of the situation. I've been thinking to go back to the US to apply for college since I have my American diploma it'll be easier for me to enter college than here in Italy, and also I like how free and independent I felt in the US, here I feel trapped Pls HELP!!😭

Question: How to survive in a abusive home for 4 more months ?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 07:30 AM PDT

I'm going to move out of state in 4 months by myself and I can't wait and right now I'm stuck living with my abusive dad and abusive sister. My mom is nice to me but she doesn't try to stop them. They are both very mean and very rude to me. They call me very mean names and swear at me and yell at me and threaten me. I don't think I can survive until then They also hit me

Question: My sister is mean and abusive to me?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 07:25 AM PDT

My sister is very mean to me and calls me mean names and is rude to me and swears at me. She has hit me very hard with a cane over and over again. When I was in the kitchen making food, she would come in and get very mad I was in there and say why do I take so long to eat and tells me to get out of the kitchen and calling me mean names and swearing at me and to get away from her and acts like she will hit me again and asking why do I have to be in the kitchen so I leave the kitchen 

Question: Why do people complain because I am 37 years old and have lived in the same house my whole life?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 06:35 AM PDT

Question: Should my 19 year old daughter be able to have a sex toy?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 05:51 AM PDT

I had gone through her things recently and found a sex you she's been hiding.Should I allow her to have it? She's home from college at the moment because of the coronavirus.

Question: Is it odd that my parents have a 12 year age gap?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 03:48 AM PDT

My dad is 45 and my mom is 33 and I'm 14

Question: What would happen if I told my aunts that I was glad they didn’t come to my college graduation? ?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 02:24 AM PDT

My dad's sisters have never liked my mom and I. Although they've never liked me, I just don't get why they got me presents and wanted to attend my graduation. I did send them a thank you card because I felt it was the right thing to do. They couldn't attend because they couldn't get off work. I was glad they didn't come because I didn't want them starting drama for nothing. If my aunts make fun of me about something in the future, I was thinking about saying that I was glad they didn't attend my graduation because I didn't want any of my dad's family there. My mom told me not to say that because they'll get mad. Also, my aunts have gotten mad at me that I collect jewelry as a hobby. They asked me if I have money saved up for retirement and why I have so much jewelry the last time I saw them. Although they got me gifts for my graduation, we don't talk at all. We rarely do. I like to hear what your opinions are although you don't know me. Are my aunts jealous of me? Why did they wanted to attend my graduation and why did they get me gifts?

Question: Why does my mother in law hate me and my parents so much? (Shes never met them or talked to them)?

Posted: 25 Apr 2020 01:22 AM PDT

My fiance and I have been together 2 years. I've never given her reason to hate me.We met at our volunteer fire department were both firefighters. She tried at first for her sons sake but she doesn't anymore.They recently moved and tried to get him to go with them but he moved in with me and my parents. (Quick note) (her husband provides everything for her she doesnt work and they have lots of money.  We live in a mobile home trailer park. Both my parents are disabled(There not lazy they both have health issues from working) my dad lost his job 9 years ago, we had to move into something cheaper in order to make it. We make the best of our situation.) I currently have a great job as a psw for my brother who has autism. We plan on moving out after our wedding and he finds a job.  After they moved they didnt talk for awhile but recently called to check up on him and he told them we were engaged.They wanted an invite. But a few days later out of the blue she called again to check on him and asked him why he didnt try to do better then me cause me and my family are lazy trailer trash who rely on the government for help.(My parents literally can't work with their health issues.)I have a full time great paying job. She told him he could do better where they live and find someone who's worth it. My fiance told her there not invited anymore and hung up. She now doesnt understand why there not invited. Also my fiance had the phone on speaker I heard the whole thing.

Question: My crush didn't add me back on snapchat?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 11:45 PM PDT

he used to hate me cause I cyberstalker and harassed him with fake numbers years ago but I want to be friends and start over so I added him on snapchat and he didn't add me back what do I do im in tears

Question: Was this rude of me to say?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 11:21 PM PDT

Tonight, my mom and I (her daughter) were watching tv and my mom suddenly said this woman on there was really big on the bottom. She then said look and rewinded for me to see. She said that just had never seen anyone skinny but so big on the bottom. She kept going on about it and I said yes she has big legs. I just agreed with her because she kept going on and on about it. Was this rude of me to say?

Question: I know a couple that is expecting and really not ready for it ?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 10:08 PM PDT

to put it frankly; I don't know a couple less equipped to be having a child at this moment but I have to live intimately with them and witness how they live without saying anything about the fact that they are so sorely mistaken if they think they are equipped for this. How do I take a back seat to this but still encourage changes in their lifestyle? I.e. how they spend their money/financial responsibility, how the expectant mother cares for herself (she uses a nicotine vape frequently, is out of shape/doesn't do physical activity unless working) and the father has serious depression issues and smokes weed multiple times a day every day (not saying parents can't do this but if youre on a limited income and uhm just starting with taking care of another human being you might wanna stop or cut back am I wrong?) ANYWAYS please give me any advice you have on how to advise a couple (who DOES NOT WANT any advice) but sincerely needs it in becoming parents? 

Question: Girlfriend is not a fan of my family?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 09:49 PM PDT

My girlfriend and I have been together for years and we grew up extremely different she grew up in a more bad background where she was raped, her parents fought all the time, her father hates her mom. I was fourtnate enough to have been raised in a strong household my parents are very in love and my mom never left us alone for an opportunity for rape. We also have a strong financial household background where my father bought a home cash. I noticed when my girlfriend comes around my family she seems to resent me us? Is that normal?

Question: Why are so many adults so boring and have little to no hobbies or interests besides work and tv/netflix?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 09:25 PM PDT

You rarely see an adult who has a good career and a family with eclectic interests that they are talented at. Most people with good white collar jobs and a family are pretty boring outside of work. They just watch tv and go on social media and watch netflix and have no real hobbies or anything. You don't see dad skateboarding with his kids, or into painting, or into competitive video games, or into playing the guitar or the piano. They don't have immersive hobbies like they did as kids where they spend a few hours on the weekends out fishing or practicing the violin or doing digital artwork in Photoshop or in a band with their buddies or into photography. They just work, tv, eat sleep repeat

Question: I hate my brother !!!?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 09:08 PM PDT

My parents always wanna think I'm wrong reguardless of the situation.My brother I can just say I ******* hate him. He tries to always say I'm a bad person when he's  the same way. He can be totally fine with me one day then hate me the next and then talk ****. right now he started randomly fighting with me(he's 25 I'm 19 ) saying how he didn't give a **** about me that he wouldn't care if anything happened to me and that when his child is born to not even consider it my niece and when I have kids that he isn't gonna gonna consider himself their uncle and I got so pissed I started telling Him I could careless what he said. He got to my face and threatened to sock me and he grabbed my money I was counting then he threatened to rip my money apart. That's when I went crazy because that's the money I'm saving for a nose job I started crying out of anger. And what he said did hurt me a lot to the point I said some things I shouldn't have I told him if he died I wouldn't care at all. I said that because he told me something similar to that and I wanted him to feel exactly the way I felt. and that's when my dad comes and starts saying I'm embarrassing for yelling that the neighbors are gonna think I'm crazy. Then that's when my older brother starts telling my dad that I was telling him that if he died I wouldn't care and thats when my dad started yelling at me saying he's tired of me to move out and my brother was just laughing in the background triggering me And my dad kicked me out

Question: Family problems opinion?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 09:05 PM PDT

I wanna know opinions. So ever since I was young my dad has hit my mom and siblings and went to jail for domestic violence and things like that. We all started living together again but for as long as I can remember my dad had always hit me with the belt ever since I was 8 anyways I grew up and he would still continue to hit me at 14,15,16 TILL I HAD ENOUGH. Everytime he would hit me my natural reflex was to fight back because I honestly had had enough I would block his hits at first but he would just get more aggressive to the point I had to push and scratch him. Then he would go showing off the scratches saying how I "hit him" ever since I started fighting back he doesn't hit me anymore but he always makes me feel like a horrible person saying you're never supposed to hit your parents and I KNOW HES RIGHT but I'm just so traumatized of everything already and had enough. 

Question: How do I get my father to not be criticizing me for seeing a psychologist as he very much gives me grief?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 08:50 PM PDT

Also me taking medications makes him mad.

Question: Is it bad to hate your family? Part 1?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 08:45 PM PDT

PT 1:// i need to rant cus I feel so much anger in the moment. But at this moment I hate my family so ******* much. Ever since I was a little girl my parents have been so toxic. Let me start off with saying my dad used to be abusive to my mom when she gave birth to my oldest sister he would hit her and as we grew older they would fight because my mom would find him cheating and my mom also did payback and cheated and he would hit her. He would also hit my siblings and be very strict. If they were one minute passed curfew he would lock them out. He would also burn them with the iron if they misbehaved and also hit us with belts and if we tried to help my mom he would also hit us. My mom called the cops on him left him got a restraining order and he had to take anger management. I would still see him. Anyway many years later my parents decided to live together again but not be together just because it was better financially my dad had changed a lot and promised he would never hit my mom. He didn't for a while but after a few years they would argue and once he got so frustrated grabbed her by the hair and threw her to the floor my mom was so shocked because she thought they were past that. The next day we ended moving and I had to leave my friends and my hometown. My mom had some really close friends that helped her but most of the time me and my sister would be alone because my mom would leave us. We hated where we lived we wanted to move back and a year later (tbc)

Question: Should I tell my boyfriend that I’m not ready to squeeze one out?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 08:24 PM PDT

Question: If parents aren’t going to leave their children anything in their will, then why do they even bother having kids?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 08:22 PM PDT

Question: Mum Not caring about risk of transmitting  coronavirus?? ?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 07:59 PM PDT

So I live at home with my mum and brother. My grandma came over the other day and was also In contact with my dad a couple days earlier (he lives In a different house) who has now been diagnosed with coronavirus. When my mum told me I said to her 'we need to all look out for symptoms incase, because we have been in contact with grandma who was in contact with my dad.  She tells me 'oh she was wearing a mask' and doesn't care at alll that we are at risk and She gets angry and tells me to stop complaining.  Like she was being a total ***** about it and not caring ? 

Question: Are there heterosexual women?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 07:43 PM PDT

Question: How to make my sister feel better ?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 07:33 PM PDT

My sister feels bad  that she can't see her boyfriend because of this virus. Today is their 1 year anniversary they can't even celebrate together. When she sees other couples together she's jealous even my boyfriend can live with us  but he has to for a reason. She's got asthma and a week immune system it's not safe for her to be out and around people right now. Her boyfriend's sister in law gets to live with him and her boyfriend. She wishes she was healthy and normal so he can live with us. She really hopes he can come over next month he's really hoping too she's also worried because there's a lot of guys who are committing suicide because of this she's scared for him especially when she said he told her he's been miserable because he can't see her. She said there have been at least 3 guys around here in 2 weeks who have killed themselves because of this. He lives with his family so they can help him if he's feeling this way but she's just scared it makes her want to cry. How can I help her feel better ?  She also feels like they're the only couple who has to go through this 

Question: Why do my parents get upset everytime I talk about them outliving me?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 06:28 PM PDT

I am a 37 year old man and I want my parents to outlive me.

Question: How to deal with the silent treatment?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 05:42 PM PDT

I was visiting a relative the other day and she was giving me unsolicited parenting advice. When she suggested something in particular, I said: "Okay." She flew off her handle asking why I was in a bad mood and went into the other room and started throwing things around and refused to interact with me. She has been silent ever since. I was actually in a good mood and making small talk that day, but I think she was perhaps expecting a different reaction about her advice.  I'm not sure what to do. I feel its immature and silly to behave this way over something so minor in the grand scheme of things.  Any advice?

Question: After 16 years should I finally let go this picture,that gave so much strenght, in order to start my life as a married girl?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 03:35 PM PDT

In the year 2004 my first ex boyfriend was killed in combat in Iraq. I was in my senior year of high school,he was a year older than me and had graduated hs in 2003. While I was thinking about the incoming math test he was on patrol in Iraq. Since we all came from a small town we had only one high school and we all kinda knew each other. Sometimes I,along with few friends and occasionally a teacher would make some videos for him,it mostly to stay safe and to come back. He came back,not in the way we all wanted or expected. 16 years ago this month he came back in a flag drapped casket.I didn't want to believe it. It was something I would only see on tv,unless I saw his casket. We were so shocked that high school principal called a counselor for students that knew him. It took me so long but I finally finished medical school and got engaged to a wonderful guy. For 16 years I took this picture with me. He had become almost like an angel for me but now that I'm going to get married and I'm thinking about family I don't know if I should dispose of it. My fiancèè says it's ok if I keep it but I wonder what should I do. If I trash it the original will be a 'copy'. This picture gave me strenght while I was in medical school,when I had troubles in life in general. What would you do?

Question: Why did I cause the separation for 7 weeks of the year?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 03:32 PM PDT

My 27 year old daughter just moved back home and we had not been getting along. There was constant conflict and I had a lot anxiety when dealing with her. So, at the start of the pandemic, I said let's be separate for some time.  I did not take steps to end the separation.  She took initiative and I met her suggestions with resistance and defensiveness. I take what she says personally and handle things immaturely. She also says things that emotionally trigger me and I do not set boundaries. I should come at her from a place of care and love. Instead my ego comes up and I fight everything that she says. We have separate meal times. We could have become closer through this by eating together, watching movies, playing games together. However, the exact opposite has occurred. Now, we will only begin talking for 10 mins once every two weeks. She is afraid that the same thing (separation) will occur. Her health has also been affected. She is not sleeping and my work is getting affected. She is not open to counseling. How can we move forward? I am so scared that I have lost her.

Question: Who should I go to if my psychiatrist doesn't believe me?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 02:49 PM PDT

In my first appointment with my doctor I related my experience of my uncle raping me and getting me pregnant...she didn't believe me because of my age at the time...I was only six almost seven and I had precocious puberty so I could and did get pregnant.  Should I get a new doctor? 

Question: Where would I make a personalized mask for like $5 a piece like the one below? I would be writing “Sisson Family Reunion 2020” on them?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 02:24 PM PDT

Where would I make a personalized mask for like $5 a piece like the one below? I would be writing "Sisson Family Reunion 2020" on them Hernando: Sisson is my family name on my mom's side. This is for the family reunion in July if we have it.  Posting anonymously since I'm revealing her last name.  

Question: My teacher tried to friend me on Facebook, what do I do?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 12:55 PM PDT

I was on Facebook and my history teacher who's a big man in his 30s with short brown hair and glasses and today I checked Facebook and he friended me? schools are closed cause of the virus but he sent me a friend request. he also added me on snap just now so im wondering if its a crime

Question: My iMac exploded, what happened?

Posted: 24 Apr 2020 12:53 PM PDT

I was on my late 2006 24 inch iMac today playing a game and suddenly I heard a loud pop and the computer shut off and smoke came out of the vents and my power went out because it tripped a breaker. I reset the breaker but the computer wont turn back on what do I do now and what happened