On asked repeatedly he replied that those scenes and those words echoes in his mind and always make him realize that he will never be the best in reality. Even though I reassure him that he is not bad and those words were said in excitement and while being in super love with exes, but now they have no meaning. Also, he says no matter what I say now, it will only be a consolation not reality. What else can I do to erase those images n words from his mind that effected him to the core. I know that no loving husband would ever want to see or  hear such scenes and voice from his wife for her exes. Is there any effective way to heal this instantly now?

Since the coronavirus has never been seen before, China is covering up mortalities, and China had an active bioweapon program in the 80s, is it too crazy to think that a coronavirus is an act of bioterrorism?

My wife was watching a show about the guy in Colorado that killed his wife and 2 daughters a few years ago. She's worried about it happening to her and our kids I told her I would never do it she said that's what he probably said too. We also have two young kids our son is 5 our daughter is 3 we were thinking about having a 3rd one after watching this she decided she doesn't want to. We been married 6 years if I wanted to do something I probably would have by now. How can I comfort her ? She also doesn't feel comfortable with having sex for a while it showed him on top of her strangling her which kind of scared her.

I'm more concerned for my father than my mother who is known to over indulge when it comes to sex partners before she met my father (long story, I found out her past, gross).  So I wouldn't put it past her that she'll have a fling or two. If my mother is going to be gone for 2 weeks, won't that temp my father to cheat on her while she's gone? Plus, I don't hang around the house a lot these days since I've been spending time with my boyfriend so he'll be by himself a lot during those two weeks. I know he's a grown man but I"m still concerned for my father. Please advise.

Okay guys I need some advice, I have a neighbor/ friend I'm concerned about, she is married and her husband told her today that she needs to hand over all her credit cards and her debit card. She is not allowed to use them, he will give her money when she needs it. Give her money to put gas in the car etc. He also told her that he will take her off the joint account and if she wants money she can go get a job.  He will have full control over the money. She has no experience, so will be hard for her to get a job and she been a housewife for as long as I can tell. No kids so that's good. She is at her wits end and I feel for her. She told me that she takes care of all the household expenses to make sure bills are paid, she grocery shops and cooks and cleans but he is not satisfied. She has added wrong in the checkbook before she said but not to warrant taking cc and money away. Cc are in her name and he has threatened to called companies and tell them he is refusing to pay the bills since she has no money of her own. She relies on his income. What can I do to help her out advice wise?

after you had been to the toilet/loo/bathroom?

Especially a disabled man to a non-disabled woman. I know that it's taken place but it's still very uncommon. Didn't the last roughly 150 years if feminisn do anything to benefit men with afflictions? So many women could be regarded as being like fallen angels and give these men a chance and save these men's lives and give them a purpose but instead they almost always go for the generic, wealthy, emotionless, high-status, non-afflicted businessmen or something like that who is nothing like her and they cannot understand each other's feelings just to triple her joint income with him and harvest his sperm for her future children and eventually get divorced in less than a decade. Non-disabled women would look more humane. And less inherently selfish. No you are dead wrong! What about the droves of mentally ill women which were psychiatric patients multiple times in their lives or they are in a wheelchair and still have their husbands or boyfriends looking after them? There's people which put very little effort into taking care of themselves with no afflictions because most people are born with the types of conditions I'm referring to. Physical disabilities or mental illness anyone's fault unless the person's environment was abusive. I have schizoaffective disorder and ehlers-danlos syndrome type 3. I wasn't born with the first thing, I was initially bipolar and became that way from my environment. I made a few major mistakes (eventually getting to state prison) but I've learned and I take low-dose oral medication which mitigates and controls the illness and has no side effects. I started taking better care of my physical health issues and once I was well enough got a part-time job working overnight over the weekends. Over the weekends overnight because I am nocturnal and no one else wants to work Friday through Sunday overnight. I am driving what I think is a respectable car (after almost losing my license for 10 years because of what I did earlier in the last decade) and rent my own apartment and pay all of my bills. I could easily afford a 2 or 3 bedroom apartment and if I were in a relationship then possibly own a condominium or a house. How could you act like every person that is mentally ill or physically disabled is like that because of it somehow being the fault of every disabled person that they are the way they are? How could you say that just because something is impaired about me that whichever woman that potentially ever accepts being in a relationship with me will have to follow me around like a nurse? Maybe you need to experience a disability yourself to realize that is not even close to reality most of the time. And then see if you can still make a statement like you just did while keeping a straight face. Despite everything that's wrong with me on paper, my argument still pulverizes yours even if most of the world leads a selfish lifestyle and makes selfish life choices. My argument will always be the more humane one out of the two here and if most people listened to me and not yourself then we would achieve a more humane society and our species would optimize. And this is coming from someone as yourself (I'm assuming a woman) which is most likely married and not the primary caretaker of her family or even an equal contributor.

Somebody's response to a previous question prompted me to ask.  Ladies, we all know you were sneaking dudes into your bedroom as a teenager, never mind your college years.  Were you that drunk that you don't remember the string of lovers left in your wake? So it begs the question, can you REALLY not imagine being with someone other than your spouse?  OR do you occasionally or frequently reminisce about all the good times you had before your husband which incidentally isn't the best sex you ever had, but provides you security. Am I right?

My husband and I are in a financial bind to the extent that we had to take out loans just to pay some of our bills. Well, last night he wanted to go to the brewery with his best friend, which I had no problem with because I know that he deserves a night out. However, I assumed that he wouldn't spend too much money because of our situation, but I decided to look at his bank statement, and saw that he spent a lot of money. I was furious when he got home and found out that he was also buying his best friend drinks. He says that I'm overreacting and have no right to be upset. Am I overreacting? 

This fantasy about happily ever after is a farce! I been married probably a lot longer than you defenders of marriage that only have less than 10 or 20 years. Let me tell you the nightmare will begin soon enough or you are in denial. I'm mixing things up a bit for my own mental health.  Maybe after 10 or 20 flings I can settle in and pretend to have the moral high ground like the rest of you and espouse the virtues of marriage...bunch of hypocrites. Anyhow to each his own.  I hope this is my last post as I've gathered enough conflicting information about marriage here to last at least until the next time I go crazy.

Acvording to bible any of the spose can divorce by writing a piece of paper and giving it to the other.

Me and my husband have been married for 4 months now and he still hasn't told his family about it. Me and his family do not get along at all his mother and big sister hate me, so I know why he won't he dosent want a fight because he's in the middle. But it just makes me feel horrible I feel like he will never tell them until I'm pregnant or something. What do I do? 

     There is a wealth of information and encouragement if you are single or even a minor on how to properly engage in promiscuity, flings, and hookups (wiki how, quora).  They even detail on that you should have a burner phone and fake social media if you want to sneak around  even without your parents permission if you're a minor.  This is all honorable and celebrated.      As a married person, I feel discriminated against for my legal status and age.  There aren't even any interesting articles on how you can explore yourself or any encouragement in engaging in affairs with multiple lovers.      All I find is how cheating is bad or how to catch your spouse cheating...but nothing with a positive spin on the matter.      We disgusting marrieds apparently do not have ANY needs on the matter with the assumption being that we are dead inside.      I am at my wits end being socially isolated because of oppressive marriage.  I'm not even sure if the wife will ever follow through with any of the freedoms I was able to negotiate for myself so she can keep me married.      I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.  Why should married people have it so hard?  I only get negative feed back and people calling me crazy.  From my perspective it is marriage itself that is crazy, controlling, manipulative, and oppressive among other things and the list goes on.      Have you ever felt like this in your married life and what did you do to overcome it? PS I am sober at the end me of posting this and not trolling

We have 4 kids, 3 boys and one girl. My youngest is my girl, she's 4 months but I want her to grow up and be more then a housewife and mother She deserves to be able to choose to be. A housewife or a career women and mother or whatever her desire is How can I get help? Ok so why do I have to have a reason? All I am is a housekeeper and breeder I want more then that and I don't even love him, my parents made me get married at 18 and I'm only 24 now 

I was reading a book written by a Psychotherapist in which she interviewed many women about their friendships with other women. She interviewed a woman named Daphne. Daphne was almost 40 years old and have 2 biological children and 2 children that she and her ex-husband adopted. She was almost 40 years old when she came home and found her husband in bed with her best friend. I laugh at this. Don't you think that it's just funny? She couldn't satisfy her husband and her best friend was screwing her husband in her marital bed? Her best friend probably would be a better mother to her kids.

I'm not a fan of where my mother is living. She lives alone in a townhome community. There's a lot of low class people in this neighborhood and I wish my mother would move closer to us.  I found out yesterday her one set of neighbors are moving. Her neighbors had my mother pack up their entire kitchen before they move. Now, she's moved and wants my mother for 5 days to drive 20 minutes to their home and take care of their animals. They are renting until April then they are moving across country. They want my mother to drive out across country with them for 2 weeks so she can help them unpack their home. Her other neighbors were gone for a 3 months and had my mother every week pay for and mail their mail to their house for 3 months. It cost her a lot of money! Her other neighbors show up daily and smoke in her home. My mother isn't even supposed to not even be around smoke. Her house STINKS like cigarettes bad. All these people are retired and are about 20+ years younger then my mother. I want her OUT of this neighborhood. My brothers and sisters feel the same way. I don't want to cause an issue with my mother but I'm thinking of speaking my mind to her neighbors she's 84 years. Should I say something? 

Affair with a close friend of 30 years  Or Affair with a 19 year old girl 

Marriage is driving me insane for the past two weeks.  I realize that the problem is me and don't blame the wife too much although I still see her as my jailer. What can I do to get out of the house more often with hobbies that don't include the wife.  I need my space and would like to meet new people to hang out with instead of just staring at the wife all day after work. Maybe I can find fulfillment this way.  I've been married so long, I have forgotten how to make friends and how to have fun in life. What was your solution when you realized that marriage walls were collapsing on you and suffocating your existence?

Disabilities and any major life-altering affliction / impairment in general? And that doesn't just go for other girls which have afflictions dating males with afflictions. This is going to the able-bodied and mentally stable women (she doesn't have to be incredibly attractive) which could help these men significantly and save their lives instead of running the other way just like the male sex has done for afflicted women for a very long time. If that is not enough incentive just think of the good karma and fortune you will likely come into for truly living someone and not just because of how strong he is, his status, and how he can make you secure. Didn't the last roughly 150 years didn't any part of feminism yield any results which could benefit an afflicted male where he doesn't always have to marry another girl with the same handicaps as him or which takes the same class of medications as him or just never get married or have any dating life at all because of seeming less desirable by harsh and unfair societial expectations and standards making him seem overwhelmingly undesirable? I "think" that the standards have been better for disabled women because of how most men think compared to most women and the underlying psychology of most men making it easier for them to accept that she has a disability compared to a financially successful and balanced woman allowing herself to fall in love with a man who's disabled and works as a custodian, or a dishwasher, etc.

That those exes who rejected her before ,still gets her attention and preference but the husband gets ill treated, disrespected and fooled by the wife for the commitment he made. And the exes gets the honour to laugh at the poor husband whose wife is still getting fooled by him by his trap? What should such a husband or the wife do?

I love to doll up and get feminine. It's who I am. It makes me feel good. I dress like a woman also. But can a wife accept it?

My husbands sister was abnormal and she is no more now and my friend told me to that this could affect my baby.