Family: Question: Help I am becoming anxious and low self esteem?

Question: Help I am becoming anxious and low self esteem?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 02:30 PM PST

Im in my 20s and live in my moms home and trying to get jobs and money and leave asap. She is very abusive and degrades me verbally morning and night and leaves texts and letters doing the same. I feel like she treats me like a dog or worse. She hates me and i dont even argue or try to talk to her. I avoid her. Ive been recoding her hateful yelling rants at me through the door of my room and, saving her hateful messages in case i need it for legal reasons. Plus she threatens me and threatens to lie to authorities about me which are goos to have evidence of if she ever does lie against me. But i have no energy cant sleep. She bangs on my door to wake me up early in the morning just to yell degrading things at me even though i dont respond or retaliate. She makes up lies about me and calls me human trash etc. Please help. I have no friends btw. All i know are some neighbors who are either hee friends and wont take my side probably or people i hardly know well who are neighbors and i dont want to reach out for help just to have more people ganging up agaisnt me if she tells them lies about me to make them hate me too.

Question: How can I explain to my daughter about my deceased mother?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 02:24 PM PST

My mother passed away from cancer a couple years ago, I now have a 4 month old daughter. It kills me knowing that my daughter will never know the amazing Granny that she would've had. How can I explain to her when she's a bit older. Are there any good books out there to explain death to a child? I certainly want her to be talked about a lot and for my daughter to know all about her. She would've been such a big part of her life

Question: My mom's boyfriend won't leave me alone?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 02:13 PM PST

He's bullied me for four years. He won't stop. I don't know what his problem is. I don't know what's wrong with him. I told my mom to tell him to leave me alone and I told him to leave me alone but he still won't leave me alone. I yell at him and talk back to him sometimes and even think about hitting him and called the police on him so he'll leave me alone but he still won't leave me alone. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know why he just won't leave me alone. He stands there and stares at me. He takes my stuff out of my hand. He yells at me. He embarrasses me in front of everybody by saying "she farted" or "aw I'm not going to hurt you". When I come out of my room he comes out of his room. When I go in the kitchen he goes in the kitchen. When I'm talking to my family he will intervene. When I want something he will make sure I don't get it.

Question: My cousin bullies me all the time?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 02:00 PM PST

She bullied me ever since we were kids. She comes up to me and asks me embarrassing questions like "did you fart?" or touch me and say "what is this?". She will just sit there and stare at me. She ruins everything I have. She pulls my hair out. She messes up my clothes and covers. She follows me around. She embarrasses me in front of everyone and yells out things like "Ew! Sarah stinks!" It gets physical sometimes. She won't stop. I don't know what her problem is. I told my mom and her mom but she still won't stop. I don't want to be around her. I don't feel safe around her. I try to avoid her as much as possible. She rarely visits anymore. Just the thought of her coming over makes me so nervous. I'm going to get a lock on my bedroom door or lock myself in the bathroom every time she comes over.

Question: Can i be forced to live with my mom since my dad is in jail?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 01:25 PM PST

my dad got arrested friday and now im staying with my step mom. my dad was our only source of income. im curious if id have to move back with my mom because my step mom doesnt have legal rights (theyre not married). could dcf take me away from my step mom? we wont know how much we will have to pay to get him out until tomorrow, but the only money that was coming in was from him. 

Question: I am 21, is it wrong for me to have a conversation with my father as to how he treats and disrespects my mother?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 12:07 PM PST

Question: How to explain to my daughter about my late mother?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 11:41 AM PST

My mother passed away from cancer a couple years ago, I now have a 4 month old daughter. It kills me knowing that my daughter will never know the amazing Granny that she would've had. How can I explain to her when she's a little bit older. Are there any good books out there to explain death to a child? I certainly want her to be talked about a lot and for my daughter to know all about her. She would've been such a big part of her life

Question: Would you stay or move?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 11:02 AM PST

My boyfriend lives 5 hours away from me with a really good job. He makes over $100K a year. But he lives by himself, with his family in the same state as I am. He travels back and forth a lot. I live with my family, make only a little over $47K a year.  He wants me to move in with him and eventually start a life together. My mom is really dependent on me and wants me to stay close to her. I would like to move in with him and try things out. I told my mom once about the idea and she got really angry and upset. I don't want to live with regrets and I even told her maybe things would be better for me (finding a better job, better life quality, etc.) She's just not taking it. My boyfriend said when his parents get older and they need taken care of, he will move back. Plus, just like he's been doing, we can always come back to visit our family. I don't see much of a problem. Note, we both have siblings living close to our parents. What would you do in my situation?

Question: My dad says its okay to be with a cheater. What the hell is wrong with him.?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 10:01 AM PST

My whole family knows my baby's father has a kid with someone else. And they also know he's been cheating on me with the other baby's mom because I told them. Well, now my father is saying that I should still be with him. What the hell is wrong with him? 

Question: Can I get in trouble doing this?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 09:59 AM PST

I am a 19 year old guy with a 15 year old female cousin. She is a very nice person but is very shy. Her parents will not let her date until she is 16 which is a few months from now. She is very much looking forward to that time. She told me she has never kissed a boy and she wants to do it right. She wants me to give her kissing lessons. I told her there ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT BE ANY ROMANTIC RELATIONS BETWEEN US. She said she understands that and is cool with it. She said she just wants to learn how to be a great kisser. Should I do what she wants? It seems kind of kinky to me.

Question: How to convince parents to let me get job?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 09:38 AM PST

I'm 18, and living with my parents. I should be pulling my weight and getting work, right? Well, every time I try to even bring up the subject of finding a job my parents immediately dismiss it by saying I need to "focus on my academics" (I'm attending a community college). I get their concern about me finding work, as I should note that despite my age I still do not have a driver's license. Anything I can say that could help?

Question: Am I being too hard on my girlfriend or do I deserve to be happy?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 09:27 AM PST

My girl is filled with problems. She's had depression throughout her life and childhood. Her parents have disowned her for good and moved away without telling her. They cut off all contact because they found out she was dating me (a person who isn't from her religion) she's Muslim and she told me that she was always secretly an atheist.  It's been a couple of months and she hasn't healed yet. She's always crying and telling me that she has no family. She gets bad nightmares and wakes me up to cater to her. She's overeating and throwing up a lot because of the bad tummy aches she feels from the depression. I'm really tired of it. It's been 6 months now and she's not over it. She told me that she has always loved her parents and her mom was her best friend and protector. I think her parents are pieces of crap because of what they did to her. She doesn't understand she deserves better. I keep telling her that but she doesn't listen. I feel like leaving sometimes. On the other hand, she's very nice to me. She cooks for me, gives me the attention I need, washes and folds my clothes, and cleans up the house. Even though we both work, she still comes back and takes care of the house and me. But I feel like she's too depressed and I can't handle it. I feel like I want to break up with her. Am I being selfish or do I deserve to be with someone happy?

Question: My stepmother hates my real mother she did not want me to move in with my real mother and step father and she even told me to leave them?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 08:56 AM PST

but i only have been living with my real mom and step dad for 7 months how can i get her to understand that i am happy living with my real mother and step father and i want to live here from now on? this is not a troll question i am in this situation

Question: My stepbrother controls my life?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 08:52 AM PST

my stepbrother is very controlling of my life and i feel like i have to do everything in his will. he forced me to break up with my boyfriend of 3 years. i want to go to rutgers university and dorm my stepbrother says " you are never gonna go to rutgers university because i hate that school" i also really want to play the piano but my stepbrother refuses to let me. another reason is that i am really excited to move in with my real mom and step father this summer but my stepbrother said "you will never move in with your real mother if i ever see you at your real mothers house i will drag you out of there" i want to tell my dad about this what do i do?

Question: How can i get my step daughter to leave them and move back with us?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 08:47 AM PST

My step daughter moved out of our house and is now living with her real mother her real mom got custody and her mom also married a black man who loves her they also moved away i hope that her mom bankrupts her husband what is the best way i can track her down so that i can force my step daughter to move back with us instead? she wants to cut ties with me and her father for her real mother and step father. oh and btw this is not a troll this is real SeldomSeen my step daughters mother remarried as well and her husband is black and i don't want my step daughter to move in with her real mother because her mother married a black man but she moved out of our house and moved to california and is now living there and i have been harassing my step daughter and i wanted her to come back and live with us but she refused to and my step daughter told me that she will cut ties with us and she will ask her mother to file a restrianing order against  us

Question: My stepmom and dad won't let me go back to my moms house this summer?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 08:39 AM PST

i live with my mother and step father but i visit my mom every summer. but when ever i go to visit her my dad and stepmom always find me something to do and i really want to go back home this summer but my dad and stepmom won't let me they always try to find every excuse to let me go back to my real mother and step father can i make them let me go back home to my real mother and step father?

Question: My older brother is around only when his fiancé and I are on good terms.?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 07:04 AM PST

My older brother and I have never been the closest but ever since him and Alyssa started dating 2 years ago everything changed. He stopped having conversations with me, taking me places if I need a ride, just basic older brother love. His girlfriend would stay the night a couple days a week at my house for a year until they got engaged and her and I got into it a lot. I didn't like her trying to be so close to my mom, half the time I didn't know if she was using my stuff even though she claimed she didn't. It was just different and we argued from time to time.  Now, if I ever text my brother if he's coming over to see mom or anything I don't get a text back. I know it's his fiancé making him.  The last time she was over I confronted her for not letting my brother be with our family as much.  She made my brother argue for her while she continued eating. I don't have a problem with my brother or want to fight with him, it's her.  Now I can't even see or talk to my brother unless I kiss his fiancés butt? Is this right?

Question: Does my mother have mild dementia?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 05:51 AM PST

My 65 y/o mom starts arguments with me when I didn't say anything wrong.  When she returned from her uncle's funeral, she said she noticed his mustache was missing when she first got to the church (days before the wake).  The mortician shaved it off w/o consent.  So my uncle's mustache was requested.  Then, at the wake/funeral, everything was set, as the mustache was on him.  I said to my mom, "Wow, I didn't know that morticians provide mustaches if need be."  She said, "NO, I said they put his mustache back on! You don't listen!" So, according to her logic, the mortician saved the hair from the mustache and put it back on my uncle.  Keep in mind I am not implying she actually thought that, as I was being sarcastic about her logic. It's obvious the mortician gave him a fake mustache.  But I think she was going off course and arguing with me for no reason, even though what I said was correct.  Is she showing signs of dementia? This is not the first time this happened, and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells, because my mom yells at me as if I'm still a knucklehead teenager, thus her telling me "You don't listen!" (The three words that have actually become her catch phrase when she talks to me).  I feel like she's unintentionally playing mind games with me, because she gets so defensive about what I claim she said, that I think, "Maybe she's right.  Perhaps I'm going deaf, or maybe I'M the one with dementia," even though I'm only 35.

Question: What do you think of having illegitimate children?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 02:37 AM PST

I'm one as my parents weren't married and I was born on accident when they were in their early 20's. I have mever thought anything of it but it seems like a big deal to some.

Question: How is it to be a young mom?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 01:36 AM PST

I would say that you are/were a young mom if you had your kid at 25 ir below and I'm just curious. My mom had me at 21 and I would like to hear experiences from other women and potentially know how my mom's lide was back then running after a child at 21 and trying to study at uni at the same time.

Question: Why does my mom purposely try to make me mad?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 01:25 AM PST

A few days ago I asked my mom could I get a date (the fruit) that she had in a container on the table and she said sure, who are you going out with? and I said no the fruit and she just laughed and said she knows what I'm talking about. And then I told her "Like I said before I don't like people that way and I don't want to date anyone" And she was like "yeah okay" you need to go out and find you some girl so you can go do things that you want and have a life instead of being stuck in your room all the time on the computer.  And then a few weeks ago I was talking to my mom about going to college for photography. And I told her I'm not sure if I want to because I don't want to take pictures of nude models or models at all. And she laughed and was like it's natural it's the human body its nothing to be ashamed of etc... so yea.. you get the picture.  Plus she knows I don't like people like that and she knows I don't like viewing people nude. Why does she just not mind her own business?  She knows I don't like having people as friends either keeps suggesting me to go out and get some friends and interact with people. She is always making me mad about this, and she also knows I get upset and shaky around people.  Like I'm an adult and I don't need to have friends or have a relationship. And she knows that I have anger issues and self-harm issues and its not like anyone would want to be around me having these issues. She always trying to push my emotions negatively. 

Question: Why do many men wish to have sons?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 01:21 AM PST

Question: Was my dad's punishment judtified?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 12:26 AM PST

I jerked off on my mom's panties which is wrong and gross but my dad decided to break my arm and tell me that it's his wife 

Question: How do I get my 24 yr old daughter and my 2 yr old grandchild to move out?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 12:22 AM PST

I know this sounds harsh but I cannot stress enough that those are not my intentions. I absolutely adore my grandbaby and I love my daughter. But I'm 48 I'm tired. I think I have financially supported her enough. She has never been on her own or moved out. I've had to pay some of her car payments and she doesn't clean up after her or her kid. I get home from work and I have to pick up a open dirty diaper off the middle of the floor, she parties every weekend, she quit her job because she couldn't go on vacation, she doesn't contribute to the house, she's not in college or working towards anything, of course I love her and my grandbaby but I know there's no reason she can't take care of herself and I feel I'm enabling her by letting her stay with me. She brings random people to my house and men I don't know and she barely knows. It's unhealthy and I've tried so very hard to get her under control but she just doesn't clean up her act, she got over 6k back on taxes last year and spent it on clothes and whatever else she wanted like the newest iPhone. I know she could afford a home in this area business is booming here and rent not bad at all. I just don't know what to do, she has a boyfriend who works for me actually so I know they can afford something together especially. She's not working towards moving out or getting an education she just does what she feels like. That's why this is so hard because I want her to know I love her but I can't do it anymore. :(

Question: Is it ever justified to hit your parent?

Posted: 29 Jan 2020 12:00 AM PST

My mom kept hitting my little brother and I got mad so I hit her. I know it's supposed to be wrong to hit people. But if I felt like I had no choice. Lately I have had a lot of hateful thoughts. I see my mom and I just want to hit her. She has done some dumb st*t to me in the past. I think I might be using my little brother as an excuse to hit her.. I did not tell her why I hit her. She had it coming. She said "you want to hit me?". I told her yes. She calmed down. Stopped hitting him(my little brother). To be honest, I don't like my mom. But was hitting her justified? I want to learn how to control myself and how to help my little brother. And possibly some day my mom too. I know helping people seems to be out of the question right now, but it is my goal.

Question: Am I in the wrong?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 11:39 PM PST

My mom sold her car cause she's moving to Korea, so I have to drop her off and pick her up from work. I went to school for 6 hours today, came home and took care of my dogs, then did homework for another 3-4 hours. I called my mom and she said she can just Uber and although I was tired, I still said I'd pick her up and that I already ate and in my voice you could tell that I didn't feel good. I went to go pick her up in my toothpaste stained pajama dress, unwashed face, uggs, and I just obviously looked like I didn't want to or expect to see anyone. I asked my mom when I should pick her up and she said 10. I went to go pick her up and she's eating there so I had to sit for another twenty minutes so obviously I'd be upset. I just sat there on my phone in silence. She could've told me to pick her up later. I just wanted to leave and go home and show her the notes I took since I wrote them well. I was in a bad mood and then she offered her coworker a ride home even when I was in a bad mood and now she's pissed off and saying that I'm not her daughter anymore because I expressed my feelings that I wasn't in a good mood. Am I in the wrong? I obviously could've handled it better but why would I want to show my coworkers my oily unwashed hair, along with my bloated face from icecream, in my stained pajamas?? Am I being a brat or is it reasonable that I'd be upset?

Question: My dad came out?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 10:48 PM PST

My dad have 8 kids (all boys) and he came out to us last week.  I'm the youngest at 25 and I've gotten into fights with some of my brothers and it's  tearing us apart.  I accept my dad and his boyfriend and so does 3 of my other brothers and I just want the best for him.  My dad has been distant  the past 3 days and I'm  starting to worry about him and I  don't  want him to think that I love him any less. Should I give him space or talk to him right now? 

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 10:40 PM PST

Soo I'm running away tonight actually here in a few mins my childhood suckd still does I'm 13 my mom has allways hit me or yelled my dad got mad at mom for hitting me last night and she left but was home today and now it's like nothing happened right now there asleep with my little sister I cant call cps my little sister has autism and needs my mom all day today my mom has yelled at me she hit me because my sister peed on the floor because I wasn't watching her it's all I do my sister has autism she cant talk my dad is nver home when he is he doesn't do much anyway my dad isn't exactly the nicest person in the world my sister tris too get close to my dad but he just pushes her away my parents argue about her all the time shes 8 but her mindset is different for as long as I can remember my mom has hit me all my parents say is that my sister needs special help I just got diagnosed with adhd and depression I was doing my homework today in my bedroom and my mom yelled at me because my sister got in the laundry room and found the soap I told her I had homework and she came up and hit me in the head I love watching my sister but I got stuff of my own too do I dont know why she cant stop her from getting in too stuff last year my sister got in too the bleach and drank it and was in the hospital all my mom could do was put me down for it nothing is ever her fault but in her mind it's all my fault my sister doesn't understand much but what she does is amazing

Question: How do I convince my parents to renovate the basement so I can move in?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 09:25 PM PST

I'm 18 years old and I am currently living at home with my parents while attending community college. My bedroom is right next to my parents which I wouldn't have a problem with, except every night they both snore so loud (though it's mostly my dad), that I can hear them from my room. At first, this wasn't a problem, as normally both our doors would be closed and my fan would be on max speed. But lately, it's gotten worse, and I've tried everything. Point is, if I want a good night's sleep, I need to move into the basement where I can't hear them. I've calculated the costs of the renovation and the insulation, wall framing, drywall, and carpeting both the floor and stairs would cost anywhere from $6,980-$8,375. I realize this is expensive, however, the basement is currently being used to store things that no one would miss if they were sold. What else should I tell them? I'm seeing a lot of suggestions that I just move out. Believe me, if I could move out I would. However, my parents don't think I'm "ready" to live on my own and they're not going to allow me to move out.  Also, I never said that they would have to pay for the whole thing, I would be more than willing to raise some money and help pitch in. Heck, if I could I'd pay for the whole thing myself 

Question: Should I be worried about my cousin, and drug use?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 08:00 PM PST

So, my cousin who I'm not very close to has 2 kids. I think are both in their early teens. Middle school. Around 3 years ago, alot of people in my family though he, and his gf were using drugs. I'm pretty sure they were, because they acted pretty on edge all the time. I rarely communicate with my cousin, but I'm afraid hes using deugs, and afraid his kids are growing up in a bad environment. I don't even know his life very. Probably interacted with thim both maybe 3 times in their entire life. Would it be over the line if I confronted my cousin about this? Would I just seem like an asshole fo you think? I've seen recent photos of his kids on facebook. They look happy, and healthy. Well, his sons obviously overweight but... my cousin doesn't really look like hes on drugs. He looks pretty normal. Should I be worried? I really dont want to confront him. Would it he over the line if i called child protective services on him?

Question: What do I do with my son?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 07:28 PM PST

He doesn't respect me, he has no limits, if I take out his cell phone he starts to destroy the room He is 12 years old

Question: Funny or strange a man’s inlaws are younger than he is?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 07:24 PM PST

Question: Do you think I have a reason to worry?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 06:34 PM PST

So, my cousin who I'm not very close to has 2 kids. I think are both in their early teens. Middle school. Around 3 years ago, alot of people in my family though he, and his gf were using drugs. I'm pretty sure they were, because they acted pretty on edge all the time. I rarely communicate with my cousin, but I'm afraid hes using deugs, and afraid his kids are growing up in a bad environment. I don't even know his life very. Probably interacted with thim both maybe 3 times in their entire life. Would it be over the line if I confronted my cousin about this? Would I just seem like an asshole fo you think? I've seen recent photos of his kids on facebook. They look happy, and healthy. Well, his sons obviously overweight but... my cousin doesn't really look like hes on drugs. He looks pretty normal. Should I be worried? I really dont want to confront him. Would it he over the line if i called child protective services on him?

Question: Is it normal to give up your freedom to marry a man if your parents were abusive to you verbally?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 06:13 PM PST

Now that I am away from my mother I wish to start a family of my own but preferably no kids for now, especially with a man from another country. If I tell him I am serious about him will he take advantage of me? How well should I get to know this person and for how long? I want to bring him here to the USA and live here with him but I am afraid that such men will take advantage especially if they find out that me and my mother or father did not get along so well. My father complains too that his daughters seem selfish, I am completely shocked that he is even comparing me to the rest of his horrible children. I really want to give this relationship a try but there is hardly any communication and I am beginning to worry that it was just a fling. I really do prefer to look for someone who is sensitive, mellow, funny, forgiving, and really down to earth. I really do now want to give up my freedom until I find a man who is charming responsible and emotionally mature. I feel that my mother is trying to come back into my life to ruin my peace and my relationship with this person. How do I keep her at bay and get to know this stranger who hardly represents anything in my life?

Question: Why do cruel mothers look for their daughters after they kick them out in the streets?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 06:04 PM PST

Should it even matter to them if you are with another family member now? I really feel that if they kicked me out in the streets without having any mercy towards me that I should just stop all communication.

Question: I want to be close to my newborn nephew, but I’m not on good terms with Sister IL?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 05:16 PM PST

I haven't really been close to my older brother in general, but since he's been newly married for not even 6 months I can just see me never being around. I met her when I was 16, I was immature then. I felt at the time she was taking my family from me so I never wanted her around and welcomed her. I could only fake that I cared so much until I realize she is taking my brother away.  They are having a baby boy now and this is the first grandchild in my family. My moms ecstatic, and a new baby is super exciting. I know my mom has been buying clothes and preparing, but I know his wife ignores me. She'll say hello but I think we are past trying to make that relationship there. I want to be close to this baby as the auntie, It's just the situation being awkward loving the baby but the mom knows we have history and beef where I feel limited. My brother stands by his wife, and I've apologized to him for my behavior and that I love and want to see him happy. How do I go about this?

Question: I’m not in brothers wedding and I’m his only sister. Am I wrong for being upset ?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 04:13 PM PST

My older brother is getting married and his groom include our 1 brother, the brides 2 brothers, and his best friends. The brides party includes her sisters and friend. Am I upset I'm not a bridesmaid? No. But, I feel my brother doesn't care about me and he hasn't since she's been in the picture. Define "care" just as in showing love and support and some attention. I'm family?  Her and I haven't gotten along throughout the years because she completely took my brother away from us. We never had a dad, it's was always my mom 2 brothers and I. Him being my oldest brother he's never given me any love as his baby and only sister. I can admit on my part I have said a lot of hurtful things to his fiancée. Just because she came into my family dating him and felt so comfortable so soon into my family. She's nice, but in the future I don't see myself being around him much because he's with her beautiful intelligent self. She's really nice to my mom and I, and does offer to do stuff.. I just can't see through her taking my family away.  I asked my brother if I'm in the wedding and what to wear just to get an idea. He told me he would let me know, yet my brother has already gone for his suit fitting due to him being in the wedding. My brother put her 2 brothers in the wedding but I haven't even heard what I should do. I feel left out, and it's not worth arguing with my brother. I want him happy this is his day not mine. I just don't even wanna go and watch everyone else involved. 

Question: Why did my dad do this to me? I asked him can you please get me a soda and he said no what if you and your sister were talking bad about me?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 04:06 PM PST

Question: My sons father wants to know where we live?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 03:21 PM PST

My sons father who we share a 12 year old with wants to know where I live. He states he will not do anything for him unless he gets my address. I told him that is just an excuse to avoid his responsibilities because as a father he can spend time with your son in public....at the park and etc. Another reason I do not care to let him know where I stay at because I want to keep the peace around at my home. When he gets mad he gets really disrespectful to me and do not want to deal with any drama. I just feel that he does not do enough in her life period to be demanding of such information, as long as I am letting them spend time together..what's the issue?

Question: What to do?

Posted: 28 Jan 2020 01:31 AM PST

My boyfriend of three years Mom is living with us to get back on her feet. I have no issue with this and don't mind helping, however, I feel like she is taking advantage and causing issues. She leaves a mess and her things on the table when she has her own bedroom, lives our lights/tv on all night & day, leaves food on the counter, doesn't take her dog out or feed her, etc. I feel bad for the dog so I always refill her food/water bowl and take her outside even though we have two dogs of our own. She does not have a job. My boyfriend talked to HR and basically got her a job where he works, but it's been over three months, and she hasn't made any progress. She is constantly drinking as well & being loud/obnoxious in our apartment. She also keeps telling people she is helping my boyfriend and I out by moving in when that is NOT true. I just feel like it's going to get worse, and I brought that matter up to my boyfriend but he doesn't say or do anything.  Any ideas on what to do? leaves our lights/tv on....* - typo