I've had 3 kids: John,Nathan and Tom. John was the eldest and was also the most shy of them. I've watched the other 2 have lots of friend and girlfriends, and John? Not so much..always few friends and never a girlfriend. After 911 he,17 at the time,decided to join the Marines. He was deployed to Iraq. While he no doubt became more indipendent,he became a man,he became less shy,things for him didn't turn up so well. I tried to help him,he had no job...he had couples of jobs but still socially,he wasn't making too many progress. He was just comfortable around other vets. While my other 2 kids started their own families I struggled seeing my eldest being like this. I talked to him, he would always say ' don't worry dad,I'm fine'. He thought nobody loved him,then one day he got rejected by a girl on the same day my youngest son had his first born son and I think that made him even more depressed.. by the time John had a part time job and a tiny appartment. John took his own life a year later, in 2015 at age 31. When I look back at it to this day I ask myself if I could've done more. He was a sad soul.. I am looking his pictures now, the first in high school,the second in his official Marine dress blues picture. He could've had so much..he was kind to others but so shy.. he was my son. Sometimes I wonder what might have been had he found a girl who loved him. I don't blame that girl who rejected him,but I wonder what might have been had he lived. What's your take? When I go to heaven I hope to see him,I really do. @myfavouritelucy: I don't give a damn if you do or don't

Ella es bien guapa y pues me gustaría que me la vea para ver que dice pero que parezca casualidad... Consejos por favor Se que esta mal pero me lo llevo guardando mucho y ya decidí que quiero hacerlo por favor consejos para como hacerlo

ok his name is Tristan a. McCants . all i could find was who i think is his brother... Taurean A McCants Age 23  so.. any family of his maybe or really anything..  hes been missing for 7 months..please help

My relationship with my mom was so confusing. She loved me and I loved her. She did the best she could. But she had PTSD, borderline personality disorder, depression, etc. She was emotionally erratic, but believed in "spare the rod, hate the child". I felt that she would overreacted to little mistakes I made as a child. For example, when I was 4 and my brother was a baby, he was sitting in a baby swing and I put my hand around his ankle to push him in the swing. When she saw me do that, she freaked out and dragged me to my room and told me to climb up into my bunk bed. Then halfway up, she changed her mind and pulled me down to the ground and started slapping my face and shoulders screaming "You could have hurt him, you could have hurt him!". (She didn't really injure me, though). Most of the time though, she would have a switch, paddle or belt. For example, she would become really agitated about my messy room around bedtime, and insist that we have to clean right then and start yelling. I would start crying and wouldn't want to turn my back to her, so she would start whipping my arms and belly with the belt. But that would make me even less eager to turn around and start cleaning, so I would get stubborn and start yelling at her as a childish defense mechanism. So she would get in my face and yell and scream and sometimes slap herself in the face and yell 'this is because you hate me, isn't it?'. Most of the time she didn't leave huge bruises, just lots of welts.  There was only time she really turned my backside black and blue with a wooden dowel, but that's because she had my dad hold me down for her so I couldn'tnget away.  Someone asked why I'm asking. I'm asking because I keep seeing people post, "my parents spanked me and I'm better for it" and it makes me feel like I must be weak if I'm overreacting about this.

My adult daughter politely asked could we leave our home so she could spend time with her boyfriend. They said they are broke and cannot afford a hotel.,my daughter was being nice about it and not demanding so what would you do.

Growing up some of my siblings were not so loving they would bully me and tell me I'm the devil. As I grew older, I got jobs and into relationships some jobs failed some relationships didn't. I started to realize I was perfectly fine. I have a lot of friends and a stable relationship I was able to get through college and have a happy career. While I look back those siblings that bully me are suffering one from 4 failed marriages , one has the same job ever since she was 16 making minimum wage. Am I really the crazy one? Lol what can be their problem?

She has been very mean to our mom. My mom asked her if she's going to visit this year to go through my deceased dad's things and decide if we're allowed to throw any of his stuff away. We tried to clean the house out last year and my sister demanded that nothing gets thrown away until she visits. She showed up for a solid week and only went through one box. And my sister told her to move into a senior citizens home even though she's 64 and in good health. My mom laughed it off as a joke and my sister blew a head gasket and basically disowned my mom because she can't support my mom's "lifestyle" and I don't know what she even means by that. She accused my mom of disrespecting her by not doing what she suggested. She told her she hopes our mom dies soon and she's already writing the eulogy. My mom was always there for her when she kept overdosing on opioids. Now one wrong word and she disowned my mom.  

During the games she is all over the place, because she does not understand. Half of the kids do not understand. What can I do to help my child look more fluent on the court. She cries every week because she says that she feels out of place. The coach gets upset because she is the fastest runner and best shooter on the team, however none of the kids pass her the ball because she is always all over. Please give me some tips as her mom to help her out. Her dad says she should get it because he told her all it is to it is whoever is dribbling plays offense, and whoever isn't is on defense. When I explained to him that some people learn hands on he got angry and we ended up arguing. So, what can I do, as her mom to help my child learn the sport better? By the way, they have practice one night a week for one hour. Practice is on Mondays and games on Saturday. When school is out, they don't practice at all. During practice the coach have them to dribble, race and practice lay - ups and that's it.

They never ask you how something went like a meeting or doctors appointment but are the first to seek advice when they need some? They are also very domineering,to put this into context this is an adult sibling

I feel bad saying this because i love her so much but its getting hard to lie to her AND to myself; its like im in denial about her physical appearance, i tell my myself she's beautidul but shes just not beautiful...actually shes FAR from beautiful. what can I do? i always thought my kids would be beautiful because im pretty and my husband is pretty good looking. my older daughter whom is 15 is gorgeous and i tell her all the time. i even tell my younger daughter who is 13 that shes beautiful but its a lie and its been getting harder and harder for me to lie. my mother says i obsess too much about how they look and how they dress. she says im too obsessed with my own physical appearance also. that's true because i'm only 31 and am too young to stay away from caring about what i look like so i dont know what to do or what to think. and don't be rude. I feel really bad calling a 13 year old ugly but it's the truth, and i DO love her so much.... she's not overweight. no, she doesn't have acne (with the exception of a few pimples like all teenagers). she has dark strawberry blonde hair, kind of like an auburn color. she has blue eyes and just a few freckles. There isn't a particular feature which makes her ugly, it's just all of her features put together. i think it could also be this "punk" stage or as she likes to call it "emo/scene" stage shes going through.. I am not trolling. I am being honest and I feel bad about what I think about my daughter but this is my honest opinion.

I do research and will have my stay covered as a visiting researcher.  I was planning to fly to my destination and just stay as long as I needed so that I don't have to take time off work vacationing.  My mom and sister think that I am being terribly rude and trying to "ruin their vacation " because I don't want to spend three days driving (3 days off work) to all go to my destination together.  They keep suggesting that since they are family that they may be able to stay with me where the visiting researchers stay.  Mom and sis feel that I am just trying to ruin their good time but I really feel their requests are overstepping boundaries.  How can I get through to them it's like talking to a wall?

Just got engaged a week ago and his sister makes it obvious she's trying to exclude me. I can put passed when we were dating for 2 years, but now that I'm about to become 1 with her brother and "family" is looking like drama on her end.  This isn't my sister so i could care less if she likes me and wants to be close.. but for family gatherings she's just a headache.  I've never heard this girl say my name once, she'll  refer to me as "her"    I'll make food for the family and she'll thank my fiancé on my behalf. I could be standing hand in hand with my fiancé and she'll only address him. This type of behavior makes me feel uncomfortable and annoyed.  Because of this I don't like being around his family that much because she degrades the entire vibe. I don't want to look like the bad guy but it's obvious she doesn't want me there and doing anything to show that. 

I know it has always been legal to not be a parent, but socially it was very unacceptable for a married couple or even for straight domestic partners to not have children. Even gays hacked on us. They said, "You two can have children, so why don't you?" .I left the USA back in 2008. When I left things were just starting to change. I lived in Singapore most of the time. All my colleagues who had children were in their 40's and had young children. Nobody had more than one. The birth rate in Singapore is far below 1 per female, and the same is true in Japan. In both countries most women are more educated than men.Now e live in a rather high rent area. There forty condos in our building. I would be surprised if 3 children live in the entire building. There are five buildings. If there are twenty children in the entire complex I would be surprised. Just about everyone living here is married or at least a couple. Almost everyone is 30, or older. My wife and I are 54, and we are adopting a teen from Buma. He has nobody to play with. I kinda figured it was cost.  The cost of living is a lot higher in Singapore. I made about 110K USD there. The same job pays 80K in the USA.

My son was failing in Math so the high school recommended a tutor. They gave me a list of tutors. I started calling and most of them had all the tutoring they could do. I called Lisa and she said she was available for 1 hour 2 days a week. From day 1 of her tutoring my son's grades starting improving. She was only getting paid for 1 hour as that was all I could afford but she often spent much more time with my son. After a month of tutoring my son came to me and ask me to please get another tutor. When I ask him why, he said Lisa was so beautiful, hot, and sexy he could not concentrate on math when she was with him. The next time she was here I looked closely at her and she was gorgeous. She had a figure to die for. She told me she is a college student and also has a part time job as a swim suit model. It just does not seem right to tell her she can not tutor my son anymore as she has done wonders for his grades. She is also a VERY NICE person and it is not her fault she is so beautiful. It is my son's fault he can not keep his mind on math with her but I can understand how teenage boys would be distracted by such a beautiful girl. I also do not want to waste my money for a tutor when my son will not learn anything because his mind is on something else. How should I teach him he is going to have to deal with beautiful women all his life and he has to get used to it. Can somebody please give me some advice on what I should do?

My mom had ne at 21 and my sister at 35 and we have the same father. My mom was in college when I was born and a vet when my sister was born. She wasn't married to dad yet then and now she is.

Hello,  I'm 28, F, live with my brother. He's 55 and abusive. He's not horribly abusive, but it's been gradually escalating over the 6 years I've been living with him. He's put his hands around my throat twice in the past year, but the 1st time he did it, I did NOTHING to provoke him. The 2nd time happened just 2 days ago. Here's what happened: I accidentally pushed his buttons too much and he literally came running towards me while screaming like an absolute maniac (he's actually done this on multiple occasions). Once he got to me, he kicked me in the butt.  Then he turned around and was slowly walking away. I felt so sick of his crap in this moment that I made the huge mistake of running at him & hitting him in his back (I've NEVER acted violent toward him before, and it wasn't hard AT ALL. Also, keep in mind I'm a petite 110 lb, 5'2'' woman and I've no muscle at all, because I never workout. My brother is a 5'8" man and 195 lbs). He quickly turned back around facing me, and the look on his face was pure rage. He began grunting loud, and he put his hands around my throat (it wasn't hard and I could still breathe), I screamed, he let go and he pushed me down hard to the floor. I had mild pain in both my neck/shoulder area and left arm from him pushing me down, as well as a feeling of slight pressure around my throat for 5 minutes, even after he let go.  He apologized to me after this happened, but he also tried to blame me. Was this really my fault? Thanks in advance

So, my whole family is taking a trip to Orlando to go to SeaWorld and to visit grandparents. We're leaving in 5 days. It's just my younger sister, my father, my mother and I that are going initially. We'll meet up with other family later when we're already there. We've had this trip planned for a month now and we keep trying to plan and get everyone else to plan. But my mother keeps putting her planning off and just today it struck her she really needed to start and she freaked out. She has a lot to do like making sure the whole fam has everything and getting a rental car and seeing any other things we should do, and the whole thing is stressing her out. I've tried offering to drive her to the store to get any items she needs for the trip but she always says no. Now she's super stressed and I'm worried. What can I do to calm her down or help her plan without stress? 

My mom had me at 21 while working in McD and she was on the brink to aborting me but didn't go through with it. She told me that my sister that she had last year at 35 was planned and she had been trying for a long time and would nevee have aborted her.

She cut her hair again without permission like what is her goal wtf? I'm thinking about leaving my daughter to her father and take my son it's just too much stress for me I give up

throughout my 20's I really didn't want anything to do with my family, but now 30, I been more open to talking to them and asking for advice 

She's 17 and has never been very girly, she says she's not a lesbian, she has had boyfriends but she is not very lady like, she listens to rock and heavy metal, never wears dresses, only t shirts and pants, and vans, does not wear makeup, calls everyone "dude", has manly mannerisms, she is a huge tom boy, but when i call her a tom boy she gets offended and tells me shes not. What should i do? i just wish she would act girly, it's weird because she grew up in a home with all girls, we are all pretty feminine and she isn't.

I went to a party and a guy pulled a gun on me and put it to my head he said to give him my number.  I couldn't think straight so I gave him a number...my sister's.  He called early that same morning and I felt so bad for giving my sister's number so I gave him my number.  Turns out he does a reverse lookup of women's telephone number and goes to their house and raped them.  It happened to me and my sister...she said for me not to ever come to her home again.  I got pregnant from the rape and somehow couldn't remember what happened.  The guy kept coming back to rape me and after a while all I knew is that we were together.  I now remember calling the police and going to the hospital but all these years that passed I had a child who is now 29 yo and I had a hell of a time getting rid of his father.  I only recently remembered and decided not to tell anyone because I don't ever want my son to know.  My sister won't ever tell because she wants nothing to do with the entire situation.  I know the entire mess sounds hard to believe.  I just wondered if anyone could understand what I am going through...losing a sister having some stranger rape and impregnate me then not being able to talk about it.

Hi, I have an iPhone 7s on family sharing and screentime restrictions. Because of this, I can't use Private mode in Safari. Can my parents also see my search history? Thanks.

I have 5 older siblings 3 are very cool but there are 2 who are extremely sketchy and surprising those two are the ones struggling the most. For example, my older brother when I was 17 years old would sit in the living room and tell me how life was hard etc. I kept distance from him and achieved decent things for example, a college education a full time job, a relationship and even though some jobs I been fired from and moved on as well as relationships. I moved on and moved out and when I visit my older brother is now 33 still acting like the way he was when he was 17 staring at me judging other people and telling me how life hard is. The question I have is why is it that they are not normal and have friends and seek employment etc and tend to blame me? They are waiting for me to do something big for them. I feel power to control their lives?

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