I've known a guy for 3 years, but we never talked until 2-3 months ago. 3 weeks ago, this guy invited me to dinner with some classmates of ours. As a group, it went well, but I had my suspicions. He didn't really want to talk to our friends. He spent most of the time talking to me over others. A week after this, we ended up hanging out alone for the first time. He invited me to lunch just to talk. More plans happened as more weeks passed. We have gone alone to the movies, ice skating, and to other activities.Once again, we aren't really close friends, and I thought these meet-ups meant he wanted to get to know me better. There are a few odd things that make me second guess his intentions. He does have my number, but we hardly text. He texts if he wants to plan something for us to do. I sometimes try to strike up conversation over text, and he never really responds. If he does, it's always days later, or he just doesn't ever respond at all. I'm not sure if this means anything. On the weekend, however, we went to a party that our mutual friend threw. This guy basically ignored me all night. He didn't even tell me hello when he first arrived to the party, and when I ended up approaching him, he made minimal conversation. He spent all night talking to other people. I know we're not dating, and he's not obligated to spend time with me, but him not telling me hello and being really distant seemed odd. Did I misunderstand his actions? Was he just being friendly?

now please tell me the truth please its driving me crazy. I have been with this guy for over a year he randomly asked me to move in. Our sex life which used to be good has stopped yes he has been caught cheating before. Months into the relationship . I live here now I left my apt my everything and everybody to move here now he shows me no attention I beg for attention and sex and every and anything. Its sad because he has asked me to leave and wanted me out that day. And I was so hurt like I left everything to come here . and u expect me to just disappear he drove my car for months no gas no anything I took 2 months off because our hours would not have been fitting. My heart is broke we are supposed to be working on things but he is just sitting there even after I cry and pour my heart out. I can't just leave i don't have the deposit plus first month or anything I'm just about to go back to work this week!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He knows all the things I've done and he doesn't care at all. How do I cope with this and keep it cool till I leave . I plan on leaving one day when he is at work no word ... Number change and everything. Please help me please I just need to talk to someone BTW he is 47 and I'm 27  

hi. I'm 20. Pls just answer your opinion on each instance. Case 1) Girl is 10 and is showed sexual videos by older cousin, that cousin then wants to act it out. Girl doesn't remember much, it felt good but she felt gross. She remembers saying no and being ignored and fondled and touched anyway 2) Girl goes on first date with boy when she is 15. She's in car with him. He kisses her, she agrees, she gives him a bj. Then she tries to leave the car and says she wants to leave at least 10 times. He restrains her and makes her continue to give him head, then gets on top of her and fondles her.  3) Girl has sex with a guy, asks him to stop. He does. She's laying down, he keeps trying to put his penis back in (not that aggressively) she keeps saying no. He keeps whispering "hold still, I just want to feel it a little bit more" and she eventually just leaves 4) Guy asks girl to have sex with him 15 times until she agrees  5) Guy and girl are having sex. Condom broke. She wants to stop because he doesn't have on condom, he holds her down, she tries to get him off of her and say no but it doesn't work and he has sex with her. He told her he r*ped her afterwards, then told her to cuddle with him after. She was very confused

I have seen this girl around campus several times. She does hold eye contact and keep even longer every time. I thought she likes me, that's why she stars at me, but she told me, " I'm sorry, but I have a boyfriend, sorry", even before I start talking to her. And I saw her today, she holds eye contact about three seconds, until I break it. Why she acts like that and said that?

I've been on about 6 dates with a guy I met a month ago. He's super sweet, has great mannerisms and matches my energy. (Or even exceeds it sometimes)  We have had sex twice and both times I spent the night and got treated to really nice breakfast dates.   The only "gripe" I have is that between dates we don't talk much. He did let me know when we initially met he's bad at reaching out sometimes and I def see it now. However, anytime I text him he responds back immediately and excitedly agrees or makes plans. in your opinion... is this more of just you're not a priority until you're a priority so don't worry OR should I be concerned at all since he's not initiating much?

So I have gotten a breast englargement surgery recently and a surgery to make my butt larger and more plum. I am comfortable in my body and I feel very sexy and have gotten a lot of attention recently which I love. However there is one problem. My boyfriend who I have been with for the past two years and love very much is having trouble getting his member to reach and enter myself. My butt is too big for his member to pleasure me in positions and ways he could have gotten before. I have been resorted to giving him head and breast jobs but it isn't the same and I don't want him to feel bad but it's like trying to get to the center of a water melon using a toothpick. I really need my pleasure. What should I do or say to him? Should I get surgery to reverse this?

Ok so I was sitting in class and a boy was passing and while I was sitting down he looked at me seductively and I pushed away and he acted as if he was coming closer. Why did he do this?

I'm happy married and have been for 3 years. My brother lives out in Cali but has been dating a woman here long distance. They met a few times but he never brought her around the family. He finally decided to bring her to our mother's house on Thanksgiving and they announced that they were engaged. I met her and thought she looked familiar but couldn't place her. It finally hit me earlier tonight as to where I knew her from. I got a few BJ's from her while back in college. The girl was actually rather loose and slept with several guys. She's attractive but definitely not wife material. She's the kind of girl that you get a quick nut from and then kick to the curb. To make matters worse, my brother, who is a virgin, is waiting until marriage to sleep with her. He does not know what kind of woman she is. I'm debating if I should tell him and that's why I need advice. He seems to be in love and he is invested in this. I don't want him to be hurt but I feel like he might not believe me since he sees her as perfect. I'm several years older than him and I have a lot more wisdom. Any advice would be helpful.

So basically my grandmother and her partner have been together for a few years, my grandmothers partner has a son around the same age (20s) and from the second we met there has always been a connection we never acted on this connection for years because we didn't know if anyone would be okay with it and if it was strange, but recently we've spent a lot more time together and it got kinda hard to resist so we slept together and then called things off cause we both thought it was weird, the rest of my family and his family noticed how close we were and could sense this connection and most of them basically told us that they would be more than fine with us dating as there is absolutely no blood between us my grandmother and his dad don't have a kid together and have never and never will get married so we got into a relationship and then someone told him that me and him together was weird and made him feel really **** about it and so he's called it off and is now saying it is weird. so my question is, is it weird? 

This girl and I both work in a retail store. I work up front and she works in the back. She has showed some signs that she might like me, but I am not 100% sure. She does this one thing that is really werid. So if im working at self checkout she will walk pass with her head turned away from me. Then as soon as she is pass and she will turn head and look directly at me.

 me/this guy been talking for 5 mo.he told me didn't want to rush into relationship but could see one. I agreed. we kept in touch almost every day. On Halloween we made plans.couple days before he stopped texting. Respecting his space I gave him a little bit without contacting.then as more days passed I got worried/frustrated. I would see him post on social media. I texted him and explained there was no reason for him to ignore me bc I'm!understanding and I hoped everything was good. We talked about it, he said he had no reason. made me feel stupid. I told him so. He apologized and said I shouldn't feel stupid he should have just communicated. I thought we were good. hung out couple of times.things were fine. few weeks ago he started not texting me. I have some clothes of his and I asked if he wanted me to swing by and drop off. He didn't answer. I happened to be around his house later so I called to offer to bring them by. Nothing. We hardly talked after that,I didn't want to continue when it felt like clearly he didn't want to. I did tell him happy thanksgiving and he replied. So I thought tonight I could call and see what's been going on and when the best time to give him his clothes back would be, no answer. I'm hurt because I care about him but also I just recently lost my father and he hasn't checked on me. I don't know where to go from here. My heart is broken from my dad. I know maybe he doesn't know how to support but... ignoring me? Also.. I still have his clothes?

It causes a lot of slippage 

At the end of fourth date last week, guy brought up about meeting this weekend and I agreed too. But we didn't decide on a time and meeting place. It is now Friday night and nothing from him yet. Do I follow up or wait it out? I don't want to always have to follow up.

Its gonna be a long and detailed story. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 5 months now. In the talking stage we were very open with each other. Now we can't even bring up anything that reminds each other of our pasts. We are both jealous people, especially me and I do not like to think about her sexual past. I feel like we  both have an equal amount of sexual experiences and encounters, even though she's been with 2 more people than I have. It all started when i was on her phone and I found a lot of old text messages between her and other people. At least 4 or 5. That's what started it for me. I wish she would have deleted things like i did when we started dating. And she can't get over my ex's. If anything is accidentally bought up in a Conversation, we either argue or we just go the whole day without talking. I know, it's extremely childish but it's something that's becoming a huge issue because it happens so often. Im her first boyfriend, I'm the best person she's ever been with/ slept with. I gave her, her first orgasm, etc, And she's my best ever. Yet knowing all these things still doesn't help either of us. Does anyone have advice? Or is going through or has been through similar situations? I keep telling Us the past doesn't matter and the past should stay in the past. But nothing's seems to be working. We both love each other very much and i want to settle down with her. We just need help! I don't want the jealousy to take over. 

Been in a relationship for almost two years and I always am the one apologiZing, girlfriend always says i need to work on myself etc.  So 2,days ago we were spending time together and I scheduled a video game during our favorite show. Girlfriend was okay then she revealed she wasn't happy. I genuinely apologized to her and have asked what I could do to make the situation better. She has been disrespectful and rude for two days. I finally couldn't handle it anymore. I putlined ive been trying to do right by her by apologizing and acknowledging what I did wrong. She told me I was stupid and a dumbass bc I read a piece of mail wrong and said "I want a man who can comprehend things" made me flip out and say I'm not taking this anymore. Now she isn't talking to me and says she wants to break up. Any advice? Am I in the wrong here?

My ex and I met through therapy. He was my therapist. We kept it quiet for some time but it all came out in the end. Our contact has been cut off by his manager and I'm pretty sure he still loves me but he won't contact me because he's not allowed and he doesn't want to get into trouble I approached him outside his work and he said "I can't talk to you, I'm not allowed, I'm sorry" The mental health service are threatening to press charges if I approach him again... what can I do to get him back? He is the love of my life and answers like "move on" isn't acceptable. I've been through too much and this man is the only person who I've ever connected with, he is my best friend. I can't explain it all on here Shall I just wait a bit for the right time to approach him again but in a different location? Please give advice what I can do to get him back.  When I say I'll wait for the right time... I mean, somewhere away from his work.. like, persuade him to go behind his managers back? 

We were in line waiting to order food. When it was our turn, I stepped up first to order for both of us and then when I was about to pull out my wallet, he walked up beside me and took out his wallet to pay instead. Why not just step up to order for us in the first place? Was he testing me?

Honestly I don't the you should've just left him this that and third. I'd appreciate some real help. My anxiety it already so bad, and ever since I found out his cheated on me I can't find it to trust him again no matter how hard I try. I don't know the password to his phone, and I always worry when's he out without me. He favetimes me all the time when he's out and tells me where he's at. But idk he's always on his phone and I get paranoid and start assuming things, and it always starts a fight..... what can I do to trust him?? What can he do for me if there's anything?? We're both really trying to make it work, but honestly my anxiety won't let me sleep.... and I hate feeling like I have to call him every two seconds every time he's out. It's not fair to either of us. 

I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male and we have been dating for eight months. A month or so ago, I went to Hawaii with him and just recently he invited me to go to Europe with him over winter break. I would be getting a discount and I am in the financial position to afford it but I can't help but think... would it be too much to go to Europe w/ my boyfriend of eight months? Because I know it is a big deal to travel across the continent w/ your partner especially since we're so early into the relationship. Would it be a dumb decision? should I not go?  He's a pilot so I would be getting a free flight. 

I've received many compliments throughout my lifetime, and I always feel good inside when I hear them. It also (temporarily) boosts my self-esteem. But then I see unattractive people being called beautiful, disgusting food be called good, etc... 

Sorry for bad English. There's a girl in my class. She avoids boys in general but She ignores me and avoids me the most. I don't know why? When our class started If I ever asked her some question regarding something important she pretended as if she didn't listen. So I started to avoid her as well because I thought maybe I make her feel uncomfortable. I avoided her more and more. Started to feel uncomfortable near her. Now it has gotten to the point that I get terrified even by looking at her. I can't be in the same place as her. Maybe I'm afraid that she'll accuse me of harassment even if I accidentally touch her. I wanna change sections because of her.

about it he said he was there Saturday night picking up salmon even though he does t work there in the evenings. He's a cook at a retirement community and I'm a breakfast server there. He also always teases me with a big smile and I was wondering if he likes me?

Chinese will die if there are no blonde and redhead ladies to look at.

Me and my ex broke up a year ago. We dated for 2 years ago. Broke up because of long distance and she got a new boyfriend now. But I've moved on and accepted everything but for some reason when I saw her in person the other day I began to miss her. And have been thinking about her. Her friend posted a picture of them on Snapchat and I wanted to slide up and say something but I wasn't sure. To be honest I want to talk to her but I don't wanna seem pathetic and stupid. We had a deep connection and love so maybe that's why all the feelings rushed back when I saw her. Let me know what you think. Thank you.

I was seventeen, and pretty involved in a certain fandom. I used to attend a local weekly meetup. One day we get a new member who refuses to remove his costume because he says he doesn't trust us yet. He has weird vibes and smells funky.  My usual group tried to be friendly and chat with him so he'd feel welcome, eventually they left me alone with him. I tried to be polite and talk. He reveals that he's 23 and describes what he likes in a woman. He asks to exchange contact information, and I'm too meek to tell him I'm not interested in keeping in touch. I ended up getting coaxed into meeting him (no costume) at the mall, where he asked me out. I couldn't say no. He says he wants to come to my house, and like a dumbass, I accept.  It's pretty normal at the start, he meets my parents and leads me to my bedroom to talk. He ended up talking me into cuddling in bed, where he got kind of gropey. I didn't know what to do, so I froze up and let him touch me and take off my shirt. It felt really awkward and wrong. I won't go into detail, but he got about as physical as you can get without actual penetration. I snapped out of it at that point and pushed him off, told him I wanted to break up. He cried until his dad came to pick him up.  He ended up getting banned from the meet when I told the mods he was a creep, and I blocked him on everything. I didn't want to think about it for a long time, but now I feel like I'm at the age where I should process it like an adult. 

After sex I don't want to talk to her anymore just sleep.

My boyfriend's score goes up when he's not texted me back on WhatsApp. Is he ignoring me or are his old snaps just talking a while to appear on my phone?

To hold Johns actions when he was a child and I was insane and you were trying to use both to **** whatever the **** I am, against him? Get it  trough your head Adrian, nothing John has done before he returns will ever again be held against him. The times you could play me are over. John was probably more mature at 16 than you were at 26. Both cos of his and yours personal features and cos his generation is much more intelligent and mature than  ours in general. Go home Adrian, I don't want you anywhere near me.

This girl and I both work in a retail store. I work up front and she works in the back. She has showed some signs that she might like me, but I am not 100% sure. She does this one thing that is really werid. So if im working at self checkout she will walk pass with her head turned away from me. Then as soon as she is pass and she will turn head and look directly at me.

I dated a guy for a while then he friend zoned me 2 months ago. However he still texted me multiple times a day. I think he is trying to work his way back in. I wrote a mutual friend of his a couple emails a couple months ago when it first happened. I asked if his friend still liked me since he was contacting me a lot. I wrote that I was not going to wait around and see other guys if his friend didn't want me anymore. His friend wrote that he'd talk to him. I've been getting calls from his friend within the past month. His friend never called me that often before. I suspect it's cuz of the pics I posted on Facebook-kinda flirtatious. He called me this week and asked if he could meet and talk to me. He also said he talked to my ex several times about me. Said he wants to have it both ways and I should see other guys. He asked me if I was seeing or talking to other guys. I said yeah but I didn't want my ex to know in case he wants to get back with me. He said his friend can be weird. His friend called me a couple days later asking to meet with me and talk with me alone about biz stuff-not personal. We always met at a mutual friends place and now he wanted to meet with me alone. I said I was shopping but could be right by. He said no, he'd meet up with me another day at mutual friends place. Does it sound like his friend is interested in getting with me? And trying to turn me against my ex so I will want him instead? Or is he just being a friend to me and trying to help?

So i work with this beautiful girl that i sometimes flirt with. I know she has a boyfriend and i try not to flirt with her but sometimes i can't help myself. It also doesn't help that she flirts back, she teases me, trys to be around me all the time, works the same days i do, she asks me a lot of questions about my life, giggles a lot around me, and her best friend also told me she talks a lot about me. Recently she went on vacation with her boyfriend and before she left she asked me if i was going to miss her. Part of me wants to continue to pursue her but i feel like the more i do the more i would fall for her. The other part of me feels guilty because she has a boyfriend and i should be respecting that. I just wish she didn't flirt back or talk about her boyfriend more so i can at least know that is not interested in me. 

I am a very open hearted and loving person and I have a boyfriend who loves to make jokes telling me, "you make me sick!!" I always would laugh then it hit me this actually sounds rude. I was in a toxic relationship before him so any signs of rudeness and i get scared. I talked with my mom and she told me I am too sensitive. So now I don't know If should tell him how I feel about it. Also I feel a bit of a hypocrite because I want him to accept me but yet these jokes get to me :( 

I gave her a necklace that represented love for her and she knows this well. She never takes it off, ever. Why does she keep doing this? I find this very strange.Considering the way we ended friendship and all. She literally broke me too mentally after that. How can she wear it? What is the purpose? Her friends told me despite us ending she never takes it off. 

Ok so...my best friend is super into this guy we work with (I'm relatively new to the job but he and I work night shift while she works mornings so we talk a lot) and she's told me about him beforehand and I encouraged her little crush. But in casual conversation he's made it clear that he doesn't see her like that AT ALL by certain comments he's made to me and I think he's actually interested in me. But the kicker is, I think I'm interested in him too. Nothing super crazy has happened, just mild flirting and texting. But I'm debating on whether I should tell her that he's not interested or let her figure it out herself. Everyone I've asked has said, "let it play out." But I'm starting to feel guilty bc when she crushes she crushes HARD and she's been going through a lot personally so it intensifies those feelings. And I feel even more guilty bc I'm into him as well. (Which I was not expecting! But I think it's fair to note that she's crushed on every guy I've ever been into since we've been friends.) So I don't know what to do. There's no right way to tell someone that the person their super into isn't even thinking of them that way. Please help...

I've been seeing this guy for over a year but sometimes days will go by and he doesn't text me. His silent periods are nearly always after we've spent the night together and had fun, sometimes intimately but not always. And no, it's not a booty call situation because, again, I've spent many nights at his house where we just sleep cuddled up next to each other without having sex. He's told me he loved me a couple times when we've been drinking but then laughs it off the next day. He's a musician and he's played several songs for me on the guitar, always love songs...but he will not come right out and say I love you. What's most puzzling though is why does he go silent for days at a time?? What is he thinking after I get out of his bed, shower, and go to work only to not hear from him for 2 or 3 days? I'm certain he isn't seeing anyone else, he's a homebody and has several dogs so I know he isn't staying anywhere but his house, and if someone else is at his house then they have to know a girl stays there often- I have a dresser drawer just for my clothes and keep makeup, shampoo, and other toiletries in his bathroom in plain sight. WTF is up with this guy?  He's quite a bit older than me so yes, he's had his fair share of past relationships, including an ex-wife. I might as well say it...he is 20 years older than me. I'm younger than his son. I don't know if the age difference has anything to do with what is going on though, I really don't think so but I'm so confused by him. :( The age gap has come up and he's kind of nonchalant about it, so I don't think that's the problem. Is he waiting to see if I will text him first, maybe? I've asked "Why haven't you texted me?" And his response is, "Why haven't you texted me?" I spent the night there Tuesday and haven't heard from him since, and I'm debating on whether or not I should text him. I DO NOT want him to think I'm clingy so I wait for him to contact me first even though it's agony waiting for my phone to go off.  I feel like a freaking middle schooler stressing about something so silly as to whether or not I should text him first but this is seriously troubling me. I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him and I don't want to be hurt, so if I need to start distancing myself it should be soon before I get any deeper in.  I emailed you at the gmail address in your comment. Thank you :)

She is my friendship group, so I have to see her eventually (normally I'd just cut the girl off). I asked her if she and the dude are actually dating and she said some wishy washy answer like "in the grey area between hooking up and officially dating" so how to get over this? I cant keep having a crush on her :(

It seems like I'll do a thousand good things (without the concern of affirmation) and hardly anyone says anything. Than whenever I make one or two mistakes someone always has something to say.

We had been out to a good friends 19th birthday. All was going really well until the bar we were at closed and everyone there left for home around 1am. My best friend was crashing at my house that night, along with my girlfriend of 2 years. We got home, opened a few more drinks and continued the party. Just the 3 of us. A few hours went by and I decided to head to bed around 4am. My friend and my girlfriend decided to stay up and keep drinking, which was totally fine by me as they could go off to bed at any point they chose. About 2 hours later and I am awoken by my girlfriend in absolute hysterics. She jumps onto my bed and curls up in the corner, trying to tell me through her tears and hyperventilation that my so called "best friend" had just raped her. I asked her what she remembers. I trust her wholeheartedly but as she was drunk at the time, this is the bit I struggle with. Apparently she had passed out from the drinking and been woken up with him on top of her, her trying to get him off and him forcing himself upon her, holding her mouth closed. She kneed him in the balls and managed to break free. She then ran up to me and told me what had happened.  I ran downstairs through the family room and to the kitchen, where I see him limping towards the door. I beat him up and kicked him out of the house before I did something I would have regretted and believe me I really wanted to. He was my best friend since I was 6.  How could he do that to the girl I love?