Husband was talking about it in his text messages. 

My husband can't put it in why??? He is on top and it's hard for him 

I'm a couple years away from filing for divorce, and I want to tell her that that is the main reason.  I'm preparing now, and just want to gather information.  Like I said, I know chances are that people are going to lie about this.

Ever since my parents divorced my Dad and his family have rejected me cause of my Mom. My father will see me on occasion but not holidays cause of his new wife and him loving her and her kids more then me. I feel 2nd rate. Also his family does not wish to see me cause they took his side and see me as a product of my mother. My paternal grandparents were wonderful to me but they have died. The aunts and uncles wish no contact with me as well as my cousins, some of whom have blocked me on Facebook post-divorce. All this has evolved over the past 5 years and it really hurts. My mother almost likes it cause it proves what a loser her ex-husband was. Yet for me it is a deep pain that opens the most between Thanksgiving and New Year. I am aged 20 and was 14 when my Dad left us for this woman and her kids who he likes more.

I know the whole story behind it being the city of love. But I personally believe it all to be a huge scam. I travelled here with my wife. She posed with me in photos but love was far from the agenda. We came as part of a tour group. By the time we got back to the hotel on both days, she was exhausted and definitely not in the mood. Said her whole body was exhausted from the long days. So I think Paris is just a scam. Don't bring your SO here and expect to get laid. Come here for the amazing sight seeing etc. Just do your best to suspend your beliefs and ignore everything you know about it being the city of romance. Title should read Paris

He keeps wasting money we desperately need on lottery tickets and online gambling. We can barely pay rent as it is. Life has become so stressful it's like a nightmare.

I finally got around telling my husband I am having an abortion. he was being manipulative and hinting a divorce. He said coworkers were talking about divorcing to get welfare. That if it wasn't for my immigration situation we would have done it. Then later acts as if he never even brought up divorce. we are having so many issues and he lately decided he will not help with childcare. I had to quit my previous job because my whole paycheck was going to childcare. Now he is slowly trying to not pay hospital bills. when we found out I brought up adoption for the baby and abortion. He said we would figure it out. I can't bring another child into this world if I can't care for it. And I know I cannot count on him at this point. When I finally got around telling him I was set on going with the abortion he is telling me that I might as well leave because he will not stay with someone who aborts his child. But then why would I stay with someone like this? He doesn't want me, he is cheating and thinking divorce but he wants me to keep a child he knows he won't care for? I feel like at this point if he wants to end things let go ahead. Because I'm already seeing a lawyer  I just don't understand why he would want to play the victim as if this is a good reason for him when clearly he is the one creating problems. 

We all have baggage.  I was abused too. But in a different way.  The main difference is, my mom left the jerk who mistreated me.  My husband's mom actually stayed with the man who, for years and years, traumatized her son.  I'm not proud of it, but I absolutely resent her for that.  You don't stay with someone who abuses your children. I don't care how much you depend on them financially. Your children depend on you for protection.  If you refuse to do what is necessary to keep them safe, you are worse than the abuser in my eyes. She could have saved him, but she didn't.  Anyway, that's another story.  Since my husband dealt with so much verbal and horrible mental abuse for nearly his whole life, he is still suffering. He self loathes something fierce. If he makes one little, human, mistake he calls himself names and beats himself up.  He is always trying to appease everyone else, but doesn't care about his own feelings to protect them.  He has so many scars, so much hurt. It kills me.  There is so much light wanting to come out, but I don't know how to help it shine. I am no therapist.  But I do my best to tell him he is worthy of love. Especially of himself.  He is going to make mistakes, he is human. He doesn't have to beat himself up anymore.  He doesn't live with that sorry excuse of a stepdad anymore but he can't shake the trauma. Is there anything else I can do?  Am I doing enough?  I know I can't heal him myself, but I want to do my best to help... I also am suspicious his mom stayed with that man because she is a heavy Bible reader and devout Christian and is against divorce. I guess she forgot the part where divorce is allowed in the case of abuse. Especially on one's own child.  This is why I am not a follower of Christianity. I see what it does to people...

He had a 3 year-old affair on their 8th year of their marriage and got the other woman is pregnant. They're in the process of getting divorced. Can he lose his naturalized US citizenship for cheating on his wife? He's from Uruguay and his wife from NY. Though, he was already naturalized long before meeting his wife. Someone told me he can for being a cheating bastard.

My husband took this past week end to stay home. But today is his birthday.  so I would think he would this day off like he usually does. Since he has been cheating also I assumed he would spend his birthday out. he played nice with me all week end. These last few years he has been acting nice whenever his birthday is near in order to get a good gift from me. And then he could go back to his antics right after. So I wanted to test that theory to see if things changed. I told him I got a groupon for an indoor water park so we could go Tuesday with the kids. he got upset and said he doesn't like water parks I shouldn't have gotten the tickets.The week end went by normally. he came back Monday after work and said that since he has the hospital bill it's his turn for hospital bill (100$),he will work on Tuesday to make that money. Tuesday is a nonscheduled day for him and Since it falls on his birthday he will probably not work. later on after changing clothes he says something along the lines of thank God I'm not working tomorrow because I wouldn't be able to stay and deal with our toddler. Than he changes and say thank God I'm working tomorrow.  I have been seeing lawyers these last few weeks and I'm preparing to divorce. but looking back at this I wonder why it is hurting me that he doesn't want to spend his birthday with me. It's not like I even care at this point. It's just him going to pretend like he cared and then go back to being evil right before his birthday.

I was going through the shed to find Christmas decorations, and I come across 2 boxes that have my husbands ex wife stuff in it. It had crafts, school stuff, bags, etc. I asked my husband if he knew it was still here and he said yes, but didn't know what all was really in it. He said he was going to get it to her, but I don't know when because we work hectic hours. A while ago, we did pack up everything that was hers in the house and left it on carport. She did come and get it then. They were together on and off for 6 years and have a kid together. They been divorced for 2 years. We all get along really good (she's married also) and I don't want to ruin it over this. Should I let this bother me? Or should I let it go? Does it mean anything like he still has feelings? I know she probably forgot about it because life gets in the way. 

The story is that this person was pressured and convinced by his Ex to move out of state with their 4 year old son. The Ex's mother and the Ex's mother's husband had recently also moved into a house out of state in the same location. All 5 of them were living in the same house that the Ex's mother had bought. He and his Ex had plans to find work and eventually their own place with their son. The jobs available in the area are slim to none. He found a temporary part time position with Fed Ex as a package handler. She found a full time position as a waitress. The mother's husband drove him to another city so he could get registered as a new state resident. About a month later, the Mother kicked him out after he spanked his son for repeatedly disobeying him. The mother's husband threatened to call police if he returned. He and his girlfriend had been having relationship issues that he wanted to work out so they could all be happier. He brought it to light to the Mother one day when she asked why she doesn't see much affection between them. Suddenly, them living with her Mother was making things difficult. She began sending messages through her daughter to tell him that "something needs to change". It confused him and he didn't think much of it. He kept being told he was rude until he found himself kicked out away from his family. He had no choice but to quit his part time job and move back to their original state. His Ex left him. He and his have been separated for a year. 

So we recently broke up and she moved back in with her parents. Both us and our parents invested a lot of time and money to fix it up for when we moved in. We had mutually agreed to have her name taken off the deed and I would pay them back for everything they invested in. I was the one who broke off the relationship because I truly wasn't in love anymore. I asked no questions about their total and told them to just give me the number and I'll pay it back. I still don't know what it is but it's more than 2 grand. But recently my ex told me aside from the money she still wants her name on the deed. I'm not sure what to do. I feel like it wouldn't be a good idea for me. I'm planning on telling her that she can keep her name on the deed UNTIL I pay them back all the money they invested into the house along with manual labor and their time. I could see maybe she's just not trying to lose or have me cheat her out of her money. After paying them back she wouldn't have anything to lose from my perspective. But I also don't want to be cheated out of the home along with my money from where we stand right now. If she agrees to that then a contract would come in handy and I would send the money through checks so the receipts can keep a track of how much has been officially paid. I wouldn't expect them to be the type of people who play dirty but then again, you never truly know who they are until you're on their bad side. It's not something I expected from my ex so I'm slightly in shock. She even made a comment if I couldn't pay the mortgage then to let her know because she doesn't want me to "ruin her credit"

This is a dumb question but I want to ask to spark conversation. GMC has run a commercial for the past few years around the holiday time where a couple are in their house and the woman walks up with 2 pair of sunglasses. She says "one for you and one for me." He looks at her and says, "I love them. I also bought us something." They walk outside and in the driveway are two brand new vehicles. A big pick up truck and a big SUV. The woman runs over to the pick up and yells, "I love it!" The guy tries to tell her how the truck was his and the SUV was for her. Again, she yells, "I love it." The next shot is of him dropping his head and walking over to the SUV saying, "I love red too." I think this is one of the dumbest commercials ever made. If I bought 2 vehicles for me and my wife and the SUV was hers she can run over to the truck all she wants but I'm going to clearly tell her the SUV is for her. I know this is just a commercial but are some guys afraid to speak up to their girls for fear of retribution?

I am from Russia.I'm 26 and she's 30. She says she loves me. do you think I should marry her? Is the difference in 4 years is a barrier? But Russia is a conservative country. In Russia usually wife must be younger than husband.