After 95 remarkably years my wonderful grandpa passed away yesterday at the hospital. He was preceed in death by grandma. Grandpa was so many things in his life. During WWII he was a pfc in the Marines.Once he came back he went to college,he became a gp. He was well known in our small town for his kind manners. He married his high school girl friend. Sometimes he would joke that it was harder getting grandma to marry him than surviving in the pacific lol. Grandma didn't want to marry him at first. Grandma died in 2000 of leukemia and afterwards grandpy was strong but you could feel he just missed her. I hope they're finally together. I hope to find in life a love like theirs. Anyway it's been really a sad day today.We're talking about funeral arrangments and stuff in my family non stop. I was wondering wat epitaph. I was thinking sometihng like " PFC US MARINE CORPS WWII Loving husband,father,grandfather and wonderful family doctor. SEMPER FIDELIS" so the idea is this but I think there is too much stuff there... I'd like to make it read friendlier..any advice? it's hard to cut parts in it because he was all of this. My dad and my aunt like the parts where I mentioned him being a family man and a family doctor but I think it would also be right to reckon him being a veteran of WWII... advice? it's pretty hard to choose the right words.

My boyfriend lost his mom when he was 13 (he still hurts about her loss till this day, which is understandable). Two months ago, he lost his grandfather whom he was close with. Just yesterday, he lost his brother. I'm hurting because 1. I see his family as mine & 2. because he's hurting. How can I be there for him? He's clearly going through a terrible time. I give him his space (I'm at work right now & he's with his family). I'm trying to run all the errands for us, I don't let him do anything on his own unless he insists. What can I do? What can I say? This is really hard on all of us. Thank you.

She's a narcissistic bully with no morals.

I am a guy in high school who has a older female cousin who is a joy to be with. She has a great sense of humor and we have a lot of fun together. I arranged for her to take me to school. I was running late and she asked me how much more time I needed to get ready before we left. I told her "It wouldn't be long now". She said "how many inches is it when it is long"? Oh my God, she is talking about my d***. I think I am entitled to brag a little don't you so I said 12 inches. She said "In your dreams "Shorty". Do you think she was just having fun at my expense?

I'm going to a school christian club meeting tomorrow and this guy who i used to have big problems with and i'm terrified of him now that something might happen with us again so i can't say sorry either and i'm scared of him and i'm so anxious i have diarrhea and feel ill. i'm going to text my ex girlfriend that i need her back to help me should i

I am 14 and pretty responsible, and I will buy it with my own money.

i'm a male in my early forties and i joined tinder over a year ago, ive swiped/liked thousands of women i liked the look of on it, but with no likes back, no one showing an interest in me...so eventually today, my patience ran out and i cancelled my tinder gold service, and told my bank to cancel the payments to tinder.....because i see it as pointless and very infuriating. girls/ women are simply not interested in me it appears...i only joined because i'm a lonely person with mental problems who has never established any relationships with females ever, i've had a hard life with plenty of challenges...and ive missed out on relationships....the only support system i have is my elderly mother and father, that's why i gave tinder a go to begin with.. but to keep liking women, and getting no likes back, and even when i have had likes back and it's been a match, i send a text to the girl to say 'hello'-  but they don't respond and i never hear from them again. infuriating........so i gave up, fuc k it and fck tinder, it's worthless. i know i can't make women like me and i can't force them to respond, so i thought what is the point?? i'll just carry on living on my own in my flat, which ive lived in 15 years, living a lonely existence...but i'll continue to try better myself by going to the gym a couple times a week and try do other things. to describe me, i'm olive skinned, caucasian and bald.  but did i do the right thing by cancelling tinder gold?

whats your opinion on a dad smacking his teenage daughters butt and he claim it out of genuine affection and love for his little girl and not anything bad

At 22, I lost my husband who was also my high school sweetheart. We had been together for 6 years and had a beautiful child who was only a year old at the time of his death. Being a young mum, I over compensated her lack of having a dad with giving her anything she wanted. Fast forward 25 years later, my daughter has been in college for the last 8 years. I dont know what she is studying because it's changed so many times. She just texted me to tell me she will be moving back home because "the school thing" didn't pan out. I have done everything in my power to provide for her including putting my life on hold which I truly dont regret. However, I dont want her to move back home. She is 27 years old and I believe I have done my best by her but I now just to live my life. How can I handle this?

I like the rest of the family so still will attend things like Thanksgiving or Christmas. My father is extremely dishonest and he also is very ignorant of the mentally ill or people different. Lastly, he was very neglectful of his elders (it was embarrassing). I tried to make up to them for my father's abuse.

I called my aunt and asked her  if could I stay with her Mon-Fri, because I got a new job that is like an hour away from where I live so it would cut down on my commute. On the weekends I would go home. She said sure and said I did not have to ask that I can show up without calling. In formed her I would like be to her house on Nov.30th cuz I start my new job december 2nd. She then said she was happy I called and that she was in walmart and asked me eventually could I give her $50 for groceries. If I do live there Mon- FRi, I do not mind helping out, but being as though I plan to go back home to my residence on the weekend, I will still be paying rent at my old place before breaking the lease. I think its weird that in the first conversation I had with her about me staying at her house Mon-Fri, she asked me for money. 

I was raised by my Grandmother till age 12 when she passed. At that point was the first time I ever lived with my birth Mother. I have a half brother, who my Mother raised we are 7 years apart. She could be nice on occasion but over all the stress of 2 kids made her an alcoholic. She was abusive (belt whipping), glasses slapped off my face. Even though I told CPS & teachers nothing ever happened to save me from her abuse. Now, she is about 79, I havent seen or talked to her in 5 years

My bf (22y.o) recently had a loss in his family (dont really wanna specify for privacy) and he was one of the people who was tasked with going through the belongings (the person was a hoarder). While he was going through some of the stuff, he found a "collection" of pictures of himself when he was super young, many of them were odd, sujestive and borderline child porn imo, and he didnt even show me all of them. Pretty sure he found some messed up stuff based on how obsessed he's gotten over it. I told him that I think he should either destroy/burn them or take them to the police; that I dont think he should keep them but he disagrees and has gotten obsessed with trying to "investigate" and figure out who took them and why, and why he doesnt remember any of it. He seems super young in the pictures that I saw but he only showed me like 3. He said there were dozens. He didn't really talk much about the other pictures (just that they are worst than the ones he showed me) and I didnt pry. All I'm doing now is trying to be supportive. I dont want to push him too much or seem like I'm impeding but I dont think it's even legal for him to have those kinds of pictures. Although I could be wrong bc they are pics of himself? Idk how that works. Like I said I want to support him but dont want to enable this obsession. He doesnt want me to talk to anyone in his family about them either. So I'm not sure what to do.

My parents don't allow me to have friends. They think everyone in the world is a bad influence. They regularly read my texts, and if they see one thing they don't like, they don't allow me to talk to the person. They did this with all of my friends until I eventually had none. My friends weren't bad people at all. In fact, they were all people I met at church. My parents had no real reason to keep me from talking to them. I am 17 years old, and they still regularly check my devices as well. Everything on my phone is disabled other than calling and texting. Even all of my apps are locked. I am not allowed to watch what I want to, or talk to who I want to, or have even the smallest bit of freedom. Again, I'm 17, and they wont allow me to get a job either. They say they want me to be more responsible, but when I offer to pay my own phone bill, and buy my own groceries, they refuse. They never give me a reason why they say no. They simply say no. I think the real reason they don't allow me is because they want to keep me in this house as long as they possibly can. They also turn my wifi off whenever they leave the house, which is frustrating because I need my laptop for school. They keep me under constant surveillance and I'm tired of it. I'm almost an adult, and they still treat me like i'm 5. They also yell at me and verbally abuse me almost every day. They say i'm not good enough, and that i'm stupid, and a slew of other things. I have also been denied therapy and medical care

He has so much cash he passes it out like candy.  Otherwise he is incapable of showing love. 

I don't care if this shows up on My Brother My Brother and Me, I just want answers. I am almost confident my dad laughs at minion memes un-ironically. Please help me, I want a nice way to let him down and let him know that HE'S the disappointment for once... The "HE'S a disappointment" thing was just a joke, I didn't actually mean it

Our thirteen year old son, Max, "came out" (as he says) as a homosexual about a month ago. Immediately we took his phone and other devices and we found homosexual pornography. We obviously spanked him that at that point and since then he has not recieved his devices back. We made him go to church and meet with pastor every weekend to discuss his problem but nothing seemed to work. About a week ago we got a phone call from his school that he and other boy where kissing each other in the bathroom. Another boy reported them to the headmaster who then called us and Max is now suspended until the last 9 weeks of school in spring. We discussed with the other parents who also attend our church and they were in absolute dismay because they didn't even know there son was a homosexual. We made the decision to have the other boy, jackson, and max as well as us and Jackson's parents and the pastor to tell them tehy needed to stop and they have no right to do this to themselves. Long story short, they were both incredibly disrespectful and it's all because of this stupid phase they are going through. After the meeting our pastor decided that we should send both of them to an intevention camp together so they would have to resist or face consequences. However the problem is we cannot find one that is on the east coast atleast not online. Our pastor recommended one in Arizona but we don't want to send them that far. Any suggestions or advice on how to find the right place?

If a mother has a mentally ill adult son, who is 34 years old. And if that son is on the verge of losing everything he currently has. Material possessions, his home, his pets, clothing, no food. Most of all no shelter over his head. Who is responsible for the fact that he is now in a suicidal state of mind? Due to his anxiety of waking up each morning , not sure if he's going to fail? Is his mother setting him up for failure? Keep in mind , that this child did not ask to be mentally ill. The mother is the one who carried out a full term pregnancy. Also some people require long term care well after they're aged 18. If a child became injured in a way which he or she had to use a wheelchair for the rest of their life... Then the mom cannot expect her child to magically be able to walk and care for him or her self at age 18. Is it the mental health Care system who is setting the said person up for failure? Poor treatment and not enough resources? Or is it the social security disability administration who is at fault? Or should we hold the 34 year old man responsible for caring for himself and providing his own needs? Even though he is doing the best he can . But is still likely to fail , because he isn't receiving adequate help? Which will ultimately result in his death.

whats your opinion on a dad smacking his teenage daughters butt and he claim it out of genuine affection and love for his little girl and not anything bad

So a few years ago I happend to be on my dads Facebook at the time that this guy messaged my dad Nd I was like that's so weird he looks like exactly like my dad like uncanny Nd i didn't like bother to grab his name because I thought I literally was crazy but I brushed it off but I literally kept in the back of my mind always. Today my dad decided to get spotify premium which we already had but he wanted it to be in his name for some reason. I decided to join... and the guy that was messaging on his fb was on it. It instantly clicked nd I was like ummm so I was with my mom at the time so I showed her I was like who is this? And she instantly got mad and kept asking me to ask my dad who he was and why he was on our family plan. I legit had a gut feeling like oh no. So like over her shoulder I saw that she started texting my dad angrily nd I was like um... And also btw when she was dropping me off for class. So I left the car and I was legit so like weirded out by that whole encounter so I searched his name on Facebook bc it was displayed on the plan thing. I found him started looking at his pictures. identical to my dad and also resembles me and my sister, I told her but she's like not believing it but she later told me she felt like uneasy like I did. Anyways my mom picks me up and she asks me again if my dad responded and he didn't but on twitterthe way home he texted me and said " oh he's just a friend, I'll take him off" ( THE REST IS IN THE PHOTO ATTACHED))    I didn't mean to have the word "twitter" on there sorry literally so shaken about it still lmao 

I have a aunt who's life expectation is for her kids to graduation, go to college, Get a well paying job and leave the urban neighborhood for a better life somewhere else. To be honest, As a person who lives in these areas for the long time, It really isn't that bad for me. Sure there is a chance that you can get robbed, stabbed, or shot just like any other city. But if you stick to you common sense and make good choices and not getting involve in anything then you'll be alright. The problem is that my aunt thinks that we are better off leaving the area for somewhere that is suburban and/or peaceful to get away from the area. Seems great but it isn't the life that I ask for. I'll rather stay where i'm at and make a difference in the community then to runaway from it. And when I try to tell her something like that she'll get upset and lectures me to death until I prove her right. She also believes that education and college is the only gateway to better life; which is not in my opinion since my dream is to give a message use my art to do so and hopefully build a foundation where everyone can get together and show the world that not everything they see is bad such a the urban neighborhood. I really don't know if she don't understand or just doesn't agree with me at all. I really need some advice for ya'll of what should I do in order for someone like her to understand. 

I call him a social misfit because he gets disability $$ because he can't work anywhere where there are people. Though I believe he has not been physically abusive before, he is very verbally and mentally abusive.   She called the police who took away his house key and told him to leave. She refused to file charges (here is where I start shaking my head.  He is now back in the house and is now telling their baby how horrible her mother is.  She may not understand, but she knows when there are arguments or violence.  I am worried about my great-niece. But I have no rights. Any suggestions?

I have lived with my bf, his brother and his brothers son for about 3 years now. My bf and I are about to move out in about a week. I have taken his nephew to school and picked him up since I lived here why not. Well now I asked my bf what is his bro going to do now that we are moving to the other side of town. He got mad I dont want to commute all the way to the other side of town to pic the kid up and take him to school and then go to work. Commute time about 45 mins if I am lucky with traffic. In the past a family member of mine would take advantage of me and drop off their kids for days in a row and make them stay the night before school so I could take them. He didnt like that so then I told them they cant be doing that anymore. I am happy to help but not be taken advantage of. If I give in I feel like that is more than helping. 

so basically heres the gist of my situation im a freshie (a girl if thats important in anyway) and i was diagnosed with mdd (major depressive disorder) by my psychologist. on top of that, i was also diagnosed with ocd, adhd, and im on the autism spectrum. with all that, plus highschool and my suicidal tendencies, i knew i was in for hell. and i was right! so far i have about 49 missing assignments in total, and i have 3 fs, 3 ds and a c.  now, my mom KNOWS about all my mental health issues, and yet she constantly tells me that it's just that im "lazy and want to be defiant". she laughs at me when i talk about not wanting to live anymore and tells me im being a brat. she threatens to take away my clothes and makeup (which i wear because of my cripplingly low self esteem). she threatens to make me wear my pe clothes all day. she threatens to stop letting me dye my hair. the threatens to stop letting me practice art, which is my FUTURE CAREER CHOICE. and on top of that, she invalidates the fact that im gay all the time. she tells me she wants me to marry a man and have a baby with him, and i have stated multiple times that i am a lesbian. she insists that im bisexual.  she knows the reason i dont want to be with a man is because my dad tried molesting me when i was 11. yet, she doesnt seem to give a ****. she pretends she does when around others. i cant do this anymore. my friends think im always happy but all i wanna do is kill myself. any advice would be great. thanks

My mom makes me so sad and at this point I don't even want to be around like I've been coughing at school and when I came home she yelled at me and said well you haven't been coughing here when she never even around me to know if I have been and the only reason I stay away from is because she always takes her stress and puts it all on me I really just want someone to talk to and I have to go with my dad every other weekend and as much as I hate being with my mom I hate being with my dad even more

I am a assistant manager at my workplace and I have a coworker who is also an assistant manager the I unfortunately work with. he has temper issues at times when things don't go out as planned. he has a habit of being overly-rigid when stressed out. he has a hard time admitting his mistakes. he acts overly authoritarian over the smallest things towards his workers. a lot of coworkers have unfavorable opinions on him and even I had a few times where I had arguments with him. 

I need some wedgie dares. no messy or ripping but anything else is free game. I need to get back at my sister because she has been stealing my money. I can't have them rip or be messy because parents will see. i don't want to hurt her too bad, just enough to teach her a lesson.

My younger brother has just started middle school, and he has always had the hardest time with homework. He won't do it, procrastinates, and cries. My parents don't do anything, they make him go to the kitchen and do work. We have a radio in there, but he can't do work with music or TV on. He has meltdowns for hours like a 2 year old at the mention of homework. He stays up till 11 pm and eventually falls asleep. It aggravates me that he won't do it and that my parents do nothing. All they do is yell at me to back off, but he never does his work. Any suggestions? 

This is my first time going through this . The temporary guardian is telling me I need to take my child off medcaid that way he can get switch to where she lives . But we live in the same state and it's only til I get my own place . I don't know what to do .. 

Im a very quiet shy girl in general but he was angry and scary  And even as an adult now (parents are divorced btw) , i avoid him... 

Bil Has told entire family that we are not allowed around his daughter (husbands niece) if we do not get flu shot and tdap shot before seeing her new baby. Ok I'm fine with that.  I'm not getting any  shots therefore I will not be seeing baby over the holidays. Done.  I'm not close to his family. I may see his niece once a year. Never talk to her even then BIL is throwing the biggest fit,  husband is  acting scared shitless I'm not going to do what bil demands. What the hell is he going to do? I swear this family creates drama left and right and my spineless husband allows it Is my brother in law being ridiculous???? The baby is the BIL's granddaughter.