I notice many women who finish college tend to have better chance of marrying to a highly educated men with good income than a good looking woman with little or no college. 

Long story short. Both adult males in there 40s moved back home after separating from there wives. The mom does everything for them from cooking to cleaning and washing there clothes. Take it these are adult males capable of maintaining themselves and have great jobs. They also live rent free in the parents household. Is this normal?

My brother went to prison for about 12 years for having child pornography in his home and attacking a preteen girl. Now my sister a few months ago found child porn and men having sex with little girls with their legs up in the air. I told her I was going to report him and she said the reason why he doesn't want to see you for Thanksgiving is because you are full of hate and awful. You know he spent 13 years in prison. My brother isn't talking to me because i think he knows i will confront him on this. My sis said she is blocking me bc I want to do the right thing and instead I am the villain. Should I tell the police anyway?

It's been awhile, i found out when i was 13, but recently i confronted him on how it has made me feel....Well, that didn't go well....He now harasses me and him and his sister talk massive **** on me. The only reason I found out was because she showed up at our doorstep, otherwise we wouldn't have known. He never paid a dime of child support. 

She is a toxic woman and narcissist (the sister).

She has her own contemporary apartment, a boyfriend, a dog, they both have very high paying jobs, and eat out at very luxurious restaurants very often. I'm still living with my parents at 26, can't find a job after graduating in Geography, trying to get my creative projects to make money 26 M

They are old enough now to choose and they both have chosen their father. One is going to stop by and see me Saturday and then I'll be seeing both around New Years. I am in so much pain. I had to leave him because of the lying and cheating and I never cut him down in front of the kids who were both 8 when I left him (twins). But now 12 years later my worst nightmare has come true. They chose him. He is remarried and they have step-sibs they like. I was an only child and my mother has died.

Long story short, My mom was removed from our family home due to drug addiction last November. My dad has been in 3 relationships since last December. He s been dating this new girl for 3 weeks and he spends most of weeknights and he stays with her Saturday into Sunday afternoon. I was extremely close to my mom and this year has been really hard without her. I miss her a lot. I ve been really sad, It sucks being in an empty house without any parents. I go to therapy 4 times a week, My therapist says I need to learn how to be alright with being alone but my life was literally changed over night when mom was taken away. Btw, I m 20 years old. My mom was always here with us, It s hard to go from having someone with you 24/7 to literally being alone all the time. it s not like I wanna sit and talk to him all the time but, just knowing he was home made me feel better. My whole life I didn t care if dad was home or not considering we had mom home and whenever dad was home, He was angry. Considering my parents were both addicts during my childhood I was put into a parental role I shouldn t of been in and the therapist are trying to get me out of that role but how can I when I m the only "responsible" one at home. When he s gone I have to constantly be alert. My brother is 19 and my sisters are 17 and 15. I worry about them so much when they go out. Mom and Dad wouldnt know because they aren t here lol. So basically I m searching for tips on how to be ok being with just myself.

We are going to have Thanksgiving dinner at my grandparents house. I don't talk to them much, mostly because I'm anti social, and have nothing in common, and my dad told me they took a bunch of money during my parents divorce that was meant for me, and my siblings in which case I wouldnt feel bad about this. I also suffer form depression and anxiety, and socialization is so exhausting for me. My cousins will also be there who I'm not very close to. Anyway. My mom went over to help my grandma cook, and I was just gonna go over when dinner is ready, than maybe stuck around a little after, than go home. Pretty much the only time I go over is during thanksgiving. I never interact with them otherwise. 

I'm very anti-social. I talk sometimes, but I prefer to be quiet and isolated. When I'm at home, I remain completely isolated in my room. I don't like talking to anyone except my pets. If someone bothers me, I can get snappy pretty quickly. Advice?

Every time someone asks me about my parents, I tend to get odd stares from everyone whenever I make it clear that I hate my mother (my father is out of the picture, by the way). Why? I am not really sure; even when I explain my reasons for my hatred, regardless people always quote something from the Bible or something common about always respecting and loving your parents. So now I've come here. My mother is actually heartless. She is severely neglectful, emotionally abusive, and neurotic. She has trampled on so many of my passions growing up and has impacted me in so many ways that I have developed borderline personality disorder. She constantly threatened to take me out of school and force me to work when I was younger, and constantly threatened and occasionally beat me with a paddle for terrible grades. She left me home alone for most of my childhood just to go out drinking with a random man, which is very likely how I was conceived given she doesn't value me like my older siblings. Everything I have is thanks to my siblings for loving me enough to care for me like parents, never do I recall eating or buying nice things under my mother's nonexistent income. My siblings and I are the ones that work while we leave my mother's free time to be our housekeeper, but she can't even bring herself to fix up the hell of the house we have as she trashes it each time she goes on a date.  So with that, is that a good enough reason to hate her? How can I even help her?

My mom keeps doing that to me.  On top of that, she says "Don't start driving" as soon as we get in the car, so she can set up the GPS, as if I don't know how to get to the highway (and she knows how to get to highway, anyway).  Also, it's not like her phone is shaking while the car is moving, so she's capable of doing things on her phone, which she does anyway (texting, playing music, etc.).  I would go on a limb and assume she thinks I'm mentally disabled and don't, for example. know what "right" and "left" means, but she keeps pressuring me to give her grandchildren.  Is it possible she gets irritable in my car because she's over 60 and slowly getting to the point of dementia and short-tempered?  I'm thinking about limiting  my driving to only when we don't need the GPS, and let her drive her car when we need the GPS.  That way, I won't feel so patronized by her, and a nervous wreck to top it off.

She lives at my uncles house. She has been taking 500$ from the governement because she cannot get retire money. My uncle has 3 property  houses.  He works too and so does his wife. We live in one of his apartments we rented from him. My mom is the one who works and gets paid minimal wage, with which she maintains me and my unemployed dad, as in our county is extremely hard to find a job. Even if just at a fast food or to clean places. They just dont hire people like us with migrant background. My grandma has given to me at most 10$ for my birthday. Like 10$. Is that normal for you? She also doesn't pay rent, doesn't spend much, medical health is for her for free. I decide to go expat to find a job. I didn't even greeted her and refuse her calls. For me she was never a grandma. She was just  the grandma of my uncle's cousins. I never had affection from her. Never. Even when I was a child they let me to her for a few days (my paternal grandma died in our home country miles away) and she told me 'don't spend your parents money going on that stupid volleyball class. They're poor! You spend their money!!'. I was like, then why don't you help?

My immediate family (siblings) have come into town to visit my mom and I for the holidays. I'm very close with them and was looking forward to just us spending time together as a family, but they all insist on visiting estranged family members who are distant and could care less about visiting us unless they wish to show off a new house or car. They are big on gossip and rumors too, yet we're supposed to go over there and just pretend we're all so close. I feel uncomfortable about visiting them but know if I don't go that would make me seem like the antisocial black sheep when I'd just rather spend time with my closest family. Am I wrong to feel this way? Happy Thanksgiving

my parents arent alive anymore, one of my brothers has a family, a wife and two daughters, i know they have thanksgiving cause when they were little id get pictures of them sitting around the table at thanksgiving , his wife has a family i wouldnt have minded getting to know them, i dont even get to know my nieces, theyre like strangers to me, theyre teenagers, they wont email, call, facebook, nothing, neither will my brothers, i do see them but rarely. i wouldve liked to have spent some time with my nieces and get to know the rest of my wife's family. my sister dont get to go either. im only a state away, couldve taken the bus, and even if they flew me they make good money. this has been bothering me for yrs, i havent told them cause im not sure what theyd say if they knew i felt that way, it makes me feel terrible, i have friends that invite me over and i get to see her family but its not the same. i havent done anything to my brothers to make them hate me enough that they wont consider me part of the family. the whole usa is celebrating thanksgiving and i wondered who did they think we were that we werent worth inviting? and no i dont care if they see this question here. anyone else has family like this, theyre like that in other ways too, wont contact me unless its my birthday and god forbid they even send me a card. let alone a gift. do you think i should tell them how i feel about the whole thing? wish i knew why they never invited me my whole life.

All but one family member has stopped caring about me. I wanna live with my uncle. He has plenty of money to take care of me, there's no one else living in the home but him. He has a stable job, so he can continue to take care of me. I talked to him, and he doesn't mind me coming to live with him. The reason why I want to get out of the house because it's not a safe place to live, and it is unstable. We are filing bankruptse , and we only have one parent working. There are wholes in the wall, and constant yelling. I know I will be better off living with someone else and that my mental state will get better.

I'm a 27 year old married woman. I have a older relative who has been overwhelming imposing on me and my household. I spoke with him about feeling burdened by him. He stopped coming over for a few weeks and has recently returned to the unannounced 6am visits and the midnight visits, also unannounced. When we let him in the house (which is rare) just to visit he stays for hours at a time. I helped him find social services such a shelter which has banned him for violating drinking rules, and a housing program which offered him help but he lost the help because he refused to take a acholic assesment. I recently helped him get a job and his manager called me as I am his emergency contact and said he hasn't shown up in days. He ask me for money constantly to supply his drinking habits so I say no. If I say no he ask my husband who gets annoyed with me about the whole ordeal. I am sooo drained seeing him struggle wanting to help, but feeling as though he is an abuser of help. I can't take it anymore because my options are watch him self-destruct because he abuses help. Or let him leach off of me and I don't want to do either. His imposing behavior has been causing arguments between me and my husband. We are thinking about moving further out where he doesn't have access to our space. It's just extremely frustrating to be living in. Why doesn't he want help? Why does he receive the help he needs then self sabotage? 

We don't get along and I ranted in a text recently.  I feel she was a bad mom and I dont miss her. She texted me happy Thanksgiving, but did not reply to my rant a few weeks ago. I got mad because she said sorry for things shes done and how my life turned out. I got angry saying how we all make our own choices. She weakened me and never let me be strong.

Last week we had a housewarming party & invited my FIL. He decided he wanted to stay the night after the party, ok no problem, we had the room to accommodate him plus few other relatives also stayed so that was not an issue at all. The next morning the other relatives left by 10am. Exhausted from the night before, I just wanted to enjoy my Sunday alone without any company. I tried to hint to him by telling him I made him a to go plate and would set it on the counter for when he's ready to go but he didn't take my hint. After I gave him lunch, he helped himself to a beer in our fridge. I also noticed he was taking all kinds of pictures of the inside of our home on his personal phone..which seemed invasive to me. He FINALLY left SEVERAL hours later (he only lives 30 minutes away). Fast forward to yesterday, my husband and I get off work and he tells me that his father is coming to stay the night because he wants to ride with us to my sister in laws for thanksgiving. Why in the heck does he need to stay the night? We aren't even going until later today like 4pm. His dad stays up until 11pm watching tv but has it blaring loud as heck and my dogs are trying to sleep so there of course barking like crazy..he finally goes to sleep around 12am. This morning at 7am I hear my dogs going crazy and it's my FIL in the living room up early as heck..I just want him gone! We get along but I like my privacy. He asked if we go back to work Monday. I hope he's not staying tonight! Ugh!!!!!

My daughter is graduating from high school. She took a multiple choice test in one of her classes. After she got her grade we were reviewing the test and found one of the questions had NO correct answer. If that question were not in the test, her grade for the course would be high enough that she may have qualified for a college scholarship. We went to the school to ask that she get a new grade on the test after throwing out the question that did not have a correct answer. Both the teacher and the principal refused. They told us that once a grade is recorded, it can not be changed for ANY reason. We are considering our options. We are talking about the possibly of a LOT OF SCHOLARSHIP MONEY riding on the outcome of this. Here are some of the things we are thinking about. Post the whole story on YOUTUBE and hope it will go viral and change the schools mind about changing the grade. OR Contacting the local newspaper and TV stations to see if they will give this some publicity. OR Contacting other parents whose children may have been victims of the same test. OR Suing the school board. Any advice on how to proceed will be greatly appreciated

My grandparents are they are an elderly so I'm not going to skip Thanksgiving, but my sister who has Crohn's disease is apparently being extremely abusive as her Crohn's is acting up. She was just diagnosed with the Crohn's but I saw her last summer and she was being horrible and this was before she was ill. So how do I handle it when my sister starts in on the abuse? My mother said just not to speak to her but I feel like I need to nod my head and at least say Happy Thanksgiving since she's a relative. My mother is on my side.

I know that sounds terrible, but every year for the past 5 years my mom has been inviting all of our family over for Thanksgiving. She ends up cooking from 3am-5pm. My sister and I clean the house, set up decorations while she's cooking for about 4-5hrs. After everything is done we wait on our family that never comes. When people don't show up she ends up locking herself up in the bathroom and spends the rest of the night crying. It's a constant repeat, I'm tired of seeing my mom cry but I don't know what to say. Any suggestions?

We have little to be thankful for. We're both really depressed at this time of year. My grandmother died suddenly two years ago at this time (December 1st) at 92. We were really close to my grandparents (her parents) but her siblings envied this and will not speak to us. They are just as cold to me (like blocked me on Facebook) as to my Mom. We are both very sad at Thanksgiving and Christmas. So what should we do to get our minds off of the pain of this month and next? We are alone. I am 20 and she is 55.

So earlier this year, my mom did something I though was weird: she kissed me on the neck during a hug. I'm female btw. I didn't realize she had done it until after it happened and I confronted her and told her it made me uncomfortable and all she had to say was "I'm your mother." So yesterday I told her again that some of the things she does make me uncomfortable, like how she touches me (caresses my back or arms) and again she says "I'm your mother." I guess in her world it's okay to show affection to your kids that way but to me it seems inappropriate. I don't get how someone can ignore something so serious. I don't hug her anymore, basically I don't want to be near her. How can I resolve this without it getting heated?

Thankfully we sleep in separate rooms. After we fight she starts crying, yet before hand trears me like crap sometimes, like I should kiss her butt I live in her house. I pay the rent, we share expenses. I come home from work very tired, and she comes at me with all this stuff talking very fast and has all this extra energy. Or says put downs. So she spent all day making a turkey, then wanted me to go out and get potatoes. I said no I'm tired. So then I said I was very hungry, is there a plate ready? She snaps at me and starts yelling no it's not ready yet. So I started getting mad being talked to like that.  Plus she she started talking about all these remodeling plans. I said who's going to do all that work? I work full time. So I feel like she's bitchy like my mom. If I had money to move out, I would. I even brought home things for her. I feel like I'm the only one who cleans the house up too. Shes a slob and im.not attracted to her anymore. Shes too high strung. And I barely make enough money to get by. I feel like I was happier being single and I dont belong here anymore. I dont want anymore drama either.  What should I do?  She doesnt stop crying saying I dont love her. It's very depressing to be around.  Im.tired of her insecurity a d questioning my love all the time. She acts so immature.

I had bought a casket of soft drink cans and put about 12 in the fridge. I had work today and came home to find 5 of them missing. I pulled all 4 of my kids into the lounge room and was yelling at them all. I found 1 can in my 13 year old daughters room after she said she didnt have any, although i still havent found the others she swears she didnt take any more. How long would be fair of a grounding? What should the grounding consist of?

This is not just some typical teen relationship. You see, my dad fought for my custody from my mother when I was a baby because her son (my half brother) sexually abused me when I was 4 because she wasn't watching me. After that I lived with my dad and he was so stressed and angry. Then he married a woman now my step mom that has been with him since 2012. I live in a new home with my dad and stepmom. My stepmom was super cool until I was about 8. She had more kids with my dad and then her temper started to change. I am 14 now and my parents are very verbally abusive to me. I tend to accidently raise my voice and I am never happy because of them. They get mad at little things and they call me a c u n t and a c o c k s u c k e r, and they make my life miserable and for some reason I have to respect them after they are so terrible to me. What hurts me most is that my dad allows my stepmom to call me names and he encourages her to hit me. The thing is, I feel that they are overreacting. A little slap on the face is nothing but their punching me on the head threatening to kill me and angry words is too much for me. I hate my parents and often think of homicide and death and it is their fault. They are manipulative and their reasoning for their harshness is I have a "attitude problem" all because they thought with peripheral vision that I rolled my eyes. Not only that they use the excuse that I should be happy to live with them because I am under a roof

Ive hit a dead end. Finished college, got dismissed from grad school, moved back home and got really depressed.  Now Im 40, have a ton of student loan debt, and work a dreadful minimum wage job. Im embarrassed.  I want a satisfying career, my own place, and a family before its too late. Theres no way I could ever forgive myself if Im still a failure when my parents die

This kid is worthless. I literally hate him. That's horrible, but hear me out. This kid will walk up to you and just start punching you in your nuts. And all they say is "now, honey (likes he's a little girl) we know not to hit people there." Like NO! Spank that little punk's *** and make him apologize. Or we'll be standing there having a conversation and he'll come up and stand there staring at us. Then out of nowhere he'll force himself to cry. Not a word spoken. Then my sissy brother will rush to him and hold him like a little baby and go "what's wrong honey?" Wtf, tell that 7 year old to go sit down he's just doing it for attention. He's a thief too. If I leave my phone on the table and walk away, he'll snatch it up and hide it in his room. He's always asking for money. If you say no, he'll just continue to ask. Then my brother and his wife will sit there and let it go on. There's no discipline there, this kid is out of control. I know my brother and his wife are to blame partly. But it's so disgusting the way this kid acts. He's feminine. He's feminine. He's a sissy. He's boring. He's dumb for a 7 year old. During holidays while you're eating your food he'll jump on you and make you spill your food like it's funny. He'll pour his drink on you. He throws toys at you. I wish I could watch another kid beat him up. I for real can't stand the little fu*k. Last year I skipped the holidays because it they were hosting. Looks like a few of us will be skipping this year too. 

My baby's dad other baby's mom won't let him see the baby because she said that was wrong for laughing at her when he called her bitches. Is she wrong to do that? I mean that is HIS child too. 

She doesnt work. I do. We used to both have jobs. Anyway I come home from work very exausted shes too high strung, moody, gives me attitude, and is draining asking me to remodel. She cooked a Turkey today, but snapped at me when I asked about my plate that I was hungry when I came home. So later she starts slamming things and threw keys. Then after I'm still hungry and upset, she asks if I want a plate. After all that bs drama. I pay Bill's and chip in, but it's her house.