How many years is considered a long enough marriage for the couple and guests to not feel like they threw their money away?

Unlike a lot of males today who seem to be passive and passive aggressive. Perfect example is the mgtow males.  Men complaining that women dont approach them and initiate relationships. LMAO are you serious? "Why dont women chase us and pay 50/50? Why do women want a man who will provide for her? Golddigger!" Ridiculous.

Recently divorced. Have five kids ex husband has custody 300 days a year after he filed for a court hearing for child custody issues. We had an initial 50-50 agreement with a mediated divorce. 3 months later he filed to change custody agreement due to some neglect issues. My lawyer wasn't very well prepared for court and I loss. So now I am supposed to pay $1725 a month.  He makes 148,000 a year and I only make 65k a year. How is this fair? It is way too much money to pay. He earns 2x 's my income? The state uses a calculator to determine support not common sense...... Yes he makes almost 2.5 x's my income The state uses a calculator. So now I must work overtime and still cannot pay the full amount. all the overtime I work now means he can modify the support order next year for even more money. A man should support his kids and not ask his ex wife for money.

Hey! So my fiance and I are living a nice life with the kiddo. He is my "step" son but I love him with all of my soul and heart! He is also going to be a big brother soon, (he is 2) but really excited. My fiance, his ex (baby mama, we will call her Stacy), has recently found out. Back story, she left him and her son when the tyke was an infant. No warning. She got up and left, leaving him with debt and a baby. Now, she has had friends stalking us and sending her pictures. She is trying to get back into the kids life out of nowhere. And only now that she knows I am there. I have no problem if she wants to see her son. I'm just afraid she will try to take him since niether has full custody yet.  If he has proof she hasnt paid a thing, has not seen her son, and that he has been there raising him with a stable job and nice home, is he in the courts favor? I know many judges empathize with the mother more often. Just she has not shown any responsibility or care. And I dont want to lose my kid. 

I don't even know where to start with this.. My husband is 28 years old..when we first got together our sex life was good, but it slowly got less and less until eventually just nothing. I've asked the same thing about a million times asking what's wrong and why he doesn't want to.. he always says he doesn't know what's wrong.. he says he struggles to get an erection and always complains of being tired. He has been to the doctors numerous times regarding the issue after me making him go.. he then had a circumcision as he had complained about feeling sore, that hasn't changed anything. We have done Couples therapy, he has attended a therapist himself to try get to the route of the problem. Absolutely nothing has worked. I honestly don't know what to do. I always have thoughts about it being me that's the problem or even worse I sometimes question his sexuality.. I thought men were meant to want to have sex? I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has been through a similar situation?  I just don't know if love is enough anymore, I'm still young and I can't spend my life going on like this :( 

In the old days, marriage was the default, now a lot of people don't marry at all.

I never know what to say. Just "uh huh..." and nod.  He knows I believe in evolution and says he respects that and would never push me to believe in creationism. Yet he openly makes fun of people who believe in evolution in front of me, brings up creation stories in the Bible completely out of context. It's like he forgets I am not on his side of the spectrum.  To avoid conflict I just change the subject or act nonchalant.  / I don't bring up evolution with him.  Because I know he doesn't believe in it.  That's not a deal breaker for me. So why does he feel the need to bring up creationism and talk down about evolution and people who believe in it (um...me) in front of me? Next time he brings it up, and especially makes fun of people who believe in evolution, I am going to say something. But what?  Like I said, I want to avoid an argument.  This is not a question about who's right and who's wrong. It's a question asking how to best handle the awkwardness this is causing...

My wife's younger brother and his wife have invited my wife, my kids, and me to his home for Thanksgiving this year. I do not want to go to my wife s brother's home for Thanksgiving. The reason is that I find it very challenging to be aorund my wife's brother and his wife. He supposedly has ADD and as such, conversations with him can be difficult because he his jumping from topic to topic in a nanosecond. When he does manage to stay on a subject, he endlesssly pontificates on it. I find myself to be very tired when I talk to him. He and his wife think the world revolves around he and his wife and they convey it in every action and when they open their mouths. Sometimes they are oblivious to what is going on around them. For example, last Easter, we were having a Easter Egg hunt at my wife's parents house with his kids and our kids. My wife and I were helping out with our kids by helping to run the hunt along with my wife's sister. My wife's brother and his wife were taking an endless stream of selfies while the hunt was going on and were not helping out. My wife's brother also pontificates on parenting while his own children are running around whatever house they are in and wrecking the place. I am tired of his antics and I am too tired to deal with him. Should I go to his home for Thanksgiving and how should I broach this subject with my wife?

My husband has cheated on me , I found out about it. I was about to divorce him but I gave him another chance. So then he apologized and promised to never do it again. But now its been a year later and I strongly suspect hes cheating again. I haven't confronted him yet and I think its pointless to do so because he will just deny it. I have absolutely no faith in him anymore. Its been over 3 months since my suspicions have began and my heart is no longer with him. I don't love him anymore. But If I were to divorce right now, then I will also lose the luxurious lifestyle that I share with him. I'm planning on getting out there and searching for a bf. If the relationship works out, then I will be filing for divorce. I can support myself well, its just that I don't want to spend money renting an apartment since I live in a very expensive area NYC. I can save a whole lot of money not moving out, eating my husband's food. 

My fiancé (who I have dated for 3 years and began our relationship with financial issues) has currently been missing so many payments and does not tell me. I only found out because I found his mail. He has missed car payments, credit card payments, student loan payments, etc. I have always paid my portion of the bills and actually pay more out for our combined bill than he does even though I am a full time graduate student. He says I shouldn't judge him for struggling, but i don't know if I should get married to him with this being a constant issue and him lying about it all being fixed. We are in the process of buying a home I have to pay for because he has terrible credit. Any large financial burdens we have, fall specifically on me. Should I try to wait this out, or is it best to move on? Thank you!

My mom (43) is getting married to a guy close to my age (I'm 21. The guy she's marrying is 26). When they first started dating I thought it was just going to be a fling. I thought "maybe mom just needs some fun with some boy toy before she moves onto a real relationship'. However, the relationship has lasted almost 2 years. Nonetheless, even after the engagement I was pretty sure it was going to get broken off. However, yesterday my mom announced she's pregnant again (she wanted to get pregnant BTW in case that isn't clear). At this point I have to accept it's going to be permanent. I feel that this is super weird. The guy is pretty close to my age and he got my mom pregnant. I just don't get why she didn't get a guy her age. Furthermore, part of me worries this isn't going to work out. However, I can tell pretty easily that he does make my mom happy. My mom hasn't been in a relationship since she left my abusive father a little over a decade ago. Even though she never directly told me I could always tell she wanted to be in a relationship with a guy who treats her right. Despite being way young I can tell that he does make her happy. That makes me happy. I want to be happy for her, but I'm so weirded out that it's hard. How can I move past feeling super weird about this and feel happy for my mom? PS-For whatever it's worth he has a master's degree and a high paying job, so it's not like she's his sugar mama. Also, mom doesn't have any kids living at home with her.

My husband and I have been together for 12 years married for 10. He has left multiple times for other women and yes I keep taking him back unfortunately. He hasnt done it in 4 years but I have recently found out he has been talking to other women. We have 3 kids and when he would leave before our oldest would blame me I figured cause I was the one there to get the blame. I seen how devastated they were each time he would leave. I'm not happy and I have told him. I have threatened to leave but he does the whole I promise bullcrap so I stay to keep my kids from going through the heartbreak yet again. Especially when this time I'd be leaving and it would be my fault. He doesnt help with them and with anything at home at all and we both have full time jobs. I know our kids would be happier eventually seeing me happy but how do I do it and get through the rough spot that instantly follows? Our kids are 11 7 and 5. I dont know what to do to do. 

Look at this conversation with this guy... The part you don't see is he asked me if I like cuddling. 

Does the latter imply time is running out?

He have not been involved in my child life for 5 years.hes on child support he pay only when he want .hes behind on child support.he use to abuse me when I was with him.he also abused my daughter.i never report him I choose to move with my parent instead.he told me he never wanted her.i use to let his mom see my daughter.they record my daughter saying me and my husband beat her that isn't true.dcf was involved.now he want to take me to court.he have anger issues.i don't trust my daughter with him