They don't love me because I'm not sick and I'm not mentally ill and I don't live far away were they never get to see me. I can't move far away due to work and family obligations and I don't know how I would make myself sick or mentally ill purely for their love.

Today was a holiday and I was down during the day but generally social and I feel like I had a good day despite being down, is this allowed or does down mean it's a bad day? I am obsessed on this. Yesterday, Thanksgiving, was the same way. I know this will be an issue at Christmas.

I'm 29 and said I would keep an ion him and he is 19. Said I would keep an eye on him is what I meant to type. 

She has convinced her self that I choked her last summer. I grabbed her shoulder to tell her to grow the hell up but did not choke her. I can't figure out if she's mentally L and believes this or if she's just milking it and being a liar.

If one sibling is picking on another sibling, should you stay out of it or defend the one being picked on? Is it bad running off to side with your sister over your brother who didn't do anything wrong or should you just say it's between you two to make up? I think my sister was mean to my brother but I want to go to a party with her and not my brother even though she was wrong. Should I tell her to makeup with him first bf going to the party bc he didn't do anything wrong?She is just mad at him for no reason. 

Estranged and no longer speaking?

So I've just had my birthday and my dad said I'm now old enough to have a lock put on my door, I was really excited as it means my older sister and mum won't just walk in my room and look through my stuff and take things!  He's literally just put the lock on my door but it only locks from the outside! I said I want to be able to lock it when I'm in my room and he said I'm too young still maybe in a couple of years he will change it! So I've now got a lock on my bedroom door from the outside and my mum is keeping the spare key and I can't lock it when I go on a sleepover/ am away etc, so seriously what was the point in any of this?  I have no privacy and they don't trust me at all. 

Sometimes they would be jabs at me and make fun of my misgivings alot When ever i do the same, i am "disrespectful"  Yesterday at thanksgiving I told my sister to be quiet because i am trying to sleep She ignores me and keeps being loud After awhile of telling her, she begins to throw cheap candy at me with my other brothers and sisters but the kind of candy that are hard as a rock like jawbreakers etc She craked the screen on my laptop and shot my eye with full force with these hard *** candy's I wanted to hit her so bad but since i turned 18 this year she hides behind  "you cant hit me, i am a minor" I dont no what to do, i feel miserable

I am a 25 year old guy. My niece Doris 15 (my sister's daughter) is in some AP classes at her school. These classes involve a lot of hard homework. Sometimes when she needs help with her home work, she comes to my condo and I help her with her homework. If it is late when we get done with the homework, she stays all night with me and I take her to school the next morning. I always cook her a good breakfast before she goes to school. When she eats breakfast with me she wears a loose fitting robe and nothing else. Everything is visible. I am OK with that as I am NO WAY NO HOW into incest. However I think it is not an appropriate way for her to dress. If she does this with her other friends such as a sleep over, there might be a problem. Should I tell her mother how she is dressing or is it none of my business if it does not cause me a problem. Mothers I would really like your advice.

I am a 20 year old girl with a 42 year old single mom. My mom and I are very close. I have a great boyfriend Bob, my age. I had arranged a birthday party for my mom at a local restaurant. Many of mom's friends would be at her party. Bob was to pick me and my mom up and take us to the party. Bob was at my house waiting for me to come home when I called him that I had to work 2 extra hours. I asked Bob to take mom on and I would meet them there later and he did. At the party mom's friends ask her who Bob was. She jokingly said he was her date. Mom's friends thought it was great that she had a young date and Bob went along and played the part of her date. Mom loves to dance so Bob danced with her a lot. I did not know it but he is a great actor. When I got to the party, Bob clued me in on what was happening and since mom was so happy I went along. I had not seen her that happy in years. It was a wonderful experience for her. She said it made her feel young and alive again. At first I was not sure how I felt about what happened but seeing mom so happy took away all my concerns. She had given up so much for me, I was glad to share my boyfriend for one evening. Afterwards when I asked her if she enjoyed her birthday party, she said it was her best birthday party EVER. I think I have the best mom and boyfriend in the world. Please tell me if you think I am thinking straight.

Shes full.of health problems I dont always want to deal with when she refuses to see a doctor, get in shape, lose weight, stop eating sweets, stop smoking so much weed every day, clean up her room. She snaps at me if I ask her a question. I'm getting real sick of it as in wanting to move out. She quit her job for the hell of it, and I'm always broke barely making much at mine because she lives in the country and they dont pay much around here. I love her, but I feel like this isnt a good relationship. I definatly dont want to move back in with my mom who's even worse. I told my gf that I cant stand her messy room anymore and wont be putting up with her attitude anymore. Will she change? If she got into shape, was more tidy and less depressed and negative and high strung. I'd marry her even though she cant have kids. Still a part of me hates it here. Am I wrong to expect her to work too? I had more money when I was single. There's perks here though and a lot of fun and happy times.  We both talk about leaving this shitty town.

Hello, I am 21 years old and I just moved in my 46 year old boyfriend with me but me and my mother have always lived on our own. I pay most of the rent in the house and I decided to bring him in becuase he had nowhere else to go. They were kicking him out. Ever since he moved in she refuses to speak to me, take any food i make for her or even get out of her room and I do not know why! She really wants him to leave. She is religious (christian) and she says i am sinning for not being married to this man so she refuses to "participate in it". Please help how do i change her attitude towards this? it hurts so much. 

My baby's father/boyfriend wanted to be with his other toxic baby's mom on Thanksgiving. And this was AFTER she said she'll kill us both. (Even though he did say it to her first). But I feel he's wrong because she all ready burned my clothes up, said she slept with him in September....he said he hated her and that he's mad that she's his baby's mom. Isn't he's wrong? I feel like he's putting her needs before mine. He always run me around the city too for their child+he's staying with me while I'm pregnant with his child.  I hope I didn't make a mistake

I was diagnosed with autism at thirteen years old (February 2018). My mother, since then, has always blamed it for everything she sees as "wrong with me". Just the other day, she talked about how none of my friends really like me because they think I'm a "mental freak of nature" or think I'm mean because "being autistic, I am so rude to everyone and don't even realize it!" My friends are lovely. They are indubitably the best people I have met in my life. They are respectful, kind, willing to do lots for me, and loyal as f*ck if you really want to know. I would do the same for them in a heartbeat. I opened up to them and they assured me I'm an "amazingly awesome, pleasant & honest person with a warm & genuine heart", and the fact that I'm autistic is neither here nor there to them. My mother? Not having it. She told me about how my friends need to "stop ignoring my flaws" and how if they cared about me they would "start correcting me so I don't f*ck myself over". My problem isn't even with the fact that my mother doesn't like my friends. I decided long ago that my friends indeed had a much more "familial" relationship with me than my own mother did; genetic relation means nix to me when there's no respect and trust involved. Autistic or not, everyone deserves to be treated like a human being, not their disability and such. But that's just it, I have lost my individuality to my disability. How do I be me in the eyes of someone I have to live with for three more years? I'm a girl and I'm 15 by the way.

At 56 I have decided I cannot stand my brother and sisters continually hurting me. We came from a dysfunctional family. Anyone else walk away from your family? Why? Was your life better after moving on without them?

Family is dysfunctional, narcissism, abusive, and I felt like I'm going no where with them. I don't feel like saying my age because of my personal reason. I'm old enough as an adult. P.S. - I been abused by my Mother that's why I wanted to leave.

I was watching stranger things and I felt the envy watching the actors of my age (16yrs),I envy them mostly Millie Bobby Brown,I searched and found she earned 4 million from the show.They have everything money in millions,good life,they are watched by whole world,clothes,so many cars,big house,etc. Whereas I have nothing in comparison to them. I thought about this and cried.She is my age and doing so well whereas me I m doing nothing.If I become a engineer,then it take 5-6yrs for me to make 1 million which she makes in 1 season.I can never earn like her this makes me very sad.

How do I get revenge on my two siblings (bro and sis) for making me sit in middle seat for a 3 hour (6 hrs here and back) car ride in 2 days (I need answers quick) they laughed at me and are forcing me to sit in the uncomfortable middle seat because I'm small and they are giants

My sister is verbally abusive to me. My mother asked me not to come over to see all the family until after my sister was getting ready to leave. So I had to wait until 3:00 PM. When I got there my mother asked me to sit in the corner room with my cousin and grandfather (14 other people were in the main room) cause it would make my sister angry if I sit out in the main room. So I was screwed to please the one who is angry and makes scenes. My sister and I had a fight last summer. I have mentioned it on here before. We are adults and she flipped out cause we had to share a bathroom. She had previously flipped out on a trip last April cause she had to carry my toothpaste in her check on bag cause I could not carry it as a carry on. She is 26 years old (we were travelling with our Mom to a family wedding). The other incident was in late summer. I should have avoided going to our parents camp at the same time she was there. I did make the mistake of grabbing her by the shoulder when mad over her blocking the bathroom like we were little kids. At the time everyone said my sister was the one with the problem and I was fine. Now she is calling the shots of who can be at our parents when. Our Mom always caves to my sister cause she screams and yells so she gets her way whereas I am a people pleaser and so I say sorry and agree with everyone. Now my sister has her way. So come Christmas, how do I avoid being segregated to the corner room? How do I avoid this conflict My mother was trying to keep the peace to please her mother who she fears is going to be unhappy. So I am not faulting my Mom but my sister. However, I have to make a point. 

Ok so at the Thanksgiving table I have to seperate grandma's from my dad And mom side. It was grandma A's birthday recently and I wished her happy birthday on Facebook saying she was the best Grandma ever and I loved her. I don't say I love her very often in real life we just don't connect that way for some reason idk so I said it online. And my other grandma's family seen it on Facebook and they said how she was my favorite erc. Really embarrassing me and making me feel insanely bad. And they kept bringing it up. And how my other grandma' is my second favorite even though she isn't. And I am very embarrassed and cried like 5 times today because I think she is mad at me because she thinks I don't love her😭

I'm living with my dad for financial reason for awhile I'm 22 years old and he makes me feel like my life is already done to him I'm lazy never as good as my brother just sly insult after insult .it mostly happens anytime I don't do things his way he always wants to go with him places like I'm still 12 years old anytime my brother says no or do anytime it's always praised anytime good I do is never noticed or is always downplayed I feel like he's even turned people against me like family from his ways and he never stops talking he goes on and on .what should I do what would you guys do if you were in This situation I understand that I have to move out i am as SOON as I can I just think it's unfair he's giving me a hard time this is my grandparents house and he's never had to move out so I feel he shouldnt be doing this to me I guess he's been through it also

I want to set up a soccer team

if your parents asked if you did your homework and you replied "What's the point, will knowing any of this crap actually help me in real life" I doubt my future employer would care if I know history when I am only gonna get a minimum wage job anyway

I remember onetime when my sister and I were teenagers, she let me kiss her forehead. I kissed her forehead because her and my mom had been in an intense argument. I tried to calm her down so i thought a kiss would be a good idea. I'm her brother.  But then when my parents were around, she never  hugged or kissed me. 

As a kid with autism growing up, I didn't get along well with my brother because we didn't like each other. I didn't like his friends either because they were condescending douche bags who'd take some of the items we used to have and claim it as theiers. I also had a huge problem sharing my stuff because I thought sharing was stealing. (My intution was right.) My brother would demand me to hand over my DS so he coould play with it. He almost lost my Pearl version but thankfully I found it behind the bed crevice. He almost stole my DS but I've manage to get it back thankfully. He almost keep the Charizard that my sister demanded me to give to hiim, but I got it back by training it quickly so he could get it on his Pokedex. in FireRed. Thankfully I was that stubborn. My brother mostly keeps to himself these days but still treats us like crap. He doesn't even talk to us let alone hang out with us. My older sister wasn't any better. She would demand me to share my things with our younger sister even though I refused to share and called me selfish. I was afraid that they'll lose my things and claim some of it as thiers. It doesn't help I had a horrible temper back then due to my limited understanding of the world and had difficulty expressing my feelings in words in fear that people wouldn't understand me or emphatize with me. My older sister used to take my plushies and ride around oin her bike just to taunt me because I took the spotlight from her after I was born. She must've resented me growing up because I had auitism which took a great toll on the family. Don't get me wrong, counseling helped me cope with the world better and me and my older sister get along great these days. She lives with her fiancee and plans to get married. Me and my younger sister get along great too. These days I have to be careful who I trust these days because I had to give in to some of  my siblings growing up when I hit my mid to late teens. People outside my family had broken my trust too.

Only 15 minutes away and no phone calls, no messages, nothing. Like we don't exist. She hosted and cooked for them. She invited us, we didn't come but she didn't call, message, nothing.