My boyfriend flipped on his boss at his job and he chose to resign. He had a good union job of 20 plus years. My boss lost his cool on his because he and I were having an argument. He ended up leaving his apartment and moving to his family lives which is another country. I bought his ticket and did so much for him because I felt so guilty about the situation. Instead of being angry at him, I now miss him so much. He doesn't have a degree or a direction where he wants to go. He believes in gambling in the States would allow him to do well. I don't know how I could miss someone so much since he's gone. He now suggests that he lives with me and becomes my 'housewife'. We don't have any children. I don't see myself doing any better without him and I'm so happy now. But him living with me without a job terrifies me. I should be married at this point with a family. He doesn't want to be legally married but married in an alternative way. I am not sure what to do.

How should these people be dealt with? They are a menace, in my opinion.

What should I or we do I'm new to all this

I can't seem to ever catch a break in this world. No matter what I do I am damned if I do damned if I don't. Right now my wife is in another state 1000 miles away struggling I am here working. She's mad at me for some reason I don't know why right now and I'm sitting here in hell wondering what to do. It's her birthday soon and she won't talk to me so I can't send her anything or go see her so if I say nothing I'm worthless husband who did nothing for her birthday or if I do keep trying to talk to her since she's been ignoring me probably make her feel worse on her birthday which I just want to make special. No matter what I do I am always wrong. Why does life keep beating the living hell out of me no matter what I do??

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In my divorce agreement with my wife, when our divorce is finalized, I have sole authority of who remains in the house, and for how long. I have already told her I want her out on the day of the divorce being finalized, but she's saying a 30 day notice is required. So just in case there is, I told her over 30 days ago to be out, so she'll have a 30-day notice. Question is, if a 30-day notice is required, does the 30-day notice start day the divorce is finalized or does it start the day the agreement was signed about me having sole authority of the house?

I've been married to my husband for 11 years. He has a problem with chronic, constant lying. I just cannot trust anything he says and he always has a 'story' or a long-winded 'explanation' for everything. I'm so frustrated. He's a good man in every other way. He works hard and is kind...but he just lies all the time. I threatened divorce and it does not good. Does anyone have any advice for me? Please be kind. If you're just going to be sarcastic, don't bother. Thanks.

It makes me so angry. He has sleep apnea. He has a sleep machine but he refuses to wear it. The dr even fixed it so it would fit him properly. It's been years and he doesn't wear it. And I think it's because of this that he falls asleep all the time. It's getting to the point where I want to give him an ultimatum or take the kids to my parents and stay there with them until he starts wearing it. I'm starting to loathe him when he falls asleep. He's told my so many people including many doctors to wear it and it will help him not be tired during the day. He doesn't even work. He stays home and sleeps all freaking day. Today he fell asleep on the couch while I was making the kids breakfast and now he's sleeping during the middle of the day. Help me. What do I do. I'm so frustrated.

this has been going on since I was a kid, I also sneeze when sexual arroused, my wife finds it cute but I personally hate it, does anyone know the cause of this?

So my wife has gone from not going out much without each other to now going out very regular with her work colleagues. In the last 3 weeks she has been out at least once a week drinking. This last time we have now argued because she only went out last weekend and now she's out again tonight bearing in mind I've been at home with our child all day she comes home for 3 hours after work and goes out again and I'm at work all day tomorrow. She is constantly messaging these work colleagues. We are a same sex couple and she's told me previously that one of these work colleagues has had a fling with one of her best mates. How would this make you feel ? Am I just being paranoid ?

I need to know this please.

Why is there still so much pressure ???

She is married but SEPARATED. She says she really enjoys being deeply intimate with me and enjoys the colour contrast and the fact I'm younger. I am black and 35 years old. She is 45. Is this wrong ? I really enjoy it 😬

I used to send my ex child support but nothing court ordered and I would buy the kids all their clothes as well. She went through the courts and got much more which decimated my finances. I got myself fixed to avoid these situations in the future. But me and my new girl started fighting a lot because I was about to buy a house before the child support and had to start looking smaller houses. She hated it saying they were too small even though they had the same amount of rooms but the size of all the rooms and the yards were much smaller. So we broke up and I told her she should go meet a doctor. She said that was her plan until I came in and messed things up. I'm not a bum, I have a bachelor's degree and a good career but I pay a lot to child support. She doesn't work but is going to school for nursing so she says eventually she will make good money and wants to meet someone else that has money too. I tried to explain to her that my plan was to buy this small house so I can either get equity and once both my other kids turn 18 in about 13 years in use that equity as a down payment on another house, or keep it as a rental for extra income, or just pay it off and live debt free with no rent or mortgage so we can use that money to travel more but she wasn't having it. Her mom left her dad for a rich guy and I was hurt so I told her messed up things calling her a gold digger like her mom, etc. Now I feel kind of bad for going off on her.

We have been married for 10 years. We're both 31 and have 3 kids. My husband still wants to make out and hold each other after sex. He expect a kiss and a hug before he leave to work in the morning and after he gets home and when I forget.. he gets grumpy. He is such a kid. He wants me all the time and demand sex 3-4 times a day.. it's overwhelming. We have 3 kids. I don't have that kind of time to please him 3-4 times everyday. We fight about this everyday. I give him sex every single night but it's never enough. He said he can never get enough sex from me..the more he get it the more he want it so I tried not giving it so much to him but we'll just end up arguing all night. Why is my husband still so sexually attracted to me after 10 years? I'm not even that sexy.

Meaning you found out long after your already married.

I need help as to where I should go and what I should do when it comes to my divorce. I want to file but I don't know if it is the right time for me. we have two kids together, the relationship was toxic and he was financially taking advantage of me. He also cheated but denies it totally. we tried counseling but it is only for our kids now to help with our coparenting. Now I quit my job not long ago too. I can get help financially for the divorce but since I have my green card through him I am worried I might lose it. should I wait until I get the permanent one or should I file now? Living with him has become unbearable. he antagonizes me and tries to turn our kid against me. I am fed up with his behavior at this point. what do I do

I'm not good at picking up on things when it comes to people, reading them, so that's why I ask this, and I might sound like a moron, but please bear with me. So I have started hooking up with a woman I have known since I was a boy. She is a very kind and all that, very easy to talk to, and alike. We talk to each other about what's going on in our lives, and the problems we have. Anyway, this woman, the one in question, is married, but her and her husband are separated and getting a divorce. Her husband has a girlfriend himself. Anyway, she has made me aware she is still sleeping with her soon to be ex-husband, and tells me: "I know that isn't something you want to hear." Last time she asked me if it would bother me if she met up with him later, and we had slept together that morning, and I told her it wouldn't. I have played it very cool in that respect, cuz I realize that that's her husband, even if they are separated and getting a divorce, and what they do until then is their business. I did ask her out of curiosity what this was, not because I am starting to fall for her or anything like that, I was just merely curious what this is exactly, cuz I have never been in this kind of situation before. She told me she's trying to keep from developing feelings until everything gets sorted out, but admitted she's infatuated with me. Whether or not that's true I don't know. But what gets me is why she is asking if whether or not I'm okay with the thought of them having sex?

Is it bad to have a sexual fantasy in my mind about a married woman? I didn't do anything to her. All I did was have a sexual fantasy about her in my mind and masturbated. Does that make me a bad person? I appreciate a serious answer. Thank you

Obviously if a person has gone though two divorces, they do not take marriage seriously, and/or have serious mental issues that prevents them from being a good husband or wife. Divorce causes a lot of pain and suffering for the people involved, and someone who just keeps going around getting into a marriage and then having the marriage end causes great stress to the person they marry. I think there should be a limit of two marriages max, and then after that you should be legally barred from getting married a third time, because the chances of that marriage working are slim to none, at this point it proves the person either doesnt know how to select a proper spouse, or they are incapable of being a good spouse themselves

If he really wasn't a good husband to you, abusive, but your children put him on a pedestal? They were little when he died so they would not have been aware of his treatment of me.

My husband calls me a psychopath, a stalker, and says I have depression problems and I need help. I give him a reason to say that sometimes because when we first got married, I did go thru his phone and deleted all his ex's photo. I realized I was way to jealous of a person. I did apologized and I stopped! It's been 2 years now. I don't look thru his phone anymore. I'm not that bad of a person, yet he keeps calling me names. I tell him I didn't like it but yet he doesn't stop. I'm really not that crazy.

Im 41 and shes 33. We've been together 12 years, married almost 7 and have a 3 year old son. Its not just sex, she doesnt like to kiss or make out, mess around or foreplay or nothing. We never were a high amount of sex couple but i would like sex a few times a month at least. The few times we have had sex shes been like hurry up and finish or things like that. Shes a really good person, responsible, hard working, intelligent, many good qualities but she doesn't like to clean the house, pick up after herself, pretty much doesnt like to do the chores around the house other than some cooking and loading the dishwasher. This stuff hasn t bothered me til recently but now all this has just built up in my head and I feel like separating. I just feel like we are really good friends or roommates because we do get along great but I have now fallen out of love with her and I dont want to break her heart, because she does love me and not be in my sons life full time. It almost feels like our love is like a family member and not a romance. I just dont know what to do but I cant take it anymore and I know for sure shes not cheating on me because we are around each other quite a bit, we used to work at the same place up until a couple months ago, so there could be a possibility now but this lack of sex has been going on for years. What to do??

My husband don't believe on spending money for the kids unless the shoes and clothes are torn. If it's not torn than it's still good, even if it's small and short. He expects all the children to eat whatever food we have in the fridge. He travels and usually home on weekends only. WE BOTH WORK and make decent money. I am 8 months pregnant and I'm on maternity leave, and my income isn't enough. It's hard getting money from him, but he usually gives it to me after saying lecturing me. I really really hate asking money from him period. Three of my children also have a biological mother, who doesn't come around much. Doesn't pay for child support, doesn't buy them shoes or clothes, not even birthday and Christmas gifts. The children comes to me when their shoes are torn and needed new clothes to wear. My husband do buys it sometimes, however the children talks to me more and rather asked me. I don't mind buying it for them because they are my kids too. I tried talking to him, but he keeps cutting me off by yelling at me. What should I do?