I started working at mcdonalds (fry station) just after christmas 2017 they only gave me a raise 1 time (may 2018 to 735/hr) Im 18 I was gonna go to a university but my mom never gave me her info for FAFSA so the deadline passed so Im going to a community college this year then transfer (the college has a payment plan) so they had me train a kid on fries I used to make around 250 biweekly then suddenly they cut my hours to where I make 175 (off sunday thru wednesday 5-9 thu 5-12 friday 430-11 saturday) my mom kicked me out (I was only a mile from my job at the time) so I live at my older sis apartment (6 miles from my job) she was in financial crisis so I had to help her with bc ss cut her check in half now I'm having trouble even getting to work bc of this I barely have bus or uber money my sis dont have a car and ppl at my job dont like taking me to work much less dropping me off so sometimes I end up walking 6 miles straight back to the apartment but my mom sometimes would let me stay at her house overnight I'm trying to get jobs closer to my sis apartment but I'm having issues rn im in a difficult hole I'm tired of being late I had to sacrifice my graduation money just to help pay last months rent I cant even save money my cousins are moving in soon so well get help but I really need to get another job And im tired of walking all the time and Im tired of getting rides from ppl bc I never have any money to pay them when they drop me off my mom keeps saying that I dont wanna work and blah blah blah Im trying to make a good future for me I feel like I really wanna leave to university despite student loans and no financial aid just to escape this drama and I really wanna quit but im trying to wait til I get hired elsewhere then quit but this is overwhelming also Im afraid my sis gonna kick me out

From when he was born, me and my wife have raised our son to be the best he can be but in his teen years, we started to notice that he always wanted to be with his friends and smoke pot. We were absolutely stunned and my parents were also devastated as they helped raise him too. Now that he has moved out going on two months now, I ve only visited him once. His lifestyle is completely different than the one we taught him and he goes against all our beliefs! He has rented a home with his buddies who used to come to our house frequently to hang out with my son and they were all smoking pot as happy as they can be when me and my wife visited. He almost seemed disappointed to see us and told us that he is now living the life he has always wanted to and any form of reassurance of his lifestyle will be considered annoyance and bothersome according to my son. What should I do? I feel I have failed as a parent.

He stopped loving me after the divorce I guess cause I was not good enough. What upsets me is his new baby and his girlfriend's kids are good enough but I'm not.

My 9 year old step daughter lives with me and her dad. She visits with her mom every other weekend, but we let her visit more in the summer. I am a nurse and when my stepdaughter gets hurt at her mom she text me to ask me what to do about it, for instance a couple weeks ago she got bit by something. Her mom has done nothing about it and she got scared because it was getting big. I told her what to do to make it stop hurting and told her no more scratching, while talking to her, her mom told her to get off the phone. today is her dr appointment; well child and shots. her mom wanted to take her so we agreed. Well my step daughter calls me today saying she is scared. I was trying to reassure her and got her calmed down. Her dad got on the phone to say he loved her, and her mom snatched the phone from her hand and right there in front of my stepdaughter goes off on how she never goes to her and she's tired, calls me a stupid ****, and says it none of my business. (Stepdaughter is sitting next to mom crying at this point saying she wants to go home). I hate how her mom is acting but am I overstepping my boundaries, she is with us most of the time so I'm so used to her reaching out. Should I back off and allow tell her to talk to her mom. I don't feel like this is the right thing to do and want her to feel she can always talk to me and that I will be there, but if I'm overstepping and should back off I would really want to know?

I know you are not suppose to hit girls but she is bgger than I am and is kind of a bully. We are going to 5th grade and I know she will start from day one.

The problem is that we live one town away from each other so avoiding him altogether is impossible because of family get togethers. Short of disowning my entire family, who I love, how do I move forward?

They tend to look down on people that don't go to college, they can't stand hearing about the Bible, they disliked it when their nephew joined the navy and assumed that he was going to quit his education, they think mothers should focus on their careers and don't have to care for their kids, they dislike their niece because she doesn't have a college degree and hasn't found her aptitude.

My dad is abusive. He abuses me verbally and physically.My grandmom is an enabler and she thinks i deserve it for whatever my imperfections are as a person.My dad even abuses my mom and says a lot vulgar things about her. So at one point i coudnt take it so i started retaliating with abusive language too. So whenener he abuses me i abuse his mom and say vulgar things because he abuses my mom.

I'm doing fine academically and well in sports and other extra curricular activities.My teachers and many other students really appreciate and like me and everything i do. They do keep saying that they are sure that i will do well in life. My dad and relatives keep cursing me and Taunting me always.In their eyes im not academically good. I'm actually good but there are people better than me in school.So that's why they feel like I'm good for nothing and that i can't do well in life. They keep saying stuff like go wash my car, you aren't worth being a toilet cleaner, who would hire you etc and they keep bullying me all time. They don't know what I'm doing in school and they don't know me so well so they can't see my good traits and even if they do they just ignore them and continue illtreating me.

My parents are forcing me to go to a community college and live at home because they don't have enough money to pay for a 4 year school. They say that community colleges aren't as expensive and i should go there. I feel like it's unfair because my potential is being limited by their bank account.

My mother takes care of me and though I am an adult I like it. She does my clothes, cooks, etc..... She likes it and I live with her which she says makes her secure. I also don't have to work and she said when she dies she has enough in the estate I won;t have to. I am 41 yeas old and though a guy have no sexual desires so I am fine being a kid for life. When she dies though how will I be taken care of? Are there places an adult who wants to be a child can go? I am a little embarrassed to ask so posting anonymous. My Mom's brother just died and so that is why I am thinking of it. I am an only child and never had a father.

I have a friend whose parents own a million dollar house. Her parents are loaded with cash and she still has some student loans. That's insane and bizarre.

My brother and i hate each other. It's a deep rooted dislike that we have since our childhood. He doesn't respect me as his older sibling, mainly because he suspects me as closet homosexual and i don't earn as much money as he is (we're 5 years apart, and most of my family and relatives also suspects me). I hate him for that and the fact that i am being discriminated against by my family for my sexual orientation. He's straight and about to wed soon. we haven't communicate at least 15 years despite in the last 5 years we're living in the same house (in our parents house, with our parents). I wanted so bad not to go to his upcoming wedding ceremony. I told my mom that i would not go. Why would i go to his wedding if he doesn't respect me and my gut is telling me not to go? It would be just awful for me watching him wed, while i'm sure that i wouldn't get the same ceremony (which paid for by our parents) and acceptance if i wed a man. My parents telling me to go just for the appearance that our family is a happy bunch (which is false), and for the photo op. They threatened me with lesser or loss of their financial support if i not going. I told my mom that if i get an invitation then i would go but she said that family don't get formal invitations because it's uncommon thing in my society. I need your best advice on how to deal or not to in my situation. Thank you in advance.

My coworker's 22 year old step daughter is pregnant and does not want the baby, my husband and I have talked about adopting it, what is the process for something like this? I understand the huge decision this would be. We have an 18-year-old son, we know what parenting entails.

My mother cooked pasta with tomato sauce every day.And beans.And pork once a week.I was a kid.They didnt let me eat cheese.Only a small piece.Why did they do this to me?

I judge this uncle of my mother's because of this and yet I have no idea if the accusation is even true. My grandmother said the accusation had no credibility to it and yet last week I heard a cousin of my mother's, a niece of the uncle's, say he would never leave her two children with him alone. Also my mother remembers his hand brushing her in a way that was very uncomfortable in her grandmother's pool. This uncle of my mother's is someone narcissistic and can be very rude with a bizarre sense of humor. So what do I do with the discomfort around him and the thought that he may be a pedophile when I have no clue if it is true or not? My mother often made up stuff when I was a kid based on suspicions she had and she told me this when I was a kid. When little I did not know him as he and my grandfather (brothers) were estranged but then they started talking again and we see him at the bi-annual reunion which was last weekend. He has dementia now so was only at the reunion for a few hours.

Ok sooo basically I live in indianapolis,IN. I am 17. And I live with my mother but I dont want too anymore. When her and my dad split a really long time ago she made him look like a really bad person too me. And as a young kid I hated my dad. I later found out that she is the one who is the evil just terrible person. I cant stand being around her. Shes one of those people that if you go out too eat with your worried that you got your food spit in. So the question is I want to move out and I want my dad too have custody, but at the same time I dont want too switch schools. So is there any way my dad can have custody and I can move in with my freind and freinds sister? Only because I dont want too move schools. I am just wondering because if my dad does this and lets me live with my freind and his sister I know my mom will complain and even take him back to court over it. So what should I do? P.S. I turn 18 in 4 months and I would just wait but recently things have gotten really bad around my moms house and I cant take it anymore. Thank you for the help in advance.

I have not seen them since last summer. I feel bad and I offered some Red Sox tickets if they wanted to join but they all have jobs and were busy. From there I don't want to impose. They will be going back to college soon and the one that lives local and is out of college is always busy and I haven't seen her in two years since the last wedding. I feel disloyal as I see the relatives on my dad's side a lot. These here are my mom's side which we don't see as often. Have I done wrong? Will they view me as disloyal? I worry about this kind of thing all the time. Like as an obsession. They see the other group of cousins in my mom's family a lot. I did see that group this summer. I feel guilty and sad, what do I do since I don't want to impose on them? I ask for advice on here because I don't want them to know that I think about it or I'll seem weird. Are cousins like a grandparent where we need to see them when we're in their town or they're in town? I wronged a grandparent when I was little due to my moms actions by not seeing him for a couple years due to my moms feelings. I later made up to him by seeing him a lot, sometimes I may have even gone overboard. I am careful with cousins and aunts-uncles to watch my social boundaries and not go overboard which is why I only reach out 2 or 3 times a year.

It has been ever since he got married in 2010. It is like they love him but can't stand his wife and not big on spending time with his two kids or his step-daughter. My mother especially. Why? Why would parents do this to a child? I remember my mother whining about his in-laws all through his wedding and they ended up being pretty nice (though the mother-in-law suffers from alcoholism so was non-social). My mother is this way to her own in-laws especially the wives of her two brothers.

So my 20 year old brother is living in my moms basement and he's unemployed so he's not contributing to any bills and literally never spends time with us. He graduated a while back and hasn't done anything with his life. I'm he "ran away" to another city when he was 18 and started living with a friend which got him into A LOT of debt and left my mom paying his $1000 phone bill and never told any of us. I really really don't trust him especially after all the stress and heartache he put my mom through ( he never apologized) He's here now and all he does is eat and sleep all day. My mom has tried to get him to get up and start going to community colleges to enroll so he can better his future or get a full time job so he can grow up but he's taken complete advantage of her. He brings his friends ( who do drugs) to our house when she's working night shifts and lets them shower and do their laundry here. if he were helping to contribute to the water bills maybe I'd be okay but he's not. Anyway I've had enough because he keeps bringing them and they stay late at night and make a lot of noise. I am thinking of telling my mom everything. For his age he needs to grow up and realize he can't depend on his mom for the rest of his life and he needs to find friends that will help him succeed. Am I being a ***** or unfair for wanting to tell my mom about the friend situation. I'm leaving for uni in the fall and I'm afraid it will continue once I'm gone.

I am not the niece, granddaughter, etc that anybody wants. I graduated from high school back in 2013, made some mistakes such as not finishing school, I have struggled with my weight, I have bad anxiety that most of my family probably doesn't understand about, and the ones who are highly educated think I am stupid. I got myself back into school but if I go into the radiology tech program I will want the best grades possible since the program takes 15 people out of so many applicants (100+). I already realize my mistakes such as the fact that I had to repeat a class and that is probably another reason why my family sees me as the black sheep or stupid. How do I strive to please them (especially those with at least a Bachelors)? I feel embarrassed and at least I realize my mistakes. I haven't found my aptitude's which is a horrible situation

It's not a big deal, I've done it plenty of times. I am absolutely disgusted and there was a video I saw years ago and it was a young man who had driven drunk and killed a person and he explains that even if it's only a block it's not worth the risk and he talked about having to face the victims family, it was really amazing. I want to show it to my friend to hopefully give him some sense but I can't seem to find the video, does anyone remember this video??

I got the kits last Christmas. We learned there was a mix up at the lab where I was conceived using IVF. It seems a doctor used his own sperm (not sure if by accident or on purpose). My question is will my Dad who raised me still count me as his own or could he now think less of me? I've been in shock all year about this. The DNA test showed relatives I could track down from the bio-father but I did not know him (he is deceased if he is who we think it is) and the bio-half-siblings would all be strangers to me. I am 26 and female.

I love music and twice my mom take my earphones away she said not good for my ears. But it is great stress reliever for me, so I think about buying new one.

I don't have custody of my child - mutual decision. My parent does. We have a visitation schedule and live about an hour apart, this is fine, it gives me time with my child and my parent a break. My issue is when my parent comes to visit (we live about an hour apart) and assumes that they can just leave my child with me if I'm not at work. Don't get me wrong, I spend a lot of time with my child when they visit. And I understand they are my child but at the same time I have my own life and routine apart from them. If my parent chooses to come down to where I live, they should assume they will be the caretaker unless otherwise arranged.

I remember a while back I think I was like around six, and my parents were fighting on day. My mom had cut herself on accident ig. I think she was distracted by the fussingredients and fighting. Ithe was just so much going on athe that moment . My brother and I was crying, parents were yelling. My mom had cheated on my dad. He had enough a that moment. He took away my mom s wedding ring. I am now 13 years old writing this. Parents are still together. But it s slowly getting to me. Their still fighting. Sometimes my dad will hit my mom or punch walls and put a whole in it. I am pretty sure I have anxiety but am not diagnosed. Every week my dad keeps saying he wants a divorce. And he thinks my mom won t make it on her own. I am concerned this will effect my future relationships and mental health. What should I do?

Ever since we were little (I'm the middle child), we would fight. But my little sister who's only 7 would always be physical and hurt me and my parents always grounded me. I used to think that was normal, that little siblings are allowed to hit the older one and that the older one must get in trouble for it. I thought even if I do nothing, I must not fight back. But then I saw my friends siblings; whoever laid the first finger there, regardless of who, gets the majority of blame. I was astonished. Then my brother. He's older and when we argue (he claims I don't give him attention), I always get the blame. I then thought that older brothers had priority over younger brothers, regardless of the problem. His claim, btw, is false because my sister watches TV all day, but since she's in the living room, and since I'm in my room, I'm a devil or something. He targets me over her, but she's the one who argues with our mom, who doesn't get disciplined, who verbally insults our relatives, who hits, and most importantly gets away with it. When any of us argue, my parents say "sorry but he's older" or "sorry but she's younger." Took me until the age of 13 (I'm 15 now) to realize how unfair that is. I'm not jealous, I don't care my parents don't like me, but is that normal? Does the middle child always get the worst end of the stick?

I m 26, and want to move out. I currently live with my mother, sister, and stepdad. They are all adults. They all have jobs. Also where we live is like government subsidized housing. The amount of bedrooms you are given depends on how many people are on the leasing agreement. For example she put the four of us on the lease, and thus got a four bedroom. Now this is the problem. If I move out she will have to remove me from her lease, and she will have to move. Everytime I mention moving she gets a bad attitude, and always says something negative. Now I get maybe she doesn t want me to leave parents can be like that, but I m 26 and I m ready to spread my wings. I feel like she is being selfish. I m not about to hold myself back because she doesn t want to move. This is crazy.

so my mom has an iMac (Early 2008) and when she was using it it randomely shut off and when i finally got it working it booted to the ? screen meaning the HDD failed, after a while it stopped turning on completely and smoke was coming out of the computer. she keeps screaming at me that she has years of family photos and videos on it and it needs to be FIXED NOW and i told her i cant do anything and its broken help

I have two younger brothers, one is 13 and one is 9 years old. Every single day my father yells at them, tells them how they're all screw ups and can never do anything right. If you do something on accident (like dropping a cup) he will flip out and yell at you. If you're in a bad mood, he'll yell at you for not being happy around him. Every single day its fighting, yelling, and arguing. But on the surface nothing looks wrong, because they come from a wealthy family, but that doesn't change the fact abuse is going on. My mother is also too scared to stop him, and lets him do what he wants. She's attracted to his abusive personality, because both my mom and dad come from abusive families and don't know that its wrong. Both of my younger brothers have mental health issues, one of them was cutting himself and was put on anti depressants, my 9 year old brother is also depressed and has very bad anxiety issues. I would report this to someone, but if I do, my dad will cut off all funding for my college, my car, and everything else. At that point id have to try surviving off of minimum wage without a car and no way to get to my job. Im in the process of moving out, when should I report this? Im worried both of my brothers could become suicidal (as ive struggled with suicide before).

my mom slapped me today 2 times because we had an argument. she found out that i won't be moving on to the 10th grade because i skipped too many days of summer school even though i skipped only 10 days total. i'm pissed that she laid her hands on me like that.

My little sister (she's 9) fights with me a lot (I'm a 16 yr old male). I've watched her grow up and grow in violence ever since birth. In school and with my parents she's a great actor and acts innocent. At the slightest issues, she hurts me, but only with her hands, feet, and teeth. I can't hit her back or I get grounded. Even when she comes into my room while I studied for all the AP tests I had, she argued and fought. I was stressed and on top of my school work, I was frowned upon by my parents. They essentially think my sister is an angel and that I'm a terrible person. You might think I'm jealous, but I'm really not, I honestly appreciate the lack of attention from my parents and I'm really accustomed to getting in trouble for no reason for years now, but at a certain point it gets annoying. I've been doing amazing in school, but really only so I can get into my dream school all the away in Europe. Anyway, my sister is annoying and no speech works. She thinks she's above everyone and doesn't take the blame for anything. I tell her that I'm older and need respect, but even my parents tease me for studying pretty much all day. That's ridiculous, considering there are kids doing terrible drugs and gettings STD's, but since I spend too much in my room studying and my sister gets angry and hits me I'm a bad person? I've tried recording her fits, but to no avail. What do I do? Disclaimer: I'm not in any physical danger, I just need help regarding my rebellious sibling.

Why can't the court order the fathers to pay more child support? A few hundred dollars a month can't support a child.

Ever night at dinner now that she has been home for the summer has turned into her ranting and raving about how evil men are. Meanwhile, I'm her (male) brother, and she also has another brother and my dad, are all just kind of looking at each other like wtf is going on. Like she says she wants to tear off all mens testicles and burn them all into hell and that men are all rapists and want to destroy and take advantage of women. Every single night. If my dad is watching the news and Donald Trump comes on TV, she starts screaming and hitting him to turn the tv off or else she is going to break the TV because she hates trump so much. All she does is watch these crazy socialist feminazi videos on youtube and takes frantic notes about the videos and posts on her social media twitter blog about feminism and weird cult like ideas. She has never had a boyfriend before and says she's only attracted to anime guys from cartoon shows and says "real guys are no match to anime guys" She's 21

I have not seen them since last summer. I feel bad and I offered some Red Sox tickets if they wanted to join but they all have jobs and were busy. From there I don't want to impose. They will be going back to college soon and the one that lives local and is out of college is always busy and I haven't seen her in two years since the last wedding. I feel disloyal as I see the relatives on my dad's side a lot. These here are my mom's side which we don't see as often. Have I done wrong? Will they view me as disloyal? I worry about this kind of thing all the time. Like as an obsession. They see the other group of cousins in my mom's family a lot. I did see that group this summer. I feel guilty and sad, what do I do since I don't want to impose on them? I ask for advice on here because I don't want them to know that I think about it or I'll seem weird. Are cousins like a grandparent where we need to see them when we're in their town or they're in town? I wronged a grandparent when I was little due to my moms actions by not seeing him for a couple years due to my moms feelings. I later made up to him by seeing him a lot, sometimes I may have even gone overboard

They maintain he is fine and their mother is the problem because she left him

She's a bully and I wish nothing but disease and misery for her. She was mean to me at our cousins wedding in June and I haven't talked her since. I'm hoping she has cancer so I won't have to see her again. Unfortunately my parents just saw her and didn't say anything about her being sick with cancer, darn.

My aunts allies are bothered that I'm helping the cause an out as they fear she will manipulate me to her evil ways. My cousin's Allies fear that the aunt is going to use me to get info out about everybody to her evil ways. Christmas was chaotic and bazaar last year and if my grandmother was not alive I would've just traveled alone. It has become a family disease like alcoholism. My cousin has borderline personality disorder and my aunt is a narcissis my aunts allies are bothered that I'm helping the cousin out as they fear she will manipulate me through her evil ways. My cousins allies fear that the aunt is going to use me to get info out about everybody to her evil ways. Christmas was chaotic and bizarre last year and if my grandmother was not alive I would've just traveled alone. It has become a family disease like alcoholism. My cousin has borderline personality disorder and my aunt is a narcissist. It has become the Civil War of my mother's family. How do I get everyone to mind their own business and just avoid participating in the heat talk? I'm the bad guy cause I'm nice to both sides instead of picking one side to hate. Also everyone denies hating for their in denial like an alcoholic. I know alcoholics families that are a hell of a lot healthier than my mom's family.

Hello. I am 37 years old. I feel most days that I want to die a natural death but not end my own life. I would never have the nerve to end my own life or do that to my family. However I would like to die young and be at peace with myself because I feel like I have lived a good enough and long enough life. A lot of people die naturally before age 40. Just read the obituaries. I just feel like I am existing and taking up space. So my question to you is: Do you think it is wrong to want to die a natural death before age 40? Thank you for your time?