I am in college and my dad still pays for books and gas and a few other things. I live with him and my stepmom and the general rule is that I do good in college and he continues to pay for my stuff. I try to take about 18+ credit hours a semester and I take classes in the summer. My dad has always been in the mindset that I don't need a job and I should focus on my school work and learning as much as possible. My step mom on the other hand, not so much. She's always been upset about the fact that my dad provides so much for me. And my dad asks me not to ask him for money when she's around. Why is she like this? Has anyone been in a similar position?

Is it bad to think this way? Me and my sister constantly talk about how we see my dad with a woman who's adventurous, athletic, and kind hearted.. and someone who's just..not my mom. My moms a vile woman. She's impatient, she's constantly nagging, spending all of the money to the point where I couldn't pay for my classes and we'd have to grocery shop at the dollar tree. She turns the house into a complete mess and then spends the whole day yelling at everyone to clean up after her. She cusses our anyone who tries to tell her something she doesn't agree on.. NOTHING PLEASES HER. My dad makes a solid 150k a year and she manages to make it all disappear with her spending. My dads a patient man, he's funny, he does marathons, he makes sure to do everything he can for me and my siblings.. my dad is just A GREAT DUDE. Everyone sees it too. Idk how do u even deal with feeling this emotion? I feel like it's just weird to tel my dad that he deserves better than my mom.. SHE BIRTHED ME! We all just hopes one day he'll just divorce her and finally be happy with someone. I WANT MY DAD TO HAVE A SOULMATE There's not really anything I can do..can I?

I've always wondered why people are harder on me than my siblings. People always give me a harder time than they do my siblings. It's annoying. It's exhausting. I wish it would just stop. People don't see potential in me or anything they just do this to bully me. I'm the sensitive one. My sister and brother are pretty strong. They fight back. I'm 22. My sister is 24 and my brother is 15.

In 2012 I bullied my sister over text, made a fake Facebook account of her and posted she should have aborted her son, and bullied her the whole time she stayed over for the summer. She eventually got in my face about it. I still didn't stop. I was 15 at the time. I'm 22 now. I've learned. I regret it. I never apologized. My other sister stole her clothes. She had to buy a whole new wardrobe. She never got in her face about it. She just called her. I don't understand why she's harder on me about what I did to her and not on my other sister for what she did to her. My sister is 24. The sister I bullied is in her 30s.

My brother started driving and mom is letting him use granddad's old car. He is bullying me when we go somewhere. He always makes me get in the car and put on my seatbelt and then closes me in and goes back into the house. He always leaves me in the car for several minutes before coming back out and getting in. I have tried going back into the house a few times and saying I forgot something like my purse or jewelry, but he always escorts me back out once I get it and then leaves me in even longer and tells mom I took off my seatbelt. I tried to tell him I do not like being left in there, but he tells me when moved a few months ago I should not have manipulated mom to always get the window seat in the Uhaul and then make him get in when I wanted to get in. I did it because he hated having to sit in the middle and wait in the Uhaul for mom and I wanted to sit by the window and liked making him uncomfortable. We were only in the Uhaul for a few days and he has been leaving me in the car for several weeks. I don't think it is fair for him to keep doing it. How can I get mom to understand what my brother is doing. She thinks he is just opening my door for me and then getting in as soon as he locks up the house. She thinks I am exaggerating things because she says I have to put on my seatbelt before he gets in. The car is always parked in the shade so I cannot use it being too hot as an excuse. I really want my brother to stop bullying me and leaving me in the car.

This is weird coming from a 32 year old woman but my mom and I are very close and she s currently out of town until September 7th. I m trying to tell myself things will be ok but I m going nuts not being able to see her. Does anyone have any kind words or advice?

2 years ago my stepfather died with Dementia.I was horrified to see my Mothers reaction.She was so happy! Stated she was going to spend his money and have a great time.I know caring for him was hard and he was quite a bit older.He did rescue her as a young girl with a child ( me) and she seems to have been living a false life for 40 years..I just feel disgust about her behavior and now that she has a new man she has told me that she is moving on and has new friends now..I am numb and dont know how to feel.Any one else experienced this? I dont know who my mother is any more.

My mom has breast cancer that has spread to her bones and brain and I heard my aunt talking on the phone saying she'll be doing hospice. I'm not ready for her to die because I'm only 19 and I'm the oldest of 4. She's been fighting this for 4 years and i don't understand how it spread so far. It's unfair because she won't get to watch my sisters graduate school and she won't be in any of our weddings. I've always dreamed of my kids having a loving grandma but it won't happen now. I'm jealous of my friends because they will still have a mom when they turn 40 and 50 and I won't have a mom anymore. I have a dad and I love him a lot and I'm grateful he's healthy but I'm not sure how he's gonna feel about her dying since they've been divorced. How do I cope ?

My sister I don't like in my other brother I just know it's a distance as we seldom see him. The two good ones I want to always like though so how do I make it so there's never a conflict? And if I ever decided to get close to the distant brother who lives on the East Coast how would I do it? Right now there's not much of a relationship with him. My sister I avoid like the plague less I see her at a family event and then I asked s my sister I don't like in my other brother I just know it a distance as we seldom see him. The two good ones I want to always like though so how do I make it so there's never a conflict? And if I ever decided to get close to the distant brother who lives on the East Coast how would I do it? Right now there's not much of a relationship with him. My sister I avoid like the plague unless I see her at a family event and then I act civil.

Like I was grounded from my cousins graduation because my aunt had had a fit that she wasn't invited and they were trying to keep peace for my grandmother. All of my moms family does this to their kids and uses them as a pawn, but now my dad even joins in.

so basically me and my husband went on vacation and we hired our usual babysitter and she was supposed to watch our baby over the weekend but when we got home she said she took my baby home because she wanted to keep it a little longer so we agreed but it's tuesday and the she still hasn't returned our baby, i told her we need it back but she said she's not giving it back and she wants it. this is a serious question

To be honest, it sickens me. It's not because I actually care about them that it bothers me but perhaps because of my ego. My heart isn't hurt, but my ego is. And it makes me sick to see so many suicidal people choosing to live for the sake of their families. I can't stand to see it. Just ugh.

They don't get physically aggressive but they get very lippy and very disrespectful and they even say hurtful things like throwing my past mistakes in my face (related to the issue or not, they just like to mud sling until they get their way). I get bossed around a lot by my wife and my oldest daughter (18) and I'm tired of these women "asking" me to do things only to have them not be grateful and not reciprocate.

Okay so heres the problem (and yes, i know my family is a wreck) My parents hate eachother. Grandparents from either side are awkward around one another. My dad split up with his partner Jen and while they were split up she slept with my dads sisters (linda) partner thomas, my dad and jen are back together. My dad and Linda dont get along now either. so i dont know how i am gonna be able to handle having all four of them in a room together. Linda doesnt like my mother and has made it know. I dont want to invite her but i really want to invite my uncle mark and his partner nancy and their daughter isla. Nancy doesnt like Jen because of her sleeping with thomas. Please help me... Would it be wrong of me to just have friends only at my weddding then have a bbq for each side of the family, not on my wedding day...

im a 15 year old guy, i exercise at least 5 times a week and i eat healthily and get at least 7 or 8 hours of sleep each day. but i'm still short! my mom's 4'11 and my dad's 5'2. i'm only 5'4, yet i'm a sophomore in high school. this is so embarrassing. considering that i'm half mexican from my mom's side, i'm also kind of fat, i weight about 130 lbs. how am i not growing taller or losing weight?

i'm a 16 year old guy, and i have two sisters, aged 14 and 11. i do much better in school than them, and i'm respectful and responsible and help out much more around the house than they do. when i get home from school, i do my homework and study, and then help my mom cook dinner and i always help clean up. but they always procrastinate and they always need to be nagged. but yet, my parents give my sisters much more freedom and they never control them. i don't even have my permit, because my parents don't trust me to drive. and i'm not allowed to have social media, go out with friends, or stay up past 10:30, while my sisters are allowed to do all that. occasionally my family discusses plans for the future. i say that i want to be a chemical engineer, but my parents berate and criticize me for my choice. they are obsessed with me being a doctor. on the other hand, one of my sisters wants to be a comic book artist, and my parents support her and signed her up for private art classes. i often feel like my parents don't even trust me. whenever i finish my chores or my homework, my mom usually doesn't believe me and she literally checks to make sure i completed everything. and im not allowed to empty my trash without my parents first looking through my trash. but my parents never do this to my sisters. i understand that they are younger, and they're girls, but that doesn't mean they deserve more freedom and trust. are my parents feminists or what?

I am an adult living on my own but at times like holidays my mother is going to want me to come and be miserable with her. On one hand it is selfish of me to act like "tough, I want to have fun for Christmas" on the other hand I don't want to be miserable year after year after year like my mother will. To my mother her parents deaths will be like losing a child. She has a dysfunctional thing in her family where she has felt responsible for her parents happiness since she reached late teens. If her mother is unhappy then my mother is unhappy. My parents used to have the biggest arguments if my Dad declined to attend something in my Mom's family cause it made my mother tremble in fear that her mother would be unhappy. For my birthday one year I was forbidden to do what I wanted cause my grandmother wanted us to come do her thing for my birthday. My mother is the parent to her parents. So back to their deaths I know my mother will fall apart like a parent losing a child to cancer. My Mom's siblings will move on as they are adult children but my Mom is still a child when with them. Her parents are now in their late 80's and death is creeping closer. When it happens how do I take care of myself instead of making myself responsible for my mother's happiness. Especially asking this for when holidays and family celebrations come around? Also when my Mom and her siblings fall apart in fights as they will and try to remain nice to all instead of backing Mom at all costs. My Mom is so much the parent that she even bought a house for her parents when it is supposed to be the child as an adult visits, not supplies the home for the parents. The exception of course being when a child moves into the parents house to take care of them which is normal I know.

my family's leaving for vacation tomorrow. due to limited beds in the hotel room, my mom will probably make me sleep with her. i'm a 15 yrs old guy, and this is really awkward. there appears to be no sofa bed or even sofa in the room. i want to suggest bringing my sleeping bag liner and sleep on the ground with a couple towels as padding, but i'm sure my mom will say no (please keep in mind that she's asian). it's really awkward and embarrassing to have sleep with my parents, so what do i do?

So my mom had cancer for 4 years and now it's getting out of control and she's going into hospice. The thing is I'm only 19 and I'm the oldest of 4 kids. I feel like I'm too young for her to die. I've always dreamed about my future children having a grandma to spoil them and we were supposed to go wedding dress shopping together. I'm just so upset. She won't even live to watch my sisters graduate high school ! It's just unfair plus she didn't get to accomplish some of her Goals.

My fostermom treats me like ****. It could be a lot worse but I've known this woman before being placed in her home for about 5 years and our relationship was fine. Now being placed inside the home she is very disrespectful to me,and even my little sister sometimes. She's always throwing slurs at me and belittling me whenever she has an opportunity. Leaves me outside because she's taken away the keys she once gave me. I've had to wait over an hour to get inside the house. At one point she didn't even allow me outside for three months other than work or school because I never apologized for something I did. When I did apologize services had already stepped in so she was forced to let me go outside, though she still hasn't. She degraded me sexually too, which is really uncomfortable and embarrassing because she'll accuse me of **** I never did. I just want to know how to get out because my workers don't do **** and she makes me wish I was never alive

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This is the one. My cousins have heard stories of me and other girls but no relative has ever seen me in a relationship. She's three years older than me. She's gorgeous. The only thing that might be a problem is she's asian I'm Latino so if my aunts speak Spanish it's weird but my cousin is with a white girl and I guess it's ok. But I love her. I'm gonna marry her and have kids with her

I have a friend of mine who seems like a genuine person but I notice she does ask a lot of questions about my family and I. We are both in college and she is close family friends with my closest cousin. I met her when we were pre-teens and randomly reunited when I saw her in college. We are also of the same ethnicity so we automatically clicked. She asks me questions while I never ask her questions about her family as I am not curious about others personal lives. She would ask me casual but frequent questions about my family and once she learned of my parents occupation (health practitioners) she grew even more inquisitive. Asking where they work, what occupation my older sibling does, how many siblings I have. She once FaceTimed me and asked where my younger sibling was, I didn't show her my sibling as I thought it was odd. She even asked me what my younger sibling likes to do for fun. Keep in mind I had never asked her a single question about her family. She checks my social media instantly when I post anything. I once posted a picture of me and my baby cousin who calls me "aunt" and my friend immediately asked if my sister has a baby. Or when I told her I had been to a particular city with my mom and she asked what we were doing there. Idk if I'm just more reserved or if I'm right about her being nosy like she's trying to figure something out about my family lol.

I'm 19, I can't drive for medical reasons and I've temporarily moved back in with my parents.. my parents and I were out earlier in the day and quite a few hours after we came home I wanted to go out and pick up some dinner due to a period craving I decided I needed take out, it's too far to walk but only a few minutes to drive and unfortunately no place will deliver to our house due to the location.. I'm terrified to ask my father for a ride because when I ask him for anything instead of saying no he just screams at me.. so I went to ask my mom (who doesn't drive) to ask my father to take me.. she was hesitant because she knows how he can be so I suggested that I try driving myself even though I'm not medically supposed to.. she said no and I started to cry.. not because she said no but because I feel the loss of independence.. she yelled at me and said I'm just a spoiled brat.. I'm really hurt, I've never asked them for any money or material possessions.. not for at least 7 years since I was working.. I always show as much appreciation as I can but I'm normally able to drive myself and now I can't.. I'm really offended that she would say that and I feel unwelcome here now..

My dad thinks I'm a horrible person and treats me like an animal. I'm 15, turning 16 on Aug 13. I've accidentally got children's services on us twice but they never believe what I say anyways they always stick by my dad and act like I'm a problematic ungrateful whiny brat. My dad talked about cutting my throat to my stepmom the other day just because I told my SISTER I was on probation. The reason I'm on probation is because I got drunk in January which I've paid for way too long and I get treated like a prisoner and get threatened and dehumanized everyday. He's so harsh and I just don't feel happy around here. Hes threatening to take me out of school and making me take a GED. There's so much more to it but I just want to know ways that I can not live here anymore where he can't do anything about it and without my little brother having to go too because he likes it here for whatever reason. It's literally so bad that my boyfriend for 3 years & I thought about getting me pregnant just to get me out. He's also mad because I got raped and told him about it months later because I knew he wouldn't believe me and I was right. I live in Tennessee if that has any significance.

I m a 14 year old girl and my dad literally took the door off the hinges because I just didnt want to do extra credit homework. I was wondering if this was child abuse?

Im 20 years old and succeeding in college, yet I feel bad about my past. At 17 my dad lost his job and my dad and mom use to fight nearly every day so I was always nervous. I wasted my time playing around or distracting myself than learning how to clean and improving myself. There were a million things I could do to spend my time but my mom was so negative and my parents always fighting. Everything is ok now but I wish I started good habits from before.

It was my birthday and my parents blindfolded me to surprise me with the cake, as I came down the hall my brother yells "here comes the big fat" then we sat on eat and my brother said "the big fat eats! The big fat gains! The big fat will whine about her weight agains!" Then as I was eating he was making pig sounds and saying "you shouldn't do that" "you'll have so many regrets" my mother doesn't do anything about it, she says "be nice he's only little" and he's only a year younger than me.. hes 13.. she doesn't care that it hurts me feelings because he's the youngest.. no father in the picture

As a kid my parents continuously let me down as a means of pleasing my maternal grandmother. I was hurt as a means of them pleasing her and me being the collateral damage. My Mom fears her mother like one fears death. My Dad fears my Mom like nothing else and so he fears her mother knowing he is in trouble with his wife if her mother is not pleased. My parents only had one screaming fight when I was a kid and it was cause my Dad had caused my Mom's mother (my grandmother) to be displeased as he took the dog to her pool with us against her commands (our grandmother's). Our grandmother was not mad or if she was she was discreet about it but our Mom was horrified. So because I come from this dysfunctional family I know fear my parents hurting me as a means of making sure my grandmother is happy. By hurting me I mean emotional hurt like refusing to celebrate a holiday with my Dad's side of the family cause it will displease my Mom's mother. How do I break this fear as now I fear my parents hurting me this way? The history of this is that my Mom's father who died when I was a toddler ruled with an iron fist. When he was mad the belt came off. He was never home as he was a workaholic and so when he did get home after dinnertime my grandmother would report how my Mom and her siblings had behaved that day. If it was not well then his belt came off. THUS, my Mom associates her mother being displeased with the terror of being beaten. Now 50 years later she still fears it.

In my culture we live with parents until we get married. I live in America and I notice some students they are 17 or 18 they live by themselves and work.My mom said I should be happy since I have less pressure Im living with parents. Is she right? Should I just focus on myself and college and be relieved Im staying with parents?

I got mad because every time I shower late when I was home all day and had time to shower she's like why didn't you shower earlier (basically because her boyfriend has more of he right to shower at night) and today he was here all day and didn't shower until I had to shower. I told her i wake up a lot earlier to go work then he does and she didn't care..so I slammed the door. I immediately felt bad. But she yelled at me that I better calm down. I apologized but she just proceeded to tell me that she's tired of me and I don't even know what else I've don't to her besides today's incident. I really haven't done anything. But I suppose I should move out or what? I'm only 20 but it seems like our relationship is toxic and I need to remove myself from here before it gets worse and she actually kicks me out. Any thoughts?

I get blamed for every little stupid thing. Its so hilarious to see how far her delusion takes her, when it isn't annoying as hell.

I visited my male doctor 3 times in the past few month. Yesterday after my check up he asked me what's going on? I told him I just get nervous around guys. I told him when other guys touch me I get nervous , he said what guys? I told him that my husband arranges me to have sex with his friends and other guys for money. He said that's not normal what I'm doing and it's not normal how I act. I start shaking non stop, my whole body shakes and my knee won't stop twitching to a point where it was banging to the bed. He said what my husband does isn't normal and he got a social worker to talk to me but I refused to get her help. I am muslim and the doc is Muslim as well, I thought he would think what my husband does is normal but he said it's not. The doctor told me ask anyone if it's normal to have fear and they will say no it's not normal. Did any of you guys ever shake and get nervous infront of a doctor? I think he was over reacting. Please don't tell me to leave my husband because he's a good father, he just has a gambling addiction that I want to help him overcome. Thanks for your answers!

My mom kept saying I must take care of myself or else my husband will look at other women. I thought like cheaters cheat no matter what.

I had a past friend from high school who was undocumented. She wasn't able to go to college despite getting in because she was undocumented and couldn't get any aid or loans. She ended up not going to college. Today, I just found today that she has a 3 year old child with her boyfriend. She graduated high school in 2015. This is shocking.

Long story short? Bad childhood. Physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive mother who I have fought with quite literally almost every. Single. Day. Abusive father who watched my mom best me and did nothing, is a very very racist, sexist, homophonic man that is actually crazy and you can't live with. Physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive brother who I have no relationship with and never talk to, even though he still lives in our house. Driven to anorexia by my own family, self harm, etc. Constantly bullied in school because my older popular brother spread rumors about me. I have a few friends but they get on my nerves. I'm 22 and never been in a relationship because I'm aromantic and asexual, and if you don't know what that means then look it up ITS REAL, and I never want to be in a relationship. I have no career goals. Basically what I'm trying to say is yes, I've had a bad past BUT it's the thought of my future that makes me want to quit. I'll never have a family. My friends are okay. I will never be in a relationship like everyone else. I don't have anything to LIVE for. No career, goals, people, nothing. And it's not like I can just "go find something to live for". I think of suicide everyday, but I stop short of method, and I don't want my parents to find me dead bc for some reason I would feel bad. I don't want to live, but I don't think I can actually bring myself to kill myself either. This sucks. Can someone just kill me and help me out

earlier when I was upstairs I heard my aunt talking on the phone and i heard her say the word hospice. I felt sad and concerned and I questioned my aunt that she looked sad and I told her i feel like she's hiding information about mom. she said she doesnt know any new info. Could my mom be dying ?

My daughter is 13 years old and surprisingly mature. I am pretty protective of her (maybe a little too protective of her), but I don t care. We have a hill in our backyard and she goes outside every Sunday to water the plants. I work on Sunday s. We have a hill and if you go down the hill there is some sagebrush and a little trail. She wants to go down there alone. It take only 1 minute to walk there and, since I have to work on Sundays I won t be home and her father works also on Sundays. If I were to let her go down there I would give her a mace and maybe a pocket knife and the keys to the house. Am I irresponsible if I were to let her out there on her own? It isn t even a fourth a mile away but, still. Should I let her do it? I will call her frequently and she knows what to do in an emergency. Hardly anyone walks down there so she would probably be alone! Am I a bad parent?

So my dad has been physically abusive to me in the past. He used to whoop me for forgetting to do the dishes, he used to yell in my face and once I said I would kill myself and he said suck it up. Once I started crying and he started to laugh at me. He's a very narcissistic person and I don't tell him anything because I don't trust him at all. I don't even feel comfortable calling him dad. I grew up with my mom and I went to my dads once a year for the summer. I'm bisexual but I haven't told him because he's homophobic and he also makes fun of the fact that I am dating a white guy/ that I like white guys. Everytime I'm even near him I get anxiety. Last time I saw him we got in a big argument because I wanted to go home as I was forced to stay at his house. I essentially told him that he's selfish and doesn't do anything for me or my siblings and I don't like him. He now wants to see me again but I don't want to at all. I would feel bad to say no, but I feel like I don't have a choice. What should I do. By the way I'm only 15

I am a family man and a devout traditional Catholic. My wife and I have 11 kids together and we are expecting our 12th this December. We are both happy and feel very blessed for God blessing us with many little blessings (children). I swear, the next person to say "You have your hands full" when we are out in public is going to be socked straight in to tomorrow! Our kids are a blessing. You morons are what I have my hands full of! Oh, and you're welcome for the Social Security and Medicare my kids are going to be earning for you. Also, I get the following RUDE questions all the time because of my large family. How are you able to afford all those kids? Why do you keep having kids? How are you going to be able to afford college for all of them? Why aren't you on birth control?" Or "Why don't one of you get "fixed"? Do you make your older kids babysit? Isn't it selfish/unfair to the other kids to keep having more kids? Do you keep having children so that you can get a big income tax return at the end of the year? Why do people ask such rude questions about my family??