My parents are more concerned about her safety because she looks like an 11 or 12 year old. From a stranger's perspective, she appears as if she's a very small child who has no adult supervision. My parents think that child predators will see her as an easy target. On the bus stop and at teenage parties, people who don't know her think she must be no older than 12 years old. They wonder why her parents are letting her out alone (because they assume she's a preteen). My sister notices that our parents are more cautious about letting her do things that 17 year olds do. Not only that, our parents also worry that she can't physically fight back or defend herself.

I moved into my parents vacation home 2 weeks ago. It's a dual living house. My son and I have the downstairs. My mom had an inside camera put inside the downstairs when my adult son lived there. She removed that last Tues when I ask her to remove it but this morning I just saw a new camera facing my stairs down to my front door. She also has a Ring camera on her front door. All the cameras go to her cellphone and save videos online. No security company monitors the cameras. Would you feel the cameras violate your privacy or make you feel weird?

Some parents force their 18 year olds to move out of the house, get a job, and fend for themselves just because the law says they can. They are 18. They are still KIDS.

My neice talks to her younger sister with degrading humor. She calls her names like crack whore, ****(er) ,( we all black), fat *** and etc I asked her one day why she called her younger sister a crack whore. she says " oh, thats how we play" very dismissive(like i shouldn't be asking her that type of question).. But her younger sister doesnt say things like that to her. I know.. She just shrugs it off with a innocent laugh.. i really dont like how she talks to her younger sister though.. I know im not her mother but there is a line where respect needs to be . Have anybody else experienced something similar? The oldest neice is 22 years old, her younger sister is 15 years old.

2 and a half years ago (2 days after Trump's inauguration, just to give perspective of how long ago), my grandma died after battling ovarian cancer for over 8 years (since before Obama got in). Her daughter, my aunt, has always been the type to live for herself without consequence. She's been divorced 5 times, she cheated on her second husband who is the father of her only biological child, and she has chosen to live off of the government for the past 15 years or so after a diagnosis of BPD, even though she has an MBA. For about the last third of 2016, we knew it was a matter of time until my grandma died. She was in a nursing home/rehab center for part of this time after a surgery, and then she had visiting hospice at her home until she died. During the time of the visiting hospice/death, my aunt lived with my grandma. My dad, my grandma's son, said that my grandma said at one point that if either my dad or my aunt wanted her house, to have the one who wants the house to pay the other sibling half of what it's worth. Being in the very fortunate financial position we are in, my parents only had my aunt pay us what the house was worth back in whatever year my grandparents bought it, which was $17k. After my aunt got it and moved in, she started making all these upgrades to the house. She put in full-house AC, got a bunch of kitchen rework done (expensive, designer cabinets, among other things), had the fuse box changed to a breaker box, had a window that was in a wall from when an extension was added on taken out, etc. We didn't think much of it, because my aunt is very eccentric and has more expensive taste, so we thought that was why she was making all these upgrades. A while after my grandma passed, my aunt said that she won't get married again because she doesn't want to lose my grandma's house. However, about a month or so ago, she met this guy and now they said they're getting married. At the end of every marriage, it's my aunt who decides to end it, not whatever guy she is married to. This guy she is marrying (supposedly in December) is pretty well-off financially, and his first wife died about 25 years ago from cancer. I feel bad for this guy because we think that my aunt never tells the guys she marries that she's been married however many times she was at whatever point, and what I think makes these guys assume she's been married once or twice is the fact she only has one biological kid. I feel even worse for this guy because of his first wife being dead, by where I imagine that anyone who loses the mother of their kids to a freak scenario (having cancer young) would probably have a fond memory of that person. So to go from someone like that, to someone like my aunt who can't keep it in her pants, that would degrade this guy and the memory of his dead wife. My aunt also said that she won't get out of the house what she put into it, which just makes me think she saw my grandma's house as just another investment property rather than something to keep in the family, which makes me mad, especially for how little my parents had my aunt give them for it. Also, I think this marriage degrades the memory of my grandma as well, because she raised my aunt to be better than how she acts. With being angry about this, but not directly tell this guy my aunt has been married 5 times, I looked up the Spanish translation of "She's been married 5 times", recorded the audio of it on my voice memos, burned that audio onto a disc (renaming it so it doesn't show my address in the title), and putting a message on it that says "For the ears of (guy's name) of (place he works) ONLY!!! (USE HEADPHONES)" with "Translate to English" on the back. Even if he ignores the instructions and listens to it with my aunt, it won't make an immediate confrontation, and hopefully he takes it to work to get it translated so he has time to think about it before he sees my aunt again. They're on vacation right now, so he hasn't seen it. I'm just wondering if I did the right thing, considering the circumstances.

regarding his sexuality, we accept him as who he is but he wants everybody in the extended family to know. Is there an explanation or part of his development as a young adult? 17. Thank you Sherry CO

Me and mom have always been close and since I was born she always been there for everything with me. Me and my husband recently conceived and I am now pregnant. I instantly told my mother and she was thrilled to hear the news and told the whole family quickly. She is always at the house helping ( not a bad thing but it is almost 24/7) and I can hardly breathe she is too protective over me. She tells me I cant drive or hang out with my friends and she is giving me all these parenting tips which I appreciate but she is just nagging me now. My fear is she will do this when the baby is born too and she will constantly be around the house and not let me and my husband figure it out for our own. She is telling me I need to be a stay at home mom and my plan is to to go back to work when they baby turns two. She is suffocating me and I feel like she doesnt trust me to handle it on my own. How do I tell her to stop in a polite way?

My pet bunny peed on a blanket on the couch last night. I put the blanket in the washing machine and hanged it to dry but my mom noticed first thing in the morning that it was missing and started asking questions about it. I avoided her questions and simply told her that I will bring it shortly and eventually said that I washed it, but she got mad that I was not giving her a straight answer to the tornado of interrogatory-like questions she unleashed. Now she refuses to speak to me for disrespecting her by not giving a straight answer. On the other hand, I feel she is unreasonable. Maybe I got a period stain on the blanket and was ashamed to admit it, I feel she shouldn't get mad if I refuse to give her every little detail. What should I do now? Should I apologize or should I just let her be until she gets over it?

Not emotionally or mentally, physically. He kicks, bites, punches, and sometimes makes me bleed. He's always hated me, and was very upset when i was born, but i really feel like he's taking it too far lately. He bruised my face, and my nose hurts terribly. My parents won't do much about it, so how can i get him so stop or at least not as much? edit: I'm homeschooled, so i can't get help of a teacher or nurse, and I really can't call the police. I don't own a phone, and my parents wouldn't let me borrow theirs without asking who I was going to call.

Me and her dad cut ties when she was born and I've been raising her on my own ever since. Recently she is starting to ask about her father I dont know how to answer but I say " I will tell you about when your a little older"I completely lost all contact with her dad and honestly dont give a damn about him he was emotionally abusive and only cared about himself and left us to fend for ourself. She is upset because all her other friends have father figures but not her and I wish I could fill that void for her but I may not be enough. I want to tell her but I know I would be lying telling her he was a great guy and I feel like my only option is too keep pushing her questions aside. She ask stuff like "Will you and daddy get back together" and "how was he like" I dont really have any good replies and my conscious is eating at me. Does anyone have any advice for this?

5'7, almost 19, male. As a kid everyone always made fun of me for being shorter, and my doctor said they could have done something when I was younger.. Why didn't my parents do anything!?? Obviously, I was young and didn't know about it, but they did. What the **** is wrong with them and why did they want my to suffer!??! David S, you're retarded and need to shut up. It's called HGH.

I'm 22 and ever since I was 15, I never went out in public with my parents. There's nothing wrong with them, I'm just embarrassed to be seen with them in public especially if it's someone I know. Whenever I go out in public, I either go alone or go with friends.

we are a vegan family and i noticed my 17 year old son has gained a lot of muscle so i asked him how he got so big and he told me it was because he stopped being vegan a few weeks ago how do i punish him for his animal cruelty?

Some parents stop financially supporting their children after they finish high school. That's not right. 18 year olds can't support themselves.

They yell at me even when they see my flops under table next to or below (but not on) my feet

even if they said i aggravate him/her? what should i do if my parents won't do anything or do much, like talk to them and noting else and then when it happens again they say things like there's noting else they can do...

They don't allow any of the stuff I have so I need to bring each thing to a separate place 1. Where should I put my iMac 2008 2. Where should I put my exotic pet tiger 3. Where should I put my child Lisa 4. Where should I put my laptop that works 5. Where should I put my dog 6. Where should I put my broken imac 2008???

I am sure I failed 2 subjects I did. Got 2 D's. I know she will be disappointed, mad, and severe strictly with me. How to from now tell her how sad and sorry I am. It's just that my brain works different from other's, I'm on risperdal and suffer from schitzo. She doesn't understand It is hard for me. I do not have a friend to ask this. Please give me an answer with big, descriptive words. Of what I just wrote, in a smart way.

It happened a while ago but I just found out that somebody I knew (a 16 year old girl) died in a car accident. It happened at 4 am at night. She was in a car with a bunch of friends. I feel like her parents are partially to blame for this.

Having a child like that is a lifetime commitment. They are not going to move out when they turn 22. Excuse me for not wanting to take care of a child for the next 50 years of my life.

Ok so my dad is sole provider of family he pays mom expenses and she usually drives him to work. This morning my mom went with dad to drive him to work she came back 10 minutes later and told me she is not driving my dad or me to school I better walk there or else she calls the authorities. My mom went to bed and locked the door. So I look up a taxi for dad, we calles it ans it drop me off to school and dad to work.

I feel so bad like I was not good enough for him either.

It is not that I am estranged, just not close. All the others got to be close but I am not cause they don't get along with my mother and they seem to associate me with her.

A 10 year old boy from my son's school has been sending him insulting and threatening emails on Gmail. If I were to sue, how much can I sue for?

I m 19, I got to college have a part time job but I still have to run my house. When I come home from both work and college. I ve to feed my sister, do the dishes and any other house chore. I normally wouldn t have a problem but my dad who is out of work since I was 8 just sits at home all day and doesn t do any chore. I come home from night shifts at work exhausted and still expected too clean the whole house. If not my dad starts an argument. My mam works all day and goes straight to be when shes home. When they re both in bed I m expecting to be their butler. Being called to get them this and that while I m doing my college work. Because of this I really dont see much of my friends or have any sort of social life or break from work, school or taking care of my family.

My dad asked me to drive to Germany with my mom for a dog exhibition(for 3days) which is very important to them, but they can t do it because dad is busy with work and can be fired if he decides to leave as he recently just arrived from a 1-week trip. I have an online business and I m about to launch my ad, and I ve been waiting for 2 weeks to do that. Also, it needs products to be sent as I m an eBay seller + it requires daily activity to not lose daily sales, answer questions, send updates on delivery & tracking, etc. Because I have a festival this weekend too there is a girl that might stay at my place and I would love to meet her as she lives 300km away. Now I have a decision to make, fulfill my own plans or help my family achieve theirs. Not sure what to do. Would love to get an opinion! Also only because I won't be at my place and available to my business partners for 3 days I lose instantly 50EUR

I was born in a foreign country where doctors, teachers classmate were all racists. I came home 3 times hit at the face and no one helped me not even the teachers. They lowered my grades on purpose so I wouldn't go to college. My family is completely screwed up, they mixed with the same christians that bullied me and now bullying me (again) for not being like them. I am tired of my life. I feel I am not understood, in the past I was treated like an animal, I have lots of traumas and don't live well. I never had family gathering in which I felt the warmth of a family (they were just happy about marrying locals and mocked me for being lower class), I miss my grandma which I saw very few times on summer holidays when I went back to my homeland in eastern europe. I miss my people and the life I could have had if I had lived there. A life without racism, mean people, with my face like god made it and not how my classmates hit me. I am just so sad, the first signs of this depression started at 13 when I spent the whole month crying in the bedroom. I never had friend nor a job because there's racism. Once I went to therapy for a while but the woman seemed to be more concerned about my mom not letting me date guys as a teenager (I couldn't fall for anyone as they were all mean and racist to me) than my classmates hitting me 3 times at elementary and middle school and the teachers did nothing. For the bullying she didn't seem so worried as for my mom wanting to protect me.

I know sounds crazy but I'm going crazy. I recently lost my big sister, she was 17 & ended up passing away at 18. In a few more months it'll be a year since her passing & its only getting worse. I was 13 while she got into an accident & she passed away a month before my birthday. she was the only person whom I could actually talk to & genuinely understand what I was going through & the only person who I felt always had my back through out any fight we were in. now that she's gone it feels like a part of me is gone, my head isn't in the right spot & I just need any way possible to get a sign from her or to somehow communicate with her. if anyone has any thing to help me it would be very much appreciated

My mother always has been a poor financial planner, especially when it came time to retire. She is living off social security and a small work pension barley making ends meet with no savings. Currently, I am in my senior year of college as a full time student. However, my mother can't afford her living expenses and I am stressing out because I may have to get a job full time to support her which will prolong obtaining my degree. I told my mother prior to retiring maybe she should wait until next year to retire because I will be done with college and can work full time to support her but she did not listen. My question is what should I do in this situation? Also, this has been putting a strain on our relationship, I use to be close to her but lately I get so irritated with her. I feel really bad and I wish I didn't have these ill feelings towards her.

My mother has been depending on me ever since I turned 18. She has lived with me and I pay all her expenses. And I'm a broke 23 year old struggling through college and working a waitressing job, it's very stressful. She has some things wrong with her like neuropathy in her hand, a bad hip, and a torn rotator cuff. She has a lot of meds she has to take. She also went to prison a few years back for a family thing. So it's real tough for her to get a job and she got denied disability. She's of sound mind, I want to help her get her life back on track, but having her depend on me for so long is draining. I don't want to live with my mom for the rest of my life. I know this sounds selfish and I am the least selfish person, but somethings got to give. I'm so depressed and burnt out and I can't do this anymore. I love her, but it's killing me.

I bought my own car 2 years ago and my parents have been paying my car insurance since then. I turn 22 in a few months. Is that too old?

I was thin until my early teen years I gain some weight. My mom uses to insult me and mock me for being overweight until I was 16 ( when I lost weight). Im thin now and mom is nice to me but Im always nervous, and Im always anxious. I don't know what to do and Im always panicking.

My father is apparently forcing me to attend my cousin's wedding, in which I have zero interest whatsoever. The date is December 21 but I really don't want to go. The wedding is in India but it just cringes me when I get to see unwanted relatives for no reason. These people want to try to hook me up with their kid or relative's kid. I know their intentions because they know that I'm an NRI thus they will gain automatic citizenship upon being married to me. I have nothing negative against India and I love the culture, it is just my cringey relatives whom I don't want to visit. Also, I live with my father as I'm studying for my PhD, however, the stipend I receive isn't enough from my graduate assistantship and the apartments I tried to look for are out of my budget to rent/purchase. I do work another job but that is also part-time. What should I do? He's forcing me when I don't want to go. He has threatened to stop my studies if I don't attend. My cousin already had a court marriage and everyone is criticizing for getting married on different dates when they could've married after a few days. I don't know how to convince my father as to why I don't want to attend. If it had been around Christmas/New Year's week, then I would've gladly tried to attend the wedding but it is on the 21st December. My father has been insulted by his brother when my cousin got engaged. My father still thinks that "it doesn't look good in the society if I don't attend my cousin's 2nd wedding."

My boyfriend keeps saying that he can't hear me, so I yell and shout. I'm tired of repeating my damn self. He blamed the hearing problem on the fan. He told me that he can't hear because the fan is on, and he doesn't want to turn it off so he can hear me. He started complaining about me yelling at him. I don't really care if he doesn't like it. He can turn the ******* fan off. I'm not going to keep repeating my ******* self

Me and my parents were at my cousin's birthday party so he thought nobody was home. We ended up coming home early and when I went upstairs, i saw him naked while changing. He saw me and quickly closed the door. I can't believe i saw that. I have been crying for the past 15 minutes. how do i calm myself down?

oap carers attend her house once a day but if mum gives them the slightest trouble(she may shout when alarmed from a siesta generally!)they abandon her jn her dirty underwear and leave her stair lift chair folded up which she is unable to fold back down for use on her own if im not there. I have been mums full time carer 3 years now & I appreciate how difficult a job it can be especially when your charge has mental difficulties. Ive rang the care agency head a few times to explain & ask if they could just give mum a little more time to respond before abandoning her until the next day. Today the carer barely gave mum a minute to respond but since mum was asleep & in pain she shouted out and the carer immediately left not giving me a chance to speak directly to her so I had to ring her agency again to explain. Tx 4 rapid repIy, I am her full time carer & get paid £9 a day for 35 hours weekly although, mum is considered high care needs (she should be & was getting 3 visits a day) but too much fuss or many different faces in the day stresses her overwhelming her senses Also its dignified she has a female to aid personal care/hygiene . She owns her own house & doesn't want to live her last in a care home away from life long neighbors/friends

She is my mother's half-sister. We are all trying to stay away from her but it is hard cause her mother praises her cause she is the only child from her 2nd marriage. She is all our grandmother talks about and yet we are trying to stay away from this uncontrollable narcissist who hurts people emotionally. She for example got mad and falsely accused my mother of having an emotional affair with an old boyfriend of hers from ages ago before she was even married.

I asked this earlier in weddings and everyone wrote "you again". I ask more then once to get a wide variety of answers. I won't ask again until at least September. I am asking here and will put in the family section this time. What do I do to prevent this and how do I prevent worrying about it for the next 9 months to a year or more? It is not like the wedding is tomorrow. What kinds of things do I do that will make her more likely to want to have me? I feel like if my siblings and I are the only ones excluded and the other cousins (my Mom has 4 other siblings and they all have kids) are all invited and my siblings and I are not then we are less then the others. I hate being in the category of the "group not real close". I have worked diligently to get close and some have reciprocated and others have not. As a kid we were not close cause my mother and her father were estranged for a time cause her father suffered from alcoholism and my mother held grudges. I want to be close to my Mom's family and it is a big hurt for me that some see us as distant and I assume "2nd rate". Others I am close to now and got close to the grandfather when I got to be a teen. So what do I do here? Again just answer if you have advise other then the words you again. I won't bring it up again until fall. Lili · Thank you for the full answer. Like I noted I will wait till September before asking about the wedding again. I do make the efforts here to reconnect. However, I am VERY careful not to impose or try too hard, that is why I come on here to strangers. I only reach out like 3 times a year. The 2nd rate thing doesn't mean I am a 2nd rate person, I just mean they see me as less of family then the others, my mother said when I was a kid they thought less of us. She was likely lying but it stings emotionally. I am in therapy for a number of things including this. I guess cause I am a female I am sensitive like this, I am careful about social boundaries though I promise. As a teen I slipped up some on that but am careful now at age 31. Pearl : That would be very rude. PS--- If you think you know me please type my name below so I know it is me you are thinking of. I am scared someone on here may know me in real life since I am female and on-line a lot. ONE LAST NOTE--- We all live in New England (Massachusetts) and up here big weddings are a big thing.

I am a single mom who works full time. I have decided to go back to school so I signed up for 2 classes at a community college. I'm scared that between work and classes, I won't have time to spend with my daughter. My biggest fear is that she will think of my babysitting mom as her 'mommy'. My mom works the night shift so she helps me babysit during the day. It's a big help.

I use to be thin until I was in my early teen years and my mom uses to insult me and we argue about my weight and we hit each other couple times. My mom says no man wants a fat woman. I lost weight at 16, and I'm 20 now and very thin. My mom state I look like straw and I need muscle. I did have a couple offers from men but I mean I don't understand why mom was so mean about the way I look. She values my beauty more than being smart or happy. It is important to take care of myself but why mom was so mean to me in the first place?

I'm 49 now and my parents are still married but my father sexually abused me when I was young should I tell her? I'm scared it will tear out family apart.

I am the youngest of four children. My mother raised all of us on her own for about thirty years total. She is in a relationship with a man who she is to marry later this year. Due to bullying, I've had to change high schools a total of five times. My mom is tired of it, she has decided to take me to get my GED instead of completing high school. My mom's fiance has spent more than two thousand dollars on tuition and tutoring for my education. My mom is out of work due to injury, she is unemployed. My mother's fiance is paying for all of our living expenses. I'm aware that this is a lot of pressure on her fiance, things that he isn't responsible for. My mother and I had an argument(we never argue because I've stopped voicing my opinion. It gets me nowhere). I yelled that her telling me about her relationship and her job situation has been stressful for me. It's added on to stress I'm already dealing with. I said I would rather get my diploma instead of the GED. She twisted my words around and wouldn't allow me to speak. I yelled, which led to more hostility. She said that I called her "illiterate", and "welfare bi**h", I never said these things. She said that I am disrespectful. She ended it by saying, "I feel the same way about y'all that you feel about me. Fu*k you and get a damn life." She said that her relationship may be ending due to her "baggage" She said that she's ready to live her life now. She said that she sees "done" with me. I'm now "cut-off" Any advice?

I am 16 and my younger sister is 14 and we still share a ridiculously tiny room (like it literally can't fit 2 beds that's how small) my 2 older siblings both have their own room and they are at least 2 or 3 times the size of the room we share ( I guess that's just how it ended up working out 🙄) so there is this empty room in our house but it has the front door where guests walk in (another sibling used to live there until they moved to a different room) and there's no door ( we used a curtain). I really want her to move in there because than I could have my own room. I would just move in there myself but I have troubles falling asleep and with people not too far from the room I could hear them. Also my animals love me and without a door that would be an issue. Anyways that's my problem how do I get her to move to that room?? I seriously need help we are fighting all the time, she's so messy and she steals my clothes and other stuff and lies about it all the time!! I'm so done sharing with her so pleaseeeeee help me!!!

I ve been a good kid my whole life. I ve always had good grades and do what I m told. My dad used to always let me go outside and hangout with my friends the years before last year. Im 13, and my body has been developing. As a teen girl, it s normal. But ever since I ve been getting more mature my dad won t let me go outside because "i can t be trusted" and often asks to see my phone. Keep in mind I haven t been grounded for a few years and the only bad thing I have done outside was go to McDonald s without permission. Also my dad had been bullying me lately and yelling at me and not my siblings. I m the youngest in my family, my sister being 16 and my brother being 14. My dad constantly spoils them and gets them a lot of cool things. He let me get 4 pieces of clothes for the new school year and said I spent $300 when my brother got a few weeks worth of clothes and apparently he didn t spend nearly as much as me, my brother went to the most expensive store and I went to average priced stores. My sister does online school so my parents made me share my clothes with her. Also my dad calls me fat when I m 110 pounds (and average weight for teen girls) and he says the only reason he s mean to me is because he "wants to prepare me when I get bullied at school" But I have never been bullied and I have tons of friends at school, not to mention my friends say I need to eat more because I m too skinny. I got depressed from my dad harassing me and says he can t trust me. Please help.

So I'm a minor and my family eats out all the time even when my stepdad left the habits didn't change. My stepdad couldn't cook and he was only off for 2 days a week and my mother works Friday, Saturday, and Sunday and she gets the week off and whenever I mention to her about cooking she says "Oh I can make this tomorrow" and then it gets pushed off everyday because she doesn't feel like cooking. All we have in our pantry's are junk food and soda in the fridge the only thing that is healthy is oatmeal and she picks up strawberries once in awhile and I'm not one to eat out everyday like my family does. I know my mother isn't obligated to cook and I appreciate that she cleans the house and works to provide food and a house for us but it'd be nice if she cooked at least 1-3 times a month. I would go out and get the stuff myself to cook but I'm not old enough to drive by myself and when I ask my mother if she could pick this up or if I could go with her to get it she says "Sure lets go later today or tomorrow" but that day doesn't come and she goes to the store when I'm not here or if I'm asleep. Money isn't a problem and it would be nice if I could have something other than oatmeal or eggs everyday but I don't know how to convince my mother to cook once in awhile or to even get stuff to cook with so I'm not always hungry I know I should just stop whining and eat what she provides me with but eating out almost everyday doesn't make me feel very well and I tried explaining that. What I mean by "go out to eat" is fast food and usually my brother picks it up and he doesn't like to drop me off at places. I would walk there myself but it would take more than 3 hours to get there and back because it's so far and my mothers a nurse so she would never let me go out in 100 degree heat.