My sister is 19 and still acts like that. I am about ready to kick her out of my apartment like my parents did to her.

Well, I have basically been living with friends/on my own for 8ish years now. I turn 26 this year. About 6 months ago my fiancé and I got into a financial rut, I became pregnant, and asked my mom if we could stay with her and my grandmother who she also lives with. We slept on a blow up mattress for a few months, and then my little brother joined the army and gave us his room. She always makes "jokes" now about how I'm never allowed to move out, that I am going to stay living here forever.. even though my fiancé, me, and my new daughter would have to all share a single room. But recently my fiancé and I found out we might be getting a huge financial break and will be able to get our own place to raise our little girl. We are extremely excited about this, but my mother doesn't seem to happy for us. She kind of makes it about her. And how "she doesn't know what she's gonna do" "she will need help with nana" Need I remind you my mother has never lived without at least one of her children, and my older brother is almost 30. So for the last 30 years she has ALWAYS had one of her kids living with her. She genuinely would be happy if I lived with her and never EVER moved out. She has mentioned this nonchalantly many times. I think in part she thinks this way because it is essentially what she has chose to do with her mother, so I think she expects that I would do the same for her. Any advice on how to let go of my codependent mother is very appreciative.

I have certain relatives that think I am too stupid and they assume that because I have failed at stuff in the past (it was my laziness and not abilities. I have learned but I am not good enough for my family. How do I either cope with this or try to be well organized, well disciplined, etc to make them happy? It is the highly educated ones who think I'm stupid FYI.

You can't bring your baby on campus, their daycares are expensive, and their family housing are twice the cost of a dorm room which usually only married students can afford.

She hates me and acts like she is better then me but she follows me on social media. Is it best to delete her

Despite my efforts to get close they all see me as less clothes than them since my mom kept me away as a little kid. I feel so rejected, sometimes I wish I could just die. Nobody is mean to me and her family, it is just that they exclude us because they don't like my mom. All my cousins must think so much less of me even though I think my mom siblings know and I'm a decent person.

They are always with my parents so in order to see my parents I sometimes have to see these two disgusting women there with all the time. Well they are not as bad as the gym guy that my mom is addicted to hell they're still pretty bad. Will I ever see my mom and dad again?

im 13 and am having issues with my mum. I don't even shout at her or be rude I just slight raise my tone and voice to say something so she understands but she gets mad for no reason. when I give opinions on anything like on doing something she thinks I force her or something and when shes wrong about something I tell her and she says I argue. I am working hard on school and many things but she says I wanna see some improvement in you even tho I am.

I have a sister who married two years ago and my mother praises her husband. I have two brothers who are married and she insults their wives regularly and is down right cruel to one. My other sister is autistic and because of her condition likely won't marry. Then there is me. I am last in line. What do I do knowing my Mom will dislike my wife unless she is truly perfect. It is not that she envies time my brother's spend with their in-laws, I thought that would be the issue cause my grandmother was like that on holidays. It is insults about them and their manners. My Mom has always been unfair to her brothers wives and to my Dad's family and my step-father's family. She has always had a weird in-law thing. Her paternal grandmother was legend to be the same way (died before I was born).

This weekend he is the Caribbean with my sister and her family. He goes regularly to visit my brother in New York and his step-son in California. He went to Ireland last summer with my other brother. Farthest he has been with me is 1 hour away to White Plains for a relatives funeral and then lectured me on my weight (the relative died of a heart attack at 71). How do I move on with this? He did want me to join him and my brother and step-brother on a trip two years ago but like usual he lied and talked up the trip and then didn't go two years in a row (it was a ski trip).

her a psycho republican and forget about it? Housing is expensive so I live with my mom. My sister seems to live under the delusion that I don't work, because if I worked I'd be rich like she is.

My father loves to fight over just about everything, he'll start a fight over the smallest things and almost tries to antagonize me.. he'll yell at me for hours, but if I raise my voice in the slightest out of frustration he threatens me.. I don't intentionally raise my voice and I always try to avoid fights but he constantly looks for them.. my father wasn't around when I was young but recently he's become disabled so he's staying here too, I rent from grandparents. My father has been somewhat violent with me before, hes literally pushed me into a corner of a room violently screaming in my face and ended up punching though the wall right beside my head.. I don't think he was aiming for me head, it was to scare.. but he fought with me earlier because I couldnt find hard candy at the gas station and threatened to hit me over it because I raised my voice after he had screamed at me for over an hour.. I'm agraid of him, afraid to talk to him, or ask him things.. he says he can't control his anger due to ptsd but I'm starting to think that's just an excuse.. I cry every time he yells.. I'm not a fighting type of person, high anxiety, shy, no friends by choice.. I just don't know how to handle living in the same house as him, I can't move right now.

My mom's weird. The whole world could be falling and she wouldn't even flinch. But if I move and my bed makes noise or if a bird passes flying she would immediately say what? and then she would wake up completely and call me and say what's going on and get paranoid and I'm tired of it. Wtf is this? She's so noisy at night it's not even funny.

For example I'm trying hard to get a job and it's such a huge struggle because I don't have no money for auto insurance or gas to get to interviews. No funds to get a cell phone so I can get interviews and to check emails and use the gps. No funds to buy clothes. I pretty much live like a homeless person... my family says they won't help someone who can't help themselves. And if I want money I have to borrow it but I have to pay it all back which will burry me in debt. Is this normal for your parents or grandparents to act this way The free government phones are useless and are not reliable. Most the time no service. They won't even help me so I can have good clothes. I know people who have people they can fall back on when they have no job and they help them tell they get a job and they don't got to pay a penny back unless you offer to. So why are my family like this. How do they expect me to help myself when I it takes money in order to get a job I'm not addicted to anything I'm just trying to get a job but nobody helps me with $5 or $10 or a cell phone to help get a job that will actually work plus clothes. I have no income I paid for everything myself I lost my job and having a hard time getting a new job. They never helped me I always had to pay my own way.... The only thing my family helped me by money was when I was in high school. I have worked since I been out of school. I have not had it easy. I paid for my gas,food,clothes,insurance,items I wanted,rent,phones. I didn't have a phone in school. What part of I lost my job doesn't nobody understand. I apply at tons of jobs a day. All my life if I wanted money I had to do something in exchange for it. What I'm saying is it normal when your family won't help you with gas,phone bill and insurance?

I created a group chat that consisted of my boyfriend, his siblings, nephew, and his mom. I invited everyone out for my birthday. It s for an event that requires ticket purchases and I privately messaged my boyfriend s mom asking if she knew of any Groupon discounts. I gave her my head count for the party and she tells me one person she invited is still pending. I wasn t aware she had invited someone and that person is my boyfriend s 40 year old alcoholic cousin. I politely told her I didn t feel comfortable with him attending my birthday party. She basically put her foot down that she has to extend the invitation to him and he s to be invited to all family events. But this isn t a family event. It s my birthday party. And this particular guy always gets drunk and pisses everyone around him off and I m just not having that on my day. So if it comes down to "all of us or nobody", I d honestly rather cancel the whole group thing and go with just my boyfriend and our daughter. Even though I really did want his mom and siblings to come, it s not worth the alcoholic cousin drama. In just curious, am I being rude in this scenario or is my boyfriend s mom out of line?

I get so upset at these comments, I feel like crying. Are those people out of line, or am I too sensitive?

I love my son very much and I think we're pretty close, but sometimes he just says the most thoughtlessly hurtful things. He's home visiting from college right now, and has been running errands for me while I'm at work. I think he must be getting bored, but when I told him I was going to work from home the other day he looked at me and said, "No, you should go to work." I was going to work from home to hang out with him and he knows that, and now my feelings are hurt. He would rather run my errands and sit in our house by himself than spend time with his mother who loves him. Could someone tell me if this is normal and I'm overreacting?

My mom and my dad have been apart for some time now, and ever since my mom has been dating a guy I never met. I am moving out so he is going to move into the old apartment soon. Even though I support her decision and have told her, I am still apprehensive. Recently I got her to tell some backstory about the relationship, but she still won't tell that to the rest of the family who are wary of him because she says it's "below her" to justify. I believe if she just explained all the misconceptions, everything would be much smoother. How should I react in this situation?

If you were a mom of a grown man and you went looking for him in your big house because he was drunk and you didn't want him to drive home, what would you think if you saw your adult niece leave the dark foyer and then you go into the dark foyer and find your son there? Also, if you were the cousin of these two people, what would you think if you realized your cousins were in the dark foyer alone together? What would you think was going on?

We've been together for almost five years he's never done anything like this before now.. his mom died a few days after Christmas after that he turned into a violent person.. about a month before he hit me he got really drunk and punched a hole in my door.. then one day we were arguing like REALLY arguing bad, I said some pretty ****** up things and he started punching me like to the point where I had a busted lip and everything.. he's never done any of this in the whole five years.. it's like his mother dying changed him and they weren't even really that close (still his mother nonetheless).. I mean in three weeks I'm about to start medical school and become an ER doctor eventually (with the help of my mom with my daughter).. I mean that's my child's father and he's never done anything like this before his mother's death.. should j leave him forever and just start a new life in medical school?

I grew up in a family of 8 children where I was the only one to go to college and start a small business. My father is really proud of me but sometimes it can be overwhelming. For example, in family gatherings he offers me a lot of beer and I am trying to cut back when I say no they get mad. He also chases me when he sees me he yells at me and says how is your business going? Are you making millions? Can I work for you? Can you make me a business partner? He also shows up to my house and is in my front door when I show up. I find this behavior quite odd and abnormal?what do you call this?

Me and my fiance are both 27yrs old and been together 4years. My parents keep annoying me about kids and finally getting married. They know the plans we have but me losing my job set us back. We never were going to a fancy wedding we were just going to go down to city hall but wanted nice rings. My parents keep saying your not having a big wedding so why do you keep waiting why? Why ? Why whyy!!! Same for kids my sister whos younger than me just got pregnant and im not the type of person that shows much emotions so theyre like are you upset shes pregnant? Is it bothering you? ITS JUST SO ANNOYING ohh youre almost 30 time is ticking its going to be harder the longer you wait and blah blah. They know our plans of trying to save for a house and saving for weddings rings but they continue to nag and now that my sisters pregnant they think it bothers me ! Im fed up with it

i need money for a computer for school and i have an early 2008 iMac with a failed hard drive and power supply, a burned out graphics card, a jammed broken optical drive, and a broken CPU fan. i want to sell it for 599$ because it's old and i won't say it's broken on the page so people will purchase it

Not talking about people with 10 percent native american or whatever... But real mixed people with parents of two totally different races. Lots of people of both races dont like you because youre not totally that race...then the other side feels the same way (many people are racist...just being realistic). So how do you identify with a race... Read the question. Both sides dont generally accept you. You cant force one side to

Almost every time I come to my mom for advice she will refer me to someone else she thinks can help me better. When I politely tell her I don't feel comfortable talking to them about my personal issues. She will freak out! For instance today, when I told her about some health problems I have been having. She wanted me to speak to my aunt who is a nurse. Problem is I don't want her to know about my health issue because it's personal. My mom responded by telling me "Well fine just suffer." And hung up in my face. WTF?? I don't mind her asking me to talk to someone else, but when I politely tell you I don't feel comfortable, why can't she respect that? And please understand if this happened once or twice I wouldn't think it was a big deal. But she does this almost every time I come to her for advice on ANYTHING. She's always telling me to tell other people personal things about my life that I don't want them to know. I'm getting to the point where I'm not going to come to her for advice anymore or tell her anything. I guess I would just like to know should I stop coming to her for advice? Am I wrong for not wanting to talk to other people about personal issues every time I have a problem?

I grew up in a family not my core but my cousins are quite competitive. For example, my guy cousin has always avoided me growing up he always pushed me on the side. Yet, when I started dating a girl he wanted to be with he comes around more. He wears suits to family parties. I find that quite sketchy. What do you think of this is your family competitive?

I have a friend who is in her 30's, single no kids. She has been living with her parents pretty much most of her life, I think she moved out once for about a year. She works full time etc and is looking at houses. Anyway she had some sort of argument with her dad when she was 15, he hit her and she's literally not spoke to him since despite living in the same house. She speaks to her mum. Her dad did call her names etc when she was in her teens and 20's. She says that although her dad still calls her she doesn't hold a grudge, that the issue is she just can't bring herself to talk out of embarrassment and the years just went by. I'l go round to her house and I know she clearly doesn't talk to him. How is this possible though? Living in the same house at someone but not talking. Is she strange?

mistakes.They also cant hear me.I have to speak loudly and clear.Why?Are they deaf?

I was arguing with my brother who is a racist Libertarian when he told me that the liberal dove Hillary was a racist and he posted a Youtube video where she was calling young black men super predators! I responded like any good socialist would, that I would rape and kill both him and his children and his wife, then I reported the video to Facebook and the liberal doves at Facebook put my brother in Facebook jail quickly, but much to my horror I woke up this morning to being in Facebook jail just for defending my liberal dove Hillary! How can this be a free country when I can't even threaten the lives of my family members in defense of the liberal doves! And now my brother says he won't let me see his wife and kids anymore! HELP!!!!!!!!