I was about 12 or 13. I d gone camping with my (now ex) step-dad s best friend s family and was tasked with helping watch the younger kids. The wife took the kids to the lake one morning and I was still asleep. Alone. In the cabin. With her husband. He proceeded to sit on the bed and I woke up to him jacking off right next to me. He placed his hand on my leg and asked, "Does this bother you?" I was frozen with fear. It took years for me to tell anyone. When I told my step-dad, after finding out he was going to go camping with him- to that same cabin- and my step-dad did nothing. He went camping and had a good ol time. I have no indication this man has ever done anything else to any other girls, but I seriously believe he has. There have been too many young females at his disposal for me to be his only victim. I was not raped... not by him. I can t name that person, b/cI don t know who he is- but I digress. This has been weighing on me for over half my life. It affects how I raise my children and even function in society. The question: Should I name my abuser? Should I confront him? Publicly? Privately? Leave it be? WHAT SHOULD I DO?! Please, help. Any and all advice is welcome. No hate, please. There s enough evil in the world as it is. Thank you, all! I know who the person is in the incident when I was 12 or 13. There was another man, when I was older, whom I cannot identify. And, no, I'm definitely not starved for attention. I have plenty of that. Thanks. To clarify, by "cannot identify", I meant, I don't know his identity. Thank you to those who have given advice. I'm taking it all into consideration. I don't want to make the wrong move here. It's such a delicate situation for a lot of people. I still talk to his kids every now and then. I feel like the truth should be known- to whom it matters most, that is- but there's a small part of me that's afraid I'll be accused of seeking attention (as highlighted by some comments on this post). Thanks!

What do you do when your mom (new grandma ) comes over too much ? I cannot tell her bc it would hurt her feelings and this week she has stopped by about 4 days in a row . I love my mom and glad she loves my baby but idk I guess I need some space ? She also watched her the other day for two hours then came over the next day on her lunch hour and she asks me for a baby photo every day . Then my babies other grandma doesn't see her enough , idk what I should do ??????

Hello I have just recently been dumped by my ex girlfriend after she found out that I have been on adult websites and looking at naked woman so in others word i cheated we were going through a really tough time and I thought are relationship was going to end I was trying to fix it but nothing worked so I started looking on adult websites then we started getting back on tracked so we did and I stopped looking on the adult websites but now she dumped me how can I win her back like I have just recently moved in fully with her and her kids I don t want to lose her please help

She wants me to get married, have kids, and have a high paying job. I can understand the high paying job thing, but the other two things seem like they should be completely up to me. She'a divorced and doesn't have a high paying job. But then she expects all those things from me. I just think it's dumb. Do you know what I mean? Why doesn't she have what she wants me to have? I feel like she should just want me to do what makes me happy.

I messaged my manager at work about my plans for going on a break while i go back to school. And all he responded with was ok. Is he being passive or am i just overthinking 😂

I am 16 turning 17, my dad hits me over small things(sometimes). He mental hurts me a lot to were I hate my self. It doesn't have to be mad at me just in general and he comes for me. But then he lets me go out places at times and buys me nice things. I tried talking to him. It just makes him even more mad. If I stay in my room so I won't do anything to make him mad then he yells at me for doing nothing. If I help around the house he yells and stuff that I'm in the way or not doing it right. Please give me some advice

We rekindle in Instagram after lost in touch for many years, Long story short, he always mix with a lot of pretty gals He is 41 and those gals are 26, they are young ofc look good. I'm 39 btw. I'm single and all along content with my life being single and simple. I am happy then after we started to dm in Instagram and I see his Instagram Stories with him with so many pretty gals, I get so depressed and Low self esteem like i felt Mysore ugly and such. This affect me a lot and btw he is married but he has a lot of gal friends and I hardly see him mix with guys. That is his life. Why do I feel so bad about myself? Should I block him and stop contacting him?

My ex met my friends and never met my family. It got between us and also he is emotionally unavailable. Would this be a dealbreaker for you? He was scared to meet them and didn't think he was good enough. He was 31 & I was 27. He met my friends, but left me to meet them on my own after. He didn't want to see them with me all the time. He just wanted us to hang out. He didn't have any family for me to meet. His Mum died & dad has new family. sister lives in another country.

My wife left after our kids died in a fire that I accidentally set. I blame myself for it everyday. My nephew lives in the same town where it happened and If I take guardianship, I have to live there. It's really painful for me and I struggle with dealing with it. What should I do?

Where i live everybody dresses the same talks the same and physically looks alike and they stick together. I go around them they wouldn't want to get to know me, some would make fun of the way I talk, some would start harassing me over the way I am, just because I am a different way than they are. The rest of them would be angry and hostile with me just because I am a different way than they are. A few of them would accuse me of being 'different' I stand up to one of those bullied who is bullying me just because I am a different way than they are, all of them would stand in for that bully regardless of that bully being in the wrong. Some of these people may be a very light acquaintance but wouldn't let me in. What should I do?

My daughter grandmother (her dads mother) always take my 4 year old daughter hair styles out that I put in for her every time my daughter Leaves to stay over her house every other weekend. I use to think that her GM was doing me a favor by doing my daughter hair for me until I noticed that even when it's freshly done she would still take it out and style my daughter hair the way 'she wanted' my daughter hair to look which really offends me now. She keeps putting it in a style that I said once before I never liked bc it tangles my daughter hair. My daughter leaves today to stay with her GM for a weekend and I want to tell her not to change the style of my daughter hair. I want her to know that she can REDO her hair in the SAME STYLE of my daughter hair starts to look messy but I don't want her to take it out of that style that I put it in bc I like my daughter hair the way that I style it

I had a "lesbian friends with benefits" with a good friend from high school, for years. Eventually I got into a new relationship then got married. We always stayed close friends and she was in my wedding. She started dating my brother shortly after my wedding. She made me swear not to tell him about our history or how she was bisexual, since my brother is VERY homophobic (he refused to let her go to a gay friends wedding and he doesn t even know I m bisexual). I didn t approve of any of this, but I didn t say anything because I assumed they would never work out. They were ALWAYS fighting and on the verge of breaking up. I thought it would eventually end on its own. Out of nowhere they have eloped, to everyone s surprise, and I feel guilty for having to lie to my brother and keep this huge secret from him. My friend is still refusing to tell him the truth, and I know this would end their marriage for good if he found out. Should I tell my brother? I m torn right now.

Me and boyfriend have been together over a year and have lived together at least 9 months. He recently had to take a paternity test for a child that is 6 months old and it came up that he is the father. He was only with this woman a few times and had really hoped upon getting the papers that it wasn't his because he really hated how he had seen her treat her four year old. He has decided he wants to take part in this child's life. I am trying to be supportive but I kind of just saw our future that we had planned (getting married, having our own kids, moving daw away for better jobs once I finish school, etc) die. I do realize he still loves me and all of these things can still happen but I just feel this sadness creeping up on me that everything will be different because I will always have another woman dictating how my life goes. I also do feel excited to be a stepmom (but I think this may be me feeling more like a mom than I really am, and research says that's not okay.) My boyfriend thinks that due to his relationship with the mother, when he tries contacting her and if she agrees to let him meet the child, one of his sisters should go with him instead. This hurt my feelings because I feel that I am taking on the second largest role in the child's life on his side. Does anyone think this would be the right thing or should I be introduced right off the bat as someone of importance? This is an emotional roller coaster for me and any advice would be awesome.

I'm twenty years old, still live at home, and am going to a local college. My mom is extremely religious. She is always lecturing me about how I don't go to church with her, choose not to fast, have a boyfriend who's not Christian. I feel like she doesn't even see the hard working, kind, person I always strive to be. I help around the house, abide by her 10:30pm curfew, and make sure all my chores are done around the house, but her always being focused on saving me is getting to the point where I'm thinking of moving out. Thoughts?