My dad said to me: "You have that dark hair skin and eyes. That's why people think you're a terrorist". I said back to my dad "Dad I think you need therapy to become not racist ". He tries to say it's just a joke and he likes to get a rise out of me. Was that a really mean thing to say? How do I get my dad to stop saying things like that?

I move to the US 3 years ago and I met my husband there, this is the first time we are visiting my family in Portugal, I haven't seen my family in two years and my husband has never been here Yesterday we were talking and I mention that one of my cousins that he just met only dates black guys, and he started to accuse me of dating them too and lying to him because if I used to hang out with her I must have the same preference that she has. I explained that I never dated any black guy and she only started to go to clubs where black people hang out after she moved school and I never went with her, I used to go to clubs with her while we were in the same high school and everyone was white. He started to go through my Facebook and because I had a photo on my Facebook from a Christmas FAMILY dinner wearing a fur vest and a gold watch like everyone else did back in 2010 in Europe, he says that I was a s*lut that only likes black guys I'm starting to think that he just doesn't want to see me happy, I've been so happy since we arrived and today after his accusation all I did was cry I don't understand why he is judging me or my family, they have been nothing but nice and respectful towards him, they are always asking if he needs anything and making him feel at home and I feel that he is judging just because our houses here are not small and we drive older car than on America, I don't know what to think, he literally called me a s*lut and a liar while my dad was right in the next room

When I was 14 years old, I was abused by my uncle Thomas (Dad's sister's husband) He also molested my brother. Thomas and his family have helped my parents financially in the past like helping us move. We told our parents right away & we cut communications with them. However, they never called the police but I told a counselor and THEY called the police. Thomas was arrested and ADMITTED to what he did. What happened after this completing traumatized me. Thomas's wife,& other family members came to our house calling me a liar and saying that i was making stuff up. The way they said it to me was horrible. My mom asked them to leave multiple times but they refused to leave my home and kept getting in my face trying to manipulate me into telling the police i was lying. They verbally abused me and my 12 year old brother. They said i was breaking apart their family and it was all my fault. At the time this felt horrible because I was a child. Forward to 2019, I found out my dad got in contact with his family/sister. I'm now 19, I can't tell my dad who to talk to but shouldn't he have some respect for me at least? After all those things she said to me? I do admit I talk bad about her too and my dad gets all defensive when he hears me talk bad about her. He says, 'that's my sister you're talking about! Have some respect. He also says that no matter what, she will always be his sister. Am I wrong for wanting them not to talk? Am I not his child and shouldn't he respect my feelings?

I literally get bullied at school for not having them and i started a literal gofundme to get them cause i'm desperate..my parents can afford it, i do chores and am good in school..help!?

My mom always calls me disgusting and nasty and favors my sister more. I was cleaning my room then took a break to eat some food she said your room is bullshit your disgusting . Does she not understand I have school and I'm busy?! Also when I get home everyday not only do I have to deal with being bullied at school I come home to my mom yelling at me too do chores and my sister never cleans and always makes a mess ok i always clean but the one time my sister does one chore she's a big superstar and then my mom bashes on me and calls me lazy

My dad s birthday was on Friday. Because my parents are separated I m not with him on weekdays but I was still planning to bake a cake for him so I called my aunt (who he lives with) to ask when she was holding a party. She told me that dad was working a 12 hour shift on his birthday and she hadn t planned anything. She said she d ask him if he still wanted me to go up just to meet him and sent back a cryptic text saying it would be better for me to come on Saturday. My mum also sent a long text to my dad separately asking to meet up but no reply. Friday, I went to call my dad to wish him happy birthday before school but my ancient phone died mid ring no charger so I waited until 8 o clock when his shift ends to text him so I d know he d see it Fast forward to Saturday where I finally saw my dad, cake hidden in my bag, and he was really mad with me (I even heard him mutter "I hate you" under his breath). I learned that NO ONE had done anything for his birthday and that he was waiting for me to come all night. My aunt DID NOT tell him that I rang. Instead she already had plans with her friends and didn t want to celebrate his birthday so she told me NOT to come up without asking him. I also realised that the long text my mum sent on her phone was considered a media message and so it didnt send properly. He must have been crushed. It absolutely broke my heart and I cried silently all the way home. What should i do to make it up to him? Is there anything I can d

I am the oldest, I'm 18, my middle sister is 12 and youngest is 8. I have been "raising" my middle sister since I was 6 years old. Then at 9, I was raising both of them. I provided everything except for financial support. We lived in Eastern Europe so times were very hard and my parents had to work, then we moved to Canada and things got easier, yet I was still doing all the work. I go to school full time, I work part time, I clean and I cook and I take my sisters to appointment, play dates, extra curricular activities. I go to school meetings and I help with their homework. I do this not only to help out, but because I'm so used to doing it all my life. But my mother favourites my middle sister. She always gives her money whenever she wants to go out, and lets her spend all of it, never tells her to save it or what money means. She never gets grounded, even though she behaves the worst. She is disrespectful and mean, she yells and shouts and swears. She lies and doesn't do anything to help out, if she ever does, you have to ask her 50 times and give her something in return for doing things she should be anyways because she lives in the house. Myself and my youngest sister always get in trouble, especially me. I do everything I possibly can, I am an adult and I act like one, I've been responsible since I was 6 years old. Yet my parents always treat me like I'm the bad guy for the smallest things. My middle sister was the only planned one.

My mom has always enabled my younger twin siblings, a brother and sister. But recently my sister moved out and is finally living on her own. However, the other one is still at home, no job for 11 years and living rent free. My mom lies to people, telling them that he works and acting like everything is normal. We've bumped heads on this several times, with her getting mad at me for calling her an enabler. She even complains about money issues but when I tell her he should get a job to pay her back, she gets angry at me again. So recently, I took her out to eat for her birthday and again for a job promotion. I found out that she lied and told family members that WE (me and brother) took her to eat out. My sister lives in another state so, of course, she wasn't included. I told her that she gives him credit for what I do for her and yet again, she turns it around and asks me why am I doing this to her, making it all about her. Of course, I want to celebrate my mom for her birthday or promotions. But I feel like she doesn't care how it makes me feel to constantly include my brother in what I do for her to save face for family, to make them think everything is perfect. Am I wrong? How would this make you feel? What else can I do when she thinks she's always right and doesn't take what I say into consideration?

So my family every guy has short hair (really short) and I hate having short hair but I don't keep it to long and I keep it well groomed. My family always says to cut my hair short and keep it like that and I respond saying it's my hair and I can have however I like and I tell them it's really rude what their saying and now they say i'm a jerk. I didn't yell at them or I didn't say in a tone I said it calmly. Should really care what they say about my hair ?

My parents found out that my brother who is 23 moved his 20 year old girlfriend into his house with him recently. They have been together for about 4 years. My Parents are extremely upset about this. My dad kept saying he doesn't like this over and over again. He said it's not right. He said he knows my brother is grown and paying his own bills but he still doesn't like it and he's entitled to say his opinion. He said if that girl gets preganant it's going to be a problem. Both my mom and dad are pretty angry about this but my dad seems more angry than my mom. He said my mom would be going ballistic if I moved in with my boyfriend ( which she would, i agree). I remember when i spent only one night with my boyfriend for my birthday and my mom was losing her mind. I'm 26 btw, but i still live at home as i cannot afford to move out. My brother has a much better paying job than i do.

i'm 14, and my parents still make me use training wheels, because they're concerned that i'll fall over and get injured. it won't happen, i'm really careful. the most that can happen is a scraped arm or cut on my leg. i avoid riding my bike. i often see my friends from school and church at the park, and i don't want them to find out i use training wheels well next week my friends and i are going to ride our bikes. how do i convince my parents to remove my training wheels. i have a sister who is 7, and she doesn't have to use training wheels. i dont need to either, but they just make me use it

She starts off wanting $600 cash out of my account. Then, she can't wait until the 13th of the month, for my EBT to fill... So a week later... she wants me to buy groceries... about another $50 or $100.. We're up to $650 or $700 already... Then my EBT comes in.. She wants all of that... Then a week later... its another $50 or $100.. Now we're talking $750 or $800 in cash. Then when she decides she doesn't feel like cooking... Its... I gotta pay door dash a rip off price. A fast food meal for 3 people... $50 or $60 Door Dash. Last month it was even more, because i had to pay off a fine that she got... For shoplifting... when most people go to JAIL for it. Now I gotta buy her prescription medications ontop of that... So yeah I was upset. But I'm fixing it today.. I'm going to the shelter for a few months.

Last night my mom has a mental breakdown. I heard her screaming that some people took a baby away. She told me be quiet and to hide because those people were still the house and didn't want them taking me. She was having conversations with imaginary people. I called my dad and told him what she was saying and doing. My dad told me to call 911 and said he was coming to get me. But my mom saw me with my phone and took it from me By the time my dad got to the house my mom was outside looking for those people she said took a baby. My Dad told me to go wait in my room with my stepmom I still don't understand why I had to wait in my with my stepmom. My dad called 911, the emts came and took my to the hospital then my dad called my grandparents to let know them about my mom. My dad and stepmom wouldn't take me to see my mom they said that I have seen enough. My grandma called and told me that the doctor put on a hold mom she told that my mom is going to a mental hospital. I am 15 years old. I just want to be with my mom right now she needs me We are a team. I feel like an awful daughter because I feel like I cause her breakdown.

How can my family recover from the guilt of this?

My dad is bridezilla. Growing up, he has always been a man child. My mom credits that to him being an only child. His way or the highway. This wedding is technically his wedding reincarnated through me (catch the sarcasm). Anyway, I had flower girls in mind. One of them was my cousin's daughter. Anyhoo, her sister was over & my dad said, "aren't you gonna as if Julie was gonna be a flower girl?" Jesus Christ. He's announcing plans without my say. I'm supposed to be doing this on my time. Also, any decision I've made, he's criticized and if I tell him otherwise, he gets passive aggressive and says, "fine then, do it your way" and expects me to feel guilty." He needs to stop announcing this stuff.

There was a family fight and my parents are at odds with parts of the family I like and want to be close to. I reach out to those parts and sometimes it gets reciprocated while other times I get no response or a polite blow off. I feel I am defined by who my parents are and what they did that made others mad. This hurts me so much. I have few friends cause I am learning disabled and have anxiety so I am uncomfortable and feel insecure with friends. Family I feel very secure with. So I feel defined by my parents possible mistakes, how do I not let this happen?

I am a female with a father and four brothers . I often wish I had real traditional men in my family . The type of men that take care of their parents and the women in their family .Instead the Males in my family always need taking care of . Our dad is disabled, I am the only one who does anything to take care of him .Like give him his eye drops and take him to his appointments. My brothers constantly get arrested and are always being bailed out by other family members. They dont act like gentlmen at all and don't offer to do anything for me and my mom , it always takes my mom begging or threatening them to do it .My parents complain about having money problems , yet I constantly here my brother joke about spending his money on " liquor and Hoes" . My youngest brother is on food stamps and doesn't seem to be getting a job anytime in the near future. The rest of my family seems to dismiss all of this behavior as them just being immature young boys (they are all over 20)It's the age old "Boys will be Boys Mantra". They seem to get the PERKS of being the Males of the family and not any of the RESPONSIBILITY. Meanwhile my parents make it their favorite pass time to make rude hurtful jabs at me when they feel I am not acting like an "appropriate young lady" . Do You understand how this pisses me off to no end.Do you think since my brothers happily enjoy the sexist perks of being males of the family its only fair they be given the traditional duty of being the Males of the Family

My cousin and I were close our whole lives, but recently he never answers my calls or texts and when I see him, I get weird vibes like there's some tension between us. Same with my aunt, and my older cousin. My mom and brother don't call me as much as they used to either. And my girlfriends whole family, especially her sister, won't even make eye contact with me or speak to me unless I speak to them first. So basically everyone I'm even slightly close to is coming off really shady. It's irritating too because it's not even really that recent that it's been going on. I'd say for about 4 or 5 months now. What would you do if you were me? Just not contact them anymore? Ignore them how they ignore me? Be snooty back to them just like they are to me? Because I'm fighting the urge to tell them to go **** themselves. It's not like I constantly bother them, I only call them here and there. I haven't done anything to any of them, but it seems like everybody has something against me behind the scenes.

when my other facebook friends advertise their buisness ventures and blog advertisements and they get a lot of support and a lot of likes .. but when it comes to me it's all crickets. It kind of makes me feel like whats the point. i only have like 90 views and it's been up for a month. most people are so unsupportive even though i'm always sharing other people's pages and their work. I know i'm not super popular or well liked but would it kill people to show just a little more support

I have a job interview tomorrow but I changed my mind in attending. When I filled out the application I listed my dad as an emergency contact.

I m 15 and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I was just prescribed 10mg Adderall, and when we picked up the medication, I went to take the bag, and my dad wouldn t even let me touch it. My parents are now insisting they re going to be the ones "administering" each pill every morning. My dad even "locked it up" as he said. I don t understand why they re doing this. I ve never had any experience with drugs or alcohol as far as they know, and yet they don t trust me. They re treating me like a drug addict and it s ridiculous. It makes me so angry because I just want to take my medicine every morning like a NORMAL PERSON, but I m being treated like a disabled child. Why are they doing this and what can I do to make it stop? also what are your thoughts on what they're doing?

So I m from a Hispanic/Mexican family. But was raise here in U.S. Now I know the culture is very different. My parents are super traditional and believe one doesn t move out until you re married.I m currently working towards moving out since I don t agree with this. I m still very single but happy with no plans for marriage. Plus, I would love to be on my own first before settling. Anyways, I m 25 yrs old almost 26, Do I still need to ask mom and dad to go out or do something? Do I still have to be home at a certain time or be in bed at a certain time with the tv off at a certain time? I know it s their roof and I m in their house. Which is why even if I love to drink and they re against it, I do it out of their home. But what about everything else?

We already watch almost exclusively old westerns and war movies starring Clint Eastwood and Charles Bronson. We also point out attractive women to each other when we see them.

I got a school computer charger and the charger costs 40 dollars. The other week my charger disappeared in my bookbag. I tried to look everywhere for it but I can't find it. My mom had to pay for it and she had to forced me to give my money to her. Should I give it her cause she been had a job since last August. And my aunt and grandma gave their money to me on my birthday. So should I give it to her? Btw im 16.

...then for my older sister (60 years old) with cerebral palsy who requires 24 /7 care. I gave up a 25 year career as a chemist & my goal to teach high school chemistry ( I returned to college to earn my teaching degree just prior to having to stop and care for my family). I don't regret my decision as I love my family, but I occasionally think of how my life would have been different had I continued my goal if teaching. I've even had friends say that I was stupid for not thinking of my wellbeing first. I guess I'm just a bit stressed and tired, but was it stupid of me to put my family ahead of my needs? Am I wrong to feel regret?