Family: Question: Should I tell my parents what I did?

Question: Should I tell my parents what I did?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 01:01 PM PST

My parents leave a tip for the letter carrier every Christmas in the mailbox. So when I was checking for mail, I saw the tip and took it so the letter carrier couldn't get it. Why did I take it? Because I do not like the letter carrier at all. One time she was blocking our driveway so I politely asked why she was and she screamed that she was having a mental breakdown and shouted profanity at me. I complained to the Postmaster but they chose to do nothing about it. So you can understand why I do not want this B$#@$ to have my parent's money.

Question: How can I stop my mom from reading my diary please I need help she won’t stop?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 12:56 PM PST

Question: I’m 25 and I’m really upset because my mom read my personal life in my diary she has been like this since I was a child.?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 12:45 PM PST

Question: Am I wrong for feeling this way about the Males on my Immediate family (Warning alot to read, a bit of a rant)?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 11:20 AM PST

I am a young fenale with a father and four brothers . I often wish I had real traditional men in my family . The type of men that take care of their parents and the women in their family . Instead the Males in my family always need taking care of . Our father is disabled, I am the only one who does anything to take care of him . Like give him his eye drops and take him to his appointments. My brothers constantly get arrested and are always being bailed out by other family members. They don't act like gentlmen at all and don't offer to do anything for me and my mom , it always takes my mom begging or threatening them to do it . My parents are constantly complaing about having money problems , yet I constantly here my brother joke about spending his money on " liquor and Hoes" . My youngest brother is on food stamps and doesn't seem to be getting a job anytime in the near future. The thing about all of this is the rest of my family seems to dismiss all of this behavior as them just being immature young boys (they are all over 20)It's the age old "Boys will be Boys Mantra". They seem to get the PERKS of being the Males of the family and not any of the RESPONSIBILITY. Meanwhile my parents make it their favorite pass time to make rude hurtful jabs at me when they feel I am not acting like an "appropriate young lady" . Do You understand how this massive unfair dynamic in my family pisses me off to no end

Question: I lied to my parents about graduating. Advice?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 11:15 AM PST

My parents were physically & mentally abusive. We get on ok now. They moved abroad a year ago and I stayed behind to finish university. I was supposed to graduate last summer. Long story short, I had to retake 2 years of my course. My mental health was trash and I never sought help because my parents always used it as a weapon against me saying I was crazy and making it all up, no one would believe me etc. I had terrible depression, anxiety and body dysmorphia disorder, but I only sought help recently. I'm now in 2nd year and will hopefully graduate next summer, 2 years late. My parents think I already graduated & am doing a Masters. It was easy to keep up the lie as they're abroad. I never told them to avoid the inevitable mental abuse that would follow, telling me I'm a failure and will never amount to anything in life etc. They'd also talk trash about me to the entire extended family. Sadly the lie has reached its expiration date as they've asked me to send them a photo of my certificate (they need it as they're setting up a family business). Obviously the certificate doesn't exist! I replied saying I'm not home at the moment so can't send it, and they told me to send it when I get home. That obviously won't buy me much time. Any advice for this situation? I dug myself a pretty deep hole, but I just wanted to put it off as long as possible. I don't need to hear their nasty words when I'm trying my best

Question: My father passed away how do I find out if he had investments in my name?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 10:53 AM PST

Question: I got prescribed rexuliti anyone else take this yoo?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 10:17 AM PST

too? Took it first time last night and feel asleep hard and drowsy. I hate being on meds. So unfair. Should I take a other one can I drive

Question: Should I sneak out?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 08:21 AM PST

Last week, I got in huge trouble with my dad and I ended up grounded. I am not allowed to leave the house for a whole month, but I still have my electronics. This weekend tho, my best friend has his birthday and he will have a big party. It would be a shame if his life long best friend couldnt be there! My dad won't let me tho, I tried everything really, I did all my chores, I helped me him around the house the whole week, and even offered him an alternative punishment, so I could go to the party, but when my father says no, he means no... So I was thinking of sneaking out at Satyrday night, I know its risky, but I am ready to suffer the consequences if I get caught. I dont want to let him down, he is my bro, we had so many plans about this night! Should I?

Question: How to deal w parents who treat me like ****??????

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 08:14 AM PST

Question: How to know if your being emotional abused? What dose any of this mean? is it emotional abuse or no?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 07:58 AM PST

Around this year or last my dad starting yelling cussing me out telling me its not all about me and you think its all about you and says you need to F***** grow up when I knew to keep my mouth close or if I don't do nothing wrong he gets mad and yells at me and all, my mom well all he does is get mad at her he don't yell or curse her out she thinks just because he gets mad at her she thinks its worse than what he says and done to me oh that reminds me I walked by and put my cup down Real quick to where the edge of it barely hits the table and my dad gets mad and gets it and says if you don't have nothing to do I give u something to F*** to do. my mom she makes me feel uncomfortable she says hurtful things to when I got out of the bathroom she said am not going back their after she got out of the bathroom, she might have got S*** on the toilet paper

Question: Why do parents get mad when their kid yells back?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 07:46 AM PST

I know it's sort of a respect thing, but when you're telling at the top of you're lungs I think you lost all respect. But once you think about telling back you're the one in the wrong. Yeah that makes since. Like they can be going on for 20 minutes yelling and once you say one thing, they are like dont ******* talk to me like that. Just wondering why parents think it's ok to tell at their kid without giving them a chance to speak

Question: Can my mom get my boyfriend put in jail? I am legal and an adult?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 07:46 AM PST

To sum up the situation: I am 19 and I plan to move in with my boyfriend to Texas due to my abusive household and I told my mother in advance so I wouldn't leave her in the dark. She then tried to tell my siblings that I was leaving because I didn't care about them. She has always been very manipulative and abusive because she wants me to stay to take care of her 4 other kids despite the father living with her too. She said that if I left that she would cut all contact and that I'm not one of her kids anymore if I disobeyed her. We don't but he told me to contact him when I'm ready to leave. I announced again yesterday that I planned to leave and now she claimed she'd call the police if I leave so that when I get to Texas, he'll be in jail and I'll end up homeless.

Question: Should I do what my brother and sister want me to do?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 07:22 AM PST

I have a sister and a brother. When all 3 of us graduated from high school, mom and dad told us they would pay for any addition schooling we wanted. I chose to go to college. My sister chose to go to beauty school which mom and dad paid for and my brother chose not to get any additional schooling and immediately get a job. It is now 10 years later and at family gatherings we have this disagreement. My brother and sister want mom and dad to give them an equal amount of money they spent paying my way to college. Mom and dad refuse. They say they gave us a choice and we have to live with the choice we made. My brother and sister's latest argument is that I should give them the amount of money mom and dad spent on my college education because I am now very successful and I can afford it. I am not inclined to do that. Do my brother and sister have a valid argument?

Question: My Stepmom thinks I am sick but I am hangover, she is going figure out that I am hangover?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 05:55 AM PST

I'm 17. Last night took a bottle of my dad's whiskey and got drunk. This morning my stepmom heard me throwing up she ask me if I was sick. I told yes, she told me to go back to bed and she get me some stomach medicine. She was half wake up when gave me the medicine, then she took my brother to school. I hope she doesn't notice that I am hangover when gets back. I threw the rest bottle of whiskey in the trash can outside. I am thinking about telling her the truth but I know that she and my dad will ground me. I just hoping she doesn't figure it out because I the worst headace and I don't to get yelled at

Question: This girl just confessed a crush for me, the problem is that I’m 19 and she’s 21 with 2 kids. Should I go for it? Any opinions or tips?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 05:15 AM PST

I like her she likes me, but I don't know how this is gonna work out. Any opinion would be great thanks.

Question: Parents and favoritism towards grandchildren, should I cut them out?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 02:32 AM PST

I don't want to cut them out but feel like I have to, they favor my bros kids over mine. My son is 2&bros kids are 7&9yrs old, my mom never calls or wants to do anything unless my nephews are unavailable then she will call& hangout(which is rare). Parents live close to us&never visits, while bros place is further& sees them a few times or more a wk. My bro, SIL, nephews are going to move, &my parents will move with them but into the MIL house. I'm not close w/my SIL since shes manipulative&pretty much "bought" my mom away, so I dont plan on visiting them since they will live together. Theyve gone months w/out seeing my son, and my mom would ask how he is doing but only because I phoned her, &I wouldn't hear from her unless she needed help with something. I wish I could give more details but wont have enough room here, but what would u do? I do miss them but I feel if they wont put in the effort like w/nephews why should I make any effort to bring my son there? Parents and favoritism towards grandchildren, should I cut parents out?

Question: I’m tired of being lonely and ugly?

Posted: 16 Jan 2019 02:09 AM PST

i'm tired of life. i'm a 13 year old girl and i hate my life. my family is poor and i have to share a room with my aunt (she's 16) and my step aunt (she's 15) while my parents have to sleep in the living room on the couch or on a air mattress. my step grandpas friend tom lives with us because we can't afford everything on our own. he's old and smelly so he stinks up the whole house. he poops his pants and gets poop all over the toilet seat. he has the only other tiny bedroom. me and my aunts actually sleep in the big living room because this bedroom technically only has 1 bedroom which tom sleeps in. i'm sad and i have bad anxiety. i live with my grandma and i always have. she got married to my step grandpa and all they do is fuse. me, my aunt and grandma are supposed to move out and get our own house. i cant deal with this much more. what should i do??

Question: True or false: some sisters don’t “get along” because they are jealous of each other?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 11:05 PM PST

Question: Divorced parents and I’m stuck :(?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 11:03 PM PST

I am a child of 2 divorced parents. My dad moved out so therefor all my belongings are at my moms and every other week I haul my clothes and books etc back and forth. My dad is an alcoholic and I am miserable when I'm at his house because I have to share a room and my dad is drunk all the time. I just want to live with my mom but I don't want my dad to be alone and think I don't wanna see him. Any suggestions to what I should do?

Question: Should I move in with my uncle?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 10:47 PM PST

I have depression and right now live with my parents and sister, but she awful and does not help my depression at all and makes it worst. She calls me names, doesn't respect me, even the little things she won't even bother I can not even talk to her without her get mad and start yelling she the same with my parents,( they even said she bad too) she even hits me and push me, then blames me. And it is my health too but she is a huge part of it ever since I was a kid she been abusive and awful and I not excepting her to change, so I'm not saying if I move out I'll be cured but I'll be a little better plus if I move in with my uncle I could start school their too and a want to go to a new school too, plus I won't have to deal with all the fighting every day, I'll still get to see my parent as it's less then 35 min away and my uncle is lives alone so he could help with my work as I struggle with Focusing. And I think it'll really help me mental, life ( future), school, therapy, all that, but I'm worried that what if I grow up and regret doing this? I do think it help me a lot as I've been severely depressed for a long time years

Question: Why did my father do this ��?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:35 PM PST

At church my dad met this guy and then pointed him out to me saying he feels like he's going to see him again. Like really emphasizing it. Has a parent ever done this to you 😂 and why did this happen to me? Help lol 😆

Question: Broken Family?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:26 PM PST

My son stopped talking to me in 2016. I did nothing wrong for him to stay away. My ex-wife always wanted to separate me and my only son. She managed to do do. I am 53 years old, soon to be 54 in April. I live in NYC. Child support obligation ends at 21. My son will be 21 in July. My family is scattered. No contact in the family circle. I have not seen my two brothers and only sister in more than 5 years. My dad died in April 2008 of stage 4 prostate cancer. My mother is alive but to no avail. She only cares about herself. There you have it. My story is plain English. Tell me your story. How did you get to where you are today? BTW, I left out so many other details about my pathetic life.

Question: My parents don’t trust me?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:20 PM PST

When I was 12, I made brownies when my parents weren't home and hid them in my room because I wanted them all to myself. When my parents found out my dad forced me to go to therapy and said if I didn't I would have to go to a girls disciplinary school. Ever since then they haven't trusted me one bit! My mom told me she would never invade any of my privacy, but went through my phone anyways and found out that I was bi, which I wasn't ready to tell them yet. She uses it against me too, saying that if I can lie to them at such a young age they can go through my stuff. Like mom I was 12 years old?? The didnt talk to me for weeks. Today they asked where my brother was and I said "I think he's in his room", which he wasn't but I didn't know that. My dad told me I was a liar and told me he couldn't trust me if he tried, but how was I supposed to know my brother wasn't in his room?? They do stuff like this all the time. They talk about how terrible I am and how I need to be disciplined but I have never done anything wrong! I get straight A's and spend most of my time in my room drawing. I think the last thing I did wrong was sneak out of the house 3 years ago. How do I get them to trust me?

Question: How can I help my mom see the positives of allowing me to drop out of HS after I finish this year? I want to earn GED and go to college.?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:07 PM PST

I am a sophomore, 15 (16 this summer), I earn good grades but am very unhappy in school. I want to finish this year, drop out, earn my GED and start college. My mom is usually very supportive and though she doesn t always agree she at least hears my side. This time she is being stubborn, she was forced to drop out of school at 16 and since has earned her GED, a bachelor degree and is now a teacher.

Question: I feel guilty when spending my parents' money?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:03 PM PST

im known to be high maintenance and i feel like i waste my parents' money. im not reckless with it and they get paid enough so that we're really comfortable yet i feel guilty when i use their money. for my 16th birthday they spent a lot and im feeling horrible because of it. i thanked them endlessly but compared to my friends i feel so incredibly spoiled (which i am) but it's getting to a point where i feel terrible about it. ive been asking my parents for less and less but they ask me if i need money like every week. im incredibly grateful for it and in no way am i trying to seem like a degenerate brat (even tho i feel like im coming off as that) my parents grew up very poor and idk i just feel so guilty and very anxious when i use their money...please help

Question: Parents with grown up children, would you have kids over again if you could go back and have another chance or would you stay child-free?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 07:38 PM PST

Question: Was I disloyal to my 1st cousins, read below?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 06:54 PM PST

I am scared I was a disloyal cousin this past Christmas. I saw 5 first cousins out of 9 that were around locally over Christmas. The other four were with parents who were more busy and I thought I would just be in the way if I went to see them. We see all of them in the summer at an annual reunion reunion and there is a wedding in April I'll be seeing them at. Plus we had a funeral in October. I felt guilty but didn't want to be in the way as three of them are with a mother who gets bothered by visitors, three we had Christmas Eve with, and one I likewise didn't want to be in the way so didn't go to the house of he and his sister but ran into him Dec. 28th at the store. So was I disloyal to my 1st cousins by not seeing them at Christmas which is the big family holiday of the year?

Question: If I've lived in my current town for eight years, and I've been miserable the whole time, moving away should be a priority, right?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 06:52 PM PST

People say I should "give it a chance" or "stop being so closed-minded" or "learn to love it," but I don't see how that's possible. There's not a single thing about this town I can appreciate in any capacity. I hate the people, I hate the architecture, I hate that there's nothing to do here, I hate the weather, I hate the entire fvcking state. I don't have any friends or family here besides my parents. My strongest desire right now is to just LEAVE. Is that so wrong?

Question: Can I hire a lawyer for when my son’s mother wishes to contact me ?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 06:47 PM PST

To better word the question, I'm handling my end as a father on his needs . What ever he needs or wants I send to him as I live in a different state . I even order pizza for him on the weekends .we have video calls weekly. My son is Seven years old . Is a way I can get a lawyer to be third party in regards to the mother contacting me if it's in regards to the kid n not contact me otherwise ? . sorta like a filter system ? Things are getting bad to the point where she calls me ****** and ****** when things don't go her way or I don't answer back right away in front of the kid . i stopped sending her money after mismanaging money I've sent countless times so I've taken it upon myself to send what he needs online and send her aunt money who's using it wisely on his needs since my son mother lives with her. Any help or advice on this is great appreciated . FYI I live in mass and my son is in New Jersey .

Question: My dad try’s to make everyone feel sorry for him and is a different person behind closed doors?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 06:37 PM PST

Question: My son is 21, extremely lazy (isn't working or going to school, and lives off me and the government). Should he go to jail?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 06:30 PM PST

So, I have a son who is 21 years old who is immature and super lazy. He acts like every single thing he has to do is torture (cleaning dishes, doing laundry, vacuuming, general cleaning and organizing, etc.) He acts like he's out of breath every single task he does! On his free time (which he has way too much of in my opinion), he lays in bed and listens to music and stares at pics on his. This behavior isn't acceptable and I am considering getting tough on him. As much as I love him, I think it's time to use tough love. If he doesn't change this behavior by his 22nd birthday (coming up next month), I will call the police and have him arrested. I don't mind him living with me, but obviously I'm not going to be around to lift him up forever, so he needs to step up and stop acting like everything is so tiring! I don't care if he doesn't like it, feelings do not matter in a case like this! He has three choices: Get a job, attend a school, or go to jail! I talked with my neighbor about this, and she agrees with me. It's time for my son to face tough love. He does house chores, but always acts out of breath after them, even if it's a small thing!

Question: My parents are toxic?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 05:49 PM PST

I m 25 still leaving with my parents which i hate When i was 23 i had some friends i was going to move out with i told my parents my dad got mad and he said no you re not which i reply you ve to stop controling my life , with in a week i had everything ready he come to my room screaming "oh so you re really gonna move ? If you go , go but just remember you re no welcome back i ll disown you! That didn t work so then he act like the victim telling how when i was little he watchd after me and all that , that since he s getting old i just wanted to get rid of him which 1: he s 40 not too old and 2: no i just want to live by my own Then he said wait till you get merried ? But in my case i want to have most if not everything ready when that comes at the end he manipulated me to stay which i ******* hate it till this day not the fact that he manipulated me but the fact that i got manipulated and i m a weakminded little ***** and that fact that i don t have willpower to move i have a job , i have atleast 1 year worth of rent i know how to cook do laundry and so many things ! i understand they want to protect me I still have to time to go out at life and fail and be able to figuere things out i dont want to be old and have no idea and be stuck there for a long time beacuse i didn t move out at a early age i dont hate my parents for beem toxic but i do hate my self fof not having willpower and just move out

Question: I hate my future cousin-in-law. I?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 05:48 PM PST

I don't even know who her family is. My cousin is marrying her. But she's invading my family.

Question: Where can I go for resources on emotional abuse/neglect?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 05:18 PM PST

My mom is just degrading me. I am certainly positive that she's doing some sort of abuse to me. The things she does are: - She tells me how to dress. If I don't dress her way, she says I dress "like a little kid." I enjoy wearing loose-fitting clothes that still make me look "presentable". She may not like my style, but she doesn't have to criticize me. - She has neglected my medical needs. - She "jokes" about me--negatively. - She thinks I'm crazy when I tell her about my opinions. - She has yelled at me for nothing. - She ALWAYS thinks I'm lying. - She is the overall reason I can't be around her without feeling unsafe or pressured. She's been like this ever since my dad passed away in 2014 and ever since my sister moved away. I would not be surprised if my mom is being like this, all because my dad was a self-centered, controlling guy in their relationship. I've heard this stuff can pass on. It's only my mom and me. I have my sister, but with my mom telling me how crazy I am multiple times, I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it. If I do, I have some trustful teachers at school I could talk to. I also have my sister, but I don't know if she'll help me much. Or...any phone numbers for emotional abuse regarding parents and kids? Any other homes I could stay at, just because I don't want to be at my own house with my mom around? (I hardly have friends, so those people I can't ask to stay with.)

Question: Why does my mom sound upset i found an apartment?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 05:03 PM PST

I am going to be 26 years old moving in with my fiancé to our first apartment. I told my mom we got approved and she said "oh how neat" and then proceeded to ask "does it have a fridge? How long is the lease?" Now shes acting weird towards me. I guess she did not expect it to happen so soon. What did I do wrong here? I mean first i am an adult and cant be living at home, then i get an apartment and shes acting cold?

Question: Why is this?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 04:59 PM PST

My cousin she told me. The best thing is that I'm going out with you. With you I'll go to the end of the world with and said "my beautiful cousin". First time shes said all of this. What does she really mean by this?

Question: My dad seen me on my phone after they took it, and i wasn t supposed to have it. it was downstairs in a secret place and now its gone, help?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 03:40 PM PST

Question: Im 15 Is it normal to smoke weed with my mom and 3 sisters and sell weed to my mom and dad?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 02:23 PM PST

Question: Why won't my mom stay of drugs?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 02:17 PM PST

It's ben my whole life I'm 15 and she's Ben in treatments in and out but this time she was doing really good almost a whole 4 months but know she told me she used again I went to her house and there were meth pipes around again. Why can't she just stop?

Question: Why did Pearl L create another account?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:50 AM PST

Question: Why did he blush when my coworkers teased him about me?

Posted: 15 Jan 2019 09:49 AM PST

There's this cute guy that comes in to see me. We are friends after all, but he's this younger guy that's really sweet to me. He hugs me a lot and he likes brushing my hair and putting it behind my ears. I would tell my coworkers about what he does and they think he's so sweet and cute. One of them saw him at another place and she said, "Mary isn't here." He recognized her and he blushed and I couldn't stop laughing. My other coworker told him that he looked cute enough for me and his face went red and he began stuttering. He brought me coffee and some waffles that he made and they were saying how sweet of a boy he was and how i was the luckiest woman in the world and his face turned red again and he looked away. I hugged him and he couldn't stop stuttering and blushing.