She s told me how her dad has caused the family to split apart in the past before due to alcohol and with his shouting it has scarred her for life. This went on for many years but now it is all okay as the dad has stopped drinking alcohol and is trying to be a more normal dad now, trying his best. My girlfriend still suffers from anxiety due to this history, for example sitting in the same room as him she feels uncomfortable and hates it, and breaks down to me when she s alone in the house with him. I ve tried helping her by reassuring her and comforting her but nothing seems to help...is there anything I m missing or anything she may need to help this?

My little brother is 14 years old and he currently is the only child living at home with my mother. She has always been a single mother for as long as I can remember. My brother is a freshman in high school and he has been caught smoking weed on school property twice. He is currently on probation. He also smokes cigarettes and drinks alcohol. He is so disrespectful to my mother often times making her feel hopeless and like she has to cry and like she ll eventually have to just accept him as a failure. Along with all of his bad actions he has bad grades and has had detention and suspensions multiple times this year. He is the baby out of all of my siblings and growing up he was spoiled by everybody. Our father has not been active in his life ever, although he was active in my life and the lives of my older brothers. My mom often expresses to me that she doesnt know how to handle him and that she feels like she doesnt want to go home because he is kind of a bully. My mom goes above and beyond trying to help him and do everything for him but he doesn t realize that. When he doesnt get what he wants then he will throw a huge fit and start destroying things around him. We have discussed sending him to boarding school and counseling. I guess my question is how should we handle him if we feel luke he wont listen to anybody and that he might lash out

since my mum is a brunette with pale skin , also my dad is black and most black men remind me of my dad too. why is this?

My dad is in hospital with Guillian-Barre Syndrome which basically causes paralysis. He got it on Christmas Day. I've been to visit the hospital (150 miles away) whenever I can on the weekend after work and he has come along way. I'm so proud of him :) So basically my mum is being awful. Saying no one is helping her when I've been speaking to her everyday, giving her money to get by and buying her food and having her food shopping delivered to her. All she says is hurtful things to me - says that she hates my dad for putting her in this position and that I shouldn't make excuses for him and then she says that "he hasn't been bothered to do anything around the house since he got cancer". I've cleared my bank account trying to help her and now she's not talking to me because I have no money and can't help again until I'm paid again by work. She says she wants him home because she's worried about what people in her village will think. I love my dad and I hate that this is happening but I can't cope with how my mum is treating me and the things she's saying. What should I do?

My mum left home after having verbal fight with dad, idk what was going on, mum said how dad has some sort of other "love" when its not true at all, he hasnt cheated on her. She didnt pack her belonging at all, she only took few of her stuff and thats it. What should i do?

I'm almost 30. My mom never encouraged me to go to college. She always said to just work full time so I could afford to move out. I'm happy that I earned a degree to be a role model for my child. Is she jealous of me?

I always thought that siblings (whether younger/older) were always close. I don't have any brothers or sisters. I have friends that purposely want to live away from their siblings, and yes even younger ones. If I had a sibling, especially a younger brother lets just say, I would think that I would want to be close to them and be part of their lives. I mean, they look up to me. Any opinion? Thank you.

I have no father, but my neighbor and his family has helped take care of us for years, and I have connected with his like a father. There is a word for it that starts with 's' I think. Like, "he is a __________ father to me," The word is NOT secondary, but this is killing me! This would be great to know so when somebody asks. "Who is this" I can say: "He is my _____?_____ father." Rather than "he's like a father to me? Does anybody know what I'm talking about?

Then I also didn't go today because I was just stressed about everything now I'm stressed about the work I'm missing what do I do?

I am an adult so this is not child-like stuff such as curfew or movies I can or can't see. This is emotional needs and his judging. Also his dislike of family I like. Barry A · His needs I am generous of unless they involve holding grudges against my village of people. He only does that when it is for my mother.

I recently told my mom about my brother molesting me for a couple of years when I was younger and that is why I'm still so afraid of him. She keeps saying that she wants to talk to him so maybe she can patch things up between us and get his side of the story. She saying I might have "misinterpreted the situation". I keep telling her that he would never admit to doing it and then he would be furious at me. I told her I genuinely fear for my life if she told him because he always told me that there would be consequences if I told anyone what he did. Especially cause if his wife found out about what he did, she would leave him because she was raped when she was a child. If his wife leaves him and his family cuts him out, what does he have to lose by possibly hurting me or killing me? I still live at home (don't say to just move out because I have a disability that makes that too difficult at the moment) and he still lives at home too (with his wife which I think is ridiculous) so it's not like I can get a safe distance from him. What should I do? Should I let her? If not, how can I convince her not to?

My sister in law and I had a huge falling out over 10 years ago. After time apart we slowly rebuilt our relationship and have gotten very close again. We have been planning a family Disney trip with all our kids for over a year but due to other events we kept pushing it back. These last few weeks we started to plan the trip for real and last week she called me with the dates she wants us to go on and we discussed a bunch of details about the trip. That was the last we spoke. Our husbands work together and they're currently in LA. My sil has gone out there a handful of times to visit her husband and she always tells me when she's going and usually even tries to get me to go to. On Friday I found out through my husband that she was there with my nephew who she never brings. No biggie. Then that night I find out a family friend that lives with her is flying out for the weekend too. Kinda hurt my feelings because I haven't heard anything from her at this point but whatever. The next morning my husband tells me that they all went to Disneyland for the day. Her friend got cheap tickets so she just decided to go. I was shocked and very upset about it. I'm guessing she knew I'd be upset because she told my husband not to tell me. The next day she tagged me on Instagram in her Disneyland post saying they'll be back with us but I have no desire to go with her anymore. She hasn't reached out to me or anything. I don't even want to talk to her. I feel betrayed. What would you do?

Latino dad, asian mum

Im 35 and im sick of taking care of my elderly mean parents. Ive saved a bit of money and am leaving this hell hole but how can i go to another state without a legitimate degree? Dont tell me to go to school im 35 lol too old

My cousin just today hugged me tight around the waist. Before she never did that. Now after a couple of times hanging out she did. By the way I'm a guy and she is a lady

My mom and I have never had a good relationship. I don't know why, our personalities just never clicked. But its amanagable. However, my mom's boyfriend made it worse. he constantly talks bad about me- how I'm self centered, lazy, etc etc and my mother is so passive and she just agrees with everything he says. I got a full ride to college, I have a job, friends, hobbies, etc...and they still talk bad about me. Its gotten to the point where I just avoid talking to them because I know it'll just be insults or negativity- and I get insulted for that! However, he treats my sister nicely. Even though we behave the same, lol. So at this point, I'm not looking to fix this. My mom agrees with everything he says, I don't want to bother, because I've tried. Just, how can I ignore this and not let it get to me? It wrecks me everyday because I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I just need advice in ignoring this. Thanks!

It was a group of her friends and her brothers and friends near the end of the night after A LOT of drinks through the night. These friends and family were out drinking after my grandpas funeral, but my mother is nice when she talks to me so I'm not sure what she means.

My family and I received the news that my sister who lives in another state has passed due to an car accident. I feel like it hasn't really hit me or my parents yet. My other two siblings live on their own with their own families and they do not know the news. My parents wanted to keep quiet about it until after my neice had her birthday (my cousin who passed - that is her daughter, she is turning 14.) I hate to say that I feel like I can't be around the high emotions right now once my parents break the news to the rest of the family. I have always suffered with anxiety and of course now it's heightened., but at the same time, I want to be there for everyone. it's so crazy because both my parents are silent and acting cool now -- of course it just an act not to let my niece know yet.. What is your advise is you have gone through a similar loss? any helpful answers would be greatly appreciated, thank you. sorry - meant to type sister not cousin.

I let him spend the night at his mom who is in the hospital..she has TB bacteria and cant speak english..there was nobody watching her last night so my bf told me his sister was coming at 6am but never came...our son had a doc appt at 10:30 so i picked up my bf around 9:20 then we went to eat and went to Target to buy more formula for our son..then its around 12:30pm my bf says nobody is w. His mama i tried calling her but doesnt pick up then i called the nurse and she said she had just left the room.. my bf wanted to go and seehis mom again and tells me drop him off and go home then pick him up at 3pm..ok from our house to the hospital takes 32 min! We went therecat 1:15 and i came home literally 2! If i pick him up at 3 that means i have to pick him up at 2:25ish because he said his sister in law was going to watch his mama at 3! I got pissed off because thats a waste of gas! And i told him quickly check his mom then come back if she didnt poop on the bed but he gets mad at me!!!

My mom had an addiction to some sort of drug you inject. Apparently we went to visit my grandma, she went to get a pack of cigarettes and just didn't come back for me. She's been sober for years now and has raised an AWESOME 15 year old... not me but my brother. I find myself struggling with an alcohol dependence now, at 28. Is it weird to ask her what she struggled with?

Here's a bit of context to begin with: I'm 16 and my brother is 12, almost 13. We're the only two kids in my family. I'm popular, make good grades, have a boyfriend, I'm pretty average and a good kid. My brother is a good kid to, he's a TOTAL mommy's boy, but he's been addicted to video games since he was maybe 7-8 years old. Since then. ALL he does is play on the family computer. Not only does he wake up early to play before school, and do nothing but play until his bedtime at 8 pm, but when my mom tries to get him off he screams at her. From the other side of the house I constantly hear him screaming at his game every single day. It gives me insane anxiety because when I try to tell him to shut up, my parents do NOTHING. They always say they can handle it but they literally do NOTHING! I'm not asking for him to be just like me, I don't care if he's popular or not, I just don't wan't him to be a weird kid and I'm so sick of my parents letting him destroy his health 24/7 especially after he raged so hard last year that he broke their brand new monitor by throwing the mouse at it. This frustrates me beyond reason and I don't know what the f**k to do.

I'm 27 years older than my sister she's 15 16 in April I'm 41 42 in July. Is this weird ?

I am Dating a woman with a 16 year old and a 17 year old. Her daughters spoiled brats and she lets them do whatever. I am afraid they are gonna end up pregnant. So I am laying down the law. I am grounded them from their cars for sneaking out. Which meant I had to drive them everywhere , because their mother is away on business a lot,which was hell. I turned the kitchen sink hose in them for disrespecting me The gf is sick of all fighting and said we need to learn to get along. I really don't want to lose her They tend to drag things out too. Like I was given them some constructive criticism when I took them to Hawaii for the holidays and they didn't speak to me the whole trip. My girlfriend and I had fun though

My parents are being rude to me. They eat my food that I buy with my own money, they knock on the bathroom door when I'm running the water during a shower. They go in my room without permission and without knocking. What if I was naked??? They also keep pressuring me to move out. I have decent income but bad credit. No one will rent to me because of my bad credit. I had bad credit because I lived beyond my means when I was making minimum wage. I'm trying to move. I don't want to live at home neither. I don't want to live with roommates neither. How can I cope?

I am 18 and want to get a job but my dad wont let me. I also have a license, but my dad won't let me take the car to and from my university (we have more than 1 car). I get $50 a month from my mom's pay check but I want to save up for a trip next year and $50 a month wont be enough. I've tried talking to my dad about letting me get a job but he always says no. What should I do? Am I being over dramatic and just do what he says?

I go to school throughout the wake, and work on Fridays after school and all day Saturday and Sunday. I have a lottttt of homework everynight. And sometimes I just want to take a nap especially since I often get migraines. However if I take any time to take a nap or watch a show she starts screaming. I understand as a parent she is busy but I am too. I see her relaxing every night after about 6 or 7 and at that point I'm still doing homework. She takes out her stress from work on almost everything I do. From how I talk to how my room is ( it's always tidy but it's very hard for me to make it perfect ) or about me not doing anything or trying hard at school ( im a B student) or how I dress. I don't mind helping her out at home it's just she doesn't seem to understand the stress I'm under with studying for ACT and SAT and looking at colleges and homework school and work. I could always live with my dad. I just don't know what to do anymore she just adds so much more stress to my life that I can't handle especially since I can't say normal things or have a normal conversation without her taking everything the wrong way and yelling because she is stressed. I don't know how to fix this situation, does anyone have any ideas on how I can makke this better?

Can you make this sound better? My grammar and English is not very good. 20 years ago, a very intelligent and hardworking man traveled to an unknown land in search of a better life. He started with nothing to opening a restaurant, starting a family and buying a house. Who is this man you may wonder? Well, that man was my dad. My name is Ricky. Today I'm going to tell you how my dad has helped shaped me the way I am today by teaching me hard work, the importance of education, and respect. The first lesson my dad taught me was the value of hard work. My grandparents were poor, they had no money and lived in a small village. Every day my dad would wake up early and help my grandparents with farm work. When my dad was 20 years old, he moved to the United States in search of a better life. My dad had little to no money and didn't know English. When he arrived in the United States, he found a job at a Chinese Restaurant. He would work 12 hours a day and 7 days a week. After work, he would teach him English every day. Eventually, he saved enough and opened a restaurant and started a family. Not only has his hard work allowed me to live a more comfortable life, but it has also impacted my own working habits.