Family: Question: My dad wont let me go to Greece?

Question: My dad wont let me go to Greece?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 03:42 PM PDT

So I'm 15 and got nominated at school to go to EF Greece summer 2019. The whole trip cost $3,610, but the monthly payment is $176. I ask my dad if I could go and he said that he'll let me but I need to make all A's on my grades. So I've been studying my butt off to make A's. It's been kinda hard bc I have band practices and sometimes practices would end around 9 pm and I would stay up until 12 to study. My friends(who also got nominated) and I wanted to do a bake sale so we could fund for part of our trip. I wanted to pay for part of the trip. I ask my mom if I could go over to my friends house to discuss about the bake sale to fund for the Greece trip. My mom said that my dad decided not to let me go weeks ago and he didn't even tell me about it. Apparently he sent the info to my godfather bc he already has 2 daughters who's in college. My godfather said that it's just like a vacation and it's not important and it is also a waste of $. I tried discussing my mom and dad. I said that I'll pay the trip myself if they let me go. They then said that I don't even have a job and that they'll never hire me bc I'm too young. I told them that that's why I'm doing the bake sale. My friends and I were gonna sell bake goods, fund a school dance, and etc. I also told them that my friends offered me a babysitting job from one of the neighborhoods. They said that they're not letting me go do bake sale and babysitting. I said that they're not even letting me trying. How Can I convince them.

Question: Is my mom being too controlling?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 03:36 PM PDT

I am 21, I live on my own, I pay my own bills, I m as adult as any 21 year old can be. My mom however doesn t think so. She recently yelled at me on the phone because she found out I was on birth control pills and told me to stop taking them. She set an appointment with a gynecologist who I did not want to see and tried to make me go. And just today, my grandfather gave me a gun he s had for years, it s basically a family heirloom, he no longer shoots it and wanted me to have it for self defense or maybe if I wanted to go learn deer hunting sometime. I m not particularly interested in deer hunting, but I did decide to learn to shoot the gun. So I bought the bullets for it and found an instructor. Only when she heard about this my mom lost it, she yelled at me and told me I didn t need the gun and all this and that. I ve tried to talk to her and explain that she s being too controlling but I can t make her hear me. Any advice on what I should do? I m so confused by her behavior.

Question: I am tired and sad of being outside the family clan. How do I get the extended family to welcome me into the family clan?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 03:04 PM PDT

I define clan as relatives who see each other, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Weddings, Funerals, Baptisms, Graduations, etc...... I define those outside the clan but related as those that we just see at reunions and funerals but are polite to. That is me. How do I get back into the extended family clan on my Mom's side? My Mom committed suicide 9 years ago and I have been outside the clan ever since though the relatives are polite if they see me at funerals or one time they had me to a wedding (I was not asked to the other 2 weddings). My Dad says it is not me but him they don't want to see as they blame him since my parents were divorced. This could all be true but it is NOT my fault. I reach out but only get brief and polite replies with no one wanting to get together. I have 19 cousins and they are all close to one another but my brother and I are the sole "outsiders" the "other" group that has the Mom who killed herself and there fore is NOT in the clan though related. I feel so much shame about it. I am obsessed on it. How do I get them to welcome me into the family clan and reciprocate my outreach? I am 20 so don't need Dad to drive me places anymore.

Question: My uncle on my mother's side is an alcoholic. Does this mean he will die young unless he gets help?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:54 PM PDT

Question: Are you close to all your 1st cousins that live within one hour of you?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:54 PM PDT

Question: Should I be concerned?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:53 PM PDT

I have two daughters and found search history of step father and daughter porn on my bfs search history. The time he searched it was when I had my daughter out side playing with me and her cousins, and he had slipped off without a word and the next day I saw the history and that it had been searched at that time. This to me is gut wrenching and it makes me wonder what thoughts are in his head and if I should be concernd for my childrens safety. What should I do??

Question: My Mom's sister is nice to us (her nephews) but abusive verbally to her kids. Why would she be nicer to us then to her own children?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:48 PM PDT

No physical abuse, just verbal to the three kids that aren't perfect. She spoils the perfect one.

Question: My mother likes to degrade people of other races but is nice to their face. Is my mother still racist?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:47 PM PDT

Question: How to handle bad family during a pregnancy and birth...?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:18 PM PDT

My dad s side of the family is the definition of drama. They make things up and gossip about each other, they insult you and pretend they never did and that YOU are the crazy person, they make up stories to fit their agenda. Example: They told distant family that my husband is an alcoholic and will probably hit me one day. My husband has never even raised his voice to me, and drinks maybe 1-2 drinks a week. While out baby shopping, my grandma wouldn t lay off of me about my feelings towards my dad (which aren t great) and I asked her 3-4 times to let it go as I was publicly crying at this point. She kept on and I lost it. I never curse in front of them, but I told her to f*** off and I left. She has twisted the story of course, making me out to be horrible, and now is not speaking to me so that she "doesn t stress the baby because I am so sensitive" I ve decided to keep them out of my life. They have not had any part in my pregnancy. They are not invited to my shower. However, they fully expect to show up at the hospital when he is born. I d rather them not. Should I set a time limit? Should I say we will take visitors when we are home and comfortable? Should I ask them to not come at all? I just need advice.

Question: My dad passed away when I was a baby, my name isn’t on his death certificate, should I be concerned?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 01:50 PM PDT

My dad passed away in 1994, I was only one and a half. I came across his old death records while I was cleaning my mother's living room, who's 72. My name wasn't on the legal death records documents under the "children of the deceased" list, my sister's name was and she was 4 at the time, and also his children before he met my mother. My name also wasn't on a hand written letter that she had about funds social security, only written as "For me and my daughter". Maybe it was a legal thing because I was a baby or, should I be concerned? Kind of don't want to ask her because it would be awkward or maybe too invasive, but should I?

Question: What can I do to avoid this feeling?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 01:44 PM PDT

I met my half sister for the first time last year at our dad's funeral. She is soo hot, I know incest is wrong and unacceptable but i am sharing my honest feeling here on this forum anonymously. I am also a handsome dude (or so I have been told), so I guess it runs in our genes. Anyways, I find myself jerking off to her social media photos because I dont want anything awkward to happen when I am around her or speakng to her. I release, so that I have a less chance of getting an awkward erection when I am around her or something. I know this is also wrong, so how can I stop feeling this way. I know I can hide the feeling, which I need to do, but can I get the feeling to go away completely?

Question: What can I do with my nephew who only likes video games?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 12:21 PM PDT

I love my nephew, but he only plays video games. I don't like video games. - I take him to the pool, he doesn't let me teach him to swim. - I take him to the ice rink, he doesn't let me teach him to ice skate. - I take him to the trampoline park, he doesn't let me teach him how to do flips. - I take him to the fighting gym, he doesn't let me teach him boxing, wrestling or jiu jitsu. - I bought him a bicycle, he doesn't let me teach him how to ride. - I bought him a skateboard, he doesn't let me teach him how to use it . - I take him to climbing wall, he doesn't want to climb with me. I play video games with him because wants me to. But I really find video games boring. What can I do with my nephew who only likes video games?

Question: My nephew commited suicide and my dying father doesn't know and wants to see him. Any help?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 12:12 PM PDT

My father is 89 and terminally ill as he's got Hodgkin's lymphoma stage 4. Doctors told us that he may live 3 weeks,maybe a month. There are moments when he's concious while others he's given drugs for not feeling his pain. My brother's son,a veteran of operation enduring freedom,commited suicide 4 nights ago hanging himself. He was very close to my father and wrote he couldn't see him anymore like that. We decided not to tell anything to our father. Today he asked when Nathan (my nephew) will come visit him and it broke my heart. I told him that Nathan will come to see him afterwards but now I don't know what to do. Plus my brother,who's now making plans for his son's funeral wanted to know if his son,as a honorably dischaged marine,is entiled to a funeral with full honors TELLING HIM THE TRUTH IS OUT OF QUESTION. IT WOULD BE CRUEL

Question: Is it okay to punch my sister when she wont stop annoying me?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 11:40 AM PDT

Question: Mom punished me for nothing?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 11:25 AM PDT

So my friends and I are supposed to skype to do homework, but they can't hear or see me. They even say so with my mom listening. Then my mom says okay listen to them but you're punished. I tried to tell her that we kept trying different things but she told me she didn't want to talk to me. I have a bunch of important stuff today and i can't miss. OKAY IM SORRY LEMME CLEAR IT UP. First of all, I'm 12 years old (ik I'm underage but just please help me with this one thing.) My all female, 12 and 13 year old homeschooled friends always do homework together. We skype each other. This week, I couldn't get connected, and my mom got all mad for some reason. I don't know why, I don't see what I did wrong. What do you think I should do? She won't talk to me either. I can't be grounded today, I have really important rehearsals.

Question: My mom is mad at me because I won't let her see sensitive areas of my body?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 11:08 AM PDT

It's not that I'm embarrassed or ashamed of my body. I like my body, but I'm just not comfortable with people seeing it. Some background info, sometimes when my mom sees me in my bra she tells me my breasts are getting bigger or something, and she wants me to remove the bra a little (from the side) so she can see how much they've grown. Im reluctant about it so she gets upset because she's my mother and apparently I shouldn't have a problem with showing her. So yesterday, I was wearing my shirt without a bra to go sleep, so she said "Oh you're not wearing a bra" and she grabbed my shirt's sleeve so I shrugged her off. I knew she was gonna try moving it to see the side of my breast or something. Because of that, SHE got mad and we got in a fight. I told her i don't let anyone see my body so idk why she's taking it so personally. She says "well I'm not ANYONE I'm your MOTHER." In case anyone says anything, she is not a pedophile or is being sexually abusive. She just has these expectations for the perfect mother daughter relationship and she expects me to live up to every one of them. Why can't she just accept that I'm not comfortable with people, including her, seeing my body? She doesn't have to constantly try and make me feel guilty about, like I'm supposed to feel guilty for not freely showing her how my breasts look in my bra. It's like she wants me to force myself out of my comfort zone just to please her. I'm not sure that's how healthy relationships work. Advice?

Question: If a family member that you don't get along with is dying, should you go to their funeral?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 11:00 AM PDT

My cousin is dying of cancer, but we don't get along because she stole and eventually married by boyfriend in high-school and she left me 800 dollars in debt with a simple '**** you' when I let her use my phone for work and she ran up the bill. Now she's dying and my granny is angry & on my head about seeing her before she dies as well as attending the funeral. As I've said, I don't get along with her so I don't care that she's dying and as awful as this sounds... I think about my money and feel a little happiness and warm relief in my breast at the prospect. Still I don't want my granny to be cross with me so I dunno. I may go. What do you think I should do?

Question: Husband and I fight too much how do I quit being the neighbourhood crazy lady?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 10:48 AM PDT

yell too much because he won't stop badgering me and he scares me. I get along with everyone else great. I drink too much at night after he goes to bed because I need to be calm and the wine mellows me out.I try to ignore his behavior but he constantly argues and harasses me about doing things the best way. I want to leave so bad. He follows me everywhere I go .He compares everything I do to his dead mom. If I watch anything on tv he doesn't like or go , or go out with other people there is hell to pay when I come home. I am sick to death of it. He tries and controls everything do and never gives me any space. I have tried to get a job, but everyone talks about our fighting and blames me. I have enough money to get a junky car and that is about it. Also he told everyone I was in a mental hospital Valentine's day weekend because of all this crap and my grandma and two my friends died. Which was totally embarrassing. He didn't use to be this bad until he got promoted at work. I am currently in counseling which is helping a little. He doesn't like counseling. I hate to be a bag lady that lives in her car, though. Peace and quiet might be nice.

Question: How do you talk to someone who hardly speaks to you?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 09:54 AM PDT

My sister in law hardly speaks to me when i see her which is only a couple times a year and every other for a week in fl . That trip she hardly has anything to do with me . I try to lighten the mood and make conversatjon but she wont even look my way ,how do you talk or handle someone like that

Question: Shall I marry my first cousin?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 09:12 AM PDT

I'm 32 man in India and work as a 3d animator. My first cousin (mother's elder sister's daughter) is 42 years old, she is a doctor. She married around 7 years ago and after few weeks she got divorced. My mother and I go to see my aunt once few months and the cousin become so friendly with me. Now we even chat in skype some times and there is a romance growing up between us. What I want to know, is it good idea to marry someone older than 10 years and especially when she is the first cousin? So have 3 problems, 1. she is 10 years older than me. 2. She is my first cousin. 3. She is divorced within few weeks, I still dont know why is that. Pros: She is a doctor (psychologist), she likes me, she is so pretty for her age.

Question: My brother is too bossy!?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 08:22 AM PDT

My brother is my legal guardian, and he is just so bossy! He just loves to tell me what to do! Like, he's given me a ten o' clock curfew (which my parents never had; basically their rule was just to call if I was going to be later than usual, because they actually trusted me). I admit, sometimes I get home around midnight or later, so I guess that makes him worry, but he gets just as mad if I'm home, like, ten minutes late! At that point, it's just a power play, him wanting to show who's in charge or whatever. It's also really annoying when I come home from school, and I just want to relax or talk to friends, and then he starts pounding me to do my homework! Like, he doesn't get that I plan to do it later, he just wants to order me to do it immediately. He's always doing these stupid little things, just to show that he's in charge, which is stupid; like, I already know that he's in charge, why does he have to be so bossy about it? What should I do?

Question: Did you have time to repay back what your father gave you in life?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 07:38 AM PDT

Question: Isn't this wrong?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 07:36 AM PDT

My parents never leave money at home for my brother when I babysit him or take him places. But, he wants to buy food. How am I supposed to get food for him if they are too careless to leave money. My dad even complained bc I wasn't willing to pay for my brothers fast food. It's not his fault. It's his parents that should know he's only 12. I'm 24.

Question: Hello everyone! Can someone please tell me what effects and decisions my parents can make if i want to have a baby when im under 18?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 06:54 AM PDT

I know that to some my question might seem absurd or too immature. But i have felt the pain and in complete misery. So here today, I bravely stand up to ask the question I never dared to. Although I'm only 16 now, my will and instinct to become a mother is too overwhelming that it aches me when i put my hand on my empty womb. I have a boyfriend who always supports me and he is too willing to become a father. But the problem is that is this lawfully illegal and what effects and decision can our parents make at this point? Also you should probably know that we are able to supply our baby's demand enough.

Question: Why does my dad care about me more than anyone in my family?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 05:52 AM PDT

Question: Is it true that even though family may have bitter falling outs they always have a bond and end up back together in the end?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 04:36 AM PDT

My father told me this in 2011 when my Mom was using me as a pawn in a fight with her brother. Indeed she and her brother get along again but now her brother is in a war with her sister (my Mom is neutral so I am not used in this one). I thought family falling outs were like divorces where the relatives often never speak again and cousins are forever blocked from seeing one another.

Question: My Mom's cousin was possessed by the devil when I was a kid and left her husband because of it. Can she still be forgiven?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 04:31 AM PDT

Question: I yelled at my sister after she used my laptop again without asking me and she cried? Should I feel bad or is she just overreacting?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:45 AM PDT

Tbh she always starts crying when people yell at her or just raise their voice even though shes 16 already so I would say shes definitely too sensitive. What do you think?

Question: How to make sizzurp with yellow promethazine?

Posted: 28 Sep 2017 02:10 AM PDT

Question: How do I get out of being stuck in a family business?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 11:19 PM PDT

I have been working at my family s store for years now. Since the beginning, I told them I didn t want to be involved or be kept as little involved as possible. I left for college for a semester, but came back because my father needed my help. I stayed with the store since then to ensure he would have a solid right hand man. A month passed and he found himself a new job. He still wants me to run the family business, (he is still part owner). However, this job makes me severely depressed and fatigued. I told him he has a a month and a half to find my replacement, however he keeps saying that I m going to be working till they find a replacement. He s not really searching for the replacement, so what should my next step be?

Question: I HATE MY SISTER?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:50 PM PDT

I fell on hard times recently & was evicted. Now me & my small dog have nowhere to live. But I just received an job offer & my starting date is in 3 wks. In the meantime I have a 3-wk temp job until I start my new job, 3 applications submitted for apts & I may qualify for assistance with a security deposit. So it's a matter of about 3 wks before I have another apt. My sister wont let me & my dog stay in her home for 3 wks bcz "dogs are not allowed" where she lives - BUT I KNOW there are a FEW ppl who have DOGS IN her bldg & I only need to be there for 2 or 3 wks. My MOM said I can't stay with her bcz she "doesn't have space". I cant spend $$ on a hotel or rented room bcz I need this money for the new apt. FAMILY is supposed to be there at a time like this & I'm angry MY FAMILY won't let me stay in their home for a measly 2 or 3 weeks!! I have no other family to go to. Am I right to be mad at my family?? Wouldn't YOU be angry too??

Question: Why Did Ex Keep Looking at Me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:27 PM PDT

He didn't want to get back together. So we've had no contact for 2 months he saw me the last 2 sundays at church and just couldn't take his eyes off me, staring. I caught him a couple times and he looked down and back up. However he hasn't contacted me?? My cousin also saw him looking and said he looked flustered.

Question: How do I explain to my daughter about animal abuse and how another child is a bad influence?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:15 PM PDT

I am not letting my 10 year old daughter near a girl her age who is killing small animals. Children observe, and it sometimes messes up their sense of right and wrong when they see someone doing something cruel. I'm VERY concerned about this girl's wellbeing as well because something might be going on at home. Her parents have a history of drug use. My daughter is upset with me because I'm being "mean" but she doesn't see how harmful this girl's actions are - to the animals, herself, and anyone who interacts with her. I keep a few fancy goldfish and they will always be off-limits to my child's "friend". I would never risk any pets or loved ones to dangers, and this child is just ONE of those risks. How do I explain to my daughter about hurting animals?

Question: Disgusting family members?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:25 PM PDT

My brother occasionally made sexual advances towards me when I was a child, I'm still traumatized from those events till this day. It could have been worse. These experiences make me want to get away from family forever, their not very comforting or supportive as they should. The majority of the time I'm belittled by them, often told I can't do anything. I was wondering if I'd be a good idea to just disconnect myself from them?

Question: I caught my mom doing Heroin.?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:09 PM PDT

I'm 13 years old. I'm not going to try to drag this out, but I'm going to explain the situation I currently have. My mom is a drug addict, for 5 months, I think. She is friends with sketchy assholes who steal my stuff. Now, I haven't lived with her for 2 months, but I do visit her often. She would take 40-50 minute long bathroom trips, she always had bruises, and around in the summer of 2016, I found a spoon and needle in a eye glasses case. She always seemed in a daze, and constantly scratched and yelled at me. I shrugged it off, it doesn't bother me too much anymore. Please forgive my typing mistakes, I'm very emotional right now. Today, I walked into the bathroom, which was wide open, and caught her with the needle (full of liquid), the burnt spoon, and multiple bloody napkins. I was furious, and stormed off. She begged me not to tell my babushka, she tried bribing me, and blocking me from getting out of the house. I'm fine now, though. My mom claims she has been in rehab, but BULLSHIT. She hasn't been doing crap to help herself, and I'm so mad about this. What should I do to help her? I'm young, so I could only do so much. I appreciate all the advice I can possibly get, but for now, I'm staying away from her.

Question: Concerned about my little sister she’s just 12 ?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:58 PM PDT

So in the family me and my sister Kimberly (different sister) have been watching twilight ever since day 1 when it was released we become in love with it and continued watching it .. then my sister Kimberly went to college around when the 3rd movie was released so we stop having contact and she stop having interest in twilight. So without no company for me to watch twilight it wasn't cool you know. So my little sister Marilyn started her watching the series just a couple weeks ago and she was in love with it ! I was really happy I would finally be able to watch twilight with my little sis and it was exciting that she liked it too. But I noticed she became a bit to attached to Edward (a character) she's always saying how "hot" he is and she's been basically obsessed with him which I'm concerned cuz it could be something mental ? I don't know im probably over reacting but yeah I need help she's obsessed with a fictional character and I'm worried

Question: Should my step sisters be doing this to me?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:23 PM PDT

I an a high school senior with twin step sisters my age, my step mother's daughters. They are both gorgeous with a figure to die for. They like to come in my room in the evening so I can help them do their homework. I am happy to help them as I really like them. The problem is when they come in for homework help they wear their shorty nightgown and nothing else. Everything is visible. I would NEVER EVER have sex with my sisters. However my weenee sometimes has a mind of it's own and I get a b0ner. It is totally embarrassing when this happens. They don't know I sometimes do this as I hide it from them. When I ask them to wear more clothes when the come into my room, they tell me there is no way I should be sexually attracted to them. Does this make me a perverted sick guy?

Question: I think I'm doing too much for my friends stepdaughter?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:09 PM PDT

I take her to school, I pick her up, feed her and since I make my daughter do her homework right after school I tell the child to do hers too. I take her to cheer practice and bring her back. My friend is an rn and I understand they work long hours but only 3 days of the week. I told her I would help her the days she's working but she tells me to take her home even when she's not working I feel like telling her if she's marrying this guy then she needs to make the little girl her priority but then the dad doesn't help he doesn't put his part as a parent either he leaves it all to her knowing she doesn't make her priority. How can I tell her I'm done with this and she needs to take responsibility. She's not a bad person she just doesn't know how to be a parent.?

Question: My dad won’t let me go to Greece?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 07:19 PM PDT

So I'm 15 and I got nominated at school to go to Greece 2019. The whole trip cost 3,610 and my school team up with EF to make this happen. I told my dad about it and it also said that it'll look good on my college applications and I will have a higher chance of getting accepted. My dad said that he would let me go if I made 95 and above on all of my grades. I've been studying really hard just to make a 97 and above. I also wanted to help pay for part of my trip so my friends (who also got nominated) and I were thinking of doing a bake sale. I ask my mom if I could come over to my friends house so we could discuss about the bake sell to fund for the trip to Greece. My mom said that my dad decided not to let me go bc it cost to much and it's a waste of money. Apparently he sent the info about Greece to my godfather bc he have two daughters who's already in college. My godfather said that it's like a vacation and that it's not important so my dad said no. He haven't even tell me and kept it for weeks, and I've been working my butt off. I tried discussing to my mom and she said that I have to ask my dad to let me go. I tried discussing with my dad and he said that he's not going to pay for the trip bc it's too expensive. I said that I'll find some ways to pay for the trip myself and I will make good grades . He said he'll think about it but it's been a week and the enrollment is due in three days. What should I do?

Question: Dealing with mom who treats me like in am 13!?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 07:12 PM PDT

I am a 30 year old woman who does not live at home and my mom treats me with no respect as an adult. She lectures me over things and goes on and on sometimes and it is strating to hurt my feelings. I am a family oriented person and she and my father treat me like I am a 13 year old that lives in their house. Anyone else out there that deals with this? I am married, have a job and my husband told me not to hang out with them anymore but that is hard to do.

Question: Not sure how to deal with rude mother?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 06:29 PM PDT

I do not live with her!!!

Question: Is it possible for a mother to be jealous of their daughter? Has anyone ever felt like their own mother was jealous of them?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 06:13 PM PDT

I am 22 years old and me and my mom have always had a good relationship but growing up she would always put me down and discourage me and she still does today. When I'm doing something good or have done something good she never congratulates me but she'll constantly remind me of mistakes that I've made. It almost feels like she doesn't want me to be better and be successful I just feel like she has this hate/jealousy/love relationship towards me. When I am down and struggling she does not support me at all. She constantly picks on my body type and I am 5ft4 and 145 pounds by the way she'll constantly say oh your skinny like a toothpick not only my body but she constantly makes criticising remarks about my personality. I'm a laidback, cool, nice person and she always tells me how she wished she would have brought me up in the city instead of in the suburbs because she thought I would have been more outspoken and street smart. She has always tried to constantly compare me to her. It's hard to be around her because every time I do I always end up feeling worser.

Question: PLEASE help: Mom racial profiles boyfriend, then forces me to choose between him and college?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:39 PM PDT

I'm 20 yo & I am about to graduate this spring with my associates degree and honors. My parents are very strict, esp. my mom. Ex: tracks my location, looks through my phone, etc. My bf is black, 23, has a child, & isn't going to school (his current job will be paying for his schooling & he is going back tho). He treats me perfectly. I won't explain how bc I don't need to. He treats me how I deserve &makes me happy & that's that. I'd marry him. I know he is genuine with me & we love ea. other. My dad's against me seeing someone in general and doesn't know the details about him. If he did, he'd be just as mad as my mom. Some of my MOMs arguments here are illogical, as you will see: 1. He had a child out of wedlock. He will always have to provide for her. 2. He'll always have a tie with the mother of his child. 3. Every guy treats you right in the beginning. 4. I will probably get an STD, bc he has prob slept around. He will cheat. 5. Black men are lazy. (He works 7 days a week). 6. I will spend the rest of my life financially supporting him. 7. I would have a broken family with him. My mom said its between him and them. If I choose him, I get cut off (no school, no phone, no car). 1. Do I move out with him (he said he'll take care of everything and to just worry about school) and delay my schooling? 2. Would this be my fault? Is this even fair? My parents are forcing me between two important things in my life. That's why I thought of #1... a (somewhat) compromise.

Question: I'm 14 and my 3 year old sister calls me mom and says that she's my kid. What should I do?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:37 PM PDT

Question: I'm in DEEEEP trouble with my parents. Please help.?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:12 PM PDT

I've always not had many friends. I found some old ones at a nearby park that went to a old school. After a while (days) I realize my parents arnt home and I ask them if they want to come over. I get that kids my age (15) do stupid ****, but I've always tried to stay out of that crowd. I wasn't gonna "party" or anything dumb. I just wanted to play a video game with them. I heard a scream from the other room, my parent. I then saw them. (I was so in shock I thought I was dreaming) as soon as they saw the parent they both booked it and I was in deep ****. I've gotten no "punishment" besides a slap that I understand was well deserved but I don't know what to do. They haven't spoken to me and they were just leaving (that's how I miscalculated time, I was early before they left and were caught.) I'm real worried about my other parent though. I know they won't beat me or be abusive but it's gonna be bad. What should I do? How do I respond? Any help please. (15 man) I was in my living room and my parents yelled at them to leave when they noticed them. They booked it and I was in deep s__t. I'm sorry for writing so bad, it's a very bad time.

Question: I don't want my sister?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:06 PM PDT

Ok now before you all start bashing me and telling me I'm selfish and i should love my family and everything, let me explain please. Im 16 years old in 11th grade and I have two older brother and my sister is the oldest. She is 26, brother is 25, and the youngest brother is 24. And the thing is, I just feel like I wasn't meant to have a sister. I'm nothing like her number one, I'm more of a punk and she's more into fashion and works with it too, but this might sound horrible but.. I just don't like her. yeah she's my family but I just want to be the only girl in my family, you know? And when I meet people and they ask e about my siblings I just say i have two older brothers and I'm the youngest. I honesty have no respect for my sister. It's not that she's mean to me or anything, but I have a girl in my grade who has two older brothers and she's the youngest (MY DREAM FAMILY I KNOW.) But look, can't any of you relate? I mean, sometimes I wouldn't mind having a younger BROTHER, but never a sister. When i was little i always loved being the youngest bc i was the baby of the family of course.. but I'm not saying i wish i was a boy too.. I'm just saying i wish i was the only girl. Also i always said id never want a daughter either. ALWAYS A SON. I don't know why i feel this way.. its been going on for a while.. as a kid i never noticed this but as I'm getting older i wish it was just the three of us.. (2 brothers and me..) Can anyone relate or have any advice? :// I know the title sounds horrible but please have empathy and put yourself in my shoes. :// OH COME ON GUYS OBVIOUSLY IM NOT GUNNA KILL HER JUST GIVE ME ADVICE GOD I'm more of a punk like my youngest brother.. the oldest one not so much.

Question: My family, deceased, is in my head controlling me. They have hacked me from the next life. How do I break free?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:50 PM PDT

Question: Hola necesito ayuda, sin animo de ofender a nadie quisiera saber como le explico a mi hijo de once años, qué es un pete?? Disculpen, GRACIAS?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:49 PM PDT

Question: When are children too old to see their mothers naked?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:44 PM PDT

Is it different for boys and girls?

Question: Is it possible to unspoil my overly spoiled 19 year old son?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:40 PM PDT

My son still lives with me and my husband. He doesn't work and I don't require him to pay rent since it is unnecessary but I do ask him to pick up after himself and to clean the house and have it nice so when me and my husband come home that's something we don't have to worry about. He doesn't do that though, he leaves his clothes literally everywhere, he makes himself food and leaves dishes scattered on the counter etc. My husband and I give him pocket money so if he ever needs snacks or shoes he can go get them. Instead he buys 90 dollar shirts and he even came home with one of those hoverboard things. We also got him a really nice jeep which he wrecked and he demanded us to get him a replacement. We got the car fixed and didn't hear one thank you. He's blessed to have a lot of privileges other people don't have but he takes it for granted. I got him a credit card and put a couple hundred in it every 2 weeks or so. He spends it in a couple days then comes to me asking for more so he can get even more useless items and when I tell him no he throws a tantrum like a little child. I don't want to kick him out because I love him so much but I want to be respected in my home and I want him to stop being so spoiled and childish! How do I accomplish this??

Question: I found a condom in my Dad and step-mother's room. Should I tell my Mom that my Dad is cheating on her with my step-Mom?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:40 PM PDT

Or should I leave it be since they are divorced. I am hurting and upset about it and couldn't focus at school today.

Question: My cousin from Atlanta is in town this weekend. Am I being disloyal to the family if I don't visit her?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:39 PM PDT

Nothing against her as she is very nice, but I think it would be rude to show up at her parents house. I am a lot older so we didn't pay together as kids. Yet, her cousins her age will likely see her. Am I an unfaithful family member not to call her? I'd rather wait until a family event like a wedding or Christmas to see her so not to be rude to my aunt by inviting myself over. Yet, is it disloyal to the family to not see an out of town family member I know when they are in town? I am scared I will annoy my aunt by going over. But I am scared I will be the unloyal one if I don't. I want to be in the family clan but don't want to impose.

Question: My aunt tells me she would never leave her kids with my psycho mother. My feelings are hurt she said this. Should I tell her?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:36 PM PDT

Question: My new step-mother is only 4 years older then I am. I feel attracted when I am with her and people ask stuff. How do I explain it?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:33 PM PDT

They see me and think it is my girlfriend but it is my Dad's new wife. She is 24 and he is 61. I am 20 years old. It is so embarrassing. My Dad had an affair on my other step-mother and she left him and then he left that mistress for this chick who is 24. At least the mistress was his age. My Dad married this woman over the summer and they'd only dated since February. I am so embarrassed but I don't want to divorce my Dad out of my life like my mother suggested when she heard. It is my Dad's 4th marriage and this 24 year old's 1st. I put it was my Dad's 4th marriage but I realized it is his 5th. It is his 4th in my life and he was married once before my mother. Each marriage he has left the wife for someone new so he likely will do the same to this woman. But usually the marriages last about 10 years so I am stuck with this woman for a while.

Question: My mom passed away about 10 years ago and i want to get the same necklace she had but i can t find it does anyone know what I can do?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:33 PM PDT

I have been looking all of the internet for a necklace just like hers and i can t find anything similar to hers! it looks like a sideways loop like in a roller coaster and then it has a pearl at the end, help please, i want to keep my Mama s memory alive.

Question: Dad found apple pipe?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:30 PM PDT

My dad caught me with weed like last week but I told him a fake story and I think even though he was suspicious he kind of let it slide. Today I came home from football practice and me and my dad started arguing about something stupid and literally out of anger he just went through my whole backpack, and I didn't sweat it but he pulled out an apple pipe I made out of boredom which is basically a apple with holes in it and asked what it was. I just said it was an apple that I was playing around with. He doesn't know what it is but I'm pretty sure he knows there's more to it than just that because he said he's going to take it to work and tell his coworker to ask his son who is a police officer to look at it. My plan was to make a few more holes in spots he might not have really looked at to make it seem like it really was just an apple somebody was messing with but other than that I'm kinda stuck here.

Question: Is it wrong of me for wanting to disappear from my family for a bit?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:26 PM PDT

I don t have any family issues, I just feel the need to get away for a bit from them. No contact, no way of me getting tracked down. I just want to live life a bit and experience new things.

Question: Why does my sister think its a good idea to come into my room in the night cuz she had a nightmare and cant sleep? I also have to sleep?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:47 PM PDT

I mean she's not a little child anymore but 16 already so she should be able to deal with it on her own when she had a nightmare?

Question: Why do we HURT the ones we LOVE?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:44 PM PDT

What consequences can arise from being cruel to loved ones?

Question: Is my boyfriend sleeping with her step cousin?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:39 PM PDT

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, he has never introduced me to his friends or parents. He's close with his step cousin (his dad is married to the girls aunt) who he has currently known now for 2 years recently all of a sudden I've seen his other friends and her become friends on Facebook, pictures and posts of them all the time being uploaded ( at first I thought it was family bonding or getting close to new family sort of thing) Then a month ago he told me they were moving in together because it's easier for money for both of them. At first I was weirded out by it as there not blood related and he's only knew her two years but then I thought again she's his family so why am I so worried. Recently he started talking about her all the time. The most f**ked up thing was that last week when we were in the middle of having sex he just stopped and then picked his phone up and started messaging her!! WTF!!. I added her on Facebook and she accepted me. Yesterday I asked him if they have ever slept together before and he said I was 'crazy' so I mentioned that they weren't blood related and have only knew eachother for two years and he just then got really defensive and told me to 'stay out of it and that it was none of my business'. What the actual f*ck is going on?