My in-laws did it 15 years ago, and it kind of inspired us to do it as well. We've been saving up for a while already, but when I told my mother about it, she disagreed with our plan. She told me in spanish to tell my husband to, "get off the cloud". She mentioned that Vegas isn't a good place to get married because it's considered a "sin city". Then she suggested that we should get married in our small hometown first, and then travel to Vegas afterwards. I was really hyped about our plan, but after what my mother told me and how she said it, it just made me feel like we shouldn't do it after all. Maybe she's right? Or maybe she should be more encouraging? I'm confused. I imagined her being happy and excited for me.

We're both 30, college educated with careers. We've ONLY been dating 2 months, but I have a really good feeling about him. We live 70 minutes away from one another -which is no big deal especially since I had already been planning to move to his general area even before I met him. The issue is that The main city and sister cities cover a wide area -he can still be a 45 minute drive away depending on where exactly I move to in his "general area". For several reasons, I need to start applying for jobs by this April (we'll have been together 11 months by then) and then start my job in August (I'm a special education teacher). This is what I want to say to him, "Do you see us getting engaged and married in the future? I know it's a little soon to talk about this but if we end up together I would love to be applying for jobs in your immediate area NOW so that I don't have to relocate yet again in another year or so when we get engaged and married. However, I know it's not a smart thing to do till I have a ring on my finger -and I'm genuinely not saying that to pressure you. I just feel so confused on where exactly to apply". Honestly, if we're still together come April, I'm going to be so conflicted on where to apply. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? I already have anxiety about April Alternatively, I could hang onto my job in my city for this year AND next year, which will give us more time together before taking a big step -it's just my district is charging me $5,000 for each year I'm going through the teacher clearing process with them ( 10k total and a 4 year agreement to stay) so I feel a bit pressured to get out of this district before I owe a lot of money since I was never planning to stay in this city anyways (lots of crime and gangs)

Long story short my husband and I had a no kid wedding and his niece brought her newborn. He let it slide even though he wanted her to leave. Well the baby cried during the I do's. During the reception she breast fed in front of everyone and all the attention was on her the entire wedding. She ruined my wedding! It was about my husband and I and she made it all about her and her stupid baby! My husband is even pissed and told her that she was very disrespectful, rude, and attention seeking. Why the hell would she do this?!

Is it because men are just scared of losing the house and paying child support or alimony so they just stay in miserable marriages feeling stuck ? Or are men happier with their marriages since they were the ones doing the proposing and so they picked wanted to be with rather than women who often times just settle for a guy because she's pushing 30+ and doesn't want to be unmarried since her friends are all married with kids ? Which is it ? Also, do husbands normally enjoy going down on their wife, cuddling, or no ?

Husband for years has been accusing me of sleeping with other men when I haven't. I've never even gone out with male friends. He has never seen me with another man or found anything that would prove I am in fact sleeping with someone else. I'm young and when I get my "needs" I handle it on my own. I've never felt the need to find another man for pleasure. I am however unhappy and angry that he calls me a ***** and a hoe when he's really angry thinking that I have probably had sex prior to the argument, whenever he starts one. He kept condoms that we bought from over a year ago in his car that I found recently. He claims to have forgotten to get rid of them and instead place them in the car. The condoms are the same brand we use but how do I know he's not the one who's actually slept around? While I've found evidence-based proof, he hasn't found anything on me yet he still claims I'm a cheater. Should I divorce and move on? I want to be happy, I mean who doesn't?

My husband of three years was having a party a Superbowl party at our house and I walked in around 11pm and found him in our bed with a man super drunk. He didn't remember anything in the morning and I'm know he's not bi because I never seen any signs. Should I divorce him ?

I really only marrird her nice butt and breasts but she i guess her personality is kinda good too

so many good people who do this get taken advantage of, while bad men and women who rarely put their spouse first get loyal partners? It makes no sense to me. And no not all good people are pushovers, so don't use that as an excuse. Why do bad boys and bad girls get all the loyal partners while good people who do put their spouses first always end up hurt? Putting your spouse first makes no sense to me, knowing this selfish world.

My husband and I have been having spats lately about some stupid stuff. Like today he said he wanted to do fireworks since on the 4th it was raining and we couldn't. I have to be up early tomorrow but I suggested we do them Friday since I have off the weekend. He grumbled and gave me the silent treatment until he finally snapped at me when I said I was tired of him always throwing a fit when he doesn't get his way. I pretty much told him he needed to knock off the tantrums (I referred to saying that we don't let our daughter get what she wants when she throws a fit so neither should he) or we just weren't going to do fireworks at all. Currently I am the only one with a job. He lost his job less than a month ago when the business he was working for went out of business. I work full time at a physically straining job. I am also 7 months pregnant with baby #2 & the doctors have me listed as semi high risk. I am allowed to work, do not need to be on bedrest (I was on bedrest with the first) but I am also not supposed to push myself. One of our other fights has to do with the household chores. I just feel like if I dont do them, they will never get done. He's home the whole time I am gone and just today the only thing he got done was SOME of the dishes. Didnt wash any of the pots or pans. I also asked him over a week ago to take out the trash and he has yet to do that either. I've tried everything I can think of and it is driving me nuts. Our daughter isn't even home when I work.

When I know that I'm happy and compatible with my wife/family/life. Is this common? I do know it's ridiculous-but it does keep popping into my mind lately. Being really honest here. I read about this question often on-line. Is this a universal thing and common to most? That special love?

I left my husband of 4 months because he was physically abusive. The abuse started from the honeymoon itself, he has yelled at me in public 3 times, broken lamps and threatened to hit me with them. He has dragged me across the floor by grabbing my arm , he has held my neck a couple of times and has pressed it once. He has slapped me repeatedly which resulted in bruises on my cheek. He started goin for counseling by himself before I left him. He admits putting his hands on me cannot be justified. He cries and regrets it however, he recently told me that I wasn't a good wife to him. Sure, I didn't cook and clean as much as he wanted me to but I gave my all to this marriage and after each abusive incident I calmed him down, showered him with love unconditionally( I felt bad for him since he was abused as a child). He admitted his mistakes but told his parents how I was lazy and didn't cook and clean enough. I am so bothered by this because I did the best I could in that situation. Even though he says he wont lay his hands on me no matter what I do or don't do. I don't know how he can find faults in me after all this... I am confused since he is seeking help..

She is actually upset about it. Think it's because we had kids and she still has some baby weight. Any other women think this?

I have a 10 month old daughter. I was 5'4 125 lbs before pregnancy. Worked out (some cardio and weightlifting 4x a week) Gained 42 lbs during it. Took another 6ish months to lose the weight. I'm not as toned as I was before but I started weightlifting again around 3 months ago, just not as frequently because I have less time. I do have a small pooch and stretch marks (that are fading) but this is skin. I'm using a dermaroller and Bio Oil to fix it now as I am quite depressed over how many husband no longer initiates sex (maybe twice since we started 6 weeks after birth) and turns me down a lot when I do. He also acts less into it now and Ive caught a lot of porn on his phone. At first I thought it might be stress. But since our daughter turned 4months old, she sleeps through the night most nights and his job actually got LESS stressful as he was promoted working the same amount of hours 5 months ago, for more money and less stress! I also don't nag him to do housework or childcare. I work part time and do the majority of the housework. Why is he no longer attracted to me??? I'm quite depressed over this.

Few days ago, my husband discovered that I'm cheating on him with my boss the last two years. He left the marital home since the event. He wants a divorce. We're married since 5 years and I love him. I want to save my marriage.

I know I am partially generalizing, but it is based on what I am seeing on here in questions from women. Why do many fivorced or seperated women believe that kids that they had with the child's father should spend the majority of their time with the mother? Andy why do they try to minimize the amount of time a child spends with the other parent? I see questions asking, "Should I cut out his visitation this week....etc" I honestly can't remember ever seeing a father asking if he should cut the mother's visitation out for the week.

I am curious what someone would choose in this situation. Would you stay with your new husband, or go back to your old husband? You would obviously love both of them, maybe your old husband more because you were together longer, but would you break your new husband's heart so easily and leave him?

Touch her or make love to her. It's rare and she usually tells me when she wants to. B/c of this I'm always worried she is cheating. I know she never would, but it seems like she isn't interested. Talked to her and nothing is wrong and she says her kids are now the priority. Not sure if this is a phase or how to deal with it.

Hi. My wife provides almost half our income. Her employer added a policy that you could leave work early if the district is overstaffed at that time. She has been opting to do this nearly every day, and getting it every day.. Her normal paychecks are $900 / week, but the past few checks have been under $300 due to her doing this and the company emailed that if she continues to work < 20 hours a week (she normally does 46) that we lose her benefits including our healthcare..

My wife wants nothing more than to be a telecommuting business worker. Who wouldn't? Get paid generously just to sit in your long sleeve/pants pajamas all day and never have to leave the comfort/safet of your own home? Perfect for a borderline agoraphobic woman who only leaves her house if her husband drives her OR when it is absolutely necessary and she can't con me into it.... But my wife is not just an idealist, she's also smart too. She knows that if I make a fool of myself online or in real life, and word gets out that I am her spouse, she's be less likely to get any local businesses to hire her for work because I would reflect badly upon her. Or at least that's what she thinks anyways. So I can't do anything without it being approved by my wife since her image, public relations, and her ego is at stake at all times.... Now, mind you, she hasn't actually HAD any local businesses agree to let her do telecommute work for them, but, you know, the "opportunity" is there for the kind of work she does... Okay, so about that liberty... Yeah, I have none... I have no authority over myself, no autonomy, I'm constantly under surveillance by her, and I'm just not allowed to be myself... And since all of her friends "COULD" be clients, I have to behave myself around them too... And so much for in my own home - she wants our children to have a role model of how adults "should" act, so I can't even goof off at home! So how do I be sensitive to her needs but not lose my identity?

I posted here earlier about issues involving my husband and mother . Well we saw them this weekend and my mom set him off. I have a cousin who is a registered sex offender for having oral sex with a 4 year old girl. My mother told him and I at the same time this cousin to my daughter into a room when she was an infant to change her for 20 minutes but she watched from the living room with the door closed. My husband saw him and threatened my cousin trying to drag him out of the car. My mom got mad at my husband for acting a certain way and I just froze up. My family was really awkward towards him the rest of the time . I got mad at him in the car and he flipped out on me saying I'm not honoring my vows or having his back . So he packed his stuff up and left. I haven't heard from him since Friday. We don't know if my cousin did anything he said he didn't but my husband said that's the same thing he said about the 4 year old. My mother yelled at my husband as well...how do I repair it ?

Last night after my wife finished 2 hours of online course work for college she intruded on my alone time and said "I'm done with my work, what do you want to do now?". Completely disregarding and dismissing the fact that I was busy spending time alone on my computer, she sat next to me and started looking over shoulder to see what I was doing. It didn't interest her so she started criticizing what I was doing. Getting the hint that she wanted my attention I turned off my computer and started talking to her. She said "let's not talk, let's do something fun" but had no suggestions. She basically wanted ME to entertain HER. So not only did she intrude on my alone time, but she also told me that what I wanted to do (talk) wasn't acceptable! She then made the threat "if we don't do something fun soon I'm going to go to bed". It was 9:30pm and she normally goes to bed at midnight. She was basically giving me an ultimatum that if I didn't suddenly increase my entertainment and fun value then she was going to reject me, dismiss me, abandon me, and marginalize me... I couldn't think of anything to do so she said "will you scratch my back then".... For those who don't know my wife, my wife is one of those "pain is pleasure" people; not to the point of bleeding, but pinching, scratching, and poking makes her feel satisfied (she has a form of OCD called Trichotillomania and she enjoys skin peeling and blackhead removal). So in the end, she got the attention she wanted... Contrast this with when I want attention and she refuses to give it to me, even if I try to guilt her or manipulate her, and this really seems unfair. My birthday was last month and I didn't even get my annual b.day bj! So she can demand MY attention and manipulate her way into getting it (without the seduction, the sexy clothes, the flirting, or anything mind you - just nagging and making me feel uncomfortable through criticism) and when I do that in return it doesn't work. Nothing works.

I know only I can answer that fully, but I want to know others opinions on the characteristics I'm about to give. I personally don't feel like I'm right for marriage, but I don't know. - I'm very independent - I don't like to compromise - I can't deal with other people's crap really well - I stress out easy - I love and need my space - I'm caring - I put others before myself - My communication skills are average - I'm faithful until the end - I'm understanding I don't need "help" for my "bad" qualities. These are the things that make me who I am. I'm not going to change them. This question belongs under "Marriage & Divorce." Please stop changing my category. I am mature, just because I love the way I am no doesn't mean I'm not! ***** Compromise has nothing to do with love... I am mature! You are a ******* ignorant *****! You need to take the splinter out of your eye first! Please stop changing my category, troll! I am NOT selfish! You are a ******* retard! STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY! THIS QUESTION BELONGS UNDER "MARRIAGE & DIVORCE!"

I left my abusive ex after a long time of leaving and forgiving and coming back . I finally got my head out of my a$$ or so i thought and ran a few states away and cut all contact except for email so we could proceed with divorce . I met an amazing man who treats me how i deserve and spoils me on top of that . I love him , i really do he is so amazing . But i miss my husband , i still have deep feelings for him , and i dont want to , i hate him and love him and its so hard, i want to love this new man as much as he deserves to be loved but can't because in the back of my mind my husbands names still rings like the church bells on our wedding day .... i know i can't ever yake my husband back because abusive men never change... how do i make my heart realize my brain knows whats best ...? Help me

it must happen D: hlp plz.

My ex and I share custody of our 6 yo daughter. He's supposed to have her every other weekend from Friday 4:30PM to Sunday 6PM and every other Wednesday from 3-6PM (but he never picks her up on those days). When it's time to drop her off, he always calls/texts me an hour before with an excuse on why he can't make it at 6. It could be to tell me that he's taking her swimming,she wants to stay longer, he wants to keep her for an extra day or some other reason. He'll have her call me crying. When I say no (which I always do), he tells her "sorry but mommy said no". My daughter then gets upset at me. I think he's just trying to manipulate her into making me look like the bad person. Last time he had her, he called me an 1 before drop off to tell me that he was taking her to the movies and he would be able to meet to drop her off at around 8PM. I told him to drop her off on time and to take her next visitation and of course she called me crying, but I stood firm. He ended up taking her, but was about 30 minutes late. As soon as my daughter got in the car she asked me if I was upset at her for making me wait (so obviously he told her what we were talking about) and this morning she told me that her dad's friend told him to take a picture of her crying to send to me. Am I being too strict? My attorney told me to stick to the court order and that's what I've been doing. If he wants more time he could use his Wednesday visitations. I'm just afraid that my daughter will hate me.

Judge ordered he give me the car ive been driving for so long and x husband agreed.. Now he keeps saying he gave me pink slip and he hasnt! If he did i wouldve put the car under my name a long time ago.. He already took me off his insurance but yet no pink slip.. What are my options here? Im in california btw.. I dont know if i can take my divorce paperwork to dmv and show them what the judge ordered or if they need the actual pink slip :( what else can i do?

I dated my husband six years and have been married two. The first three dating years were rocky mainly due to a long distance relationship and being in different places in our lives. However, we had a lot of love and a great connection. We were able to get on the same page and get married. I have never been a jelious person and in all of my relationships have encouraged boys nights out ect as I have my own life too. However, I've noticed my husband is more of a people person that I once thought. I have noticed he is really nice to people expessially attractive women. I know he loves me but I wonder what is he getting out of his relationships with women at work and other women in general. Is it ok or something to question? He has never cheated. There were a few small things before marraige that made me uneasy. I guess with the honey moon being almost over I am starting to think.

I'm not a virgin, but when I was younger I did want to save myself for marriage. That all went out the window when I turned 18. I'm actually kinda happy that I did, because now I'm not even sure if I want to get married someday. Is it really worth the wait? Or is it just a hype? I'm not kind of young anymore, I'm 27. I'm guessing most of you are virgins? Because those are normal virgin answers trying to make up reasons to wait, even though there is none. STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY! This question belongs under "Marriage & Divorce." Stop changing my category, please! STOP CHANGING MY ******* CATEGORY!!! Oh my god.... just ******* stop! You think it's funny? You need a life *****! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY! IT'S REALLY ******* ANNOYING! IT BELONGS UNDER "MARRIAGE & DIVORCE!" PLEASE STOP!!!!!!!!

I know it's bad but I have a bad vibe off this ex she keeps talking to on facebook, so I did look at their conversation and before this was said she said I'm fertile and my husband is gone for 3 weeks and than he said don't tell me that I might wanna try and help with that and this was her response. Lol oh sorry forgot! My bad.. Ya dont think he would like if u tried to help. Thanks for the offer though lol❤ and than she also tells him how she has a work hubby that likes him a lot and that it's cute and she loves him, you think she would cheat if I was away for more than 3 weeks or am I just overthinking?

My 15 year old is giving our address to grown men on websites and having them sneak into our home. She has a 14 year old sister. We are terrified that one of these men will come in and kidnap or murder one or both of them. She's in counseling, different therapy programs, and has been in juvenile hall a few times for minor things. I don't know what to do. My husband wants to turn her over to foster care She doesn't have any electronic devices and she doesn't know the password to the router. Help.

I said before i cant pay my child support and i asked could i get in trouble but peoplr said i shouldnt havr had kids and etc but that wasnt the problem ill break it down. I live with my parents and currently unemployed. Me and my now ex wife had a business we ran it was in her name i caught her cheating on me and i moved out of the house and lived with my parents until i got a stable place she "fired" me from a business we started togrther but she legally did. Im tryin non stop to find employment but its hard im 30 years old with several degrees. The court gave her custody because she had a stable home and job. I feel betrayed since i was the one who was wronged and now im goin through problems i didnt start any advice?

I am livin with my parents and i dont have a job and my ex wife hounds me about child support that shr knows i cant pay and my parents don't wanna get involved any help? Can i go to jail for this? And im in my kids life daily so its dumb i have to pay child support? Help?

I got fixed a long time ago when I was 19. I knew I never wanted a child nor ever wanted to take a chance even if me or my partner was using protection. I then got married young, she cheated on me and we got a divorce. 9 years later get remarried to a young woman. After 5 years she said she wants a baby now. Well, I already told her I'm fixed and she doesn't care and wants me to get a reversal. Well no fkin way I'm doing that so we fought and I brought up adoption but after looking into that I can't believe what they charge. I'm not going through the hell of getting another operation down there, it was unbearable pain and heard a reversal is even worse! Then what? I have to worry about birth control otherwise we may have 3 kids!! I brought up the idea that my younger brother, who is single and is not fixed could bang my wife until we find out she's pregnant. That way the baby will mostly look like it came from me. My wife is disgusted by the idea but I thought it was ok as long as I could occasionally have sloppy seconds. Now she's not talking to me.

I work in Sales, I am a Supervisor, working my way to assistant manager then manager in the next 6 months. I want to spend time to create new things, work on my ideas, do occasional Aerial photography for money. I would have to take care of our 5 month old. My wife is stay at home mom, she has not much experience with work but says she'll work if I want to not work. She may go to school for Massage therapy but it takes 11 months. I live rent free currently, not much expenses, just trying to pay off a few thousand dollars of debt now. Should I quit my job soon and let her go to school or should I keep working and be the breadwinner? If she goes to school, I'll have to quit right away. Someone has to watch our girl. Or I can just keep working indefinitely until who knows when.

Throughout my life I never pictured myself getting married at a young age. I always thought of myself living the single college life, spreading my wings, and getting married in my late 20s or early 30s. However, I met/started dating this amazing guy about a year and a half ago. He's smart, funny, understanding, sexy, and he loves me. I feel like i can talk to him about anything. He does sweet things for me without me asking. The best part of my day is when I'm spending it with him. I can honestly say that I'm in love with him. He's been hinting to me that he's thinking of proposing to me. It's made me think a lot. I know I want to marry him, but I'm barley 20 years old. Part of me wonders if I'm too young/haven't spread my wings. However, I've been thinking maybe I'm not. Maybe i'd grow with him together. When I think about it I probably could do a lot of the same things (just as long as i use birth control). If I just didn't have kids of a while (use birth control) maybe getting married young would be OK. Is it a good idea to get married in your early 20s? Why or why not?

It seems like women back out of marriages, dates, etc much more than men. Everything could be going great, and then out of no where they press the eject button and get the hell out of there. It seems like men are much more sure of themselves when choosing a life long partner than women. Once he finds the one, he knows it. But women don't always know that feel it seems.

He kissed and flirted with other women in college and got a handjob from one. He on and off hangout with some of them. We started dating at 19, married at 27 and been married for 3 years now. What do I do?

She flirted with and kissed other guys, gave one a handjob and hung out with them a few times. What do I do??? She was about 15-16 years old. Am I being too possessive or crazy?

He hung out with other girls, flirted with them and kissed some of them. We were about 15-16 years old. Should I be mad? Or upset? What do I do?

If so, why? Do you find yourself fantasizing about others (does doing this help your marriage)? Do you think social media has made it too easy to cheat? I constantly hear of infidelity running rampant and this deters me from wanting to be with someone for fear of getting hurt. Thanks for you answers.

a way for her to unwind and have time to herself. Probably the same as me with the TV.

I have OCD, anxiety and depression. As much as I understand she was a kid I don't know how to get over it. Please someone give me some helpful (and not mean) advice. My wife also goes to therapy for her own mental problems, I have met with her and her therapist and her therapist asked me basic questions like why I would be concerned about what she did when she was a teenager, should I get my own therapist? I just can't seem to stop overthinking this.