It is my Mom's brother though we do not know him very well because he is lazy and was bad to his wife, now ex-wife, who my Mom is friends with.

im a male in my early forties who has always had a very close special relationship with my mum, its killing me that we are separated in this virus lockdown...as before the lockdown she used to drive down and visit me every 3 weeks and stay for a week....but now, as she is vulnerable, she is having to shield. i have no friends or other support network other than my mum and dad, they are divorced and live far apart, i love my dad, adore him, but im closest to my mum....always have been from being a boy.. the reason i never forged any relationships in my life is because ive had severe mental problems and been very destructive in my life....ive also most suffered rejection in female encounters and one sided friendships.. my mother is now in her late 60's, and earlier on the phone she was telling me her life is behind her now, but my life is in front of me still....but i dont think she quite realizes how much i would be destroyed by her leaving me....her departing this life would destroy me through and through, i could not live with it....and would have nothing to live for anymore....i have always clung to my mother...and would be devastated beyond belief by her leaving me... i fear i would have no option but to end my life, as i live here alone in a lonely council flat with no help, support or relationships....i have acted aloof and angry towards people in society for years due to my paranoia...now they treat me unfriendly and my imaged has been tarnished because of it.

How to deal with him his dad chose not to be around but that's no reason to be mean to me. I have tried many time to find him a dad figure but that resulted in my having an abusive marriage. How to tolerate this child of mine. I love him dearly but he acts like he hates me

i'm 17 and My teacher my science teacher is in her 30s and i had her last year and i'll have her again next year and i wanted to be friends with her and talk online and stuff and i friended her on facebook and she blocked me then i followed her on instagram and she blocked me there so i tried finding her phone number online and i found it after a while and texted her asking why she keeps blocking me and she never replied and i think she blocked me there also, i'm trying to make new accounts to ask why she blocked me but any ideas?

It's like they think they need to show the world how displeased they are with everything.  They seem to think it's the best way to get things set straight, but they come off as huge assholes. They think I'm too meek because I prefer to resolve things through level conversations, while they would rather yell stomp slam things and make the angriest facial expressions possible until they get their way.  I'd rather comprise and hear both sides, they push until they get their way and criticize me for not being so rude

My daughter lives with me and is almost 20, almost finished with high school. She started school late and played around so she got further  behind. Its  been a struggle to get her to finish school but now she is down to one class and that will get her diploma next month. I've had to stay on her almost daily to get her school work done. She isn't a bad person  but  can be difficult  she has ADHD, anxiety and lacks self motivation etc. I love her but she is problematic always arguing with her sisters and others. She started another argument with her siblings and got a little aggressive and they decided to just limit contact with her since she acts that way. I understand  but we live together and nobody wants to talk to her but me her mom and I've tried telling them to move on but don't exclude her because that will make it worse but they are teenagers too and don't want to talk to and said she always acts like that and they don't want that negativity in their lives. Now she's not speaking to any of us. She got mad at me because I've been on her about finishing this last class. I get calls and emails from her teacher,she can hang out with her friends and try to get a job but isn't prioritizing her education. She's mad at me now but I'm tempted to tell her to just leave. She is living in my home rent free with an iPhone I pay for and can't even speak to me when I was trying to help her. Any suggestions?

I moved back in with my parents because they needed help with bills and on their property.  When people ask why I moved in with them, they said it was because I needed financial help (which is the exact opposite of the truth).  Do I make myself look bad to save their face or do I be honest? I am 24 they are in their 40s. 

She was 78 years old, and had heart surgery on June 8th. We were over at her house this morning and she collapsed. We called an ambulance and she died at the hospital. I honestly don't know how to feel, I have been crying all day. What do I do with myself?

 My mom was abused as a child she was the scapegoat of narcissistic parents she was never shown love by her parents however she is still bitter about how she never got loving parents she acts as if her childhood acted yesterday and she tried to turn me and my sister against our parental grandmother saying that my parental grandmother does not love us not true my sister cut her out of her life and stopped contact with her 10 years ago  last year my sister got married and my mom told her that her parents weren't invited to her wedding but my sister invited them anyway my mother threw fits and name calling my sister got mad and said " YOU KNOW WHY YOUR PARENTS NEVER LOVED YOU AND TREATED YOU LIKE A SCAPEGOAT BECAUSE YOU ARE A SELFISH EVIL B*ITCH YOU WERE PROBABLY LIKE THIS WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD GET OVER YOURSELF" she drove all her friends and family away and my sister has two kids who my mother has never met my dad told my mom that she needs counseling but she refuses to get it saying that she is right everyone else is wrong I suppose that she is also a narcissist like her parents my sister says I should just cut her off but I asked if she really wanted to be alone I don't know I feel bad for my mother but I can't pity her forever 

My mum (age 52) has been very overweight for a few years now. There have been times where she has successfully lost weight and has felt better, but every single time she just keeps gaining it back again. She doesn't seem to be able to sustain a balanced way of eating/exercising. It makes me sad to see her like this, because I just don't know what to do anymore. Over the years I've tried everything I can to help her, and so have my siblings and father. We have always encouraged and supported her. Honestly, though, I feel instantly depressed around her because I know she's unhappy with herself. I just want her to be HAPPY. It's like she has no drive or desire to even try to help herself anymore. I don't know what to do. She's such a kind and caring person, but I know that her and my father would enjoy life together much more if my mum could find the motivation to better herself. I feel so depressed about this, and utterly useless. Note: my mum is also currently seeing a very good psychologist whom she has known for a year, which she says is helping her state of mental health (but I don't know if this will help with her physical health).

My step son is almost 6 and will NOT no matter what we do sleep in his own room(he had slept with his mother until he was 2 then from 2 to 6 with his dad). His father has him full time and they would come to my house on weekends he would crawl into bed with us every night 🤦‍♀️ I need him out of our room we are all moving into my place next week. He will be sharing a room with my son whom is exactly the same age. We painted their room with soft colors we added a night light. I got him blankets with his favorite characters and he loves playing in his room but at night he is right back in ours. Everytime I bring it up with his father he gets defensive. I have no idea what to do to convince him to just stay in his own room. 

I have been married a very long time to a wonderful man.  He's not american, so there are some cultural differences, but we have conformed to each other, and it works.  But, I am upset by the way his family , particularly his sister, treats me.  I have always been available any time she needs help, whether it be with her kids, her other family members, her paperwork, or just being supportive.  Whenever she asks, If I can, I help.  Anyway, I have an 18 year old son who has severe autism.  He cannot speak, and requires constant supervision.  He also gets aggressive at times.  I do have some help with him from an agency, but, I have no emotional support from family.  I don't expect anyone in the family to physically help me with him, but it hurts me that they don't even call to check on him, or to see how we are doing.  Even after I was hurt by one of his aggressive outbursts, I got very little support.  He also had Covid 19 -2 months ago, and I was so worried about him, but I got zero support from my sister in law, who lives less than a mile from me.    I have become tired of this one way relationship, I stopped contacting her all together.   I haven't heard from her in 2 months.  She's not someone you can talk to about feelings, so that is a useless effort.  I figured that if she wants a relationship as a sister in law, she would reach out. I guess I'm just good as her secretary.  I'm just tired of being used, and it hurts that she cares nothing about my son/her nephew and I'm also torn, because my mother in law lives with her, and I haven't seen her, either.

Context: Yes he does live with us and he does financially help my parent's with bills, so kicking him out is a big no.  What happened: My little brother was crying for ice cream and night and I got really annoyed and just gave him ice cream. My uncle saw and yelled at me for why am I giving my little brother ice cream and night. I answered him with a question: "would you rather hear him cry all night or be happy with one ice cream?" And he got mad at me. I have been doing well on controlling my anger issues, but he decides to call me a whore and a ***** and I just said, "whatever, at least I know." I can't remember what happened next, but he was still talking **** about me and I got mad at yelled at him back. He tells me to shut up before he kills me and I told him to do it, cause honestly he always says that whenever we argue and I'm so sick and tired of him saying that to me. He started yelling at me, threatening that he'll shove my phone down my throat and I tell him to do it. Something else happened that I can't remember and then he throws something at mean, I think it was a shoe, I don't know what it was. That's when I got angry and just started yelling back at him and he ran up to me and raised his hands on me. Mind you, my little brother was on top of me scared, so I couldn't get up to protect myself. He yelled at me that he wasn't scared of me and that he didn't care about my dad (his brother). My aunt broke up the fight and yelled at me to keep my mouth shut.

Ok, I'm 25 and my father is 52. I love my dad, but I don't understand when we hang out, he just gets quiet and doesn't speak. He's usually not like this. Or he's moody and then it gets me upset or moody as well. It's like he brings negativity every time we are together and I absorb all of it and become angry and frustrated because all I want is to have a good day and be happy. Have a good time with my dad but it is difficult unfortunately. So please anyone, help me. I really don't know what to do.

I am so emotionally disturbed, disappointed insulted Help !

I'm 25 year old woman who still lives at home. I pay half the bills, groceries, paid property taxes, have them part of my tax refund and bonuses and give them money for whatever they might need. I have a decent job that pays well and plenty of money saved up. Recently I told my parents I want to move out on my own and live independently. My mom was super supportive of me and willing to help me out with moving. My dad was not very happy but furious with me. He told that it was the WORST decision I have ever made and that I was abandoning him. He threatened to hurt himself or go back to drinking heavily. He told me that he has to sell the house because he can afford to pay all bills himself. He told me that I'm the one who has to take care of them when they are old and sick. I told him I can still give the money and always there to help even though I'm living alone in my own place but he said it's not the same. He told I would wasting money on rent or mortgage if I get my own place. He told me there's not a good reason for me move out on my own. He really doesn't want to get married because then I'm going to forget him. We had similar conversations before. Like when I wanted to join the Air Force after two years of community college. He told he does not want me to go far away from home because he's going consistently worry about me and get stressed. Or like when I wanted to away to college because it's was 3 hrs away and he didn't know what I was doing. 

When I was 11 my mom got so mad at me she threw me on the bed I was standing still and grabbed my arm and I lifted off my feet and floor and landed on the bed on my side. I've only ever seen people guys throwing people to the group like pushing them down or picking them up then throwing them to the ground. Never into the air they go flying onto something just by moving and swinging their arm.

So, my dad and I have seen every Mission Impossible movie in theaters since Ghost Protocol. Well, the newest one is supposed to come out on my birthday 2021 (assuming it doesn't move). Well, the girl I like LOVES these movies. So my dilemma is: Do I go with my dad on my birthday, or go as a movie date with the girl? (Keep in mind, I "ditched" my dad on his birthday last year because my friend surprised me with tickets to the Godzilla: King of the Monsters premiere that night, and my dad didn't really want to go, so should I go with him to Mission Impossible to make it up to him? (Because taking your dad as a 3rd wheel when you're on a date is weird)

Usually we are all reminded by our mother to text on one's birthday. We are all adults but she still texts us "it is ......'s birthday". Do I bother with my sister now that she is estranged. I have no desire to re-connect with her unless she makes amends.

I am 27. I live with my mom (she s my carer as I have autism) Now, my momm absolutely HATES it when I do my shopping every day (they see no point in it, I like to go and just have a look at the shops every day, and because I enjoy the walk) and they (my parents) only allow me to go only once a week. Why do my parents think they are allowed to tell me when I can and cannot go out?

There's a private golf group on Facebook where people post about golf and especially their golf swing. There's friendly banter and all in fun. I took a video of my brother hitting a golf ball and posted it to the group because my brother isn't in the group. My brother was told by one of his friends. It upset my brother but I apologized and took down the post. He's not attending any birthday festivities I have going on this weekend and seems willing to throw away being a brother all together over something what I don't see as a big deal. Perspective is everything but he's acting like a stole from him or killed his dog. Someone shed some light on this 

I started going out with this girl that I've known for a while now and the thing about this situation is that she is pregnant..and it's not by me but it's by another guy before me and I started talking to her during 8 weeks and everything was cool like it's always been between us..and the closer we got,the more I wanted to be there for her and the child..but the thing that confuses me is how the mother is..I really believe the parents love me and adore me but her mom wants the last name to be theirs but I want the last name to be mine since I'm taking care of this boy and I'm gonna be in his life as a dad then why not have my last name? Cause when her and I decide to have kids I didn't want that kid to feel left out when we get married and everybody name is the same except his..the mom asks my last name and pauses for at least ten seconds and says that's nice and proceeded to put her last name on the babies? This wasn't the first time this happened either..please help somebody should I leave it alone or say something to her

If you're an adult, have your parents ever told you not to visit them?  If so, how did you respond?  What if your parents claimed that they told you that for your own benefit (such as allegedly wanting you to be able to enjoy life without spending too much time caring for them, if they're older)? My parents did that, and it was hurtful.

So often I see my aunts-uncles and cousins in the summer. The cousins are so much younger that I cannot really go hang out with them as I am an adult and they are still kids (mostly teens). Yet, we all see each other a lot in the summer like some families do on holidays. This summer we can't due to COVID-19 fears the family has (I am not to worried myself as long as masks are worn). I feel really sad as the family gatherings are what make summer now that I am an adult so don;t have school vacation which was the highlight when I was young. So what do I do? What would be things to do when I am not terribly close one on one to anyone other then the grandparents who have now died. A lot of the family has in-laws still living so COVID-19 fears due to that. I do not have any elderly relatives.  I certainly understand the concerns though. 

I grabbed her by the shoulders and shook them because at age 26 she was being a complete idiot. She was blocking the bathroom door at the family beach place and mad that she had to share with me. Mad I wouldn't go downstairs at night to use the restroom. I have to use the restroom frequently at night so not going to walk all around the house to go. I called her the B word and shook her by the shoulders. She claimed I choked her and has not spoken to me since. My parents sent her home from the trip and assured me I did absolutely nothing wrong. I do think grabbing her may have been a mistake but most of it was on her. I was bullied as a child and sometimes can't take it or segregation from family events. So what do I do about this? The sister is 26 with the maturity of a four year old. I am 37 but with learning disabilities probable about college aged in maturity. This same sister had just texted my brother's wife a message from my Mom saying "please clean up after yourselves for Grandma, I know you will but David and Lauren never do". David and Lauren are the brother and his wife. Luckily my brother saw it and did not show his wife or seem to mind. What do I do?