My dad is having a meltdown because my mom let me take my "high mileage" car (it only has about 110,000 miles and it's 19 years old) 400 miles on a trip to my hometown with her because I wanted to stay with my best friend a little bit longer than just a weekend. So she left about two days ago and I'm still in my hometown, but this morning I woke up to 12 missed calls from my mom and an angry text from my dad demanding that I call him. He is calling me the "boy king" because he thinks I am somehow taking his position as head of the household by supposedly forgetting to tell him I was taking my car on the road. I thought I had told him, and the car was missing for four days before he somehow realized it wasn't parked in our driveway. Now my mom says he told her he wants "nothing to do with [her]" and he said he is going to "beat the hell out of me" since I'm "such a man" when I get back home. I already think I want to try and get home in the middle of the night when I do go home just to avoid conflict, but I am wondering if I should alert the police or do anything preemptively to make this better for me and my mother. I already called my dad to try and make things better, but he only cursed me out and hung up before I could say anything. This isn't the first time he has lost his mind like this, but it's by far the worst and meanest I've ever seen him, especially since he is supposed to be a devout catholic and *never* curses. What should I consider? Thanks in advance!

i live on a farm and my dad is always getting mad at this mountain because it gets in the way of crops and now i am mad at it too. What do i do? we farm mostly corn, soybeans, and also a little zucchini if that helps. 

(13) My (32) dad has a bunch of male friends that he visits often, sometimes with me and sometimes alone. They are usually cool.  Today he showed some small plastic wrap. He then told Jake (his friend) that he has started using magnum trojans with his (my mom, 30) wife so he doesn't get anymore unwanted kids. Aren't magnums those good ice creams?

So my sister doesn't even eat the food my father gives her never ever barely she waits a couple days to eat it, so I'm deciding if I should eat both of them. My father always tells me to just wait cause u know she's weird and all, but he didn't say anything today and I'm just wanting to eat both of it , I was just going to eat one afternoon and one later at night? What should I do?

So I always end up having to go with my grandma since she's always up for a day out. I love her but I feel so uncool going with her at my age (21). I'm a film buff, I don't go for a day out, I can't be bothered to wait for it to come to dvd. How can I get my friends to go with me or a guy to take me? Without having to sleep with him

I am a 27 year old female and I am living at home still. I only have ever worked retail so I have never been able to move out. My mom and dad live together even though they have been divorced for a while. My mom and dad obviously don't get along for obvious reasons. My mom has been arguing with me and wondering why I haven't moved out sooner. I am planning to go back to school but my mom is constantly on me. What should I do? My mom said she could never stay with her parents that long

Yesterday, my brother came home from work and he said that he had waited on a celebrity. He told my dad about it and my dad said wow, that geezer. He must have looked really bad. My brother didn't say much when he said that. My mom got mad at my dad and said that he downplays everything and asked him why he had to say that. My dad then said that my brother is not a child and knows that he was joking.  Do you think my dad was rude? Yes it's funny my mom got mad about it, she must have been mad about something else?

I was best friends with this girl growing up but she when she got a boyfriend who she married I was dumped, on top of that she was jealous and verbally abusive to me, Was not there for me when I needed help, my sister died, etc. Now we haven't spoke in 12 years and shes calling my Moms house, my cell phone and emailing me that she would like to talk to me, I guess something happened, likely a death. Last time she did this 12 years ago she came to my Moms house and kept ringing the bell. my mom didn't answer, Im scared she might come back now and make a scene. I wish to be left alone. there is too much hurt feelings and time gone by.. Should I reply and tell her not to contact me ? Im scared shes going to come to my house or my Moms

Hi, I need SERIOUS HELP please! (FAMILY PROBLEMS) Cut a long story short, my Nan (My Dad's Mom) passed away over two months ago and she DISOWNED my Mom. She wrote a Will in 2009 that said everything was going to my Dad. In Autumn time last year, she told me, my boyfriend and a load of people that she had changed her will so everything would go to me and my two brothers (who are both under 18). She said her NEW will was at a solicitors whilst her old will (from 2009) was at her bungalow.  I had the guts to confront my Dad about this and he said that the will never changed (I do think that he is lying). However, my Dad told my Nan's best friend that my Nan had changed the will and he was getting nothing. Every since my Nan passed away, my Dad has become very SHADY and my Nan wasn't a lier, she wouldn't of said something if you wouldn't or couldn't do it! When I questioned my Dad, he said that he was waiting for the Will to go into probate.  Here are my questions: 1) IF there is a new will (regardless where it is), will the NEW Will get discovered? 2) IF my Dad lied to me (and I think he did), how can I find out the truth? (I did call a local solicitors near me but they said if I went forward with the problem, then they'd have to contact my Dad!) & please please help! As you can imagine, I am in a very tough family situation at the moment. And I still live with my parents too so I don't want my Dad to kick me out for finding out the truth! Help please, Thank you!

If so, would you be worried they might abuse the kid? I don't know why everyone is defending homosexuals. There is a clear link between homosexuality and pedophilia. They even created the term "twink" to make it more socially acceptable.

My mother left the house when I was 3 years old. She left me with my adopted dad (I do not know my biological father). She did so to live a non-family style life. After leaving she began to get in trouble with the law for reasons I am to embarrassed to state. Hints to why she did not receive custody.  Through out the years she dated several men emphasis on the several. I would meet them and none of them were normal. AKA none worked legitimate jobs or they had drinking problems/drug problems. She would always put them first and would tell me otherwise. She would allow these men to disrespect me. There was a point where one of these men said I could not go back to my fathers house and they manipulated me into telling him I wanted to live with them.   As I got older I began realizing she had drinking problems/pill usage issues. She would drink and become very physically/verbally abusive towards me, and I never defended myself because it was brain washed into me to respect my elders no matter what.  Once I couldn't be manipulated physically she began to use certain things against me. Such as her paying for my college/car/allowance. The whole time she wasn't. She had a sugar daddy who did all while she was married. She even went as far as using my college tuition money for herself.  I need to know if I am at fault here for not caring so much about her anymore. She plays the victim mentality and makes me feel bad for not wanting to see her. She's never apologized for anything. 

My younger sister moved in with me a year ago after losing her job due to layoffs. She found a new job relatively quick and all worked out fine. She just found out Friday that her company she currently works for will be shutting its doors July 15th permanently due to covid19. I feel bad for her she lost 2 jobs in a year.  My sister has always been very laid back. She usually doesn't get upset easily I used to think she was almost "too laid back" Since finding out her job was closing she's become an absolute raging lunatic like I've never seen anyone act like this in my entire life. She's like a women with the absolute worst PMS imaginable but it doesn't stop. Yesterday she screamed at me and slammed the door so hard it broke. I'm honestly scared for my own safety at this point that's how out of control she's gotten. I've tried to talk to her and she just SCREAMS at me. Never in my life have I EVER seen anything like this. It's like a flip is switched and suddenly she's bipolar. Honestly I'm wondering if she's like possessed or something it's out of control I've never seen anyone act like this and its scaring the heck out of me. She's took a week off and she's sitting her at the kitchen table screaming f*ck this f*ck this and stabbing tomatoes like there is tomato juice everywhere on our kitchen table. Honestly I can't deal with her for much longer. Should I kick her out? Call an ambulance? Honestly I think she's having a mental breakdown. HELP!! 

My dad was telling that when he was at his younger brothers 40th birthday party that my aunt (his younger brothers wife) came up to my dad and sat on his knee. Do you think sitting on another's mans lap is an mean thing to do at your own husbands birthday party?

This started about a month ago and i'm really worried, i asked her what's wrong multiple times and she gets annoyed and mad at me for asking.I wasn't acting like that when i was her age and it's just making me worry alot. She's 13and everytime we go out she always seems stressed and scared, that might not be the best way to describe it but she looks like she's always on edge and she rarely talks to anyone out in public i did alot of researching and thought she might have anxiety or is depressed.I did ask her if someone hurt her and she just stared at me for a few seconds said no and then ignored me for the rest of the day.Recently i yelled at her for not doing her bed and she started yelling back at me and said how noone cares about her and noone will ever care enough to ask her what happened, i then talked to her for about 3 hours trying to figure out what she meant by that, she kept changing the subject and kept telling me to get out..I don't think i'm overeacting she was perfectly fine a month ago i know alot of comments will probably tell me not to worry about it or that it's probably nothing but i really think something is wrong and i don't know what to do, it's driving me insane since i think she's heavily implying that someone did something to her and i don't know what to do about it or how to make her tell me anything.

No one likes her in the family. Outside of family people that don't know her wicked ways like her.

He is a distant relative. My aunt who is my mother basically will be with me.

Weve been living like roomates not to fight so much or butt heads. Shes very very religious and I'm more spiritual. She gets so negative about"end times" lately and society. I told her you need to think positive and also exercise every day. I feel like I almost wished I was with some one like me who exercises like being happy and tries to stay in shape.  I hate to complain about her but its daily misery and arguing with her. Should I give up trying to teach her? I see women who I dont need to try to lift up or change. They're on that level of well being no matter what. Another thing is I'm so sick of mess everywhere and getting her to help me clean up the place. I've seen other people also ask similar questions. Another thing is she argues no matter what I say and diesnt listen to me at all or take my advice much. She much older than me and so stubborn.  @no mercy. Your answer was rude, and ruthless. I feel.sorry for your husband if he ever gets out of line. I bet you guys fight dirty and get violent.

What do I do except avoid her? She's very insecure. I cant get her to be comfident. I've tried getting her to work our, avoid negativity etc.  Her eye contact is draining and makes me feel inside out when she stares at me. Its almost resentment? I'm a happy laid back person. She vents on me a lot or explodes in my face if I mention things to discuss.    We been together 4 years and shes getting weird.  Like she thinks I have my eye on other women.  User No mercy. What kind of rambling non sense is that ?  What 90 days? We don't do trials. You must act like a judge and jury.

Shes less clingy now. I'm sick of her gossiping and then if I join in she turns things around on me and acts self righteous.  I cant stand my mom because she used to be very mean to me and play mind games. I dont miss her at all it's been 4 years since moving out.  I was verbally and physically attacked a lot and emasculated.  Why do I feel so guilty telling her off?  I was drunk one night and just vented in a text.

Her personality is that she wants sympathy for her struggles but will downplay the acknowledgement that I think I deserve nor give sympathy for my struggles(I brought home money when my family struggled but she tells me she never asked for it when we argue) She never admits to her mistakes, changes subject to mistakes that I've made instead and argument is in circles(Once when I was young, I got into an argument with her over her mistake. She was clearly at fault but she blamed it on me, ended up hitting me until I falsely admitted that it was my fault) She means well but she nags too much, repeats herself and I am frustrated at her. It's hard to let go of wanting her to stop downplaying on my struggles when she argues with me. It's hard to let go of myself wanting her to changing her habit of admitting to mistakes when she makes a mistake and have a rational conversation. She lacks patience, she's not open minded, she often jumps into conclusion without looking into things. She also can't see things in the long run sometimes, she'll not stand on her words, nor own up to her words but change it after the decision turned out to be bad. I would say she is not rational and freaks out over little things when she doesn't understand it. It frustrates me to deal with her sometimes and I end up getting angry at her. I yell, scream or sometimes end up cursing at her out of frustration. She just refuses to lose arguments, which is the reason why arguments are heated. My personality tends to be that I care about the truth and the reason for a situation occurring, regardless of who is at fault. She is all about winning arguments or avoiding admitting to her mistakes. When things are heated, she gets physical at me. She'll punch me, spit at me. I hit her back once but I would usually push her away or block her from punching me. It's very frustrating.

So I always knew my father in law was a little weird but when I went to the bar for my sister in laws Birthday she told me he put cameras up in my house and she told me some things that he saw of me. Yesterday when I tried to log in here it said someone was trying to get into my account. I feel like I'm losing my mind with this just thinking if the creep is watching me and my kids. I ordered a detector but it hasn't came in the mail yet. My husband is in denial and doesn't think his dad would do anything like that but there is no way he could have known about some things. So should I report this to the police if I found one. Would the police do anything? I think the guy is nuts and he's scaring the **** out of me.

Maybe I'm a bad person but, it's difficult for me to get along with my mom sometimes. My personality is strictly logistician, meaning I try to stay open minded and I am willing to change my mind or action based on the argument, logic and evidence presented. I also admit to my mistakes when it's pointed out and I try to do my best to fix it. On the other hand, my mom is stubborn, emotional and closed minded. For example, if I point out something she did, she'll bring up something I did and change the topic for the sake of keeping the argument going. When I was little, once, I was beaten until I falsely admitted to something I didn't do and ended up apologizing because she kept punching me despite the truth. Sometimes when she needs to make a decision, I try to help her by talking about different options and choices she can make, but often, she jumps into conclusion, makes assumptions without any evidence. i.e) "I don't think my employer wants me to come back to work after covid-19" but she still has her job but she'll make assumptions out of thin air without any evidence whatsoever For these personality differences, we argue a lot. Sometimes it gets so heated because she downplays what I did. I brought home money when I was younger. She denies that she ever asked for help and this hurts me. Whenever she was the reason for my suffering or me going through trouble, she compares me to others, tells me I need to be grateful and she never admits to her fault. You may think I turned out terrible but although I went to college at a late age, I worked hard, I helped my family with finances, then I transferred to a prestigious public university. Sometimes she downplays my struggles and she only wants sympathy for her struggles and often, I am very frustrated with her, the way she is and I end up cursing her. She gave me physical punishment when I was younger. When arguments gets heated, she punches me too and I hold back fighting back. I fought back once I don't live with her anymore. I haven't graduated yet but for the time being I am saying with her due to covid 19 But sometimes she unreasonably nags me and really annoys the crap out of me. I think the problem is that I want an apology from her, which never happens. So I keep holding it in. Because I can't let it go when she doesn't apologizes, the feeling persists subconsciously and whenever we argue, I go off.

I admit when I make mistakes, but my mom never admits to her mistake. She downplays what I did and whenever she's at fault, she'll change the subject and bring up something that I did. So it's very very frustrating to talk to her sometimes and I end up getting angry, I snap at her way easier than I would to normal people.

My family and had a huge fight on fathers day. At first everything was started out fine. Until my dad and brother started drinking.  Now mind you im 20 and my brother is 22 so he isnt that much older. My dad said that im too young to drink liquor and its against the law. I laughed and said " ive drunk liquor before, dont act like you care now". My father reponds with "see this is why no one likes you son, you're self centered and never listen to reason". My older brother chimes in and says "hes right you know, you are the most unreasonable and sel-centered". I screamed at my brother saying "you and dad are the most selfish of anyone in this family, even you called dad an  alcholic and hate him!" Then my dad screamed saying "i hate the both of you, you arent my sons!" So all three of us were sort screamimg and my mom tried to break it up  but then my little brother suprised me when he said that he hated all of us and wished he had different brothers and a better father.  That really made me feel bad because  i know i never really told him but i love my little brother more than anyone besides my mom. I know that i probably wasnt always the best brother or son but i never knew he hated me so much. Hes 16 now so i guess he isnt little anymore, maybe he really does fell this way.

She banned us from our alcoholic Dad and cut him down every day to us. Yet, she allowed me around her alcoholic uncle at family gatherings once or twice a year (never that close to him). She also allowed us around her brother's brother-in-law who was a convicted rapist and now we know pedophile. She also suspects his grandfather, a convicted murderer, was a pedophile. She knew one was a convicted rapist and one a convicted murderer but she did not know the pedophile part. Her brother is now divorced. So my question I am trying to understand, I cannot ask her, is why would a mother ban me from an alcoholic Dad but allow me around one and maybe two pedophiles with a rape conviction and for the other a 3rd degree murder conviction? Now her brother is a divorced alcoholic and she covers up for him just like she ranted about my Dad's family doing for my Dad. As a teen and young adult I reconnected with my father for a few years before he died. My mother has no remorse.

Thankfully with the Coronavirus outbreak it is a long time until I have to see her since family events are banned. One day I am sure they will be allowed again though.

Normally I say don't worry about it or its forgotten already but not today, I'm actually sick of it. My sister called me every name under the sun and hit every low blow she could going from my past relationships to my job and how little money I have to a different angle calling me scabby etc, all that because I happened to eat a piece of chicken I thought was mine in from the fridge. This is a regular occurance with her just blatant disrespect and hate and I feel terrible after it, I actually left the room and a lot of those low blows keep coming into my head to the point I've been crying and feel physically sick. I've talked to her before about respect and these type of insults and she's no different. Later on she will apologise as usual but I feel I don't even want to talk to her anymore and I don't care who knows, my friends, the neighbours, cousins, if they think I'm wrong in my approach to just completely cut her from my life I don't care I'll tell them why? But I know that seems irrational but I'm at breaking point and my sisters and mother always join her side, it's like them vs me and I don't care what they think anymore.  -they live in my house but I'm not going to lower myself to threatening them. I try to pretend it's all of ours and ask them just to split bills such as, heating, electricity and WiFi.  -that's one thing I won't budge on, I'd rather deal with every other possibility before I consider tellingly her there's the door. 

I was in a car accident in November, so I've been without a car since then, I am finally in a position to get another car but my kids need school clothes and other things. Right now if I get the car I can't get them what they need. But if I don't get the car I'll have trouble getting to and from therapy. I don't know what to do. 

He is almost 7 years old and I am only allowed to play on the Xbox downstairs when he is gone because he throws a fit about me playing on "his" Xbox! He also gets to play way longer than I do, not that I am complaining because it is better than not playing at all. He cries every time he doesn't get a new toy or something, and I am here not even getting school supplies and looking for ways to earn money! I never complain about what I have but he does all of the time, nothing is good enough for him! Also what I hate about him most is that he cries all of the time! HE CRIES ALL OF THE DANG TIME! If I win him in a game of pool, he cries! If I call him a brat, he cries! If he sees something "scary" on TV (which is everything) HE FREAKING CRIES! He is such a little pussy and I am sick of him! I was going to read him a bed time story and my dad encouraged us to go in my room, so I did and then her jumps all over the place and destroys the bed that I made and calls me names because I demand that he stops. He slapped my computer and then I slapped his knee and then he started crying nonstop, I DIDN'T EVEN HIT HIM HARD! Are all little kids like this because I am his big sister and I am going to babysit my neighbor's 8 year old.

My 16 year old son has always been very talkative, outgoing, and independent; especially since he started high school, he always seems to be off with friends, training for the track team, and just doing normal teenage things. This is why his behavior in the past few months has been particularly odd; suddenly, he stays in his room most of the time, is quiet and withdrawn, has stopped running and hanging out with his friends, and has even started returning to old habits like sleeping with a stuffed animal. It's really weird - especially for a teenage boy - but I don't know if it's just a phase or what. Has anyone had this experience with a son? What was the problem? How did you deal with it?  On a side note, I suspect he is gay - I doubt this has anything to do with it as he knows how supportive we'll be/has two lesbian aunts who we're very close with, but maybe it's related?  Edit: this started before COVID - basically at the beginning of the year. Sorry for being unclear 

My stepdad is being an idiot AGAIN.. he doesn't like me around him and treats me like dirt. He pretends to be nice and all but uses "positive" words under a negative tone to hide his fueled narcissism. After walking 3 laps around the block for 2.5 hours, I went and threw out the trash without wearing a glove or mask, and I didn't know he or my mom would be downstairs. My stepdad said to go wash my hands, and I was just going to do it in my room upstairs so I could change my shirt and possibly take a shower. Then he forced me to wash downstairs because he thinks I can't be in my room without washing my hands in the bathroom downstairs. I told him we've been doing this before the coronavirus and it makes no difference. I told him to STOP watching the news and he went mute. After having some watermelon I watched my brother play, I would say I love you to my stepdad and he got kinda offended, he said what? I feel like my stepdad really, really hates me and is only around because of my mom. He said Im YoUR fAtHeR fIgUrE Im TrYiNg To Be NiCe GeT ThOse NeGatIve ThoUghTs OuT Of YoUR MiNd like he is trying to SHAME ME. There is literally nothing in the law or constitution that says people can't criticize others' acts. I did just that while I was minding MY OWN business and he literally overbears me and says he doesn't. What is wrong with him 🤦‍♂️ he thinks I get defensive and offended but HE is the one of all that My stepdad DOES have a history of being a giant CREEP. 10 years ago when I was just a child I was in trouble and he threatened to take away ALL my clothes except my white underwear. Biggest reason why I hate him to this day. There were worse situations but this is the one.

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So my mum has always believed that unless you have a bachelor s degree, you can t hope to make it far in life. I tried doing university and I know that it s not for me. I am currently studying a degree that at this point I m only doing for her because I don t want to disappoint her. But the thing is it makes me so unhappy so I picked up a diploma in beauty therapy which I m really interested and excited to start. The thing is as things are now, I will be doing it simultaneously with my current degree. I have enough credit points that if I choose to, I can finish my course now and receive a diploma. I know this is what I want to do, because then I wouldn't have done all this study for nothing and I can't imagine racking up more student debt completing the entirity of the course just to say I got a bachelor's degree that I won't use. But I'm afraid she will just see me as a failure for dropping out. I know she doesn't want me to do the beauty therapy course while I am still studying this course but I don't  want to do it anymore. How do I get her to understand that its my life and I would rather complete this now than stretch myself thin trying to do both when I don't feel purpose doing this any longer.