My stepdad, a Gen Xer, is teaching his son (my brother, a post-Gen Zer) to be a "tough" sexist, racist pile of crap. He thinks everyone gets offended, but he is the one getting offended by everything. I was in my room with the door closed, and the door was opened in the family's room. Now, I don't know if my stepdad yelled "******" or "hacker" at my brother.. at first. He finally said hacker. He told him not to play with his friends or else he purposefully made my brother cry. He was crying and my stepdad, downstairs was yelling at him to "knock it off!" My brother was playing with his friends and one of them and him were calling each other a "hacker" (supposedly, but maybe it was actually "******"?) and my stepdad tells him not to get offended, to always keep his opinions to himself and to always be "righteous." I am 20. My brother is 8. His dad (my stepdad) is 46. My stepdad has been way worse now than he was, say 4-5 years ago. He used to beat him. We're all Armenians, except for me I'm half Armenian and half Jordanian. He compares my brother to his friends, then when he compares himself to his friends my stepdad yells at him not to worry about people. He is a hypocritical scumbag and doesn't even allow my brother to have any non-white friends.

so ive recently been diagnosed with a high level of depression. im 14 years old, and feel like an outsider in school. ive also been bullied(i think)with people telling me im cool, handsome, and later i realised that they were just making a fool of me. i speak to a psychiatrist, and ive been away from school a lot. the quarantine has helped me regain srenght, the long break really helped me. so after i got back to school, i started going there everyday. me, my mom and my psychiatrist talked about taking it from week to week, and when we decide on some thing theres no staying home. i started getting bullied again and i decided to say that i was sick to stay home. she said that since im sick she will take away a lot of my priviliges. no computer. no phone. i cant even text a friend. she said that saturday we will reavaluate. maybe i could go home mid-school? no. too awkward. she also said that if i dont go to school, those priviliges will go away. either im locked in a prison in my own room, or i go to school and get bullied. i really wanted to talk to her, but it only seems that she care about the whole deal with the priviliges. its almost like i get punished for staying home. and i feel bad about it everytime. been thinking about suicide lately, but i know thats not the best option. i really need help. what do i do?

Unfortunately my brother in law lost his mother a couppe of months ago to covid. Today would have been her birthday. My sis had written a post just wishing happy birthday and saying she hopes she is celebrating. Thinking of writing a response something like. " You are missed so much. I bet there is one heck of a party going on up there". Feeling like that's a bit cringe what do people think?

My 20 year old daughter recently confessed that she went clubbing at uni, and lied to us saying she went on a sleepover at a friend's that night. I am really upset with her, and I feel like she has betrayed our trust. At present, she's still in uni and staying there for most of the term so we barely see her. Does she not understand why lying is wrong??? She could've been hurt, and she's betrayed our trust, and this has affected our relationship. She recently said to me that her friend was upset with her after they found out she lied, and now that friend avoids her and has started distancing her. What consequences should there be because she lied? As she'll be coming back in the holidays.

He lies saying he's working when really he's gone out to see friends or do shopping.  He comes home for lunch usually then goes back to work, so when he's going out, he'll lie saying he has to go work after lunch or what he's even done is say he's gone work in the morning, gets changed into his uniform then sits in the local park by himself. When he gets home, he makes up some story about work and how he has to go back, and when he does go back, he'll go out to wherever he planned to, and come back in the evening as if he had been working. It's really horrible and if his employer catches him lying like this, he will be fired. 

When my son, who is 19 goes out and I text him to ask if he's alright, or where he is, he will respond really horribly and angrily. He automatically thinks it's me spying on him or monitoring him, and he always has a go just becuase I texted him. It's so rude honestly.  I recently asked him why he doesn't respond to my messages or leaves them as read, then he said "oh I do see your msg, but I just ignore them" or "you're not worth talking to".  Just last week, I asked him if he was going to be eating out with his friends or come home, and he gave me a tirade of abuse for it.  I don't know what to do honestly, as he never texts to tell me his plans or what he's doing so I have to ask.

So my fiancé of two years just left me, and at this point I just want to die. I have no family or friends for support whatsoever. I feel like the world is ending and I just have nothing left in my life. I don't want to kill myself directly, but since I have no one or nothing to live for anymore, I plan to just be more reckless, which may result In my death, but who cares. I plan to drive 160 on the highway all the time Since my car can go that fast, if I crash I may die but whatever no one cares about me. I plan to go sky diving and do some dangerous skiing in the mountains. I'm going to go camping in a tent full of food and hopefully a bear will maul me to death. I'm going to travel through the most dangerous countries in the world, maybe I'll get killed maybe I won't, it won't matter either way. I'm done with the world 

I've noticed that some people talk about kids as if, they WILL happen. Why are there so many people who have kids without the ability or resources to care for them? It seems like those people that say kids will happen regardless of if your actually ready for them. It's like it never crosses their mind that some people are actually responsible and chose to wait or not have kids at all if their not ready or just don't want to be parents.   Btw, I'm 25, male, and have zero desire to be a parent

Hello, I need your advice on this... As a 22 year old college student I tend to visit my hometown and parents... Ever since I was a kid, I was taught to behave well, to be cultured...  But one thing that my father does really annoys me and disgusts me... When its not winter, a bunch of times he leaves the door of the bathroom open while he showers and I am very tired of it ! The last time he did it, I slammed the door and it led to an argument... And he tried to justify his action with "I am not showering naked outside" Who the **** does that ?! Somebody could visit the house and see the same... How can I tell him to stop doing that... 

I was going to have something with the extended family but with Coronavirus that is not an option. We had a huge gathering for his 80th because he was alive but obviously at 90 he is not alive so not many want to do anything. Nothing wrong with that of course, I just tend to be ceremonial cause the other side of my family is Italian and makes a big deal out of this kind of thing. I keep feeling sad thinking back to how special it was 10 years ago. Now, there is nothing but sadness I feel. No one in the area wants to do anything, it is just my parents siblings and I. I could zoom an aunt and cousin but Zoom makes me so nervous.  My parents are divorced so the Italian side is not related in anyway and only knew him when my parents were married. 

Like Father's Day, do I bother? I will acknowledge him when I see him obviously so not talking about becoming estranged like he likes to do to family. But, I am talking about not bothering to reach out or ask anything.

It's very hot right now and mom wears denim shorts and sports or tank top. We go for walks often witj our dog and men stare at her butt for like even 10 seconds sometimes. It's really weird and uncomfortable. Why do tbey do this?

My mum has had a cough for over a year now. I've tried multiple times to get her to see a doctor but she refuses and says she's fine. The cough seems to be getting worse, she's constantly bringing up phlegm and her voice is very raspy. I'm really worried about her what can cause a cough to persist her over a year?  Also just to add she's never smoked a cigarette in her life. 

This uncle, my mother's brother, was a very abusive man. He went on to abuse his children even with a belt and was horrible to his wife, now ex-wife. I seldom see the man or his kids now and the kids are mostly close to the mother and avoid him. Apparently he has grandkids and thankfully his daughter doesn't expose her kids to what I was exposed to. My parents only protected me when it fit into their revenge agenda against people they had grudges against.

So I don't see my cousin a lot and were honestly not THAT close but I have her Snapchat. We talk on the phone for her birthday but that was it and were not best friends or anything, im18 years old, and just finished my first year in college.  So she is constantly posting on Snapchat her friends and stuff like that. Yesterday she posted two of her cousins who I didn't recognize and was like "Look how beautiful my cousins are". At first, I didn't think anything of it because they were probably on her dads side and her dad lives in a different state, and I'm closer to her mom anyways who is my second cousin. But yeah when she posted that I was like "Dang ok" but I didn't think about it too much because I didn't know them and plus she doesn't have any pictures of me and she didn't post my sister or any other cousins who are also beautiful but idk it still has me thinking lol. should I be offended? 

Yanet Garcia claims that Doug Martin traded in unconditional love for money. If it is unconditional love, then there would be no break up. It is situations like these that makes me take the red pill.

I live with my brother, I am 24 and he is 23. When I finished my masters, I was told by my parents that I would have to move home if I didn't get a job (fair enough). My brother has just finished university and my parents still pay EVERYTHING for him.  1 - I sort out the bills and because I work he takes advantage and sometimes won't pay/my mum pays me and it becomes an argument  I get very angry because we have been treated completely differently, I don't mind sorting out the bills etc but the non-payment is not on.  He often makes issues and is quite nasty to me and takes advantage of my kindness, I am often on egg shells. My mum says to me always, well you earn money, move out if it's bad. But why should I move out? I have the full time job and he is the nasty one? I think no wonder he isn't nice to me. What do you think/any experience? 

And I'm not allowed to move out

I have notice all kids these days are like this. On social media, they would do an anonymous to be honest and post it up saying hurtful **** about people saying they are irrelevant and all that **** and I notice my sister was one of them who did this. She has been taught not to be like this but she is influenced by everyone around her. Making friends w people outside her school then gets into drama w a lot of people. And she's only 16. 

I (female) joined Tinder about November last year. I ended up dating a guy that I already new for a while and didn't delete my profile or the app I just never really ended up using it.  I am now single again and decided to use the tinder app so I have never really done the online dating app thing before and I'm not really sure how or what the best way is to go about it. I don't even have that much information about me written on my profile and I only have about 3 photos.In the months that I have had the app I have accumulated over 4,000 likes and have made a few matches in the past 3 weeks and only a handful of guys have spoken to me.I am ideally looking for someone to date longterm but I haven't completely ruled out a few hookups while I'm looking.The idea of meeting up with a person I don't know makes me nervous/worried and 3 guys I matched up with started talking to me and asked to meet up within like 1-3 days of chatting and I kind of started to make plans of meeting up with them but I panicked last minute and stupidly unmatched them.How long should I wait before meeting up with someone after talking/matching with them? And how can I tell if it's safe to?

I have a background in Vet Nursing and worked in a Vet Clinic 4 yrs ago for  3 yrs. Assisting vets during surgery, giving subcutaneous injections and micro chipping. I took a break and have been working a Retail job for 3 yrs now as well as at Events. I got a job for 2 days a week in a pet shop and been there 6 weeks.   There are 7,000 products and I have no experience with exotics or products.They showed me the basics of the job on my first day but did no training on products and threw me in straight away.I get extreme anxiety when I start new jobs and find it hard to remember things at first and make a lot of silly mistakes. The owner noticed and was rude to me, spoke down to me in front of other co workers and was dismissive whenever I asked him a question. He was nice to me when he wanted to hire me.There was another girl working and he was all over her in front of me being nice and ignoring me. He was so horrible that I spent most of the day upstairs hiding from him and felt like crying, I also shake around him and other co workers. I want to quit because I get so anxious before work I feel sick. I try to avoid customers because he watches me and I fear saying something dumb. When I start a new job I act dumb because I'm nervous and overwhelmed so I have been fired over it within a day of starting. It takes me a while before I get used to things. I'm not useless because I have worked in clinics and have managed to hold down 2 jobs for 4 yrs. Should I stick it out? 

i don't like it when she asks if I been anywhere when coming home. I want her to stop asking and being interested where I go? What should do or say to her?

My parents, once again, are causing me GREAT mental anguish by blaming, bossing and scolding me for everything, despite having other siblings around the home. They received another dose of indoctrination from work and they've been treating me like crap again. I don't want a repeat of me going insane from their treatment that caused me to post lies about myself being a CONVICTED PAEDOPHILE throughout the internet, which has caused their company to sack me last year. Parents reason for treating me like how they did back then is because they went to a program that made males metrosexual with my siblings while I missed. A combination of their treatment and me missing out had caused me to tell lies about myself, which caused this organization to go against me. It's bad enough I have women laughing behind my back and males pretending to cough behind my back whenever I go out in public with a nice haircut and go places where they are, despite being my natural identity to being metrosexual.

Earlier today I was given a full dose of MENTAL ANGUISH! by parents. My dad was blaming, bossing and scolding me, again. My mum she just said to me behind my back that I'm $hit. I have 3 brothers and 1 sister and they always pick on me! Back in 2016 I missed out on attending a program that turns males metrosexual when my parents took my siblings, and my dad was forcing hyper-masculinity in me by blaming, bossing and scolding me. As a result, I told lies about myself being a convicted paeodphile which had caused me to become blacklisted from such programs and me losing my job last year because of that post. . Am I the one who has something very wrong going on in my mind, or is it my parents who are wrong. 

I know someone who when he was 11 his mom got so mad at him she threw him on the bed she was standing still on the floor and she grabbed his arm and he lifted off his feet and landed onto the bed. How could she do it? I've only ever seen people throwing people to the ground like in karaoke and wrestling never off their feet they go flying into the air landing on something.

My mom's relatives picked my mom's loser husband over me, their own blood relative. They don't have any idea of what has been going on all these years. He lived off my mom and yelled at me that she was an adult and could take care of herself even though her teeth were rotting out & she looked and smelled like a homeless person. His own son & daughter said he had more than enough money to live comfortably for the rest of his life. He said he was going to leave my mom when she no longer recognized him & he did. When he left, he called my relatives & told them he couldn't afford to live in CA, & that my brother & I were so horrible because we chose to have mom taken care of in memory care, in his words, a nursing home. And, that we would inherit my mom's assets, not him. Mom did a prenup & put us as beneficiaries. However, all of her money is going toward her care. Meanwhile, he's a millionaire living in a mobile home now. I saw paperwork that showed he had put away 215K every 6 months in retirement accts & investmts. He got the money from a death in his family. My own blood relatives side with him & won't even visit me. They believed his lying sob story and he didn't mention leaving because she didn't recognize him anymore. What's wrong with people? This guy took advantage of my mom the whole marriage & refused to spend a penny for her caregivers. Mom's relatives are in another state. I would only see them once every 5 years anyways, but it amazes me how gullible they are.

So my mom and I have a rocky relationship. She's the judge-mental, negative parenting, put-downer, punishing instead of disciplining type of parent (just so you can get an idea ha). She's there for me most of the time financially (school supplies, necessities, etc) because she cares about my future, but nothing is ever good enough for her aside from that. We have a financial relationship for necessities that's about it. When I was younger (4 years ago I was a freshman) beginning high school all the girls would wear very you know girly flirtatious clothing. Crop tops, dresses, makeup, long nails etc. When I used to dress that way she would put me down calling me a "prostitude" or "this is too short" etc. Eventually growing out of trying to fit in, I found my own style which is pretty much streetwear. Baggy clothes, dope kicks, and I even mix it with girly accessories such as bags, jewelry, & even short tops and dresses here and there. But now apparently I'm a lesbian. (Nothing wrong with that) but that's how my mom is. I'm also very athletic & love activities that can be consider tomboy (I believe that's very sexist). It seems like my mom will never accept me. I try to explain to her how this new generation is and the meaning behind everything I wear and do... but she continues to think I'm influenced by specifically someone. Why can't I just do things for myself? She's always making me feel bad like oh I miss the old you, I'M NOT 5 ANYMORE like you can't keep controlling me. I'm 18 now by the way. Because of this, I've always been working different jobs growing up to pay for my OWN clothing and things I enjoy. I just wish I had the understanding supportive of expression type of mom. She's always comparing me to others. I've grown up not to care as much anymore, but I'm just scared she'll completly disown me someday. Wish we had a better relationship, but I know she'll never change.  

Couple B lives in the year 1830 Couple C lives in the year 1880 Couple D lives in the year 1930 So the question is would each couple be able to do much with the $2000.00 in cash?Also if your feeling upto it what do you think the couple could buy with there $2000.00 to help get a head start on there new life going?

sooo this is happening now am 14 years old I came to THE USA WHEN I WAS 8 my mom didn't treat me well so my sister's PAID HER 2000 DOLLARS FOR ME so i've lived with my sisters since i was twelve THATS 3 YEARS AND STARTING NEW ONE NOW MY MOM WANTS ME BACK SHE SAIDS WE NEED TO PAY HER 2000 AND 500 MONEY FOR ME TO STAY WITH MY SISTERS and the thing is that SHE LIVES WITH 3 KIDS one is 6 years old the other one is 10 and the LIL ONE IS 1 AND 1/2 she leaves them alone with my stepdad he has ANGER ISSUES she goes to south carolina AND WORKS AT A BAR WERE SHE DRINKS WITH BOYS AND GETS PAID THERE PHOTOS OF HER WERE SHE is with a bunch of boys t their house and drinking beer ALSO COCAINE TOOshe does all of this instead of taking care of her kids herself they have offer her jobs but she likes the one where she drinks and does cocaine sooooooo my 6 YEAR OLD SISTER IS SPECIAL SHE HAS A SYNDROME AND MOM GETS PAID BECAUSE OF THAT so she doesn't need to work but she likes her stupid job and my stepdad is sick too so he's not in position of taking care of nobody.....soooo CAN I SEND HER TO JAIL FOR THIS ?  AND AM DISGUSTED BY HER HUSBAND HE'S ALWAYS USE TO TALK ABOUT SEX IN FRONT OF ME AND MY SISTER WHEN I LIVED WITH HER 

I often find myself in quarrels with my sister. Typically, it begins with me innocently asking something for her, and then she snaps back with a unreasonably hostile response. It shocks me, so I try and reaffirm the fact that I was never ill-intentioned with what I asked and that I wasn't trying to be mean. Then she continuously berates me as if I insulted her. I'm very emotional, so I either end up crying in front of her or silently storming away. And the thing that frustrates me is that she doesn't care. Actually, she's outright told me that she's apathetic towards me and has no interest in how her words hurt me. Today, I asked her to move her clothes to the dryer. She yelled at me in front of my family. I got upset and tried to reason with my sister, which made my mother say that I killed the happy mood. I was trying to defend myself and clear up the misunderstanding. I didn't want to just sit there. Out of embarrassment, I rushed to my room and cried. I feel hopeless. I feel like no one cares about me. I just want her to care for me as much as I care for her. 

We are all adults, note that we are adults and not kids.  But most of the time, they are being a jerk and they are not acting like siblings (they are not nice to you most of the time).   Do you need to stand up for yourself to these attitudes?

Is this because I'm the youngest? Sometimes I feel as if no one takes me seriously. Despite having a Masters Degree and a decent paying job. I was at a funeral for my Grandmother last week. I showed up to meet up with the rest of my family at the Hotel. I walk in and my sister sees me and says "Ugh, do your hair!" I just prefer to leave my hair messy, but neat at the same time. I have it a way I am comfortable with. So then my sister grabs me and starts getting in my face with a comb and spikes it in front. haha maybe! That's pretty messed up though. 

Say if a guy gets really visible b oner in front his mom. And if someone were to hypothetically ask him if he thinks it's embarrassing when she notices it, and he just simply says "no". Mostly because when she does see it she doesn't think anything of it and just acts like it's the most normal thing ever. Answers?

Say I have an Uncle who is my Fathers brother. He marries a woman who has a brother. After marriage, they have a child - my cousin. Since I'm not a blood relative to my cousins Uncle, am I obligated to call him "Uncle" or can I choose to out of respect and courtesy?

My whole family treats me like sh*t. They all gang up on me and try to fight me and act like they don't want me around.

I have always been a home body. I went to summer camp when I was 13 years old for 4 weeks (sleep away) and was incredibly homesick! I cried myself to sleep every night. I got better and went to college and lived in a different state for 4 years but wasn't too far (3 hours) so j could come home if i wanted but i rarely did. Then I lived in Florida for a year and worked at Disney and was sad and missed my parents but had so much fun! I called my mom every night in college and in Disney. My brother (25) is moving iut soon with his gf and im sad he is leaving bc i want hom to stay. I fear ill miss him too much and his room will just rott. I fear the day I have to move out with my husband and start a life of my own. I don't want to grow up and i don't want my parents to grow up. I fear death bc i just lost my grandma and aunt within a momth of eachother and they are the first people I lost that I really knew. Im scared of the day I lose someone again! I can't lose anyone and i dont want people to leave me but ik i will move out some day! I also am scared to get a bf bc i wanna stay young and be with my family ugh help me!!!!! i want a bf and a husband (i have tome im only 22) but still! ugh idk whats wrong with me. 

Everytime me and my mother argues or get in a fight and I tell her I feel hurt because you told me this or that it always ends up being all my fault.Im being drained. I cry so often after she tells me hurtful words or treats me poorly and in the end it is always my fault. She always make her sound right and that everything's my fault.  And when I come home happy after having a good time with friends she always has something negative to sat. Why is she always doing this and what should I do?

So some background I have two brothers and am the only girl and the middle child. I moved out of the house almost a year ago because living there my mental health was deteriorating. Now my family invites me over for dinner weekly and has me watch the dogs while they go away every weekend which is fine. And it was fine for a while but after a month or two of doing this they have become their old selves again. Every time I go over for dinner they always say I'm either gaining weight and need to stop eating so much or they mentions my tattoos and piercings and say how ugly I'm getting with them and I just can't handle it anymore every time I watch the dogs they monitor everything that I ate while staying there and then again call me fat or tell me I need to calm down and stop eating so much. I haven't relied on my parents for anything for about 2 years now and have paid all of my bills by myself. I have tried talking to them to get them to stop but they just call me more names for doing that. I just want to cut them out of my like but I don't know how or if it is even possible. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you

My mom had a doctors appointment today and I was in charge of feeding my siblings. I called my little brother to come eat and my older brother came and yelled in my face to lower my voice. When I told him I was just calling my little brother, he smacked me in the head and kept following me and hitting me. My other brother was pushing him away from me and then he grabbed my fingers and bruised one of them. I yelled out of anger "don't f***ing touch me" and it made it worse and he hit me again and destroyed my laptop. I'm hiding in my room and scared out of my mind right now because I didn't do anything wrong. It was just a reaction. I was so terrified of him being in my face that I just blurt it out. What should I do? My mom is blaming me for the situation and said that I deserved it for cussing. I'm 17 and he's 21 by the way. My dad said that you're not a baby anymore and that I should fight back but it's too hard.