When my dumb *** husband drinks he has no care in the world literally this man did 6 years in prison for drinking dui running from the cops . 3 time so he drank today and we went out for sushi the lady said they were closing only take out his like no I'm gonna seat here and eat I'm looking at him like no he leaves yells and cusses at me that he can do whatever he wants and me to be quit that his a alph male did I do something wrong ?

He tells me he love me but then I would catch him staring at other woman. I caught him and this woman one time making flirty eye contact. Another time we were grilling at my sister and brother in law's house. My bff was there and he flirted with her. I slapped him and left him there. I went back home and he walked home. He embarrasses me.. it's one of the reason why I don't want to be seen out with him anymore. I want a divorce but he doesn't. I'm miserable.

Okay I just need some help here. So me and my husband have been married for 8 years now, and when he married me he knew I had a son who at the time was 15. He has 3 children from his previous marriage but they have never lived with him and were living out of state with their mom. We recently purchased a larger home and because his daughter who is now 21 has a boyfriend that lives here in SoCal like us she decides to come on down and move in with us. She comes and goes as she pleases with the boyfriend and I don't know how to feel about this. I asked my husband how long she plans on staying with us and he said as long as she wants. He also got very upset and said that since my son was living with us his daughter could too. My plans of making the room she's in in to my office are crushed as it took me many years of hard earned money to finally have my dream home. My privacy is gone and I no longer feel right at home. Am I being unreasonable or do I have valid reasons for feeling this way?

My wife and I have two kids together. We have two sons, ages 3 and 6. We do ok financially. We're not wealthy, but we're not poor either. I make $70,000 a year, which is enough to support all 4 of us with my wife being a stay at home mom. We live in a nice home and in a safe nice cozy neighborhood with a good school district. Overall, we have a pretty good life. Though, lately my wife has been having baby fever. She really wants another baby, but we just can't afford anymore kids. We just can't. It would be nice for my wife to go back to work once our 3 year old is in elementary school in the 2 years. I told my wife that it's just not financially feasible for us to have another kid. Not only that, but two kids is a lot for us to handle. I see it in my wife at times of how stressed out she gets with our two kids, but yet, she lets her emotions control her with her baby fever feelings. What should I do about my wife wanting another kid when we can't afford anymore children?

My husband told me he doesn't understand why I gained so much weight. He thinks I am a good looking guy but he doesn't like my body. He also said my boobs got bigger and I will never be skinny. In my defense I work three jobs and I am a graduate student currently. It is extremely difficult to go workout. We do not have sex and I asked him if my body was the reason. He said no. I asked him if I lose weight would you be more interested in my body. He says probably yes but that he has not changed his feelings about me. I'm confused.

My husband and I were in a conference call with our real estate broker. At some point during the discussion, I addressed the broker with an idea that might possibly help with our current situation. Our broker said that doing the move that I suggested would not help that much. My husband chimed in. He also thought that it would not help that much to do it. I think as his spouse he should just say his opinion to me in private instead of announcing it to the broker that we were not on the same page. He confidently voices his opinion when he knows the other person is on his side, even if he is not being asked. It feeds his ego. He says it with bravado too. What do you think? Should he just have stayed mum about it and listened to the broker's response since the question was directed at her?

They have been at our house for 3 months

If I a family court judge... I can't base my decisions on sex...ok. But I would attempt to counsel divorced women, that it is overall a bad idea for women to raise males. Because boys grow into men... And they do so well before the law says that they are men. Not always... But enough times for it to be a serious safety issue... They don't listen. They don't take advice. They don't love or care. They are not your sweetheart. They're not your husband. They become physically, verbally, mentally abusive... They become thugs.. And they have become killers. And they do things to hurt people in general outside of their family. I understand that you don't want to lose your son... But would you consider having custody of your daughters... And the man raise and properly manage the sons ? :P

As a police officer marriages don't last. Even when you are a lawyer, fireman, coast guard and doctor. They work long hours. They don't do the nine-to-five time. If you are married, I think a wife has to understand the long hours and not being home. They have to provide for the children. Even Celebrities work long hours or being out of the road. That is why we should never get married. Even if we were dating for nine years, we should call it off. You would save a lot of money, if they stay single until 40 or 50 years old. Being a cop or a firemen usually leads to divorce because of our job and our long hours.

We have two kids together and our relationship has become pretty toxic. I moved out to AZ with her,and her family and my situation has become pretty un stable. I have pretty much become locked down with the vehicle and living situation as all of it does not have my name legally attached. She swears that if I would just marry her it would resolve her issues with me and she would be happier..I feel it's a deeper trap and things will not get better it will be a bandaid. I feel as though I want to give it the benefit of the doubt and try ,but not entirely sure how much more she can damage me in a divorce. I really don't have assets to lose or riches. I fear if I were to get a vehicle she can take it in the split if we were married and I become worse off than if I just left as we are. I dont need to be told "not to" just information on if divorce would be setting me up into a worse situation if things do not become better.

My husband is from Mexico and he came out 54 percent Native American, 41 percent European (mostly Spanish, Portuguese, Italian) and some small amounts of African and Middle Eastern on Ancestry DNA. My dad is Hispanic and my mom is White American. I came out 85 percent European(Spanish, but also British, Balkan) 12 percent Native, 3 percent African. I took 23andme. When we fill out the census should we mark "White" as our race and then check the Hispanic origin box? The reason I ask is because my husband is actually almost half White. And people have even asked if he was Greek or Italian. Is he White enough to be considered a White Hispanic? @shoeshopper3---you are ******* retarded. There are millions and millions of PURE Spaniard descendant Latin Americans in countries like Cuba and Argentina. What do you consider them? Black? There is no question that White Latin Americans exist. I was just asking if my husband and I would be classified as such....

Im going through divorce etc and each time it comes up in a conversation or office or whatever, i get the impression that the women im talking to suddenly change and they look at me as if im a drunk wife beater. It could be my impression, so im asking here to get some opinions. In some cases, some women even had the audacity to side with my ex wife even before hearing what happened. That is, she deserted me and ran away with cash and gold straight to her ex bf only a few months after marrying me. Do women side with divorcees upon hearing of divorce or is it just me ? If they do side, then its just common sense cause they're of the same gender etc but its really childish to try to make me look like a wife beater esp after what happened. Its also disgusting how the judges and laws on divorce are so unfair; leaning heavily on the woman and the man is just a fat paycheck standing there. And deep inside all women believe that he "owes" it to them and that they're damaged more than the man; after he invested every penny in her to be his better half ? Eva, the slut is getting nothing but i expected some sort of punishment such as prison or compensation. Cause such behavior diminshes the sanctity of matrimony where you can just walk out on your spouse with no consquences. Its just a piece of paper that doesnt protect the man. How about my feelings, reputation and all the money i sunk in this mess ?

His dad left when he was a kid. He has a baby mama (2 kids) with 1 on the way. He is staying for the kids but is unhappy. Both pregnancy were surprises, the baby mama swears to really like him but he feels used most of the time.

My family is pressuring me to get married so that my bf can't just dump me without compensation after I've dedicated my life solely to him for years, but I've heard of the victim (the one who is cheated on or divorced) having to pay their husband money, does divorce usually favor the victim or is it really just a matter of whoever gets the better lawyer screws over the other person? He's kept me broke my whole life so if that's the case he would obviously win the divorce as I can't afford a better lawyer than him, but in my case of having zero income because he wants me to be a housewife would he be legally obligated to compensate me as me not having money was a decision he made? Would the fact that he told me not to work and that he would always be there count for anything or are circumstances irrelevant and it's all about the lawyer? I'm confused

My husband and I have had to move into my moms house because we aren't in a good financial situation. Previously my mom was renting out her old house to us. She gave us a discount at first but then told us we had to leave when we couldn't pay the full price for monthly rent when my husband lost his job. Since we've moved in with her, my husband has been acting like a complete asshole. Hes said stuff to me, such as how he thinks it's completely ridiculous that she won't continue giving us discounted rent (he complains even though she paid for tens of thousands of dollars of his student loans and our wedding and reception). We've had to put most of our items in storage and my husband is not happy about that as he doesn't want to pay for a storage unit and thinks my mom has room even she has told him she does not. The items we have brought over have had to go into storage too because my mom changed her mind about letting us have those things. Apparently that's the worst thing she could do. My husband went off last night saying how he's done with this and wants to leave and my mom is awful and he wants to destroy everything of hers. I have never seen my husband act this way. He's a calm, rational person. I'm close to my mom and this offended me. I got so angry with him and told him he was being an absolute jerk. He felt awful and said he realized how selfish and irrational he was being and kept saying how sorry he was. I'm just disturbed by this. How should I handle this?

Okay, so if you look at my last M&D questions (my profile is public) you'll see I'm really heckin' frustrated sexually with my wife. It's been months since we had sex, we talk about it all the time now, and nothing gets better. I make moves, she tells me no. I do work for her, she doesn't give it to me willingly. She gets a professional 90 minute massage and a professional 90 minute facial; still not relaxed enough to do anything with me. If my wife is addicted to "being busy" and she feels like a life without nagging stress is not a meaningful life, what can I do get sex out of her? She refuses to relax and when she does her idea of relaxing is just more stimulation that stresses her out. She will NEVER be in the right headspace for sex or intimacy (cuddling) or romance if all she can do is work, work, work, work, and work. She's a workaholic!!! She's on Prozac and she says "it's working" but I can't help but feel like her Type A personality isn't being dealt with and she needs a different pill that will correct the underlying mental illness that makes her so addicted to working (btw, that's working on adult world things, not house chores; no, she's above that). Please tell me something OTHER than divorce and therapy. She REFUSES to go to therapy; her meds are through her family doctor and even though he prescribed therapy she wants to fix it herself because someone told her she had to be a strong, independent woman in order to be respected so she's doing it herself.

In this case, she's the one who's demanding it, while he refrains. My secret belief is that it's too difficult for him. He's a big guy, with back problems. She does a lot of extras for him, including carrying their luggage oh, because of his back and knee. So it seems to me that it would carry over into other areas. While I did not want to get involved in this, they actually wrote To Me and asked my advice. I thought maybe there'd be a simple wisdom or two that would help them. Apparently, she gets pretty aggravated, which cannot be easy for him. But understandably so, because she catches him looking at certain material, Etc

My husband told me the other day that whoever told me that marriage was about compromise was a liar. And now I'm starting to see that he doesn't compromise a single thing for me. I feel like I'm the only one that compromises on anything. I am honestly at my breaking point. I hate loud music but he likes it so guess what; we listen to loud music. I hate listening to politics but he loves it so we listen to politics. He smokes and I don't and I have asked several times that he not smoke in the truck with my 2 yo daughter and with me...I'm pregnant by the way... and he does it anyway. I am very anti social and I get stressed out if I'm around many people, even family. And he basically told me to just get over it. He decided to let our neighbors girlfriend live in our house until they find a place without asking me first. I know I'm not perfect but I just feel like a doormat! Like my feelings don't matter. I've asked and begged and cried our whole marriage for him to pay a bit more attention to us than his precious cigarettes and beer and I get nothing. A scoff, an eye roll, and then anger is the normal response. I don't know what to do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Every day when I wake up she is cucking me with some big African American hunk, i get home and she is cucking me, I go to the living room and she is having a orgy that I am not allowed to join. HOW DO YOU STOP YOUR WIFE FROM CUCKING YOU WITH MULTIPLE BLACK DUDE!!!??

I would like to know what society thought of young women going off to marry men of other nationalities in older times.