Whats his deal? We had a great conversation when we reconnected. We were talking until 3 am about life, our relationships, and just everything. We were joking with each other. vibing well. The last time I spoke to him was years ago. We've been friends for 10 years but I admit that I didn't keep in touch as well as i should have dealing with crazy life situations and he admitted he wasn't the best at keeping in touch either. but once we reconnected it was like no time past and I started to fall for him the more I talked to him. His mind is everything i've ever wanted in a man. he's articulate, so well spoken. He's really grown to be an admirable person. He has multiple buisnesses, his own house, and he is working to change the community for the better. He's also grown to be extremely good looking. I really regret not making him mine when I had the chance. I was too busy chasing bad boys I overlooked a really great person. Now we're both 27 and I've been stuck in a toxic relationship with a controlling man who has 3 kids and two baby mamas and barely makes any money at his job and lives with his grandmother. Part of me feels like this guy with 3 kids is best I'm going to get as I'm almost 30 and no decent men are looking my way. I was going to break up with my boyfriend to get with my guy friend who is a better match for me but my guy friend is back with his girlfriend SMH. I mean he could possibly break up with her again but I'm still super sad about the situation. Me and my guy friend's personality just mesh well. We haven'y had an argument EVER. he never gets mad. Hes the type of guy I need tbh. eve my boyfriend said I need someone like him because he has a soft and sensitive personality. My bf is very hot heated and we clash a lot cause of it. my guy firend claims he's been texting back slow because of his multiple buisnesses but I know its because of her. we were talking all night long when they were broken up smh

I've unintentionally gone from one abusive relationship to another and I have struggled to leave each of the men who've abused me in my life. Eventually, I leave them just like my dad finally left my mom once I was old enough to understand.

I'm 36 and considering divorce from my abusive wife. I'm focused on the short term stuff like having a nice home of my own and trying to get custody of my son. But one thing in particular is on my mind. For 10 years I've not done any real travel with her and we have hardly kissed. Maybe about once or twice in any given year. So when I look at other happy couples, I feel like I've sacrificed my 20s and most of my 30s whilst others have been spending quality time together and building happy memories. I look back and see that she has travelled with friends overseas and we haven't had any romantic time together or getaways. I just worked and tried to pay the Bill's for the last 8 years. Each so called getaway included her family tagging along. About once per year at most. So I want to know if late 30s and 40s with a child is too late to rediscover love and passion? To go out on dates and travel together like young lovers? Or have I missed the boat? Because I feel like as we get older, those things take a backseat to other priorities and a certain level of maturity is expected. Like that young love is replaced with a more mature love etc. But I want to experience what I've missed out on over the years. Am I naive? What is love like in your late 30s and early 40s?

Then, how can I make him get past the humiliations that he has to face from my exes therby destroying his self respect and reputation in the soceity, as I hid it from him thinking he would never know. Now, he does'nt get intimate with me as he gets turned off from those thoughts? What steps can be adopted

We were caught at a party and dealt with humiliation. Her husband forgave. A year later we started cheating again and this led to getting her pregnant. Her husband is sterile so there is no way it is his kid. Ifbhe finds out this would be the second time it gets discovered. Her pregnancy will get us exposed. How can I avoid humiliation?

I'm 36 and married to a guy who is 36 like I am because my parents wanted it and were worried about me marrying anyone that is too old or too young. Right now, my husband is always keeping an eye on what I'm doing so that way I won't abandon him for a much older or much younger guy and every female cousin of mine is also married to a guy close to their age, which means I cannot be the black sheep in my family if I ever leave my husband for someone much older or much younger since he, my family, and in-laws restrict me a lot. Is a person's age always important in a relationship or marriage just to avoid social, family, and/or peer stigma? I know some childhood female friends close to my age who are married to and have relationships with guys that are much older and much younger and their families and relatives don't give them a difficult time about it while my family and relatives will since they are so uptight about who the girls marry while the guys can just date and marry whomever they want and get into fights with other guys over girls.

I've always thought of having language exchange penpals online but I think I'm too old for that plus I have two kids to look after and my husband has installed apps, browser extensions, and software to track down what I am doing. If he ever catches me cheating on him with males more attractive than him from other countries who speak the languages I'm speaking and learning, I'm in big trouble which means I'm not allowed to practice languages with anyone that is a male since he is so xenophobic, jealous and possessive of me. My husband and I both in our mid-30s and there is no one for me to practice with. Not in our area because everyone hate foreign languages and cultures and speaks English only. @history-With female penpals, I won't get caught cheating on my husband but with male ones, it's easy for me to cheat on him. @finc-It's easy for me to as to why I cannot have male friends at all.

Mostly men, but many women also these days, don't want to be in a commitment relationship or a long term relationship. Many relationships fail after a short period of time (3-6 months) because they lost interest, have nothing to talk about anymore, want to have sex with other people, and just fear showing being in love with someone. Why? Same thing with marriage. People divorce so easy these days. Getting married is becoming family. You don't break up or divorce your mom or your dad or your brothers or sisters. They are family. Same thing with your wife or husband. They are family.

I'm noticing that because I have no militant background/structure in my family that my free spirit makes me incompatible with marriage. It might just be me in an emo mood right now but it does appear like the people who repeatedly tell me their life is "great" and their marriage is "outstanding" all come from families that are military or they themselves served in the armed forces some how. So is that the secret to living a good life? Being Conservative and serving the country to earn the respect through imposed masculinity via a very abusive conditioning that takes away a man's feelings and leaves him with either stoicism or PTSD? I just don't get it. Maybe the marriage system DOES need to be overhauled... Why do people who have my blocked even bother answering my questions?...... @history - I'm talking about the morals, ethics, and the structure of having been through a Conservative program like that; not the actually serving really. I don't care about how hard it is to stay married if someone is IN the system, I'm talking about what was learned while in it.

I hadn't drank for about 6 months. I went to a friends house, got drunk, ended up sleeping with his wife. I feel awful. They have an open relationship, but only with other women. I'm a male. He was with another woman in one room of the house in the basement, and his wife and I were upstairs watching a movie. I'm pretty sure she just did this with me as she was jealous of the other woman. I'm not sure he knows, but I'm scared he will find out. His wife actually apologized to me afterwards. To make matters worse, I got married a few days later. So far, my plan is to gently cut ties with these people, quit drinking, keep it hidden, and be the best husband I can be. Any advice is appreciated.

My bf and I have been together for almost 3 years and living together for over a year. I don't have health insurance through my job because it's terrible and very expensive. I have been having severe pain for several month's and finally went to the ER. They think I have an ulcer and need to do a scope. If left untreated it can become infected and cause major and serious issues. My bf wants to get married to add me on his insurance and keeps insisting. He says he loves me and wants to help me. I do want that but not for this reason but am also running out of options. It all just feels weird to me but i almost feel like what other choice do I have.

Spoke to my wife about using protection when we have sex, she said she knows and everything and she isn't the one for birth control, we haven't use a condom in a year. I saw her googling the pullout method and her chances of getting pregnant in the 40s most sites said it's hard but that bull crap I've seen and know many people having kids in the 40s! I'm 45 she's 44 and last night we were watching tv and a birth control commercial came on and she glance took a deep breath then look away i know she's alrwwdy nervous with other problems going on here but just wondering what kind of reaction was that? What does it mean? We have 3 kids 20, 10, and 7 all girls plus 3 dogs she has a lot on her plate

People are so quick to hold a person responsible for their mistakes/problems/struggles but what exactly does that solve? Are we really just a finger pointing society? Or do we care about actual solutions for actual problems? Because after spending 10 years on this site, I don't think very many people have offered me a "this is what you start doing now to flip the script" kind of advice; it's always be "UV, why are you so childish, you need to take responsibilities for the past and you need to stop blaming your wife because we don't want to see ANY questions in the Marriage & Divorce section, like any, from you or anyone else, because we believe the world is perfect if people take responsibility for their actions".... Like TF y'all. Just because someone takes responsibility doesn't mean they know WTF they are doing to fix the problem now that they know they are the ones who's fault it is. Whoopty freakin do, I'm the loser at fault, but it doesn't help me one damn bit.

My gf and I live in South Carolina. She just finished grad school. There are no jobs in her field here. I got lucky and have a great job that pays well. My entire family is here I've never lived elsewhere. My gf got a job offer in Oklahoma. My job has a branch in Oklahoma City. I told her I'd need at least 3-6 months to think about it. If I will transfer to Oklahoma, My job pays all commission so I could be taking a pay cut. I haven't had any desire to even ask for a transfer. We've been together 3 years. She said it would be selfish of me to tell her I'm moving out there in the next 3-6 months and not move and tell her that I changed my mind. My mom is trying very hard to encourage her to consider staying in the local area. She could work retail until she found full time work closer to South Carolina in her field. What do I do? Am I being selfish?

My husband and I often openly discuss other people, guys and girls. But it always gets me when he says about a visibly pretty and self confident girl with initiative, that she "must be a tiger in bed". We're both not overly passionate persons, I admit I am not. He prolly likes sex more than I do. I don't know if I should discuss these comments, ignore them and brush them off, pretend I didn't hear, make a fuss? They kid of piss me off for sure.

I had my young adulthood life taken from me. The problem started with my psychopathic mother who never went to therapy for her childhood trauma of being relentlessly bullied by her sisters and brothers. She took that mental/emotional abuse into my family and picked fights with me repeatedly after I turned 14. By the time I turned 18 I was ready to move out, to the point that at 19 I just said screw it and lived in my car until my girlfriend (now wife) offered 3 weeks later to get an apartment with me; only to take away the rest of my teenage life and all of my 20's with an unplanned child that we had after I turned 20. Her being on the pill was never talked about but I assumed it and we had unprotected sex a lot; turns out she wasn't on anything (her parents forbid it since she wasn't supposed to be active) and she was pregnant after 3 months of us knowing each other in person (we were online chatters prior)... It's been a rocky road from then on (as it should be since we were kids having kids). My entire 20's was supposed to be me experiencing life at my pace and exploring opportunities so I could get to know myself; plus it was supposed to be the part of our relationship where we did a lot of sexual things since we were young and able. Well, none of that happened... I never figured out who I was, we never explored anything, the sex was stale/prude, the responsibilities are crushing my dreams/hopes... I'm 37 now... I love my kids, but I feel ROBBED of my life... I love how no one wants to give me answers any more but they'll answer questions before and after mine on the list. Goes to show how everyone likes to give easy answers instead of actually use their brain cells... I can't comment on your post Caroline because you have me blocked BUT I wanted to let you know that I agree with everything you said. The problem with my generation is we weren't being taught HOW to think, just WHAT to think; and we rebelled against the WHAT only to not know HOW or WHAT.... So I was just living my life to the fullest, doing whatever seemed pleasurable at the time and it lead me here. I think that's why I focus so much on my son; to avoid the same fate as mine from impulsive.

He's 10 now along with their youngest son. When she introduced herself she had on sunglasses as I gave her my name she didn't tell me hers. My boyfriend said that she stills feels some type of way...but she brought her boyfriend with her to get her kids, at first my boyfriend was upset about it in thought she was disrespectful until I got upset... idk what to do ...

I like advice but I wanna do what I feel would make my current situation better & they keep telling me that it's too soon to be getting married. At the end of the day, I'm gonna do what I want to do. I just want y'all opinions.

basically, she took cookie (chocolate cookie) that i save and hide for myself then she eat it. i dont love her anymore now and i am mad at her.

Every example of a marriage I have ever seen is a failed marriage. After being married for a while a lot people seem to lose romantic feelings and stop having sex, especially if they have kids. Most of the people in my life are only married as a title and are basically just platonic roomates or do not get along at all. Even my parents have a platonic marriage and are not in love and stopped being romantic after my kid sister was born 15 years ago. My dad has some mental illness and is a mean person, so I understand why their marriage failed. But even my aunt's and uncle's marriages are platonic after kids. This makes me afraid of my own future marriage. I would never do anything to hinder it and am sure my feelings would never change. However I am afraid that my future wife might fall out of love and get bored with me like all the other marriages I have seen. This is has caused my biggest fear to be failed marriage and ending up alone.

I work with these people. And I caught them sitting in a truck together with doors shut . I hear rumors that this man cheats on his wife with this girl. Is this man a pedophile? What would you define him as?

Why or Why Not?

My dad his 2nd cousin who was good friends with my deceased mom and he was good friends with her deceased husband .. their kids and us all grew up together and they got marrried without telling us except his favorite children who approves it! He also stayed in the same home with the woman when her husband was dying .. and now him and my other siblings are mad at me for feeling betrayed! Me and my other sibling knew nothing of the relationship!! How can they not understand why we would be upset???? When confronted he told me he doesn't care how I feel there's things I do that he doesn't like either !!??? Although I work hard take care of my family and am usally good to him .. can someone tell me why I should I ever have anything to do with him again??? And my other siblings who knew and didn't tell me