Before we married, my wife was an office asst. at a dental office and she was decent with money. After a few months of marriage, she quit her job for really no reason and now she just sits at home all day with our dogs and watches TV. She doesn't clean, cook, or anything... she literally just watches TV all day! Anyway she demands that we live in a luxury apartment, keep both expensive cars, and that I give her money to shop and go out with her girlfriends on the weekends. How should I handle this situation? Thanks.

My husband and I have been married about a month. His ex wife's name is still on his house deed since 2010. On the divorce papers, it states that he is granted full ownership to the house. His lawyer said she is typing up a new deed to put my name on it, but say if she didn't, and the divorce papers say that she cannot get the house, but the deed does, what does that mean? Does she still get it even though the divorce papers say she can't?

Okay I am sick of everytime I am happy my ex husband wants to step in and take over he knows I am happy and he asked me to marry him but still live apart really dude why

Last time she put her name on his phone to make it clear that she's doing it with a smiley face. I don't have anything against her but I didn't want to talk 2 her..if I wanted 2 talk 2 her I'd call her...Do I need to just start calling to ask her since she is all in his phone. She's coming off insecure.When I was married 2 him I never touched his phone and we don't talk about nothing except for our child now its like she doesn't want me to communicate with my ex at all.

My ex-husband and I have been together throughout my son's whole life, he's now 2.5. About a month ago, my husband walked out of our lives very abruptly and without saying anything. It took him about 2 weeks to contact me in an attempt to see our son. I'm keeping my son's best interest at heart, and have allowed my ex-husband to see him whenever he wants with me there. My ex typically spends 2-3 hours with him once, maybe twice per week. He has relocated 3-4 hours away and is now only able to see him when he travels to our area. The past few times my son has visited with him, he refers to his father by his first name. This is something that obviously upsets his father, but my son has not been coached to do this and has never done this before. My son is corrected each time, but continues to do it. Today he was looking through pictures of himself and his father in my phone, and continues to point to him and call him by his first name. Is this something that anyone else has experienced when their child is adjusting to their parents being separated? Could my son actually be that resentful at 2 years old to the point he's refering to his father by his first name? Is there anything I can do on my end about this other than correcting him when he does it? I find it to be something that disrespectful, and would rather him show his father respect despite his poor choices. But I obviously understand that leaving your child is bound to come with some negatives reactions.

I've heard she's slept with quite a lot of people so I want to make sure she's not carrying STDs.

You never see a woman seek a high testosterone male for a long term relationship, only typically short term relationships. But why not also for long term relationships? Just because a guy is tall, muscular, handsome, confident, and assertive and aggressive doesn't mean he will be a bad long term partner, yet women almost always assume this and typically go for guys who are not as strong Type A types like high testosterone leveled men and are more "stable" and "nice" and represent the stereotypical father image, a guy who is just a regular joe not particularly good looking or rich or muscular or masculine appearing. Example, Thor vs Sheldon Cooper. Thor is preferred for flings, Sheldon Cooper for marriage. Why can't Thor also be preffered for marriage?

Down to earth question from UV here... How do I make large changes to my family (which by the way consists of 4 kids - 13, 16, 17, and 18 as well as 5 pets - 3 cats and 2 dogs) and my marriage (37 year old woman who's one year older than me but acts 20 years older than me because her priorities are messed up) when I come home and I just want to die? I'm not depressed, I'm just overwhelmed by the human condition. I get literally only 4 hours of time when I get home from work to do anything. I have 10 living things I need to dedicate my time to. I'll admit, the cats, and the two youngest get the least attention from me as it is but I need less of my time dedicated to the people I am focused on to get anything done. My house hasn't had any upgrades in over 4 years and the upgrades that need to happen are going to take a lot of time to do (bathroom remodel, kitchen remodel, finish the basement, and re-landscape the front yard since it's overgrown). There's just too much to do!!!! I just want to know how other people who are in over their head do it. My wife is NOT supportive at all. She works 9 to 5 like I do and she has her own agendas she wants done (which I end up helping her on more than my own agendas) so nothing ever gets done with her (that and our sex life is dead, has been for YEARRRRSSSSS). What can I do? I almost want to divorce her and leave her everything so I can have a damn vacation... Not happening, but I need it badly. If not vacation then a STD-free hooker.

My daughter, 10, has never accepted the fact that I am remarried. Her stepfather is very nice to her. He spoils her actually, and makes sure she's happy. But she still doesn't like him. She's told me on several occasions. It's been nearly a year and a half, and she barely speaks to him. My husband has become resigned to the situation, and says that there's not much more he can do to prove to her that he's a good person and that he cares for her. His perspective is, she'll be out of the house in eight years, so we'll just have to go on this way until she goes to college. But I can't live in a household where two people aren't speaking to each other. I love them both, but this is not going to work. Do you have any advice? I'm so depressed over this. Is divorce inevitable?

My husband betrayed my trust. He created a second instagram account and didn't tell me. On this account, he followed close to 200 women and nobody else. It's basically women who post naked pics of themselves. I found this so absurd and strange and to be frank, it was hurtful. He said the account was just for looking at women (strange right, since I have never forbade porn, strip clubs etc). 6 months ago he did the same thing but with snapchat, where he followed women and sent messages to them, nothing perverted like dick pics. He sent compliments on their appearance which are inappropriate when married. On the Instagram one he didn't message anyone, but I think it was just because I caught him before he could although I have no way of knowing. The first time I thought it was an isolated incident and it was easy to let go of but now I am certain he can't be trusted. I don't want to get a divorce just yet, but I want to hold him accountable for what he has done so he understands that his behavior will lead to him losing me if it continues, and also so he has a way to make up for it.

I am in my late 20s and he is in his mid 30s. We have been together over 2.5 years, and have been living together 6 months. I would like us to start talking about when to get engaged. I just can't seem to spit out the words.

I dated this woman for about a year and she sort of rushed things into marriage. I did feel there was something awkward but time was ticking and decided to take the so called leap. As soon as we married she and her family flipped out on me 180 degrees and in less than two months marriage she deserts me and my life fell apart. She refused to meet me to discuss matters for a year until she filled for divorce. We keep in contact through phone calls and FB messenger, but each day things kept getting worse with no way of reasoning with her or understand whats her problem. Suddenly i see on my FB notifications a mention on one of her pics. As i look at it and the rest of her posts, she had suddenly changed her privacy setting from private to public. Looking at the dates of the posts and pics, she ran back to her ex bf that had dumped her. Then got together briefly and dumped her again and now she's "heartbroken". What kinda sick ****** would do such a thing ? She married me only to run back to him and him using her as a tool once again and dumped her. And she wants me to see all this ?!? Could someone explain ? Cause this kind of emotional abuse is absolutly out of my league. Ok, if my wife makes me go through divorce right after marrying and putting all my money down, expectations, life and future plans; and decides to walk out on me for no reason other than wanting her ex back, then its very ok to check her fb page. Esp when she was hiding all that crap until after the divorce for ME to see.

What happened was I felt like I was being disrespected at work, and my husband texted a colleague of mine to defend me. I got very embarrassed at this because it felt like it made it seem like I can't stand up for myself (like he was fighting my battle for me), so in an act of immaturity on my part I shouted at him "I hate you" and stormed off into the other room. My husband then started shouting "what the f*ck - I was trying to help you" but I kept ignoring him, then he said "why are you like this, what's wrong with you? I hate being around you, I prefer being at work because I hate being here". Then he ignored me the rest of the day whilst I cried in the room. Was I in the wrong here, or was he? Yes we've been fighting a lot and I overreact to things a lot, as you can see, but he's the one that says hurtful stuff to me and he's the one that says insults and calls me names during arguments.

My husband and I have been married about a month. His ex wife's name is still on his house deed since 2010. On the divorce papers, her name is not on the house. His lawyer said she is typing up a new deed to put my name on it, but say if she didn't, and the divorce papers say that she cannot get the house, but the deed does, what does that mean? Does she still get it even though the divorce papers say she can't?

I have a property that I had before marrying my current wife that I'm renting to my adult aged children. Its California and rent is insane here, so I'm helping them out. I am also contributing to my household with my wife and her two daughters. Issues arise at my property and I decide how to resolve them, but my wife believe I should do what she says. I keep telling her that I listen to her and take her opinion into account, but I'm still free to disagree. Considering she is not helping me with my property, I don't see why she would believe her opinion out weighs my own.

Here's a sum up to get the newbies ready to answer: Met young and basically grew up together living on our own since our late teens. She wasn't asexual then, she just didn't like doing ANY work but still allowed me to do it all. Now she doesn't even do that and the SJW's on here took away my libido because I'm afraid of being accused of raping my wife. Also, I wasn't aromantic then, I just didn't want to be taken advantage of and have my efforts go nowhere. Now I won't be romantic because it's hit or miss if she even cares that I'm trying. Finally there's the functionality of the relationship/marriage/family. We weren't agnostic/amoral/anarchist back then, we just did what we were told to do by our parents, but now there's no point to follow the norms because we live in a free society where having nothing controlling you is "cooler" than being a slave to traditions/manners/morals/etiquette/politics/patriarchy so there's no structure any more either. At this point I don't know how to make my life enjoyable any more. Everything I enjoyed has been stripped from me. I can't earn sex through romance and I can't earn love through going "above and beyond the call of duty". My marriage, for the last 12 years, has been nothing more than a business. We have shifts we run, we have duties assigned, we have job descriptions (yes, my wife is a sexist and makes me do the trash but she won't make me a damn sandwich), we have an HR department now (family counseling).... Life sucks. Help me. Since I'm being accused of not taking responsibility for my own actions let's make something clear - (1) If I explain the things I want to fix on here then my character limit is best utilized to get good answers. (2) I am the only one trying in the marriage, she is a "strong, independent woman who don't need no man" now that the SJW's got her so she runs her day to day operations and I am expected to run mine, romance/sex aside. As a business team the household is fine, but the marriage is shyt.

My husband does a lot of stupid sh**. I have to constantly forgive him and I'm honestly so tired. I don't want a divorce, I just want him to learn some respect. How do I act or behave to let him know he could lose me and get him to earn his way back in? Basically what I want to do is hold him accountable and let him know that I'm a prize. for more clarity, the stupid sh** I'm referring to is not trivial like farting. It's stuff that breaks trust, like having secret social media accounts to follow girls, not being 100% honest about what he's doing, who he is talking to. He does not annoy me at all, he just needs to treat me like he values me and is afraid of losing me and I get that its 100% in how I treat myself and treat him.

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About a year ago my husband got angry at me and decided to involve his four adult children in our issues. I asked him not to do that but he said he could talk to whomever he wanted and proceeded to tear me up and down to them. Now they will have nothing to do with me. Previously I babysat for them a lot and treated them as my own children. My husband says that he has since told them it was his fault too and that he should have never involved them. But I am not invited to weddings or any event at all with them and I cannot see their children. My husband typically goes alone. Recently they invited him for a father's day breakfast and he was going to go. All of his children and their spouses and children were going to be there. He previously had told them that he would not come to events where I'd normally be invited but he back pedaled and said he'd be there. When I confronted him he got angry and told me to stay out of it. But I thought I was helping him honor the stand he told me and them he was taking. Now his two younger sons will have nothing at all to do with him. I have sent them all a kind text message and told them I'm so sorry for anything they have felt offended by on my part and told them I love them and would be willing to attend counseling to resolve this for their father's sake as it puts him in a sad position. None of them responded. What's your take on this?

My husband and I recently got married about a few months ago. We have been having adjustment issues, like any couple would. What makes it more complex is that I moved from Kenya to the US to be with him. I can't work yet, I can't even have my own bank account because I'm still waiting for social security to be issued. My work permit will most likely come in three months time and then I have to account for the time it takes to find a job. Before I came here he said he would give me money every month. He only gave $100 in the last 6 months to buy him a birthday gift. I have been living off my savings which gives me $300 a month, I have been buying some of the food for the house and so I have roughly $100 to spend on myself in a month for all my grooming needs, entertainment, shopping etc. I also used most of my savings on the wedding and I am close to running it dry because cost of living in the US is so high. All this money is still in my Kenyan account so none of it is in dollars. I asked him to ask his bank to issue me a second card that has access to his bank account. I told him I will return the card to him when I get my first paycheck. I told him I will not spend without discussing and I will not go over our budget nor will I abuse my access. He got defensive and would not discuss it with me. He would prefer giving me an allowance in cash like I'm his child. I feel so powerless in my marriage. How do I navigate this issue? I love my husband very much, I left a high paying management position to be here with him knowing that I can't have the same lavish lifestyle I had in Kenya in the US because cost of living is so different but I feel like I'm low key being bullied.

So I've had numerous posts over the past about my husband having issues. He has bad anxiety, he had a very bad upbringing. My husband is on a lot of medicine for his depression and anxiety, he can snap ant me and being very mean to mean at times do to this. Over the last year, he doesn't want to be intimate with me. In the past 6 months, we've had sex about 3 times. I do love him and do everything to please him and make him happy. However, I don't feel it is returned. He shows no interest. Maybe once every few months hell try and I usually have to initiate and do all the work.We are only married about two years. Everything is basically his way or the high way..and if I bother him and ask him to do something with me that he isn't in the mood to do, he will turn it into a fight. We just bought a house, we don't have kids yet, but im concerned for our future. My heart loves him , which makes it hard to leave, but I also am not happy and feel my needs aren't being met. I find myself thinking about what life would be without him more and more. Or even to be married to another man. We tried counseling and he doesn't seem to change his ways. However, every now and then when he is happy and stress free, he will be the loving and king man I remembered. But its about 30 percent of the time.

I've been with my wife and married for four years. We had been fighting alot, mainly because we fell on rough times and ended up moving into my parents. I have a difficult job, and ended up getting called out for a year and a half to another state. I'd get to come home about one weekend a month. She always was complaining it was hard to take care of the boys by herself and was tired of my mom always telling her to do better with parenting or watch them better. She would complain about having to clean up after everyone all the time. I told her maybe she needed to do better and to quit always coming down on my mom for trying to help. While I was away on the road, I made a very big mistake and used drugs, one of my buddies told on me about something that had happened six months ago. She found out, and obviously we got in a big fight about it. I told her why don't you just leave you make parenting two kids way harder then it really is and you only work 32 hours a week, I'm pulling all the weight. I know I was very wrong, and I know parenting a 3 and 2 year old is hard on her. She said ok and left with the kids. It's been four days and she hasn't returned. She won't answer my calls even to check on the boys. I miss my family and realize how terrible I had treated her this whole time and want to make it right. Please help me with any advice you guys have? I'm very depressed and miss my wife and boys. Thanks

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currently not married but in a relationship. so basically I m a career driven person who honestly like what she does. I m one of my hospitals top ob gyn surgeon, I m proud of how far I came and I know being pregnant is gruesome and I don t rlly want to go thro all that. And to me, babies r so annoying, so obviously I don t think I d be a good mother with this mindset. However people and coworkers say I m selfish for not giving my parents a grandchild (I m an only child) and that it is selfish to my partner. however I ve decided with my partner mutually that we ll only ever move in together and get engaged but not married. He himself is a doctor and he also wants to focus on work too. I don t want a marriage holding me down either. I know I seem rude, but don t some guys think the same way? And ladies, I can t be the only one we thinks like this?

I've been going through a very difficult time lately. I won't get into the specifics, but I am at my wits end. My mother in-law is supposed to come to visit in a couple of weeks. My sister in-law wants to bring her and stay for a visit over night, the last time my MIL was here she brought strife, grief and confusion. It was chaos. The last encounter I had with my SIL 6 years ago she and her daughters sent me about 30 ugly text messages, calling me names, telling me that my husband doesn't love me.. all this because we had temporary custody of our grandchild at the time and we would not let our daughter come visit her, because she'd show up drinking and with random men. They got involved and brutally attacked me via text message and to this day, refuse to apologize. Today I asked my husband if we can put off the MIL visit until I'm feeling better emotionally and I told him that the SIL doesn't need to come at all. I was nice about it. He got quiet and then started in on our 20 year old that lives st home, saying he's going to kick him out. My son works full time, pays his bills. I asked him if we can get Christian marriage counseling and he tells me that Baptist's are false Christians and that anyone that's not a member of his church are counterfeit Christians and not worthy to counsel. He then tells me that he doesn't know if he can be married to me anymore. He's threatening to sell my car and house. What should I do?

I am not going to get into details, but my husband said he wanted a divorce..'for now'. I asked him specifically if he wanted a D or a seperation, he said divorce cause he needs that complete seperation from me to be able to start thinking (?). We have had problems lately. With outside sources, family members dying, me and my incessant anxiety, trust issues...he was just done with it. He doesnt want to deal with the stress anymore. So after a few days, my sister decided to message him. Nothing mean, just that she understands I can be a handful, but marriage is hard and sometimes you need to fight, you weren't always right either, she loves you, she will be fine either way and take this as you will but just wanted you to know, etc, etc. His response to her was this... "The primary issue is lack of trust. I'm not trying to lead her on. I told her I need a separation to even begin to see what I want. Was hoping to go from there and I'll help her get where she wants to be." So, I am wondering if you could assess that comment and tell me if I am delusional in thinking he still has feelings for me/sounds like he hopes to resume in the future...or does it sound like he doesnt ever want to get back with me...

My boyfriend said I can do better than him but my insecurities keep me with him. He said he's not laid back enough. so my question is does he not love me? He says he loves me but he acts weird sometimes. we have been together since I was 19. I am 27 and he's 35. He has three kids by two women. My boyfriend was like " I feel like someone with your dad's chill personality is more suited for you because I'm not chill and my anger is sometimes unstable." He has a habit of getting mad over small stuff sometimes . don't want to be a statistic. I always wanted to show everyone that love is real and we can make it work and sometimes he will get mad over how I say something or if i don't speak loud enough he will be irritated. I think it's a form of his OCD, it might be a mental illness. Like i told him my birthday was this month and he was like " can you please stop saying month with an emphasis." He knows he does this and he apologizes for being this way. we stoppped talking on the phone, now we only text and talk face to face because when we used to talk on the phone he used to always make me repeat myself because i wasnt talking loud enough. no one else asks me to talk louder so im confused I would like to add i've been in about 6 relationships and this is the only one where i HAVENT been cheated on. this is the only relationship i've been in where he actually wants to show me off and he's not ashamed to let people know we are together. that's another reason why I don't want to let this go. and im trying hard at it. I know he cares deeply for me but his mental issues sometimes get the best of him.

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