How do I find a place with no money of my own until I find a job soon. He controls all the money. I can't just leave the kids with him because I am their primary care giver. I am with them 24/7. I am highly concerned at the lengths my husband will go to try and get full custody so he doesn't have to pay child support. I know he will have no problem lying, even the worst lie... But he won't let the kids go with me. He says they have to stay with him and our roommate. If I am not around then my husband will leave the kids alone with our roommate. I can't leave my kids. What do I do if he tries to kick me out? I am on the lease. I don't trust our roommate, he has three misdemeanors and kept in touch with his father who repeatedly raped his sister in front of him as children until cps seized them. Then he made the dumb decision to move in with his father at 22 years of age. He hasn't had one date in maybe 4 years, he never leaves the house. I worry what the sexual trauma might have taught him would be okay and not okay. My husband has argued with me to let him watch the kids or drive them around in his car. I am so worried about how my husband will allow the divorce to effect our children. I have seen how my husband and his friend would tell his friend's son when it was his turn to care for him that the mom is a loser and doesn't care about him. I am concerned at how far he will go to lie, or manipulate our children into saying things about me to get full custody.

Me and my husband have been having issues for a while. In the past whenever I complained about something he was nice for a while. and then when I started getting comfortable. Whenever I told him I felt like things were getting better between us, things would go back to being bad, or he would start acting up again. Last year I almost came close to filing for divorce. He completely changed when I told him that. he started making efforts, he really was consistant in trying to repair our marriage. Yesterday I told him I felt like we were at a good place again. And then today things are starting to go in arguments again. What is the problem?

From what my husband has told me shes 45, separated, 2 kids that are adults,Shes close to her daughter thats in college..showed me where she lives because she wanted him to move into a house beside her that was up for rent, showed me her car she drives, Know where she went on vacation and more things. .. too much . He was jealous when he saw her in a store with her husband. She left her husband again and started to date another coworker. My husband told me all about this. Honestly I am tired of hearing about her because i don t care. She moved the coworker boyfriend after a week of dating. Yesterday she my husband,me and my daughter to go bowling tonight.. Daughter is sick and she knows my daughter has high social anxiety. low chance we would say yes. He told her No about daughter then she asked him to go out. When he showed me her texts she made it sound like just us 3 going.He told her he might not come. She told him where she would be if he changed his mind. Now they are saying other coworkers were going. I m not sure if thats the truth. My husband did go bowling. he met her at 6:30pm and now its 9:52pm not home yet.I have talked to him about her but he says they are just friends.But he talks about her Alot. especially about her current relationship. How should I handle this?

My wife is pregnant with our 3rd baby she has a really hard time with being pregnant. First time she had a miscarriage at 5 months second time our daughter was born 2 months early she had 1 percent chance I don't know if it's me or her but she's just having an awful time. She's scared of having this baby she's worried something bad will happen. I don't blame her I'm worried about her too. Since half of it is my fault that I'm putting her and the kids through this. I blame myself for it. She had a cousin who died last month who was only 13 weeks pregnant with her second baby she either died from flu or cardiac arrest they never knew but like her she had a severe heart condition she shouldn't been having kids. I don't understand what's wrong with me I'm 22 I've never done drugs or smoked or nothing bad I don't get why were having hard times with having kids. I think I'm more scared thanher but I have to be strong for her and our kids. Is it OK to cry in front of her ? How can I help her feel better ?

I have some friends who are women who only go out with guys most people would consider losers. They work at Taco Bell, talk like they are from the ghetto, wear backwards hats and Jordans at 25 years old, covered in tattoo's, gauges, piercings, guys who have impregnated multiple women without being married to them, guys who have a criminal record, and aren't even particularly physically attractive. They are just low lifes. What is the attraction? If I was a woman, Id much rather date a guy who dresses well, has a college degree, a good job, is intelligent and well spoken, lives on his own and has no debt, works out and lives a fit healthy lifestyle, doesn't do drugs, and is a laid back, handsome all American guy. Not some guy who is a cholo gang banger with 3 arrests and has been evicted from his apartment because he can't pay rent and moved in with his baby mama Even though this might be an exaggeration, it seems like women in their 20's don't properly think about the relationships and the potential future with men they date. If a guy is doing nothing with his life, even if he's not a gang banger and has 3 kids to different women, but lives with his mom and dad at 30 years old, and plays Runescape 12 hours a day and his biggest goal in life is getting high everyday, do you really think getting married to him and having children with him is a good idea? I can spot a guy who is a loser and just uses women for sex by talking to him for 5 minutes, yet some women spend years with these guys before finally realizing they are losers. Are they blind!?!? What gives?

I see and dealt with so many grown men (should really be called boys in their cases) who are cowards and snakes. They blame women for their evil actions, for their lies. They are cowards most men imo

I'm a Japanese in 20s. In near future, I am planning to get married to my Chinese boyfriend. We met each other in college in the US, but currently I go to college in Japan while he is still in the US. We have been in long distance relationahip for two years. However, when we find our jobs, we don't know which country we'll be in yet. If we happen to be in a different country (US, China, or Japan), is international marriage still possible? If so please let me know of the process required in our countries of citizenship.

1) Was you're wedding big or simple? 2) Did you get married indoors or outdoors? 3) Did you wear a big fancy dress or a simple dress? 4) Did you have a Black tie or Laidback wedding rule? 5) Did you wear Heels or some other type of shoes? 6) Would you Renewal/Remarried to you're husband?

I have a 21 year old sister who is mildly developmentally disabled--she has the emotional maturity of a 10 year old, is easily frightened or hurt, and needs help conducting her personal affairs. She's also the very reason I am alive and have had the strength to move through lufe's darkest moments--there is no one on this earth that I love more than her. Now my wife, to whom I've been married for 8 months had been on no speaking terms. Having moved several hours away, I hadn't seen my sister in a couple of years. On a whim, I made arrangements for her to fly to see me. Because my wife is known for being MOUTHY with no sense of a filter, I paid a good family friend of ours to let my sister stay there for a week. I didn't want my wife doing anything to mess up this special visit, so I said nothing to her about it and asked my friend to say nothing. And we ended up having a GREAT time together--my wife didn't question where I was gone the whole day every day because we weren't speaking. Now that my sister returned home, my friend's wife decided it would be a good idea to blab to my wife about the visit...and my wife is claiming to be "angry and hurt" that I "shut her out" like that. And she won't seem to let it go. To me, I hold my sister dearest to me, and I didn't want my wife saying ANYTHING to her that would hurt her feelings. And honestly--I don't want her saying anything to her at all. But my wife insists "My family is your family--and vice versa!" Who is right?

I've been back and forth and on the fence with the idea of having kids practically my entire life. Is that something I should get figured out before I get too serious with someone?

And me and my daughter live in his house with him which is really nice. I didn't want to say no because if i don't marry him i might lose everything and i don't want to end up like working at McDonald's and living in a trailer. But i don't want to marry him. I don't know what to do.

There is this guy who is dating a really slutty girl I and many people I kno wha e slept with. She used to li,e it when I videotaped stuff. She kept them we had threesomes with another girl, and did all this sexual stuf she refuses to do with this bf of hers. She got him conincenon of it ever happened. He's on another country and doesn't know her real history. I talked with him and he says she won't perform pal sex, but that's what she was doing wih me half the time we were together. She's has him convinced of all these lies and I think deep down he knows it's true bc they fight over it in public I feel bad fo him. We talked bc when they were first dating she sent me an inappropriate message and he saw it. Should I jus show him thvideos so he'll break up with her. He's a good guy and deserves someone honest who isn't a total slut

My husband has this guy friend that he spends a lot of time with. He barely spends time with me or our kids. Anytime that I complain about it he tells me that he needs to focus so that he can follow his dreams of being a singer so that he can provide for us. NO PROBLEM. EVERYDAY when he gets home from work he goes into his studio office , calls his friend over and they sit in his office for hours. When he comes out he comes into the living room to eat and then falls asleep. When he's at work I would call him to talk since we don't get to a lot at home and he's always on the phone with his BFF(no lie I've actually seen the phone calls) .Knowing that we don't spend time he would go out and hang with his BFF before he hangs with me and whenever we do get to hang out he's always rushing to get back home so that his BFF can come over. When I discuss business ideas with him he always say "yeah so/so(his bff) already gave me that idea" or "If he's down about something and I try to give him advice he's always telling me that his BFF already gave him advice. Oddly, this week he hadn't talked to his BFF in days because his BFF started a new job and all of those days my husband spent time with us, he called me to talk a lot and then when his friend comes back all of a sudden things goes back to the usual. Him not spending time.

I married this woman and when we were dating she seemed like the one but after i got married with her she became abusive. I still cant let go of her.... We've been to a divorce lawyer a few times but she's just doing that too bluff me and I can't take it anymore... She's got to the point of where if she doesnt like somebody that i am friends with they have to disappear and if she catches me still in contact with my friend then i get hell for it... What do i do... i cant let go of her but this marriage is really driving me insane im depressed as **** and there seems to be no out.. She keeps driving me to the brink and then taunting me to hit her so she can go to the police and screw my life up..... I need some serious advice before i go insane.... And also most the times we argue its usually for something very very small like one time I forgot to cook breakfast in the morning and she started smacking me around giving me mad lip saying that a good husband wouldnt forget to cook breakfast for her.