I have a daughter that I helped raise until she was four. Her mother then got married and demanded I sign over adoption rights to her husband. I did not want to do this. I could not afford a lawyer at the time to advocate for me and prevent this. The mother had unlimited financial resources so I very reluctantly signed the papers. Cold papers that said "gifts will not be acknowledged" "no legal rights to see or contact daughter". Sometimes, through the years I would run into her mother and ask about my daughter and the reply was always "she loves her dad and is with him now". That daughter grew up and turned 18 (remember- the last time i saw her she was 4) and she found me and "friend requested" me on FB. I of course accepted, waited a few weeks, and then sent her a message basically saying I am happy she contacted me and I am available to answer any questions and I told her anything she needs- to just ask. She read it, she is still on the friends list...I guess I am just hoping she will reach out again. Any perspectives on this? Before the negative commentary, remember, I was thrown under the bus by her mother, step dad, grandparents and a whole army of rotten people with money.

Control and sabotage anything you try to do. They hinder you to work, go to school, learn to drive, grow up. Anything. Also critize,complain, and critque any little thing you do. What does this mean and why do they do this. Do they just dont want me to do anything in life? They also complain when any of these are mentioned to them.

Let me explain my sister and I were never close with our dad. We're both 18 ( were twins) but she always wanted a relationship with him, I did not. She reached out to him to have a relationship and ended up visiting him. I didn't want a relationship with him because I've tried as I got older and he could never admit that is was wrong of him to not help my mother out with us, all I wanted from him was an apology. Apparently my dad sells drugs and that's how he gets all this money, he drives bmw owns a 7 bedroom house with a oool, and he would always be giving us money for not being able to see us etc. my sister was raped in the past and he would always say how ****** up it was and if he ever found out who'd do it he would seriously hurt that person. So my entire family never expected this to happen but he did it and my waters in the hospital and I just feel so disgusting that I'm part of him and that I wasn't there to stop it. I just want to kill my self it's so awful, and it didn't even happen to me I can't imagine how my sister feels. This isn't a question I'm just saying this for support maybe Idk. What is wrong with him? He always use to cry over the fact we didn't have a relationship with him. And no my sister isn't lying he just got arrested.

Mom and dad doesnt approve me as their child, well mostly mom. I actually look like my mom but she doesnt admit that. She is fairer than me, and i dont look nothing like dad or my sister. Iam the oldest of the 2 kids, but i have seen this type rejection or un approval in my friends. Both my friends hav similar problem like me, they are unapproved as their parents kids. So i have company.

I work as a caregiver, cleaning *** for 10 hours a day for five days a week Her dad is absent. She doesn't have friends and never had a boyfriend. She's 24. She doesn't have her own bedroom. The place we live in is just 1 room, and the living room is also the bedroom. Sometimes the area where she sleeps in is a mess, and she leaves it like that for a few weeks until she cleans it, like a focking bum. She attended community college since sfter high school but hasn't been attending for a year. She's never worked before. Well she did, but it was only for 3 months. She doesn't cook, clean, help pay bills. I cook her meals, I give her money from my job. I pay the rent and she never helped me pay the rent. The only places she goes to to fill her days are talk shows, the gym, or the library. On the days where she doesn't go anywhere, she would lay in bed the whole day just dreaming. I don't know what the heck she's thinking about.

So Until 2001 my aunt lived in an apartment in my city with my cousins,then she moved to another city. Everyday when I go to work the bus stops right next to her old building. I see that everyday. I've always wanted to see one more time that apartment,just to get a sense of closure I guess. I'd like to go there one more time and see that walls,that rooms. Only problem is that now other people live there. I wanted to go there and tell them what I told you but I think they wouldn't let me in,hell what would I do if someone came to my door and told me " hi,my family used to live here,could I see the apartment for a minute?" but maybe there is a slim chance that these people would understand and let me in. What do you think?

My mom is extra careful about which adults she allows into my sister's life, for "safety reasons". She is more vigilant when it comes to letting her on the Internet too. Me and my other siblings were never protected to that extent when we were her same age. Most kids who are my sister's age are not that protected either. But then again, my sister is considered "different" than most other kids. She has trouble making friends, and gets bullied for her lack of social development. My mom says that she's trying her best to give her the same freedom as other kids have, but she's keeping a watchful eye on her.

my mother calls me crazy stupid loser for trying to move out? she keeps reinforcing me with her limited believes. she doesn't have a social life me and my brother are her life. and she cant stand the thought of me and my brother with other women. she keeps trying to control me. she bout me some pills hoping that will solve the problem that i just doesn't want anything to do with her. i love her but she does not respect boundary.

Girls at school keep calling us fat and trash talking us at team practice.Talk to my coach, which helped a little bit, but they still bug us at school when coach is not around.Our real dad is dead and our mom is too busy with her dumb bf. I Don't wanna tell my grandma bc she will go full on embarrassing protective bear at school. Really me and my twin sister stay at our grandma's so we don't have to deal with her nasty bf that she keeps getting back together with too much.But it hurts that she picked him over her and parrots everything he tells her to say. like bf whenever we see her dumb bf he calls us fat ugly whores and c---.He tried to cancel our birthday party last year and then got mad he wasn't invited to the one my grandma through for us .

He does it to me often also and I assume my siblings. He ranted and complained about someone he worked with who always lied and yet my Dad is just as much a deceptive liar as this guy Ralph that he worked with.

I know it is like a year away but I thought of it for the first time today. Every year she keeps me from seeing him and he does not fight her. I know they both are at fault but she is the one I am mad at. I am 14.

My dad is the custodian to my debit card and he feels the need to tell my mom what I have. Now my mom just says sly comments about my money. I know what my dad has and never would bring it up to my mom. Why wouldn't things work both ways ? Why do parents feel superior like I'm a person too and now my moms just gonna use that against me.

The tv show is about rape culture, I really don t like this tv show and I ask him not to watch it, is it okay or I am being out of line?

I'm 24 and she never taught me how to cook, drive, communicate with people, work. She may have sheltered me excessively, but it was only to protect from things she feared about the world and because of her love for me. Because it seems, that ever since I came into being, her whole world seemed to have stolled. And when it turned again, it was solely to revolve around me.

My sister and I cannot get along. We never have. We decided to take a week long vacation to try to patch things up. We've been at each other's throats the entire time. My sister doesn't wake up till 9 isn't ready until around 10:30 then wants to go to breakfast at 11. I'm up early I don't want to wait until 11 to have breakfast then have lunch at 1. It makes no sense to me! By the time we actually DO anything of substance it's 3 or 4. It's driving me NUTS. If I leave without her she FLIPS OUT. I did it Tuesday and the entire day was ruined because she refused to speak to me the entire afternoon and was just nasty. She's loud and makes a scene in places. I'm TRYING to enjoy myself. Any advice on how to enjoy my last two day's?

I noticed for the past couple of years my daughter has stopped caring about her appearance. She used to dress nice when she was in high school but once she went to college and got into the job force everything just went downhill. For starters, she wears the same outfit to work everyday only occasionally switching out the shirt. She never does her hair, always just throws it up in a disheleved messy ball. And skips baths sometimes as well. She claims she has to wear the same clothes everyday because she can't afford new clothes on a teacher salary but I think there's more to the story because she does have nice clothes in her closet she just chooses to wear the same big baggy clothes. Even when it's 70 degrees outside she wears a big coat. I told her that her boyfriend is going to leave her if she keep not caring about her appearance and she was like " good thing he's not shallow". But then you can't expect him to have high standards either he wears the same clothes everyday as well.

First off please no judging... I plan to live on the streets by choice, I don t like being at home because of how my mom acts and belittles me all the time and other reasons as well. I plan on telling no family or friends because I believe they won t help much as well and leaving my phone on my bed after I clean up my room very nice. I have $700 to my name and I plan on staying at my local gym a town over for showers and activity as I plan on taking a few books and it s right by a big park with a bridge underpass and will be sleeping there. I m gonna eat 1500 calories minimum of mostly protein and fats if I can and water won t be an issue with the parks fountain. I m gonna start a job that s walking distance close to the gym and park with a laundry mat nearby as well. I won t be making bank but definetley a good amount to live ok for being on the streets and saving up for a room of some sort. Any tips or advice would be great.

How do I get out of it in a way that is believable? "I Have other plans" will sound too vague and make my mother suspicious that I am seeing my father who she hates with every bone and fiber of her existence and with every breaths she takes. Meanwhile I know my father is likely out of town with my step-mother and their kids so being with these friends of my Moms who I know mock my father when I leave will only add to the pain of me being 2nd rate in my father's eyes.

I'm 14 so I guess I get to tell the court which parent I prefer to live with. I can't just go between their houses because my dad is moving across the country. So... here's what I'm thinking: my dad has no rules. He pretty much let's me do whatever I want. As much as I feel like I'd enjoy that for a few months, I think eventually I'd want some structure in my life. My mom is the opposite of my dad. She is very structured about bedtime, curfew, and rules in general. It drives me crazy, but I know it's probably better for me. It seems like my mom actually cares about what kind of adult I'll be. My dad just wants to be "the favorite parents". My older brother is already deciding to go with my dad. He said that he likes the freedom and I guess our dad told him that he'd get a car (our mom said no car because he has been caught drinking in the past and she doesn't think he has rebuilt the trust to get a car). If I decide to go with my dad then that means my mom will be alone. :( I don't know what to do :( I really love my mom and feel like it would be better for me...I just feel like some freedom would be nice too. Barry, I want some consistency in my life. I don't want to have to move across the country every 6 months. I should also add that I'm a girl so that's another reason I'm thinking of staying with my mom. It's easier to talk with her than my dad sometimes, Willow, I'm just asking for opinions. I'm going to make my own decision. Just wanted to see what other people think. tellitlikeitis My dad is being immature about things and saying that if I pick my mom then he's just going to focus on my brother and that I'll be my mom's problem to deal with...so it's not likely I'll see him much if I choose to stay with my mom. :( my mom doesn't help much because she just tells me to make my own choice and she'll love me either way. I think I'm going to stay with her. Seems like she cares more about me. Mark: they're splitting up because my dad had an affair. He's still with the person he had the affair with.

I'm 21 years old in 2019 and the people who are in my particular generation or younger keep talking about how their parents don't love them and how their parents were so hard on them. I'm a black man raised by black parents who love me and care about me. There were a lot of times where they were hard on me and when I was a little kid of course I got whoopings and physical discipline, it was to keep me in check. It never damaged me or hurt me, it simply taught me don't do this dont do that. The real world is a very harsh place, if you can't handle your parents being hard on you then you won't be able to handle being an adult. For me and my siblings our parents were hard on us because they loved us, they didn't want us going out into the real world thinking it was going to be rainbows and unicorns. A lot of people in my generation keep calling their family ways toxic, and it's like your family isn't toxic, you're just a self entitled, spoiled, crybaby who wants to be nurtured and handed a silver platter from the entire world and the world doesn't work that way. Especially if you're a person of color, the world is definitely a harsh place, parents do things they do out of love. I'm thankful that my parents were hard on me, it prepared me for the real world and adult life.

She's 19. She's going to his 20th birthday party. It ends at like mid night. To prevent an accident she's sleeping at his parents house

My dad had an affair & divorced my mom. I just overheard him telling my aunt he's moving to Florida in July (we live in IL). I'm starting to have panic attacks over this. I'm graduating high school this May & instead of being happy, I'm going to have the thought in the back of my mind that after I graduate, I won't be coming back to the home I grew up in b/c it will be gone & sold to someone else. My dad will be in Florida living with the woman I despise b/c she ruined my family, & I'll be moving into college as a freshman without the help of my father because he chose to live hundreds of miles away with his new family instead of helping his youngest child with the college moving process. I feel unwanted. I don't want this to affect my grades but I can't think about anything else. It's really hard for me to show my emotions around other people so I usually end up crying at night. I'm not excited for my future because everything in my past will be gone. I feel like I never appreciated those moments I had in childhood enough. I hate my life & I wish things were different. Im confused because he acts like he wants to be in my life but ultimately chose to spend the rest of his with a woman he cheated with instead of his child. When he moved out after the divorce, he never even told me. I figured it out because I saw a moving truck in my driveway & my half brother helping him load his stuff in. Everything in my life is going to **** & I feel like I will never move past this

My mom doesn't want me to get a job and she says I don't deserve privacy . When my siblings tried to get there own account she got really mad . But I don't what her to have my account cause when she had my brother account she took out a loan and would help him pay it back

I have a biological daughter i haven't seen since she was 4 (her mom and new husband took off with her). She is 18 and sent me a FB "friend request". I accepted weeks ago and she has said nothing in messages. What is this? I don't feel like starting the dialogue. Thanks.

when i was bathing thoughts of my sister keep coming in my mind even when i was rubbing a soap on my both i also tuched my private parts to rub soap and when i am rubbing soap on my *** thought of my sister come in my mind so i am thinking i masturbated towards her and today i want to buy a new mobile so i feel ashamed and guilty to do it wht should i do please help me out

Unlike many of my male friends, I really like my mother in law Pam. She is there for me and my wife when we need help with anything. She has a wonderful personality and a great sense of humor. I am always happy when she comes by for a visit. Last week she was staying a few days with us. What a treat to have a hot delicious breakfast ready for you when you get up in the morning and a great meal ready for you when you get home from work. I did not think to lock the bathroom door when I was taking a shower and just as I was getting out of the shower, Pam walked in. We were both embarrassed. I think she just said the first thing to come to her mind. She said "Wow, you would cause Linda Lovelace to gag". That seemed like nonsense to me. I wonder what she meant by that? Any ideas?

The thing about my sister is that she lacks emotional maturity. A disagreement or parents not giving her the freedom she wants can make her run away. Last time my sister was home, she was upset that my mom didn't let her attend a party. She smartmouthed Mom, which lead to an argument. The police documented this information. But since this isn't the FIRST time she's ran, will the police begin to suspect child abuse or abandonment? According to them, most teens who run have dysfunctional homes. This isn't the case with my sister. Neither of us have any history of any kind of abuse. My parents are struggling to deal with this.

My mom has this stupid belief that doing ******* chores everyday is part of work but i have way too much **** going on i barely even have time to ******* eat i wake up at 5am i dont get home from school till acter 4 or later because i have track and work out everyday i still have alot of homework and **** and im just way too tired after school she doesnt even have a ******* job why cant she do it??? shes home all day wtf and shell get mad at me and im just too tired for this **** it stresses me so much i dont even get ******* sleep or do my homework because she makes me do chores instead its so retarded my graed are getting bad im just done im in highschool btw

My parents are divorced and my brother always tells my mom about stuff related to my dad. I am never prepared for this to happen and can't take it back once it comes out. What should I do?

I'm a 22 year old guy and I want to get closer with all of my first cousins on my dad side of the family. And the thing about it is that we all live in the same city. How can I get closer with them.

My son just turned 23 and is living in our house. Ever since he was little, he's always had a thing for action figures. We figured that it was only because he was little, but it got worse over time. He now has three shelves of action figures and he still continues to buy them. I agree that it is a hobby, it's just that whenever he gets any little bit of money, he spends it on a figure. I'm afraid this will become way out of hand if I let it continue. What should I do?

Me & my mother have never been close. She's a horrible person and parent. Coming up she use to tell me that God cursed her with me. That I couldn't possibly be her child because she couldn't stand me. Harassed me when I was 15/16 to get pregnant by her married boyfriend because she wanted a baby by him but her tubes were tied. My mom was a huge hoe going to the bars every weekend to find a guy to have sex with. The last straw was after years of lying to me about who my dad is ( no relationship as she kept him away from me) I found out from family members that it might be one of 4 guys that they know of. My mom was 16 when she got pregnant with. She refuses to give me answers and she just keeps lying. Asking me why am I interested in finding my DNA contributor. I have her I don't need a dad. I am so tired and done with her lifelong narcissism.

My dad had an affair with another woman, who just happens to be friends with my grandma and lives in Florida. My parents got divorced last year, and I just now overheard him tell my aunt he's moving to Florida in July. I start as a freshman in college in August, and he's not even staying to help me move (I live in IL). I just feel really hurt that he's putting this woman before his three kids, who ALL live in IL. He's abandoning us and moving to live with this woman and her 10 year old son. I just found this out now and I'm finding it really hard not to cry. My mom has not had a job since she was married, so now she probably won't be able to keep my house. I hate my life so much, and I hate that my dad is putting someone he had an affair with over me. He won't even stay here with me until I go off to college and he won't even stay long enough to help me move there. I just find it really sad and I wish things were different. I feel like this is going to affect how I do in college, knowing he isn't there to support me or visit me ever.

I'm asking a serious question. My parents are being abusive and negligent. I feel like my sister and my Mom are hanging up on me and giving me ambient abuse and even because physically abusive. My sister is an abuser, she has attacked my parents and gotten violent too many times. It for whatever reason, my mom DEFENDS my sister even though my sister treats both parents horribly. It's like they have Stockholm syndrome. Why is it that my parents treat me worse than my sister when my sister does not even respect them at all? Read the question, I'm not making jokes. I used the Cinderella analogy because my mom and my sister seem jealous of me, they gaslight me and I SO seem to be treated very unfairly as if they are the step mom and sister in Cinderella. It's a well known example and Cinderella gets abused pretty much.. I used 'Stockholm syndrome' to give a idea that my parents are perpetuating and supporting an abusive and dangerous sibling. They glorify her even though she has even threatened them and injured them several times. I have gotten blamed. For stuff I didn't even do. When SHE does something wrong, I get blamed for it. They ARE a dysfunctional family. My sister pulled out a knife and threatened people several times and my parents lie about it and try to defend someone like that! @ anonymous, I hope you're right. She deserves serious karma. She attacks people at home and gets away with it. I'm concerned if she does try to stab people at home, she has not had issues attacking people outside, other than mild fights. Thanks for your answer. It helped me a lot to read it.

I specifically told her my name, and name-dropped her uncle's name, his wife's name (my mom, who my stepdad's niece has spoken to before), and so forth. Basically, my inbox message to her sounded very down-to-earth and clearly specified how we're family, but she replied "Who is this?!? How did you find me?!?" You'd have thought she was illiterate and therefore thought the message said, "You're pretty. Can I get your number?" I don't understand what I did wrong. I mean, I actually called over my stepdad to my computer to let him know I found his niece. So he smiled and said, "That's great. Tell her I said hi." Is she stuck-up or something?